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@lori1647

4 жыл бұрын

Frank James does it count for a Starbuck’s if I send this video to Aunt Hilda in leu of small talk?

@sandybeach8596

4 жыл бұрын

My Buddhist solution to the holidays is NOT seeing people I don't like. Om 😁🙏.... problem solved.

@pink5345

4 жыл бұрын

Auteur! Auteur! 👏👏👏

@IYKYKtwins

4 жыл бұрын

Frank James - Lord have mercy...THIS is comedy gold! So flippin funny, man! Uncomfortable accuracy = A+++

@spring202

4 жыл бұрын

Hello! Fellow INFJ here. I just got roped into helping my sister do some Christmas shopping this weekend, and I'm dreading it. This video made me laugh, and I will definitely be using some of these tips to get through the next couple of weeks!!

Online shopping is every introvert's paradise.

@evasccl7846

4 жыл бұрын

Paradise is the word 🤣

@michaelaj5977

4 жыл бұрын

That and self checkouts

@strawberrii-moon

4 жыл бұрын

@@michaelaj5977 Oh my gosh yes

@keyanna2633

4 жыл бұрын

@@michaelaj5977 The worst part is when they're down. I panic when I have to go to a regular register. 😱😰😨😟

@ccsworldaustralia4332

4 жыл бұрын

Totally.

My trick is to drink a lot of water when I feel awkward. It gives something to do with your hands, you cant talk anyways when drinking water, and you have an excuse to go to the bathroom more

@Quawnks

4 жыл бұрын

This is a great idea! Especially if you employ the excuse at 1:10 😄

@ms.bubs4fun506

4 жыл бұрын

It looks weird drinking excessive water and going to the bathroom frequently. People will think you're snorting coke in the bathroom. lol

@sergipmgp

4 жыл бұрын

I do this every time! It also helps you get more time to answer questions you were not expecting 😂

@katitax508

4 жыл бұрын

Ms.Bubs4fun I’m always drinking water, so my family is used to it

@robinmoore4994

4 жыл бұрын

I work that one often ;o)

“I was checking to make sure the tree had enough water.” “...our tree is fake?” “I was CHECKING to make sure the TREE HAD ENOUGH WATER-“

@kuddlykirara

3 жыл бұрын

Say u were admiring the exotic ornaments in the back

“Yes, I’m still single.” “I don’t know when I’ll have kids. Probably never.” I relate so much to that.

@etaash9878

3 жыл бұрын

Jordan Palmer same. It was a joke first- now i’m im not to sure.

@Kapthos

3 жыл бұрын

I related so much with the...yeah, it's the 10th year in a row that I'm single 😣

Recovering: this should only take several weeks 😂🤣😂

@Lalala-of5dp

4 жыл бұрын

Everytime 😭🤣totally exhausted

@lalights6

3 жыл бұрын

I was surprised recovery could be complete by Valentine's day! I thought it would take much longer.

@tokensharma3738

3 жыл бұрын

Or some months. 🤣🤣

@andreagro9015

3 жыл бұрын

Sadly enough

@praise_lord_jesus_christ

2 жыл бұрын

Valentines' is a week away.

James please narrate me through the holiday parties

@shayla_lesk1542

3 жыл бұрын

Ahahahhaa, there are 666 likes on this comment and I really don’t want to change it.

@saidaabdille8603

3 жыл бұрын

@@shayla_lesk1542 but that be the devil's number ChAnGe iT!

@thebrightestrainbowever3841

3 жыл бұрын

911 likes now lol

@shayla_lesk1542

3 жыл бұрын

@@thebrightestrainbowever3841 lol. I have a weird experience with 911. I always seem to look at the clock when it’s 9:11 and I seem to always see things with 911 in them. It’s really weird. Oh well. 😙

@LonelyCinderella123

3 жыл бұрын

@@shayla_lesk1542 I'm always looking at the clock at 01:23. It once happened like 5 days in a row.

I always volunteer to do the dishes to avoid social interaction. It’s perfect. You’re helping AND you get to avoid those troublesome awkward group dynamics.

@domedweller4202

4 жыл бұрын

Me too! It's the only time I actually enjoy doing the dishes.

@kristenw3993

4 жыл бұрын

Mustard Seed Right? At any other time, it’s a tedious chore, but at large social gatherings, it’s my salvation.

