When someone shows up to a TED talk in faded t-shirt, cargo shorts, and sneakers....listen to them. This is a person who is thinking far beyond petty, worldly concerns.

@Noushaazar

4 жыл бұрын

Seriously, stop judging by the dress!

@stevew8873

4 жыл бұрын

It's amazing how the sheeple think someone who wears a white lab coat or pin stripe suit is some how more reliable or intelligent over someone with casual wear and scruffy hair!

@massojupiter3436

4 жыл бұрын

@@stevew8873 It's called association. Our brains are responsible for that. I wouldn't call someone a sheep for using something that is essential to our survival. I'm guessing you wouldn't be worried if you were to see a clean man wearing a nice suit and he clearly looks like he takes care of himself, compared to someone who sags their pants and has face tattoos. Sagging of pants is associated with people from the streets who most likely don't have good intentions and face tattoos are a sign of someone who doesn't care about themselves. The same happens with knowledge. You can talk about the same thing a professional psychologist talks about but since he looks and sounds like a professional and has a piece of paper that tells people he studied, everyone will think you don't know what you are talking about and will listen to him.

@cooltownforcoolmusictown7109

4 жыл бұрын

Its not even that he’s thinking beyond “petty worldly concerns” its just thats the way he likes to dress. He presents himself to the audience as himself. This can also be done in a tailored suit or a pink leotard. It doesn’t matter what you’re wearing so long as you wear it authentically.

@clairemarieabao3371

4 жыл бұрын

bec its his choice to wear those simple dressing. less choice the better

The fact that this talk was more than 15 years ago yet his topic is still relevant in today's generation, if not even more, really means that this guy is thinking way ahead of his time.

@lukasmerten7697

2 жыл бұрын

So when I talk about nutrition today, I'm thinking ahead of my time, cause I'm pretty sure it's going to be still relevant in 15 years

@chickens-go-moo5079

Жыл бұрын

@@lukasmerten7697 Bruh. Obviously choice has ballooned into a bigger thing now than it was then. The fact that this problem is at the forefront while people laughed shows how forward this guys was. The funny thing is your talk about nutrition today has a really good chance of being irrelevant in 15 years because that is something known to change.

@brokenrecord3523

Жыл бұрын

@@chickens-go-moo5079 Dude, the idea that today is harder than yesterday is what Trump campaigned on. It simply isn't true, but he was elected president because everyone "feels" it is.

@chickens-go-moo5079

Жыл бұрын

@@brokenrecord3523I’m saying there’s a lot more choice today than there was before. Streaming services, smart phones, and pretty much everything else. Choice has obviously become bigger now than then.

@jacobnehman

Жыл бұрын

Of course it's still relevant. The lure of consumerism has only grown as the world of marketing, advertising and business have capitalized on the concept.

14 years later, the KZread algorithm made the decision for me.

@mathematics2234

2 жыл бұрын

Heeya

@GeneralHeadshot

2 жыл бұрын

yup

@Scott-got-caught

2 жыл бұрын

You clicked...they didnt click for you. You alone made that choice, sir. Stop trying to by funny. Youre not.

@zender1909

2 жыл бұрын

Looks like it’s trying to tell us something

@anapoda2kapela

2 жыл бұрын

SAME BROTHER.THIS ALGORITHM 😛

“I wrote a whole book to try to explain this to myself.” And that’s why this is one of the best most important books and Ted talks ever written.

@lanskyotieno5593

Жыл бұрын

😅 How do you explain it to yourself .😹😹😹

@Shlooomth

Жыл бұрын

@@lanskyotieno5593 by writing a book, obviously

@shruthirajaram1993

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

"I wrote a whole book to try to explain this to myself."

@mrrohitjadhav470

4 жыл бұрын

Wanna share ?

@WeAreOutOfWeed13

4 жыл бұрын

HAAHAHA you watched the video too? that was sooo funny XxDDD

@starpleb843

4 жыл бұрын

@@WeAreOutOfWeed13 are you out of weed

@studyinginthedesert7690

4 жыл бұрын

Read the comment right at the same time the guy said it. Always weird.

@abcd12342695

3 жыл бұрын

This was the most beautiful moment of the whole talk

"Is it a bad news, or good news". "And the answer is yes". My man was ahead of time on the meme game 👌

@tejasdeepsingh456

3 жыл бұрын

One step Ahead of the game!

@scarmsaniiaggrey1646

3 жыл бұрын

Right on! Haha

@bt1867

3 жыл бұрын

13 Years! 😮

@BeckaMaecie

3 жыл бұрын

When you realize this came out 13 years ago before memes 😂

@dianemoril7612

3 жыл бұрын

the best answer of all times is always "yes!" the first time my husband asked me if I wanted strawberry iced-cream OR vanilla iced-cream, he understood that too... he never tried to push me into a choice after that... hahaha!

His simplicity is everything..it's so soothing and his talk just feels like your dad giving you priceless advice about life in the comfort of your living room. I didn't want it to end. I'm about to start searching for 14-year old TED talks 😅

@aaryanpanwar6405

Жыл бұрын

The older the better

@platinum11110

Жыл бұрын

Same

@sadiqtola

6 ай бұрын

Yeah, it's like a Dad giving his child a piece of advice.

