The Importance of Disappointment: Jonathan Pageau The Quest for a Spiritual Home

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  • @EamonBurke
    @EamonBurke Жыл бұрын

    I like how he's like "this will be anti-symbolic" and then proceeds to talk about how Odysseus' bed mimics the Garden of Eden and what that has to do with you joining a local church. Love this man.

  • @kathleenthompson9566
    @kathleenthompson9566 Жыл бұрын

    Homelessness: the relentless quest to not be disappointed. And not finding it.

  • @mills8102

    @mills8102

    Жыл бұрын

    I believe that is exactly right. Is there a such thing as a happy wanderer would perhaps be a good follow up question.

  • @kathleenthompson9566

    @kathleenthompson9566

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mills8102 yes! That would be a great question. I suspect there might be happy wanderers.

  • @TheApprentice007
    @TheApprentice007 Жыл бұрын

    Despite the lack of symbolic language I feel as if this is Pageau’s most important talk. This is something everyone must understand. I watched it shortly after the birth of my son while watching him sleep.

  • @gregorymoats4007

    @gregorymoats4007

    Жыл бұрын

    Indeed. Jonathon displayed, at least for me, what can only manifest from within those who gather in unity of spirit. Or at least pointing towards it. His desire to not be first so as to build upon others before him seems to be the humility of growing in wisdom. Reformulating a prepared talk, including and expanding collective knowledge and wisdom in real-time. Not needing or wanting to be first. A form of dialogos. He is at ease with Being. He teaches ways of thinking, not what to think, like a good spiritual director. It is not simply commentary for consumption. It is real nourishment for a soul…and he knows this cannot be accomplished necessarily though a screen. Yet somehow he seems to do just that…and that’s not nothing

  • @brycejohnson9952

    @brycejohnson9952

    Жыл бұрын

    Watching now with my 5 day old daughter on my lap. (First). Hard to listen to the Abraham Isaac narrative. Good stuff.

  • @Ac-ip5hd

    @Ac-ip5hd

    Жыл бұрын

    Congrats! God grant him Many Years!

  • @quentissential

    @quentissential

    Жыл бұрын

    Congratulations and blessings!

  • @fakename3208
    @fakename3208 Жыл бұрын

    So cute how Pageau brought his own podium to the talk

  • @lisaonthemargins

    @lisaonthemargins

    Жыл бұрын

    He carried it all the way from his home in Canada

  • @lisaonthemargins

    @lisaonthemargins

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes, he made it himself

  • @gregorymoats4007

    @gregorymoats4007

    Жыл бұрын

    After 24 hours I can no longer help myself; it’s a lectern

  • @MarcumDavid

    @MarcumDavid

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@gregorymoats4007 💯

  • @michaelmartin3122
    @michaelmartin3122 Жыл бұрын

    Jonathan just explained Ecclesiastes for us.

  • @phiswe
    @phiswe Жыл бұрын

    Being able to be disappointed in what you deem most important is what’s more important than the selfish need to find importance in your disappointment.

  • @kylekloostra5659

    @kylekloostra5659

    Жыл бұрын

    This is gold. Thank you, Philip.

  • @zaggy3110
    @zaggy3110 Жыл бұрын

    I like the german word for disappointment, namely "Enttäuschung" Täuschung means "deception", so Enttäuschung = disappointment is the unmasking of this deception (sometimes self-deception) and is therefore actually something positive

  • @anselman3156

    @anselman3156

    Жыл бұрын

    I shall have to polish up my German and French, to look into the origin of these words and concepts, but I know that in French decevoir and deception have to do with disappointment, as in Je suis decu, rather than our English sense of being deceived. Language comparison is fascinating

  • @dalibofurnell

    @dalibofurnell

    Жыл бұрын

    I just did a Google search and this is what it gave: What is the biblical meaning of disappointment? Disappointment is a Process. And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To him be the power forever and ever. What does God teach us through disappointment? However, with God, when we get disappointed, we can always make a decision to get reappointed. We can choose to look to Him for new hope and renewed strength to go forward.

  • @lancecleaver227
    @lancecleaver227 Жыл бұрын

    Real wisdom for young people: any Church is made up of the messiness of people and our foibles. Church at its best provides us with the "pattern" of the Heavenly and Holy as it elevates us above these "disappointments" which are baked into life in this world for our good to keep us stretching, seeking, and yearning for God.

