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I am approaching my 73rd birthday and I can still hear my mother's angry voice saying to the child me " If you can't do it right the first time, don't bother doing it at all ! " The need to be perfect is paralyzing .

@xenatron9056

Жыл бұрын

It is shocking how the mantras of our parents sound so loud in our minds decades later. I have one... 'Take what you're given or have none'. I can see how many of my 'poor judgements' and 'poor decision making' throughout my life wee chosen... I grabbed and held on tight for fear of losing everything or never having another opportunity. I needed to change this mantra, but I have only got to the point where I can be OK with missing out.... I haven't reached peace and acceptance of how things might have been different had I been more understanding of how life works... I feel so sad mostly when I realise what I have done, but then I have to say... I need to learn to value what I HAVE learnt and be OK with that. Challenging until I look around and see and hear other peoples stories.... even with what I missed out on, I still did OK. Me, I am ordinary. I am ME I guess.

@katierose1893

Жыл бұрын

Take care of yourself. My mom is 73 and had a very traumatic childhood. The world you guys grew up in was horrific and basically most baby boomers have trauma. Their children (us) consequently do as well but not as severe. Her brain couldn’t handle life anymore as she was neglected as a child and scolded by nuns and priests for over a decade. Her dementia started at 55 and became progressively worse. Now she cries daily for an imaginary lover. “I wish someone could love me I am worthless”. I was just on a message board reading about dementia and this anonymous comment really stuck out to me “My mother is 90 and has Alzheimer’s was constantly asking “help me! I don’t know what to do” she’s not saying that anymore she’s repetitively saying “can I say my prayers am I doing it right” very anxious and out of breath for being so anxious then she’ll say “I’m being good” over and over we try to calm her she just continues.”

@judyj2551

Жыл бұрын

@@katierose1893 Thank you, Katie . It means a lot to be heard and understood. My best to you and your mom.

@neonaviolett6281

Жыл бұрын

an odd person your mom

@maryannestevenson5993

Жыл бұрын

Well that was a lie

Mantra: "I do not need to be perfect." "I do not need to have a perfect life."

@davidbrewer9777

8 ай бұрын

True.

As Nansen put it several hundred years ago -- "... give yourself the same freedom as the sky. You call it neither good nor not-good."

@Loke61686

Жыл бұрын

Fritjof Nansen? ( 1861 - 1930) 😊

@gypsygirltarot2451

Жыл бұрын

Wow, this is mind blowing for me and I think it will help me so much, thanks!

@huyuli

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for that quote. Joshu asked Nansen: `What is the path?' Nansen said: `Everyday life is the path.' Joshu asked: `Can it be studied?' Nansen said: `If you try to study, you will be far away from it.' Joshu asked: `If I do not study, how can I know it is the path?' Nansen said: `The path does not belong to the perception world, neither does it belong to the nonperception world. Cognition is a delusion and noncognition is senseless. If you want to reach the true path beyond doubt, place yourself in the same freedom as sky. You name it neither good nor not-good.'

@conniemilman7842

9 ай бұрын

We wonderful practicing self love

I lost my oldest 15 years ago. You really only have 2 choices. You can be bitter, angry, full of blame, miserable, or you can understand that nobody, nothing is "yours". Everthing is on loan.

@ronlangelaan1488

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this, one of our two sons also got taken back just under 8 months ago, it is very tough 😢

@timorean320

Жыл бұрын

@@ronlangelaan1488 My deepest sympathies Ron. This is 1 thing, nobody can truly understand unless they have experienced it. What I can say, is it doesnt get easier, you just learn to deal better. Pain is the best teacher. I learned a lot about myself, what really matters, I take nothing for granted, and I express my love, and appreciation of others, and what they mean to me on a regular basis. I know it's hard to see, but in the end, you will be a better person for having gone through this ultimate loss. My faith kept me going, and strengthened me. Ecc 12:6,7 "to dust shall it return as it was, and the Spirit shall return to God who gave it." They are with God, what could be better?

@ronlangelaan1488

Жыл бұрын

@@timorean320 many thanks for your heartwarming words 🙏

@rebeccaspratling2865

Жыл бұрын

This!

@mirovinac3968

Жыл бұрын

Actually, you are not right. Special people WILL BE ALWAYS yours. And you will be theirs. They will be with you all the time. We are all connected.

It's our obsession for control that screw us.

@tjgreen6204

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I think your statement is correct. I find it to be particularly difficult for myself when I pay someone money to do a particular job and the job outcome doesn't meet my expectations. lt's hard for me to drop my anger when I feel taken advantage of and have no recourse.