Why Choice Makes People Miserable: 1. Regret and anticipated regret. 2. Opportunity costs. 3. Escalation of expectations. 4. Self-blame.

@katyash8881

2 жыл бұрын

Lmao thanks for this it’s helping me on my school assignment

@DH-og5yr

2 жыл бұрын

TLDR. Old guy scared religion is waning

@yoursubconscious

2 жыл бұрын

Can we add social media to the list?

@DoubleOhSilver

2 жыл бұрын

@@DH-og5yr You need to get out of your echo chambers and stay away from all media for a month. You sound crazy to have gotten that idea from this video. Just like another comment on this video saying he was promoting less choice to let other "smarter" people think for you - totally missing half the message of the video. You're in so deep that you can't hear what's being said, you only hear what you want to believe.

"If you choose not to decide, you have still made a choice" - Neal Peart

@user-qb4id8zn3h

3 жыл бұрын

Similar to "no comment is a comment"

@paulmerritt8593

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely and this man is pushing hogwash. Totalitarian right to the core. He targets young people and wears a costume in Ted Talks. This man does not dress this way normally. Look at all the Ted Talks and see what they all wear. Don't be so easily fooled. he targets you because you are young and impressionable. He is a communist and has an agenda.

@letslike15

3 жыл бұрын

@@paulmerritt8593 "If someone points out a problem in the perfect and ultimate system of the US he must be a communist. Because capitalism has no flaws." Typical NA thinking. Btw. he actually said no choice is even worse than having some choice. I would argue that this was part of the reason why the UDSSR collapsed.

@joeburke2323

3 жыл бұрын

skyylow Shakespeare

@mukulsharma7213

3 жыл бұрын

It is Bhagwad Geeta shloka....not by neal pearts

He's absolutely right.. _"The secret to happiness is low expectations"_... And everybody laughs. They must not have expected much from this talk.

@MrDavidBFoster

9 жыл бұрын

***** No.

@maggiemarl69

9 жыл бұрын

The key is to be happy from little things

@Doritos0012

9 жыл бұрын

I learned to lower my expectations a few years ago. I felt that if u expect to much u will be disappointed more often.

@GCortesMtz

9 жыл бұрын

LOL "I did not expected much from the audience" . . . which reminds me of my childhood and a lesson my mom gave me when I was mad at someone, she said - "Never expect anything from anyone; this does not mean you don't trust them; but having low expectations for others will make your life happier" She was right, but what she did not mentioned is that sometimes is also not that good to have huge expectations on yourself, that also I have found can be quite stressful or unhealthy ;)

@MrDavidBFoster

7 жыл бұрын

GCortesMtz There's another twist on that. I'm the guy who, for having maintained low expectations of others my entire life, ended up doing most of their work for them. There was a time when I actually _liked_ hearing _"You're doing a fine job!!"_. Not so much anymore.

When will Ted, himself, come out to talk?

@JamieSmith-fz2mz

3 жыл бұрын

Shyness is a real problem.

@mauve9266

3 жыл бұрын

I heard he has stage fright

@yeshwant5875

2 жыл бұрын

This is the comment I was looking for ever since I began watching Ted talks.

@WorldWideSk8boarding

2 жыл бұрын

“TED” is an acronym

@djs9931

2 жыл бұрын

@@WorldWideSk8boarding I call bullocks

"The way in which we value things depends on what we compare them to" - Barry Schwartz

@ichbineinephysikerin3540

7 ай бұрын

Kinda reminds me of the social comparison theory, where you can feel so good about your situation if you use downward Comparison, and you can also feel too bad, in the very same situation, just if you use upward comparison.

This was brilliant! I spend so much time finding the best option, wasting valuable minutes, then end up with insufficient time to do other stuff, then procrastinate, then become miserable.

@eddiew2325

4 жыл бұрын

No offense but I would rather waste time with you than be productive by myself. I rather be beside you in a storm than safe and warm by myself

@miguelalonsomejiaoblitas7339

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@Reeenald

3 жыл бұрын

Story of my life.

@-ColorMehJewish-

2 жыл бұрын

His argument is "Some choices can have bad consequences so we should impede freedom". That's not solving a problem.. b/c he's focused on people having choice (not even mentioning that some choices can have medical/dietary needs for existing) And he's making repeated arguments w/ very basic logical fallacies.. Like his appeal to authority: Blindly trusting someone like a doctor b/c they went to school and repeated the correct info.. as being more knowledgeable than people who can potentially look into their own health. Some cases the doctor might know best, some cases the patient might. This guy generically stereotypes both parties, then ignores ANY complexity to issues... just to focus on pushing his views on choice. Same situation w/ his jeans example. Just b/c he sucks at shopping, he blames the jeans. Not his crappy ability/lack of proficiency. Credentials/authority does not measure proficiency, and Mr. Schwartz is completely blind to this fact. That's not very brilliant.

@mrgd7813

2 жыл бұрын

That's me too

"The secret to happiness is low expectations," - must be true, since my wife still appreciates any little thing I do for her.

