"You're not obliged to give your spirit and intensity to things you care little about." Damn straight

@toccabrigitte2684

4 жыл бұрын

YES!

@just_a_jester420

4 жыл бұрын

Except SCHOOL

@KD-wz8tp

4 жыл бұрын

That was so thought provoking. I love it!

@catbatrat1760

4 жыл бұрын

@@just_a_jester420 Even that only goes so far. It's legal to drop out of college and even high school. In the case of college, you aren't legally obligated to attend in the first place. Granted, some jobs require a degree, but not all.

*Extrovert* - regain energy through socialising *Introvert* - regain energy through introspection

@TomScryleus

4 жыл бұрын

exactly

@msybadack

4 жыл бұрын

I would totally watch a video on that with people exchanging ideas and not one person that says a monologue

@Artemis583

4 жыл бұрын

It's not necessarily just socializing, but more so needing to engage with external environment. Not every extrovert values social connections.

@ghouling1111

4 жыл бұрын

ambivert - an introvert that can be extroverted and need social to gain energy at times while mostly needing introspection to regain energy.

@roxannesmith4519

4 жыл бұрын

Perfect description. I gain energy having time alone to process and consider things. I can socialize, but I find I need periods of solitude.

So many people act like being left alone with their thoughts and imagination is a bad thing, but that's where I thrive, grow, and recharge. My inner world is safe and limitless. It's in the external world where I find harsh limitations, confusion, disconnect.

@candidlyopinionated19

4 жыл бұрын

offtoneverlxnd same.

@Gibblin

4 жыл бұрын

Same here, to an extent. Sometimes I tend to overthink, and really the only way that helps is music. It’s like it music puts a cap on my negative thoughts. Those negative thoughts are there when I want them, but are harder to reach.

@youraveragearmy

4 жыл бұрын

Gibbster Dedogg I'm the same way

@robertn-77

4 жыл бұрын

yes

@TuomasKivioja

4 жыл бұрын

spot on, I resonate with that 100%

I don't like small talk, I prefer something deep, intellectually stimulating.

@tashW7092

4 жыл бұрын

I don't like small talk either because it's frustrating and boring

@tashW7092

4 жыл бұрын

@@amoxzi I like your perspective

@ManifestOptimism

3 жыл бұрын

@@amoxzi well that's understandable

@cornelia_v

3 жыл бұрын

Completely agree with you. I also like deep conversations, that make you think and question life.

@Momma_AL

3 жыл бұрын

I hate small talk. It’s a pointless waste of time to me.

"Introversion is a preference for environments that are not overstimulating." I love that definition and it sounds like me.

@vrinkee

4 жыл бұрын

True. As an introvert, I love hanging out with people, talking about common interests or how we view the world and ourselves, but I can start to feel drained if I'm forced into small talk, if there's too much background noise that drowns out my thoughts, or if multiple people are demanding my attention at once. I'm very sensitive to smells along with sounds and I have many allergies. For example, if I hear someone singing out of tune or playing a wrong note, I automatically have a strong reaction to it and it can ruin my mood. I'm thinking this oversensitivity may also be where my problems with multitasking are rooted. Overall, I enjoy the company of people I care about, but I get drained easily since due to the attention the situations demand of me. My own personal fears of missing out also affecting me as I end up overloading myself....

@TheLadyDelirium

4 жыл бұрын

I live in a seaside town and love solitary walks along the beach. I was meeting friends at a city centre train station recently. When I got off the train my friends were excitedly talking but I was so aware of the hundreds of people around me, the unnatural lighting, the noise of construction workers. It felt like too much, part of me wanted to get back on the train. Next time they can chill with me on the beach.

@caffeinefiend9304

4 жыл бұрын

Yup. I prefer chilling at a friend's house to going to party anyday

@tylasmyth

4 жыл бұрын

AMEN!!!

@lourencovieira313

4 жыл бұрын

@@vrinkee You have hypersensivity too?

I'm an introvert because: I love my company more People physically exhaust me Being fake all the time drains me That's it.

@1x0x

4 жыл бұрын

u dont choose to be an introvert lol

@scorpi4814

4 жыл бұрын

@@1x0x what are you talking about?! I am an introvert and gave some personal example why.

@KalleHullu

4 жыл бұрын

Have you thought about not being fake?

@scorpi4814

4 жыл бұрын

@@KalleHullu tell me how to do that in this world full of different personalities and behaviors and I'll give you my life

@biancab2399

4 жыл бұрын

@Bobby Tawil no, but extroverts are more likely to accept superficial things

"you do not owe anybody an apology for who, and how you are" this hit different and made me tear up this is a great video

@celiasaiz3786

4 жыл бұрын

yes same

@ghazardgaming1874

4 жыл бұрын

But introverts should still try to meet new people and get out of their shell

@BABYGIRL-sm7il

3 жыл бұрын

It is sometimes difficult for a introvert cause you dont know who you can trust and extroverts dont really wait so long just for a introvert too finally open up cause their mind set is defrent then we think

@spaceman7978

3 жыл бұрын

@@ghazardgaming1874 yes i agree but some of us have anxiety anf it makes it hard to

@onlyhuman5669

3 жыл бұрын

*as long as you don't hurt other people :) which I'm sure we don't do♥️

"Any environment that consistently leaves you feeling bad about who you are is the wrong environment." -Laurie Helgoe. YESSS

@fabiennemarquis7187

3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree

@Holly-Berry

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for that quote. It helps me.

I’m coming to the realization that most youtubers are introverts.. myself included. It’s much easier speaking to a camera rather than a live audience

@dinis8271

4 жыл бұрын

Nate O'Brien Of course you like Nathaniel’s videos, you have to to excel in life like you do.

@rashedulkabir6227

4 жыл бұрын

PewDi pie is an extrovert.