@infinity3l181

3 жыл бұрын

It will be the opposite in my case because there's never only one people doing the dishes. The kitchen is just another gathering place with lots of people

@tweety25m

3 жыл бұрын

Same!

@amberr3662

3 жыл бұрын

It's all good until some extrovert come over and is like "Do you need some help?" and you say no but they help you anyway, and try to socialise with you

"Find an inconspicuous place in the room, such as behind the tree." Hilarious. I'll need to try it.

@m-_._-

4 жыл бұрын

🎄😂

@altitudeiseverything3163

4 жыл бұрын

I usually end up in a quiet corner, petting the cat. No cat? Big problem! 😂

@jensden6448

4 жыл бұрын

I actually used to lay under the tree and look up at the lights and shimmering ornaments Does that count? Lol

@4Distractiononly

4 жыл бұрын

When I was a kid I used to bring my book with me everywhere and my mother's family would look at me fondly and say how smart I was. Now, as an adult that is not appropriate. Such a bummer.

@KanashiAtisuto

4 жыл бұрын

That'd actually work so well at my place as the tree is huge, infront of a window & right between a half wall & shelves- well, until someone has to get to the window, a light that won't turn on properly or the presents underneath the tree 😂

Who else doesn't like using other people's toilets? I only trust my toilet.

@aimee828

4 жыл бұрын

Its the same with me.... Also what's to say you didn't lock the foreign door properly and someone walks in on you

@OfficialAtlass

3 жыл бұрын

I hate ittt. Even if I have to go badly, I can't bring myself to use the toilet even if I have to go really badly

@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon

3 жыл бұрын

@@aimee828 I be thinking that exact same thing.

@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon

3 жыл бұрын

@@OfficialAtlass Just don't embarrass yourself by wetting your pants because you didn't want to go to the bathroom. Lol

@grimbluesins7592

3 жыл бұрын

Public bathrooms are always super awkward lmao

The worst is walking into a holiday party and having to greet everyone with a hug. So many people... so many hugs... so tired...

@kiradelarochefoucauld7499

4 жыл бұрын

WHY do you do things you do not want to do? Are you a slave?

@sophiaredwood5825

4 жыл бұрын

Lauren Lovely Especially when the majority of the people initiating conversation with you expect you to remember them, and you likely don’t, but you have to act like you know everything about them just because they seem to know everything about you (unless they’re just pretending like you, in which the situation could get better or twice as awkward)...

@MeOnionz

4 жыл бұрын

i try so hard to purposely hold things when people come to the door to avoid this xD

@4Distractiononly

4 жыл бұрын

I only hug my close friends and family. So nope. Sometimes people lean in and I pat their arm like I'm rushing through. Hey I'll catch in a sec.

@artiscrutial

4 жыл бұрын

Lauren Lovely girl same

Pro-tip from my ISTJ mom: “Get an extroverted child and have them do all the interactions for you. It’s like a guide dog for the socially-impaired” 🙃 Also, Frank in a suit... 😍 *swoons*

@cathryneallen9257

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe Timmy could do it! 😂

@sparklewithin4482

4 жыл бұрын

This is gold, between breastfeeding and my first son the social butterfly, I have so many excuses to leave mid way in Boring conversation and appear busy

@AK-jt7kh

4 жыл бұрын

It’s me, Duh you must have one fat baby

@heatherjones6647

4 жыл бұрын

This totally works. I had to take a shift at a fundraising table at my college. Three of my particularly bubbly students came by while I was setting up and I asked if they could help out for a bit. They stayed for my whole shift (God bless them always!!) metaphorically tackling people and sitting on them and talking at them re the cause (wildlife conservation). They were relentless, and my shift was a great success to the surprise of everybody. And all I did was stand there and guard the money. YAYYY!

@heyitscatica

4 жыл бұрын

Desert INTJ - While true, if you train them correctly, they should be able to recognize when to leave you alone and when to assume “interaction assistance” mode. It helps if you give them treats, too. I like mine in the form of coffee, chocolate, or money, but obviously every extravert support system is different.

Well, my family members hate each other and we don't celebrate anything together. We also don't buy presents for Christmas because it's expensive at my country. I always pass my Christmas watching random youtube videos, It's like heaven.

@michellecottrell3553

4 жыл бұрын

Lucky

@kseniyaella4142

4 жыл бұрын

Wow, I envy.