@69LOLIN

Жыл бұрын

@@tjgreen6204 The samev here, I have lowered my expectaciones and it kid of helps!

@maryisabel2115

Жыл бұрын

Powerful words, I did need to let go of my obsession for control it was to avoid my greatest fear which ended up happening anyway

@rebbedoes

Жыл бұрын

Yes!

@Wil_Dsense

Жыл бұрын

@@tjgreen6204 Surely the lesson is only pay them after the Job based on how well they did… why on earth would you pay them before the work is done? 😅

I am 67. A lot of letting go has happened organically and unconsciously as I age. It's a great perk of aging.

@Earthtime3978

4 ай бұрын

It’s easier to let go if money is not an issue, especially at 60. Just a simple fact.

Perfect wisdom… “I do not need to be perfect, I do not need to have a perfect life.” Nobody’s perfect. ❤️

@Ibelieveyou8

Жыл бұрын

Only the thing is that the universe doesn't 'hear' the word 'no/not' ... So be careful what you call for...

@TaniaMeira8

Жыл бұрын

What if I do want to improve as much as possible? And yes, I need perfection. I really do.

@newdatlas

8 ай бұрын

I was thinking the same thing. I thought mantras and affirmations were supposed to phrased as positive statements

My mantra is I love myself as I am.

I’m going through an awakening at the moment and in recent months I’ve lost my job, my home, special relationships, my identity etc etc. Needed to hear right now your voice and this message so thankyou ❤

@mila7809

Жыл бұрын

Lost all as well...those videos keep me hanging by a thread Sending love 🙏❤

@alimccreery755

Жыл бұрын

I’ve had that happen to me as well, you’re not alone. The series’s of unfortunate events haven’t stopped yet but I’m still hopeful that I can keep these assholes out of my life. I don’t wish anyone to ever have to deal with these types ever. My biggest wish is if in the future we can send them back to their own planet and keep them there for all eternity.

@rachelklein2319

Жыл бұрын

Genuinely hope you swim through to the other side of these waves crashing over you. Envision something better for yourself and plant the seed that will become another form of your life. I hope it takes root and grows beautifully for you. I feel your pain. I'm in a life, unidentifiable and trying to breathe and keep moving onward, upward. If nothing else, know someone in Cali is sending good intentions your way.

@devovray

Жыл бұрын

this happened to me too..things will improve...keep on your path of awakening...it's totally worth it...but you already know that 😉

@carpediem4179

Жыл бұрын

Every ending is a new beginning

Interesting! I also heard a hypnotist who said the subconscious is like an extremely loyal but not very bright dog, in that the subconscious mind takes every word very literally (never say "it broke my heart" for example), and it does not even understand negations (words like "no" or "not" which reflect things that aren't reality) so it blips right past them. If I say "My life does not need to be perfect," for example, the subconscious hears, "My life does need to be perfect." So instead of telling myself, "I do not need to be perfect, my life doesn't need to be perfect" maybe I will say instead, "I release my craving to be perfect and my craving to have a perfect life. I am always happy now."

@jessifreedom4793

Жыл бұрын

I am wondering about that too. I always hear that an affirmation should be free from the word 'not'....

Hello Todd, I’ve been on a journey of healing after my wife’s death 13 months ago. I’ve been practicing Nichiren Buddhism, breathing, chanting, and meditation. I had no choice but to let it all go. Or we could say cancer took it all away from our young son and myself. I just want to thank you for your guidance. I was born with happiness in my soul, and I’m finding it again. Love you man.

@ToddPerelmuter

Жыл бұрын

Your courage is an inspiration 🙏

@Cadia369

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry for your loss. Respectfully, there’s a song called “Silent Lucidity”, that I feel compelled to ask you to listen to. I feel you may find comfort listening to it. Peace be to you.

@kazparzyxzpenualt8111

Жыл бұрын

I need to express how I wish to extend comfort to you and your son at this time. There are no words...no words that can mean anything more than to say: I read your words and have your well being in mind. Please connect with the all everywhere you may find it. For without a doubt it is there. It is there for both of you. "Peace , courage, wisdom!" Courtesy of Pete Seeger

@semiprecious007

Жыл бұрын

Sending you both my thoughts and love ❤️🙏🏻

@timizo691

Жыл бұрын

My wife also had Cancer. She is still alive but it changed her so drastically. She decided she no longer wanted to be married. I have been so heart broken. I want to let go but I am struggling. We we’re together for 14 years.

