Falling apart in front of everyone and giving your family the insights into what's happening in your world is the best place to release the trauma and start again and again if that's what it takes. What a wonderful guy.

@peterdgrubb

3 жыл бұрын

thats strong!

@madisongrace9146

3 жыл бұрын

wow!!!!

@iamlaylathomas

2 жыл бұрын

100% true

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Kara. It's been quite a ride!

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

@@peterdgrubb Thank you Sir.

Opening up to your emotion is big, doing it in front of others is truly very brave and generous.

@itsmesamrendall

3 жыл бұрын

it is 100%

@I-Am-june-day

3 жыл бұрын

True very true

@johnlum8136

3 жыл бұрын

We men rarely do.

@rajanaasperis3667

3 жыл бұрын

powerful!

@arnoldcintron1621

2 жыл бұрын

@@rajanaasperis3667 yes

Connection through understanding and being understood is a powerful thing. Thank you for this vulnerability

My oldest son is dealing with lots of scars and issues from his 3 combat tours. I only wish that he'd had the chance to see this ... I think it might have helped him. I'm also a vet and still have issues that haunt me but I've gotten better at handling them. Thanks so very much for what you do for our VETS and their families and friends.GBU

Sharing your scars and battle stories in the way this guy is talking about makes you so vulnerable and takes so much courage. This man is setting a brilliant example by doing so.

@rubyguil4622

2 жыл бұрын

And it's really the only way to heal

@jason-childers

2 жыл бұрын

It's not easy to be raw like this

I was not expecting how hard this would hit me. What an incredibly journey this guy has been on... And the way he's helping. I'm really taken aback by this.

@judeblyth3606

3 жыл бұрын

Same! Absolutely!

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

@@judeblyth3606 Thanks Jude.

@judeblyth3606

3 жыл бұрын

I am speechless.

@jasminelovell

3 жыл бұрын

I didnt know too.

@judeblyth3606

3 жыл бұрын

@@rooftopleadership222 terrific talk Scott, thanks.

This is such a good example of why people should be more vulnerable and allow each other to share their pain, and scars.

After watching this, I can’t help but think there are so many raw emotions in the battlefield that many of us may comprehend but we will never fully understand the reality of living through that, how it shakes you to your core. We are very privileged that there are people who serve our country so we don’t have to experience moments that rattle the human psyche in such a way, and even more privileged that we live in the country we do and don’t have to see moments like this as due course. This story really highlights how much I have in my life to offer others because I come from a place with so much.

My heart goes out to men like this who have to readjust to normal life, clearly a very difficult process.

@natalemodesto

2 жыл бұрын

👍

@timmymckinley

2 жыл бұрын

Men and woman mate.

@bobertgenn

2 жыл бұрын

it's a tough thing

Oh my goodness. He just took me and put me into his world and experience. This was an emotional experience and so powerful. Thank you

@samylevis

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I'm a little shook after watching it

@deanskyler

2 жыл бұрын

Me Too!

@darioconsolata8691

2 жыл бұрын

wow this got me.

@julianfritzer

2 жыл бұрын

wow

The stuff he talks about at 11:10 is so true - other people will always find parallels between your story and their own, the hard part is just opening up and creating the opportunity to have that connection.

My heart started THUMPING when this started. I also have PTSD and even though I haven't been in service, loud noises, shouting - I start trembling every time.

@guidolazzaro1396

2 жыл бұрын

Ouch that would be awful to experience...

@sylzoor4183

2 жыл бұрын

Same! Woke me tf up.

@hadlieghbaxter

2 жыл бұрын

hahahaha yeah i feel that

@candyengelhardt

2 жыл бұрын

Got me

Military people are so strong and so vulnerable at the same time. Respect to you all guys.

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

It felt tough at the time Early, but the outreach with those in dark places since then has really made it worth it.

Emotional access, I had a friend who wore an elastic band on his wrist 24-7. It helped ground him in the throws of emotion.