@julg3498

4 жыл бұрын

lmao same

@haleyjames3066

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like paradise

@4Distractiononly

4 жыл бұрын

Eh sounds sort of sad tbh. I don't like huge parties but I do like being with my family at Christmas.

I was thinking about sitting a laptop at my place at the table where I will Skype from my room. That way if someone tries to make me interact with them I can just sit really still and everyone will think it's lag.

@openrealm

4 жыл бұрын

Pre-record a video loop with "lag," and go have a bite.

@staceerae597

4 жыл бұрын

@@openrealm Good idea, this way I won't pass out from holding my breath for so long.

@fbiopenup5345

4 жыл бұрын

You genius! 😂😂

@IceSk8Princessa12

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@kateg5763

3 жыл бұрын

Or you can turn off the wifi on your computer so you really freeze😊

Oh, that pesky psychotic episode strikes again.

@lex6819

4 жыл бұрын

I always say I have to leave to feed my cats. It's usually kind of true.

@sc7796

4 жыл бұрын

Vicki Hale I-

"helping dinner ready so that you'll appear busy" Me at every family-gathering even though cooking noodle and egg is the only thing i know how to :)

@fluffyclouds555

4 жыл бұрын

Re Chaena same here

@bostonterrier2976

4 жыл бұрын

lol same! And I try to help clean up but I never make dinner for more than one person so I kind of don't know how to even clean up? They open the dishwasher and I'm like, "what even is that? Oh god where does everything go?"

@lisaellis9749

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly! I make myself super helpful, help with guest coats, pour up drinks, help in kitchen, keep rugrats entertained , Before you know it , the night is over! Thankgoodness!

I went complete savage this year and just told everyone that I am not coming, because I am done with all the 5+h long sittings and useless talkings at the table and wont do it anymore, just to please them extraverts who need that. I am okay with giving them gifts, saying "Merry Cristmas/Happy New Year" and leave. I know, thats quite harsh 😀, but hey, we dont have to if we feel drained after, life is too short to pretend you like attenting something just to please others and I hate lying, so told them the truth. They did not care that much anyway. Now I am going to cozy up home with a blanket, have some snacks and play video games all Christmas and it makes me happy :3

@jasminemariedarling

4 жыл бұрын

Lol nice! I'm up against an issue, because I have opted out the last 4 years, so now am feeling pretty guilty. I've never seen my cousin's kids, my grandma is super old, etc. REALLY want to stay home again, but thinking one holiday every 5 years is a must or the guilt will kill me...

@AnkhaLavey

4 жыл бұрын

@@jasminemariedarling I do not feel any guilt, because people literally tried to push me do something I dont like, just because "you have to" as its some kind of grocery list. Its my husbands (also INFJ) family who does this, mine are all introverts and are okay not doing any gatherings 😁 wich is nice. I love them all and such, but we both just hate the gatherings.Also I live in a small country and we all live in the same town and see each other often already so its all okay. But if You live further away then probably once in couple years is a good thing to push yourself a little and try to survive that one-two days. I would attent every now and then too then.

@jasminemariedarling

4 жыл бұрын

@@AnkhaLavey Yes, i definitely will go this year (sigh lol) Oh wow, married to an infj? Amazing! I can only imagine! (My hubby is ESTJ. It's interesting lol) Happy holidays! Enjoy your video games, sounds awesome! ✌❤

@darkhorse7460

4 жыл бұрын

yes! My daughter and I caught up on mortal Kombat today! Merry Christmas

@southernkatrina8161

4 жыл бұрын

It's the party hats, the dumb jokes, the noisy men monopolising the conversation, the voices getting louder and louder as the people get drunker and drunker...I hated it. And then all the useless token gifts that hit the bin and all that wrapping paper! I used to go explore the house or just slink off for a walk. Too much...

The introvert hangover is SO LEGIT - I went speed dating 2 weeks ago {don’t know what came over me} and I’m still recovering Should’ve taken a hint from the introverts guide to surviving the holidays.... and stayed home with a glass of wine and my chronic flatulence. Happy holidays FJ ♥️

@zp6097

4 жыл бұрын

Introvert Hangover!? That is the BEST description of needed downtime I’ve ever heard! Stealing it

@shenequakimbro5146

2 жыл бұрын

Lol. I tried speed dating online and have not went back yet.