@patrickmarr7076

3 жыл бұрын

somewhere between the low expectations that lead to mediocrity and the high expectations that lead to disappointment lies a sweet spot of realistic expectations that challenge us without overwhelming us.

@imanafdar

3 жыл бұрын

@@patrickmarr7076 thank you for the wisdom kind sir

@saptamiram

2 жыл бұрын

@@patrickmarr7076 blowing this up as a poster for my room. Thanks!

@jackiewika6694

2 жыл бұрын

@@ambershah5741 Yes. Expectations are premeditated resentments.Still one must have standards.

@sheilakijawani2526

2 жыл бұрын

@@ambershah5741 you'll have expectations as you're a human. Do you expect surprises?

As someone with a diagnosed depression I greatly appreciate this video. I'm really struggling with choices from the simple to the complex ones and a constant feeling of regret.

2 negative effects of too many choices: 1 8:07 it produces paralysis rather than liberation 2 9:57 we are less satisfied Reasons for the 2nd effect: 10:13 you could have made a better choice 10:46 opportunity cost 12:27 escalation of expectations 15:39 self-blame

"everything was better, when everything was worse"

@jessedelossantos7787

4 жыл бұрын

Its called paradox😊😁😁

@eddiew2325

4 жыл бұрын

jesse delos santos I’ve waited all my life

@gabbo365

3 жыл бұрын

Se stava mejo quanno se stava peggio

@andrijaarapovic5654

3 жыл бұрын

"in the past even the future was better"

@markpromise375

3 жыл бұрын

@@andrijaarapovic5654 🤔

Freedom of choice is what you got. Freedom from choice is what you want - Devo

@kathypiazza4567

4 жыл бұрын

Sundeep this explains why our government sucks- incumbents win all to often because they have the job so voters pick them so they don’t really have to choose.

@eddiew2325

4 жыл бұрын

Kathy Piazza no offense Kathy but I rather have bad times with you than good times with someone else I rather be beside you in a storm

@Tonisuperfly

4 жыл бұрын

Oh boom! I love that you referenced this.

@sunatray

4 жыл бұрын

@@Tonisuperfly Thank you. :) First thing that came to my mind while watching this video.

And 14 years later we have more choices than ever.

I've never felt more impacted by the paradox of choice until I went through the college application process. I decided to apply to many schools (having no expectations to be accepted to many, if any at all). But I got my results back and I ended up with WAY more good options than I thought. Instead of being happy about my acceptances, I just feel more overwhelmed and anxious about the the fact that it's in my hands to choose one and miss out on other good choices.

@zoeiiseda246

Жыл бұрын

Be glad you got accepted. I didn't.

@saifalbarwani9800

Жыл бұрын

@@zoeiiseda246 good luck

@farrel_ra

Жыл бұрын

Show off

@farrel_ra

Жыл бұрын

@@zoeiiseda246 sad

@usagiminute

Жыл бұрын

Amazing example!!!

I know everyone laughs when he says, "The secret to happiness is low expectations," but I've definitely found that to be true. As an ex-perfectionist, I can't tell you the relief I feel now at just being good enough or doing something well enough. Don't get me wrong - I still try to perform well, to the best of my abilities, and to challenge myself a bit; but I don't expect everything to go perfectly all the time. Once I started adapting to living this way, I discovered just what he is talking about: those little delightful surprises when something exceeded my expectations or went better than I had hoped it would. Truly, when you demand or expect less (and are content with merely being), it's like a whole other world opens up. It's such a relief.

@Joylevinstein

5 жыл бұрын

How is this going some years later, are yiu able to keep it up? I think I need to make a similar shift in my life and am looking at different angles and experiences.

@WhiteLightning38

5 жыл бұрын

Ex perfectionist with impeccable punctuation

@seanpalmer1145

5 жыл бұрын

@ whitelightning - you've managed to be both observant and amusing. TED draws a sophisticated audience. :)

@KrzysiuNet

5 жыл бұрын

IMO less expectations is a kind of white flag. Let it be, never mind and so on. What I prefer is to learn how to deal with failures. I could make a living, then eat, then sleep, but I except much more. So except jobs I have, I'm working as activist - because I except the world to be much better and I know I can help. Sometimes I fail, but nevermind, that doesn't make me feel bad in the long term - because if it would, I couldn't make another attempts of making my world (i.e. mostly my region) a better place. I excepted my fiance to be with me, same with my three best friends - they aren't here anymore and of course that fucking hurts. Even with this great failure of my expectations, I have to deal with it. What can I do? Say "oh, let's just don't expect that my family that is still alive will live next day, because all these death were sudden"? That would be recipe for constant fear. "Low expectations" are claptrap. And this is frustrating when politician breaks the law and I fail with suing that person, but then I remember all the things I've saved because my expectations and it's clear to me the frustration is a small thing. I walk the street and I see saved buildings, saved forests and clean places **because my expectations were high**. And that's so rewarding. High, low, expectation, wish, failure, success... These words means something else for each of us. So, Joy, don't listen to me. Think about your definitions and make decision. That's up to you, because low expectations can save your life, but they may destroy it.