@zackarnold1560

2 жыл бұрын

I had a friend like that too, really helped keep her chill.

This whole talk is amazing proof of the fact that everyone has some kind of trauma or hardship they're working through, and if you just open your heart to understanding instead of judging it can create a wonderful connection and moment of healing.

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

Malyka thanks for summarizing it this way. I couldn't agree more. Flowers grow out of rocky ground.

Why do so many have to pay the price, when can peace and love and empathy be our forces of good!

@maureenbrown7065

3 жыл бұрын

So true!

Never underestimate the power of art to express what words alone cannot.

@ThePunishersPrincess

10 ай бұрын

Truth.💯❤️‍🩹

the honesty here is next level. so many don't or haven't talked about the scars these brave people come back with after service. scott is doing much needed work and i am so grateful

@mikewobblyweaver

2 жыл бұрын

Great send Ali, this is really something, what a great guy Scott is.

@donnadezert

2 жыл бұрын

It's refreshing to see that there are those who are aware of the help that is needed

@kaylacalkins489

2 жыл бұрын

most important stuff

I have sent this to a few friends as a reminder that healing, talking, sharing is so important in order to get on top of things and to feel better about one's self.

@maryjboffa

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mia

@carljanicek

2 жыл бұрын

Appreciated.

@harrietgomez5859

2 жыл бұрын

Important stuff

@carljanicek

2 жыл бұрын

@@harrietgomez5859 👍

@maryjboffa

2 жыл бұрын

@@harrietgomez5859 yes it is

Yeah I never ever had the urge to serve and this is why. But Scott clearly is helping so many.

Overwhelming and powerful!!!!

The dark place, what an increadible story and thrilled you're here to tell it.

I am from a country where there is a war. I know the stories of people who survived and who didn't... Both cases have not the best ever outcome. You are an exception, good job, Scott.

I'm glad this man has been able to find some meaning in his return to civilian life, I can't imagine how difficult of a transition it would be.

Like he said, this talk is not pro war, anti war - it's about being aware of how many of our youth decide it is their duty to sign up and go to war - we must ensure when they come back, there are programs, support - both short term and long term. There is so much to be learned from these experiences. Thank you Scott

@enesyldzsr

3 жыл бұрын

Mental health, for returned soldiers or just every day people is so important

@julianedleberg

3 жыл бұрын

So much to learn! Not just about ourselves but how other countries and their people operate. I wish there didn't have to be any war though

The look on his face at the end made me tear up, he should be so proud of himself for what he's overcome.

Thank you for your service Scott!

This man has been on such an incredible journey, so amazing for him to still be here and have the courage to share it with people.

@eddysgarage

2 жыл бұрын

yeah i know right

I really enjoy the creative exposition in this talk! Very unique and outside the box story telling. I'd be interested to see his whole play!

@rooftopleadership222

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Shane!

It would be such a relief for other servicemen to find this talk, or to even find Scott. I know quite a few who still have such issues talking openly.

Im 47 and on an infinite journey towards healing, from severe childhood and generational trauma. Those scars are your greatest teacher!! Once you learn the lessons, it’s your job to share your journey and teach others. Absolutely BRILLIANT Ted Talk!! Much love, strength and peace, from Country Victoria. Australia. ✌️✌️✌️

@vladkarchenko

3 жыл бұрын

Joanna, I love your comment. Really solidified how I am feeling after watching Scott's talk. Thank you

@joannemates6367

3 жыл бұрын

@@vladkarchenko I’m really happy to hear it resonated it with you. X

Some of the most uncomfortable experiences are the one's where we grow the most. What a powerful journey this man has been on, his honesty and transparency is admirable. A very good man.

@robertahvieira

3 жыл бұрын

He's an amazing man.

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Giulio. I am very humbled by your words.

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

@@robertahvieira Thanks so much.

There is a reason some of the greatest literature of all time is given in the form of narrative and parable.

As close as I've seen to the real emotions of war-fear-anger... great talk.

