What narcissists don't seem to understand is that, discarding people who actually care about you is not winning in life. I met someone last year who I genuinely cared about, and one day she just disappeared. It takes a lot for me to block someone because I try to give people a chance to correct what they did wrong. I waited on a response from her and it never came. My advice for everyone is not put your life on hold for anyone who takes you for granted.
@innocentesimbare6742
6 ай бұрын
Don't waste time someone take you for granted . Then move on as soon as possible before demons come back in your life.
@indesign146 ай бұрын
When a toxic person like a Narcissist disappears out of your life, It just makes no contact much easier.
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
Absolutely !!
@cecillebalignasay7358
6 ай бұрын
Enjoy the peace.❤
@fuzzyx2face
6 ай бұрын
I like the saying “the trash takes itself out” lol
@denisj60896 ай бұрын
She left me, it all made no sense, as much as it hurt, I let her go, didn't chase. By the time the hoovering came, I was deep in my recovery, she tried to continue as if nothing had ever happened but I was adamant at holding her accountable and then she disappeared again LoL. Cowards, all of them, nothing but cowards.
@ladyvirgo013
6 ай бұрын
Absolutely Cowards 💯
@dodibenabba525
6 ай бұрын
Yep cowards and thieves 😤
@yousee7910
6 ай бұрын
They are a blessing in disguise cause they teach us raw detachment. Never get attached to another person.
@dodibenabba525
6 ай бұрын
@@yousee7910 only Abba Father
@cmockingjay7265
6 ай бұрын
Yup agree! They sneak and lie and try to put you on a shelf! Walk away go no contact if they don’t take accountability. Cowards is the right definition!
@Jay_Z.6 ай бұрын
If they leave and don't contact you, consider it a WIN! If they had the audacity to leave you high and dry, while you were SO committed, ONLY for them to not care. Just throw the same energy right back! Yes, easier said then done! You can do it! You just got to pray, trust Jesus, and know that it was never gonna work out w/ the ex narc! It is a hard pill to swallow, but that is the truth. Move on w/ your life and never look back! ❤
@hibbertsh6 ай бұрын
They need a foot in the door to come back... knowing what I know now is trash them like they trashed you and go NO Contact. They are not worthy of your bright shining light.
@Relationshipadvice-16 ай бұрын
The narcissist's disappearance is a calculated vanishing act, leaving behind a void as if your existence was a mere illusion. Their ability to erase your presence reflects their lack of genuine connection and empathy. Accepting this abrupt departure is crucial for reclaiming your own sense of identity and rebuilding beyond the shadows of the narcissist's ephemeral presence.
@theANGRIERone6 ай бұрын
I left her, but she made it like I never existed after 3 years together and married for 8 months. She blocked me and got her entire family to do the same. Blows my mind. I cried every day for 2 months straight and then one day I woke up and was over it all. If you're struggling, just know that you will make it to the top of Mount Indifference. Have faith. You're a beautiful human, Anoushka. Thanks for what you do.
@dodibenabba525
6 ай бұрын
I like that, Mount Indifference
@ReRe_6426 ай бұрын
When you are done be done and stay done. No time for games and nonsense.
@springfauna1465
6 ай бұрын
Exactly!!!💯 When I was ghosted I changed my phone number and blocked him on all social media!! It basically wrapped up everything I suspected about him being a narcissist!! Three years free now and living my best life!!
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
Exactly! time to think about you ad what is best for you. It's your life and you get to decide how you would like to live it 😊
@John-sweeney3336 ай бұрын
The accountability factor is not in the system of a toxic narcissist,they live in a parallel universe of untruths and selfishness.Their so called lives are a never ending cycle of misery and destruction,all the while they fade into obscurity with nothing to show for their pathetic existence.Remember this my dear friends…..each day you grow stronger and they grow weaker
@kaleido766 ай бұрын
Which is why you’ve gotta ditch their ass just as quick and NEVER go back!
@ericjackson-nq4hp
6 ай бұрын
I like your style. haha.
@ragingspeedhorn
6 ай бұрын
keep on runnin, ...keep on hiding ..one fine day, you gonna be the one....THAT I EXPOSED !
@ladyvirgo0136 ай бұрын
12 years legally married, then ghosted like he never knew me. (I found out afterwards he had been grooming his coworker). What kind of monster moves directly in with another person after 12 years!?!?? So Toxic
@ericjackson-nq4hp
6 ай бұрын
Welcome Home, ladyvirgo. We are legions deep. We all try to hang-out on Tuesdays. I hope you can make it. You're gonna be OK no matter what.