@Bubblemation

5 жыл бұрын

@@KrzysiuNet I completely agree with your point here, and I find the original poster naive and ignorant in their statement. If you get to the point that suicide seems like a good option then low expectations are a laughable suggestion. I live on only with the hope that my life will somehow get better. That's pretty fucking high expectations given my life outlook so I have to do my best with that. I have to force myself to expect that life will be worth living for me, and low expectations would only certainly land me in the grave sooner.

The outfit makes me feel like I’m getting a lecture from my dad

@Skyletwings

4 жыл бұрын

I have the same impression. But for me, it is rather what he says than what he wears.

@eddiew2325

4 жыл бұрын

Skyletwings hehe can I kiss u

@tiktokcurated1549

3 жыл бұрын

I wish I got such smart lectures from my dad... Plot twist, he's still deciding which percentage of milk to choose and hasn't come back in 15 years.

@supercomputer0448

3 жыл бұрын

Hmm my dad's lectures are just about how masks are used by the democrats to controle people and all the ships in the ocean a making waves that splash on the ice caps causing them to melt. And the sheer amout of ships is making the ocean rise.

@tiktokcurated1549

3 жыл бұрын

@@supercomputer0448 Hahahahah

Back when TedTalks were done by people, who actually had something valuable to say.

@farrel_ra

Жыл бұрын

this!

@the_traveller6994

Жыл бұрын

Well said.

Felt like he explained what's going on in my head more eloquently than I ever could.

@m3iwa419

Жыл бұрын

This!!!!

It's 2019 and my phone still don't have a creme brulée torch..

@chrimony

4 жыл бұрын

And I'm not complaining that mine does too much, either.

@CloudStrifeCosplay

4 жыл бұрын

:(

@dougraddi908

4 жыл бұрын

What?!

@Traul1983

3 жыл бұрын

Samsung tried to make one but it got misunderstood.

@abc25277

3 жыл бұрын

Traul1983 it burnt the crème

Dresses in the morning expecting to tidy the yard... ends up giving a TED talk.

@junpeiiori4720

5 жыл бұрын

* trophy unlocked *

@gringaexpatriada9805

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@nizammahamood4540

5 жыл бұрын

He preached what he practiced. Probably wore the first things he saw in his closet.

@ZedaZ80

4 жыл бұрын

It is probably true here, too, but if you go to a math conference, mathematicians will assure you: the sloppiest dressed presenter is going to give the best talk.

@AndyMc1952

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly what happens to me based on too many choices. I would have dressed the same way.

I am in Japan. My opinion is the same, He's right. "The secret to happiness is low expectations". Happiness is not having, but being.

Back when TED talks came without X, and the speakers where actual scientists.

@indrayudhroy9415

2 жыл бұрын

Yes since then a mass of X's have overriden it all

@clarkpalace

2 жыл бұрын

The X’s mean more choice! Jeezus

@kallepikku4991

2 жыл бұрын

@@clarkpalace X means more opinions, less science.

@nietzscheanmiddleman9832

2 жыл бұрын

T.E.D. stands for Technology Entertainment Design

@luisalbinati

2 жыл бұрын

"everthing was better when it was worse"

It's called "Fear of missing out". I am happy I didn't miss this one.

@TNHODA

4 жыл бұрын

No what is being discribed in this video is not FOMO. FOMO is something you can have with a single choice, like: should I go to a party? For it could be the best party you ever go to. Or when checking social media AGAIN, because maybe someone just posted something. I do think I get the link that you're seeing: many options with pro's and con's where you fear missing out on the pro's, but that (for me) is different from what the paradox of choice is.

@eddiew2325

4 жыл бұрын

TNHODA hehe can I kiss you or do you have some sorta vendetta against me

@7osb

3 жыл бұрын

@@TNHODA Whether you should go to a party is two choices

people who go with the flow are the happiest. wherever life takes them, they try to enjoy it instead of stressing about what to do.

@buiuh1260

2 жыл бұрын

when that flow benefits them, of course. not granted to everyone

The earliest situation that many people first face the "curse of too much choice" is as a child, standing in a candy shop or a toy store, being overwhelmed with all the possible choices. Some are fortunate to have a very patient parent who helps them to handle the confusion of the situation, but many have parents who are so stressed and impatient (for a plethora of reasons) that what should be a rather simple situation becomes the basis for the child's lifetime behavior. A small thing, but very telling.

@mtarik00

2 ай бұрын

I totally agree with you. That's why, in my opinion, we, as adults, should first focus on being patient with our inner child and nurture in a healthy way. Then, the transition to teach critical aspects of life to another human being would become much easier.

The way this guy can walk across a stage in a tee and shorts while giving the most riveting presentation: confidence goals.

Ranks as one of the best speeches I’ve ever heard.

@xsuploader

3 жыл бұрын

hes brilliant. He gives me a real Richard Feynman vibe.

@Mehwhatevr

3 жыл бұрын

This is my favorite TED Talk. He describes me precisely.

@KezDPianist

3 жыл бұрын

Any other great recommendations on ted speakers? Thanks

@Mehwhatevr

3 жыл бұрын

@@KezDPianist I like the ones by James Veech about spam email. I like the ones by a couple of math teachers. My favorite is the one by a math teacher (like me) who has decided that teaching middle school and high school math to every student is a waste of time. That instead of forcing everyone to learn algebra (for example) we should teach courses on logic and problem solving. Very few people will actually need to use math in their lives beyond basic fractions, but everyone needs to learn how (not what) to think and problem solve. These are the ones that immediately come to my mind.

