The High 5 Habit: Take Control of Your Life with One Simple Habit w/ Mel Robbins
Some people you meet, you instantly CONNECT with them.
MEL ROBBINS is one of those people for me.
Ask anybody who knows me, and they will tell you that she is simply one of my favorite human beings I’ve ever met.
When you listen to this week’s episode, you’ll see why one of Mel’s superpowers is to connect with people wherever she goes.
In a smart, earthy, funny, and candid talk, Mel is a LIVE WIRE who’s going to win you over from the start.
A former criminal defense attorney, she is now one of the most sought-after motivational speakers in America. You may know her from her appearances on CNN as a legal analyst, or as the host Cox Media Group's The Mel Robbins Show, A&E's Monster In-Laws, and Fox's Someone's Gotta Go.
You may think that something as simple as giving a HIGH FIVE doesn’t amount to much, but as Mel explains, one HIGH FIVE can make all the difference in the world.
Think about it.
You have a lifetime of positive programming from giving others high fives. It’s impossible to say something negative a then give someone a high five. The two actions are INCONGRUENT.
You’ve never given it any thought, have you?
But Mel has.
She’s figured it out and applied the NEUROSCIENCE to back it up.
Like many great actions, it’s the simple ones like HIGH FIVES that carry the most weight for me and you.
That includes the importance of learning how to properly HIGH FIVE YOURSELF to start your day.
Yes…it’s important to HIGH FIVE other people but it’s ESSENTIAL that you validate your self-worth by generously giving yourself HIGH FIVES. It’s even more CRITICAL when you haven’t accomplished anything big than when you do.
Mind-blowing, isn’t it?
But when Mel goes into the physiological details, it makes perfect sense.
If that isn’t enough, Mel shares some eye-opening insights on how to cope with gossip and jealously. Here’s a hint. Learn to EMBRACE JEALOUSY.
And if you’d like to know how 5 SECONDS can change your life several times a day, Mel gives an awesome tutorial about the power of a 5-4-3-2-1 countdown.
There’s so much to impact behind the psychology of a HIGH FIVE.
BOTTOM LINE…
A HIGH FIVE is an amazing gift you can give others.
More important, a HIGH FIVE is an AMAZING gift you can give YOURSELF.
0:00 Intro
2:37 Why Mel wrote her new book
3:09 How Mel hit rock bottom
6:52 Mel discovering the self-high five
12:59 The science behind high fiving yourself
20:08 Why some people resist the self-high five
24:29 The downside of being very driven
25:40 The power of encouragement, support, & celebration
30:18 How to deal with jealousy & gossip
36:12 Self-high five is not meant to turn you into a narcissist
39:02 The story of the 5-second rule
45:24 How counting backward interrupt habit loops
55:36 Your lowest moments is where you build inner strength
58:18 The laundry analogy
1:01:14 Motivational power of a high five
1:04:53 The psychic that Mel had on her TV show
1:13:54 Giving yourself permission to want something
1:23:34 The high five challenge
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Mel Robbins not only saved my life, her five-second rule turned my life completely around and gave me the courage to shift my paradigm, and start a business. I was just diagnosed with cancer in late 2013, the previous year I went through a divorce, and it felt like my life was flat lining. I owe Mel Robbins everything, thank you for having Mel on your program! ~ Super Dave Raines
I CANNOT believe it,the woman who literally started my mindset "reset" and the man who's messages get me off 'ledges'.. TOGETHER...this is gonna be AMAZING..#Maxout
Ed does such a great job of edifying others. Such a generous and wise soul.
@hopefully2224
2 жыл бұрын
These two together had such great chemistry!
@BrodyHenry96
Жыл бұрын
I see what you did there 😂
a high five is not a celebration of your work, it's a celebration of you! that one hit me hard! Thanks Ed and Mel
@Sharedpath777
2 жыл бұрын
Just because you are is the reason you get a high 5 is what my brain said💌
@tytydee77
2 жыл бұрын
YES ME TOO!
"..your mind is designed to help you. Your job is to tell it what you want, and to remain open to the possibility of having it." - Mel Robbins
She changed my life!!! Literally! And here’s God’s timing being perfect and bringing Mel in at the right time! Love her!!! Thank you Eddie!!!
@theluvqueen5558
2 жыл бұрын
Mine to her story definitely changed my life to I had lost all hope in a lot of things over the last couple years.
