They can erase you physically BUT you will ALWAYS exist, rent-free, in their minds. 💯

Such a painful experience! During this healing process, one day I’m fine, next day in tears, next day in raged, next day fine again! Ugh 😩

@jimvenne1117

7 күн бұрын

Going through the same thing.its hard time is the thing.i have peace now it's just her responsibility are now mine .

@Paka96756

7 күн бұрын

One day at a time, over time you’ll look back and see how much you’ve grown and how far you’ve come. Healing journey is the way. 🙏🏾

@jimvenne1117

7 күн бұрын

Well today is not a good day for me.i know it's time that heals but I'm stuck with a lot of her responsibility n it's cut me right down today

@racebannon96

7 күн бұрын

It takes some time. Reading Psalms provided me with a lot of comfort.

@BDCsSanctuary

7 күн бұрын

Keep your chin up. This will pass. Trust me.

She erased me and it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. Peace at last!!! Also my corvette i built helps ☺

@gumdropLH

7 күн бұрын

Glad to here brother mine got rid of me too and I accepted and didn't once chase

@christinawhitfield1720

7 күн бұрын

That’s wonderful!!! 🎉

I have to keep reminding myself that my ex narc is mentally ill. If I do not, the rumination is crippling.

@jayTee-zp1jn

7 күн бұрын

I hear you. I ruminated for almost 2 years. They grip you in that way.

@Xenophanes198

7 күн бұрын

I've been ruminating for nearly a year. It's finally starting to ease up

@Anadrolus

7 күн бұрын

I still have pain after nearly 3 years...

@BrideOfYashua

7 күн бұрын

Journaling is helping me, along with much prayer and letting go! I say the serenity prayer every time I start to ruminate, or peace be still and know that I am God. It’s been helping the obssesive thoughts. They taught me that in a recovery group. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference, thy will be done. Also, self care. I’m praying for all of us on this feed! We should get a group of us together to encourage each other on this journey to healing and thriving! We were victims, but I know I can’t stay there! I know my worth and I’m not going to allow him to rent space in my head anymore!

@funkymonk542

5 күн бұрын

Thank you for your comment, I walked away from this type of person, I loved her after 5 years just months later she moved on to another guy and got married it’s been crippling for me , it’s been 3 years and am still struggling, I feel stuck and I’m in constant rumination, I pray at times but I easily give up , how can someone do this , I’ve given up on future relationships, so cold , pray for me please , I’m James , thank you ❤​@@BrideOfYashua

I hope I am erased forever.

@helenfalco7601

7 күн бұрын

I was hoping so too; but after 2 years+ he is trying to contact me again! Ugh. Through fake SM accounts, and trying to call too. Ugh. Blocking seems to do no good. Yeah his relationship/marriage must have gone south. No surprise there.

@ronaldschlager4888

7 күн бұрын

I WANNA BE ERASED, YES I DO!

@spaideman7850

6 күн бұрын

Precisely, narcissist is like the haunting ghost that stick to you forever. 'Being erased' by them is a dream come true.

They live firmly in the present moment. They can erase anything they did five minutes ago, and once they leave you, you are just as easily erased.

@Aurora-Rose01

7 күн бұрын

There isn’t anything wrong with living in the present moment in fact that is healthier than living in past or future, however people are not disposable and that is how they act towards those who have their own toxic traits that attracts the narcissist in the first place.

@persiamotorman

7 күн бұрын

@@Aurora-Rose01 It's not always a case of toxic traits that cause attraction. Some of the Law of Attraction isn't really applicable to Narcissistic people and why they enter your life, although it can apply sometimes, I'm sure. If we think along those lines it can easily cross over into victim blaming and this is a huge issue in "spiritual communities". There's different ways of being in the present moment. There's observing, being aware and centered which is a higher consciousness way of being in the present moment, and then there is a lower consciousness way which is largely instinctual like an animal.