I actually often sat down behind the christmas tree as a child "to play in peace" ... as a teenager "to admire the beauty" ... as an adult it is a bit difficult, I always sit with my grandmother's cats and dogs on the floor "to make sure they don't break anything" ... I have to honestly say, actually I love the Christmas season, warm drinks, soft socks, lights everywhere ... but all these people everywhere make it real a lot of broken ... and that shopping and family questions... I have to say that the suit suits you really well, my eyes thank you for this moment I wish you a nice and relaxing Christmas time

INFP method: get drunk and stumble over several shit, they will be glad when you leave or make you leave. Then cry at home that nobody loves you.

@nyxlecatte

4 жыл бұрын

My little sis is INFP and this worries me... D: DON'T WORRY I'LL PROTECC U!! *mom friend powers activate*

@MercedLeiker

4 жыл бұрын

Yes true. I am an INFP.

@crystaljean522

4 жыл бұрын

Ok. I'm very glad to know this isn't just me... 😅😅

@ange1el222

4 жыл бұрын

this has happened to me several times

i honestly read “An introverts suicidal guide for the holidays”

Think i will dress in green and hide INSIDE the tree with a glass of mulled wine.

@blacksheep9772

4 жыл бұрын

Oh! Camoflague! AND Alcohol. Another great idea.

@ML-gh2ig

4 жыл бұрын

@@blacksheep9772 We have a big tree here Ill make room for you!^^ Spending solitude together in silence is a great way of socializing. Sorry for sounding weird, Im an infp... merry christmas!

Just keep cramming in the food so you can only nod politely. Never keep a drink with you so when it gets too intense you can fake a coughing fit that will allow you to flee to the kitchen for safety and water. Then, leave the glass behind. Repeat as necessary.

@pikabuns_

4 жыл бұрын

R N u are the real hero

@MeOnionz

4 жыл бұрын

@@pikabuns_ i am consciously aware of timing an empty glass at the perfect time that will give me a get out of jail free card when i need it hahaha it's funny actually realising the things you are doing xD

@pikabuns_

4 жыл бұрын

Ania life Hahahaha that’s awesome, I’m writing all these things down

@felipevasconcelos6736

4 жыл бұрын

So that’s why I’m never hungry at parties? I’ve been stuffing food into my mouth all along!

@alexachipman

3 жыл бұрын

I've done this!

"I need to take my medicine or I'll have a psychotic episode" 110% effective :D

@fiorellalescano

4 жыл бұрын

@@LilacSnowBun Hahaha. Clever!

Instead of making boundaries like a healthy adult 😂😂😂

@sunnysal3889

4 жыл бұрын

Sarah Henderson Yes but people are so devoid of social skills these days that they question the validity of my boundaries. Then the INFJ dark side can get ugly.

I've used that armadillo fact before. -INTJ

But like, can we get more of these introvert survival guides plz?!

I have the perfect solution this year. Got my daughter a kitten that needs taming. All attention will be directed at it's cuteness and I can escape whenever I need to because it needs fed, cleaned, or cuddled.

I always go to the alcohol then look for the house cat/dog and cling to them

@altitudeiseverything3163

4 жыл бұрын

Druxy Pierce - Yes! I do that, too! If they don’t have pets, I feel trapped in hell.

@blacksheep9772

4 жыл бұрын

This is my usual plan, & works well. Its always a good idea to supply your Christmas BFF some of the Christmas ham, the ham will sooth them in preparation for awkward silences/ useless comments about armadillos and hiding behind the tree . 🌲🌲🌲

How to care for introverts during the holidays: 1. Gift them books 2. Skip small talk and discuss magical warfare 3. They will probably run away at some point 4. Lure them back with snacks 5. Keep the snacks coming 6. When the food is gone, introverts will vanish

5k views in 3 hours... James, I believe you are saving lives here!

I'm the only one who thinks he is madly attractive?

@icexangel

4 жыл бұрын

He's very handsome.

@user-iu5fi2qk6b

4 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely not the only one

@Scotchandboots

4 жыл бұрын

He takes his own advice. He stays cool and attractive.

@purplecrayons96

4 жыл бұрын

Nope.

@somebody9369

4 жыл бұрын

He's yummy :)

This year will be especially scary for me as an INFJ bc I'll celebrate with my stepmom's family for the first time and I don't know them very well. But I've already warned them that I'll probably need to take some breaks and go outside for a small walk and they seemed understanding so far. Now I just have to actually go outside when I should and not stand there like a statue and endure everything lol. I hope you other introverts also manage to communicate your needs early enough and have understanding or at least accepting people around! U can do it! x)

@nyxlecatte

4 жыл бұрын

@The Inner Life Thank you! Yeah I'm lucky with the few people that actually care about me. And it still was a big struggle to even come this far and I still need to practice a lot. Setting boundaries is a big problem for most of us, I assume. But really, thanks a lot and I hope you'll have a good time as well!

