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Most people will not agree with this because it's emotionally uncomfortable, but it's true.

@stvnstvn89

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe in your experience

@KManwarren

2 жыл бұрын

@@stvnstvn89 many experiences. And yes, in my experience. If the step parent has a previous marriage with kids, the juggle of emotions to be fair or even with all the children can be tough. I love my Dad (step dad). I watch him struggle to this day because of really difficult decisions he made for my Mom. It may work out sometimes, but it's not an optimal arrangement.

@stvnstvn89

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry I thought you were replying to @Carbon comment, "children are like farts you can only tolerate your own".. I disagree.

@KManwarren

2 жыл бұрын

@@stvnstvn89 no. That's messed up. I also disagree. Step parents can be very loving.

@oftin_wong

2 жыл бұрын

That doesn't matter ..

I felt that growing up....when my mother got with a new man after my father...it was devastating to my childhood. He didnt want us there...and it was a living thing in the air always. In every waking moment. And to this day I am still realizing the affects it has had on my life. Although I make no excuses for my life choices as an adult...I must acknowledge this.

@Donja.z

2 жыл бұрын

Your mother made the wrong decision. She went after what she wanted and not what's best for everyone.

@ljones98391

2 жыл бұрын

@@Donja.z Please don't blame her mom. My birth father spent time in jail and then battered my mother. When she remarried it was to a man who treated her well but did not like children. That was a long lasting marriage for them. I see the problem starting with my father not my mom. Was it all detrimental? Heavens Yes! but she did her best.

@GORILLA_PIMP

2 жыл бұрын

Most mothers are selfish like that You're not alone

@alyonaf1054

2 жыл бұрын

@@ljones98391 you know, something tells me when you love a person the way that was described, you also find it inside of you to treat their loved ones with decency. Not making them feel unwanted and in the way while you're living your love story. So I do believe that woman was head over heels in love, but I am not that sure about the man. Sounds like he found an suitable partner... with complications, but that's that. I am not saying you can succeed building a relantionship with step children each time, especially if they don't want it, so there are many sides in such stories. But obviously making them feel not welcome in their own home cannot be a "misunderstanding". It's something you do and express deliberately. And what does it mean anyway "he does not like children"? Children are humans, they are not goats or aliens, understandable not wanting those things in your house. but not wanting humans which were already there when you started all this and voluntarily decided to join this household? No excuses.

@religionisatragedy8537

2 жыл бұрын

@@ljones98391 naw,don't blame your dad for your mom's actions

My step-dad was an AMAZING dad! He always treated me as though I was his daughter. He was my best friend and my best family too! I miss him a lot.

@freshtoast3879

2 жыл бұрын

;(

@Pedro-tl8zw

2 жыл бұрын

That was really heart-warming to read

@donaldhitman6724

2 жыл бұрын

First time I ever disagreed with him. I have a strong parental instinct and just love teaching and helping. Taught martial arts for years and just really enjoy feeling good about what I do. It's not selfless cause it feels great but nothing wrong with that.

@dimamord

2 жыл бұрын

As he said "Obviously there are exceptions."

@rebekahguilder602

2 жыл бұрын

God bless your Step Father!!! This is so nice to hear.

i’m so passionate about this. my step mother made my life a living hell to be closer to my dad. she eventually won, he now doesn’t speak to any of his kids- just hers. i’m grown & it still cuts to the bone.

@CmonMan101

Жыл бұрын

I'll bet a few bucks she's a narcissist. They always try to separate family ties of their mate so they have more control.

@jimberlygridder183

Жыл бұрын

Yep. Mixing family like that. When u have kids and split with their parent and get with someone else, theyre not gonna feel the same way about your kids as they do their own, and its felt. Its known. Wether they try and hide it or not.

@janisemills1

Жыл бұрын

Yes because being a step parent is difficult and unnatural. You can’t love a child like your own. Some can but most can’t. This is what bio parents don’t understand. They think just because they love them that they will love their children and it’s not true at all. Because the child is actually a block between the two.

@vermillionsky426

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry that you went through that.

@OlgaSmirnova1

Жыл бұрын

@@janisemills1God hates divorce, there is no one wiser than God!

Most step parents don't care for their step kids they put up with them because they love the parent

@Blank-lp4fz

6 ай бұрын

Why don't they just find someone new then? Makes no sense staying with someone that has kids they don't like.

@ethanetn

4 ай бұрын

Because they are stupid​@@Blank-lp4fz

@Winston.S.Churchill

16 күн бұрын

@@Blank-lp4fza lot of people can find anyone else so settle for that in this case.

It's true. Children become the competition. As a teenager, I lived it.

@kkmusick4206

11 ай бұрын

I'm living through it currently and it is true im going to put my little brother on game soon as possible

@hoodooladiiiii9625

5 ай бұрын

Me too 🙏🏾 sorry this happend to you

@hoodooladiiiii9625

5 ай бұрын

@@kkmusick4206 just keep praying and once you get older move away don’t let your situation define you know that God I won’t let anybody get away with doing harm to others you won’t be in the situation forever it will get better!

@kachanana

24 күн бұрын

It's hard to build a relationship with anyone, even the partner you chose to love. Some children can be consistently mean, rude and ignoring to a step parent, it's emotional abuse. You have to understand that it's heart breaking to love a person and to be rejected by the closest person that is so important to them. In the end they choose to disengage with the child and instead focuses on their marriage. Now the parent partner has to constantly split his/her time and attention between the two where it can be merged for example family time dinner time vacation time etc. This ends up stressing the parent partner and the quality of attention he/she gives to either is low. The child notices the drop in quality of attention and blames it on the step parent and turns even more vicious towards them, thinking that they have turned their parent against them. It's EXHAUSTING to love a person with children like this and it's DEPRESSING for the parent to consider that they have to fail in love again because of the kids. The parent will try different ways, good and bad to get his/her kids on board with the new step parents and the kid will react badly always thinking it's the step making the parent do those things.the child may see this depression and think it's good, my parent will divorce that step but if they end up divorcing, they will be depressed and in some cases even internally blame the child for that and will not have a good relationship. The best thing is to learn empathy. Empathy is simply being able to get into someone's shoes and feel and view things the way they view them and responding to that person with kindness. Be kind to your parent, this is their second chance at love and in the same way we would never want to repeat a grade and fail and have to consider repeating again, it's the same for them. Be kind to your step parent, it's not easy being in a new family trying to love them and being met by hostility. every parent has rules and should have them, try to reasonably follow them. Try to have conversations beyond hellow. And be kind to yourself, an environment that is toxic is not good for you. Do the things that bring peace to others around you and they shall in turn give you peace. Understand this: YOU CANNOT COMPETE with your step parent. You cannot give your parent what your step parent does and they cannot give your parent what you give them. You hold two VERY DIFFERENT positions in your parents life. You only feel like you are competing when you force your parent to split time between the step and yourself and in that area, like I said before, you both lose because the quality of attention for both of you is lowered.

