"maybe I've been reflecting too much", he reflects

@jnewmark41

3 жыл бұрын

Oh no. Keep reflecting. I see you.

@fluffyclouds555

3 жыл бұрын

Lol this is personal for me. So me

@SecretCollage

3 жыл бұрын

hahahahahaaaaa

@elysianspark3

3 жыл бұрын

Lol Something I’m equally guilty of 🤫

@avery.s7681

3 жыл бұрын

bruh, same. i think i over analyse my own actions n emotions, i feel like some people just feel the emotion n move on. I feel it stronger cos I'm stuck as to WHY I'm feelingit tho

1 People will remember how you made them feel 2 Stay in your lane 3 The most important relationship that you have in life is with yourself

@SamMartinPeakPerformance

3 жыл бұрын

Yes #1 is so key and people often overlook it

@faizulazim2906

3 жыл бұрын

@@SamMartinPeakPerformance Exactly! Lately I've been thinking about this.

@elvijsk

3 жыл бұрын

thanks for saving me a lot of time!

@lena___

3 жыл бұрын

thank you

@yurioliveira2744

3 жыл бұрын

u just gave me 11 minutes of my life, hope your family never gets sick and all of yall become millionaires

On my first date, I forgot my wallet and she threw up twice. That was 4.5 years ago and we got married this weekend!

@akashkhushal6505

3 жыл бұрын

That's so beautiful showing that thing's don't have to be perfect they just have to be real Congratulations 💐💐💐 on your marriage and I wish a very happy married life to you 🎉🎉🎊🎊

@mr.sushi2221

3 жыл бұрын

Lol congrats

@user-hq7hg2vx5l

3 жыл бұрын

Jesus christ

@julzmio

3 жыл бұрын

That’s a love story

@simonettiluca

3 жыл бұрын

Good lad :)

To simplify my worst date: she came with her boyfriend.

@EvinNazya

3 жыл бұрын

LOL YIKES my g.

@CandidlySubtle

3 жыл бұрын

What?? I suppose she was trying to make some kind of point to her boyfriend?

@agugonzalez5481

3 жыл бұрын

@@CandidlySubtle actually, i knew they were on a break, that was the main reason for the date, but he just showed up at her house when she was leaving to see me at the bar and... well, she doesnt handled it very brightly, i guess. He kinda leave us alone for a while, but the situation overwhelmed me and i took off asap. Later that night i received a lot of questions from him on my phone, haha, it was insane

@CandidlySubtle

3 жыл бұрын

@@agugonzalez5481 Oh okay, she didn't do it intentionally; it just happened. Yeah, I would have been overwhelmed, too. And maybe ran, too haha.

@motivationredefinedhm1396

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

So you’re telling me the three simple ideas that are changing your life AREN’T tying your shoe laces, making a cup of coffee, and staring at a handful of paintbrushes???

@pinasmuna7085

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@jithin2216

3 жыл бұрын

Took me a while...but I get it now! 😅

@falloutchar8029

3 жыл бұрын

I WAS SHOOK TOo. NOT GONNA LIE.

@diamondgarcia9409

3 жыл бұрын

Ffr

@myselfasevan

3 жыл бұрын

I was going to say using chopsticks for the last one 🇯🇵

What changed my life: Taking walks! Nothing like a calm thirty minutes of being by yourself, reflecting on things that were, things that are and things that will be.

@ELINAHAWK

3 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said.

@JonJosephKuhn

3 жыл бұрын

Walks are undoubtedly underrated. Especially during quarantine or for people who were already working from home.

@nathanieldrew

3 жыл бұрын

That's a great one, I agree!

@williamnelson792

3 жыл бұрын

In the far South the sun of autumn is passing Like Walt Whitman walking along a ruddy shore. He is singing and chanting the things that are part of him, The worlds that were and will be, death and day. Nothing is final, he chants. No man shall see the end. His beard is of fire and his staff is a leaping flame. Wallace Stevens

@ellelaforte3443

3 жыл бұрын

Love this! I take super long walks after work and call it the in-between time. I’m absolved of all sense of responsibility, just me, some music in my ears and my camera until whenever I’m ready to head home.

I'm 56 years old, I really wish we'd had the internet and videas like this when I was about 20. It's great to see these topics thought about and discussed, not only thought provoking but also life affirming.

@kilmouski4220

3 жыл бұрын

I am 48. I absolutely agree. I love that hopefully all of us, but especially those younger than we are, are delving deep into these ideas and thoughts.

@ilinemanja6060

3 жыл бұрын

I don't agree. The largest part of my generation is not able to simply do nothing and think about philosophical topics. This is mostly because we don't know life without internet. We don't learn wise lessons from our grandpas and other family members anymore. Everything comes from the internet... It tears families apart. But that's just my opinion as a generation z person.

@reenasingh-id9zh

3 жыл бұрын

I m 47 and watching this ,thinking if there are ppl of my age who are trying to pick themselves up and shape up their life . There is everything but yet feel empty and feel like something is yet to be done .

@altenberg-greifenstein

3 жыл бұрын

It is funny to watch how young people are messing up their life even more despite having all this help and the how tos and the chance to look everything up on the internet. The internet is the most reliable place if you want bad influence as a teenager!

@altenberg-greifenstein

3 жыл бұрын

@@ilinemanja6060 Exactly. The internet teaches you that your family sucks, doesnt do enough for you, and that your parents are abusive, no matter what they are doing, and that the older generations are dumb af, to be ridiculed, and that they are to blame for everything, because all they are is greedy and uncaring, and that the solution to your parents not doing what you want is to stop contact, unless you go for the things cost money and i dont want to work way of life, because then you have to put up with your abusive parents until you are 35 and tell people on the internet how much you hate them and that they deserve to die when you ran out of your favorite food because that wh_re, aka mom, did not go grocery shopping fast enough to replace it. How often I heard that from those who chose to freeload. Older people thinking that younger people are learning useful stuff off the internet just shows how they are using the internet. (Not really, because a lot of older people do not make good use of the internet too) You cant draw conclusions about others just because you are like that. Anyway, I dont know anyone age 20 who is saying nice things about their parents when they dont listen. Add in the amount of hate speech being normalized through the internet and you know I am telling the truth. I forgot to add that the internet shows teenagers perverted porn to normalize that, and that they either better be beautiful af or they are garbage who better starts crying over all the mental illnesses they deserve because they are ugly. Add in drugs are cool, love means cheating, and being straight is nasty, and you know why the young ones are the way they are. The internet is just that huge network of peer pressure getting even the ones who have zero friends.