@xD3fiNiTiOnx

4 жыл бұрын

Rashedul Kabir wrong

@rashedulkabir6227

4 жыл бұрын

@@xD3fiNiTiOnx He can talk with all kinds of people. He is very loud.

@RachelNicole

4 жыл бұрын

I find it easier talking on camera than to a group of people too lol

"any environment that leaves you feeling bad about who you are, is the wrong environment" "be picky about how you use your energy; you are not obliged to give your spirit and intensity to things you care little about" "How can you be with other people if you never learn how to be with yourself" "you do not owe anyone an apology for who or who you are" Beautifully put

@toccabrigitte2684

4 жыл бұрын

"any environment that leaves you feeling bad about who you are is the wrong environment." Thoughts instantly shift to family environment.

@tear728

4 жыл бұрын

That's a great philosophy. Then you don't really need to change who you are for any reason

@eddyalonsomoramorales6069

3 жыл бұрын

@@toccabrigitte2684 you're own thought's can be a bad enviroment

Me as a social introvert: i am the life of the party....if there are only 3 people at the party.

@linkinsam1796

4 жыл бұрын

LMAO same here.

@flowerg.8868

4 жыл бұрын

Wow, this is me.

@chukwuemekanneke221

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly😂

@lumbago9379

3 жыл бұрын

lmfaoooo

@satellises

3 жыл бұрын

Me: i am the life of the party! *...if there's just me with my cats....*

"I don't use the word 'friend' lightly" amen to that!! I always thought that it was just me being heartless or anti-social, but it always makes me feel better to know that there are more people who feel the same!

@jessw.6250

4 жыл бұрын

aryadeschain same... yet I find it so strange that (we) all that in common

@matineeman3038

3 жыл бұрын

aryadeschain batter**

@imeneezzeddine6449

3 жыл бұрын

We know the difference between acquaintanceship and friendship really well ...I guess that's why.

When you're an introvert watching this to learn more about yourself

@brianwalkup5214

4 жыл бұрын

Noah Mulder Bravo for you. There is a deep beauty in introversion, and I could not imagine being any other way.

@jessw.6250

4 жыл бұрын

Brian Walkup same.

@brianwalkup5214

4 жыл бұрын

Jess W. I love hearing you say that!

@noahm5069

4 жыл бұрын

@@brianwalkup5214 I'm just having trouble because I don't like clubs, parties,(even birthday parties) big crowds. Or talking a lot for that matter. Like when a question is asked in class I would never raise my hand, most of the talking others do is just not necessary in my opinion. I like quiet and the world makes me feel like that is weird and bad, and that I should like parties, talking to people and idk. Some tips?;)

@nikapevec2544

4 жыл бұрын

@@noahm5069 im same

I’m an introvert and I love being one. Even though the world doesn’t.

@MatthewHyatt

4 жыл бұрын

Same here! There's peace in it.

@AlexiaHDIntuition

4 жыл бұрын

Louie Alva Being yourself is crucial 💕

@andir8119

4 жыл бұрын

Louie Alva we are one

@heavydirtysoul1491

4 жыл бұрын

I was an introvert in my youth years during school and college. Only after 25 i understood how cool is it to be surrounded by people who behave and talk in the similar way like me do. It gives me the feeling of belonging to something bigger than me are myself.

@jessw.6250

4 жыл бұрын

Louie Alva SAME...bc it’s like the world doesn’t. But, I really don’t care. 😌👍

Introverts are commonly mislabelled as afraid to speak, when really we are avoiding mindless small talk and pointless interactions with strangers. We seek substance and engaging conversations with the people we choose to converse with.

@jdfleblanc

4 жыл бұрын

Well said

@quintinsilk361

4 жыл бұрын

Yes

@oyindabello554

4 жыл бұрын

Very very well said

@TuomasKivioja

4 жыл бұрын

this omg, finally someone else who sees it this way.

@nikapevec2544

4 жыл бұрын

yessss

As an introvert it always astounds me how offended some people get over things that I haven’t expressed as opposed to the common offenses others openly express. I find it fascinating 🧐

@Stephen-nd8fo

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!! Me too

Introversion: welcome to the world of silent reflection and complexity and deep thought.

@TomScryleus

4 жыл бұрын

I like that

@manelrejeb7890

4 жыл бұрын

Hi stephanie , i know that my comment is out of context but i would ask if we could be friends on Facebook or any other social media , i want to practice my english with a native to apply for a scholarship in the future and while watching this video i realised that people in this comment section are very similar to my personality and it would be perfect to practice english with one of them , i can teach you Arabic in exchange!

@tehflooper

4 жыл бұрын

Manel Rejeb you can download an app called “Tandem” to practice

@esem1367

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, to break an introverts deep thought is odious.

"I can't hear my own thoughts." That hit the bull's eye!

“You do not owe an apology for who you are and how you are.” I felt good after you said this line.

"How can you be with other people, if you never learn how to be with yourself" ,very well said

"I don't use words like lightly". That is so true to me. If I don't feel any conection with the other person, I don't consider him my friend. Is not that I hate him, it's just that your not my friend. That's all. Edit: Grammar.

@willstevens4289

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. It seems to me that, if I say that Fred is my friend, I’m not just talking about my attitude towards Fred; I’m also making a claim about Fred’s attitude towards me. And that claim, unless I know him very well, may be wrong and arrogant.

@lynn-9937

4 жыл бұрын

Omg same

@danial804

4 жыл бұрын

I don’t use the word friend lightly either. I have very few people I consider true friends. And as you said, I don’t hate people I don’t consider my friend, I just am not as comfortable around them in things like conversation.

@fakeotaku5788

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah I agree. I have best friends and then acquaintances, really. There’s not really an in between for me.

@1800-toolhouse

4 жыл бұрын

Elah i know how you feel :/ it really kind of sucks.