@kachanana

24 күн бұрын

@@kkmusick4206 It's hard to build a relationship with anyone, even the partner you chose to love. Some children can be consistently mean, rude and ignoring to a step parent, it's emotional abuse. You have to understand that it's heart breaking to love a person and to be rejected by the closest person that is so important to them. In the end they choose to disengage with the child and instead focuses on their marriage. Now the parent partner has to constantly split his/her time and attention between the two where it can be merged for example family time dinner time vacation time etc. This ends up stressing the parent partner and the quality of attention he/she gives to either is low. The child notices the drop in quality of attention and blames it on the step parent and turns even more vicious towards them, thinking that they have turned their parent against them. It's EXHAUSTING to love a person with children like this and it's DEPRESSING for the parent to consider that they have to fail in love again because of the kids. The parent will try different ways, good and bad to get his/her kids on board with the new step parents and the kid will react badly always thinking it's the step making the parent do those things.the child may see this depression and think it's good, my parent will divorce that step but if they end up divorcing, they will be depressed and in some cases even internally blame the child for that and will not have a good relationship. The best thing is to learn empathy. Empathy is simply being able to get into someone's shoes and feel and view things the way they view them and responding to that person with kindness. Be kind to your parent, this is their second chance at love and in the same way we would never want to repeat a grade and fail and have to consider repeating again, it's the same for them. Be kind to your step parent, it's not easy being in a new family trying to love them and being met by hostility. every parent has rules and should have them, try to reasonably follow them. Try to have conversations beyond hellow. And be kind to yourself, an environment that is toxic is not good for you. Do the things that bring peace to others around you and they shall in turn give you peace. Understand this: YOU CANNOT COMPETE with your step parent. You cannot give your parent what your step parent does and they cannot give your parent what you give them. You hold two VERY DIFFERENT positions in your parents life. You only feel like you are competing when you force your parent to split time between the step and yourself and in that area, like I said before, you both lose because the quality of attention for both of you is lowered.

My "stepfather" couldn't have loved me any more if I had been biologically his. He was an amazing dad. He became my dad when you was 3. He was the best!

@fiona-lyons

2 жыл бұрын

Well, he did say there are exceptions. I'm glad you had one in your life.

@Appaddict01

2 жыл бұрын

Exceptions do not make the rule. Anytime there is an unrelated adult living in a home with children the rates of abuse go way up.

@effu9593

2 жыл бұрын

@@Appaddict01 or having a narcissist

@katersization

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful

@davidadiwego4608

2 жыл бұрын

When I was 3? How do you know when I was 3? Who you been talking to? She told me she was 18!

He's 100 percent right. Sadly I know this from experience

@mnkatz2919

2 жыл бұрын

I felt that I love my step parent don't get me wrong but they never directed me correctly nor held me accountable as a child I felt as if they felt like it wasn't their place and they felt uncomfortable parenting me and as Jordan Peterson said it's not even the step parent that feels like you're in the way as the child I always felt like I was in the way there wasn't that sense of family Unity or wholeness it's a tragedy for the both of us I wish I was closer to my step parent they are a good person and really care for my biological parent

@Kevamine369

2 жыл бұрын

Haha right

@alexism5687

2 жыл бұрын

Same.

@jackwhitbread4583

2 жыл бұрын

I know the opposite experience, if your father was a wife beating rapist would you still feel the same? Cos I sure as don't, my step dad was a fkn hero and the best man I ever had in my life

@trollsnotwelcome7805

2 жыл бұрын

@@jackwhitbread4583 That's great for you, so happy you had a good experience. Majority don't. You seem very agitated and angry for someone who is expressing a happy experience 🤔 Majority don't is what Jordan Peterson saying, so people leaving comments here in comment boxes on the internet that may differ from your experience. That's how this whole thing works called life 👍

I had a step mother, she had a daughter. I was treated differently . I wanted her love but she's a gold digger and she got rid of us very fast. I ran away from home young and she was very happy. That's all I wanted to do is make her happy...

@natashakopach7858

2 жыл бұрын

Chantal,I’m so sorry. Feeling love as a child is very important. Praying that God will replenish that for you I’ve also always wanted to adopt a child/children in the future. I hope and pray that I’ll give them as much love as possible

@chantalbrunet4230

2 жыл бұрын

@@natashakopach7858 GOD bless. The LORD will bless you and your future family. Any kids would be very lucky to have you has a parents. You sound like you have a lot of love to give. GOD bless you all

@TG-nh6ni

2 жыл бұрын

That's so sad. Any step mom would be lucky to have you. 😭😭😭🥺🥺🥺 My partner has children and I hope that they will accept me.

@exaltedstate

2 жыл бұрын

God this is heart wrenching... I'm so sorry you didn't get the love that every child deserves. Breaks my heart. God bless you.

@bills9346

2 жыл бұрын

This happened to my brother too, he is now in prison. My father had him before he met my mom, and my brother's mother passed away too early. My mom was always telling my dad how problematic my brother was, my brother was not even a teenager at that time. So my dad sent my brother to live with our cousins and grandmother. He consistently got himself in trouble, and my mother will enjoy it because it paints a bad image of our brothers in us, I realized something was off when I look back, I caused a lot of trouble myself but my mother has never suggested that I should live. But instead, I was disciplined and I got off the wrong path I was taking. I don't know if I should ever try to reconnect with my brother when he is out of prison, I think he might hate me and my sisters. How do you feel about your stepmom's daughter?

My step mum is an angel and I would never have been the person I am without her ❤️ we love each other as if we were biologically related. Lots of exceptions...

@denisesorenson4000

2 жыл бұрын

Thats awesome, did she have any of her own children?

@blahblah8037

2 жыл бұрын

all the people who died from 1900-2000, a full century that included 2 world wars and nearly countless other wars. How many people who died in that century died from firearms? The answer is nearly 200 million. That’s only 3% of all the deaths in that century. The small percent(exception) can add up to a lot and still be a very small percent.