@leonardotlucas

3 жыл бұрын

wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@ruperttheprince

3 жыл бұрын

amazing talk!!!

@samuelygeissler

3 жыл бұрын

that really grabs at the start doesn't it?

@leonardotlucas

3 жыл бұрын

@@samuelygeissler does it ever!!!

@jensjfriedemann

3 жыл бұрын

WOW!!!!

I've got chills or something from this... Scott, you set an amazing example for those returning from service. Your purpose is needed now more than ever. I loved this talk so much. I'll definitely be sharing this with some mates. Thank you Scott for doing all that you are doing.

@miroslavhancinsky6111

3 жыл бұрын

OMG did not see this coming from a ted talk.

@lannydaslin

3 жыл бұрын

😯 😦 😧 😮 😲

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

Thanks David. It's more important than ever now after the Afghanistan collapse. Thanks for sharing it.

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

@@miroslavhancinsky6111 Thanks so much

It's amazing what happens when we are vulnerable and open to talking about the things that hurt us, I think that's where real connection comes from a lot of the time

@blockchainbobisbroke

3 жыл бұрын

Same. And its also so important for returning service men.

Okay so that opening, Scott's face.... His expression says everything. I could feel his fear and pain. This is a heavy watch

@samanthakatzalay

3 жыл бұрын

Such a heavy watch but I learnt a whole lot

@andreshedberg

2 жыл бұрын

I was going to say that he should be an actor but after watching this i see the incredible work he is doing

@eric-tran

2 жыл бұрын

@@andreshedberg 👍

@theoallan7474

2 жыл бұрын

Very brutal

I’ve seen another talk he gave, which was so powerful in itself, but this talk is something else altogether. I’ve not seen any TED talk like it.

He's absolutely right though, when you choose to share your trauma with someone the connection you make with them is so powerful and pure because it's based on trust and healing. So beautiful.

@MarcoPolo-uh4pn

2 жыл бұрын

Cappi, this is a beautiful share. Thank you.

@rooftopleadership222

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Cappi!

I can't imagine how hard it must have been to try and help people who are trying to cause you harm.

What a beautiful human, it's so endearing when someone just lays out all their vulnerability in such an openly proud way.

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Ron. Trying to do that daily where I can. So many folks hurting out there.

@rontjacks

Жыл бұрын

@@rooftopleadership222 Probably because people are finally learning what it means to sit with pain and that we are not our thoughts. Tough work, thank you for all that you!!

A message for all of us who have been broken- or who still are. I will be sharing this, thank you Scott

@dylantaylor6200

2 жыл бұрын

Yes so true.

I have never met people who had experiences like this speaker had. I am really impressed by what can happen to people after coming back from a flashpoint. Thank you for sharing this experience with us.

I think everyone needs to hear stories from experiences like this, regardless of whether you connect personally with the content or not. It is stories like this, the hero’s journey, that sparks something in each of us. It hits a primordial part of us that day to day life makes us forget. We are each more than we think.

I got goose bumps watching this. I know this man's trauma was mostly driven by way, but I genuinely believe the way in which he mustered up the energy to find healing could be inspiration to so many caught up in inter-generational trauma. It's so hard to break down those walls, but when you do, the freedom is amazing. thank you Scott.

@miatharlow

2 жыл бұрын

Wow yes the more we talk the better we are

Crying. I’m just in tears. The end where he shares the moment about the silly band with the soldier from the audience. This is pure humanity.

