Wanting a healthy and respectful relationship with a narcissist is like asking for warm cuddles with a cactus.

The only way to gain respect from a narcissist is to leave. As long as you are with them, they’re not going to respect you. Because they see it as though if you deserved any better, you wouldn’t be with them.

My dad said it was like having a tombstone taken off his chest to finally be free from my mother. He was abused for 30 yrs.

Learned helplessness is a thing. They isolate you systematically, sometimes for years. You often doubt you can do anything on your own because they brainwash you into believing you are incapable.

Not judging the survivor for not leaving is very difficult for some people.

Leaving the narc marriage was the hardest for me. Breaking up with them and leaving is harder than being broken up with. Praying for our forever healing. God bless us. Thank you Dr. Ramani ❤

Trying to find love and respect in a narcissistic relationship is like trying to find bones in ice-cream. Don't go looking for something that ain't there.

wanting love and happiness vs fear of the unknown and accepting dysfunction. thats my view 🤷‍♀️

It’s so very frustrating not wanting or being able to leave this narc marriage but yet knowing I’ll not get,any respect or understanding either. I honestly feel I’ve lived in a type of nightmare the last 30 years….like how could an intelligent beautiful soul like me have been dealt such dire behaviour and virtually put up with it for so long and without any outside support? 🤦🏼‍♀️ I feel frustrated that I couldn’t have done anything other than what I tried, as I only have to look at how he makes me feel now and realise I’m still between a rock and a hard place, like I’m damned if I do, damned if I don’t kind of thing. There’s literally no win worth narcassists, even if you leave them. If they’re not messing with your head in the flesh they’ll be doing it from inside your own head from the trauma and stress 😢

I'm with a narcissist and I'm am empath. I'm starting to see these types of relationships as the wheat and the tares, like the Bible tells us about. I had no idea there were other complicated relationships like the one I'm enduring. I had no idea there were that many narcs out in the world! They seem to be everywhere. I'm sending prayers to anyone enduring this type of abuse. I've been with my mate for 25 years and have finally left him because I set boundaries for respect and he hit the ceiling with his anger. "How dare you think this way after everything I've done for you, after all the money I've spent on you, after paying your bills all these years....blah blah blah...Thank you for helping set me free Doctor! I give thanks to Jesus as well. 😘

So Brilliant. There is no such thing as an abuse-free narcissistic relationship. If you stay, you have to keep your eyes open.

The unbearable lightness of being yourself again. Sacred.

They seem so fun and friendly -but only on their terms of exactly what they want and exactly what their ‘reality’ is. It is hard to give up the hope that the friendly fun will never be without the abuse

I sat up one night and weighed up the pros and cons……on the pro side was being with a beautiful woman having a great sex life and not having to work (as she had money and didn’t want me to work)…………Those were the pros, everything else was negative. So I was basically living her life, I wasn’t allowed to have an opinion on anything, being criticised constantly, the switch flicking into moments of rage, the gaslighting, the silent treatment, the insane jealousy, the isolation from friends and family…………so for all the strong positives they would never make up for all the negatives. This is ultimately why I walked out on her

They're them and you are you. Decide what you want and do it for you.

Thank you, Doctor Ramani. To disassociate from your own family is painful. I tried, gray rocked, spent massive amount of time, money, and just like every person here, for my efforts nothing changed. The boundary crossing and chaos only become more and more.

In the throes of abuse, it’s hard, sometimes, to recognize it for what it is. I “knew” my mother had, in my opinion, a diseased brain and was evil. It wasn’t until researching narcissistic people regarding someone else that the scales fell from my eyes. At 48 yrs old I finally realized how everything I read described the family dynamics I was raised in and was still dealing with. I used to call my brother a mommas boy and now I know he was the golden child. After another bout of her vitriolic behavior, I didn’t just gray rock, I went no contact and have maintained it going on 6 yrs. No regrets and a lot of peace. To hell with her being the only mother I have. It’s on her.

Protecting my kids vs. staying in a two parent marriage is my view. I'm currently separated, raising money for the divorce.

I am a recent subscriber, but I’ve been watching each of your daily videos for a month now. Your ability to read the mind of a person who has been through narcissistic abuse is astounding. I’ve never felt so safe and reassured, thank you 🙏🏼

Done! Done! Done!.today I finally said am done!