@YasminMahnaz

2 жыл бұрын

Lots of exceptions??? Seriously.... so you had great experience... and that 1 f k n experience is now* lots of exceptions* ...r u ok? Majority step pll are f k n awful..I didn't have any but the guy in with is an a hole to my kid half the time cause he's a boy and boys hate other guys that lack fatherly figure in themselves .I thought I married a kind alpha . . Turns out he was afraud.. weak minded emotional angry ball.. that his mom raised him to be pansy cause she devoid of human emotion any way my kid has issues cause my ex is just absent... only to reappear cause I'm with another man.. now my ex wants his offspring cause were in court

So true was in a horrible military accident and I was dependent on my mother "step" and one day 10 years later she said you ruined my winter holiday because of my accident. Really mother would never say this out of true love

@wakousyremu8946

2 жыл бұрын

People have deep rooted issues. The fact dat after 10 years it still bothered her says everything. Hope she will find her way back home to a wonderful life

@dianeaishamonday9125

2 жыл бұрын

Biological mothers can be just as cruel. My grandmother once told my mother that she (my mother) was the reason her marriage was falling apart. She told my mom this when my mom was seven years old. That's cruelty.

@erinjenkins4738

2 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry she said that to you, that was very hurtful. You didn’t deserve that. ❤️

@sapevi

2 жыл бұрын

I think she’s the kind of “ mom “ that would tell just the same to biological child. So don’t be sad. She is worthy of pity😊

@shodapad07

2 жыл бұрын

I'm really sorry to hear this. I pray you are in a good place. God bless and keep you.

Divorce is so sad. Especially for children on so many levels

I believe it's true, I also believe the parent that your in the relationship with makes a huge difference.

@anniegillespie7935

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely.

@thekitchenoccultist

2 жыл бұрын

this made me feel a bit validated so thank you kindly 😅

@celesteribeirohewitt986

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with the second half of your statement.

I grew up in a house with a step dad that treated all of us differently. I was told in the 5th grade that I should go to a prep school or test into college because the school wasn't advanced enough for me. When my parents were told this at a parent teacher conference, I was told then that I would not be able to go to college because he would not take resources away from his kids to help a kid that wasnt his. I never made it to college and spent most of my teen years homeless or running from him. At 18 I was living under a bridge with no opportunity so I joined the military and got as far away from him as possible. All of his kids went to college and did nothing with it. He had a son with my mom and he treated him not as bad as me and my sister but not as good as his other kids. Now none of us speak to each other and the whole family has been broken for yrs. I feel like he took so many opportunities away from me that I can never get back. I see these ppl suing there rapist 20 yrs later and I cant help to wonder why I can't sue for the yrs of physical and mental abuse as well as the neglect and trauma of being treated so differently in the same house by the same parents. I cant even look at my mother now for allowing it to happen all those yrs. When we start holding bad parents accountable for bad parenting is when we will start to fix our societal problems. Almost all the problems in America boil down to a poor home environment that kids are raised in. That starts and stops with parenting.

@brankabrnica1914

Жыл бұрын

It must be very tough for you. Both, my husband and I were treated very deferently from other sibling by biological parents. I hated my parents for neglect and emotional abuse. I couldn't overcome my past on my own, I needed help from God. When I started believing I realized that now i am responsible for my own life. I have to admit that raising my own children proved to be extremely challenging because of my traumatic childhood. Unfortunately, i made some really big mistakes with my own children. Forgivnes is crucial, otherwise we're stuck for life. Forgive them for your own sake. Good luck🙏

@gayedavies2797

Жыл бұрын

Só true. That you joined the army shows determination to be someone and train. I met an ex lawyer who was in the army and now runs a restaurant. You likely Learnt discipline and routine. I m lucky cos I got away from step father. I made bad decisions but now I never see my parents. I can’t stand him. He s old now and I have no sympathy for him. Once he s gone I m writing the memoir as he ll never be able to Sue me for libel. Yep I d take him to court no problem. He ruined my sister s life and she got cancer as she bottled it all up. I always told him to f off. I got work and got away. I m proud of myself for never asking for a penny off them and paying for their supplies when they were sick with Covid. I owe them nothing and am guilt free. My mum asked me to help her with her inheritance and I said no. My life is more important

@gayedavies2797

Жыл бұрын

You can walk away now and never call them again I did that to be free and live my life. I m 60 and I m slowly getting there

@christopherbiddle7234

Жыл бұрын

sorry for what happened to you

@SonoraSlinger

Жыл бұрын

Woah, just told my story for me.

Idk my step pops is my everything the more I grew up the more I realized I’d be a step father to change a child’s life the way he changed mine❤️💪🏽🔥🔥

@tamcreatezy8424

2 жыл бұрын

I bet you'll be even better father to your own

@murphsviews

2 жыл бұрын

He made it very clear that there are exceptions

Yes. There are cases when you do bond with a stepparent as you would with a biological one. It’s very rare. And it requires both child and adult to want to have a good bond. Fact of the matter is that a child and a stepparent often unconsciously fight for the other parent’s attention.

@tpickett1381

2 жыл бұрын

So true .

@TheMFStudios

6 ай бұрын

Whenever my “step kids” wanted their mother I immediately got out of the way and although it hurt to not always have my emotional needs met I knew it was more important for them to have their mother than for me to have my wife. We are family now but nothing is more important than your children. My girls ask me if I could be their dad instead of their actual abusive alcoholic asshole father. And even then I still value them having time with their bio dad. It takes true selflessness to be a parent or a stepparent and most people don’t deserve to do either

The outliers are important to consider though. My stepfather is the one I call dad because that's who he has been to me. I've never met my biological father, not that I'm opposed to it, just haven't felt the need to. Good stepparents should be celebrated, especially because their job is so difficult.

@ghosttheprogram6973

2 жыл бұрын

That's what he's trying to explain The exceptions will be there but try to maximize the rule that works

@KoolMinded

9 ай бұрын

Its such a pleasure to note that. Someone adopted you and made you happy. Now you can adopt me and make me happy. Btw, I will be hitting 50 by 2027. 😊😊😊

@gircakes2

9 ай бұрын

It's good that you haven't felt the need to. That means you functionally had a nuclear family growing up and that you are well adjusted because of it.