@4Distractiononly

4 жыл бұрын

The bathroom and usually there is like one uncle watching a sports game. Link up with that guy and pretend to be into it so you don't have to get up from the couch.

@zp6097

4 жыл бұрын

I haven’t been to any family thing for 2 years. Having people say they understand, but when you are gone from the festivities for 85% of the time, they are like what’s wrong? I say”nothing, I told you I need to get away” then they are like, when are you going to be done with your alone time? I’m like, Fuck, I guess right now! What the hell do you need from me? This is just an example folks

@nyxlecatte

4 жыл бұрын

@@zp6097 well I hope the festivities still went okay-ish for you :/ Guess I'm really lucky with my friends and little family I have left. They just accept my need for alone-time and leave me be if I ask them to :o

i thought i was the only one who did the help in the kitchen thing lmao that one never fails plus u get to eat whatever u want and taste everything beforehand lol

@kellyeradford9585

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, I also love hiding out in the kitchen. Plus helping out gives me something to do, and I can’t talk and work at the same time. Well, I just don’t feel like talking a lot of the time, unless it’s an intense one on one.

Behind the tree!!! I'm going to try that this year!😂

@kellyeradford9585

4 жыл бұрын

Just looking to make sure the electrical connections are safe. Anyone smell smoke?? Fire 🔥

@Terrormitzsu

4 жыл бұрын

😄 Girl, same. Think I'll wear camo for added concealment.

@KCGalanski

Жыл бұрын

I knew there was a reason for getting a big tree this year!

I loved the blank stare on your face while asking uninteresting questions, that's how I do it lol. And, I have to walk my dog.

@songbirdforjesus2381

4 жыл бұрын

No kidding this is so true. I had a friend who left her own son's wedding reception early and told people she had to leave to walk her dog. Of course people looked at her a little weird when she told them. Like, couldn't you get a dog sitter for this important day? But actually, she wasn't missed. The event was held at her sons Rich in-laws backyard. And, of course the rich in-laws did mostly everything and ran the show. She put in 2 hours and then was gone! Her husband stayed around and drove home with us while we had a blast.

This guide was long overdue.

@felipevasconcelos6736

4 жыл бұрын

About 14 billion years overdue.

The armadillos are approaching rapidly Run

@lorddraconian2228

4 жыл бұрын

Du nana nana

@grimbluesins7592

3 жыл бұрын

THINE ARMADILLOS SHALT COME i live in the more northern part of the midwest (america). the armadillos are coming to take over and honestly, that would be perfectly fine for me 🤣🤣🤣

Or as i do, don't go there until the dinner starts and during the meal, avoid visual contact and pray for them not to notice you and ask you stuff. This is specially hard when you have a big, VERY loud, Hispanic family.

@cv8642

4 жыл бұрын

Nai it helps to be an INFP. People tend not to notice you anyway.

@naaitxo

4 жыл бұрын

@@cv8642 I'm an INFP and well, they notice you 'cause when you are also the "family black sheep" they gotta throw some comments at you hahaha

@Francesca-nj3jj

4 жыл бұрын

@@naaitxo yeah, that's what happened to me this Christmas

@naaitxo

4 жыл бұрын

@@Francesca-nj3jj Luckily it's almost over haha

“Chronic Flatulence” Me: A human bio weapon My family: “This is nothing new, dear, the party starts at 11am. Bring some bread.”

@soniagalaviz5667

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Haha, this is so funny and spot-on!! You're an amazing actor, Frank!!! Merry Christmas 🎄🎄🎄 please keep it up!!!