  • @rexgloriae316
    @rexgloriae316 Жыл бұрын

    A great Christian understanding of "detachment". Similar to the calling of the stoics, but without love, stoics ends up being too harsh, and their philosophy practically unliveable. To another point JP makes; I think we can also end up idolising ("resting in") virtue itself. So, my chastity or patience becomes the whole point of the spiritual life. What comes with that is scrupulosity, despair, and guilt - because guess what, I will fall, and I will disappoint myself. So, then, do we detach from this expectation of perfectionism in this virtue? this seems to be the case. What's hard though, is the balance between the two: once we admit that we are imperfect, the danger is that we give up on being virtuous at all. And this cannot be the answer. So, as I see it, it's something like admitting your imperfections while striving towards it - yoked together with Christ.

  • @SweetE1403
    @SweetE14035 ай бұрын

    That was amazing!!! It takes on the issue of disappointment head on. This is important for believers to understand.

  • @ryanshue6308
    @ryanshue6308 Жыл бұрын

    "An eschatological memory" -Pageau "I am the Alpha and the Omega, the First and the Last, the Beginning and the End" -Revelation 22:13

  • @shari6063
    @shari6063 Жыл бұрын

    Home is where the mundane becomes sacred.

  • @lancecleaver227
    @lancecleaver227 Жыл бұрын

    33:14 Not seeking spiritual experience: reminded me of the Road to Emmaus as soon as Jesus broke the bread (Eucharist) and they finally recognized Him... He vanished.

  • @GRIFFIN1238
    @GRIFFIN1238 Жыл бұрын

    I really needed this. Jonathan is always helping me get closer to God.

  • @The_Golden_Echo
    @The_Golden_Echo Жыл бұрын

    This whole talk was an excellent discription of the critical role for spiritual discipline (ascesis). How can you be ready for disappointment and death if you haven't practiced it over and over? Also, the end of the Hail Mary: "pray for us now and at the hour of our death."

  • @yankeegonesouth4973
    @yankeegonesouth4973 Жыл бұрын

    23:23 While listening to this talk I contemplated the pursuit of one more cup of coffee. Then, I realized I didn't need it and luxuriated in the cup I already had. Thank you, Jonathan! 😊

  • @yosefrazin6455
    @yosefrazin6455 Жыл бұрын

    One of his better talks

  • @lisaonthemargins
    @lisaonthemargins Жыл бұрын

    I dunno man. People disappoint, places disappoint, I disappoint. But the Orthodox Tradition has not disappointed. The prayers, the hymns, the icons, the Fathers, Scripture, the services, the whole body of it. If I am disappointed in it, it's just because I'm not paying attention, or I have failed in humility. But it's an endless gift. And it's always there for when I wake up again.

  • @shari6063

    @shari6063

    Жыл бұрын

    I concur Lisa! Well said.

  • @Ac-ip5hd

    @Ac-ip5hd

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes! ☦️☦️☦️

  • @thewrightoknow

    @thewrightoknow

    9 ай бұрын

    Great to read you have found a home!

  • @OneMansOdyssey
    @OneMansOdyssey Жыл бұрын

    I love "Guru Jonathan" doling out life advice. I'm glad he plays that card close to his chest.

  • @biscuitsandthat
    @biscuitsandthat Жыл бұрын

    By far the most charismatic "I forgot to prepare a speech" moment ever 😂

  • @paquitojhs
    @paquitojhs Жыл бұрын

    I am always impressed by Jonathan's ability to explain so many complex thoughts into more digestible ideas. Thanks God bless all of you.

  • @trebraswell5043
    @trebraswell5043 Жыл бұрын

    One of my favorite talks really humbled us all

  • @shari6063
    @shari6063 Жыл бұрын

    Keep setting up the tension Jonathan! If we hold the tension we can walk on water.

  • @danielfolgado

    @danielfolgado

    Жыл бұрын

    Beautifully put!

  • @ChadTheAlcoholic
    @ChadTheAlcoholic Жыл бұрын

    Yes!!!!

  • @anselman3156
    @anselman3156 Жыл бұрын

    In this world, in which we are on a pilgrimage towards eternal home, wearing our tabernacle of the mortal body, the only constant, abiding rest, through all the tribulations and disappointments in life, is found in personal union with God, as the Saviour said, to love Him above all else, to fix all our hopes for ourselves and for loved ones, in Him, to have Father, Son and Holy Ghost make their home in us now (St John 14.23), for that is eternal life now, knowing the only true God in Jesus Christ.

  • @user-ratatat
    @user-ratatat2 ай бұрын

    I re-watched this video today and it was just what I needed.