The most powerful thought I've heard about reincarnation is: Imagine that each person you meet could have been your Mom in a past life. I've found that it dramatically changes how I treat others, how I view gender and roles, and how it generates compassion.

I feel like the way Nathaniel is smiling here is different, he looks happier compared to his other videos and it’s so nice to see 😊

@lovenicol8348

3 жыл бұрын

He looks so cute when he smiles

@danielaarenas6835

3 жыл бұрын

The way he smiles now is so so so pure and real, like his smile is literally telling you “I AM TRULY HAPPY”

@nomadhabit

3 жыл бұрын

that's bc he's on the gear

@kjt123405

3 жыл бұрын

He did move to Paris, we'd all be smiling like that.

@vladyslavshymko2386

3 жыл бұрын

Magic of microdosing)

"I can only be as open to other people as I am to myself". Beautiful

@enricomiceli8704

3 жыл бұрын

And accurate

that phrase from 0:53 is similar to a phrase my psychology teacher taught me "show me your friends and i'll show you your future" which basically means those around us have a heavy influence on us

@yotambiensoyyo1744

3 жыл бұрын

And if I got no friends?

@Syn

3 жыл бұрын

@@yotambiensoyyo1744 it doesnt have to be your friends just your environment like for ex if ur in a lazy cluttered work environment ur nonconscious part of the brain will use that as an excuse to make poor decisions

Sometime I forget we are the same age!

“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” ― Oscar Wilde

@julia.annalisa3551

3 жыл бұрын

I actually read the book at the moment and had to think of this too

@yishaibasserabie5765

3 жыл бұрын

Ironic how this is an opinion expressed as a quote.....

@basho4306

3 жыл бұрын

@@julia.annalisa3551 may you tell me the title of that book? Would be very interested to read it

@basho4306

3 жыл бұрын

@@berndm7709 ohhh no I remember reading like 30 pages and disliking Wildes style :( as great as the quote is I ain't trying that book again .. thx tho

@harryiii3361

3 жыл бұрын

How ironic

I’ve watched only 2 min of the video but I want to say already: Your smile is gorgeous! I’m so happy to see ya happy! Thank you for sharing your inner light, Nathaniel ✨

@randomindianguy

3 жыл бұрын

Wholeheartedly agree with this! It's also very contagious!

@WenderllyAraujoS

3 жыл бұрын

his really happy big charismatic eyes cheers me up a lot also

@samuelguerrero4114

3 жыл бұрын

I guess you grew bored not even halfway through the video. Hahahhhaah.

@dougaladamson

3 жыл бұрын

I noticed this as well, good vibes from the beginning :D

@DioneFigueiredo

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah... Your smile make me smile... Thanks

my worst date: she turned into the moon.

@34rthx76

3 жыл бұрын

thats rough, buddy

@paneetpunia9591

3 жыл бұрын

ok sokka

@rubymoon3182

3 жыл бұрын

Sokka is that you?

@MidwestPsycho

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@skyWalk02470

3 жыл бұрын

BEST date!

"I can only be open to other people to the extent to which I'm open to myself." Wow. Maybe I hadn't been open to myself all along... in the process of changing, Thank you! This hit me.

@InnerCoreAri

3 жыл бұрын

I'm feeling the same - slowly opening myself up to the world, and the world has returned the favor. We really are all connected to each other in some way!

@akashkhushal6505

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you, I felt the same 😊 Need to open to myself more

“Learn the rules like a pro, so you can break them like an artist.” ― Pablo Picasso

Number 4: watching Nathaniel Drew's videos

@MisterPol

3 жыл бұрын

Btw thank you for inspiring me to create self development videos too!!

@missrelaxed3872

3 жыл бұрын

Agree !!!

@madhavdaga

3 жыл бұрын

@Nishant Joshi I see him everywhere too lol Always says something and gets many likes and reply from them or a heart

@MisterPol

3 жыл бұрын

@Nishant Joshi yeah I'm a bit too much into self development 🤣

@shaddjimenez4524

3 жыл бұрын

you and demetri are everywhere

INTENT>CONTENT "without the intent the content is empty" This simple phrase opens a lot.

"People will remember how you made them feel"---this is something I often forget. I focus too much on what I think is best for the relationship in the future, and forget to consider how it makes the other person feel (in the present). Instead of Influencer, I'd say you're a Sharer. Keep sharing your insights! And thank you!

1) tying your shoelace 2) drinking coffee 3) choosing a pencil At least according to the thumbnail.

@le_maxarus

3 жыл бұрын

This comment is underrated

@fardusylucky284

3 жыл бұрын

I think the purpose of that was to show contrast- it's the internal things rather than the external behaviors/habits that can cause changes in our lives sometimes.

@jacobcarrico1999

3 жыл бұрын

Choosing a paintbrush

@ActiveGamingUK

3 жыл бұрын

BASTARD!!!!!!!

@socialme856

3 жыл бұрын

Lautaro Maiarú Wow I straight up laughed at that

i love how he used the word “changing” instead of “changed.” like he’s currently evolving, he’s learning, and this isnt a one and done thing. i personally find myself comparing myself and idolizing self-help youtubers, forgetting that they’re trying everyday and they’ve not “reached enlightenment and perfectness” per se. they’re sharing knowledge, but not because they’re the epitome of it- but because it’s something they work on every single day. but they are pretty damn wise. -------------- NOTES: - “tell me who you spend time with, and i’ll tell you who you are” 1) “people will forget what you said. people will forget when you did. but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - “without intent, content is empty” 2) stay in your lane - it’s a massive waste of time to try to change others (and it’s not your job) - unless someone is asking for it, my time and energy is best invested in myself - the most influential people focus entirely on putting out an amazing example, not trying to change others - less tension when you stop telling people how to live their life 3) the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself - “i can only be open to other people to the extent to which i am open to myself” - “i am less destructive and capable of greater generosity when i feel solid- when i take care of myself”

@InnerCoreAri

3 жыл бұрын

That's a great point, and thank you for the write-up! I think they/we all share a profound openness to the world around, and figuring out how to be better versions of ourselves and enjoy life more. We're all on separate journeys that will require different experiences that lead us to a range of outcomes. I think the best thing to do is just honor that journey and find meaning in it, because to find meaning is to find everything.