I love my step dad, I’m glad he’s one of the exceptions

I have to say, my family was an exception to that rule. My biological mother was extremely abusive to me in more ways than one. My stepmother raised me as her own since I was five years old. As far as I'm concerned she's my momma ❤

People thought I was horrible for telling my sons not to get with a woman who already had children. For every step family that works there's a thousand out there that don't being a stepparent is a thankless job, even if you are a good step parent. Many times it is not recognized and you are blamed for everything they can't blame their parents for.

@thebesttheworst2277

2 жыл бұрын

Yip and even less Women will take on a partner who already has kids, they are quite open and upfront about it. Yet society expects Men to do it, or at least it did until recently.

@daadvanzdone2335

7 ай бұрын

THIS COMMENT IS GOLDEN!!!

@Hana-su7zg

5 ай бұрын

@@daadvanzdone2335 exactly!! I am so glad someone mentions the other side of step parenting. It is a thankless and very difficult job. I know many women who say they will never ever again get involved with a man who has kids already.

@karlai5290

4 ай бұрын

100%! No one speaks about this, but it is extremely true and not acknowledged enough.

@OriginalPiece17

4 ай бұрын

Exactly 😊

A man will give more to the children he has with the woman he is with than the one he leaves behind with a former partner. I've lived through it as a child and have seen it many times , with the exception of my dearly departed eldest brother who was married 3 times but loved even the children his exes had with other men. My brother was the exception!

@blahblah8037

2 жыл бұрын

You’re probably the wisest comment in this whole section.

@milliesecond102

2 жыл бұрын

@@blahblah8037 Thank you! I wish I was wrong though.

@johnclaybaugh9536

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes. Sometimes not though. I give all of my kids more than I give myself. My kids have beds to sleep in that I paid for. I do not. Also, the same could be said about moms and their kids. And in reality it's perfectly fine to some degree. We give child support for the kids who don't live with us. The ones who do are in the grocery store with us, eating at the same table, going to event with us more often, etc.

@patrickarky116

Жыл бұрын

That's so not true, what about Parental Alienation??????

@23lnp

11 ай бұрын

Maybe the mother tried baby trapping the guy and his only alternative was to turn his back. Women say my body my choice, some men think, ok, my wallet my choice.

talking to a friend, i say "oh, i love kids" and she said "yea, you love YOUR kids". she was right.

my stepfather was MUCH better, and loving and caring, thank you Pa!

@superfan7052

2 жыл бұрын

Glad for you. Exceptions prove the rule

I have stepchildren and biological children and I can honestly say that I love them all the same. When they were growing up, I paid a little bit extra to my stepchildren because I never want them to feel that I love them less because they are not biologically my own...but in my heart, they are mine.

@crunchmaneslice276

Жыл бұрын

Impossible!!! Life or death situation you're picking yours and rightfully so and if not you're trash !!!!!

@nethugreen

Жыл бұрын

💜I wish all step parents can be like you

@TOOTSIEVSHOP

Жыл бұрын

Exactly you are a great person and im sure a wonderful father as well to all.

@gurlycash7394

Жыл бұрын

You're the exception not the rule

@flayneaelius1068

Жыл бұрын

'I love them all the same'. That's all well and good in comfortable conditions, but when a situation comes along that threatens the life of one of your biological and one of your step children, and circumstances force you to choose one over the other...I'm betting you're gonna' choose the child you held in your palms since their birth over another man's spawn. I could be wrong, but such a scenario will put your claim to the ultimate test, and chances are, you will fail and realize what a liar you are. Note, I'm not questioning your love for your stepkids, but I'm questioning your claim of equal love. Condescendingly harsh? Maybe, but the truth hurts. JP: 'It's pretty specific the way people love children'.

I've always been honest. The only children that I like are my own. Sorry, not sorry.

@johnd1047

2 жыл бұрын

If you don’t like the other children, there’s a good chance you had a pretty large part in that. A kid is a kid, they’re not very complex so if you can’t bring yourself to love them, why the hell are you wasting the space that could be occupied by someone who could better compensate for each group.

@wakousyremu8946

2 жыл бұрын

Nah is fine. Most people can't. The problem is that they don't understand what love really is. I do love children. Let me say it like this, people believed I was/am a pedophile. I assure you I am not. I aspire to be like the freedom writers woman or the Ron Clark story. I really love children. I am willing to go far and I will always believe in them. Some just have a long way in life because of so much roughness. And because I believe in balance I also believe there are people who dislike people. And of course the big middle group is not the same, they do not really love children because the don't really understand the meaning they will say they do. Yet who cares. As long as we care and try to shape the world in to a better place it doesn't really matter.

@helenpotter2657

2 жыл бұрын

@@wakousyremu8946 spreading joy is contagious 🙏🏻

@HannibalKantter

2 жыл бұрын

@@johnd1047 Nah, it's normal not liking children, they are stupid noisy little brats

@ljones98391

2 жыл бұрын

@@johnd1047 How would you explain when some of the step-children love step-mom and some hate her? Life is complicated and every child is different, John. There are no pat easy answers.

Dr P makes a lot of sense, and he readily allows for those “exceptions” to this very common and human response. Sometimes it’s difficult to love your own biological child.

@sonjasaniinejad5228

2 жыл бұрын

How is it possible not to love your own biological offspring. But it happens.

@rosaoddin4338

2 жыл бұрын

@@sonjasaniinejad5228 as said, sometimes it’s difficult. It would be a rare instance indeed to NOT love your own child at all, but as you indicate there is that possibility.

@rosaoddin4338

2 жыл бұрын

I think we’re getting into the weeds here. Human nature has many twists and turns! Like your name!

@HebiSnake

2 жыл бұрын

@@rosaoddin4338 Not that rare, sadly. Look how many people are okay with abortions, murdering their unborn child out of convenience.

This touched my soul and heart. Growing up, I was told by all of the adults in my life how much they loved me only to be treated as a tag along. Never was I given the full love and heart that all of these people gave to their own children.

I was raised with an abusive step-parent who’s main motivation in life was jealousy of the relationship I had with my biological parent. Drove him nuts. Peterson is right, every second, every fight, every scenario where the child takes priority… the step-parent fills with animosity and it affects the family unit very strongly.

@OlgaSmirnova1

Жыл бұрын

Because spouses are to be the priority and not children as designed by God, that’s why He hates divorce. The problem begins when the child was created with someone out of the marriage.

@The.Nasty.