It’s so simple. Extroverts gain energy by being around people and introverts gain energy being alone. I like hanging out with people but I find myself needing some time alone before I can get back. However my brother, and extrovert, gets antsy in the house and needs to get out and see people and couldn’t sit down watching tv or scrolling on his laptop all day.

@gabrieltomaz6034

4 жыл бұрын

what is antsy?

@naomiworgu2232

4 жыл бұрын

@@gabrieltomaz6034 antsy is almost like being restless or not being able to sit still I think

@meryuk

4 жыл бұрын

A very good definition I would say. Of extro- and introverts.

@Mark-xw5yt

4 жыл бұрын

gabriel sgarbi like they got energy in them and gotta move. Like when a little kid gotta use the bathroom idk how to explain it

@meryuk

4 жыл бұрын

@@gabrieltomaz6034 like having ants in your pants 😊

People don't seem to understand that I don't use the word "friend" lightly. To an outsider I may seem to have dozens of friends, simply because of the different social groups that I spend time in. But I only really see three of the people there as *Friends.* This is because while I may feel inclined to talk to people, I *don't* want to share anything really personal with them, or go out of my way to be with them. This also makes finding a partner hard because while I love the idea of being with someone, I don't know if I'd be willing to let my personal tile and space go for it.

"I don't feel like I can hear my own thoughts." Oh man, that hit hard. I like people, but in social situations (especially loud ones) I feel like I am not in touch with my own mind; I find myself functioning at a much lower level cognitively, which leaves me feeling stupid and bad about myself. My least favorite thing is when I open up to people about my introversion, and their first reaction is to argue that I seem very sociable to them. That's because introversion does not equal the inability to be social, they can't see just how draining it is for me to do so.

I think the biggest difference between extroverts and introverts is that extroverts think that ‘being alone’ equals ‘being lonely’, while introverts love being alone and don’t feel lonely when they are

@msoiia

4 жыл бұрын

Fun fact: extroverts also looove being alone and dont feel lonely when they are, some of them. Its a SPECTRUM. There are a lot of extroverts that are tired of spending time with people, are quiet and at least as good as average intorovert in silent reflection and complexity and deep thought. Everyone is different and I would risk a statement that most people classify themselves wrongly.

@1x0x

4 жыл бұрын

Majka i disagree. the only part i agree with is that people classify themselves wrongly such as introverts like u trying to convince themselves they are extroverted when they are not

@msoiia

4 жыл бұрын

@@1x0x Nothing personal but I would rather belive ton of test Ive made, especially MBTI which for years show me the same result - ENFP (in my case, 80% extraversion and 20% intro) than you :) And for the record: I spent years thinking im strongly introverted (more! I was convinced im the most introverted person Ive ever met) when not even one pearson in my life would agree with this statement because usually i have extremely bubbly personality. Perks of being ENFP

@trevorphilips7314

4 жыл бұрын

Because in reality the extroverts are the weak of the duo

@la1dtowaste

4 жыл бұрын

I'm more of an extrovert and everytime I don't talk with anyone (when I'm not sleeping) for longer than an hour I feel so fucking lonely. And I check my WhatsApp every few minutes, like people actually talk to me.

i'm an introvert, I need to be alone to think, to read, to listen to music... and I mostly socialize in small groups or one to one, and I prefer to invite people to my home so I can cook them dinner and we can play games or talk all night. When that happens I can be really fun and loud, as I like humor and laughing and all that stuff. But I won't do this often, since I need plenty of time to '' recover ''. Also, I am very perfectionist with my work, and that's why I prefer to do things on my own so I can control every single aspect of it, so when it's necessary to do group projects at university I adopt a more dominant role so everything runs out smoothly, as I want things organized and well planned. But doing this is exhausting for me, even though other people wouldn't suspect it. I can adopt more typical extroverted atitudes when I want to or need to. So that's why I would always be confused if I was an introverted until I learned what introverted really means.

@jaleesalovely

4 жыл бұрын

Sara Salgado I 100% Agree! We are the same! It’s crazy!

@msoiia

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like 100% me. But in fact i'm 90% extrovert based on MBTI. Fun fact: extroverts also looove being alone and dont feel lonely when they are, some of them. Its SPECTRUM. There are a lot of extroverts that are tired of spending time with people, are quiet and at least as good as average introvert in silent reflection and complexity and deep thought. Everyone is different and I would risk a statement that most people classify themselves wrongly. Almost my entire life I was sure that I am the most introverted person I know, but I was wrong :D Introversion and extraversion has a lot of different types and what differ them is usually way of seeing the world, not how we act. I suggest you to check MTBI test, results can me really intresting. Also, my apologize for my english, it's quite new to me.

@bees0la276

4 жыл бұрын

The part about having to take time to recover took me out 🤣. I couldn't have said it better, especially the taking the dominant role part. Wow. This is me!

@nrasjid

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly feel the same way.

@alexei279

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly the same :3

Before, I always felt dumb when I'm surrounded by a group of extroverts who can talk confidently while I just stare and listen. But then I noticed i do have a lot to say, it's just that I get anxious that I might humiliate myself. Relate?

@jessimarie4413

4 жыл бұрын

Yes

@tashW7092

4 жыл бұрын

Me too. I observe to what other people are saying. If I don't have anything to say, then that's fine even though I am not shy sometimes. If someone talks about something that caught my attention or that I am interested in, then I would express my opinion. Next, like you, I do have a lot of things to say but I tend to get anxious that I might humiliate myself in front of others.

@jupongtonio2614

4 жыл бұрын

Yess

@lourencovieira313

4 жыл бұрын

Yes but then when Im in a smaller group of people I know, I dont mind leading a conversation and giving feedback.