  • @stephenpaccone8120
    @stephenpaccone8120 Жыл бұрын

    JP and PVK 🎉❤

  • @I4MWH014M
    @I4MWH014M Жыл бұрын

    I'm so excited to hear this again. Good morning and thank you Pastor Paul

  • @naikhanomtom7552
    @naikhanomtom7552 Жыл бұрын

    This man is an absolute treasure ❤

  • @nancyd001
    @nancyd001 Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely wonderful. Thank you Jonathan, and Paul.

  • @sunrhyze
    @sunrhyze Жыл бұрын

    I'm listening to Rod Dreher's "How Dante Can Change Your Life," and he speaks of his breaking point with the Catholic Church, regarding the child molestation scandal and the way that it was mishandled just being too much for him to tolerate. Where is the line drawn between simple disappointment in human messiness and fallibility, and something that's just too much to bear? I'm sure several people would answer this several different ways, but Jonathan's comment about confronting disappointment after the "honeymoon" stage reminded me of Dreher. Anyway, this was a great talk and I'm definitely going to work on the part about grasping onto things, and about God's "concessions" to us while He tries to "drag us up the mountain."

  • @Slo_Cooka

    @Slo_Cooka

    Жыл бұрын

    The grasping is something I’ve known about and heard said in different forms. Like cupping a handful of sand or holding a wet bar of soap. As soon as you try to grasp either they either fly out your hand or trickle through losing the lot! Just thought I’d share that metaphor. :)

  • @heartmind4267

    @heartmind4267

    4 ай бұрын

    The point is that the disappointment of the Roman catholic church is systematic in nature. Thats what caused Dreher to leave, but he also saw the fullness in the Orthodox church

  • @leedufour
    @leedufour Жыл бұрын

    Thanks Jonathan and Paul!

  • @miastupid7911
    @miastupid7911 Жыл бұрын

    MT ATHOS: "If you die before you die, you won't die when you die" ΑΓΙΟΡΕΙΤΙΚΗ ΡΥΣΗ -ΣΟΦΙΑ : «Ἄν πεθάνεις πρίν πεθάνεις, δέν θά πεθάνεις ὅταν πεθάνεις» Ο ΧΡΙΣΤΟΣ ΜΑΖΙ ΣΟΥ ΙΩΝΑΘΑΝ

  • @JessPurviance
    @JessPurviance Жыл бұрын

    I love the evangelical Megachurch vibe 🤣🤣

  • @ProfesserLuigi

    @ProfesserLuigi

    Жыл бұрын

    Hillsong time.

  • @fakename3208

    @fakename3208

    Жыл бұрын

    Disappointed in lack of smoke machines

  • @ProfesserLuigi

    @ProfesserLuigi

    Жыл бұрын

    @@fakename3208 And lasers.

  • @Operatio

    @Operatio

    Жыл бұрын

    Post evangelical

  • @JessPurviance

    @JessPurviance

    Жыл бұрын

    Post-spiritualbutnotreligeous

  • @asimplenameichose151
    @asimplenameichose151 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this with us out in cyberspace. Would have loved to have been there; very glad to be able to consider these thoughts.

  • @dumimic
    @dumimic Жыл бұрын

    This is brilliant. Thank you!

  • @bvokey8842
    @bvokey8842 Жыл бұрын

    Always love hearing Jonathan expanding on or extrapoliting his message. So much here resonates with me.

  • @alexanderreichenfeld6859
    @alexanderreichenfeld6859 Жыл бұрын

    this is one of the most incredible talks i’ve heard

  • @jacobschultz7201
    @jacobschultz7201 Жыл бұрын

    Wow, so profound but also so practical, all wrapped up in that very Orthodox "bright sadness"...I couldn't resist immediately sending it to my priest and godparents 😅Glory to God for what you're doing, Pageau. And of course thank you, Pastor VanderKlay, for hosting this event and letting us see what happened there

  • @betterdaysahead3746
    @betterdaysahead3746 Жыл бұрын

    Superb. Humbling. One of my favorite talks thus far.

  • @rusty159753
    @rusty159753 Жыл бұрын

    If you expect to find home on this earth, you will be disappointed. Glory to God! I should never forget to remember that these good things point to Christ. They are not Christ.

  • @SteveBedford
    @SteveBedford Жыл бұрын

    Man, the stage lights and auditorium acoustics coupled with Jonathan's voice is giving me the heebie-jeebies

  • @WhiteStoneName
    @WhiteStoneName Жыл бұрын

    "In order for the world to exist, we cannot own a home." Here we go, Paul...Peter Rollins. This is the libidinal pursuit of the Lack (that which promises to make one whole and complete). And probably "whole" in a quantitative sense.