Жыл бұрын

@@OlgaSmirnova1 that’s fine if you want to play make believe but I don’t share your religious indoctrination or the delusions that stem from it.

I love my kids unconditionally and I treat them as my own and they are doing well … there’s no such word as Step…and they call me mom, their choice 💯

It's not just that, you're always gonna be second priority when it comes to the child and you. Moreover, you cannot reprimand the child or you're the enemy of both the child and the parent.

@jaclynh9343

11 ай бұрын

Facts

He is right, so I seriously advise the parent to do their best to ease the situation if a step parent is brought in. I also knew NO WOMAN would be able to get away with mistreating our kids because the way their dad is - and one of the reason I did marry him. No woman would ever interfere with that relationship. He had been married before me and had kids. I was never bothered by that and understood the situation - especially from a child’s perspective, so I wasn’t threatened by the relationship. I also just made it clear to the kids I was not “their mom” - they had one. But I was a trusted adult who also was there to guide them and look out for their best interests. So when I saw the new wife doing her best to be good to the kids, I never encouraged or allowed disrespect. I also would prefer he not bring in additional women (like my own dad did) so I did my best to keep things smooth. Since we shared 50/50, if they made plans and needed to change schedule around (and I could accommodate), I did. It’s about your kids, not you. And if you know your kids are being cared for, then you have peace in your heart. Unless you’ve experienced divorce from a child’s perspective, you don’t understand that KID’s LOVE THEIR MOM & DAD (unless they really f’d it up and even then most kids do). *I call it a gift from God to teach us his love bc I’ve seen so many kids love parents that seriously don’t deserve it. Anyway, when you understand that, then you’re not threatened by your child loving another parental type figure. Even their child care providers - children can’t get enough love and guidance; and we as parents are not perfect and can’t provide everything - so it’s nice if there are other trusted adults there to help guide your children. We now have 5 adult kids starting their own families and I will pick up my exes younger child if needed. So if you’re fortunate enough to have a decent step parent come into your child’s life, make it easier is my advice and really appreciate what they do for your child. The only job less thankful than a parent’s job, is a step parent’s job.

@GORILLA_PIMP

2 жыл бұрын

Wow far too long a comment

@TG-nh6ni

2 жыл бұрын

I am in that same situation of guiding my partners kids. Only if the birth mom is not so toxic n be more like you. 😭😭😭

@lindsaywilliams3774

11 ай бұрын

Amen!!!! I am the step parent. I love my step kids as if they were my own. We all get along; nonetheless, there is zero gratitude. And I expect that.

Thank you Dr. Peterson for acknowledging this. The parent who remarries usually protests that their new spouse loves his or her child like his own when the child doesn't see that and doesn't want that.

This man is right about everything. I swear.

@wakousyremu8946

2 жыл бұрын

Nah I really love children. But I can now agree on the fact that I am an exception.

@erinjenkins4738

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@rosiephilyaw7999

2 жыл бұрын

No he is not he spreads bitterness. Can you imagine that you’re a single parent and you hear that nobody is going to love your child. Nah that’s not true and the world is t as angry and bitter as he wants you to believe.

@tebogo5655

2 жыл бұрын

@@rosiephilyaw7999 I happen to have a stepmother and a stepfather. He's accurate trust me. It's not the same as having both biologic parents, no matter how loving the step parents are. But my stepdad is the best💯. The truth doesn't care about feelings. People like Jordan Peterson make it easy for us to accept reality. Thank you to all step parents that love their children equally even when some of us are not biologically yours💯❤ GOD BLESS You All✝️

@joshuawebster8390

2 жыл бұрын

If he's wrong he's at least smart enough to do it off camera that's for damn sure 😂

Absolutely right. There are exceptions to every rule, but most cases are what he described and worst.

I am the exception.

@sniperbear5898

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I have raised my wife's 2 children as my own and love them as my own. But I do understand what he is saying. It really depends on the parents/step parents.

@dianeaishamonday9125

2 жыл бұрын

Same

@GORILLA_PIMP

2 жыл бұрын

That's not up to YOU to decide It's up to the child

@mrsa7080

2 жыл бұрын

@@GORILLA_PIMP so it's up to you to assume I decided? How about asking a question before assuming you know the answer. Example: what gave you an indication that you are the exception? What did the child say or do? This is how we learn, this is how we grow. Ask more questions , stop the assuming the answers.

@onlybugwit

2 жыл бұрын

Me too 🇬🇧

Even if you do love their children, if the other parent is in their life also, unless you all get along.... you have to deal with your partners ex

@yandel559

9 ай бұрын

Shit im dealing with right now. BUT I TOLD my girl if we decide to get married by church under the church i am your priority not your child she agreed. So only string i am holding onto.

@tianthee

9 ай бұрын

@yandel559 unsure how old you are but I assume that you do not have kids. You're statement is very naive. A certificate doesn't change the dynamics of your relationship. A parent prioritises their kids because it is natural, that is our flesh and blood. If she's not a virgin and has a child out of wedlock, why do you think other church doctrine will magically make your relationship better?

@yandel559

9 ай бұрын

@@tianthee yes it does, it's our religion and that what we follow. Its happening rn. If kids see that they come first, they wont respect their parents. If we are one, then they know to respect us. We both have kids. Thats why so many single parents fail. They fail to realize theres come a point in a relationshio their partner comes first.

@MsRavenousWolf

4 ай бұрын

​thank you for your statement! The love between a partner and a child is different. Each dynamic has importance and therefore respect. For instance, if the biological parent falls ill and the stepparent steps up to care for the biological parent and the child you should give the stepparent respect and priority! Especially if the child is too young to take care of their biological parent. The stepparent is the back up parent when the biological parent falls short so they deserve love, respect, and priority.😊

Seeing my partner be a father before we got married was a blessing. I got to see firsthand how he chooses to parent before deciding to bring more children into the world with him. I also respected his priorities when we were dating, because I wanted to build a life with someone who prioritizes their family. Were there insecurities in the beginning of our relationship I had to work through? Absolutely, but all relationships take work. It's not my job to replace my step son's mom, but I will always be there when he needs me.

@JP-lu9ed

2 жыл бұрын

Love this. Yes, my partners parenting was one of the reasons I knew this was the person for me.

Finally someone who tells this hard truth.

Caring for children is really really easy if you're mentally and emotionally healthy. It's hard coded in our DNA to do so. Now forming a family with people is indeed hard. It's something you need to commit to. But Peterson with his eternal hard on for responsibility should be appreciative of that.