@xsuploader

3 жыл бұрын

@Myth Tree what points

yes, humans were not designed to make 5000 quality decisions each day. Life is too stressful nowadays.

@paulmerritt8593

3 жыл бұрын

Your life does not need to be that stressful. Stress and fear and anxiety are all tools of oppression and not the way we are made to live. he wants you to think we should leave our thinking to smarter people who are knowledgeable and who we must trust. Do you think this man dresses like this everyday? No he is targeting a young and impressionable audience. Son't be his sheople. Stress and fear are perceptions oppressors have imposed on their societies for thousands of years.

@lorenasdiscoveries

3 жыл бұрын

@@paulmerritt8593 I totally agree with you. I think those symptoms are lack of PURPOSE OF LIFE.

@theoenomelphilosopher8687

3 жыл бұрын

@@paulmerritt8593 his point certainly wasn't to let all your important choices be left to be made by a person in power but more like limit your choices(when its excessive that any choice would be made at all)

@formula1340

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/hZmhqsppnpSffKQ.html here's another talk about choices. Having a lot of choices is good but they key is being content on what you've chosen not to regret about it being inferior to other options.

@andres550

2 жыл бұрын

@@lorenasdiscoveries you nailed it!

I always live by this quote and I find it pertinent with this video.'It is simply this "Expect nothing and NEVER be disappointed"or "Never expect anything from anyone or any situation and you'll never be disappointed" "'To prevent disappointment never expect anything from anyone and everything"

Second time watching this some years later, and after having more experiences regarding too many choices this TED talk is truer than ever for me.

He's so right. I remember several years ago when all I had was a DVD player, I'd go down to the local library and choose a few movies that caught my eye, and that was it. But when the woman I was married to at that time purchased Netflix, I was so overwhelmed by the choices that were at my fingertips, I noticed that my pleasure diminished significantly. This was because I was always thinking to myself, damn there are so many movies on here, I want to choose the one that's really gonna wow me. It has to be perfect because there are so many others that I could be watching right now! That's just one example. The choices that are available today for everything are truly mind boggling.

@robertedwards5184

4 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@squidproquo2241

4 жыл бұрын

@Charlie5thumbs v _ Choice is the product of wisdom and highest level of tamed ego. If, you don't have that wisdom and well tamed ego, what you perceive as choice is the desired driven ego satisfaction tools. It is like this; If you don't have food, and you are always hungry, you will not pick food and will not be able to hate any food due to overindulgence. If, you have variety of foods easily reachable, if you can not stop overindulging yourself, you will start losing your taste and more picky. Food is a necessity. In your case, why would you choose to watch a DVD, any DVD in the first place? Watching a DVD is not even a necessity !!!

@gilberttorres8

4 жыл бұрын

You need to work on your decision making skills.

@shugyosha7924

2 жыл бұрын

There's so much content in every medium now that it's impossible to stay caught up on practically anything. Back in the days watching telly, I'd be following 1 maybe 2 shows at a time max and they came out once a week.

@RestTarRr

2 жыл бұрын

He isn't right at all though... Time and time again I see the same sentiment posted and it's always older people saying it. How come the new generation doesn't have an issue with choosing what to watch on netflix or doesn't feel paralyzed by having to choose from 100 jeans instead of 1 kind? Is it really that hard to realize that it's not a problem of too many choices rather than the fact that the older generation weren't exposed to this and had to adapt with the times. Those who didn't adapt are stuck in your shoes. Those who adapted are thriving and living their best life because there's undeniable benefits of choice being given to us. You are bad at making decisions because you never had to make them until one point where you were bombarded by them. It's not entirely your fault because that's just how it was back in the day but it's important to acknowledge that it indeed isn't a problem of there being "too many options" but you putting unreal expectations and stress on something as trivial as watching a movie. It's a mentality/skill that can be learned. You aren't born with good/bad decision making. The benefits of multiple choices far outweigh the negatives of it and it seems that only people who refuse to adapt are stuck with the negatives.

"Comparison is the thief of joy. " -TEDdy Roosevelt

My first thought into his talk was how the “too many choices conundrum” definitely applies to online dating. It’s like a dinner menu that changes every night at a restaurant that serves seven course meals. A lot of people on dating sites always think they can do better. Even if the person they’re talking to/dating is a connection, and checks off most/all their boxes. I did that whole thing for years after my divorce. My friends have had the same experiences. All of us just got tired of it all, and decided that if we don’t meet our person organically, than we die alone. *oh, the horror!*

@isaiahayers1550

Жыл бұрын

I completely take your point and I think it's all well stated but...was that sarcasm at the end about dying alone? I do believe being alone for many years is quite bad. We humans certainly can appreciate answering only to ourselves and all and having things that we like and that we chose. But, we are also social creatures who deeply need someone to share our feelings and experiences with. Perhaps some people can find enough of that with friendship or family but I would expect that for the vast majority of people, they would really benefit from a good romantic relationship. As someone who is recently divorced myself though, I can attest that relationships are also very much not easy. I hope you find someone soon, if you haven't already, or that you can find peace, joy and contentment on your own.