@kscott7657

7 күн бұрын

Yes so true! Demonic ex husband moves on after 18 yrs married and cheating the entire time. Once I divorced him he stoped talking to me and we have a 16 yr old son but only texts our son but makes it difficult to coordinate when to pick up and drop off our son. I’m done with this person but we need to try to be cordial for our son at least until our he graduates highschool and thank goodness only one year left. So now I will go along and never text the ex narc again and if he wants to see our son he can come pick him up. I’m tired of accommodating the ex narc and doing all the back and forth driving. It’s ridiculous and immature and sadistic. He does not care if it impacts our son but I’m here only to make sure our son is ok. I’m so glad he’s an older teenager and God has got me. I’m good and the ex narc does not know it’s helped my healing by not being in contact with him. I’m glad he’s giving me the silent treatment post divorce. Moving on praise God!!!

@LeeLyanKing

7 күн бұрын

10 years of relationship just like this

@khorosho9080

7 күн бұрын

@@LeeLyanKing 15 years and just like that, everything's gone all pictures/posts/gifts. divorced her she wanted to reconcil but was seeing another man during that-so hell no. i will start over without them now she has the rebound man whiteknighting for her. all the same game she played with me in the beginning. now i know what they are and will avoid them in the future! never go back to your exes

I walked on the 10th January and she erased me from Facebook on the same day. New supply was embedded 14 days later!!….Its a total mind f£&@ how little they care for people

@BDCsSanctuary

7 күн бұрын

14 days later means the other guy was already there, unbeknownst to you, and likely in full swing. He was probably lied to as well about you.

@sadboi7537

7 күн бұрын

Typical narc behavior. My ex Narc is currently with “the new step dad”, in which she’ll probably marry within the next year or so. We broke up six months ago mind you. Already fast-tracking the new man of her life!!! 😂 Gotta secure new supply as quick as possible.

@BDCsSanctuary

6 күн бұрын

@@sadboi7537 The new man was probably already there and unaware of the relationship you guys had. My replacement, when I spoke to him for the first time a year or two after everything ended, told me that she'd told him that she was divorced. She wasn't. She was still quite married.

Definitely, they lack empathy, they are not able to establish relationships at a deeper level, and they are revengeful, sadistic in the way they will punish you. I dealt with “friends”, family members, and partners like that, unfortunately. For an empathetic person, it’s something very difficult to accept and understand.

I realize my family is Narcissistic as well , I now know its not my craziness , its such dysfunction .

@ainahaga

7 күн бұрын

My sister I thought she was a narsisist but no she is with a narsisist so she gets inpacted by him. He is putting all his bullshit on her. My sister has my daughter right now Im meeting all with love cause Ive seen my sister is NOT like her husband! I actually feel bad for her cause she is trapped and I do love my sister. She is also protecting my daughter, my daughter told me. I think I will be loving here in my hometown for a little while longer. But I do wanna move from here with time and be totally free from this! It has been so though.

With my covert narcissistic ex for 5 years. I was manipulated by a narcissist with a PhD in clinical psychology. (Licensed clinical psychologist with a big practice). She was an expert at gaslighting. She was only interested in her own personal interests, material possessions and what I could give her. When she broke up it was brutal,unexpected and very hurtful. Never told me why, broke off all contact and easily moved on. I now know who she is. A selfish person with No responsibility, no emotion depth, no empathy. Now I realize that she never met me half way. Sad way to go through life…

@Aurora-Rose01

7 күн бұрын

A lot of narcissists focus on psychology sadly it’s a way for them to focus on others issues and not themselves and they almost use psychology as God. Very disturbing.

@racebannon96

7 күн бұрын

I went through a lot of that too. She didn't even give 5%. They are emotionally distant because they are empty and have no interest in a healthy relationship. Once they are gone, you slowly return to your old self and you see how awful they treated you. I consider it a gift that she finally left. I gave her the best 10 years of my life and there was no appreciation of anything I did.