Amen. I love my kids but when they bring their friends round most of them are rude and badly behaved.

@hijodelaisla275

Жыл бұрын

You didn't teach your kids good taste in friends, apparently.

Also, my father was the best “step-parent” like I said there’s no Step! He passed away and I miss him every day … he was my real father 💯😢

I am in awe of parents who adopt children and love them deeply and unconditionally. It's an incredibly special person who can do that.

@johnm84

7 ай бұрын

Yes it takes a special person to do that. Most people can not love children that are not theirs.

This is the best thing to hear as a someone with the possibility of becoming a step parent. These comments motivate me so much to show these kids unconditional love and support that they deserve. I’m honestly really excited to be a part of their lives. and I’m glad I saw this. Thank you for the brutal honesty in these comments and of this post.

My step teenagers had so much emotional baggage from their biological mother. If I could go back in time I would have left their father alone until they were out of his house and only then I would have started a relationship with their father.

@V.Hansen.

2 жыл бұрын

Yep. It’s the other parent that makes the problems most of the time

@Rambutan.

2 жыл бұрын

Same, it's a horrendous situation and you can't do anything right. The kids have so much power over your relationship. I empathise with you.

@proverbs31woman51

2 жыл бұрын

That's a horrible thing to say. Those kids need love too. It's not their fault. Imagine a man saying that about you. Double standard.

@Rambutan.

2 жыл бұрын

@@proverbs31woman51 That's a horrible thing to say. You obviously have never been in this situation, or if you have, the children aren't the same as in this ladies situation, and my own. You could have learned about a different perspective on these issues, but instead you came here casting judgement and throwing shame around. Have some compassion and empathy, you know, those things you said she needs to have?

@blahblah8037

2 жыл бұрын

@@proverbs31woman51 it’s the reality and it’s not horrible to say or even think that. It’s sad that their relationship is one she would prefer to skip but it’s not horrible. At some point you have zero say in your relationship with them and just have to be in an unhappy relationship. It’s not wrong to think I wish I had waited

I raised 2 step kids, when I had my own, they were biologically siblings. We were a family, as they all grew, there was no difference. Mind you, their Mother was mostly non existent so I never had to deal with that. The oldest is 38, the youngest 29. Last summer I got a call they were all together (with significant others) at the beach and did I want to come for a BBQ. This was the most wonderful thing I'd ever heard, they enjoyed each other's company enough to seek each other out. That's why you do it, for them. Best thing I've ever done 💜☮🕉

This is why I never dated after my ex ran off with his coworker. I didn’t want any strange men in the house with my kids.

@23lnp

11 ай бұрын

And i bet no strange man would want to be around you and your brats, playing second place in terms of him being a priority. But at the same time having to prioritise you and your brats over himself. Being a stepdad is a mugs game lol

FORGIVE US FATHER FOR THE SELFISH AWEFUL BEINGS. THAT WE. TRULY" ARE. 😭💔HAVE MERCY & CHANGE OUR HEARTS

@rufusgreenleaf2466

2 жыл бұрын

Change your own heart you have the power.

Never ever be a step parent. It’s a waste of your life.

Dr Peterson keeps it so raw and real

My step dad was awesome. He was a tough man but he was never heavy handed and always listened well. He had a simple wisdom and being fair was paramount. I have two step daughters. The last time I was with their mom, they were 10 and 13. I talk with them weekly they are 32 and 35. And have no relationship with their mother. I gave the youngest away when she was married. My dad taught me well

@23lnp

11 ай бұрын

Your dad taught you how to be a beta male, congratulations.

Spot on. First thing my father's girlfriend did, was move me out of the way. She accused me of something I didn't do and coughed up an excuse to not let me in her house anymore. This has been going on for 30 years. And my father has been too much of a coward to stand up for us.

I was 23, when my mom got with my step dad and to this day I've had more affection from him in 5 years than I have from my biological dad in ever. I know he said there are exceptions but we need to give credit to good step parents. Although of course having 2 loving biological parents would be the best for everyone. But sometimes we just have to make the best we can out of a bad situation right

You always resent the step parent whether good or bad.

@kkmusick4206

11 ай бұрын

Exactly

If you can’t love your stepchildren, walk away from the relationship. Children never recover from playing second fiddle.

@23lnp

11 ай бұрын

Either do men, so women should stop asking men for help to cover up the mistakes they made with another man.

@JustMe54328

10 ай бұрын

@@23lnpwhich law is forcing you to date such women? It’s better if u avoid them

@yandel559

9 ай бұрын

Im dating the MOM not the kids. People need to understand this. Ill tolerate kids but ultimately if we dont work out its us not the kids. I shouldnt love them as if they were my own cause theyre not. I am dating thekr mother. So simple.

@23lnp

9 ай бұрын

@@yandel559 100% agree

Completely true and why I don't believe in mixed families, even though I am product of one

Dr. Jordan...you should be ashamed of yourself...for hitting the nail on the head...Wow this is so true.

@jaclynh9343

18 күн бұрын

Right

Stepparenting …. Little love , just work. Bio parenting …. A lot of work but you don’t mind. What Jordan P says here is archetypal and sooo true.. it’s human nature. Everyone poppin up here with exceptions. Good on you…. Appreciate it. It’s rare

All 3 step parents I had to endure were awful. Just awful. In their own twisted ways. Glad my kids don't have to go through it.

@23lnp

11 ай бұрын

If you made better choices in life then your kids wouldnt have had to have suffered. Take a spoonful of accountability.

@asc4096

11 ай бұрын

@@23lnp I was the child. I'm married to my children's father.

This clip has aged awkwardly with Mikhaila's daughter now having a step-Dad!

@BEAUTYnIQ

2 жыл бұрын

jps daughter has a baby .. and she already is ¿div? ..

@Brentisimo

2 жыл бұрын

True. She divorced the bio-dad even though all indicators suggest that he was a decent man towards her and their child.

@OlgaSmirnova1

Жыл бұрын

@@BrentisimoI think she dies a great disservice to Dr Peterson, that woman is. Or example to follow.

I'm in this situation right now, the guy I'm dating has a kid with his ex. I like children, I taught in preschool but I can't help but feel jealous every time he's with his kid especially in when in the presence of the ex. It also makes me feel insecure because I myself don't have a kid of my own. I know i sound selfish but I can't help but feel this.

@OlgaSmirnova1

Жыл бұрын

Run away, find a man with no children!