@benjiboy1245

3 жыл бұрын

Man, I've had this same idea for KZread videos before but I never actually went through with it. Just exploring and talking about shit that's on my mind that I'm working on, kinda like an audio journal. It always felt narcissistic to me so I never started :/ fuck self doubt yo

@octopusflavoredpersonthe1s518

3 жыл бұрын

...ing.

@GoldenKay19

3 жыл бұрын

Whaouu thank you for your comment I was thinking kind of the same way and idolizing maybe too much peace and love from Paris France 🌼

"When someone shows you who they really are, believe them." -my mom

I’m glad there is someone else out there who finds life as confusing as I do, I love these lessons

@voicenoteswithbrookewilliams

3 жыл бұрын

right! love u

“When people don't express themselves, they die one piece at a time.” ― Laurie Halse Anderson

@fareehamehmood5278

3 жыл бұрын

Think Different - Thought Provoking Ideas love her books omg

@qodaeus

3 жыл бұрын

That's interesting.

@Julian2Sounds

3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Gabor Mate explains trauma

Awkward date anecdote: So when I fifteen or so I went on a date with my friend's cousin. We had been texting for a while and were going to see a movie. Coincidentally it had just been my birthday. So this nice guy had brought me a card with red roses on it and a little message. I was a bit spaced out and it took me far too long to read the card, so I kind of never finished reading it? I don't know how that happened... i was mostly worrying about talking too much time reading it, which is ridiculous, but as a fifteen year old I was having these thoughts, lovely. So we get our tickets a stand in line for snacks. I never really take snacks when going to the cinema. But this guy was asking whether I wanted this or that. I said no to all of it. So we watch the movie and have some very uncomfortable not very stimulating conversations. Afterwards, we walk back to where he has to take the bus. And again, I point to an ice cream shop, he asks me whether I would like an ice cream. And I am there thinking: do I really sound like I am fishing for food? So... the date was uncomfortable, but I have seldom felt more uncomfortable as when I actually read the whole birthday card he gave me when I came home. "Happy birth day! As a present I would like to buy you 1 or more snacks!" *face palm* so lesson learned: don't think so much about what other people are thinking, it will interfere with who you are. You cannot live your life depending on what you THINK they expect or want. I am now dating another friend's cousin. so all good. ;) (really sound like I am fishing for cousin's)

"dime con quien andas y te dire quien eres" is a phrase my mom brings up every now and again!! I have been a subscriber for I think a little over two years and it wasn't until recently that I decided to actively listen to what you share with us and feel like I need to implement these small pieces of experiences, knowledge into my own life - you are so humble in your work, thank you!

I feel intellectually and spiritually connected with you, Nathaniel. Thank you for the great content! Keep it up!

You smile so much. so childlike, innocent and effortless and that is what I love the most. Its precious!

@ThomasThough

3 жыл бұрын

Any story behind your pfp?

things that are helping to ameliorate my daily walk: deactivating social media accts. reading daily. workouts, yoga/stretching. drinking water and tea. sitting in the present and keeping a positive perspective.

@SamMartinPeakPerformance

3 жыл бұрын

Love these 👍

@loudevanneaux661

3 жыл бұрын

Just deleted Instagram: feels good. Thank you for giving me that last little push :)

@topshottamakonnen

3 жыл бұрын

Crazy how we have similar names and are doing similar things.

@gofitness4284

3 жыл бұрын

😎😎

@gofitness4284

3 жыл бұрын

Badass

I have seen a couple of your videos now and absolutely love your channel. What fascinates me is that a channel like this is all you. KZread gets knocked alot these days but the way it has opened up the world to so many more voices is wonderful. Without this service, a man, just with a camera and a backpack, who talks honestly about his experiences , may have gone by totally un noticed. The messages and philosophical tones to your journey are what draws me in. And the techne in the presentation of your life through editing and video is true art. Keep it up. Certainly making Lockdown for me much more interesting.

Agree with the third point. At the age of 23 I'm yet to have a relationship, purely because I don't think I can truly love somebody until I love myself. It's been a long path, but I'm definitely getting there. Largely due to self-consciousness, I care too much about what people think of me. Hopefully, I'll get to a stage in my personal development and career that I'll feel comfortable meeting somebody. Everything happens for a reason I suppose.

The only person you could change is yourself. “Stay in your lane”,

Something I’ve been doing recently is this: whenever there is something that I think that I should get done, I do said things immediately, right after I think about it. Sometimes I only just start and then take a break but that’s better than nothing. I’ve found that for me it’s about getting the ball rolling one step at a time. I used to worry so much about planning and making time for work and scheduling etc, now I’ve decided to let that go a bit and allow myself to be spontaneous with my life. It’s helped. I hope maybe this can inspire someone to try the same

@faizulazim2906

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate. I've been trying to implement this too.

@SnakePvM

3 жыл бұрын

I find that a good way to manage these 'things I should get done' is to write them down on a piece of paper the day prior. Then the next morning you check your list and start doing the first thing on it without thinking. This way you don't just rely on your mind for 'remembering' you have to do something, but now you have a structured to-do list every day.

@marinova1147

3 жыл бұрын

so jealous of you!! I'm a master inoverthinking and procrastination and can never get myself to start my tasks

@SnakePvM

3 жыл бұрын

@@marinova1147 I always feel bad after procrastinatig, and I always feel good after doing the thing. So whenever I don't feel like doing something I think about those feelings

@leejaerim8972

3 жыл бұрын

Hey, you should really ask for permission before reading my daily journal. I'm kidding XD. I'm just surprised by how much these sentences fit exactly some of my latest reflections about how I'm able to work the best. It sounds very intuitive, but you can be spending a lot of time before the realization comes to you. And people reading this, please try it out and see, it may and probably would work for you too.