@morpheus3190

7 күн бұрын

@@Aurora-Rose01 very true. She was so focused on her patients that she never did any introspection. I could never have a deep conversation with her. She always deflected any attempt. I feel sorry for her as she is in denial and can’t see who she really is. Sad really and somewhat ironic considering her education and career.

@zappamann

7 күн бұрын

Sounds identical to mine.

@amberp5207

4 күн бұрын

I hate that u had to go through that. If u never married her or had a child or children with her, u dodged a major bullet.

You serve a purpose. Once that purpose is served you cease to be of any value. You're history.

This is my life, 42 years married, she started calling me a covert narcissist, didn't even know what it was, I told her I thought we had a great relationship, she said she made it look good for 40 years I've been researching it now for 2 years, been separated 3 years, can't get my head straight, to much to tell. Thank you.

@VoxLesPaul

6 күн бұрын

My narc-now-ex-wife called me a narcissist, too. It's called "projection" - when the narc says you are doing what they are doing, or you are what they are. Mysterious and vexing, right? Fortunately for me, getting called a narc was the key that unlocked the gateway of information about covert narcissim. Now, we know. I hope you have gone "no-contact" - blocking phone, text, email, social media. Or, at least "gray rock", if you have kids or a business together.

This is one of the best videos on narc behavior, as it helps the target understand how the narc can go from love bombing to complete disinterest. Normal people don't do that. But covert narcissists do.

Good news I was discarded ‼️Now I can restore my credit, save money, & spend time with family & friends. Marry a real man with a back bone.

@cierrabennett206

6 күн бұрын

Yes ma'am, freedom!!!! Watch out for the hoovering when he sniffs out your happiness.

@annenew8220

6 күн бұрын

@@cierrabennett206 what hoovering?

@annenew8220

6 күн бұрын

The devil is a liar and his agent too

@cierrabennett206

6 күн бұрын

@annenew8220 Hoovering is when a narc shows back up in your life, attempting to suck you back into their toxic antics. They will call, text, send songs, leave messages, send pix, confess their feelings to your friends and family hoping it gets back to you. They will show up to YOUR gym, YOUR grocery store, and even YOUR job, "See, I've changed." They pretend to have changed only bc they have lost control of you and the situation, and they do this with hopes of you returning ONLY SO THEY CAN REJECT YOU...AGAIN!!!!! This is a power move narcs use when either you discard them OR they discard you BUT couldn't find an adequate replacement. No contact and become a ghost. Tell your friends you don't wanna hear anything from that person, etc.

@cierrabennett206

6 күн бұрын

@annenew8220 ....and act like you don't see them. Like they are a 👻, boo! Get your life, get healthy, and become somebody that they used to know. Hoovering never stop if they have a means to contact bc they try to catch you at the "right time" to rekindle the relationship.

Mine would do things like steal from her employer. She was coming home with wads of cash. I kept insisting she tell me what she was involved in. She finally told me and I told her she was going to eventually get caught. She insisted what she was doing was undetectable. She was finally fired after a few months. Probably the worst thing she did that should have made me realize how broken she was, she drowned an entire litter of newborn baby puppies. I was like WTF. I asked her why??? Her response was we have too many dogs. The last straw was when she got covid. She INTENTIONALLY gave it to me. And she wouldn't even take off work. She was spreading it to her coworkers. I could not unsee her wickedness, she knew it, and she soon after filed a divorce. But the front she presents to world is a quiet angel. These people are sick 🤢

@VoxLesPaul

6 күн бұрын

Torture and killing of pet / animals is a major red flag of sociopathy / psychopathy.

@swanam_1

5 күн бұрын

Drowned a litter of newborn puppies? Sounds like you dodged a major bullet...