HEARING THE FREQUENCY THAT CRICKETS EMIT HAS ALWAYS FELT GOOD TO ME❤️

@christinamarcille5280

Жыл бұрын

I have four in my basement that keep me up at night if you'd like them 😅

@creativechristiancontent

Жыл бұрын

@@christinamarcille5280 Lol 😂😂

You let go when your able ! YOU CANT FORCE IT ! but you can move on to other things in the meantime. Eventually you can forgive. (Yourself and others)🙃

@Earthtime3978

4 ай бұрын

I think it’s just that you can’t keep up the negative energy towards certain people forever, so we just put it aside and rationalize that its “forgiveness.”

People pleasing,black and white thinking, critical inner voice and perfectionism. Four characteristics of an Adult Child. I think I have these. The only consequence of perfectionism is disappointment. Fantastic video. Thank you.

I needed this,my spouse ended it after 12 yrs,I'm beyond heartbroken,your video helps me 👍

One of the most difficult aspects of life is giving ourselves permission to be happy. Many think there is something wrong with being happy.

Or “I am imperfect! I am ok with an imperfect life!” Love the message brother!

Oh boy, that finally gave me a profound release from the burden I’ve been carrying around all my adult life!!!! Thank you so much!!!!!

when you lose you gain ....be grateful

Visualizing yourself into the future self where all this is forgotten now. How would it feel. Live there. Shortly it becomes your instant reality. It’s funny how brain doesn’t distinguish the feeling of future, present and past. ( think when your most happy, it will happen again now. Think of your past pains , you feel them again now, think of your future limitless self, you will feel it now.

@surlyrabitt1253

Жыл бұрын

true, now is all we have - ty

I cried, meditating. And felt so much better... my whole perception on life changed. It was... so relieving.

WoW, Todd, thank you! I am in my garden and had a similar thought. I am now without diesel and power. I have gone thru this before and for longer time. I noticed My garden is recovering faster than I am… I woke up angry, hurt and in despair. So, I thought I need to be as kind to me as I am to my garden. So, very grateful for your messages!

Unbelievable, I tried to stop but I coudnt stop crying. I just feel so much love for you and everyone. Thank you for freeing me.

I need to listen to this message every morning for the rest of my life.

I do not need to be perfect. I do not need to have a perfect life. There is no such thing as perfection . It’s all just are up baggage we do not need to carry. Let it go and live free with joy, forgiveness and love. Be your beautiful true self. I love you❤️

I'm not seeking perfection. I'm asking for respect. The same respect I give.

Love the nature walk. Thanks for this helpful perspective. After 24 years together my wife left me, out of the blue, for another guy at her work, and I'm in the process of letting go completely.

@jayong1977

Жыл бұрын

@@marciestoddard730 thank you 🙏

@simoneevans6824

Жыл бұрын

Was it really out of the blue? Perhaps if you reflect on it the marriage might not have been great and you’ve now got a chance to build a new life. No happy marriage ends in divorce. Best wishes .

@deadreckoning6288

Жыл бұрын

Sorry brother. I wasn't married but have had to let go of a similar situation. It's really hard.

@MsCLAUDIANL

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry for your situation. I've been there, it's painful beyond belief but it'll end. The pain will end, I promise.

@kiraalialeeonfairythegreenone

Жыл бұрын

No woman leaves out of the blue...she would have, over months and probably years informed you, shown you, expressed to you that she was very unhappy and needing heartfelt connection. You were so disconnected and not truly 'seeing' her and taking the relationship and her for granted ... that you were experiencing cognitive dissonance ( living in a fantasy in your mind and avoiding the reality in front of you.) Take some responsibility and truly examine your contribution to the failure of the relationship.

I loved today’s message Todd. Since leaving my unfaithful, emotionally abusive husband 3 yrs ago, I been slowly rebuilding a new,happy and peaceful life. My Psychiatrist is extremely pleased with the progress I’ve made and has reduced my medication to a minimum. MYSELF as well as my two daughters, grandson and very loyal friends have helped me more than they could ever imagine. They are the reason I’m still alive and enjoying my second chance of living the life, I only ever dreamt of, for the past 13 long and mentally challenging years. I have slowly illuminated all the unnecessary things from my life. Donating them to my local charities. You’re so right Todd, I felt great lifting the unnecessary weight from my shoulders. All that is left, is for me to forgive the two men, who hurt me so much in my life. Only then will I feel ready to join my GOD in eternal life ! I’m 69 years of age, so guess I better get working on that one. !! I’m sure with prayer, meditation and your encouragement Todd, I will get there. Kind regards your Aussie fan😘 Pam . 11:46 🤗🙏😃

Good point about our subconscious. Never thought about it. Perfection isn't my problem but clinging to familiar circumstances and inability to move forward is. I'll try this mantra.