@pengwencats

Жыл бұрын

​​​@@OlgaSmirnova1Thanks, well it's over, I learned that that child wasn't the only kid he had and on top of that, I learned that he was in a relationship with another woman while he was with me. I don't know how many lies I was fed. Such a problematic guy and I'm happy I'm free of him and his drama.

@OlgaSmirnova1

11 ай бұрын

@@pengwencats wow, so good you got rid of that man dear! Marry a single man, you do not want to deal with baggage. It will ruin your life!

@pengwencats

11 ай бұрын

@@OlgaSmirnova1 thanks, i kinda feel bad for the good ones that get stigmatized, but it really is better to be with someone who doesn't have all those baggage and drama.

@janisemills1

10 ай бұрын

Yes! I’m dealing with this…. It’s so sad to be jealous of a child. But honestly I feel like I’m more mad at my partner. I do feel jealous when he is doing activities with his kid and his ex. I can’t explain it but I feel like I’m a complete outsider in this relationship. It’s sucks so bad because I just want a normal family.

I don't think I'll ever have my own kids (age, not married yet), but I would be so grateful to have some step kiddos to help raise and love.

@lindsaywilliams3774

11 ай бұрын

Yes! It is SO hard, but such a precious gift

@stephek8554

10 ай бұрын

@@lindsaywilliams3774 update to my initial comment a year ago....I'm becoming a Step Mama in 2 months to two littoe ones (7&9)!! So excited and grateful! I don't have any biological children yet...any pearls of wisdom? Their mom is still in the picture and coparents well will Dad. Not trying to replace her.

I’ve never felt the way that he is speaking of about our children. I’ve always wanted to spend time with them and with my husband or them together. Whichever they chose I’ve never felt that I was having time taken away. I’ve always been grateful that god allowed us all time. Time to cherish. Time to teach our children. Time to Grow within ourselves and grow with our children. I cherish life and my loved ones and I couldn’t understand how someone is suppose to be ok with feeling that their children are in the way. I don’t understand that.

I agree.. I have a stepmother who has always tried to push us away from our father and has always acted jealous when our father gave us attention over her. BUT, we also got extremely lucky and have a stepdad who is amazing and treats us like his own kids and does everything in his power to help us with whatever we need whenever we need it.. So I’m thankful for that.

My step father loved me more than my narcissist mother ever did no matter what happened. But I noticed his behavior towards me change after my half brother was born. Shit is heart breaking.

@kkmusick4206

11 ай бұрын

He never loved you more than your mother it's impossible you ARE YOUR MOTHER LITERALLY THROUGH BLOOD YOUR STEP DAD is your half brother THROUGH BLOOD HIS LINEAGE

@michelledemaio8026

11 ай бұрын

@@kkmusick4206 blood doesn't mean anything when the people who are related to you by blood don't think of you as someone to be treated like family.

Not once in 18 years did my Stepmother and I have a relationship type of conversation. She would ask me if I did my homework, did I do my chores, things of that nature. This continued into my 20s up to her death in 2013. She did have normal talks with my wife. Go figure...

I love my stepdaughter much more than my husband. I've stayed married to him for this long in case something happens to him no one could take her away

@GORILLA_PIMP

2 жыл бұрын

It's very common for almost any and all women to bond with each other and turn against the men "Jezebel spirit" is what it's called

@kcibarra7269

2 жыл бұрын

@@GORILLA_PIMP yeah... no its not. Google that sh!t... it's called people not liking @ssholes

I broke up my 2.5 year relationship a few weeks ago, on,y a few months after my gf and her 12yo son moved in to my house. While uncomfortable Jordan says it all and this was the main reason. Once I realised I could not even control the son or lead him in my ways when he did a very bad thing (as he had his own dad), so it became just tolerating of him and came to the conclusion the benefits of only having ‘half’ my gf, and no benefit or appreciation from the child were not worth my full sacrifices. In reality no matter how much I loved her and her me, he needed her more then I did. I still miss her and love her, but what I want and need is irrelevant now, as my head has finally ruled my heart. Mistake? Sometimes I wonder when I think of her…

@kkmusick4206

11 ай бұрын

No it's not a mistake bro it's unnatural to be a "step dad"

I was a step mom at 50. Mom died. Two teen daughters. Nightmare but now they’re in their 30s and we get along much better. Thank God.

Do you know what Lions do to someone else’s Cubs, when they take over a pride?

@kkmusick4206

11 ай бұрын

Good comment and the lions probably kills them right

My mother may have neglected me but my step mom made me pay rent at 16 yrs old meanwhile her adult son lives there free until he was 45 😂 my dad never stood against her either

My step-dad took very good care of me, but he was different with his biological kids. He didn't mean to be, he just was. I understood it back then, even more so now as an adult.

@Opal5674

2 жыл бұрын

Well if the child's bio dad or mom is still in thr child's life then a step parent shouldn't even try to be fully in a parent roll. Like with me and my step son. I treated him good and bought hoke clothes and fed him and I even taught him to say he first words but I didn't hold him and snuggle like a mom would because his mom was the primary mom.

@T-K-4-2-1

2 жыл бұрын

@@Opal5674 Biodad was not in my life...agree with your point, but doesn't apply to my situation.

I agree 100%. I had a "step father" who lived with us, but never really saw themselves as my parent. And that showed in many ways and in hurtful ways too. It was not good for them to be around me for so many years. My mother was selfish enough that she would accept his behaviour just to have him around HER. I even asked him once if I could call him Dad , and his answer was "No, that he already had children". And I love children, but I also know that I would not love other people s children enough to be their step parent. That s also why I personally do not want to adopt. I want my own flesh and blood. That is my truth. I never wanted a child any way other than the natural way. There are exceptions to step parenting, of course. And there are terrible parents too. Good luck with both

He described my childhood. I know exactly what it feels like to be hated simply for existing.

My step-father treated me like he despised me for 32 years. Both my grandmother and mother realized and stated their awareness of the dynamic of him despising me because he saw me as a competitor regarding my mother. Now he's on his last leg, health-wise, and I refuse to lift a single finger to help him. He didn't want me around, so I won't be. Always consider the future, when treating your younger family members with hate or contempt: they will be the ones you rely on in your final years.

Never heard it explained so well. This man knows his stuff....

Omg as a stepmom I almost cried listening to this.