Yes, this is what my Nex did- 20 years together, found out he’s a pathological liar, and boom- he’s gone…. Unreal

Thats Me after being a bf for 35 years to one!! I said No for the first time and...POOF...I no longer have a friend and I must be dead! But....I'm doing Very Well ...Living without her!!!!

@gumdropLH

7 күн бұрын

Well done brother happy for you it's been 5 days for myself I accept she didn't wanna be with me anymore and I left 🎉

I have been erased by some family members. Don't really care anymore. They aren't relevant. I was used by them. but not anymore. The only thing I am pissed off about is how stupid I feel and like an idiot to even trust these people.

@MissRed92837

3 күн бұрын

Same here.

I finally had my lightbulb moment and escaped the narcissistic abuser after 27 years of marriage. Over a decade later he continues to take me to court, abuse me financially and alienate our adult children. I could only wish that he would let me go, move on in his life and get control of his unhealthy behavior. Thank you for explaining the specifics of this character disorder and providing such meaningful journal prompts and video posts.

@BrideOfYashua

7 күн бұрын

😢🙏

@ericjackson-nq4hp

6 күн бұрын

I got a second... Dr, I have all your books. always with a sense of nostalgia; Dr? Anoushka introduced me to the community a few years ago. About that time, I got to hang-out with you guys; The Three Amigos. Podcast, years and years ago, hahah. I had a ton of fun and you lit up the Podcast, you were so vibrant! No lie, to this day, when I see you in the threads every now again, I know credibility still stands for something. No lie, Mad Respect. I am glad you posted.

The beauty is the door can be locked on both sides

I came across this kind of relationship as a young person, before the present day heightened awareness about narcissistic people, since that separation and them moving on, I am a lot more cautious and look for similar behaviors in the people that I meet. When I pick up on it I exit. That person, I still admire some of her qualities, there are fond memories, but I am wise to it now.

She threw away literally 20 years worth of knowing/being intimate with each other when she decided to publicly trash me on her Instagram page. She crossed a line that she can never come back from. See ya later. ✌️

@VoxLesPaul

6 күн бұрын

I hope you have blocked her in every form of social media, phone, text, email. It's critical to your sanity. Now, heal.

@dilldaffaofficial

2 күн бұрын

Sorry that happened but I’m confused? Why would she be trashing you on ig just because 😂 Your saying she threw 20 years away by trashing you but probably leaving out everything in between why would she randomly just trash you after 20 years if you didn’t do anything to her lmfao odd sounds like my Pathological cheating lying abusive ex mad that I’m trashing his ass online oh well that’s what happens

My narc of 18 years just moved out with no explanation no closure didn't care who or what it affected. But im glad they are gone now and ready to move on in life. I dont even care for closure at this point. Im just upset i was so blind for so long I feel so used. When I stopped doing every thing for them,which I never got in return I was discarded

Best course of action that I took…. Ok, find a new place to live, best of luck. And full steam ahead with my life, zero intentions of having another relationship after that “experience”. I leaned heavily into family and educated myself on what I experienced. The single most important thing you can do is prepare yourself with educating and expect a Hoover.

He even sees me in passing here and there because unfortunately we live in the same small town and he acts like im a stranger like i dont exist

@racebannon96

7 күн бұрын

Consider it a gift he treats you like a stranger. I have one that has harassed me for 16 years after I did the break-up. Her Smear Campaign targeted my family, close friends, and one co-worker. She went to my work and tried to get me fired. There are other hateful things she did to get back at me. Malignant narcissists will make it their mission in life to destroy you.

@deanapatterson8410

7 күн бұрын

@racebannon96 well he dumped me and quickly moved in with his new supply he had been cheating on me with. Even tho he put me up in a pedastol for 3 yrs and I was "the one" and talked marriage n all that. All the while he had her on the side for months and then boom I was dropped and now im non existent. Not heard from him in 6 months. Never got any reasoning or never got to say my peace. Nothing. He runs. Hides.

