Your circumstances that you had to endure, are giving hopes to many that they are not alone. Thank you for brining out the smallest of incidents because i am sure some individual is relating to the invisble abuse they are going through. Her mother is her biggest flying monkey and enabler. She gave her checklists that if a man doesnt say this, doesnt do that, doesn't share his past (not the other way round, naa, not allowed to share her past), he is not a quality man. He is below average. Whatever her mother fantasized and couldnt get in her marriage, she projected that to her daughter and i ended up being love bombed, then restricted with family and friends (told me that her mother always said "wife" comes first)then devalued, smeared. I started to read a lot and then tried to connect the traits and behaviors, it was either of NPD or BPD or both together. When I started to keep boundaries, the rage and smearing got more intensified. Faked being sick and then boasted about it thinking i will never come to know about it. Then when the realization came there were more tactics used and still in use. But i confront both her and her mother on their acts.
@joestec829619 күн бұрын
that was brutal to listen to, but thanks for sharing, you did a fantastic job of really conveying the feelings of futility and despair you were acutely aware of at the moment. like the saying "hope dies last"... this was the hope dyeing, and once thats gone... its cold in the void.
@KillTheFear
19 күн бұрын
This is the best comment I have received. You get it.
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Your circumstances that you had to endure, are giving hopes to many that they are not alone. Thank you for brining out the smallest of incidents because i am sure some individual is relating to the invisble abuse they are going through. Her mother is her biggest flying monkey and enabler. She gave her checklists that if a man doesnt say this, doesnt do that, doesn't share his past (not the other way round, naa, not allowed to share her past), he is not a quality man. He is below average. Whatever her mother fantasized and couldnt get in her marriage, she projected that to her daughter and i ended up being love bombed, then restricted with family and friends (told me that her mother always said "wife" comes first)then devalued, smeared. I started to read a lot and then tried to connect the traits and behaviors, it was either of NPD or BPD or both together. When I started to keep boundaries, the rage and smearing got more intensified. Faked being sick and then boasted about it thinking i will never come to know about it. Then when the realization came there were more tactics used and still in use. But i confront both her and her mother on their acts.
that was brutal to listen to, but thanks for sharing, you did a fantastic job of really conveying the feelings of futility and despair you were acutely aware of at the moment. like the saying "hope dies last"... this was the hope dyeing, and once thats gone... its cold in the void.
@KillTheFear
19 күн бұрын
This is the best comment I have received. You get it.