Military life is a collectivist-oriented culture where you kind of have to define your sense of self-worth on other people, your rank, the success of your mission, and so on. Transitioning out of the service back to the civilian world--an individualist-oriented culture, can suddenly make you feel very isolated, not being important anymore, and losing a sense of purpose in life. Sociologists have argued that when individuals feel isolated/disconnected from themselves, others, and the society as a whole, they may choose to end their lives. Transitioning from one culture to another will undoubtedly bring many challenges and difficulties. Many immigrants face these same issues when they try to settle down into a new culture/county. Most people probably don't realize the hug cultural differences between the military and civilian societies (it affects your self-esteem, self-worth, and the very corn concept of being a human), so they underestimate the difficulties vets face when getting out of the service. Of course, with the scars from the service/combat/deployment related trauma, life-death experience, and working in highly stressful and threatening working environments, vets are probably dealing with tons of unimaginable issues/problems that civilians simply cannot understand or relate. I personally feel like the military world is like a very concentrated version of all sorts of our societal problems (not by design, but just the type of job they do). But you know what, the hardship creates true heroes, and the toughest experience can create the greatest warrior. The relationships/bonds a vet builds with others during his/her serve time are probably some of the most full-filling types of love that any human can possibly experience. Every veteran's path is inspiring and needs to be cherished and celebrated. Learning to manage thoughts and emotions by practicing daily meditation (a great exercise to your brain), developing a healthy lifestyle (e.g., eating healthy, exercising regularly), talking to someone can be very helpful. May all vets be safe and healthy!

4th time watching, this is one of the most beautifully crafted TED talks I've ever listened to. It has a kind of meaning and power that I keep coming back to, over and over.

@johnrowan9033

3 жыл бұрын

you may be addicted! seek help!

@lizyvuen

3 жыл бұрын

I have watched twice, it shakes you.

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

@@lizyvuen Wow. Thank you.

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnrowan9033 Ha. Well said Rowan. Take two Rooftops and call me in the morning.

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

You made my week Luiz. Thanks so much.

So brave, just amazing talk.

13:05 ‘A great scar story is a story about you that you don’t want to tell yourself’. We all have great scar stories, it takes a lot of introspection and personal work to bring them to the surface, but once they are out there, they give a voice to countless others who never had the words to express their inner most self. That is a gift beyond compare.

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

It's the ultimate generosity isn't it?!

@ramonortiztorres3882

Жыл бұрын

555

Scars of relatability. OMG this story is amazing.

Once I watched a documentary about 7 people with scars and their stories. It's just amazing how deep the simple signs on the body can be. Your story is the eighth and the most powerful. I appreciate you and all that you are doing.

@thanawatdangprasert

3 жыл бұрын

I think I know the doco you're talking about it was pretty mind blowing

I know there's been an influx of returned soldiers the last couple of years, it's heartbreaking to think that their is such lack of support for them. This guy is fantastic, he clearly knows and is actually doing something to help. He's pretty incredible.

wow this talk was simply incredible. i learnt so much and just wow, i had no idea. kudos to scott and every one else who has fought for our country and have continued to help each other upon their return.

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

Appreciate it Heather. You are so kind.

@harrydecker3979

3 жыл бұрын

My brother did, and is still messed up.

@dextersalinas

3 жыл бұрын

Took me a while to click this, thanks.

The despair of living and of dying. There are some places so unimaginable unless you've been there, you can't understand.

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

Well said Lanny. Well said.

@faithcortellis

3 жыл бұрын

isn't this the truth!

@zu5277

3 жыл бұрын

ive said this about my boarding school, that i can explain for days on end but people will never get it. Not that they don't have the mental capacity to do so, but that they simply havent experienced or seen or done what it is that needed to be seen/done to be able to understand. It is unnatural, and thus can only be understood if one was present at the time. Once that window is over, the ability to grasp it leaves, no matter how vivid a picture I paint.

I did 2 tours in Afghanistan....AMEN to this Soldier for sharing.

This talk gave me a cold shiver.

Bless you Scott, and thank you for your continued service to all.

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Kristian. It's my honor.

💕 💞 💓 💗 💖what an emotional talk, so different yet so relevant - thank you Scott💕 💞 💓 💗 💖

@magnuskarlsonn

3 жыл бұрын

I am just blown away by this...

@moyaresgard

3 жыл бұрын

wow!!!

@mikehweaver

3 жыл бұрын

wow wow wow

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

Nora, thank you. I wanted to take a different approach to this talk. Hardest talk I've ever given.