I've been pondering this message for a couple of days now and it has had a profound effect on my well being. Much gratitude! 🥰🙏

You have a friendly face and I like the nature, sounds of little birds. Very nice presentation and powerfull message. Thank you. 🙏

Had a really rough day of work yesterday where I couldn't let go of am mistake i made and it forced me to question everything I did afterwards. I felt victimized by my supervisor as well and lose my confidence. Wow i needed to hear this today thank you

Thank you, my daughter is healing too with your teachings. a traumatized world needs and thanks you.

@ToddPerelmuter

Жыл бұрын

That's so wonderful to hear. Thank you so much. 🙏

Also, it helps to remember...I don't have a life...I am life...THIS is life...right here, right now. Nothing is being gained or lost in THIS eternally flowing movie...(The bucket of your "Bucket List" has no bottom. Photos and memories are great, but THIS is real...right here, right now. 😆 ) If I appreciate this moment in front of me, Life is Good. When I fight or argue with the moment in front of me, not so good. Better to LOVE what is...whatever it is. It's ALL good, even when it's not. 💖🙏💖

@barbarawinkle1042

Жыл бұрын

Love the comments you shared. For me, I added my own thoughts just a bit... "I don't just have a life, I am life. Learn to love what is, but also continue trusting in your ability to infuse creativity in any given moment as well!" Thanks again. Oh, also love your "bottomless bucket list" comment as well.

When you said „you do not need to be perfect.“ my whole face muscles started relaxing and everything tingled in my body as I became aware. It was really an spiritual experience and definitely what I needed to hear at this exact moment. Thank you from my heart ❤️🙏🏼

Wow! I totally needed this; it just popped up… I suffered a horrible childhood and this helps me to remember to not let my mind go back to those awful days but to stay present and grateful for today ❤

I don’t believe in coincidences and this video proves it. I am in my 60s and I’m still struggling with acceptance of what was and is. I know this video was divinely sent to me. Someone who is very spiritually enlightened likened mantras to records in a jukebox. Replacing the old records with new ones. It does work but it’s not magical. It has to be maintained and nurtured just like our bodies do. Thank you brother for the calming reminder. ❤

@Light_Worker

Жыл бұрын

I feel the same that it come to me on purpose. I try to ignore to stay positive but it seems that other energy sits and always waiting for me when I get into real moment to remind harm again. Important always to stay on truck kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZKOClLKIe9DdfsY.html

@seannamei

Жыл бұрын

I’m pretty sure it’s just algorithm

This is the first video I've seen from you. It was really hard for me to listen to these words because they struck me like fists. As hard as it was to hear, I needed these words. Thank you. I'm feeling lost since I started this new spiritual journey. I've listened to many people, read many things and I now find myself in a place that is unrecognizable and it is scary. I'm drowning in methodology without taking the time to filter what is suited for me and what isn't. I'm trying too hard to get it right.

@davidbrewer9777

8 ай бұрын

I ask You and myself to be still and quiet. I ask we both are to seek rest and rest alone. Restfully stepping to wherever we are. Precious creator; we are thankful, regardless of the way we exist.

Thank you for this. This message came at a point in my life where I'm getting older and I truly want to let go of the negative baggage.

I accept myself the way I am I accept life the way it goes I am here to be

You let go by letting go of the idea that you have to let go. Who is it that wants to let go? When you discover that there is no individual "I" that is responsible and that we are simply an arising, a manifestation of life that has been shaped and formed by the forces around us. When we recognize the unreality of self and/or freewill all else drops away of itself because we recognize that there isn't anything to do, there is no goal, there is nothing but life simply happening of itself and when we really get that it is an expansion and in that release everything falls away. It is in seeing the truth of our own being that we are free.