@BrendaLopez-jr5tr

4 жыл бұрын

Yes 100% ... I always thought I was the only one, I just discovered myself not so long ago

I’m more extroverted but I love to give introverts room to talk without making them feel overwhelmed or ashamed if they can’t find what to say

I think extroverts fear lonliness far more that introverts. That makes them project that fear into introverts. Is not a bad thing is the nature of things

@Ronin-kk4bt

4 жыл бұрын

Leo Sabat well most of them see it as a negative thing so there’s some truth to that

@brianwalkup5214

4 жыл бұрын

Leo Sabat I think there is a beauty in accepting all points along the spectrum. Extroverts can’t help being who they are any more than we introverts can. Knowledge is power as the saying goes, and knowing how to interact with all sides is power in itself.

@blahblah1438

4 жыл бұрын

Leo Sabat very true

@jessw.6250

4 жыл бұрын

Leo Sabat I’ve heard some extroverts actually say they fear loneliness. My natural reaction was 🤢. I battle between finding their predicament pathetic or feeling quite sad for them. It’s more so not normal to hear someone say they are scared of what they might if they were alone.

@jessw.6250

4 жыл бұрын

Leo Sabat Btw, I like your profile picture! 😄

*I'm an Introvert* but I love Martial Arts and train in Boxing Many Introverts can communicate and Socialize pretty well, its just that most of us prefer to do things on our own and only prefer help when we ask of it.

@alexandrameister4148

4 жыл бұрын

Saaame

@MatthewHyatt

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@Sansansandia

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! I love to train track and field, It's just me on the track running and loving the moment.

@tonatiuhnino3711

4 жыл бұрын

MMA is life.

@cass4701

4 жыл бұрын

exactly!!

I've struggled with accepting my introversion, primarily due to social pressures for people within my age range (early-twenties). At times, I feel like I'm missing out on something, even if I don't know what that something is. There's a sense of social pressure for young adults to be out, drinking, and partying almost every weekend. While I believe there is nothing wrong with partying and drinking (as it's a personal choice), I've learned that it's not something I enjoy doing. I like to do things like read, write, spend time in nature etc. There have been times I've been told I don't seem "fun". Being labeled as not "fun" hurts my feelings at times. I'm learning to accept and learn more about things I like to do and to understand that the way others see me is not a definition of who I am. 😊

@tracy3364

4 жыл бұрын

You sound like my daughter who's 19 and feels that people think shes weird and boring because she wont go to clubs and doesnt enjoy drinking and likes to be by herself most of the time it hurts her too.. but shes a lovely person someone I'd like as a friend if I was the same age but because shes not loud and pushy shes overlooked by people. I teach her not to feel bad about herself shes very sensitive to peoples feelings and for a young girl has some really good advice at times...

@toritacoo1338

4 жыл бұрын

@@tracy3364 thank you for sharing your comment 💓 it was really touching when you said she would be someone you would want as a friend if you were the same age. May she know she is worthy and so special 😊

@ElouizaJCustodio

4 жыл бұрын

Hey i connect with this comment so much, though i love being by myself and doing my own thing sometimes i see people going out and feel like I’m missing out. Since going to university I realised that there are many people who 1) are just like you and understand that sometimes you prefer to be home 2) who will make you feel like you are just as great as the people who seem to go out a lot. I found that from being myself more, I attracted people who respected that I may not constantly talk on the phone, but also feel comfortable hanging out 1 on 1 and like to do the same things as me! When you reach that level of acceptance in yourself, it’s almost as if you don’t even think of yourself as ‘different’ x

@toritacoo1338

4 жыл бұрын

@@ElouizaJCustodio thank you for sharing your response! 💓

@EliTasrev

4 жыл бұрын

Tracy Your daughter sounds like me. She shouldn't feel bad about herself and not lose hope that there won't be people that match her personality. There will be people that see her and appreciate her

When you said you felt like you “couldn’t hear your own thoughts” after being around a lot of people that really resonated with me. I’ve always not really felt like “myself” after I hang out with a lot of people for a long period of time

Ngl I just don’t like being around people. I’m fine in social situations I just don’t want to be around people.

Everyone throws "ALONE" in your face. It's just a projection of their own fears Ex broads - You're going to end up alone!!! Married friends - You want to die alone bro??? I'm more worried about losing my "ALONE" Time

@TomScryleus

4 жыл бұрын

exactly

@emie1170

4 жыл бұрын

if these is what your friends say to you... maybe step back a bit

@sleepysartorialist

4 жыл бұрын

The fact that you’re calling your ex partners “broads” says more about your character than your pithy attempt to be deep. You’re alone because you’re a jerk, dude.

@sardonic_smile_8752

4 жыл бұрын

When females surreptitiously ask if you are "afraid of being alone?" They are actually projecting their own fears. As for married people? Misery loves company.

@wadeos2123

4 жыл бұрын

Sammmeee!!! I’m worried about losing my alone time also

The one thing that I never understood about myself is, that I feel best, when I'm around people, who I feel a deep connection with and who accept me for who I am. I don't actually like being alone, I just don't like being with people, who drain my energy or consume me. Since I only have one or two friends, who make me feel accepted wholeheartedly, I feel either drained or lonely most of the time. There's hardly any balance there ..

Roses are red, Violets are blue, I am a proud introvert, And So are you!!

@p1c4v3t

4 жыл бұрын

Spirituality is Understanding 😂🙏👍🏼

@TomScryleus

4 жыл бұрын

hehe.. LOL ;-)

@LukeMlsna

4 жыл бұрын

Roses are red, Violets are blue, I’m reading right now, Please go away.

@brad4013

4 жыл бұрын

This channel is a magnet for introverts.

@dudemanbroguy5747

4 жыл бұрын

I would sell my soul to be an extrovert, you are truly blessed if you were born as one

Your energy is where you place your attention. It’s more challenging to be selective in these higher stimulus scenarios. The word fragmented comes to mind - I feel better when I can use my intention more freely above the noise and distraction. Thanks Nathaniel.