@deanapatterson8410

7 күн бұрын

@racebannon96 Hes one those vulnerable narcs. And hes a coward. He just hops from person to person. No closure

We ought feel invited to do deep, thorough and regular Shadowork, as individuals, and as a collective.

I was discarded to be ‘used’ later. Imagine that! The whole shelving dynamic that I refused to be part of. No parking in the harem garage for me. Funny that when he came to pick up where he left off then … i was gone. Believe he was a bit surprised. What a shame! One discard is all you need to get back on your feet, folks! They so ain’t worth it!

Quite literally, this exact same thing happened to me five years ago. I didn't know at the time what happened, and I didn't understand the nuances of all of it, and i didn't know about any of this terminology or what clinical narcissism was. All I knew was was I was in agony after having been so brutally thrown away like a bag of trash. What helped me was when I went to the house for the last time and had the opportunity to poke around as I was there alone. I'd found evidence of the replacement man, at least one trio to a hotel, and other disturbing things. At least then I knew that I wasn't crazy and it wasn't my fault. We were married for nearly 11 years and it's as if not a single day ever mattered to her at all. Absolutely insidious. I don't know how people like this live with themselves. They must be devoid of any real life.

I got her a new phone for Christmas and one day she asked me to help her backup all her stuff to her computer. I thought I was being helpful and here I was being used to erase myself from her life. Next level p.o.s.

@czernykins

7 күн бұрын

my NM kicked me out after stealing my Father and mine's cash. he was also her fatal victim.

@martyc2637

7 күн бұрын

Just pure evil and not human.

Yes, he told me once I was gone he would never think of me and probably will not remember my name. I believe it, too. He thought getting attached to people was a waste of time. Very sociopathic. He thought relationships were stupid. He wanted sex, and he did not want to be called or bothered in between. He will call if he wants to see you. Never meany any human like this, hope I never do again. Sociopath and highly narcissistic. Started insulting everything about me the second time we got together.

Hurts like hell !!!

Brutal is the perfect word. One day fine, next day they went no contact. It will take a very long time. Very insightful video.

They were abused as children, accepted only if they performed, as a superior specimen. They had to be smart, beautiful, clever etc. They were taught everyone else was inferior and they had to perform, to become a successful adult. They were taught a set of values that would make them into a superior human - know extra languages, know how to code, be gorgeous, be rich... didn't matter. When they interact with someone, they assign a certain role to that person, based on these values or this plan of being superior. You're either below in every important aspect, so they don't look at you, treating you with contempt from the get go. Or you'll be kept as "junk food", the one that's the loser in every aspect. They can always have a "snack", by belittling you once in a while. (The bully at school, at the office etc.) Or they admire a certain aspect of you and want you in their lives. However, you have to be inferior in other aspects and they'll focus on those. "You're intelligent, but you are a loser when it comes to social interactions. You're lucky you have me as a friend! No one would even consider being a friend of yours. You're sooo awkward." or "My god, honey, you are gorgeous! You know this! But you know you're not really good when it comes to math, computers and things like that." They can only tolerate someone that will make them look good, but they cannot be superior either. If you stop adhering to their "plan", they'll discard you. If you become too successful, when you were considered to be a loser, or, the opposite, when you fail at certain things, in their eyes. You don't matter, the "plan" does, their set of values, accomplishing their goal of proving they're superior. This is how they were taught. They themselves were treated the same way, as children. Caring for others implies failing at their plan. They can't care, because they were never taught how to care. On the other hand, thinking of others, being giving, becoming in the service of you, implies failure. If they fail, they die. They felt like they were going to die when they were abused in this way, by their parents. So, when you want them to care for you, change your assigned role, you want to kill them, literally. If you want a long lasting romantic relationship, when they were taught to f*** everything that moves, to validate themselves, you are a murderer. When you want your parent to care for you, to admit what they did, again... you are a murderer. When you want to become more than "just friends", again... you're a murderer. How dare you? Know your place!

