i literally have no one and have pretty much always been alone and i dont get what i am doing wrong

@oliviamae8807

3 ай бұрын

I totally get you like my friends went to a different college (I'm British so equivalent is grade 12 I think) and I have no friends, and I've never had to make any since I was like 2 so now I've been learning how to socialise all over again and it makes you an independent person being lonely but it's so tough feeling like you have to work out what it is about you that means you don't make friends but maybe it's that thought itself which makes it difficult. Theres nothing actually wrong with you. honestly I'm so thankful to know im not the only one bc it can feel like that when all you can see for miles is friendship groups, it's almost like someone's put a highlighter on everyone who's chatting and laughing - but yeh I definetly found alot of refuge in books

@magicfairyprincess28

3 ай бұрын

just cried to my mom for hours on end about this exact same thing

@sarah-yr2db

3 ай бұрын

@@magicfairyprincess28 i relate, hope you find some friends soon

@rosewurkz

Ай бұрын

Sending you big hugs.. I wish everyone in this comment section could just casually meet up.. instead of being alone in our little corner of the 🌎, GOD BLESS YOU 🙏💕

@Jamellii

Ай бұрын

Nothing. It's always a group for you I can confidently say most of the other groups you're seeing are going to collapse like a house of cards soon. I had a group since 2018 and 3/8th of us don't talk no more. Remember it's not the group you need but that 1, 2 or 3 real ones you need. You'll get there

advice from a junior: most friend groups will always fail. I've been there in 6th grade but all you gotta do is really find that one person you vibe with and that outweighs any 7 person group chat. Dont change up who you are to impress others. And don't fall into the trap of substrances and if you find that group don't ever abandon them

im a freshman, i talk to alot of people bc i like to make friends and its comforting yk. but i still eat lunch alone everyday, i almost never have people texting me or reaching out (with the acception of 1 or 2 ppl). it just hurts so much because i feel theres something wrong with me, when i know theres not. everytime i think i find my people, i end up sabotaging those relationships leaving me alone again. which i know sounds ridiculous to complain about when i know its my fault, but its also a trauma response to stuff that ive experienced in my childhood and in previous years in middle school and stuff. ive been struggling with generalized anxiety disorder for my whole life and severe depression for almost 4 years now and i cant put into words the amount of pain i feel every second of everyday. school is the most social part of my life, when i come home, im alone for 3-4 more hours and then my mom gets home. me and my mom are kinda close but she overwhelms me so much. i spend my days alone. i dont have pets or siblings. its just me for like 15 hours of the day. idrk what else to put in here, but it sucks really.

@maria-zn7jd

3 ай бұрын

YOU AND ME ARE THE SAME EXCEPT IM A JUNIOR…i have no siblings either

@THAYOUNGDON

3 ай бұрын

You’ll be ok just keep going bro

@luvv4lyricc

3 ай бұрын

@@THAYOUNGDON thanks bookie

@OfficialJuneATL

2 ай бұрын

i felt that lately yet still i have a few good friends yet i just not had them that close to me but yeah i get that.

@omegaelephant9224

Ай бұрын

Tell me about it, I'm also a freshmen, I have no friends and have been bullied since elementry, of course it's not everyone that bullies me but it kinda feels like it, and even with people who are nice and good people I'm just nervous to talk to them.

For me class 11th last year was the most exhausting lonely sad year for me i was so alone that i was sick sitting in class hearing people laugh and tell silly jokes i was so sad because i didnt have anyone to tell silly jokes and laugh i skipped most the classes that year because i was just sad sitting there I missed out on so many opportunities to makes friends with because i was scared i would be judged Either way this year for class 12th i decided to change no not my personality but i decided to become more active and you can say it did work well ofc i still have issues dealing with a larger group but im better than before i have friends and i have people i can laugh and tell silly jokes to

This is sooo!!! For the last two (in my senior year now) years of school, I've had no body, and it's so isolating. I'm starting to talk to more people now, but nothing will take away the feeling of watching everyone else experience high school while you've been left behind.

@kietalksalot

4 ай бұрын

you’re so realll for this (love ur pfp btw)

@Fluorescent.mushrooms

4 ай бұрын

@@kietalksalot ty!!! I'll probably read the perks of being a wallflower because of this...!