Nathan, you are literally mentioning all the things that I have just discovered during this time too. I feel like the universe is constantly giving us signs to pay attention to certain things, to not “lose focus”. Today I was losing it, and then your video came out, and now I am back on track. Thank you for that. Thank you for being such a lovely human being, and for being real, unique, kind, and full of desires to learn more about everything. Thank you for creating this amazing channel, and thank you for letting us all be part of your life. I’m thankful for you being in mine.

What is changing my life right now: every time when I feel overwhelmed, or sad or not enough, I step away from all social media, YT videos, and Netflix, which used to be my go-to coping mechanism for sadness, to escape the real world. And instead I JUMP into the real world. When I feel like my friends don't care about me, I reach out to hang out. When I feel so overwhelmed my head hurts I go on a walk, sometimes I even walk to the next village over. And it's honestly changed my life in so many ways. Also, I totally agree that having a good relationship with yourself is the most important! When I liked myself far less, I had far fewer friendships, I was lonely and miserable. Learning to love myself has allowed me to live my life like I couldn't before. Thank you for videos like these!

I actually relate to you so much about not being as open to relationships. It’s now that I’ve begun to love myself more deeply, that I’m allowing myself to love others fully. Thanks Nathan ❤️

I don’t know why, but your presence and energy was so calming, different from your usual vids👌🏻

@Premiuminvesting

3 жыл бұрын

I felt that too mate!

@ilhem9565

3 жыл бұрын

Yeea i noticed too!

@ryancoker7600

3 жыл бұрын

Lol definitely

@santiorduna5374

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. Maybe he's learning to be more self-accepting -- like he was getting at in the video.

"I can only be open to people to the extent in which I am open to myself." -Nathaniel Drew

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” - Gandhi.

@josephletendre4241

3 жыл бұрын

Actually, Gandhi never said that.

Petition to bring back " whats up my dudes" into the video

@joshcarrasco3130

3 жыл бұрын

I second that. Godspeed

@kimtae9329

3 жыл бұрын

What about dudettes

@fareehamehmood5278

3 жыл бұрын

Kim Tae dude is gender neutral

@kimtae9329

3 жыл бұрын

@@fareehamehmood5278 nah it's not

@fareehamehmood5278

3 жыл бұрын

Kim Tae uhh yes it is

When he said “I went out on a date with a girl” I literally screamed out “no!!” like it’s a sleepover and the res of us are hyping him up

What changed my life: *Meditating and doing Yoga twice a day *The only thing that is real is Consciousness, the rest is an illusion *We are all ABLE to respond to everything. *If you do not do what you cannot do, that’s no problem. But if you do not do what you can do, you are a tragedy. *I am not my body nor my mind. I am beyond that. Thank you for inspiring people. Keep it up :)

@alaakhaled7315

3 жыл бұрын

The 4th one made me feel anxious because I still struggle with my self awareness. thank you for accentuating more on how important it is to know one self and self reflect!

@HomrxD

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe you will never see this but how do you define “meditation? How do you do it?

@OjodelNahual

3 жыл бұрын

@@HomrxD sitting in a nice comfortable way, but spine straight, closing the eyes, focusing the attention on the breath. as you breath in you also feel how your belly rises, as you breath out how it de inflates, you can inhale and count to 4, hold the breath count to 4, exhale count to 4, and hold it out count to four... orrrr also using a mantra... as you inhale you say the mantra in your head .. you can say “I am not this body” and as you exhale you can say “I am not even this mind” or whatever you choose. theres so many ways too, using visual images, or even guided ones lol, but ultimately what you want is to quiet that messy chatter and purifying your mind 🙏🏼 hope it works ❤️

I am at a point of my life where I question everything including the reason behind my existence. I found your video during the process of listening to others opinion. I was so astonished to find so many similarities in our thinking. I am glad that I came across your channel. Keep posting more 😊😊😊

Anyone else wondering if he got a girlfriend because he is smiling the whole time and this video is suprisingly about relationships?

@idg693

3 жыл бұрын

I was totally thinking that lol

@mina4426

3 жыл бұрын

yesssss

@isabelleisidro8832

3 жыл бұрын

I've always been interested about his love/dating life hahaah

@BuscadorDeAgite

3 жыл бұрын

I find in this video that he is laughing while he speaks all the time too much, I found it a bit fake(like an Instagram feed), but maybe I am wrong.

One of the best pieces of advice I got was this question "When you look at a pregnant teenage girl, what are your thoughts?" For years, I would see this and instantly think the worst and most nasty things. *Oh how awful of her, how irresponsible* *That's shocking she's ruined her life* *I would never do that* etc... Like, I would project so much nasty and mean spirited energy but the truth is, I have no idea what that person has gone through, perhaps she was a victim and has made a choice to keep the baby, maybe she's having a baby for someone who can't have one, maybe she's from a very conservative family and she is living her best life- who knows? You have no idea what someone's story is... But, the point was that I was just spewing out negativity without realising, this really made me check myself and what energy I give off, now I'm a lot more positive and have changed my way of thinking

@TheDamianvain17

3 жыл бұрын

I seriously don't understand why your comment doesn't have 2k likes, a heart, and several comments of it's own. Very well said! Have a peaceful evening.

"Trying to change, or save people, is a waste of time." Me, a social worker, trying to change or save people for the best, got denied.

@dominikhummel944

3 жыл бұрын

@insertnicknamehere I am studying social work at the moment and had similar thoughts about this phrase in the first place. But isn‘t it the goal of a social worker to provide tools to their clients that help them to change or save them by their selfes?

@insertnicknamehere

3 жыл бұрын

@@dominikhummel944 Yes, giving them tools, a hand, a gentle push. Like Nath said, if someone isn t ready or doesn t want to change, then it s best to let them be. Just be available for them. PS: i am also studying it but also working in a resting place for the homeless.