I would disagree. In my case, my step mom instilled in me a work ethic and discipline that I needed to succeed. She taught me stick-to-it-iveness. She taught me how to do domestic chores. She taught me how to listen in conversations. Because of my step mom, I got to see the Grand Canyon, Disneyland, Carlsbad Caverns, summer camp, places that my biological parents would never have gone. So maybe there are bad step parents, but I was lucky.

@peter2633

7 ай бұрын

Your situation is the outlier. All family / child organizations indicate that child abuse increases by 40% when a stepparent is introduced into the equation.

The best outcome for children has always been and will always be in the nuclear family, that is the mother, the father and their children. Children do best by all standards of measurement when raised by their biological parents.

@effu9593

2 жыл бұрын

Except when ones an predator

@FebbieG

2 жыл бұрын

@@effu9593 Yes. The exceptions prove the rule.

@ajessm

2 жыл бұрын

@@FebbieG You realise that "prove" the rule means to test the rule, right? Maybe you don't. In any case the statement holds.

This man speaks so clearly even when they are uncomfortable truths

Absolutely NAILED it ❤

Thank you for this video. I needed it. My child is going to see more often his mother's boyfriend (future husband) than me, his father. I gave life to my boy, he is my flesh. Step-parenting is the second worsed scenario for a child, after growing up with only one parent. By the way... I don't like the term "step-parent" (it's different in my language). There is only one father and only one mother.

I can see what he's saying but when I've dated single mother's it's a package deal and because I love the mom I also will love the child and will do all I can to help bring up that child as if it was my own.

@terrenceellis6016

2 жыл бұрын

No you don’t understand, because if you listened you would know your comments is unnecessary. You just wanted to say that you disagree with something.

@chrisscerbo5731

2 жыл бұрын

@@terrenceellis6016 I do understand and I didn't say I disagreed with him. I've had friends that had good step parents and ones that had bad. This accurded to me after the fact if the mom and I break up and my stepson which is just about an adult if he didn't want to be in my life anymore there's absolutely nothing I can do about that. I have little clarity on his message

@el7284

2 жыл бұрын

@@terrenceellis6016 naaaah this one's on you.

@dianeaishamonday9125

2 жыл бұрын

@@terrenceellis6016 this is a comment section. This is where we disagree with stuff if we find that the original material was incorrect. Grow up

@terrenceellis6016

2 жыл бұрын

I was married to a woman with two kids. I loved and cared for them like my own. When my first was born I found out there is a difference but I love my step kids but never like the one I created because that’s a special connection. You can fool yourself to think different but when yours come into the picture you’ll understand. You will treat them fairy but your child will always be number 1. I don’t advise single guys that are building themselves to get involved with a woman with kids. You start off behind the eight ball. And now you will be on child support for those kids. Good luck Buddy

I’ve got a step dad, since I was about 9. We get along fine enough. Though my mother maintained a relationship with my dad, and I see him regularly.

Jordan Peterson speaks so so many of my thoughts but a succinct and brief way that I do not have the immediate vocabulary to achieve. When I listen to him I feel like I’ve found someone who sees what I do. People around me say I’m crazy, overthink, think to deep, but none of them ever display even desire for insight.

My stepdad hated me and my brother through and through to the core. He hated us for no other reason other than we belonged to another man. He abused us like crazy but when on the rare occasions his own children were around he treated them like gold. He put us through the worst kind of physical and emotional psychological and sexual abuse anybody could imagine. But his own kids were horrible horrible people and they were treated very well.

@ladymiss4711

Жыл бұрын

@Warpig I'm white in Texas

He’s correct! Destroyed my marriage as we speak.

@proverbs31woman51

2 жыл бұрын

And tell me. How do kids destroy a marriage? When you marry someone you love those kids too. The amount of sketchy people in this comment section...

@priscillajimenez27

Жыл бұрын

Were they evil or did the spouse notbrake charge...

@peter2633

7 ай бұрын

@@proverbs31woman51All state run family/ child divisions indicate that child abuse increases by 40% once a stepparent is introduced into the equation.

My 21-year-old stepdaughter told me that she wished that I had not married her father and 14 years later I divorced him.

Absolutley true even the most loving step parent but I've ended relationships for that reason.

Harsh but true

I hate it when someone is right about something I disagree about.

@laurabarber6697

2 жыл бұрын

Nothing is more dangerous then a closed mind!

@What_do_say_think

2 жыл бұрын

@@laurabarber6697 So true, and we witness that everyday. So many are blind to the truth, they only believe what they want to believe, even if it is right before their eyes.

@laurabarber6697

2 жыл бұрын

@@What_do_say_think or so open minded that their brains and common sense falls out! I feel MSM wants us to believe people like us are out numbered. Even if that were so - that still doesn't make us wrong! Wishing you and yours the very best!💝

@thebesttheworst2277

2 жыл бұрын

Which part do you disagree with Gregory ? Surely if you are saying he is right then you agree on some level

You have put it perfectly

My stepmother has been so wonderful to me and my brother. My father married my stepmother when I was around 5 years old. At that age I didn't realize how amazing she was. 28 years later and she's just a wonderful woman. She took me to all my doctors appointments. She washed me and my brothers clothes (she deserves a nobel prize for that alone). Just a sweet and wonderful woman.

True

This single most DANGEROUS place for a child is in a home with an adult who is not biologically related. Step fathers commit 85%+ of the rape/molestation of both minor girls and boys. Step parenting should be outlawed.

@OlgaSmirnova1

Жыл бұрын

@@random_person__t is an abomination, so as divorce!

@23lnp

11 ай бұрын

Not always the step dads. The kids can be just as evil and lie all the time. But society will never admit this because kids are always angels apparently

I feel like I don't belong in my stepfather's house.

@OlgaSmirnova1

Жыл бұрын

Be courageous dear, it is not your fault nor his fault… I am sure he struggles. Be strong and seek Christ.

Yep I got told I got in the way by my step parent , even though they had two other children the same age as me. Really hard seeing them play happy families while your considered a burden. I was lucky I had such a good relationship with my biological parent who always made time for me

Right 👍

My father stepped up while the sperm donor backed down

@kkmusick4206

11 ай бұрын

You are YOUR DAD YOU HAVE HIS BLOOD

@danieljaimes263

8 ай бұрын

@@kkmusick4206having the same blood doesn’t make him a father aka being a sperm donor he refused to take responsibility and care and love his children

If you already have a good relationship with your biological father you can’t replace that and nothing will come close