@ladyvirgo013
6 ай бұрын
@ericjackson-nq4hp thanks so much 🙏 I will try to make Tuesdays✨️
@ericjackson-nq4hp
6 ай бұрын
Of course@@ladyvirgo013 --You are more than welcomed. I hope you can make it--life has all kinds of demands though. Not a dozen years but 10 years here myself--discarded, curbside, homeless shelter. Like I said, we are legions deep. Your life is important and there is meaning to all of it. I believe in you.
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
This is a person that is unable to connect to themselves, someone who is unable to feel emotions and remains only on the surface. Attachment disorder. Please know that the same thing will happen to the coworker, he will move onto another person when the coworker no longer meets his needs. If you can try and join the live stream on Tuesday because we talk about these situations and please know that you are not alone 🤍
@ladyvirgo013
6 ай бұрын
@anoushkamarcin this really hit me deep because looking back, he never allowed me all the way into wherever he was inside. See you Tuesday, I'm EST, what time do you go Live?
@prestonwhitmore62986 ай бұрын
It's because they have someone else
@QueenBee-fg1iz
6 ай бұрын
Yes. My ex was texting and talking to another woman so I left after 17 years. He was in a relationship with her, but came back 6 months later and lied about it. I called him out and haven’t heard from him in a year and a half. One of my biggest supporters was his adult son’s mom who was his high school girlfriend. Just heard today that he cheated on the woman he left me for with his son’s mom! She moved him and his daughter in 3 months ago. Crazy!!!!
@jameswhite50836 ай бұрын
My narc ran off to Oklahoma for a dude she never met, married him almost immediately… divorced him 2 months later(4th marriage), came home and roped me in the DAY AFTER her divorce was final(which I didn’t know anything about). Said all the good things, then I found out about the marriage/divorce and I started checking on things… we fought and broke up… two months later she moved to Wyoming for another total stranger and is now married for the second time in less than a year..(5th marriage).. this is not even including any of the bullshit lies from when we were together before the Oklahoma marriage…. Crazy as the day is long.. still sad about it but she did me a huge favor..
@martyc2637
6 ай бұрын
She sounds like a real nut😂
@autreybolden1012
6 ай бұрын
Oh wow.. I've never heard of a story like this in my fucking life.
@shirleychandler27806 ай бұрын
This is exactly what happens to me, but I hold the power.
@MegaRockstar486 ай бұрын
I’m two after leaving them and I got my last email from her about 9 days ago. It just said “wow”. I think because they can’t believe I’ve cut ties with them. Apparently they are the most amazing person on the planet
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
So pleased to hear that you got the strength to move forward i n your life. This is an injury for the narcissist and would have triggered their abandonment wound which is probably why they reached out with a wow. Dont look back or second guess yourself you did what was best for you and that is what is important.
@MegaRockstar48
25 күн бұрын
@@anoushkamarcin6 months later I’m still struggling but the rumination is subsiding. It’s about working on yourself and realise I have the power not them. They are nasty and sad broken people who deserve nothing
@urbanskin6 ай бұрын
I am so thankful for these videos 8:26 , the narcissist I was dealing literally wanted to end my life and I nearly did. I am still in shock, but these videos are literally helping through this tremendous pain I am feeling.😢
@SamanthaGuttesen6 ай бұрын
Yeah well, I called her out, for pushing me away, and I said, if she'd pushed away those she loved, no wonder she was alone. She replied with it was toxic and didn't need a failed toxic friendship. A week later I needed to talk to her, and I got it all thrown back into my face, for reminding her of a situation she'd been in. Instead of being there for me when I needed support , she said, I'd ruined her weekend, and ruined our friendship, and got called an effing nutcase. Alas, I believe, now, she's a narcissist who was projecting onto me her own failings.