This video found me at the right time. I am a biology masters student currently writing my thesis and this morning I had to face the fact that I did not make it in time. And it was so incredibly liberating! Because for me always the greatest pressure has been time. We each have our own lessons and mine was accepting myself the way I am, accepting the fact that I do things in my own pace and that I need to feel passionate about my work and my life without the pressure of time attached to it. To learn to not follow internal or external pressure, but look to my inner guidance and make sure that what I do is aligned with my heart and soul. This video found me later in my day, after I had collapsed from exhaustion in my bed, after a week of no social life, crying, sleeping 3 hours a night, asking people for help, stressing myself out "What if I don't make it in time? What if I don't hand it in? My mom will be so disappointed and upset!! She will yell at me and say I needed to start earlier, I needed to attend less events, I needed to focus more..." Truth is, when we have the constant internal amd external pressure on ourselves, it is impossible to do things lovingly or joyfully. At least for me. The pressure is what spoils the fun in anything! My brain refuses to work under made up pressure. It sabotages everything I do under fake pressure, and it recognizes fake pressure better than my conscious mind does. Joy and genuine passion is a huge factor for me of why am I doing things in the first place. The pressure I and other people put on me guided me in the complete wrong directions, because I forgot about joy, I forgot about interest, it seemed like an unpleasant chore. Nothing is mandatory in life. Absolutely NOTHING. Ever. But your life will be much better if you know yourself, your feelings, your mind, when you can accept yourself unconditionally and work on your growth, focus on things that matter to you and do everything you do with a heart. This morning I surrendered my ego based "I HAVE to make it in TIME, or I am worthless" approach, and instead gained a different one. It doesn't matter if I hand in my thesis today. What matters is the quality of it, and wether I learned everything I wanted to learn on the way. I started studying biology because I loved it! Where had that disappeared? I had somehow stopped being passionate about science and just wanted to finish and get the degree to be done with it... I had constant imposter sindrome and a fear of missing out on all of the other things in life, and the amount of worry and information just overwhelmed me every day. And now I am learning to stop, breathe, recollect, look within and set healthy boundaries with things, people, myself. It's a very valuable life lesson. And what makes it better - when you accept the things you need to learn with love instead of judgement, even sad things become incredibly beautiful! It all depends on the perception and inherent beliefs! Thank you for this video, the background ambience and the amazing advice was just what I needed today! ❤ It affirmed to me the lessons I came to today and reinstalled a newfound confidence in my own path and self acceptance. One thing I wanted to add - I think that "I don't need to be perfect" is great, especially when you still have that belief that you "need" to be or do something, but when you add "I am" or "I do" statements after that, when you are ready (when they don't sound fake anymore), that makes it even better. It's very powerful (if and when) you can tell yourself that you don't need to be perfect, accompanied with "I love and accept myself just the way I am in this very moment" and really validate all you feel, let it through, affirm to yourself that you are loved by yourself - those do the real magic for me, they make my heart fly. ❤ I will still finish my thesis but I will be able to find more joy in the learning experience, I will have time to dive deeper into the topic and even write a couple of publications before I hand in the final version. So it's definitely a win to take things slower this time.

I needed this. Idealism was my suffering. How l and others and life should be. Thank you

One of the times I'm grateful for the algorithms of KZread LOL what we are talking about and pretty much what we're thinking LOL and then these things pop up in perfect timing.. grateful for your video!

This saved my life I think. It came to me in a great time of struggle and honestly, I'm so much happier after meditating on this, and truly giving it some thought. Your 100% correct. Thank you for your great words of wisdom.

Spot on. Made a (wrong) decision several months ago when I declined a job offer due to the thought that I wouldnt like it/ that it was not attractive for me. One month agoafter having had several other interviews, I painfully realized that I was wrong - it was surely no perfect job, but what in the world is? It had lots of good benefits and challenging tasks, however, I didnt see it at that time/ I was not mature enough to make a rational sound decision. Still, the time since that realization (beginning of may, so since 30days ago) I fell into a deep hole since I started to imagine myself having taken that job...making another (=better) decision..hard times. Your advice hits it home. Thank you for that.

I really needed this message today.. 😭 I've never come across amy of your videos before, but I woke up in a pit of despair and regret and self judgment today, and said "I don't know how to let these feelings go."...Really I was asking for guidance. I opened up KZread and received this. My humble thanks to you, and also my spirit guides 💓🙏

Sorrow is the problem. It's a doozy. Sad. Thank you. Excellent advice.

I was feeling very sad since morning, thinking about all the struggles i've been going through, my health, my sister always giving me problem for no reason being sarcastic all the time, my husband always putting me down but i take it all in for the love of GOD. I feel better after watching your video. I don't have to be perfect for anyone and i'm not perfect.

We know these things, yet somehow, our humanity makes us strive for more. Thankyou for verbalising such simplicity, but I do think that we have been on a treadmill and we have forgotten that we are just 'ordinary' with a few special pieces. Somehow, all my life, ordinary was not good enough..... there was always more. These days, yeah, you are right..... we can't let go even if the dream was shattered, we still want what we want. We have never really been shown how to just 'be' and see what happens.

@theresamcgallicher

Жыл бұрын

The paradox is that relaxing and accepting what is allows our dreams to take shape. Always trying so hard crowds them out.

I REALLY LIKE THE PEACEFUL ENVIRONMENT HE IS SOEAKING IN, AND THE WONDERFUL NATURE SOUNDS.NICE AND SIMPLE, AND GENTLE ON THE SENSES. HELPFUL MESSAGE TOO.