@maria-zn7jd

3 ай бұрын

too real

@Hirtly

Ай бұрын

Going through that now i just resent them so much

@Fluorescent.mushrooms

Ай бұрын

@@Hirtly resent is so real, I've literally become such a jealous person 😭

i just graduated highschool and had spent my entire highschool experience alone and lonely, i had friends for the first two years bc i had lived in that town since 6th grade. but when i moved junior year and then again in senior year, i completely just had no friends. you described that experience so greatly. im a freshmen in college now and still feel that loneliness

im so glad i stumbled upon this video. its sort of oddly comforting that other people my age are experiencing this too. since freshman year, ive noticed that high school friendships have never worked for me. and since the beginning of 11th grade (my current grade) and some of 10th, ive also been eating lunch alone too. the stares and whispers are so unsettling and just increases my anxiety. rn ive kind of isolated myself from school and socializing entirely bc my closest friends started showing less interest in me/the friendship. (note: isolating is the worst form of coping!) anyways, enough of me rambling. you summed it up perfectly. therapists, parents, etc. do not understand how difficult it is to make friends ESPECIALLY at this age. (most) people our age all so reckless, toxic and rude and its so hard to find genuine, understanding people. and after what youve said i lowkey might start reading/watching perks of being a wallflower and bones and all 🙈

@oliviamae8807

3 ай бұрын

I feel like in this century as well as western culture has gotten more and more individualistic, the world isn't built to maintain friendships anymore, its not like we grow up in a small community were we get to really know these people who all have different ways of thinking and traits, now we get to pick and choose - and people are attracted to the bigger personalities which can be superficial sometimes 😅 it makes it hard to be a person who likes meaningful friendships

I'm seeing more and more girls talking about this problem. It's really horrible ☹️

I also read the perks of being a wall flower freshman year after watching the movie in 7th, and coming back to it, to read or watch always gives me a sense of hope. I’m a sophomore and have never felt more alone specially in school. I wake up crying I’m so anxious to go. But knowing other people have been there and are there, is really helping.

@faiyaz9768

5 ай бұрын

Same I’m also a sophomore and I’m so alone in school and it sucks because I feel high school should be the best years but it just sucks I have a few friends but ppl don’t really text me or reach out I had friends freshman yr but they left me out and then eventually got rid of me

I'm a junior in college and the beginning of high school was really difficult for me bc I had a major falling out with my friends during the last couple months of middle school. High school is rough because it feels like you're constantly in competition to not be perceived as "weird" or "lonely". I remember feeling bad a lot of the time because I spent a lot of lunches by myself. I did eventually find a good group of friends, although it didn't really happen until my sophomore year. We're still friends now in college! I want to say to any current high schooler struggling it is definitely rough feeling like you're being judged all the time, and that's something that you'll hopefully experience WAY less after you graduate. At least in my experience, adults really don't care that much about things that seemed super important in high school like how many friends you have, what clothes you wear, etc. The older you get the more you let go of what others think as you become more confident in yourself. I'll take a small group of really good friends over a large group of sorta friends any day. My biggest advice for highschoolers is to stop trying to please people who might be negatively judging you. As stereotypical as it sounds, if you live as your authentic self eventually the right people will find you. Loneliness is hard, but things will get better!!

YESSS!! Exactly why I love the book is bc the format it’s written in. He is me, I am him, we are wallflowers :)

I mean it depends right for say if you are quite shy and introverted as my self it’s hard to socialise with people and at times you don’t look very approachable so that adds to it

@crystalite-id2ob

4 ай бұрын

True

i've been struggling since becoming a freshman and this video is really meaningful. it's good to know that i'm not the only one who has no friends and gets freaked out at lunch every day. it's especially good to know that it can pass. i keep failing to involve myself in conversation and i'm terrified that i will never have a place in anyone else's life. i have issues with executive dysfunction, so trying to balance a social life on top of the already too stressful routines that everyone else seems to come across naturally requires a lot more energy than i have. i kept having panic attacks at the beginning of school but now i've just been dissociating. anywho. good video :D

I'm a freshman but I've been homeschooled for all of my life, I don't know what to do or where to go but hearing your perspective was really neat :) I think it kinda opened my eyes a little and I appreciate it, I really want to meet other people because I've been isolated for pretty much all my life. it's really cool to hear the perspective of someone who's a little older and has had similar experiences. thank you for sharing

U seem like the type of person that I would definitely vibe with though:(. Sadly i can't find anyone out of the 60+ students that i take classes with that are like want to talk or message me after school or stuff like that. I find it so funny that sometime you find posts on social media where people tell their story on their experience of having no friends and i find them to be the most lovely and funny person i have ever met?? like how could u not have any friends:((?? How could I ever meet someone like you?