@Vegan4life5556 ай бұрын
I’m so glad you’ve downloaded this specific clip . This in my opinion after 6 years experience is absolutely spot on … I’ve been saying since I finally walked away that non of his irrational insidious behaviour, which may I add became worse over time , was never personal to me . In the beginning of the relationship I absolutely thought it was as it completely throws you when they randomly walk away and then return , like nothing happened. Then you convince yourself that you have to believe they are so sorry hence why they just want to ignore what they had subjected you too. The whole experience seems so ludicrous, you accept them back. You then have moments where you want to get even and then you want to investigate and find out why they act in such an unorthodox way . Answers you will get over time ,but never from the narcissist. As you unravel the text book characteristics of this person in front of you , who ironically is now actually being nice , you become very confused which then leads to frustration and upset. The cycle continues they become so predictable and so on and so on …. We all have different stories about these unstable characters that cheated , abused, denied and lied . Note those red flags and leave them be , because by you staying you are continuing to feed them , so indirectly you are being cruel , without being aware of this . They are tormented souls, so always remember never let your ego get in the way because what they do or say however abusive , it is NOT personal to you! Be grateful and recognise they are everything that thankfully you are not . Look upon them with pity for truly that’s all you can give the narcissist . From afar of course! Sent from Manchester uk
@artbygilik11 күн бұрын
After they’re gone you finally realize you’re so much better off without them
@lucyalison49626 ай бұрын
Yes this is so true. Five months of dating and then poof gone. Three months later he’s stalking my instagram. So predictable. Boy bye! 😂
@so.icynails87036 ай бұрын
Actually he did tell me. He told me that he’s seeing another woman and she’s better than me because she’s giving him money and even though he owns his own business, he likes her because she pays her own way.
@shirleychandler2780
6 ай бұрын
What a cee U Next Tuesday !
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
It's all about the transaction, no REAL depth, love or emotion. It sounds like this person is all about what they can get and use people to their own gains. Glad to know that you are no longer in this situation and that you do not have this person taking from you. Please know that in time this new woman will realise and that the same thing will happen. It sounds like he joust floats through life taking what he can from people.
@CrazyBaker19696 ай бұрын
Good riddance! Knowing what i know now makes it all the easier. Im better than that!
@missunsinkable896 ай бұрын
As usual, great and helpful video! I’ve been following you for months now, Anoushka and this content has truly helped me to survive. You have built a great community.
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for your lovely comment. Thank you for watching the videos and I am so pleased that they have helped 😊
@paulrollison54476 ай бұрын
Fantastic video thank you im learning so much from the narcissist way to help me understand why
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
Glad the video was helpful 😊
@cmockingjay72656 ай бұрын
The Narc never just “leaves” I found out the “I need Space to work on me” is code for “I’ve found someone else for supply and I’ve monkey branched to that supply”
@palapalak.8907
Ай бұрын
So funny but true!
@saraijeffrey6 ай бұрын
I want to disappear out of HER life after 8 years because I'm always left devastated every time she gaslights me. I don't want to disappear because I know it's rude but she fucks my whole world up like I am nothing every time I try to have any kind of conversation and I cannot keep surviving her. I feel awful, and I'm SO sad, but I'm breaking, and I feel sick.
@Ana_Sor4ever6 ай бұрын
I was married 16 years and I have 2 kids with my ex covert narc hubbie . The divorce was a year ago and he is coming to our kids 1 in 4 months and stays a couple of hours with them , throws some money on the table for them …and … he’s gone !!! 😃 I moved on with my life , but it is very weird for me and for my kids , it’s almost like he doesn’t exist.
@Vyborne6 ай бұрын
This is an excellent video. My narcissistic ex-girlfriend has been in jail since August. I have been sending her mail, money and packages. She has never written or called. I visited once but after I refused to bail her out, she stopped allowing me to visit. I helped get her time reduced by devising a strategy I shared with her lawyer and it worked but she responded by telling her lawyer not to share details of her case with me. So now I am done. Fortunately she is locked up so I can move on with some comfort but she undoubtedly has new supply in jail. She will return eventually and act like nothing happened; that's what worries me because she lives one street away from me and it's not really possible for me to move. I'm definitely afraid of getting caught up with her again when she gets released. The fact that she is in jail should tell you what kind of person she is; she takes no accountability even with the law.
@heathernocks78324 ай бұрын
My ex got married the same week my mom died... We werent even in a fight!
@alexbizannes75016 ай бұрын
Such behaviour is selfish,unjust,inconsiderate,cruel This lack of accountability shows immaturity and self centredness,a lack of compassion for the othern person,devaluing them a lack of regard Dont want such a dynamic in my relationships showing a lack of respect Not into one sided relationships I cannot stand behaviour that is narcissistic Putting someone on hold for SO long,is narcissistic behaviour that shows a lack of regard Donr want it around met
@sirg-had88216 ай бұрын
Someone had to pay for what her ex did to her. If not me than some other poor bastard.