@johannalacson3363
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, Mel was indeed an inspiration. I pray for you, more success and happiness . My gratefulness to you and thankfulness that I had a chance to listen and enjoy your show. 🙏
@johannalacson3363
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Eddie for giving me a chance to listen to you too, just as well. May Our loving Jesus be with you always.😊🙏
@PatriciaGodboutArt
2 жыл бұрын
These words ring true for me and I hate self help shit, I don’t know why I watched, but I believe it may help, thank you both
@elisabethkaplan943
2 жыл бұрын
@@theluvqueen5558 q
*To all the dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and right people, ANYTHING is possible.* 🙏🖤
@rayarpjr7532
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your positive words Ina negative world
@MabeL22222
2 жыл бұрын
Amen
@KisDraga
2 жыл бұрын
🥲 needed to read that. Thank you
@lisahenson9293
2 жыл бұрын
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Another comment. This interview made me cry several times. Why? - A deep realization, truth and a moment that my soul said: this is you, this is your moment to start to begin to change. Again, thank you both!
@dk1828
2 жыл бұрын
You go, girl 💯🤍
@tksstories
2 жыл бұрын
I love this comment! 💖🙏✨Me too. Cheering you on!🙌
Mel has certainly changed my life. I’m 80 in 2022 and Life is just beautiful! Thank you Mel ❤️
This is going to be life changing.... I'm the person who listens to every amazing podcast, takes notes and then kind of forget about it.... Some things I'll take away, but boy did this particular podcast hit me in all my feels and made me realize I can do this, I can change my life, Mel mf'ken Robbins is amazing, and I"ve been wanting to start her mindset reset program from back in 2019! This podcast is what I need, her stories are amazing, touching, shocking, what she's gone through so relatable! These stories are ones I've never heard before, and I'm blown away. As Ed was praising her I was right there with her, she's amazing, the way she tells stories, her no bs attitude, gahhhh Im going to meet her one day, she's my painting, I can't wait to be living my dream life, and being absolutely humbled to be in her presence one day! Now I'm blabbing, but this was amazing this is going to change so much, not only for me, not only for my family but for so. many. people....sharing sharing sharing!!!
*“With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.” - Eleanor Roosovelt*
The High Five study with kids.....................brought tears to my eyes. Wow Wow Wow!!!!
High-Fiving yourself is part of Selfcare!!!
@32:00 jealously piece is absolute gold. "JEALOUSY IS BLOCKED INSPIRATION"
Happy birthday to me!!! Mel is the muse of adulting. Fantastic talk.
@BringingPrettyBack
2 жыл бұрын
Happy birthday!
@EdMylettShow
2 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed.
The 5 second rule was already something huge but doing a high five with yourself ... AMAZING ! It make me smile with myself and give me so good energy ! Definitely put it into my morning routine 💪
Ed, your comment on not recognizing yourself resonated with me. Today I saw a reflection at the mall and admired the person only to realize it was ME. I was shocked.
I have shared with people for decades the ancient law ‘energy follows thought’. I have watched the things I share improve their lives, not as much for myself. I had no idea how a simple‘high five’ could change a day.I had not experienced you “Miracle Mel” until after this incident. I was experiencing an oppositional day full of frustration. While moving down the road with the traffic (I bet you know where this is going lol) when the cars in front of me began stopping. When BAM a car slammed into the back of the car. Segue back a bit, I have only had the car for three months and vehicle nightmares behind that. Back to the moment, we pulled into a parking lot and stopped. The driver was fragmented and could hardly think, an accident, two screaming children, kind of a mess. Asking if they are ok and I had looked at the cars and the only damage was a bent license plate. My bad day could have escalated into really bad but? Without actually using my brain I said “high five, give me a high five “ which confusion she did. There was nothing to tell anyone, like police or insurance people. However her little ones were still upset. I had some mints in the car and gave some to her to distract her little ones, did another high five to celebrate that all was well and we parted. The entire day was incredible altered into an amazing day of calm. I did not even attempt to ask myself why, I just enjoyed that rare day. Segue it was a few months later while driving and listening to something on KZread that the segment finished and this Mel person came on and I could not change it so I for the first time listened to Mel share her ‘High Five’ story. Weird and wonderful stuff, thanks Larry :)
Anyone else pause this to give their self a high five? Didn’t expect to cry when I did it though 😭 I guess my inner being has been waiting for that validation and approval
SELF LOVE....love yourself no matter what.....be your own best friend!
I've regularly "liked" my own social media posts, photos, and videos. My sister posted a quote one day that said "Liking your own posts is like high-fiving yourself." I thought, "What's wrong with that?"
@EdMylettShow
2 жыл бұрын
Precisely... awesome addition!