This was a super interesting and articulate vid I’m actually really surprised!! Surprised this hasn’t gone viral

im in ninth grade and im in a progressive diverse k-12 school that is super into inclusion and i almost never had any friends. in lower school i. would play tetherball alone,the covid hit and i got depression, didnt do any schoolwork, in 7th grade i had distant lunch friends for a year and a half, with depression in 7th grade and crying everyday during lunch instead of eating, then the friends left me in the dark, now im in ninth grade, in the fall i tried to eat with the sweat girls, in nov i started doing hw during lunch, in jan i started eating lunch in the side stairwell alone watching movies on my computer. i started fall behind on hw, in march i got my phone taken away permanently, but i still watch movies on my computer. late April i relapsed into cutting. being alone is harder than it looks, and no i cant just ‘join clubs’. 🙄 my sister has always had friends so i know the difference

Bruh Im crying bcs i search this up and miss my past its like the loneliness epidemic but its just the reality i didn't do highschool 😔 cs what if i could have met my ideal friends or some amazing person.. i feel like im old and like i miss physical touch even tho im not like tht to feel like someone cares yk i feel sad for myself lol I have one friend but its like they need me just for advice or idk when they feel alone they avoidant like me..bcs ive been alone too much. And it sucks as you get older kinda.. Im on the episode i always were like this alone introverted ,chameleon personality i don't show much interest in people..book reading I had one bestie she broke me I think i need Jesus idk

@faiyaz9768

5 ай бұрын

Real I searched it up as well trying to get out of being lonely but it’s hard book reading occupying as many hobbies because I can’t talk to ppl fr just got kicked out of a gc because I was 2 quiet idk what’s wrong w me but it’s sucks

@axmy0613

5 ай бұрын

@faiyaz9768 might sound corny ,Just ground yourself feel it..cry and journal about it or talk to a higher power.. sometimes I don't want to go to jobs bcs I feel disconnected to everyone bunch of mid 40 and 50 elders some people dont respect you bcs it's work the real world isn't school... I am 21 and I freak out....but you know what being alone is self discovery and sometimes you are going to feel lonely and that's okay too let go of attachments, false expectations Don't force anything but I would say find at least one person to talk too or re connect with an old good friend and if it doesn't work you're going to be just fine and focus on ur studies like seriously. Ahhg I'm like deep in thoughts You got this keep going. You are love ❤️ and I care otherwise I wouldn't gaf & you are enough .

@josephvarela9551

4 ай бұрын

Yes you do need jesus seek him amen

You are a very smart girl and even after what you’ve been through you’re still optimistic. Be proud that you’re using your time productively rather than turning to abusive substances. I promise your habits will pay off extremely well in the future.

I told myself in 8th grade that Freshman year would be my fresh start but little did I know that I would have no friends, have social anxiety, and basically build up a reputation that I’m a quiet loner who never talks. I went through my first year of high school with no friends and now I have the worse social anxiety ever. Even though there’s 3 more years, I can’t really see a future where I’d make a friend when pretty much everyone in my grade has seen that I’m secluded and quiet.

@kayoari3664

Күн бұрын

I can relate to your story so much I told myself that 9th grade was gonna be a fresh start for me I was going to a new high school I was gonna make a lot of new friends and join clubs but instead I didn’t the opposite of all of that and now I’m wishing I could go to a different school because my plans at that school didn’t work out

@Nonxistent_J

22 сағат бұрын

Oh my god I relate to this so much. I’m going to the 11th grade and still haven’t made any friends since I started HS. I told myself in 8th grade that I was gonna be a totally different person when I start HS but instead my social anxiety got worse each year since it started with this year being the worst. I honestly don’t know what I’m gonna do with myself if I don’t make friends next year. Like I genuinely feel like 11th grade will be my last “attempt” to make a friend because once I get to 12th grade, that’s it.

Humans have evolved loneliness, because in hunter gatherer societies, you couldn't survive very well without a community. It's measured that people have an average of about 2-4 main / most important friends, also due to statistics, there are some people that are part of several friend groups so they people end up with more friends closer. Reading is very much helpful to the brain, and just a fun thing to do. The internet automatically reduces your attention span because there are too many things you can access easily. Also seeing lots of opinions, but you only see their opinion on one thing, not knowing what you have in common, your brain doesn't relate to them, and divides opinion.

That’s how I was. I had 2 friends by the end of secondary school. We would sit in art during lunch & break.. I don’t speak to anyone from school anymore & now I have no friends my age. I wish I could have been friends with more people but my year of classmates was a nightmare.

It’s refreshing to hear about an experience that’s so scarily similar to mines. Love this and love ya too sis

All my friends were class of 23, im class of 24 been eating lunch alone all year and yk a couple people you know here and there but mostly lonely asf. Going from being on wrestling and football team and having friends, to completely lonely my senior year really gave me a new perspective

I wish I had friends but I’m too shy to talk to anyone

@gamegamer9523

Ай бұрын

I have been in your situation and my advice is that blame yourself take responsibility and take action.

@gamegamer9523

Ай бұрын

Put yourself out there.

@Kem1sk

7 күн бұрын

@@gamegamer9523 but thats hard

interesting prospective, i've been surrounded by people while high school experience. ups and downs with a shit ton of people but i've always had someone there.