Because I was too strong.

@jayTee-zp1jn

7 күн бұрын

That’s part of it. Possibly because you saw through their bs.

@LeeLyanKing

7 күн бұрын

Exactly

Yep. 3 years + ago i was dropped over night with no rhyme or reason. To this day i still have no freakin clue what happened, but i do know she was using me. Still hurts.

In my case, she underestimated me? I write her off before she knows what happens. ..absolute rubbish 🗑

Why I listen to techno music and a lecture on narcisism at the same time? Trippy as hell.

Imagine this. Help her in any way possible..Helped her get her Visa to stay in country , cause she came to make better living as a whole.I didnt had job at the moment, no benefits from social system , spend all my savings on us and for her to be able to stay. Finnaly found myself a job which was not really good payed. I struggle to pay for all expenses for two years but still i gave her gifts from time to time , my time and my love. As soon as she found a job that was better payed as mine she broke up with me. Not a normal break up , after two years living together, she just moved out our apartment while i was working, sending me msg that she is breaking u with me. No talk after two years, it feels like i never materred in first place ..i feel used . I am healing thou

The situation is too layered to leave in a comment section...but I've been bogged down by not having family. I have 8 grandkids I will never see because my kids were so wowed by their dad when he finally showed up. Their Daddy Hunger was so intense by the time they were adults he was like a Super Star to them.

I was 14 he as 16. What a not love story it was full of lies and deceit. 51 years of my life then he skipped out the door cause I got a hold of his playbook.. painful but im thankful im free now to laugh and make friends i can even speak to people amazing. His favourite name calling was calling everyone a Waster. Horrible word he had no hobbies and no friends after 51 years freedom now. No more manipulation life is good I think he knew he was the waster. Thankyou for a great video. x

I did that to my ex narcissist. It’s called no contact. It was extremely difficult and I still think of her. I don’t care what she thinks about me. That’s not my problem. I wish she didn’t exist in my life, ever.

This literally happened to me

It feels like that in the beginning but eventually they come back and they don’t stop coming back. I had two different ones come back at two different times 26 years later I got one that just came back after two years trying to get back in I don’t believe they forget about you.

Fantastic video & great insight into this. It's the strangest thing to go through.

My narc mother and narc siblings did that to me. They stole my part of the inheritance I got from my dad and then said, I don’t belong to the family. And since then they act like if I had never existed.

I'd say Yay! Ive left family behind due to this and never looked back. Time was even better proof.

No matter the investment you make with selfish people, they look at you as a novelty item, easily replaced. I have discovered that more than 90% of the people i KNOW, not just met, but KNOW, are narcissistic AF! Yeah, we ALL had a "Tough" upbringing, but c'mon Man! I have also found that treating others like children when they act as such, susses the Snake out of the woodpile. As a result, I have no friends. Bummer, but I have time for my narcissistic endeveaours now, so I guess in final analysis, we as a specie are evolving into narcissists, so don't hold back, it IS ALL ABOUT YOU!, I will be over here not giving a F!

That is what really hurts me, was I nothing 💔 did he ever really loved or my children 💔 😢. It's not even who you left me for and abandoning our family! But to just putvher in my place and so fast

@thereallisa1

7 күн бұрын

He loves no one. I'm sorry you are hurting. He is a pretender with everyone. Don't let him use the kids as puppets.

My ex narc discarded me , but thought she could keep me on the back burner in order to use for me money purposes. Little did she know I cut loses and quit talking to her , period. So as far as erasing me , no. It’s a two way street where I come from. After all , all she caused was drama and heartache. I don’t like to live that kind of life , and every time I start thinking of her , I just remind myself of everything she done to me and our “so called” relationship.

This may have been my part of my mother’s purpose, for switching me into the scapegoat role. I think she became consumed with jealousy, as she aged. And, as it seemed a folie a deux, my sister has grabbed the baton, acting as if her life is a complete nightmare, because I exist.