@Thriveforhis_glOry.6 ай бұрын
Gods people have to avoid the narc * just in case a narc sees this and thinks they are innocent....you know exactly what you did 🙏🏾 stay blessed forgive yourself take accountability and apologize
@seramarie766 ай бұрын
Really good one Anoushka. 🎉
@andrewgardner17276 ай бұрын
Mine returned after a year we talked she apologized everything seemed good just for her to disappear again haven’t talk to her for a month and quite frankly I’m done I’m not waiting on her by any means I’m a good guy she clearly has mental issues and I new about it all the sad part about all this is she not only discarded me but her family did just as bad and the fact that a family enables this behavior is truly sickening and disgusting she made it seem like it was all my fault that we broke up yet she ended it and left me for another guy there truly delusional she told me she loved me and acted like she appreciated me all this new stuff I learned about narcissism is crazy never thought people operated like this karma I’m sure will catch up or it already has she post on social media all the time of meeting her dream man there absolutely delusional and they keep there circle all about them and people on there side hence why she never made any effort with my family which hurt a lot not gonna lie I met her at work it got so bad I had to leave that job the harassing and hot and cold treatment she gave me was unbearable smearing my name all over the place how can anyone do that don’t get me wrong if I cheated then sure blame me but I was a great guy that stood by her through her mental issues just to get discarded I would say that’s atlittle harsh would love to know what others think about my situation and sad world now a days thank you for your videos there really saving peoples lives by bringing awareness to there behaviors and ultimately exposing these demons kudos to you and god bless
@katrina10456 ай бұрын
Use it to your advantage and go no contact make sure you change email and phone number etc 🎉
@thinkmurphysrevenge6 ай бұрын
But what about doing this to a narcissist?
@steenkristensen63516 ай бұрын
Bare rolig Anouska jeg følger dig stadigvæk, og dit fantastiske program jeg prøver bare holde fokus på mig selv og går stille med dørene, hvis du forstår hvad jeg mener. Så ha en fantastisk aften 🙂❤️
@pamelacastro85936 ай бұрын
What if you’re still married to this person and he’s gone?
@jazstar46226 ай бұрын
I know its a plus but if it's yr partner or family It's very painful !! to not be validated, you probably gave, suppressed, forgave It still Hurts when another person repeats the same cycle...logic doesn't sooth the loss 💔 😔
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
Yes it makes things more difficult when it's your family member, it betrays the trust and the understanding of what the family member is supposed to provide are the caregiver. But what I will say is separate them from the label and look at them externally as a human with these traits. If you knew them in a different capacity you would not allow to be treated like this. Try to determine what you will accept and what you wont from this person. This is about detachment and about giving back to yourself (reparenting). Try to join the live stream on Tuesday's 9pm GMT we talk about issues like this and perhaps it can help you move forward 😊
@joy.ttotheworld47136 ай бұрын
Not being vindictive, but legally speaking, As narcissistic abuse is massively damaging psychologically, How plausible do you think that the abuser should be punished in the court of law or even registered just like sexual offenders?
@thetruther9546 ай бұрын
So, as of this morning, disappearing for no reason, being held unaccountable , refusing to explain anything that had happened, not notifying you in any way whatsoever. All those things suddenly make sense to you somehow. God lady, whoever let you in the door?
@traceybiles20616 ай бұрын
Block
@nataliejoy8666 ай бұрын
My fiancee Applied for a job and moved to a different City without explaining anything to me ,And start having a boyfriend her first 2months dating Maried man , it Hurt me so much I wanted to hear from her why did she do that 😢😢😢 ,even now I'm still not completely healed
@arcticauroras96276 ай бұрын
Feelings n that
@Wb-is8wi6 ай бұрын
I got literally deleted after 4yrs together
@arcticauroras96276 ай бұрын
They love you painting their boys room and being temp polised once done. Wants you looking after your own kids when it's gone
@Levon_James51506 ай бұрын
Triggered yeah…! 🔥❤️🔥
@arcticauroras96276 ай бұрын
I love you
@helicrazee6 ай бұрын
If u go no contact wouldnt they then assume your the narcissist and they are the victim? How do you really determine the differnece of a discard vs no contact??
@SweepDailyWin
6 ай бұрын
Because when they leave, its to punish you and play games. When YOUleave, you do so to save yourself and find peace!