@Thingybob

3 жыл бұрын

Two very different things: 1. To try to change somebody who doesn't want ot or is not ready yet, and 2. To help somebody to change when they want/need to, but can't do it alone.

@danielaschwarz6277

3 жыл бұрын

A social worker is a worse form of a cop

Hey! A newbie to your channel and I am absolutely inspired by your down to earth, well-read, articulate and mindful way of communicating your thoughts and ideas. Your work has such a refreshing pace to engage with, and I often find myself reaching for my notebook - rewinding, pausing, and making a note. Thank you for the amazing work that you do, and thank you for being a pen and paper, poet, painter soul - and somehow merging that with truly brilliant video procuction style. As to this particular piece, I was reminded of a quote in Shantaram (an incredible book!) : "Fate gives us three teachers, three friends, three enemies, and three great loves in our lives. But these twelve are always disguised, and we can never know which one is which until we've loved them, left them, or fought them."

Here are the 3 Simple Ideas, 1》People will remember how you made them feel 2》Stay in your Lane (Do not focus on changing others Nature/Behavior infect put that time to build yourself) 3》The most IMP relationship that you have in Life is with yourself.

@MoInTheCity03

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you !

@jayshekhawat9624

3 жыл бұрын

@@MoInTheCity03 My pleasure 😄

To anyone who reads this, I hope you find success in whatever you do next 🙌 Your content keeps inspiring me to continue with my KZread channel, thank you for all that you do Nathaniel 👏

@soytodo9520

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks bro,good luck

@nathanieldrew

3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate that - keep going!!

@JonJosephKuhn

3 жыл бұрын

I just watched your vlog on success. I agree with you about overnight success. Personally as I grow older and develop I am constantly changing my own perception of success.

Someone once said to me: "concentrate on your own path and inspire through change" this sentence helps me A LOT in not trying to change other people 😁

@aymanesemmat9101

3 жыл бұрын

Ur very beautiful :) i hope to know more about you !

Date anecdote: It was my boyfriend’s and I’s first date. Except we hadn’t officially called it date. So we go to a brewery and get a couple beers. I hadn’t eaten yet and I get very tipsy very quickly on an empty stomach. The date was going great so far. He was being a perfect gentleman. So we go to get food, and I’m just feeling the alcohol more and more. I never feel braver and more bold when I’ve had alcohol. At the particular restaurant we were at if you wanted a noodle bowl you have to go and pick out your toppings, and then give it to the line of chefs to make for you. I didn’t know that. So I drunkenly take my bowl of toppings back to the table with me- I also have no idea how much time has passed. My boyfriend was very patiently waiting (and as I would find out later) wondering why I had brought back the bowl of toppings. Apparently about 30 minutes had passed...and drunk me is sitting there wondering why I don’t have food yet. The waitress very kindly explained to me that I needed to bring my bowl up to the chefs... I had my “aha” moment. Followed by “gawd I’m such an idiot.” So we finally get our food. We’re having great back and forth banter and in my drunken bravery I blurt out “YOU DIDN’T EVEN HAVE THE GUTS TO CALL THIS A DATE!” He’s taken a back for a moment. Before he gets this big goofy grin on his face and goes “So this IS a date!”. I blurt back “OBVIOUSLY, we were talking about how nicely we would dress!”. So now almost 2 hours into our not official date it is officially a date. I finally sober up a bit and want ice cream before we go see our movie. I hadn’t kept an eye on the time and we only had a couple minutes before the movie starts. I’m thinking “Oh shit” So I deep throat my icecream in front of him, not thinking about how much of a dork I probably looking like shoving icecream down my throat. He just looked at me affectionately and went “That was kind of hot.” The movie was great, and we decided to end the night with a walk. He had wanted to take me to this park that he loved. He said there was a surprise. So we walk out to this very lovely park with a pond. He gets really quiet for a moment and goes..well this was supposed to be more special. Apparently the pond was usually lit up with lights and fountains, and he had wanted to show me that. But they weren’t tonight. He sheepishly tried to brush it off and went “This never happened. Just pretend there were lights and everything was perfect.” I say back “I think its very sweet- even there weren’t lights.” He goes “I have no idea what you’re talking about, there were totally lights and fountains and everything was perfect.” To me everything was. It was great night, and I liked him so much more because I was awkward and a bit of an airhead- and he NEVER made me feel uncomfortable about it. I felt comfortable being myself around him- and what shocked me he ACTUALLY liked myself. Morale of the story is go out with someone who makes you can be yourself around and loves you for it. No matter how big of a dope you are. I loved our first date. It was imperfect and awkward. We were accepting of each others quirks, and love the fact that we’re both kind of weird. Its probably why still over a year a later we’re still together.

@diegomiers371

3 жыл бұрын

mucho texto

@nummern

3 жыл бұрын

“My boyfriend and I’s”?? You mean “my boyfriend’s and my first date”

@eliasmavroeidakos947

3 жыл бұрын

that was amazing!

@alainadacosta1222

3 жыл бұрын

this was so cute to read!

@sigute4753

3 жыл бұрын

such a cute story, wishing the best for you two!

“We learn how to do math, right?” What we should learn as well... Psychology...learn to understand ourselves Sociology...learn to understand others Philosophy...learn a meaning for living

@purplenightdrive627

3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful!

@MilanSmore

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly I don't think most kids in school would be interested in learning these things from a teacher. Its something you have to be open to and willing to learn IMO.

@qwertyuiopqwertyuiop-bb4mi

3 жыл бұрын

Milan van der Meer Isn’t that true for all types of learning though?