It's good to make friend in secondary/high school as you can develop social skills that way, but something I would say is that after high school, whether you go to university/college or start working, unless you decide to maintain regular contact with your high school friends, you will likely become very distanced from them over time, as you move onto other stages of life and other people (I know this from personal experience). Focus on school, but talk to people, and don't beat yourself up over anything. I hope you have a lovely day, and I wish you much success in whatever you decide to do!

highschool was so hard for me i had no friends my life has been so much better af6ter graduation

I was alone since middle school, fortunately found a friend group but in all honesty I don't even like them, I just have to hang out with them because ion have anyone else. People in my school fucking SUCK and I hate how you're forced to just make friends in HS otherwise you're looked at as an outcast and people comment about you and pity you.

Oh girl. This continued for me during my whole college and o litreally made 0 proper friends. i just hope i do a bit better going forward

it also hard having lots of friends cuz rumours get spread abt u and stuff

praying for you heres a psalm that got me through alot Psalm 23 1The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing. 2 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 3 he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake. 4 Even though I walk through the darkest valley,[a] I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. 6 Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. i struggle with making friends sometimes too but whenever im sad and stuff im reminded that God is my friend and hes always there for me when i have no one to talk too i still have God and even when i do. please lean on him and pray . much love reply if you need anything.

Sending you big hugs.. I wish everyone in this comment section could just casually meet up.. instead of being alone in our little corner of the 🌎, GOD BLESS YOU 🙏💕

starting a new skl in april im dreading the feeling of being alone :((((

right now i'm in 3rd year in technical school, 2 more left to finish. going into first year i had some close friends from middle school, but as time went on we stopped talking. in my first year i made some friends and even became a part of a group that consisted of 4 people + me. our connection was literally based on being lgbtq etc etc, not a good thing to base friendships on. in my second year i became more miserable with them [note: before technical school i was a normal girl, my ex friends from middle school manipulated me into thinking that i was not attracted to anyone and thinking that i have no gender. so i was pretty miserable even before them.] hating myself and neglecting my family, my needs and my duties. on the summer break before third year i isolated myself a bit more from them and began spending more time with my family, notably with my cousins. we went on holidays together and my cousin even began taking me to martial art classes which i go to till today:) one day i wanted to talk with one person [i sat with him at a school desk all 2nd year] from my friend group about that my views have changed and are mostly opposing to what their whole group believes in. to my suprise he also agreed with me, but well, to this day he hangs out with them. and comes the start of third year - i notice he starts to distance himself from me, so i begin to slowly shift away from them as a whole. today i find myself in a somewhat comfortable position for me - 1. thanks to my cousin, i have found my closest family in the people who i train martial arts with, 2. i am in a better place mentally compared to my recent years when i hang out with these groups of friends, 3. i have taken better care of myself although all of this happened, i still hold respect for these people because at the end of the day, they are still human beings inside. i'm quite content with how things have played out, but having no one to talk to on the corridors in school or between lessons is really tiring mentally, especially since i sit alone. but well, a kindest thing a person can do for themselves is to let people go when they want to go:) i do miss some moments of our friendship, but not the feelings that accompany these memories. i really doubt that someone will read all of this, but to anyone who does - even if things are not looking good, have hope, appreciate every moment, before they turn into memories. ranting on a random youtube comment section at 9 pm combined with tomorrow having a math exam is really something i wouldn't have thought of

I had no friends from middle school through college. It is tough, but it ensures there are no distractions from your education and by being suspicious of peoples motives will protect you from being used.

@gamegamer9523

Ай бұрын

Are you confident with talking to people?

@shawnclement3365

Ай бұрын

@@gamegamer9523 Its work, but with practice and knowledge about the topic being discussed it is easier. I forced myself to management and yes there are moments when things are harder, I am not saying things will be easy.

the story of my life😔

im in 11th grade too and have no friends, it aint that big of a deal lmao

I’m a freshman and my friend barely talks to me and I feel so lonely😭😭😭😭

focus on classes and maybe join a sport or club... After HS is where REAL life starts. Also you wont really see the people you went to class with cause everyone takes different paths in life.

ure so real

Realll (I’m still in middle school)

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I saw Melinda Sordino and the thumbnail and had to click

watch this video 5-10 years from now when you apply your books to real life and remember you didn't initiate a conversarion with someone because you were afraid of being ostracized....make a video and tell us how it goes...

@kietalksalot

9 күн бұрын

?

Join a club. One thing i wish i did in highschool was join a club that interests you and socialize

Im in 7th i have no friends 😂

@johnnawilson1998

2 ай бұрын

And that's okay! U got this! 💗💗

@gamegamer9523

Ай бұрын

Join a club.

@SSO.WRLDDD

Ай бұрын

@@gamegamer9523 only clubs my school has you have to pay for.