Beautiful setting!!!! These issues are just all the layers that were put upon us after we were born into this life as pure love…… our journey here is full of choices. Our greatest gift in this life is freedom of choice. We get to choose which layers to keep and which to remove….

You are a guardian angel for me right now. This message was speaking directly to me. As I'm preparing for meditation. This is the mantra that my soul needed. Thank you so so much. 💛💛💛💛

Good stuff....I've found as I get older I agonize over embarrassments and traumas of the past still feeling the pain. I realized how silly it was when I was reliving an episode of humiliation. It dawned on me that, "wait a minute! I was 7 years old when that happened! It wasn't my fault. Why the hell should I care about it now!" What's helped me get over such things is realizing what the physicists call Super-determinism....that is, everything that happened was going to happen. People hate this because it negates 'Free Will', but really how much free will do you think you have? How often has free will overridden your bad decisions? Even if you had made different choices shitty results would still have come your way. We're all just on a ride to who knows where. We can get dragged through it kicking and screaming, or we can do what Thoreau said, choose to live our lives deliberately and let come what may.

@Earthtime3978

4 ай бұрын

True but we can also be 60 and reflect on cringy moments from our 40s, or even negative life altering decisions. I get all this awakening (I think), but I just find that if you are broke, it’s all so much harder to embrace.

@jeffreygleaves2931

4 ай бұрын

@@Earthtime3978 I remember a wise man once saying, "I've been rich and I've been poor. Rich is better." He's not wrong Even after all that shit you hear about 'money can't buy love, etc. Sure it can. .....'Money is the root of all evil." No its not. There are a thousand evils in the world that have nothing to do with money. Money is just a thing like fire. You can warm yourself or burn your face off. It's a power....a force. But its not the only one. Whether you believe it or not you're a force of nature. The proof of that is because you're here. You exist. Because you exist you can create. Create what you want. The sky's the limit. it's not easy. It involves letting all that old shit we were just talking about go and centering yourself to right now. It's a bitch to do but its doable. Remember that goofy-ass Barbie Girl song? Well, taken for what it is she says something very powerful in it. "Life is your creation." She wants to be a Barbie Girl and that's her ride, but you can choose your own. Look around you. Maybe you're living in a van down by the river. Fuck it...make that van down by the river awesome. Wash and wax it. Rake the leaves in front. Air up the tires. Organize the rocks. Re-channel that energy of agonizing over the past into creating right now. Right now is the only thing that matters and its within your control.

I love this. I need this every day. We are all perfect beings having a conditional experience to learn from it for expansion and evolution for the collective. Our personal challenge is to wake up in it and bring forth heaven on earth. And we will realize perfection is unconditional love & perfect understanding of our true connection to each other no matter what is going on. No judgement.

@christinescholtz4386

Жыл бұрын

💜

@jewel2022now

Жыл бұрын

Yes, sounds 👍

Sometimes, the system wrongly oppresses us, and it's not "wrong" to point that out.

“I do not need to be perfect.” Yeah, I felt that vibrate through my whole body.

Thank you, if practiced daily I can see how this would heal anyone's heart. Self mercy is the greatest gift bestowed onto mankind. Blessings and appreciation

I found you this morning. Letting go I know has held me back for so long, years in fact. Fear of making another terrible mistake has me stuck in "freeze" mode. There's nothing to justify any benefit in hanging on. A decision I made 33 years ago and realizing it the very next day has me imprisoned in not being able to forgive myself. I barrage myself with " you knew better, you knew better, you knew better". So much so it changed the course of my life and I wallowed in alcohol and drugs. Then the problem resolved itself and immediately I set a new path and was easily able to put the vices down. Now the voice has changed to "too late, you ruined your life because you didn't have the strength to change it yourself". Chilhood trauma must be resolved or in my case it walked with me every step. At 64 now, I'm seeking to redeem myself for myself.

@ToddPerelmuter

Жыл бұрын

That's an incredible amount of awareness of your own thoughts and patterns. That's the first step to healing and understanding. You got this.

It helps to remind myself that everything is happening exactly as it is supposed to.

I have made mistakes that have had lasting consequences. I've tried to let go and forgive myself but nothing seems to make me feel any better at all. Some decisions I have made were because I didn't know what else to do but they didn't make me happier.

@ToddPerelmuter

Жыл бұрын

Don't judge your past self by what you know today

"I do not need to be loved".... It's really come to this...