Mel Robbins is amazing! Here 5-second rule to wake up in the morning changed my life!
I don't comment on any KZread videos! But I MUST express my gratitude for this video for this gift, I'm going to start to gift myself everyday! 👋🏼 thank you
I had never heard of Mel up till this day. I will never forget mel for this day
I love how Ed during the whole interview is cheering for her and acknowledgs her discovery
Years ago my husband and dud this thing... "High five.... Yourself!" We'd high five each other and then High five ourselves. Why we stopped I don't know, but I've started High fiving myself again. Time to celebrate who I am!!!
@EdMylettShow
2 жыл бұрын
Love this idea.... stay motivated!
What an amazing interview! Got the book, in print and audible. I didn't want this to end. I could listen to you two feed off each other for the duration! So damn good! I'm high fiving baby!!!!
Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of the relationships you can have with others🎉 Great interview and would LOVE to have the support of all who like this video as well! Like minded individuals for the win 🥇
Mel Robbins is by far one of the best, most authentic and creative coaches out there because she "talks what she's walked". I love the 5 second rule and have been using it for quite a while in my life. The idea of "the high five" is fantastic. I usually look at myself in the mirror and say something like "I love you! You're great! You've got this". I think the high 5 is even better because it's anchored to a certain meaning and movement of the hand. Mel is a genius and I can't wait to hear her next "self development tool". Hopefully it will also be connected to the number 5 which is a good luck charm or a protector from the evil eye in Arabic "chamsa". I will definitely listen to this again and take notes. #MAXOUT from Israel
Criticizing her or ignoring her… I feel that 🙏🏼 Listened to a podcast of Mel talking about this book 3 days ago and I’ve high-fived myself each day. Thank you Mel 💞
@EdMylettShow
2 жыл бұрын
Glad this interview reached you.
The one quote that sums up this video for me is, "if you look to others for validation, you will be miserable".
I’ve read and listened to Mel Robbins for a while, but this interview is SO good! This is a re-watch it episode. #maxout
@intuitivediane
2 жыл бұрын
All interviews he does is brilliant. He brings people to their top game
@korequinn4032
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, you are right.
Damn that's spot on.. Im also jealous and judgmental about those who love themselves.. I didn't even realise it was a thing until now! Great show by the way!
There we are at 4:45 am let's start a new life let's gooo
Wow, I am extremely emotional listening to this. I feel relief and hope right now. This is one of my favorite conversations either of you have had. I'm so grateful for you Mel and Ed.
@Katarina999able
2 жыл бұрын
Love and thanks
Wow, I found my self balling crying at the end. This conversation touched my soul and some deep level that I can’t explain.
I 100% appreciate you muting the profanity so that I can listen to this amazing woman while being with my Littles. Especially since the Littles can truly benefit from this information as well.😊
I’m sharing this many friends, family members, and loved ones knowing this is gonna greatly benefit them so much that they will no longer struggle with their depression anymore & I plan on including this method to my daily routine beginning tomorrow morning ❤❤
I love Mel. She is real. She makes me feel at peace with my struggles.
To see these two icons in the field of personal development be so vulnerable says we all share the same struggles and we are all connected. Ed, Mel Thank you! Blessings for the both of you for many years to come.
I love that! “The high 5 is a celebration🎉🎊 of YOU!”❤️🙌🏼❤️
Hi Ed, I don't know you or your show but honesty and vulnerability is more attractive than looks. You are scoring pretty high in this session.
This made my cry when you talked about your painting. I know I can do better. I gave myself gifts like this in my life . Thank you for sharing .
A high 5 exchanges a spark of energy between people with a bang...its like charging up your energy mentally and then jumping it to each other...even if you do it to yourself in the mirror. Thanks Mel.
I haven't heard the interview and I liked the video. How can you go wrong with Mel and Ed. Can't wait to hear it 🙂
Wow I saw her on someone else’s show and she was nothing like this. This was breath taking because you guys really vibed and she truly let her guard down. I saw this exact type of interview about the same book and felt nothing on another popular channel first but her stories really inspired me that there is something more and there are so many loved ones connect to us and behind us watching out for us. My sister Michelle went to the other side last year a month into covid and I couldn’t miss her more I’ve actually shut her voice out but watching this reminded me I need to listen to myself more and listen to her voice again. We were like twins so when she died I lost a part of myself it felt like I was missing half of my body but as I come into my own I’ve had to see therapists take meds and I hate that I feel so stuck. I am getting distracted by the ad playing after your video lol but the point is that I’m going to start cheering myself on again and listening instead of ignoring what I really want. It’s hard to make big life shifts but my inner self is calling me to some big changes but I feel like I keep spinning my tires and like no real growth is happening. Anyway one moment one day at a time but I am believing, not just hoping, for better. 🙏Namaste, Joy Karhu
One of the best interviews I have seen. I love her... because she is real. She's not fake. He's not fake. They are ambitious but loving and kind. I am thankful to have the internet so I can have both of them be in my top 10 each day!