  • @ChadTheAlcoholic

    @ChadTheAlcoholic

    Жыл бұрын

    The misdirected search for power. All the same concept

  • @WhiteStoneName

    @WhiteStoneName

    Жыл бұрын

    Also, there is a kind or type of "disappointment" or "insufficiency" that is akin to our experience of it. The *reality* of it is the same, but the experience could be different. This is the Green Lady in Perelandra, Paul. She came to understand "disappointment" and "insufficiency", but in a way that was different than Adam. The *reality*/what is(not)/(not)God is always the same.

  • @JessPurviance

    @JessPurviance

    Жыл бұрын

    If only someone brought up Rollins in TLC earlier....

  • @WhiteStoneName
    @WhiteStoneName Жыл бұрын

    3:54 - 4:47 Re: memory of the Garden Consciousness is memory: remembering (unity) and forgetting (disappointment). A friend shared a line from a poem from Philip Dacey: "[he] wishes away what he gives praise to God by being, poor man."

  • @WhiteStoneName

    @WhiteStoneName

    Жыл бұрын

    "eschatological memory". Eternal. Past & future. Present

  • @WhiteStoneName

    @WhiteStoneName

    Жыл бұрын

    "We have to let them die." We have to give them up, give ourselves up. We have to forget. 9:04 "this is true for the world to exist."

  • @mattray2728
    @mattray2728 Жыл бұрын

    Just Wow

  • @jrgames29
    @jrgames29 Жыл бұрын

    Wonderful talk. Think it is v much in tune with McGilchrist's view of left brain dominance which is the grasping hemisphere. Also made me think of LOTR and how there is a Gift/Grasping dynamic throughout. Tolkien knew this.

  • @biscuitsandthat
    @biscuitsandthat Жыл бұрын

    "I'm trying to make you come" - Jesus, according to Johnny P🤣🤣🤣 This guy is a legend

  • @anselman3156
    @anselman3156 Жыл бұрын

    Abide in Jesus, abide in His love, let His words abide in you, and you will be His abode, in this life and in the next.

  • @Ac-ip5hd
    @Ac-ip5hd Жыл бұрын

    The image of the man and the woman finding rest at the bridal chamber is really great, as the segway into eschatology, memory, and letting go of it.

  • @47StormShadow
    @47StormShadow Жыл бұрын

    Of course this talk comes out when I'm dealing with two huge disappointments in life

  • @WhiteStoneName
    @WhiteStoneName Жыл бұрын

    14:00 - 14:18 Re: Self-naming and the pursuit of quantitatively full identity (a species of the Satan, the libidinal pursuit of the Lack) This is identitarianism and the autonomous, isolated individual v. the Person. And its spiritual roots are confessionalism. See the Rohlin/Pageau History of Nationalism talk. Group/religious identity moves toward Nationalist identity, moves to individualist identity. (which is all necessary in the evolution of consciousness: remembering/forgetting). As we move to Christ in me/you.

  • @angiec9599
    @angiec9599 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this! I REALLY wanted to attend the conference, but I wasn’t able to travel to California. I’m excited to watch the other speakers.

  • @shari6063
    @shari6063 Жыл бұрын

    When you die the surprise is found in the emergence of life. Death brings life. Truly, truly, I say to you, Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it stays alone: but if it die, it brings forth much fruit.

  • @rajsandher7191
    @rajsandher719110 ай бұрын

    Maybe we can find a spiritual home in this life. It's certain that it can not in anyway be static and sedentary which may lead people to despondency and to think there is no spiritual home in this reality. But the idea of a spiritual home (meaning Divine Relationship) in motion heading towards the complete consummation of Divine Relationship in Paradise I feel is highly probable.

  • @thesecondlawandthetowerhou6026
    @thesecondlawandthetowerhou6026 Жыл бұрын

    Oh dear! This means I have to let go of my self.

  • @therealbs2000
    @therealbs2000 Жыл бұрын

    Wow this is awesome!!! No views yet!!!

  • @vixendixon6943

    @vixendixon6943

    Жыл бұрын

    It is awesome, Yes and No... and there are views from the other side of the pond!!!

  • @mills8102
    @mills8102 Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely necessary talk. Enchantment may be needed but too much shiny advertisement teaches us that dishonesty or at least heavy omission is the norm. Thank you John for talking about the reality. May ironically help the weary find respite.

  • @ChadTheAlcoholic
    @ChadTheAlcoholic Жыл бұрын

    I just had a revelation about God not grasping us and how that makes us. 🤯

  • @thesecondlawandthetowerhou6026
    @thesecondlawandthetowerhou6026 Жыл бұрын

    Not really giving up, more like putting in place.