@nadjak4267

3 жыл бұрын

@@MilanSmore we have all those subjects and it was really cool! Most of us loved it :)

@MilanSmore

3 жыл бұрын

@@qwertyuiopqwertyuiop-bb4mi true

" I can only be open to people to the extent to which I'm open to myself" I find that's true for some, but for me it's the furthest thing from truth and this puzzles me a lot. I do A LOT of self reflection and I have been journaling for three years writing down and analyzing every single one of my emotions and yet I find it extremely hard to let people see my inner, most profound self. I find it so hard that I can say no one truly knows me, and it's all my fault, but at the same time it feels like there's a glass wall that lets me observe and appreciate other people from a distance without being able to truly open up. What you do on your channel, the way you talk about your thoughts and how you feel, I think it's extremely brave. Thanks

@jayroshal9571

3 жыл бұрын

To be honest. Its a process. Its so hard to fully encapsulate your thoughts, emotions and reflections and to be responsive in a clear and cohesive manner. I think the best we can do is create a focal point within your conscious mind to tap into and expand on those. We have to divide and conquer some of the most intriguing or thought provoking emotions. If I follow every thought that could possibly be remotely interesting for further expansion and dissection; it would be like looking for a needle in a hay stack. That phrase is a cliche. Anyhow, I think being aware of emotions is a great place to start understanding and managing yourself. Its not overburdening and its not counter productive in the long run. Personally, I see more damage from people who are instinctively reactive and say things that are very superficial and unnecessary. It lacks reasoning or compassion. It is painstakingly obvious when we encounter such beings; especially from the vantage point of someone who is reflective of their own inner engineering. In fact, I think the more reflective we are about our thoughts and emotions; we create a great platform emotionally in terms of emotional intelligence. The most difficult aspect about human interaction is that people don't invest enough time in analyzing their own emotions. Thank you for this channel and everyone who ponders a thought. It really does make the world a better place. I love it.

"Trying to change or save people is waste of time" wow!

@nadiaheng6547

3 жыл бұрын

I need to remember this one. :s haha

@kingmizere3576

3 жыл бұрын

@@nanobot2788 very true. I've tried change someone myself. It's not easy

@danielaschwarz6277

3 жыл бұрын

thats a very old wisdom

I just wanted to thank you. Every time i feel lost in life or generally unhappy or even depressed i come back to your channel and get a huge amount of happiness calmness and self love. Your channel is therapeutic and it really lets me realize how most of what I’m feeling is amplified in my brain and that problems are not as significant as i feel like they are.

What is changing my life: trying to meditate every morning, taking cold showers, and the most important thing, learning how to listen. And listen to others to understand them, not to reply. Great vid

@InnerCoreAri

3 жыл бұрын

I love this. Powerful tactics my friend. Listening to others better is a skill I'm learning as well :)

Love the vid - detached from reality or not!

@sakshamportel7885

3 жыл бұрын

Captain Sinbad I hadn't thought this is you.Your videos are so inspiring and motivating.I came to know about your channel through Matt'd Avella.Keep doing the great work buddy.Lots of love from the country which your country(India)hates the most.Nepal🇳🇵🇳🇵🇳🇵😊😊😊

@JonJosephKuhn

3 жыл бұрын

Love your videos brother man. Oddly I have been binging on your no fap videos.

@AntoniatheUniverse

3 жыл бұрын

@@JonJosephKuhn dont fap to them!

@JonJosephKuhn

3 жыл бұрын

​@@AntoniatheUniverse does edging count? I can't help it.

@i_am_funny

3 жыл бұрын

@@sakshamportel7885 I don't think we(indians) hate you ... afterall we are all Nepalis ...😉

I have been improving my relationship with myself throughout the quarantine and even after it and realized that I am much happier that way.

"nothing is lost, everything transforms" i dont remeber where i read that or if it was written like that but it really changed my perspective

What I love about this video: - "Flower" in the background - your ideas - the visuals and editing - the little anecdote I am in film production and your videos inspire me to where I want to go, and your ideas really help me (curiosity etc) Thanks 💖 Lots of love from germany 💖💖

"Dime con quién andas y te diré quien eres" Ah, i never tought i would hear that in this video 💙

You've made my day, and I feel so grateful to found you because what we see and where we focus our attention is so important and relevant in our day today and in our lives tomorrow. Thanks for being real, transparent, pure... I feel everything you've said and what you didn't- Love from Spain!

youre killing it, I'm happy to see someone who is super authentic and really creates both a beautiful video with beautiful thoughts to back it up.

"By changing nothing, nothing changes"

@JonJosephKuhn

3 жыл бұрын

Simple and true.

We have the same saying in Portugal. “Diz-me com quem andas e dir-te-ei quem és”

@soytodo9520

3 жыл бұрын

I feel like it's really translated everywhere because It's a Bible quote ;)

@dexterie

3 жыл бұрын

Soy Todo yes, I know... but it became a saying. We’re past the bible quote now.

@henriquesalazardias2489

3 жыл бұрын

@@soytodo9520 I think it's more like a popular saying with biblical basis, there is a proverb in the bible that says "Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm."

@anacostas1661

3 жыл бұрын

Si. En España igual : Dime con quien andas y te diré quién eres. Happy if I spend my time with Nathaniel

@Rye404

3 жыл бұрын

And in German: Zeig mir deine Freunde und ich sage dir, wer du bist

I loooove how you are smiling so much throughout the entire video. It is so genuine and it is inevitable to just smile with you.

All these three points are true and I resonate with third one deeply because of this sentence you mentioned "I'm less destructive and capable of greater when I feel solid and take care of myself." This video has been in my watch later for almost a month and I'm glad I watched it at least now, I need to absorb it. Things that made me feel more at peace are: Meditating Staring at nothing and thinking of nothing, just take in the nature.

Not a long time ago I came across a conclusion that to transform a relationship, one person has to change. Whenever I come from this perspective, thinking that this person will be me (even though it can take a lot of energy!), I become more kind and stop projecting my expectiations on others. I simply try to enjoy them as they are. And yes, if you take care of yourself well, you have more to give to the world. 🌎

It was very liberating for me to understand that the only person responsible for making me happy is myself. This lead me to removing all the toxicity from my life and it allowed me to alleviate pressure off of my own relationships (both romantic and platonic). It was life changing.

no man your friend, no man your enemy, every man your teacher. This is a quote that I carry with myself as i navigate relationships. Thank You love your words and truth!

How am I know just discovering your channel? It's absolutely true that the best relationship that we need to make is with ourselves. I'm going through a tough time and I really needed to hear that today. Thank you so much.