@nathanieldrew

4 жыл бұрын

That is such a great way to put it, I completely agree.

As an extrovert I want to say that introverts are amazing. I think there’s this stigma that all introverts are socially awkward or no fun, but that is so dumb. Introverts just gets energy from being alone than from socializing and that’s fine. Introverts can be as cool to hang out with and kick it with the best of them. I am SO social and have met every range of person, and I can say that some of the closest people around me are introverts. They can listen, they can love, and they can be such a blast, you just got to give them their time and space when they need it 😊

@neuron_star

4 жыл бұрын

Miloh Fitzarthur Oliveira This tbh!! (From a fellow extrovert)

@Introvertedalpha

Жыл бұрын

Appreciated hearing these insights!

"pointless painful small talk" this is something some people can handle, others, like Nathaniel and many of us can't, or don't want to deal with. I love the way he speaks his thoughts and all about introversion, just want to point out, there's another thing called "ambivert", which makes sense to those who love to be both loud & quiet equally. I hope he can create a future video about that, and dive deeper into it!

@neuron_star

4 жыл бұрын

mina hey Thank you for so far being the only person I’ve found that has even mentioned us ambiverts 🙏

@mina4426

4 жыл бұрын

@@neuron_star lol yeah idk why rarely anyone knows that an ambivert is also a thing

@theye29

3 жыл бұрын

@@neuron_star just look for one vídeo about extroversion and one about introversion and bang.

Be the person you are. When you throw away any aspirations for being as funny as X or as charming as Y or as outgoing as Z, you will be able to fulfill your full potential. If you try to be someone that you're not, you'll never get close to who you want to be. No one can be you but you. Play to your strengths. God bless.

Well said! I think being an introvert shows my preference for having quality friendships and meaningful conversations. Great video

@TomScryleus

4 жыл бұрын

me too

@abd4620

4 жыл бұрын

May the forceful grants you what you are seeking in your journey

@purplegirl8036

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly and if I'm not doing that then I could be zoning out. They still want to hang out after hours of hanging out and I'm like okay well maybe we could just sit in silence and watch netflix and I still have to take brain energy to process their useless thoughts because they've literally ran out of quality things to talk about and their still going. It's like shut up and stop talking. Relax.

I wish my mother knew English so I could show this to her ! Being the only introvert in the family sucks

@HelenavV_

4 жыл бұрын

I don't know what language your mom speaks but there are captions in all kinds of languages! (If you're on mobile, hit the three dots and tap on captions)

@mundoossandon2220

3 жыл бұрын

Same

Well said! My 13 yo. son is an introvert and we respect his need to be alone (and not talk) after school. He enjoys hanging with friends, sports, etc. but needs down time before and after

@fawnNheadlights

3 жыл бұрын

Thats wonderful that you treat him with respect like that to know what his specific needs are to be happy (sane lol)! It's really hard to be around somebody that dont understand that being an introvert means you need to recharge alone, and they don't give you that so you feel overwhelmed all the time

@TitaniumTronic

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you,I wish my family was like you guys,Ones who actually understands

@cherruveam5871

2 жыл бұрын

if only my parents were like you :/

This is definitely interesting. I noticed for myself that I don't deal well with larger groups of people I don't know. I have trouble striking up a conversation or becoming part of the group, especially if these are more, as you said, "casual" interactions. And this doesn't depend on whether I had enough time for myself that day, it's always the case. However, if you'd observe me inside my existing group of friends, I would probably seem like more of an extrovert. I can talk A LOT and I can even be loud when the mood is right. I can also spend a lot of time with my friends without getting exhausted. It feels like I'm a different person depending on the people around me. I also noticed that, at least with strangers, I very much prefer 1-on-1 conversations or VERY small groups. I can have long, meaningful conversations with someone I just met if the circumstances are right. What I'm struggling with is whether I should expose myself to more uncomfortable social situations, or whether I should accept that this is how I am. I love Yes Theory's motto "Seek Discomfort", but even in the occasions when I tried to attend meetups of bigger groups where I don't know anyone, I never really "felt it" and I'm always happy when it's over.

@FearlessDreams

4 жыл бұрын

I think seeking discomfort is different to what you explain here. It seems like you feel more yourself by being more introverted. That's the most important, in my opinion - to feel yourself and let your personality shine. When it comes to discomfort, I see that more in the sense of achieving something, for example developing a business, KZread channel, meeting a girl/guy or whatever. I always follow this motto - if it doesn't feel right, I skip it. If it feels hard and I can justify the reward - I push forward.

@ElizRued

4 жыл бұрын

@@FearlessDreams exactly I've had this same dilemma and this is how I approached it. I am introverted bc that's how I recharge my energy even though I can be social, friendly and therefore look extroverted but definitely is not natural to force yourself to be in way you are not. However, if you are working towards certain skill like giving presentations etc. I've done it and I became really good. So working on your talents and shining your own self is my balance:)

@drunkenchords3370

4 жыл бұрын

The idea of "seeking discomfort," for me is a bit like jumping off a swing when you're a kid. Feeling the nerves, but doing it in spite of them. It can also feel like (as you face the "discomfort,") swallowing stones with some fried nerves for flavor. For me, learning to play guitar was a jumping off the swing feeling. But signing up for summer courses at my local college brought the stones into play. Some discomfort is key to living a life you can be proud of, I think. But not every situation, event or person is going to be like jumping off a swing. Learning the difference between these for you, and sticking to the boundaries you discover is the way I've found that I'm happiest in my introvert skin :)

I saw this quote one day on Reddit which said the following: I tend to believe all people have two gas tanks. One that can only filled up by the company of those you can truly connect with, and one that can be only be filled up by time alone. And they are different sizes for different people. I find this quote really true, but when I find myself alone in a more permanent level, I have seen it wrecking my mood and leading me to an state close to depression, so yeah, each one of us needs to find their own balance.