@gillianhamilton6581
6 ай бұрын
Silent treatment is sulky and resentful. No contact is respectful to the problem, to them, and to yourself.
@anneyoung23106 ай бұрын
Actually, ....
@dianajaganjac80556 ай бұрын
I find it really hard to believe the person from the start is not the real person, and I feel guilty for him leaving because I feel like I caused the argument that caused him to leave. This sounds crazy but how can I convince myself that the person at the end was the real person all along?
@echo22alt6 ай бұрын
I didn't see you go live yesterday Anoushka :( Did i miss it or did you not go live?
@ericjackson-nq4hp
6 ай бұрын
No, you didn't miss out. Anoushka posted up that some of her gear wasn't synching up, she got lost trying to fix it. It bummed her out. She'll fire back next Tuesday. The community tab is a great source to stay connected. Cheers--have a great week.
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
I will be back on Tuesday, had technical issues but they have been sorted. Come on Tuesday at 9pm GMT 😊
@GaryGraves-lz4fg6 ай бұрын
As a lifetime narccisist, i must say alot of this isnt true
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What narcissists don't seem to understand is that, discarding people who actually care about you is not winning in life. I met someone last year who I genuinely cared about, and one day she just disappeared. It takes a lot for me to block someone because I try to give people a chance to correct what they did wrong. I waited on a response from her and it never came. My advice for everyone is not put your life on hold for anyone who takes you for granted.
@innocentesimbare6742
6 ай бұрын
Don't waste time someone take you for granted . Then move on as soon as possible before demons come back in your life.
When a toxic person like a Narcissist disappears out of your life, It just makes no contact much easier.
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
Absolutely !!
@cecillebalignasay7358
6 ай бұрын
Enjoy the peace.❤
@fuzzyx2face
6 ай бұрын
I like the saying “the trash takes itself out” lol
She left me, it all made no sense, as much as it hurt, I let her go, didn't chase. By the time the hoovering came, I was deep in my recovery, she tried to continue as if nothing had ever happened but I was adamant at holding her accountable and then she disappeared again LoL. Cowards, all of them, nothing but cowards.
@ladyvirgo013
6 ай бұрын
Absolutely Cowards 💯
@dodibenabba525
6 ай бұрын
Yep cowards and thieves 😤
@yousee7910
6 ай бұрын
They are a blessing in disguise cause they teach us raw detachment. Never get attached to another person.
@dodibenabba525
6 ай бұрын
@@yousee7910 only Abba Father
@cmockingjay7265
6 ай бұрын
Yup agree! They sneak and lie and try to put you on a shelf! Walk away go no contact if they don’t take accountability. Cowards is the right definition!
If they leave and don't contact you, consider it a WIN! If they had the audacity to leave you high and dry, while you were SO committed, ONLY for them to not care. Just throw the same energy right back! Yes, easier said then done! You can do it! You just got to pray, trust Jesus, and know that it was never gonna work out w/ the ex narc! It is a hard pill to swallow, but that is the truth. Move on w/ your life and never look back! ❤
They need a foot in the door to come back... knowing what I know now is trash them like they trashed you and go NO Contact. They are not worthy of your bright shining light.
The narcissist's disappearance is a calculated vanishing act, leaving behind a void as if your existence was a mere illusion. Their ability to erase your presence reflects their lack of genuine connection and empathy. Accepting this abrupt departure is crucial for reclaiming your own sense of identity and rebuilding beyond the shadows of the narcissist's ephemeral presence.
I left her, but she made it like I never existed after 3 years together and married for 8 months. She blocked me and got her entire family to do the same. Blows my mind. I cried every day for 2 months straight and then one day I woke up and was over it all. If you're struggling, just know that you will make it to the top of Mount Indifference. Have faith. You're a beautiful human, Anoushka. Thanks for what you do.
@dodibenabba525
6 ай бұрын
I like that, Mount Indifference
When you are done be done and stay done. No time for games and nonsense.
@springfauna1465
6 ай бұрын
Exactly!!!💯 When I was ghosted I changed my phone number and blocked him on all social media!! It basically wrapped up everything I suspected about him being a narcissist!! Three years free now and living my best life!!
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
Exactly! time to think about you ad what is best for you. It's your life and you get to decide how you would like to live it 😊
The accountability factor is not in the system of a toxic narcissist,they live in a parallel universe of untruths and selfishness.Their so called lives are a never ending cycle of misery and destruction,all the while they fade into obscurity with nothing to show for their pathetic existence.Remember this my dear friends…..each day you grow stronger and they grow weaker
Which is why you’ve gotta ditch their ass just as quick and NEVER go back!
