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@jagjitsinghbhangoo6753

3 жыл бұрын

Interesting vid

@jayger1018

3 жыл бұрын

1st reply

@cursedpancake9423

3 жыл бұрын

When we needed the British commentary man most, he returned to us

@egg2851

3 жыл бұрын

Nice

@gavriellarutigliano2356

3 жыл бұрын

thanks for all your hard work on the vid everybody!!

"Please respect our privacy" said the mommy vlogger not respecting the privacy of her kids...

@mb8787

3 жыл бұрын

Oh, it's just a ploy, so that she (they) can keep paddling to different stories at once, both the: "he's angel that just need patience (that she doesn't have)" to propepective new parent(s), and : "he's was a devil at our house, hitting and hurting our biological children" thereby justifying giving him up for (re-)adoption... They seemingly didn't finalize the adoption, so he's wasn't really adopted in the first place, just taken from his home country to a totally different one... From another story I've got that adopted parents in the US has to take separate steps to make their child a US citizen. What's the chances the Stauffers did that..? Without a US citizenship he could face deportation back to China, a country whose language he will probably not understand by then, by the time he (Huxley) turns 18, especially if he's violent and get a criminal record... as they claim him to be. Ironically, that she (they, the Stauffers) would bring a newborn child to the same house, if he indeed (as I don't believe) is as troubled as they claim, is beyond me. But I believe little of what they claim about him (Huxley).

@RebeccaJayne5x5

3 жыл бұрын

The height of hypocrisy! But I expect nothing from this woman she comes over as a narcissist, adopting that little boy imo was to fulfill something in her he was supposed to adore her look on her as a saviour and everyone would tell her how wonderful she was, what a great mother to take on such a special child, and of course he was a pay day for them! I find Myka nauseating she comes over so insincere she is very affected and even though she shares so much about her self and her family we do not know who she really is because everything is by design, to create a certain image or look a certain way. When she says he won’t just be returned but then that is exactly what they do she said she could not imagine life without him and that he was her baby boy, yet they gave him away they “rehomed” their child how can we believe or trust anything they say from now on! I don’t like family vlogging channels they are intrusive, unfair, unkind and inappropriate, I do not understand why anyone would do this to their children for money it is irresponsible and imo immoral! The Stauffer’s should lose their channel this was a little boys life they messed with! I really hope Huxley is happy he deserves it ❤️

@jackierco

3 жыл бұрын

And posts their entire life for the internet to see.

@Gardow

3 жыл бұрын

Couldn't agree more with each of you. There were definitely some moments in this one that were tough to stomach. And a lot that were simply infuriating. Even just the way she spoke about how this kid was going to teach her so much... These people have kids for the wrong reasons, and I just feel terrible for the boy. They didn't do this because they had love to spare, they did this because they craved more. He deserves better, and the other kids do too.

@deniselee5870

3 жыл бұрын

I believe huxley loved every one but her....he as a innocent seen through her ....he didn't bow down to her like she wanted...I believe he tried...but just knew she was a fake

She’s a “oh you’re depressed? Just stop being sad” type of person.

@mydy5863

3 жыл бұрын

"Just go outside and exercise."

@thatonegooze

3 жыл бұрын

"Hey hunny wanna become your own boss 😃 Just join my pyramind scheme" vibes

@Wallis_2001

3 жыл бұрын

"Just drink water."

@kizilm5315

3 жыл бұрын

"Afraid to die? Just dont die lol"

@prophetofdrip

3 жыл бұрын

you're homeless? just buy a house

The biggest annoyance i have with this woman is her insistence on making it all about HER. “He’s teaching me so much”, “he’s done so much for me”, “parenting is so hard for me”. YOU are the parent, Myka. You’re supposed to be raising him. He’s your son, not your teacher.

@boohooter23

Жыл бұрын

That's a sentiment that a lot of parents of autistic children put out. Typically will describe themselves as "autism warrior mom/dad" because they think it's so noble to do what parents are expected to do for their kids. They also love blaming any bad thing their kid does on being autistic even if it's a behavior non-autistic kids do, but they feel it's such a benevolent thing to not terminate parental rights or kill them!

@fruittypun799

Жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I found odd even before TRO talks about how she rehomed her son. It just seems so self-centered and hypocritical :/

@aud7593

Жыл бұрын

I really hate how she frames everything as "it will be worth it in the end". Worth it for whom? for her? what is the worth, Myka? you're a _parent_ .

@afckingegg7585

Жыл бұрын

Our society and media like to tell us that disabled people exist to inspire/teach able people, like disabled people aren't human beings with our own needs and reasons for existing. It's dehumanizing.