It's more than just not being perfect. Challenges happen as a result of our choices while we can't see the outcome. I can see the lessons in these challenges (what did it teach me, what is it teaching me). I am today 67 years of age, I live an unconventional life, made "wrong" choices and as a result I had and have to face many many challenges. Yet, I have no regrets, none whatsoever, because it has made me who I am today, a wise person, who can teach others, doing lightwork, motivational speaker. I inspire many people, young and older. That gives a feeling of satisfaction, that I am able to help. I wouldn't want it any other way. I am immensely grateful for all the challenges, all the suffering, leading to the realisation that true happiness lies within (the Kingdom of God is within) regardless of the circumstances. 💜🙏

"All you had to do was being perfect" and then abandoning me and going totally uninterested left me with hurt anger and most stupidly guild and now unable to let go also bc I held this person in such high regard. It is true I don't have to be perfect but still wish my life was getting better without being hurt once again. I'll have to accept though. But my mantra feels better saying you are perfect as you are and my life is perfect as it is.

I needed this video. I suffer from from holding on so much that I can't even grasp. I try to control things in my life, but I feel out of control. It's like my life goes a totally different way than I want or try so hard for it to be the way I want. It's time for me to let everything happen by itself.

@smssms7167

Жыл бұрын

wow i feel the same. Iam feeling everything is collapsing. My old self is not the same anymore. Iam handling it very bad and i dont like change. But, iam trying to embrace it somehow

i needed this ive been smoking weed for 25 years to escape my problems im quitting for a while now

Thank you Todd, wabi sabi, practice of being okay with imperfection. I bought this symbol ENSO, it is in metal art form to remind me I am not perfect and neither is all of reality. It keeps me in the moment that I am okay with my fate (amor fati, love your fate) and that I accept my world as it is now. I didnt say it out loud as you say but now I will say it and shout it. I do not need to be perfect! Peace and love to you.

Todd, you are the wise older brother I wish I met earlier in my life. Thank you and bless u x infinity ❤❤❤

One of my friends shared the link to this video. It has been very helpful as I have going through some very tough times. Thank you so much for being a source of light for me during these dark days.

Resonates deeply. I beat myself up over so many things, especially poor choices made in the past that hurt someone I love. This mantra will help, thank you.

Anything we could believe works for us for a moment

The mantra he introduces in this video is so incredibly powerful. I am so grateful to Todd for making this video and sharing this mantra. It helped me get through a really rough time. I use this mantra often, and I have even personalized it to help with my inner child healing. I have made it specific. Some examples are "I do not need to look perfect. I do not need to have a perfect body." Or, "I do not need to be the smartest person in the room. I do not need to be the most successful person in the room." Thank you Todd!

I literally cried when i heard the mantra,because it really is part of what i need right now to move forward. Thank you❤

Thank you, thank you, thank you - as a “perfectionist” this mantra is what I needed today 🙏😊🔥🔥🔥

@RobTi

Жыл бұрын

Perfectionist here too… been trying to look for answers and ways to get rid of it, or be comfortable with letting go.

@leeroy7597

10 ай бұрын

Love, Light, Lee ❤

3 yrs of self investment to self this and self that all summed up in 2 small simple answers . Thank you and your gift.

Nature sounds in the background and your walk sounds are so calming ❤

I don´t need to be perfect, I don´t need to have a perfect life. Thank You for this.

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!! Thank you! You’re right so simple but how many thousands of little instances throughout my day am I expecting perfection & instantly internally blaming and shaming myself- my new mantra-I do not have to be perfect-my life does not have to be perfect!! It’s the simplest truths that we’ve lost sometimes

Thank you for this! While I've been hard on myself (due to being a perfectionist) for most of my life, I have always believed in the fact that we are NEVER broken. This helped me realize that we only have broken expectations - not a broken heart, not a missed opportunity or mistake - but a learning experience for growth. Growth is never perfect! Thank you again, namaste ❤

I’m going thru such a soul changing life change right now and I’m scared. This video popped up on my newsfeed and it was exactly what I needed to hear. I am that dangerous combo of “do gooder” and “perfectionist.” I’m also realizing that my life might be one of sacrifice in terms of providing for my children. I will repeat this mantra, despite the fact that I could barely say it without crying. Clearly I needed it to hear this. Thank u ❤

This is some of the best advice I've ever heard. I'm definitely going to do this.

Gratitude for this timely message❤ Namaste 🙏

Hi Todd, believe it, the mantra would only work for those who are impure inside. But whose soul has gone through purification through certain practices, it will drop one down instead of lifting up.