@saraf5414

4 жыл бұрын

Love this example!

@LOfficial55

4 жыл бұрын

It’s cool to see this. I kinda “made up” the saying: “my extrovert batteries” to tell my friends when i feel like i can socialize or not. For example i would be at a busy crowded place where we spent alot of time and i would tell them something like “my extrovert batteries are low, so im gonna go” 😅

This explains why all i want to do when I get home from school is sit down and relax. All day I have been in an environment where everyone else wants *their* voice to be heard. This explains better why I stopped doing sports. I didn't want to be in an environment where it is my physical ability against the physical ability of someone who I have likely never met. This is why I can't do small talk with random people for very long. With friends, I could talk for hours. I already knew I was introverted, I just didn't really know why. Thank you for making this video.

@myrtila

3 жыл бұрын

I felt that on a spiritual level! School always drained my energy and the only thing I wanted to do after school was sleep, chill and be alone with my thoughts. Sports were also super tiring because everyone would be so loud and I also hated competition.

I’m so glad i found this because I thought I was crazy because I don’t like talking to people because I constantly think I’m doing it wrong but I don’t like being alone all the time and like everywhere I see stereotypes of introverts don’t describe me thank you - a growing teen

YOU DO NOT OWE ANYBODY AN APOLOGY FOR WHO OR HOW YOU ARE!

@sayanneogie

4 жыл бұрын

Words to live by 💯

@akritiishere

4 жыл бұрын

More people need to see it.

@giulietta-1555

4 жыл бұрын

Osei Kwame thanks :)

@marcc7595

4 жыл бұрын

As a very probably social anxious guy I can say it's hard to follow this sentence, but very useful.

@mosunmolabalogun7605

4 жыл бұрын

Nice...but easier in writing☹

I can safely say 100% of what you said is true in my eyes. I look at it as a social drive. The more I get out and interact with people, the lower my drive becomes and the more I feel the need to escape. If i'm going out to town or something similar i'll rest all day even sometimes the day before, just to give myself the best chance of not being boring and anti-social as possible. I don't see anything wrong with it as it gives me a lot of alone time to figure out the things I truly care about in life. It's really nice hearing this from your perspective!

@ahlamh.2127

4 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. On the other hand it is super hard if I find myself in a very tough week with a lot of social events and no alone-time. Still need to find out how to deal with it

@ryliek6832

4 жыл бұрын

Ahlam H. Yep I’m the same. I’m starting a new business in the next couple of months which is going to get me completely outside of my comfort zone. Honestly I can’t wait, I’m sick of acting how I do around people

@theapplechapel

4 жыл бұрын

The worst thing for me is when someone pushes me to go out when I know I'm drained. I get there and I'm no fun to be around and that gets blamed on me not trying. I have to be really stubborn to protect my boundaries. Unfortunately extroverts often don't understand and expect that if you don't have an excuse then you must not like them.

@ryliek6832

4 жыл бұрын

theapplechapel I get in exactly the same position! Crazy how so people feel like this yet it’s almost frowned upon in everyday life.. We just need space

"Pointless and painfull small talk." I love that! Even with a small group of close friends, or family, I'm good for about two hours, then I'm dying to be alone doing my own thing.

I was introduced to someone just the other day, and he said to me, "what, are you just gonna sit there with a cloud over your head the whole time?" because I wasn't speaking. I really never have much to say (I think a lot, but those thoughts usually won't make it into words) unless I know I can add to the conversation - which isn't that often. Unless someone is asking me questions or talking to me directly, I just don't talk. Usually, I'm quite comfortable this way and it doesn't really feel that awkward to me, especially if I'm with a good person I consider my friend. I have a lot of "comfortable" silences but some may not think of them as that. I just prefer to listen.

@catbatrat1760

4 жыл бұрын

"what, are you just gonna sit there with a cloud over your head the whole time?" Sheesh. :/ That's just plain rude.

@fawnNheadlights

3 жыл бұрын

I get that all the time and it makes me feel bad. They don't even let me explain why I'm not talking they just continue talking. Like well at least I'm a good listener.... lol I went to a Greek restaurant and the owner was talking a lot to who I was with. He's a big talker so they went on and on and I was mute. I wasn't interested in the conversation and I dknt know him haha. But he made a point to ask why I don't talk and i need to talk more that you have to talk in life or something. Lol well, I like to think and listen. I mean i want to talk when I'm interested in the conversation and person...plus i like to speak when I have something meaningful to say...not just talk to have noise

@fabiennemarquis7187

3 жыл бұрын

@@catbatrat1760 that really is

I m crying right now... because it s exactly what I ve been struggeling with. Thank you for making me feel I m not alone

@TomScryleus

4 жыл бұрын

You are certainly not alone

@1x0x

4 жыл бұрын

theres nothing to struggle about. being an introvert means u can be happy by urself and dont need others to make u feel a certain way

Your videos are so relaxing to watch, a breath of fresh air on a noisy platform

@TomScryleus

4 жыл бұрын

agree 100 %

I never knew that I'm introvert when I was young, I just thought because I'm so quiet that something is wrong with me (introvert stigma) and when when i'm older I will be more social. After knowing about introversion I love myself now, I made peace with myself, now i know how important me time is and when I'm around the right group I don't shut up. now I know that I seek conversations that are informative rather than just causal talking, knowing and understanding yourself is the best win in life

@tashW7092

4 жыл бұрын

High five

@NA-hg9qw

3 жыл бұрын

We're mostly winning in deep conversations then a small talk lol.

As a fellow introvert and someone who's been feeling a little depressed about their life choices of late, I really needed this. Thank you Nathaniel Drew.