@EdMylettShow
2 жыл бұрын
Glad this reached you today... what was your favorite part?
@kimandari2750
2 жыл бұрын
@@EdMylettShow I like that you covered both the high 5 and the 5 second rule. 👌 It was like watching two old friends having a heart to heart conversation. Truly a great interview. I watch 1 or 2 a day.
The down to earthness of Mel is just so helpful, she's not talking from some high place looking down, she's talking to you with her brilliant wisdom, straight up, no strings attached. You can really feel how she really wants to help people with this wisdom she has . Really great, wonderful woman.
Hey Ed! You and Tom are my best interviewers so far. I found Tom first and I love him too but dude, you are super amazing at giving people 5 stars at what they do. Reserve a space for me Ed, I'm already climbing my own ladder towards greatness too! So help me God.
Mel..."Jealousy is blocked inspiration." That's so true and the fact that you're really mad at yourself for not DOING. 💯
@EdMylettShow
2 жыл бұрын
I love this quote as well!
I so needed this today. I’ve cried watching this as I am all to familiar with beating myself up. Thank you Ed and thank you Mel, for making the world a better place! You guys truly care about others! God bless you! #MAXOUT
This interview was life changing for me! I’ve hit rock bottom and this was the encouragement I was so needing. Thanks Ed and Mel, this really spoke deeply into my soul xx
@dianera2571
2 жыл бұрын
NEVER give up ✋🏼
@remmuslilly
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Allyson, I don't know what you are going through, I hope you are going towards the direction of where you want to be. Please remember you don't have to do it alone, make sure you reach out for help when you feel overwhelmed, sending you 💖💖
I have been in the very same place over the last four years. Every thing in my life fell apart and needed to be dismantled from a very elemental core belief. Thank you so much Mel and Ed for this interview it is so much need it right now as we practice self-love and self healing
"You are the most important person in your life. "........... "Your foundation with yourself, is the foundation of every relationship in your life." BOOM! 💥 💥 💥
Oh my god, this channel is like the chest with the treasure! Got me into tears! Ed, Mel, thank you so much! You awesome!
Thank you Ed for this rich conversation with this exceptional woman who changes many lives all over the world and I am one of this. Mel is so inspiring. Mille merci Greetings from Cairo
I didn’t know she was from Western Michigan! I grew up in Grand Rapids! Hey, if someone from West Michigan can be like her today then there really IS hope for us all out there! lol.
could not be more profound thank you both
I share same sentiment with you regarding my daughter and my husband that they need to do it for themselves not me doing it for them. And I always practice/apply your advice including 5 seconds rule. The high 👋 5 reflection on the mirror. Kudos to you👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌
A buddy of mine, out of the blue, just sent me this link yesterday. I just finished watching it and I have goosebumps. I needed this and didn't even know it. Thank you. I also just looked in the mirror and high fived myself!!!
I said something to my therapist that made her send this to me and so glad she did. Touched on a lot of insecurities and struggles I've been dealing with.
Can totally relate to her. Happy to see this video even if it’s late. You are never too late to be more positive about yourself.
She's genuine that's why I love her. I love you both. Thank you for this.
I could listen to you two all day. You should consider a tour together. I'm starting "The High 5 Habit" now and just ordered the book on Audible. Thanks Ed!
The painting story at the end is the perfect example of law of attraction. She did something very simple we all already know. She gave her continuous attention (11 years) to something and it came to fruition. The key is she did without resistance. Powerful conversation. 🙏
53:01 Ed "You are right for me in this space!"...Mel reciprocates...but these 2 are truly gifted and speaking personally LITERALLY saved my life when in December and January,I was seriously contemplated "switching the lights off" on my life.(other factors helped) but when you have positivity and good workable advice that these 2 give...Mann...God Bless you both..#maxout
@bubbledouble9232
2 жыл бұрын
just remember to connect the dots. The downs r part of getting up taller
I rarely clap at the end of someone’s message; interview on KZread… 👏👏 Mel -you are brilliant! What a woman
@EdMylett I am a first time viewer who had not found your work until today. In searching through You Tube to find the 5 second rule suggested by a friend, I chose this video not knowing anything about you or the message. Thank you so much for participating fully and posting this inspiring interview with Mel Robbins. When the pupil is ready, the master shall appear. I bought the Audible of The Hi-Five Habit and am thrilled to continue learning. WOW. #twistingtales
You know what...it is 8:47 pm Sunday night and this resonates highly...so highly that I just gave myself a high 5 in the mirror. This is now a practice that I will do from this moment on.