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

@@magnuskarlsonn Thanks Magnus.

Okay wow what a powerful talk, had me feeling things from start to finish.

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

I'm really glad Mike. I was terrified doing it. Ha.

Scott did another talk on leadership that was good, but this, this is just awe inspiring !!!!

I wonder now through the chaos of the last year what this man thinks of us and how as a society we have faced this challenge?

@raphkisento

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah good point.

@kenfletcher1306

2 жыл бұрын

agree!

This talk is unique and so perfectly delivered. Thank you for this talk, Scott

@rooftopleadership222

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your support, Kotak!

This talk was captivating and shook me…

Tingles from the opening. Literal goose bumps

POWERFUL!!!!

@duncanhopp938

3 жыл бұрын

so so powerful

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Margaret.

Thanks Scott, you still serve your country well!

@rooftopleadership222

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Junior!

@juniorjensen

Жыл бұрын

@@rooftopleadership222 awesome man very awesome!

Great job today to all of you in Youngstown, OH. Thanks to VETTIX for the tickets and I had no idea the impact this play was going to have on me. I am a retired Army Master Sergeant with nearly 26 active years. None of which was in combat or deployed. I have heard plenty of stories like so many others and try to understand but your play today truly made a difference and all of you were phenomenal in your performance. Keep up the great work and keep spreading the information. Hooah!

@janetsplace1953

3 жыл бұрын

thank you for your service...

Such an incredible perspective to come from such traumatic experiences.

10:50- This is incredible.

Healing yourself while giving to others, the generosity of scars. Very well said.

This is a very calm talk, yet the message is so crucial and one that we all need to listen to. It is time to take control of our own lives back.

@maevequinn

2 жыл бұрын

truth!

Those that wage these wars do not have any idea of the scars that are left on those who have to fight. Scott, you are amazing. Please never stop doing what you're doing

@eric-tran

3 жыл бұрын

have always felt this way. those who think it is necessary should be on the front line

This story made me cry. It touched me deeply.

@blairfavers

2 жыл бұрын

Ava thank you for sending this my way.

@jacobydesoiles

2 жыл бұрын

It's one of those talks that makes you think a lot about the way things are modeled and pushed forward, definitely reason to get emotional.

Only through suffering can we find lightness, darkness hides in the places we ignore.

@pat-j-d

3 жыл бұрын

wow thats profound!

Definitely not what I was anticipating but so so good. What a resilient and admirable human. So much respect.

@sandycrisp4518

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah this really gave me a different perspective on return soldiers.

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

Earl. Thank you. I am very humbled.

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

@@sandycrisp4518 Thanks for watching Sandy.

I had the honor of seeing the play... I just want to thank you again for sharing your story and helping me be able to open up just a little more and share mine. Scars... We all have them just some might be bigger than others. You're right, share your story to help other's. You all are amazing people and may God bless you and your show.

@stratulatlucian8064

4 жыл бұрын

so amazing, I want to see it too.

Gripping! This is a good man with an important message!

Damn. That was heavy. Glad to see your fun meter is once again pointed the right way. Thank you for this

@theresarives

3 жыл бұрын

one of the most powerful talks I have ever seen!

@kd5mtl

3 жыл бұрын

@@theresarives Absolutely!

@ErinKalshaw

3 жыл бұрын

😧 😮 😲

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much - It took a bit, but I got it back together. Using my scars to serve now.

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

@@theresarives I am so humbled. Thank you. Come see our play okay?!

I can't even begin to comprehend how Scott gets his strength, he must know how much we need it.

@kanejsloane

2 жыл бұрын

Taz, great send and some serious perspective for me. Cheers

@kaiaomanaia

2 жыл бұрын

his strength is incredible

@micdaskel3313

2 жыл бұрын

He is doing God's work

@makiweshter

2 жыл бұрын

He's been through a lot and it is really extraordinary.