@ericjackson-nq4hp
6 ай бұрын
I like your style. haha.
@ragingspeedhorn
6 ай бұрын
keep on runnin, ...keep on hiding ..one fine day, you gonna be the one....THAT I EXPOSED !
12 years legally married, then ghosted like he never knew me. (I found out afterwards he had been grooming his coworker). What kind of monster moves directly in with another person after 12 years!?!?? So Toxic
@ericjackson-nq4hp
6 ай бұрын
Welcome Home, ladyvirgo. We are legions deep. We all try to hang-out on Tuesdays. I hope you can make it. You're gonna be OK no matter what.
@ladyvirgo013
6 ай бұрын
@ericjackson-nq4hp thanks so much 🙏 I will try to make Tuesdays✨️
@ericjackson-nq4hp
6 ай бұрын
Of course@@ladyvirgo013 --You are more than welcomed. I hope you can make it--life has all kinds of demands though. Not a dozen years but 10 years here myself--discarded, curbside, homeless shelter. Like I said, we are legions deep. Your life is important and there is meaning to all of it. I believe in you.
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
This is a person that is unable to connect to themselves, someone who is unable to feel emotions and remains only on the surface. Attachment disorder. Please know that the same thing will happen to the coworker, he will move onto another person when the coworker no longer meets his needs. If you can try and join the live stream on Tuesday because we talk about these situations and please know that you are not alone 🤍
@ladyvirgo013
6 ай бұрын
@anoushkamarcin this really hit me deep because looking back, he never allowed me all the way into wherever he was inside. See you Tuesday, I'm EST, what time do you go Live?
It's because they have someone else
@QueenBee-fg1iz
6 ай бұрын
Yes. My ex was texting and talking to another woman so I left after 17 years. He was in a relationship with her, but came back 6 months later and lied about it. I called him out and haven’t heard from him in a year and a half. One of my biggest supporters was his adult son’s mom who was his high school girlfriend. Just heard today that he cheated on the woman he left me for with his son’s mom! She moved him and his daughter in 3 months ago. Crazy!!!!
My narc ran off to Oklahoma for a dude she never met, married him almost immediately… divorced him 2 months later(4th marriage), came home and roped me in the DAY AFTER her divorce was final(which I didn’t know anything about). Said all the good things, then I found out about the marriage/divorce and I started checking on things… we fought and broke up… two months later she moved to Wyoming for another total stranger and is now married for the second time in less than a year..(5th marriage).. this is not even including any of the bullshit lies from when we were together before the Oklahoma marriage…. Crazy as the day is long.. still sad about it but she did me a huge favor..
@martyc2637
6 ай бұрын
She sounds like a real nut😂
@autreybolden1012
6 ай бұрын
Oh wow.. I've never heard of a story like this in my fucking life.
This is exactly what happens to me, but I hold the power.
I’m two after leaving them and I got my last email from her about 9 days ago. It just said “wow”. I think because they can’t believe I’ve cut ties with them. Apparently they are the most amazing person on the planet
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
So pleased to hear that you got the strength to move forward i n your life. This is an injury for the narcissist and would have triggered their abandonment wound which is probably why they reached out with a wow. Dont look back or second guess yourself you did what was best for you and that is what is important.
@MegaRockstar48
25 күн бұрын
@@anoushkamarcin6 months later I’m still struggling but the rumination is subsiding. It’s about working on yourself and realise I have the power not them. They are nasty and sad broken people who deserve nothing
I am so thankful for these videos 8:26 , the narcissist I was dealing literally wanted to end my life and I nearly did. I am still in shock, but these videos are literally helping through this tremendous pain I am feeling.😢
Yeah well, I called her out, for pushing me away, and I said, if she'd pushed away those she loved, no wonder she was alone. She replied with it was toxic and didn't need a failed toxic friendship. A week later I needed to talk to her, and I got it all thrown back into my face, for reminding her of a situation she'd been in. Instead of being there for me when I needed support , she said, I'd ruined her weekend, and ruined our friendship, and got called an effing nutcase. Alas, I believe, now, she's a narcissist who was projecting onto me her own failings.