They are the definition of coward

@spacegirl226

7 күн бұрын

Yes. All narcs are cowards!

That's how it felt..one minute we was good and the next she was done with me.

she sure did,and a year later started stalking me ,flying monkeys and odd # text messages.i dont even answer

I am not trying to be rooted in a cynical and nasty mindset but as far as sharing this video-- Honestly, I am of the opinion, in our competitive orientated culture prevailing in the West, this video could be shared with everyone at sometime or another-- I dunno, Anoushka, super strong and I know as fact you have done much for my self esteem among so many other things since I first started dropping by. Ms Marcin, thank you--great way to start the week. Thanks for checking-in. No one does it like you. Thank you. I will see you soon enough.

No erasing with mine! I'm not allowed to go anywhere

I ALREADY DONT EXSIST , THEY RUNNING AFTER ILLUSIONS😊

She is right is not personal is just buiness😂❤

I notice with apps like whats*pp, when the woman is mad at me , she would take down her profile pic, if she doesn’t get her way. And happens many time with different women, especially when they don’t get their way. Like that going to hurt my feelings. I guess they don’t like Dark Empaths🤭Love your content! ✌️

Really ? A bad thing if a narcissist firvets about you? Its a gift.onlyif another host comes in line tbat is possible. Otherwise dodging TOXIC is crucial and appreciated

Oh this is for Real!! Hot and so good, then I was his immediate “Road Kill” in a heartbeat.. insane. I’ll never go back!

got dump by a divorced single mom with a text message after 4 years .

When is the next live?

This is exactly what a woman did who I lived with for over 6 years & who was a (non) friend. She went out with her fiancé for those 6 years but I never MET HIM.. she was talking to him on FaceTime once & he asked could he say hello to me so I went over to her to say hello to him but she COVERED HER CAMERA…. She used me as she needed money & asked me for several months rent in advance .. but once she got a consultant job she didn’t need that any more… She then floor married and at that point she immediately asked me to “move out” (no she wasn’t going to be living there in that apartment anymore)- she just didn’t need the money anymore. And my father had JUST DIED. And she told me all along “no I won’t need you to move out (if she got engaged)” - she waited until the engagement and then SLAP BANG.

@lindafrabizio2910

7 күн бұрын

Sounds like a terrible person. ??

Started a narc series on my page about my experiences dealing with somebody with this disorder. Hope it helps somebody.

I think narcacissism is a relationship style.

What does he do getting intimate with new people just put it in what is he saying..........??? Not looking at the person just the act .?? Correct...

Told me after 6yrs we didn't have a relationship Go and re program your brain

Why do they come back? X

I wish👈🏻

Well if they just forget about us. Why would they hoover us and stalk us like you say they do ? You say one thing an the you contridict your self.

@jayTee-zp1jn

7 күн бұрын

Depends on the narc. Some hoover and some don’t. Depends on how they deal with their shame.

@cathywasserman4571

7 күн бұрын

Yes, this contradiction can be very confusing. It makes no sense because they make no sense. On the deepest level, they mostly forget about you, but they will hoover out of a desire to control or out of boredom. Even during a hoover, you're mostly forgotten about and just instrumentalized. They do it to rewrite the story in their head and remind themselves of how powerful they want to be. It's impersonal and has nothing really to do with you. Healthy humans can't throw away years of a relationship and even when they need to end something, they don't do it with no regard for the other person, they deeply remember the other person's humanity even when angry, none of this matters to a narc though they pretend it does.

@user-sz6zu4qq4j

6 күн бұрын

Thank you Cathy, I appreciate your comment. That does make sense. Thank you sweetheart. God bless you.

Uh... Do you know the story or Are you being fed narratives just like everyone else? She never existed in my mjnd Because I literray do not her. She was stalking me lol.

This video is more than helpful, blessed to you, clarity is life 🙏🏼🫶🏼🙌🏼