@rebeccadeleon5027

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! There is a total lack of trying to empathize with her child or understand what he's experiencing or going through.

Let’s not forget that the husband also adopted this child and acted as a legal guardian in this situation and should be held equally accountable

@greggyboy3825

5 ай бұрын

YES thank you. like yes she’s the only one posting and talking about it, but he’s a parent too? it sounds like she did so much of it herself.

She returned that kid like he was a bad Christmas present with the receipt still attached

@Ramsey276one

3 жыл бұрын

KEEP WAITING FOR THE REFUND SWEETHEART XC

@Megs1921

3 жыл бұрын

@Blue .Barrymore I agree and disagree with this comment. I think she probably really pushed for this adoption and like you said, just kind of went along with her. That being said, if you both commit to something then you both need to be in it for the long run. He is just as at fault for his role in this mess. Relationships should be 50/50 and I find him just as culpable.

@spookieboogi6161

3 жыл бұрын

Poor baby

@crimescontours6923

3 жыл бұрын

All “I can get credit with this exchange at least right? It’s just that it was SO expensive. I don’t need my money back but some credit WOULD be nice!” 🙄🙄🙄🙄. Like....GTFOOOOOO KAREN!! No give backsies!! Jesusssssss. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

@missrelaxed3872

3 жыл бұрын

Yup the father is at fault too

She practically demonised a child with autism because she didn’t know how to take care of him... just ew

@mupty

3 жыл бұрын

Bet she thought autism was just some alternate form of Down's or something

@slime_rat

3 жыл бұрын

@@mupty if she generally thought Autism was another form of Down’s syndrome then my God she shouldn’t have children

@mcoupe69

3 жыл бұрын

@@slime_rat you probably shouldn’t either if you believe fought is how you spell thought

@mcoupe69

3 жыл бұрын

Also I have diarrhea of the mouth

@mcoupe69

3 жыл бұрын

And now I feel terrible after reading you have dyslexia 😫

You can’t return a pair of pants to Walmart after 30 days but you can return a child after 2 years.

@doctorcorgi3134

Жыл бұрын

Damn…

@Booty_Crocker

Жыл бұрын

Damn. I didn’t think of it like that. Fucking terrible

@youareworthyourtime

Жыл бұрын

that's just what he was to them, a shiny thing that is in fashion. I hope he has the best life now.

@erlouwer

Жыл бұрын

What a flat one dimensional comment. Of course you can return a child after a longer period of time than a pair of pants, because it is a human being. Would you rather there is a "no return" policy, forcing the parents onto a child they cant handle and therefore ruining his life involuntarily? Why are you comparing a child to an object as if the same logic applies.

@asmrtpop2676

Жыл бұрын

@mami7864Nope. She gets no credit here because she did the wrong thing in the first place by adopting him and adding to his trauma by taking him in then abandoning him again.

As someone with autism, I am overwhelmingly angered by this woman. It was quite obvious that she had no idea how to properly care for a child on the spectrum. When I had meltdowns when I was young, my mother would take me to a quiet area, comfort me to calm me down, then we’d talk through why I was upset and how to deal with the thing that had upset me better next time- keep in mind as well, I wasn’t diagnosed with autism till I was 18. My mother taught me proper coping mechanisms, and even when I had bad days, she never once stopped caring or gave up (she could get a little strict though 😅). The fact that this woman just gave up on her child makes me ill, but also grateful I have a family that is able to love, care for, and understand me

@doctorcorgi3134

Жыл бұрын

As someone that’s adopted. This woman struck a nerve with me. It’s already hard enough to grow up with a family that doesn’t look like you, and always wonder about a family history you have no knowledge about. Add neurological problems, and parents that are pieces of shit. And you aren’t going to get anything good out of it.

@nuage9538

Жыл бұрын

I struggle having a drastic opinion on the matter. As a person with autism myself, who has been diagnosed as an adult, I now see what my parents went through with me. My mom lost her health and sanity trying to understand and respond to my needs, without any help. She inherited herself a very strong saviour syndrome from her very traumatic upbringing, and any well balanced parent (as good of a parent as they could be) would have given up on me and put me in an institution. Now my parents are exhausted for life and I have to live with the inevitable guilt of having been a burden on an unprepared family. I deeply love my parents but there are sooooo many things that they did very wrong. Any undiagnosed autism (or unprepared parents) can leave to child abuse, so I definitely prefer that child being safe…. That being said, those people are so greedy and disconnected from reality, it’s infuriating.