The pre-determined excuses made me think of my childhood. When I got sick of hanging out with friends, I used to look at my phone and be like “mom wants me to go home and eat, then we gotta clean 🤔” and just chilled at home LMAO

Professional oven-watcher over here 🙋🏼

"You're leaving so soon?!?!" Oh, I'm just getting more wine for everyone, be right back! Oh, I just forgot one of the presents at home, I'll be....right back! I have another party to go to...double booked again! This week is nuts, right? Well, my mom's expecting me. She says I just HAVE to try her jello almond marshmallow salad this year. I promised her...you know how that goes! I have to cover my plants. Didn't you see tonight's forecast?! I made an eye doctor appointment for really early in the morning. Gotta use up those benefits for 2019, am I right?!? Who has two thumbs and put off their oil change again?! This guy! I gotta get in early tomorrow before it gets crazy. My cat's afraid of carolers knocking on the door. Plus tonight's her bath night, sooooo. Yeah.

@MeOnionz

4 жыл бұрын

xD xD My cat's afraid of carolers knocking on the door. HAHAHAHHA never been so proud to be an introvert hahahaha what a troll

@5gonza541

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your service XD

@Aillin846

4 жыл бұрын

thanks, i saved this 😇😂👌

@zatzu

4 жыл бұрын

Unexpectedly useful

I nearly suffered ‘chronic flatulence’ from laughing so hard!

@blacksheep9772

4 жыл бұрын

You're coming allong nicely then!? 😄

Thank you for making life a little better

I could do with an extroverted clone of myself to cover me over the holiday season.

No pesky Christmas gatherings for THIS INFJ! Husband just had his gall bladder removed 👏 Must rest, no parties allowed. Yay!!!

@bettye444

4 жыл бұрын

Jas Phillips one year I had a knee replacement.

@heatherjones6647

4 жыл бұрын

@@bettye444 A bit extreme, but OK. LOL Merry Christmas

@altitudeiseverything3163

4 жыл бұрын

I’m so envious! Wonder if I can arrange for my husband to need surgery ASAP? 😈😉😂

@sunnysal3889

4 жыл бұрын

Scheduling a surgery. A time- honored avoidance technique.

@blacksheep9772

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. That husband is a keeper!!!! 😁

Lol, so good. Lots of covert introverts in my family, so after dinner the dining room would suddenly be empty and you would find my family members all over the place - in the kitchen helping, outside with the dogs, in the toilet... usually the only ones left at the table is my grandma and grandpa (and maybe one or two more faithful souls) 🙃. So I can't even tell how glad I am not having to apply your lovely tips - for all the other ones suffering out there: I feel with you!

Okay, I haven't hidden behind a tree yet but yesterday at my art class I did hide behind a table with the excuse of checking if my painting is dry already. I was indeed checking but did I need to - nah 😂

I lost my shiz long ago and it never came back.

You forgot sitting in places nobody wants to be (ex: outside during cold weather, laundry room with the lights off, on the roof, etc.) and pretending to have taken a vow of silence!

LOL. Your funniest video yet. Also, some great tips. 😀

@easytoslip

4 жыл бұрын

he forgot: STAY OUT OF THE LEFT LANE

This reminds me strongly of the Krusty Krab Training Video, and that is probably the highest compliment I can pay you. So I guess when it comes to the holidays... I'M READY 😂😂😂

@michellecottrell3553

4 жыл бұрын

Can I make a Krabby Patty now

@zp6097

4 жыл бұрын

I love that show. And I’m 44

The moment that I realized all conversations within my family were rhetorical...the holidays become a lot easier. Still thinking about faking my own death though...

This ISFJ loves cooking for others, it’s the best way I know to Introvert while also showing love for my favorite humans. Planning out answers for difficult questions is also a great one!

NAILED IT!!!!!!!!!! try being an introverted pastor's at Christmas. 🤯

@cjh9696

4 жыл бұрын

So much for humor.

I'm actually hosting the family Christmas dinner this year, (Oh, I'm an INFJ) so outside of the procrastination of actually finishing the overwhelming amount of cleaning my small place needed/needs, the anxiety of "do I have enough food" and "will everyone like what I'm serving" and "what should I cook and when because I don't have enough pots, time and oven space" and "where the hell am I going to put my table to serve all the stuff where people can actually get to and from it" and "how the hell am I going to get the futon out of my daughter's room all by myself so that I have enough seating in my small living room" and "how am I going to block my dogs in the kitchen to keep my anti-social dog away from everyone and the other one away from the one nephew that isn't used to dogs" (and, and, and), at least I'll be able to use the "I'm cooking" or "checking on supper" or whatever to avoid the family interaction :) My poor 14-year old daughter will have to do most of the interactions (hee hee). (Yes, I am wordy. Sorry.) Oh yeah, and I can't use the "behind the tree" thing because I don't actually have one - I'm making a "tree" out of the 12 feet of lights that I bought and some cool foil tissue/wrapping paper and putting it on the wall, so the kitchen and the bathroom are my escape and avoidance rooms.