My father used to beat me if I say something wrong, or even if I slip and fall on the ground. He did when we arrived at home. While he was beating me, he often said: "That's because I told you not to go outside". Most of the time, I really didn't know why I was being beaten. He also forced me to be the first in school. He said that I had no more things to do unless study, so, I should be the first one in everything "the perfect boy". Well. I don't hate him for that. What happened is that now I am 57 and for a big part of my life I suffer from melancholic depression, dysthymia, generalized anxiety, and panic attacks. I am insecure, fragile, all fear, but I got to be always the first one on the class, thanks to him. Perhaps his method was too strong, but I understand him. He wished my best, but he didn't have a good education to teach me without having to do that. He employed the method of fear, like a dictator. We all should comply. 😮

I have this quote on my wall (not sure who to attribute it to). "How do you let go of attachment to things? Don't even try. It's impossible. Attachment to things drops away by itself when you no longer seek to find yourself in them." I have found this to be true for me.

I've been thinking exactly this for some time now. My original motivation was to be kinder on myself so not too look back on things too critically and give myself a hard time. I was also expecting that it would also motivate me to do more things as my big problem is procrastination which holds me back, in fear I think, fear of embarking upon a task that I will put pressure on myself to do. But it didn't actually do that. I became less critical of myself when I didn't do things perfectly but I didn't do more. The trap I fell into of procrastination was always there. However, with the mantra you give here "I do not need to be perfect, I do not need to have a perfect life" this phraseology seems to appeal directly to my motivation and procrastination manifests like an opaque wall that slowly crumbles and then disappears before my very eyes revealing to me that what lay behind it was composed of exactly the same material as the things that are all around me already and that truly the only thing in the way of myself doing it was actually myself. What a beautiful lesson you have given me. Heartfelt thanks 🙏

Was laid off last week from a startup. I have been going through a process of healing and letting go of certain things and people in my life. This is my fourth lay off in my tech career. I mention this because I have a tendency to always wanting the perfect job or the perfect tech. Letting go of past hurts am is very hard for me ( diagnosed with adhd earlier this yr at 46) and letting go of the perfect future. So glad I came across this reminder that life is. It meant to be perfect. We suffer in our own intelligence.

@bizygirl1

Ай бұрын

Welcome to the tech world! Layoffs are so common. I’ve been in it since 1998. I’ve been through several layoffs and finally learned to stop internalizing them. It’s the business model! After 18 years I left private industry and entered government, it what a big change in itself but so rewarding. I work with brilliant, dedicated minds (not all) or the last 15 years. No layoffs, lots of opportunities for growth, excellent benefits, retirement benefits.

I will keep it short. I was thrown into hospital in agony that lasted 5 weeks to the day. The fast for 20 hours (no painkillers) not that I was getting many. That brought me back from the brink but the worst wast to come. I desparately meditated for 5 weeks continuously. Continuously I mean. Thinking was going to drive me insane. I became immune to pain but anxiety remained. Suffering is our cure. It won't matter in the end.

I heard the mantra, and tears come up to my eyes. I'm just in the middle of a crisis in the aftermath of pushing hard with meditation and zillion ideas - coz I wanted the enlightenment so badly.

It's really trying to make ourselves perfect that causes a great deal of trouble. You can't perfect what is already perfected

@maristahuddleston6213

Жыл бұрын

Exactly perfect is not for us to be perfect 💯

Thank you. I appreciate your wisdom and that you share with all the wild green around you. I'm in a barren dessert in life, figuratively and literally and have been stuck in my mind, spiraling around in circles trying to make sense of it all.

I have said this mantra 2 times and already I feel my system relax, settle and feel at ease. Thank you so much

@JamesSteven-mb8zf

Жыл бұрын

Brother yes best explanation. I'V HEARD SWEET THANK YOU.😊

@RetoBuri

Жыл бұрын

same for me

I have serious issues around perfection and doing things for the greater good. After watching this at the right time, I can understand this very clearly. The pull to want to let that go is very weak and terrifying and it's also been very harmful towards myself.

With great power comes great responsibility ❤

People say all the time, "you/it doesn't have to be perfect" .. but wait till you make mistake. Just ONE mistake and figure out that everybody is just a liar. Just playing their role in this extravagant play.

OMG this is just what I needed to hear! Thank you Todd!

There is so much valuable content in this video I don’t even know where to begin, I’ll just say thank you sir!!!! Saved this baby for future reference, the one thing that I’ve been struggling with is getting older and not having reached my goals in my mind. So true, the lucky ones do get to grow old and die, and life is never perfect. 👏🙌🏽

It felt like you were talking directly to my soul. I can tell I needed to hear this right now. Much love

Thank you, this came up on my you tube today, i needed to hear this today. Much love