I’m so glad you’ve downloaded this specific clip . This in my opinion after 6 years experience is absolutely spot on … I’ve been saying since I finally walked away that non of his irrational insidious behaviour, which may I add became worse over time , was never personal to me . In the beginning of the relationship I absolutely thought it was as it completely throws you when they randomly walk away and then return , like nothing happened. Then you convince yourself that you have to believe they are so sorry hence why they just want to ignore what they had subjected you too. The whole experience seems so ludicrous, you accept them back. You then have moments where you want to get even and then you want to investigate and find out why they act in such an unorthodox way . Answers you will get over time ,but never from the narcissist. As you unravel the text book characteristics of this person in front of you , who ironically is now actually being nice , you become very confused which then leads to frustration and upset. The cycle continues they become so predictable and so on and so on …. We all have different stories about these unstable characters that cheated , abused, denied and lied . Note those red flags and leave them be , because by you staying you are continuing to feed them , so indirectly you are being cruel , without being aware of this . They are tormented souls, so always remember never let your ego get in the way because what they do or say however abusive , it is NOT personal to you! Be grateful and recognise they are everything that thankfully you are not . Look upon them with pity for truly that’s all you can give the narcissist . From afar of course! Sent from Manchester uk
After they’re gone you finally realize you’re so much better off without them
Yes this is so true. Five months of dating and then poof gone. Three months later he’s stalking my instagram. So predictable. Boy bye! 😂
Actually he did tell me. He told me that he’s seeing another woman and she’s better than me because she’s giving him money and even though he owns his own business, he likes her because she pays her own way.
@shirleychandler2780
6 ай бұрын
What a cee U Next Tuesday !
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
It's all about the transaction, no REAL depth, love or emotion. It sounds like this person is all about what they can get and use people to their own gains. Glad to know that you are no longer in this situation and that you do not have this person taking from you. Please know that in time this new woman will realise and that the same thing will happen. It sounds like he joust floats through life taking what he can from people.
Good riddance! Knowing what i know now makes it all the easier. Im better than that!
As usual, great and helpful video! I’ve been following you for months now, Anoushka and this content has truly helped me to survive. You have built a great community.
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for your lovely comment. Thank you for watching the videos and I am so pleased that they have helped 😊
Fantastic video thank you im learning so much from the narcissist way to help me understand why
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
Glad the video was helpful 😊
The Narc never just “leaves” I found out the “I need Space to work on me” is code for “I’ve found someone else for supply and I’ve monkey branched to that supply”
@palapalak.8907
Ай бұрын
So funny but true!
I want to disappear out of HER life after 8 years because I'm always left devastated every time she gaslights me. I don't want to disappear because I know it's rude but she fucks my whole world up like I am nothing every time I try to have any kind of conversation and I cannot keep surviving her. I feel awful, and I'm SO sad, but I'm breaking, and I feel sick.
I was married 16 years and I have 2 kids with my ex covert narc hubbie . The divorce was a year ago and he is coming to our kids 1 in 4 months and stays a couple of hours with them , throws some money on the table for them …and … he’s gone !!! 😃 I moved on with my life , but it is very weird for me and for my kids , it’s almost like he doesn’t exist.
This is an excellent video. My narcissistic ex-girlfriend has been in jail since August. I have been sending her mail, money and packages. She has never written or called. I visited once but after I refused to bail her out, she stopped allowing me to visit. I helped get her time reduced by devising a strategy I shared with her lawyer and it worked but she responded by telling her lawyer not to share details of her case with me. So now I am done. Fortunately she is locked up so I can move on with some comfort but she undoubtedly has new supply in jail. She will return eventually and act like nothing happened; that's what worries me because she lives one street away from me and it's not really possible for me to move. I'm definitely afraid of getting caught up with her again when she gets released. The fact that she is in jail should tell you what kind of person she is; she takes no accountability even with the law.
My ex got married the same week my mom died... We werent even in a fight!
Such behaviour is selfish,unjust,inconsiderate,cruel This lack of accountability shows immaturity and self centredness,a lack of compassion for the othern person,devaluing them a lack of regard Dont want such a dynamic in my relationships showing a lack of respect Not into one sided relationships I cannot stand behaviour that is narcissistic Putting someone on hold for SO long,is narcissistic behaviour that shows a lack of regard Donr want it around met
Someone had to pay for what her ex did to her. If not me than some other poor bastard.