@mariabrown5828

Жыл бұрын

yes i agree with you %100 no one specially the males can make a choice to stick to one profile if they have formed a connection because they have to keep looking and searching and messaging whatever profile takes their fancy in the next five minutes, its an endless array of choices that they will never get to the end off. Unfortunately i too only in the last two weeks have deleted my online dating profiles as the disappointment and frustration of starting chat conversations with men only to have them disappear the next day was more trauma than i needed, so like you if it is meant to be for me to meet someone else in my later life it will have to be in the offline world, if not i guess i will have to except the inevitable.

Incredible how this talk aged incredibly. Life-changing ted talk.

I've seen interesting TED talks, fascinating TED talks and inspiring TED talks. This one changed my life.

@shashankkothari8066

3 жыл бұрын

How?

@yanocavalcante9362

3 жыл бұрын

That TED talk really blow up my mind eventhough it's 14 years old

@ala8649

3 жыл бұрын

Yea how bcptbcpt?

@sportsbd8743

2 жыл бұрын

How?

@jordiimanuel2888

2 жыл бұрын

So how are you lately

Didn't even know TED was posting 13 years ago

Watched this twelve years later and my investigations confirm most all of what he says. I hang out in a country that offers me less options, but with more satisfaction in the choices I make.

I come back to watch this every couple of years. It has never lost its luster.

Amazing that this came out about the time the first iPhone was released. Crazy to see how much time and technology has changed and we wonder why mental health issues are on the rise.

I can relate to this totally, I always feel paralysed when it comes to career choices.

@kulina571

2 жыл бұрын

Aaand that's why you're still jobless !

@rahulanand7315

2 жыл бұрын

@@kulina571 FYI, I'm data scientist for last 3 years.

@afonsosalbrecht

2 жыл бұрын

@@rahulanand7315 puffff, data scientist... you can become a data science on udemy in less than a week, that's a joke profession!

@Scott-got-caught

2 жыл бұрын

@@rahulanand7315 I dont understand...are you bragging...or complaining 🤣

@joec9997

2 жыл бұрын

@@afonsosalbrecht no need to beat on a guy just trying to defend himself

this talk reminded of a line in the Eagles song DESPERADO... "it seems to me some fine things have been laid upon your table... but you only want the ones you can't have". The Fear Of Missing Out clearly steals more happiness than the choices could possibly provide.

Oh my gosh this concept needs to be applied to online dating! There are hundreds of faces you scroll through and you are always thinking there might be something better on the next swipe so no one actually does the dating part always looking for something better. fewer options would revolutionize online dating. Also online dating has killed the idea of dating.

When I only had 7 tv channels there was always something on.

@anniesue4456

3 жыл бұрын

Lol spend more time figuring out what to watch

@donaldduck8474

3 жыл бұрын

I once had just 4... that was perfect.

@TraxisOnTheLines

2 жыл бұрын

I remember when we went from cable, where I used 3 for video games, 25, 50, and 51 for kids shows, and nothing else, to satellite. Suddenly we had over 900 channels, and then I found the 7 in a row that were the same shows I used to watch (551-557 if I remember), and 300 was the movie channel that my dad watched a lot. 625 was comedy, but I only knew that because of my dad as well. 900 channels and I found a way to only need 7 choices, with a couple extra bonuses once in a while. And even of those 7, 552, 554, and 557 almost always had the best stuff and I swapped between those 3 unless all of them had nothing.

"The secret to happiness is...low expectations." Great blend of humor & intelligent info.

I’ve seen this talk quite a few times, every time it strikes me how true it is, how much this applies to my experience of life. Comforting in a way but also frustrating - what do I do with this knowledge? How can I make other people realise the same? It affects everything- from being stressed on vacation from not doing enough or experiencing enough- to being the reason why it’s so difficult to find a partner. I do agree, times were better when the were worse.

I've picked up similar ideas from other places. The last part about the fish bowl reminded me of an old Twilight zone episode. When Barry talked about being disappointed with our choices, I was reminded of Dr. John Becker's somewhat pessimistic (but also pragmatic) outlook on life: that life is a series of disappointments ending in a really big one! At the end of the day, we have to adapt to a changing world. If we are given more choices in our life, we have to become better at making choices. That's easier said than done, of course, but I think understanding our predicament probably does help.

"One of the effects of too many choices, paradoxically, is that it produces paralysis instead of liberation."

@ihddurmas9871

3 жыл бұрын

It's paralysis only if you're not educated about the options you get.. Open market is what has driven for all the choices to exist- they'll without a doubt shrink if there are no real buyers present.

"Everything is amazing and nobody's happy"

This sounds like it was written in full support of philosophical debate. I enjoyed listening to it.

I'm glad that I made the decision to watch this Ted talk, I learned so much! Thank you for sharing about this that I've been pondering so much

@jamesbarlow6423

Жыл бұрын

😂

This explain the lower satisfaction in modern world dating. The higher expectations and higher standards with too many choices from all those dating app...we are now the product and we all look at our self as such.