@altitudeiseverything3163

4 жыл бұрын

Kim B, that's me - INTJ mom here, who hosts every year. Wish I could say it gets easier, well, maybe it does a *little* .The only way I survive is to make lists, *lots* of lists. Cleaning tasks, decorations, gifts, menu & food shopping. It gives me something to obsess about that’s actually helpful in keeping my preparations on track ....everything, including (very important) list for the actual day, otherwise I invariably forget to serve some appetizers or drinks. I have a great family, but I always worry that my hosting skills might not meet the expectations of my grown children’s partners. Wish I could relax more! 🙄 Maybe you could ask a burly neighbor to move the futon? Bring some cookies, or fruit, as a gift. Although asking a favor can be as painful as a back injury! LOL

@Uniquely-Unoriginal

4 жыл бұрын

@@altitudeiseverything3163 -- Oh trust me, I have made more lists that I could possibly need and thrown out and rewrote just as many- some needed tweaking :) I've got in grave detail what needs to be cleaned where, and I divided my although small, but has lots of crap in it, living room into 4 parts. I have cleaning lists for each room or section of course, "what to pull out of the freezer when" list, "when to prep this or that" list, "what to do the day before" list and am going to finish the "what to do the day before" and "what to do the day of" lists, oh yes, and the "make sure this goes on the table" list, either today or tomorrow :) I think I missed a list to list above, but no doubt I have that one too lol. As for the Futon, either my daughter or my ex can help me do that - the one neighbour I talk to is a small older lady so don't think I'll ask her ;)

@altitudeiseverything3163

4 жыл бұрын

Kim B, that's me - LOL, it sounds like you’ll do fine! BTW, that tree idea sounds great! What a space-saver! Wish you could post a photo!

@Uniquely-Unoriginal

4 жыл бұрын

@@altitudeiseverything3163 -- Aww, thanks :) True enough, and cheaper too haha. I'd wish on it only after seeing how it turns out when I get to it...until then it's a whew! I can't post a pic hahahaha.

“(funny)” oh good 😌 The shot of you screaming in the car = me driving out of the school parking lot every day this week 🤪

@sandybeach8596

4 жыл бұрын

Omg Holly...I love you...dies laughing. When I was teaching I did the same thing. I've said it before but it's worth repeating...the best gift I gave myself for the holidays was NOT seeing people I don't like :) Dude, it made my life soooo much happier...giggles.

@hollyp.8849

4 жыл бұрын

Sandy Beach Amen to that! 😂

" I have a fear of using other people s toilets " sweet! Would be using that, definitely. Tnx

Yep still hiding out in recovery mode 😂 ! The holidays are always hell even though I really do try to enjoy the continual overstimulation and shallowness of it all I just can't. Actually I just discovered you on KZread yesterday while in this state. Beyond entertainment value, your videos really have provided me with the reassurance that I really am not alone in my ways. I'm just beyond the simplicity of most people's comprehension 🤣

"10th year that I'm single" oooof. I felt that

Shoutout to all the estranged INFJ's who didn't spend the holidays w/ their family.

@zp6097

4 жыл бұрын

Allison Wonderland, I stayed home with the cats while my family left for a week. Its too much time away, but it’s better than being there. I feel vindicated whenever I call my wife, and she is stressed out from the kids or whatever is happening there. She says “you should be glad you aren’t here, you would hate it!” Yes, yes I would.

When I run into people-I just offer to get them something, leave and never come back. It’s so crowded around here they won’t notice. Works like a charm lol

"...to recuperate. This should take several weeks." Omg! When it hits, it hits HARD! 😭🤣

I couldn’t find a gift for my son I needed on Amazon so I had to go to the mall. Still recovering 😳 spot on FJ! 👏

It's like MAD/Cracked, in it's irony. Nice production, too!

I'm dyin' over here! That was my life!! The preplanned excuses for leaving, especially!! 😂😂😂👍👍👍And yeah, one drink around family? Not gonna happen😆 Thank you for the laughs!

This really helps me as I’m seeing my extended family this Sunday. I’m already dreading the “single/job/life” questions that’ll be thrown my way. My mom told me to play nice unfortunately. That’ll be easy with my flask full of Jack Daniels.