Fantastic interview! Adore Mel’s warts-and-all candor ❤️
“I never knew how to connect to myself…” This is me right now. So glad I found this video! 💯
Holy shit. The story about the painting had me in tears. Thank you Ed and Mel! I needed to hear this.
Wow what a powerful & sometimes moving talk. The story of the painting had me in tears. Thanks guys.
Blew me away! Just bought the book today. 3 days in a row of High-5ing myself - watching Mel for the 3rd time! Love this talk! Thanks Mel & Ed!
Thank you for sharing. I like programming ourselves every day. Having the courage to love me makes me do more things every day. Staying calm and enjoying the moment. Trust the journey.💜
As it wrapped up I thought "I think I'll start that over and play it again" and then Ed goes "this may be one you listen to again. At least that's my hallucination." Ed manifested me listening to this twice, back to back. That's powerful shit!
I looooooove this lady! Omg🤦🏽♀️ her story telling is EPIC! I’ll be buying this new book too! 🤷🏽♀️
The backstory w the 5 Second Rule that ultimately led to the TedX talk and how at the end..."oh this is what I do...the 5 second rule"............WHOA.
She is amazing, so genuine unlike others. Amazing
This is awesome Ed Mylett and Mel Robbins!!!
This show is my painting. The next step in my life is jumping this hurdle of negative self talk and image. So excited to explore this book and completely love your show! Thank you both for all you do! #maxout #highfive
Ed, I enjoy all of your shows. This one was special . Thank you for you and your show.
@EdMylettShow
2 жыл бұрын
Always brother.
ed mylett plus mel robbins is equal dopamine to love myself. thank you guys
How can anyone not like this interview??? My favourite people together. Thank you Ed and thank you Mel. Such a powerful interview. Got me emotional too. ☺️🙏🏻❤️
Ed+Mel= exposure to life-affirming info. Love it.
Love you Mel! I want to give you a ✋🏼… started the high five! Gifted with storytelling
*It always seem impossible until it's done.* _~Nelson Mandela_ 📚
Beautiful Interview-I have so much more respect for you Mel-just found you last week and been using z5 second rule but still working on high five -longest so far been 3 days-thank you Nr Mylett
Literally one of my favourite interviews of all time. I love the honesty and authenticity of both of you. Totally inspiring. Thank you!!!!
Thank Ed Mylett for posting this video. This video has some wonderful information that is useful for me and other people. Best Regards!
sharing this! i have no idea why this has only 200k views, this deserves a couple million!! man the nuggets! love you both! got chills all throughout the conversation
My book came yesterday via Amazon. Thank you x
Thank you Ed and Mel for these gems. Good morning world. Carpe diem
It took me all day to get through this because I was working, but this is exactly what I needed to see and hear. I've been following Mel recently and the timing could not have been more perfect. I'll be watching it over again later!
This is absolutely brilliant and the stories at the end...if you hesitate about listening to the whole interview, do yourself a favor and watch it to the last minute. Already shared and got the book 😊
Me too Mel, I suffered too. I've been trying to explain the things you talk about to people for years. (Not high fiving yourself in the mirror) but the rest of it. I walk around saying things like "I had to change my thinking".. "It was the way I think that was the problem".. "My thinking was making me sick" (it really was too...anxiety, high blood pressure, multiple suicide attempts.).. I didn't need research.. I somehow by the grace of God just figured it out, and the research didn't matter to me. (because I had results). I am so grateful that you are bringing this information out into the world in a digestible way that people can use... I love it 😁 The day that I got humble enough to be wrong, and also courageous enough to tell my brain to SHUT UP everything changed. The whole world changed.
YOU HAVE ME CRYING ALSO!! I CAN RELATE TO ALL MEL SHARED...ESPECIALLY ON MAKING LIFE HARD FOR YOURSELF. NOT ANYMORE HIGH 5 CHALLENGE IS ON!!!! LOVE YOU ED AND MEL! I THANK GOD FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU!
Ed looking super fresh
This Pope has HOPE.....thank you Ed and Mel....I love you guys. 🤠❣
OMG! I did not one this to end!!!! I’m already a changed person🙏🏽❤️