This video was okay, but I expected it would have been better. I wish I made a different choice and picked the one with the cat playing the piano. I feel depressed now. :(

@shruggzdastr8-facedclown

5 жыл бұрын

36trooper: So, it looks like your only option is to go to the garage, get in your car, start the engine and let the carbon monoxide fumes put you to sleep forever. ;^}

@TheNemocharlie

5 жыл бұрын

Sir/Madam, I salute your comic genius!

@souravdey7174

5 жыл бұрын

You got it... You can now watch the cat playing piano.. Or sleep or play video games.. or work...😂😂😂😂

@shiitakestick

5 жыл бұрын

.. but remember the cat isnt dead or alive until you open the keyboard.

@MRU2be

5 жыл бұрын

Well, I expected worse. So now I'm happy because it exceeded my expectations, but kinda sad, because I was wrong. It's really hard to live indeed.

one of the best speeches ever, thank you for sharing these amazing information.

Barry is on the next level, even for a professor. Just brilliant.

It is absolutely true that the key to happiness is low expectations. However, it's also very true that freedom requires that people take responsibility for their choices. I've never felt paralyzed by too many choices. I have spent more time than I wanted on certain choices. It's important to know which choices are the most critical and focus on those.

@MONICAANICA

Жыл бұрын

How many people are you....a single individual probably..... The more people ate in the equation the choices are exponential

@tomusic8887

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations, still it makes life a barren land containing hours and hours of constant choice making, wonderful 👍👍👍👍👍

@Josh-jl3sd

Жыл бұрын

What are the most critical ones? Who gets to tell me what are the most critical choices oh right I decided that myself which ones do I decide on? How many different critical decisions must I make to get to the end of the rat maze?

This explains the popularity of apple's products.

@LattiMonstaaa

10 жыл бұрын

funnily enough, youre probably right

@1965ace

10 жыл бұрын

I was going to say that.

@lowestyet

6 жыл бұрын

That's what I thought as well!

@brunoborma

6 жыл бұрын

Yep. And I would add, mainly because they present their products not as some types of PC, but something else, a mac. And inside mac you have not too much options. THey make you believe there is nothing to expect beyond what they produce. And they are probably right hehe

@vojta6734

6 жыл бұрын

my mind is completely blown right now. It explains so much omg

Still one of the best ted talks I've ever listened to.

Yes! I spend so much time in my head considering all my choices and regretting the ones I've made. I'm designing my house and I can't decide on what I want my drive to look like and I'm so worried that I won't get it right.

magic number of choices is 3! bulbasaur squirtle and charmander

@user-od9pj3vq8y

8 жыл бұрын

bob vella This is also the hardest choice a person can ever experience.

@TimesNuRoman

7 жыл бұрын

Always choose the charmander choice in whatever decision.

@slapbot

6 жыл бұрын

Bulbasaur, squirtle and charmander well that's just 3 what about the other 3 ones? you said magic number of choices is 3! right?

@boris3866

6 жыл бұрын

Ujjwal Gupta That's 6

@bubs1533

6 жыл бұрын

Pokemon as an analogy. Plaudits.

Reminds me of Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace. Very true, the paradox of choice. Constantly dissatisfied. Constantly looking for something greater. Constantly having the feeling of anxiety due to all other options, choices. Barry Schwartz is the man. Don't think I've ever seen anyone at TED Talk having the balls to wear shorts. Awesome.

@Wooda-qu8wj

6 жыл бұрын

Jim Morrison I

@RoxyStellar

6 жыл бұрын

his choice

@jw5471

6 жыл бұрын

People want choice. I have a friend who is a butcher. He says his profit will go down if he doesnt display several large amount of different types of preparation of meat. Instead of just plain meat. Even if it means he has to throw away 20% of his products. He still profits when he gives a large amount of choice and still throws away 20%. The people just wont come to his shop. So now tell me how people feel miserable and still go back. Ofcourse you are doing to make a wrong choice. But he is taking it way to far. Most of the time people are happy with the choices they made. Are you constantly depressed for making choices? Its stupidest thing i ever heard.

@MattHanr

6 жыл бұрын

jos People think they want choice because the super market has a dozen types of meat. This is just one anecdotal instance, don’t get so excited

@jw5471

6 жыл бұрын

Yea ok but why do we want to think that? You are not adressing the issue herz

This video was posted 14 yrs ago and I only got the recommendation today. Very grateful

That last part pierced my heart

I found this to be quite true. The times when I've had the least money in my life, have been the most memorable times... the most satisfying (all be it frustrating at the time)... when I look back now... it's those times that I remember more fondly for some reason. Less choice perhaps, greater struggle, "a feeling of satisfaction" to make it through.

I've watch this video like a dozen times. I come back to it often. This is like a meditation that I use to reset myself.

@sportsbd8743

2 жыл бұрын

What?

Watching this in 2022, and the points stated in his talk is way more relatable. The damage has gone to a whole new level.

14 years later, and its still relevant

@beatcypher3128

2 жыл бұрын

always will be.

even after 10 years of watching it . this is eternal , and now so more obvious!