I’ve always said “don’t stress about the things you cannot change. If you can change them then do so” 😁

@Vampion

3 жыл бұрын

u look so Sweet by wearing makeup😅😆

@treeladder5338

3 жыл бұрын

Strange creature

@lukas7631

3 жыл бұрын

@@treeladder5338 who?

@zahrarahimiseyfoddin1801

3 жыл бұрын

@@treeladder5338 that's rude bro

@treeladder5338

3 жыл бұрын

@@zahrarahimiseyfoddin1801 ik that's why I said it

Okay so to start this date anecdote I must say, I wasn’t supposed to be going on a date. It was freshman year in high school ( I am now a freshman in college) and I had asked one of my guy friends if he wanted to go to the movies. He said yes, we both got dropped off by our parents, he arrived before me and he did something that I never expected. He paid for our tickets! It was so sweet to at the time and even now I think about it because it never happed to me before even on planned dates and I was so taken back by it I really didn’t know how to act on the rest of the “date”. This turned into a make out during the last half of the movies and to this day I still haven’t seen the end of Passengers.

"Tell me who you spend time with and I'll tell you who you are" Guess I'm nobody 😅

@othmane-mezian

3 жыл бұрын

Not true you are here with us

I just found your channel a few days ago. I don't even know how to express how your delivery and thoughtfulness brightens my day. Life long learning and improving are keys to my life. Thank you for this sharing. I haven't dated in over 22 years and really can't recall bad ones or funny ones. I know they must exist. Cheers.

A funny date gone wrong story: I was on a date with this French girl and she kept pointing at a bar that was supposedly right across the street. So, I just kept looking back on my right side, trying to find the bar until I hit my face fully-on on a metal lamp post. I ended up spending that night in the ER doing CT scans of my brain and the funniest part is, she confused the streets and there was no bar in the first place.

@visk3t

3 жыл бұрын

was there another date after that?

@mushyomens6885

3 жыл бұрын

Wasn't that metal bar the bar she was referring to

The thing about lesson number two is also to recognize why you are so adamant about changing someone. I still fall into the trap of trying to change my family to little or to no avail. It's a let down every time and I'm left feeling misunderstood and frustrated. Then when I remember to take a step back, I realize I don't necessarily want to change them for their own benefit, but to create a space for myself to fit into better, to be heard better. "It's what worked for me, it has to work for them." - but people are different and maybe they will come to those same conclusions you were advocating for and when that happens you'll be happy to help them out. And maybe they never will and that has to be okay (except if they are being truly hurtful, then of course find a way to explain to them why it is hurtful and why it's better to stop). There are other people that will see me and hear me and that I will hear and see much better myself and it's energy better spent showing gratitude for those people rather than trying to change someone who won't budge.

His little giggle is so adorable. Love your content Nath. Keep creating. Stay observant, stay blissful.

Thank you so much. I have to say that I needed to hear this. Especially the second advice "stay in you lane". As someone overflowing with compassion, always trying to fix people's life, always trying to help and save anyone who is struggling, that really made me feel relieved. Your word are so right. This is not my job. And, a lot of times, it's juste a waste of energy. Teach people just by being the best version of yourself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Hey Nathaniel. Your videos deserve the special playlist I store them in: 'Life Improvement'. Thanks for everything.

The way you tell stories !! Is just mind blowing. When are you writing your first book ?

@beccaplans

3 жыл бұрын

I second this! Nathaniel: pls write a book! I would definitely read it!

I’m highly spiritual and have had many of the same ah ha moments in the past two years, but having them concisely all laid out in video form.. this is LIFE ALTERING stuff. You are helping so many. Love to you and to anyone reading this, you would be doing yourself a great service to write down his main points and read them each day until they’re second nature. ❤️

this is that kind of video that changes your life. the one that you write about on your journal, to always remember. thank you for these advices, Nathaniel. it came in the right moment for me❤

Oh, now that I've heard the whole video: I love Alan Watts too! And here's my relationship story: I'm trying to make more girlfriends around my city, because I am usually surrounded by male friends and acquaintances. One time I was walking around with my camera and I saw another girl with a camera. I planned a nice conversation in my head and when she got near enough I said "Hey, are you taking photos too?" She looked terrified. 🤦‍♀️ I tried to explain that I want to make friends and also take pictures, to which she looked around and started running in the easiest direction. That was super embarrassing, but by far not the only time this happened. It's very hard to stop people who are on a *mission* in their tracks and try to talk to them. Best success so far is meeting people in cafès, classes, or if they are sitting down. I'm not afraid to try again and again, though. We are just the same, it should be normal to speak to strangers on the street. 🤗

@DanielleThomas

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you for trying and then trying again! I hold myself back a lot out of fear of rejection but you need to put yourself out there in order to meet people - this is a great reminder!

@europebasedvlogs1251

3 жыл бұрын

Deutschland?

@AntoniatheUniverse

3 жыл бұрын

@@DanielleThomas thank you, dear human! And right you are 😊 it's so worth it for some of the people I've met this way.

@AntoniatheUniverse

3 жыл бұрын

@@europebasedvlogs1251 🇩🇪 Yes, interesringly enough this works better in some other countries (probably worse in others)

@europebasedvlogs1251

3 жыл бұрын

@@AntoniatheUniverse In germany is it better? I am from frankfurt, you?

Imagine being able to spend a whole day with him, and just talking bout random stuff, how life-changing that would be...

"Stay in your lane" How many times I have to remind myself that in a day ... and it's STILL not enough... thank you for reminding me again, this is pure gold ! Nathaniel Drew

Sometimes in life you can feel lose yourself but when u watch people like Nathaniel, or meet beautiful souls. You can find a piece of yourself. Your videos inspire me and make me feel solid in who I am. Brings tears to my eyes. I enjoy your videos and point of views on life. Its rare to find people like you. Sending nothing but love n good vibes!

Alan Watts, YES 👏🏼 We gotta get you on Eckhart Tolle, Noam Chomsky, Alain de Botton, and Gary Zukav next!

@TomKaren94

3 жыл бұрын

Oprah Winfrey much?