Gods people have to avoid the narc * just in case a narc sees this and thinks they are innocent....you know exactly what you did 🙏🏾 stay blessed forgive yourself take accountability and apologize
Really good one Anoushka. 🎉
Mine returned after a year we talked she apologized everything seemed good just for her to disappear again haven’t talk to her for a month and quite frankly I’m done I’m not waiting on her by any means I’m a good guy she clearly has mental issues and I new about it all the sad part about all this is she not only discarded me but her family did just as bad and the fact that a family enables this behavior is truly sickening and disgusting she made it seem like it was all my fault that we broke up yet she ended it and left me for another guy there truly delusional she told me she loved me and acted like she appreciated me all this new stuff I learned about narcissism is crazy never thought people operated like this karma I’m sure will catch up or it already has she post on social media all the time of meeting her dream man there absolutely delusional and they keep there circle all about them and people on there side hence why she never made any effort with my family which hurt a lot not gonna lie I met her at work it got so bad I had to leave that job the harassing and hot and cold treatment she gave me was unbearable smearing my name all over the place how can anyone do that don’t get me wrong if I cheated then sure blame me but I was a great guy that stood by her through her mental issues just to get discarded I would say that’s atlittle harsh would love to know what others think about my situation and sad world now a days thank you for your videos there really saving peoples lives by bringing awareness to there behaviors and ultimately exposing these demons kudos to you and god bless
Use it to your advantage and go no contact make sure you change email and phone number etc 🎉
But what about doing this to a narcissist?
Bare rolig Anouska jeg følger dig stadigvæk, og dit fantastiske program jeg prøver bare holde fokus på mig selv og går stille med dørene, hvis du forstår hvad jeg mener. Så ha en fantastisk aften 🙂❤️
What if you’re still married to this person and he’s gone?
I know its a plus but if it's yr partner or family It's very painful !! to not be validated, you probably gave, suppressed, forgave It still Hurts when another person repeats the same cycle...logic doesn't sooth the loss 💔 😔
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
Yes it makes things more difficult when it's your family member, it betrays the trust and the understanding of what the family member is supposed to provide are the caregiver. But what I will say is separate them from the label and look at them externally as a human with these traits. If you knew them in a different capacity you would not allow to be treated like this. Try to determine what you will accept and what you wont from this person. This is about detachment and about giving back to yourself (reparenting). Try to join the live stream on Tuesday's 9pm GMT we talk about issues like this and perhaps it can help you move forward 😊
Not being vindictive, but legally speaking, As narcissistic abuse is massively damaging psychologically, How plausible do you think that the abuser should be punished in the court of law or even registered just like sexual offenders?
So, as of this morning, disappearing for no reason, being held unaccountable , refusing to explain anything that had happened, not notifying you in any way whatsoever. All those things suddenly make sense to you somehow. God lady, whoever let you in the door?
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My fiancee Applied for a job and moved to a different City without explaining anything to me ,And start having a boyfriend her first 2months dating Maried man , it Hurt me so much I wanted to hear from her why did she do that 😢😢😢 ,even now I'm still not completely healed
Feelings n that
I got literally deleted after 4yrs together
They love you painting their boys room and being temp polised once done. Wants you looking after your own kids when it's gone
Triggered yeah…! 🔥❤️🔥
I love you
If u go no contact wouldnt they then assume your the narcissist and they are the victim? How do you really determine the differnece of a discard vs no contact??
@SweepDailyWin
6 ай бұрын
Because when they leave, its to punish you and play games. When YOUleave, you do so to save yourself and find peace!
@gillianhamilton6581
6 ай бұрын
Silent treatment is sulky and resentful. No contact is respectful to the problem, to them, and to yourself.
Actually, ....
I find it really hard to believe the person from the start is not the real person, and I feel guilty for him leaving because I feel like I caused the argument that caused him to leave. This sounds crazy but how can I convince myself that the person at the end was the real person all along?
I didn't see you go live yesterday Anoushka :( Did i miss it or did you not go live?
@ericjackson-nq4hp
6 ай бұрын
No, you didn't miss out. Anoushka posted up that some of her gear wasn't synching up, she got lost trying to fix it. It bummed her out. She'll fire back next Tuesday. The community tab is a great source to stay connected. Cheers--have a great week.
@anoushkamarcin
6 ай бұрын
I will be back on Tuesday, had technical issues but they have been sorted. Come on Tuesday at 9pm GMT 😊
As a lifetime narccisist, i must say alot of this isnt true