*Yeah,* _I'm over it, too!_ Well spoken. As I had low expectations I now find myself pleasantly surprised; _intelligent life does exist on Earth._

Barry is impressive. Hes not concerned with the external. Narcissistic ideals. Thats impressive. I admire this. This definately applies to online dating which marginalizes people and reduces them to commodities. Success is over valued. And good character is undervalued.

"This is so deeply embedded in the water supply that it wouldnt occur to anyone to question it" Facts.

Brilliant lecture!! THE grass is always greener phenomenon! !

Thanks for explaining to me why I like the simple life.

This exceptional presentation It takes away my anxiety...Learning that all that is happening now is a well known & accepted failed experiment.... Thank you for bringing relief to the commoners💕

I am a doctor, and he is spot on. I provide options to patients. 2021.

In a nutshell : Excess is the root of modern day misery.

@patsybarrett9780

8 жыл бұрын

Iqbal Dinho me too.

@BarrySlisk

8 жыл бұрын

+Marisa Kirisame I'm sure that is why danes are considered some of the happiest people on Earth. Because there really is no need for us to be happy. A very mediocre country.

@mycount64

7 жыл бұрын

+Giacomo Drago the soft mattress from a rock to sleep on can make a difference to your quality of life. having the choice between 50 mattresses of varied softness does not change your life it is a false freedom.

@gregnathan7063

6 жыл бұрын

You look jewish buddy

@YellowJelly13

6 жыл бұрын

"In a nutshell : Excess is the root of modern day misery." Is this how much information fits in your nutshell (brain)?

TED seems to have been quite a laidback event back in the day

“When the time is right, they’ll choose the appropriate gender”... that was a joke then. How ironic

The best way to eliminate choice in consumer purchases is to always buy the cheapest or second cheapest. Manufacturers/brand owners all say they are the “best” . It’s easy to be unique, it’s easy to be the “best” but it’s hard to be the cheapest. You will win 80% of the time while saving money in the process

Opens your mind about your choices in life. Don't over think. We only live once, don't waste too much time thinking about the same things every minute of your day. Sometimes its okay to settle with things and just be alive in the moment. This is coming from a person who over thinks every single day.... its a struggle but this video helped open my perspective!

The paralyzis is so true. Its a real struggle for me be it clothes or food. Sometimes i could be so unsure about what to choose that i didnt make a choice at all. I have gotten better dealing with the overchoice of today but i used to leave my options to the chance of a dice roll.

17 years later, lives like mine are still being influenced by these videos.. Amazing.

This was a genuinely superb presentation. I was a true student of Barry Schwartz for a little over a quarter of an hour, and I feel I have been bestowed with the invaluable outlooks and insights for increasing well-being and happiness! Thanks, Barry!

This is great, from 2007 he's telling us empirically what we are starting to understand now. when you're stucked with something and cant change it you like that thing better. And that change is deep in the brain.

@jamesbarlow6423

Жыл бұрын

😂learn spelling

I think it is just about ''Material desire'', when you want too much, you will end up being unhappy. People just have to learn how to be satisfied with all they have now, and be thankful for everything!

14 years later (16 since the talk) and it is still very much so relevant

a phrase I came up with a few years ago that I have found fitting to damn near every situation of choice is... "I have high hopes but low expectations" Aim for the stars...but dont be suprised when you hit the fence

" Have higher expectations if you want improvement, and lower expectations if you want contentment. " Jeremy E. Sherman Ph.D. ... and that is why i treat my friends like dirt....i know for a fact they;re going to fail me any given time.......

My life in a nutshell - paralyzed by choice

@justpassingthrough4802

3 жыл бұрын

Paralysis by analysis.

@timkramar9729

2 жыл бұрын

I've tried to tell people that to many choices make you unhappily but they refuse to see and still want more choices.

I love the whole "having so many options makes you paralize" OR "feel miserable" or "having too high expectations" (ask channels like which have a thousand videos about variations of the same product, e. g. Troglys guitar show, which shows different models of the Gibson Les Paul guitar)

One of the best speech I've ever heard, timeless teaching

This is probably the best TED talk I've ever had to pleasure of listening to, and I've heard hundreds. This completely changes the way I view choice now. In summary, lower your expectations.

@KezDPianist

3 жыл бұрын

Any great recommendations from all those ted talks you’ve watched? Thanks

@greggshrjhaibonhec4uc955

3 жыл бұрын

He's a Marxist. He believes in income redistribution. Government control by the few of the many. It's an elitist attitude. Of course the few will always be wealthy at the expense of the many.

@sportsbd8743

2 жыл бұрын

What?

@alexfloridarican9534

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely one of the Tops for me as well....

Nailed It!!! We feel the same way in every choice in our life.... I would have done better. I would have taken another choice. It always happen with phones when you buy a phone with good features, but when your friend bought a better phone with better specs with less cost. You feel dissatisfied with the choice you made even though yours is a good choice!!!!

@cwoza5

5 жыл бұрын

So true. I've driven myself insane in regards to what phone I should get next, or what my wife should upgrade too, etc.

The most enlightening line, in this context, of course, is : 'Everyone needs a fish bowl."

This is forever gold