@calliekuykendall8597

3 жыл бұрын

You should check out Mooji too! Him and Eckhart are my favorites

@peterpan8147

3 жыл бұрын

@@manchesterunited4619 not Jordan Peterson. Gosh, he's getting on my nerves beyond the measure

@luckydude3764

3 жыл бұрын

With all due respect,steer clear of those fakes/half-bakeds.Try Baltasar Gracian,Oscar Wilde(the Philosopher-est of them all!),Lao Tzu,Jean Paul Sartre and Mason Cooley - just their quotes and not their books or videos(if any exists at all!). If one takes time off every day to reflect on the deep essence of each quote of theirs and consciously apply the relevant lessons appropriate to one's own life,the extreme sport called 'daily living' can become interesting,fun and rewarding.

@stefanat.7996

3 жыл бұрын

@Sara look into it where? i love his stuff, what's the harmful info? i'm genuinely curious, gimme some links pls

The most memorable date ever was with a girl at a Rollingstones’ concert. She liked this other guy that was supposed to show up but didn’t. So I would have been a third wheel. He didn’t show so it was just she and myself. I was nervous. “ I wonder what happened to Brandon?”, she asked. Heck I didn’t care because she caught me eye in that 3rd wheel string of pearls triangle. The concert started and we sang without the other guy there. She was bummed. But I was cheesing inside because I got to accidentally go on a date with someone I adored. It rained that evening at the Voodoo concert at Texas Stadium. I mean, it poured that evening at the Voodoo concert at Texas Stadium. And I had bought and wore a brown suede jacket. But I was happy! And to top it off, we held hands throughout some of the songs and during the walk back to our cars. Odd night. Fun night. And bittersweet because she talked about him not showing which returned me back to reality. That was almost 30 ago.

@VeritableVagabond

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the feels man

@darkkitty22

3 жыл бұрын

I felt like I was reading a novel or sumn, damn😭❤

@Premiuminvesting

3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful story man. Crazy how we will always remember 'those' moments!

@user-bo5ff8sx5p

3 жыл бұрын

That sounds like a beautiful memory man

@michaelmode

3 жыл бұрын

SG Thank you. That was brutal revealing that because I totally came out in the negative but it really was a cool accident date night.

Happy 100 meaningful videos, Nathaniel! You're such a big inspiration for us!

Thank you for all the calmness and inspiration that you share with us, I've been following you for quite a time now and I always find your videos brain cleansing and just relaxing so THANK YOU ❤️

"I really like listening to smart (insightful) people articulate their ideas..."... and that is why I admire your channel

@joshuathinkingoutloud

3 жыл бұрын

ShanaYardley I wonder if you would enjoy some of the videos I’ve made lately?

Great to see you again and I’m happy to see you smiling! Best wishes from Sweden!

I love that you remind me of the things I already know and lived up to but forget from time to time because this world is crazy especially at this moment 🙏🏻 thanks a lot

I connect with the quote from tip #1 a lot due to a situation I was in with my (used to be) best friend. I met this person a while ago (a few years) when he moved here, he was in one of my classes. He sat down at my table, and I thought indifferently until he actually talked to me, I wasn't used to that feeling of friendship, even though I had been in a group of people that I called friends. I always felt like I was worthless and put to the side in that group, I was the quiet one and nobody tried to bring me into the conversation, because I never did it myself. This friend, however, was the first to even invite me to anything, like sleepovers, outdoor events and such. I later on started getting jealous because he started hanging out with the group I was in, and I felt like they would take him away from me. I got too caught up in myself and let jealously take control of me. I started to isolate myself from him, and I would stay quiet if I was near or in a group with him, and I even ignored his (although this may seem immature for the message I am typing, its true) invites on the xbox console, when he wanted to talk and such I was just ignoring those invites. I, without thinking, started to be manipulative to try and keep him as a friend. I kept on doing god knows what to make HIM feel like he had done something wrong without even telling him. He decided to talk to me one time, the conversation was something I thought was odd at the time. He sat me down and asked me what is wrong, and why I have been looking and feeling down, but I decided to try and resist the question because I refuse to ever talk about myself. Later on it got worse and I just blocked him out until we just stopped talking. He was the only one I felt like I was actually connected to, the only one from the school that I felt actually cared about me. Now, I always feel regret for that situation. It has put me in the thought, even after multiple years have passed, where I do not know if I even want to make friends because I feel like I will just result to that trait again. I always feel like going back to him, but then I feel like it will just result to that situation again, and I have just never been able to forgive myself for that. Later on when we got a class together (Around 4-5 years later) he seemed totally indifferent from what happened back then, he just casually talked to me, where I thought he would act differently about me. Although he acts like nothing happened, I will always have that regret in my life. By now I think its more of my own thought trapping me down, but I do not know. It has stressed me out and I try to stay away from conversations. Note: This was not me trying to be a trashy person, I did not know how to handle the situation so I let my emotions take control over me without thinking about anything else. I always wish I never did what I did, and at that time I did not think about anything else.

@roosb.967

3 жыл бұрын

Wow man, so brave of you to share that story here!! I recognize a big part of your story, I was in a similar situation with a friend but only for a couple of months. I think the same fear got a hold of me, even though I did not really recognize this at the time. It is great to hear that you are at least talking to that friend again. I do believe that if you truly felt comfortable around him, it is perfectly possible to speak to him about this even now. I am getting back to the old level with my friend but I feel that the thing to that is holding us back is the fact that we have not talked about what happened. And I have no clue how to start that. At least we got back in touch, so that's great. But I will have to figure out how to talk this over with her. Hope you can find a way too. I am sure that you are capable of it, more than you might think yourself. Thanks for sharing your story and have a wonderful day ♥️

A date gone wrong. I was invited for supper with his group of friends. He had cooked. At the end of the meal I started choking and ended up throwing up 😂 thank you, next 😂

I personally have loved the more self-reflective style of the recent videos. It's really inspired me to try and be a bit more honest and open about me and my experiences within my videos rather than just spouting out the facts and the science. Another amazing video, great job!

your warm presence is felt through the screen and thats something quite rare. your happiness is infectious ❤️ you’re worthy of all the good that is happening to you right now and in the future

Good thing you're here to remind me what life is really about

@IshaSharma11

3 жыл бұрын

True