@valeriedijkstra

2 жыл бұрын

Super human, obviously

Brilliant and awe-inspiring!

Imagine living in such trauma that your family leaves the room because they can't handle the state you are in anymore.

@lorissolfa

3 жыл бұрын

happens much too frequently.

@emmastandish

3 жыл бұрын

sounds like my dads state all the time.

these guys, going to war just for their country... the scars they come back with... i hope that veterans are starting to see more support, they deserve it so much.

@emmajchance

3 жыл бұрын

my dad fought, he came back but never came back.

@michaelhunt635

3 жыл бұрын

maybe today after this vote a new administration will treat our vets right.

@emmajchance

3 жыл бұрын

@@michaelhunt635 wow this vote is taking its toll on me

@heatherrausch1987

3 жыл бұрын

yes! this! so important.

@duncanhopp938

3 жыл бұрын

@@michaelhunt635 a lot more is going to be alright again.

When you can't die or live because of what you experienced where is the accountability and responsibility. You're a good man Scott Mann

The way this talk ended it, was perfect. Just nailed it.

Oh my, your story made me cry. You are a real dad with a golden heart. Even this monster, I mean war, haven't taken it away from you.

@lucy-diamonds

2 жыл бұрын

His strength of character is not something you see very often at all

LOVE this man and his message. Profound.

incredible point of view to listen to. ya never know how deep these things run for some people and it's so important for us to be aware

@mazdysarts

3 жыл бұрын

Incredibly important, I agree

I think there are people from both sides who are still trying to seek revenge from what happened September 11th. It saddens me that such a beautiful, self-aware human - had to take up arms in the first place. It was never our place to invade any other country. But this man, Scott, has clearly come out the other side with a huge heart and wanting to help.

@mikedrawley

2 жыл бұрын

IT's a scary world

‘Green Beret’s don’t write plays, Joe’…look at that those cut scene sequences! This is a person who faces challenges and knows what it means to really means to keep on living

This is intense....

@ursulayildrim

3 жыл бұрын

wow no kidding

@milesprimrose5990

3 жыл бұрын

no kidding, really good though.

@IAmTheRealJoker

3 жыл бұрын

really intense

@luizantoniomachado

3 жыл бұрын

😯 😦 😧 😮 😲wow😯 😦 😧 😮 😲

@rooftopleadership222

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching.

Fantastic, I cried a lot too. Impressed by the thoughts and work thats been into this

@rooftopleadership222

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Wow. My brother went through something like this when returning from service.. It took him a good few years to come out of his shell and find joy in life again. Scott, you're doing amazing work. Keep at it!

@deanrupe

3 жыл бұрын

same with my older brother. this talk really hit home.

This is so beautifully and deeply done. What a powerful and important message the Generosity of Scars is! Such a great way to model vulnerability and open the door for our veterans to heal. So well done. I can't wait to have you all in San Diego!!

The concept of sharing your story as a way to create a safe bubble where others can then share in the safety of your narrative it powerful. It was a perfect explanation of why congruence in therapy is so important.

@nelsonpierse

2 жыл бұрын

So true, when we can come together and be real and honest, that's where the healing really starts

We can see how much it hurts, Scott.

@raulascaso

2 жыл бұрын

And what are you doing to help?

Thank goodness we are finally able to open up about mental health, especially for our returned soldiers.

@earlyeaston

3 жыл бұрын

It's about time hey

Being a mom of a boy, I understand your feelings so much.

I almost clicked out of this when I first heard it start. At the end, I didnt want it to be over. Very very good.

@nonduality7

4 жыл бұрын

excellent talk.

@ben-basi

4 жыл бұрын

me too, but I am here also

@itzpredicator3589

4 жыл бұрын

it is amazingly moving powerful, wow

@helenimnotready

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Michael for your review, it is indeed a ted I have never seen the type of before. I was moved by it deeply.

@michaelhunter7959

4 жыл бұрын

@@helenimnotready thank you it is really good.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you Scott.