Oh boy do I love watching a single episode of Netflix

Lol this is exactly what I need to get through the holidays!! Lmao I might actually do the paper of topics and just hide it in the bathroom xD

When my family starts making me questions I say I need to go to the bathroom and never go back

i love these videos. Thanks FJ. Have you done one about 16 personalities at the airport....at Christmas? ...😱 please do.

@sandra9060

4 жыл бұрын

@jovana o oh yes, the one where the INFP walks through security without being noticed. i forgot about that one

@Djbadley

4 жыл бұрын

Please don't, enough of the 16 type videos.

I'm taking notes as we speak

Living with pre-planned avoidance. I'm staying home to declutter.👍🎄🎀💚☀️Have a Holly Jolly Holiday, Yeah!

@songbirdforjesus2381

4 жыл бұрын

Donna, I use that excuse for New Year's

YES THIS IS THE 10TH YEAR IN A ROW IVE BEEN SINGLE OMG THAT IS LITERALLY ME EVERY YEAR!

I can identify with most of these, especially when going to family function, calling my daughter to make sure she’s inside before going to the door. I always do that. I have a long list of reasons why I can’t go - anywhere. And I’ve learned to say no!

"This should only take several weeks" ugh, that is the stone cold truth. I was actually sick with pneumonia this year and had to miss it, but every year my sister's Christmas party fills me with such dread and anxiety, that I fear going. The all get so mad at me, because they're all socially normal humans. 😷😷😷 It's frustrating being an introvert with high-functioning anxiety 😑😑

@kikiceline2413

4 жыл бұрын

Samantha Mansfield maybe you should book a trip way before Christmas so no one can invite/force you to gatherings. Then you can enjoy a stress free Christmas.

@kikiceline2413

4 жыл бұрын

Altruistic Misanthrope if you can attend several Christmas parties then you can also hole up somewhere for a few days instead. Doesn’t have to be a holiday, just a place quiet.

Lets not forget to say the "Yes I am still alive, and no I have just been busy"

My goodness! You are so handsome, Frank, and get better looking as you get older! Your video cracked me up!!! Blessings!

Nine extroverts disliked this video. And are the reason I need Survival Guide at all. 😑

2020 no worries now but this is super funny 🤭under the christmas tree🤭

-Me at a work party dinner- Coworker: are you going to eat? Me: *in sensory overload* no, I'm good with whiskey for now 🙃

This was SO on point. I'm an introvert and I identified with EVERYTHING you suggested!!! Great video! 😂😂😂

Cooking and cleaning dishes are the best... when eating you have an excuse to not talk. You can go home after cleaning the dishes because with all those, you spent enough time to be recognize you are there and not just for attendance. When you go home, people would think you got tired with all the work.

What is your favorite sports? Hahaha

My trick is to stick with a trusted extrovert who knows I'm an introvert and they'd handle all the talking~ hehehe

As an extreme INFP, I can relate to all the tips! Thanks for the tips!😆

I like how this gets recommended to me right when it is needed again

Merry Christmas, FJ. Thank you for all your help this year.

Thanks to the pandemic I don’t have to make a excuse to stop people from coming to my house, I don’t even have to give reasons why.

These legitimately work. Every year during one of my family get togethers, I hide under the food table- been doing it for years. It's like I just disappear into thin air.

The way you talk while staring into the abyss!!😍 [soo INFJish]😅

I'm glad I've pretty much had to door slam everyone and can stay home.

@darkhorse7460

4 жыл бұрын

me, too.

Lucky me, my family consists of mostly introverts 😍✌️ So we all understand that we need our own time very soon for very long after meeting during the holidays 😂 Everyone is just like: Ahhh I am so exhausted, please don't talk to me🤚

I don't know, usually I listen to John Coltrane's version of My Favorite Things on repeat with the bass turned all the way up to put me in a meditative state while driving, but screaming might work, too. 😂 Merry Christmas 🎄

After the last 18 hrs I've had I can't believe I am laughing- thank you!

This is so cute and funny 😁 I actually call myself a survivor, this one I’ll add to my survival guide collection 😆 Also, HELLO HOLIDAYS ❄️

"the armadillos are moving farther and farther north every year"

Hilarious! I have one to add I do every year or at every party I go to: Find the family cat or dog, and spend time with it alone in the room while everyone is partying. Animals are the best recharge and companions...they understand your need to be alone. ~INFJ