  • @ethanb2554
    @ethanb2554 Жыл бұрын

    Leave it to Pageau to destroy the premise of the conference in his first appearance 😅 The aim to find a spiritual home is an idolatrous one. "Spirituality" is not a means to supplement ourselves.

  • @carlotapuig
    @carlotapuig Жыл бұрын

    Based Jonathan:)

  • @PaulVanderKlay

    @PaulVanderKlay

    Жыл бұрын

    Bronze

  • @heyokaoverdashelly2kangel945

    @heyokaoverdashelly2kangel945

    Жыл бұрын

    lmfao

  • @shari6063
    @shari6063 Жыл бұрын

    Where does Heaven meet Earth? Right before your very eyes. Look to the horizon. It is all hidden in plain sight.

  • @SimpleAmadeus
    @SimpleAmadeus Жыл бұрын

    I'm realizing an interesting paradox in my current state that relates to this very much. I couldn't help but notice that God is taking me through this massive surge of rapidly explaining these key truths about my life and the faith, to the point where I almost can't keep up, and I think it's sort of a concession to a critical error in my attitude, because I really am not interested in following after all these people in the bible who waste decades of their lives learning these lessons the hard way. I almost don't even want to experience my own catechism, I just want to skip ahead to the good part. I'm not saying that I'm doing that, but it's what I want. And the fact that God is sort of giving it to me almost feels like a punishment. But, considering the message of this video, at the same time, I realize that giving up the detour is also a type of dying, that may just lead to an even fuller life compared to trying to really grasp this "growing up" period of time, so I might just be cheating my way into the secret joke solution almost by accident. Intrinsically giving up this period of time by not even wanting it, and forcibly giving up the skipping of it by still participating in it as much as I am able, giving up both of the things and seemingly receiving both as a result. It's all so very odd, but God is wonderful and great within all the strangeness. Praise the Lord.

  • @SimpleAmadeus

    @SimpleAmadeus

    Жыл бұрын

    Related thought: Is it a sacrifice if you didn't want it in the first place?

  • @vixendixon6943
    @vixendixon6943 Жыл бұрын

    Not Home but The Feeling of Belonging to..

  • @nektulosnewbie

    @nektulosnewbie

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@truly blessed that's the perennial danger of gangs. You find your sense of belonging in a terrible place.

  • @thesecondlawandthetowerhou6026
    @thesecondlawandthetowerhou6026 Жыл бұрын

    28 Grasp, LH

  • @vixendixon6943
    @vixendixon6943 Жыл бұрын

    First ❤❤❤

  • @PaulVanderKlay

    @PaulVanderKlay

    Жыл бұрын

    GOLD!

  • @gregorywitcher5618

    @gregorywitcher5618

    Жыл бұрын

    Shall be last…

  • @vixendixon6943

    @vixendixon6943

    Жыл бұрын

    @@gregorywitcher5618 You are breaking my heart Witcher!@ Why O Why?

  • @gregorywitcher5618

    @gregorywitcher5618

    Жыл бұрын

    @@vixendixon6943 Turth Justice and the American Way? Wait. That’s Superman.

  • @robertbdavisii9801
    @robertbdavisii9801 Жыл бұрын

    Sounds a lot like the Buddhist doctrine of impermanence and that life is suffering/inadequate/disappointing

  • @biscuitsandthat
    @biscuitsandthat Жыл бұрын

    This is far better than a lot of the comedy specials on Netflix at the moment, a brilliant work of satire

  • @lisaonthemargins
    @lisaonthemargins Жыл бұрын

    SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHY THE CLOSING SLIDE IS CAPE TOWN HAHAHAHAHA

  • @therealbs2000
    @therealbs2000 Жыл бұрын

    First

  • @vixendixon6943

    @vixendixon6943

    Жыл бұрын

    Sooo close...

  • @shari6063
    @shari6063 Жыл бұрын

    You don’t die because you are practicing dying. You die because only in dying can you trample death. See Viktor Frankl.

  • @fasted8468
    @fasted8468 Жыл бұрын

    Has Israel apologized for the USS liberty event yet?

  • @gregorywitcher5618
    @gregorywitcher5618 Жыл бұрын

    *tosses a comment to the algorithm*

  • @thesecondlawandthetowerhou6026
    @thesecondlawandthetowerhou6026 Жыл бұрын

    Dr IMcG and the Coincudence of Opposites.

  • @thesecondlawandthetowerhou6026

    @thesecondlawandthetowerhou6026

    Жыл бұрын

    Oops! Coincidence…….if vowels matter. Or words. We talk because we cannot see so we fill up the space like wee addicts. Or we eat.

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