@brianwalkup5214

4 жыл бұрын

wolfie558 I am so glad you found something that would lift you up. We introverts can’t feel pulled down by being ourselves. I have found that the more I learn about my introversion, the less pulled down I get.

So relatable, if you know you have a party that night, you spend the whole day alone. Also, so glad you brought up Susan Cain’s book Quiet - that is a MUST read!

Nathaniel, Susan Cain's book "Quiet" saved my life 6 years ago, when I was 14 years old. I never understood why I couldn't interact with groups and I was occasionally hating myself. i was sad and lonely. Susan Cain's book taught me that I am normal. That nothing is wrong with me. This label helped me understand myself.

can we get this straight: just cuz someone’s loud, outgoing, cheerful, etc, doesn’t mean they’re an extrovert 🤷‍♂️

@neuron_star

4 жыл бұрын

Steamy Sulixx THANK YOU

@fancytuna6415

3 жыл бұрын

Marsh Nah lmaoo I’m an introvert myself, and I can be loud and cheerful around certain people and if I’m in the mood

@ft.jackjimmy7282

3 жыл бұрын

I’m an introvert but I hate it when people also described extroverts are loud because they’re obnoxious and rude, I feel anyone can be rude or obnoxious without being loud. Both sides of the spectrum get their shares of criticism.

@nermervillarreal2691

3 жыл бұрын

@Maff Umm no, an introvert can be just as social or even more social than an extrovert, being introvert or extrovert has nothing to do with socialness, it's about how one regains or exhausts energy.

@onlyhuman5669

3 жыл бұрын

But.... That IS the definition of an extrovert🤦‍♀️

Whenever I have a conversation with someone especially an extrovert I feel like I would be much more productive being introspective or having a discussion with myself/deep thinking. I am even at the point where I get excited alone and very euphoric and I feel other humans are just there to drain me and waste my time.

@Mateo-et3wl

4 жыл бұрын

You might be full of yourself

@nermervillarreal2691

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mateo-et3wl Yeah, it screams big ego

Susan Cain's book helped me a lot when it comes to understanding myself! Is a GREAT book

@ueleboxill6863

4 жыл бұрын

marcos antonio when I was 17 my therapist recommended that book to me and it made me feel so much better. I actually began to see my introversion as a gift and not a curse

We introverts are surely mysterious and amazing.... We really love to hang up with the mysterious imaginations of our mind... personally in which we all are hero....

For me it’s like, I have to have some alone time doing what I like, reading, drawing, writing etc. to “recharge” But if I “recharge” for too long, if I spend too much time without seeing anyone it makes me desperate to be social and around people. When I get that “desperate” I don’t really care if those people I’m around are my friends or just classmates, as long as it doesn’t make me feel bad. Then again after being “recharged” by hanging out with people I get back to needing some time alone. I suck at explaining I just felt like I had to write that to myself

@myrtila

3 жыл бұрын

I think you’re an introvert or an ambivert. No matter what people say on the internet, it’s perfectly normal for an introvert to crave social interaction from time to time. You’re a human after all. Humans are made to be around other people, even though some of them can thrive better off their own.

I've also been labeled as too serious. I'm an introvert an for most part of my short life I felt like I wasn't normal, I still feel that way sometimes, but I've been accepting that fact, that I'm an introvert and there's nothing wrong with it. This is an amazing video and the way you explain what is to be an introvert it's very accurate, at least for me. Well done! 7:11 IMPORTANT REMINDER

Finding out that I am introverted was one of the biggest revelations I've had - probably ever. I suggest people who haven't had a closer look at that topic to do so. It can make day to day interactions easier and you'll foster an understanding for the opposite side. If we respect each other for who or what we are, we'll all be better off.

Quite frankly, I cannot begin to explain you how much your videos help me. The part about superficial interactions is very relatable; it's draining beyond imagination. I think we should really bring back the word "aquaintance" into our vocabulary.

In my early 20’s I was considered a social butterfly, beyond an extrovert. With age I have discovered that I have become a better version of myself when I became an introvert. It was not intentional I started to feel overwhelmed in large social events. I embraced journaling and meditation and it has been a life changing experience. Thanks for the video!

This is me everyday when I go to school, it’s hard for me to interact. I’m such a shy, quiet, and reserved person. I only speak, when I feel I need to, or if there’s something I’m interested in. Also, it’s weird how people think your up to something when your quiet! :(

@brianwalkup5214

4 жыл бұрын

Zaccaï Don’t be too hard on extroverts who don’t understand you. They take social clues in a very different way than we do. They feel just as awkward in dealing with us because they don’t naturally understand how we put out our social clues. There is always room to understand and accept each other when we understand more. I love people who are careful with their words. When they speak, they really have something to say. You are awesome just they way you are and so are extroverts.

@jessw.6250

4 жыл бұрын

Zaccaï OMG SAME

@catbatrat1760

4 жыл бұрын

@@brianwalkup5214 I agree. It's not right for extroverts to judge introverts, but I've also heard a few introverts basically say "I pity you poor fools." And that's not okay, either. Just because a group commonly looks down on you doesn't give you the right to look down on that group as well, especially since there's bound to be plenty of people in that group who have never done you wrong. We should all at least try to understand one another. They don't get to be jerks, and neither do we. Period.

@myrtila

3 жыл бұрын

People in school think I’m a b* just because I don’t ever talk

Thank you for clearing these misconceptions up and you make a great point about the many societal biases towards extroverted people.

People always thought being an introvert is bad. When I was growing up, I struggled because of this mindset. Now that I have grown up, I am happy that I am embracing my introversion and myself. Introverts should not be looked down upon because extroverts are not better than introverts. No one is better than another. I hope this video reaches more people especially teenagers who are trying to embrace and learn about themselves. If my younger self could see this video, it would be so helpful.

The more I tried to fit in as a teen the more I felt not myself. I do prefer calm environnement because I have so many projects in my mind. My boyfriend is the opposite. He feels dead when he is not in a social event while I feel not at ease at all because I just don't find anything to say. I struggle in clubs while I love to dance at home. On the other hand, I really enjoyed living in Spain for 5 years and getting into the culture. It was an experience but Madrid is a mzd city that is never quiet, I ended up feeling wrecked. But I like being with an extrovert , he helps me getting out of my bubble. He just need to understand I need isolate myself a lot of time. I relate so much with your video! J'espère que ton séjour à Paris se passe bien.

I can relate to this so much. I always thought I was dumb or something but through videos like these I understand myself a whole lot better. And thank you for your closing statements, I dont owe anyone an explanation about who I am or how I am.

I loved "Quiet", I felt like it spoke to me directly. I was so excited to realize im not a ill person because i dislike groups. I unfortunately suffered from shyness and social anxiety as a younger person. However as I've entered my 50's i find im not shy but very introverted. In America this is frowned upon. I have always felt like a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. Thankyou for doing this follow up video. Everybody should read her book, even extroverts, so they can understand introverts! We are not frieks!

@brianwalkup5214

4 жыл бұрын

Elsa Johnson Quiet is a life changing book. It gave me a depth of understanding about myself that never achieved in a lifetime of struggle.

Your comment "I don't use the term friend lightly" struck a chord with me, I think that leads to people like us moving farther from the crowd because others throw the term "friend" so much that it hurts is when we find out that we don't mean as much to them as they do to us. If that makes any sense.

I LOVE the fact that you defined introversion for yourself, but did not necessarily force your own experience as a truth. It really is a spectrum. Thank you for an amazing video

This was needed!

Another definition of introversion vs extroversion: how you feel most energized, when alone or with people? The ultimate goal in my mind is to feel fully secure, comfortable, and owning my introversion fully. It helps to visualize the emotional experience a social event I may be feeling nervous about will bring. First, uneasy, then, I imagine myself eventually fully relaxed and engaged in a deeper more meaningful exchange with one or two people. It helps to quiet down the worries of not feeling loud enough, easy going enough, etc

Every video of yours like this that I watch I feel more in tune with myself and more acceptable. Thank you for continuing to provide us with your wisdom and clarity.

Oh, Nathaniel!!! You're so needed. Finally someone put in words what I feel. Thanks! : )

Thank you you summed it beautifully.. being in a crowd gets overwhelming at times but not all the time. Thank you again.

I think I'm an introvert aswell. School was always exhausting for me cause all of these forced conversations and noise. Now I'm thinking about becomming a teacher to create a nice learning atmosphere for every student, understandig the introverts or shy ones and showing them that they're okay this way and they have their own strengths. Just not the same as the extroverts. The only problem with that is, that you should probably be quite extrovertet to be a teacher and I'm afraid that it would be to much for myself. Is any introvertet teacher outthere who can relate? I do also think that it is possible for any personality to change. I mean, we are allways changing, aren't we? So maybe I can just try to become extrovertet and gain my energy by being around my students...

i've just clicked immediately since i saw a notification. I'm immensely into your contents.

@nathanieldrew

4 жыл бұрын

I'm honored!!

Thank you for making this video. I've been struggling with a lack of self-identity for a while now. Watching this video made me understand myself better.

I love this! I'm very similar to this. I'm quite chatty when I get to know people so they think that I'm extroverted, but I actually need a lot of time alone just to re-charge. I really struggle with small talk with people I don't know very well. It used to make me dislike myself but as an adult, I love this ability, it makes me feel less social pressure and I feel so much freedom without the pressure to conform to other people's standards all the time. I also find that the friends I do have are really good friends that I care deeply about - which I consider a massive benefit.

Notif squad let's go!

*great video Nathaniel* *enjoyed your thoughts about this topic.* *Keep doing what you are doing!*

Just wanted to drop a thank you! You speak to my soul, make me feel understood. Thank you for your channel, content, and honesty.

Hey Nathaniel, I've been following you for about a year and am so impressed with and inspired by your style. Really encouraging to see a solid introvert get after it on KZread in a unique way that doesn't conform to the usual trends. Keep asking the big questions and cheers!

I only followed Nathaniel about like 1 month ago & can already tell that this is my absolute favorite content on KZread! Keep going buddy

@stutisingh5973

4 жыл бұрын

Samee

Every word you say is exactly what I feel. Thank you so much

So perfectly said! Thanks!! So nice to hear some helpful and meaningful validation for how I feel.

This is a very powerful video. I literally found myself in it. Thank you for all the effort you have put into the making of this video, it is truly a very special one.

Great stuff bro!

5:39 same as me i hate pointless talk and can't handle it more than 10 min , but i can talk for hours about a specific subject

@jessw.6250

4 жыл бұрын

ZainTime l زين تايم same

Man... I feel relieved after watching this. Thank you Nathaniel... Can relate to how he's feeling so well

very clearly and well put...all of it, and how the small talk is extremely draining, while an interesting one on one conversation nurtures the soul and I can go on forever...

I keep confusing myself wether I'm just a hardcore introvert or I just hate people lmao😂

@nermervillarreal2691

3 жыл бұрын

I think you just hate people, that's rough buddy XD

Can we just take a moment to notice his cool kitchen? Green wall, Lemon paining, a cutting board that’s says “cut pig”.

Amazing closing👏🏽 Thanks for the insight!

Wow, I relate to this so heavily. Especially the part about being too serious, im constantly afraid to talk about things that I care about. Im constantly told im too serious, overly mature, slightly distant, a whole collection of things. I also resonated heavily with the "I don't use the word friend lightly" i have always kept small and close company of those I find supportive and mentally stimulating, it was just comfortable to hear that im not the only person that's often labelled in a negative light, thank you,.

Roses are red, Voilets are blue, When I see Nathaniel Drew, I watch him on KZread