@hinachan70

Жыл бұрын

@@lunariian oh man, I'm sorry to hear that. And I know it must be really confusing because of the whole being mostly non verbal. Stay strong there. I'd say just keep an eye out for if it's a meltdown or possibly crying due to not being able to express himself and his needs normally for that age. As my grandmother always told me, there are special people put in place in this world who have the love and patience to raise and/or adopt an individual with a disability/disabilities. It may be a challenging road up ahead, moreso than expected but you being this understanding already is the biggest step in the right direction imo.

@CandiceGoddard

Жыл бұрын

You seem to be talking about high functioning autism which used to be called Asperger's until it was rolled into autism to take some of the stigma from that condition. I don't think it's the same thing at all. In fact all it did was further harm people with autism and fetishize the condition. Making it desirable for people who are just anti-social and/or want to mimic some of the characteristics for attention and to make excuses, as it's pretty easy to fake, IMHO. There are so many shows about idiot-savants now and people mimicking this to appear intelligent but then have an excuse for mental shortcomings. Even the poorly displayed version of it in the show Bones where the woman presents as a high functioning autistic but yet can't understand colloquialism which you would think as an autist and anthropologist she would have studied since she likes studying humans. I did and I'm a qualified archaeologist. If you can't understand colloquialisms then you can barely communicate and stand out more. My mother was an abuser who used to beat me up. I rarely had any kind of meltdown outside of a reaction to abuse for example, her coming into my room and moving my stuff around or stealing it (and no, I don't mean tidying up, I mean playing mind games). I was often beaten black and blue so I learned how to behave, but I definitely did have skin picking and other irresistible behaviours. I think that's a major difference in autism and Asperger's. The autist has no ability to stop the undesirable behaviour because he or she is not fully self aware. Whereas someone with Asperger's is excessively sentient maybe more so than others. That's why it's so difficult to be social because you would be aware of everything until the average person who actually is not. If it's a spectrum in terms of self awareness, all humans are on it.

@alexrobison7407

Жыл бұрын

i have autism too so i completely agree.

“He stares at people when you eat, even if theres food in front of him” that is the most obvious sign of a child who’s experienced hunger and food insecurity.

@mothermovementa

2 жыл бұрын

Treating him like a dog

@sircrackerr

2 жыл бұрын

He could also like food. It depends. But in this instance I 100% agree.

@JarethTheGoblinKingForever

2 жыл бұрын

He came from an orphanage in China, a communist country with a pretty bad track record for human rights when it comes to orphaned/disabled children. I don't think we'll ever know what his early infancy was like or how he was treated, but it probably wasn't good.

@elizabethsmith7224

2 жыл бұрын

It's kind of common unfortunately some orphanages even past foster homes can be suprisingly abusive.

@JarethTheGoblinKingForever

2 жыл бұрын

@@elizabethsmith7224 Sadly true. Here in Canada there are foster homes that have been disestablished due to depriving children of basic necessities, exposing them to sexual predators, neglecting them, etc. and so many kids are forever damaged by these experiences. I wish that Myka Stauffer had been more understanding of this reality. She adopted a child from a country with a reputation for abusing and neglecting disabled children, but she found it "weird" that he would stare at them while they ate dinner and that he liked to hide himself in a closet and rock himself back and forth. Those behaviours can be telltale signs of possible trauma and past neglect. She had no idea what her adopted child's early life was like.

I'm going to fucking say it giving her child up to be raised by another family who was better equipped to take care of him was probably the only good decision she's ever made as a mother

@boop99

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, your majesty

@meowwoemp-pm8ih

2 жыл бұрын

this.

@pory913

2 жыл бұрын

That doesn’t make sense, giving him up was the reason she’s labeled as a horrible mother

@MilA-eh3gf

2 жыл бұрын

@@pory913 in my opinion she’s a bad mother because the motivation of the adoption was self-serving and she went ahead disregarding all advice that would have made her a better-equipped mother for the child she claimed she wanted. By letting Huxley be adopted by a new family that could accommodate Huxley’s special needs, she made a decision, for the first time, benefited the child in the long run. I think that’s what this commenter^ meant. It’d obviously have been better if she learnt to truly love and accommodate who Huxley is; but since she had grown to subconsciously resentment him and her rigidity/arrogance couldn’t allow her to change her ways/expectations, the “re-home” outcome was the lesser of the two evils. Huxley would have had a prolonged traumatising childhood if stayed with her any longer. TLDR: she’s so toxic that her removing herself from the child’s life was the best thing she did for him (after she’d already done some damage by adopting him into her careless “motherhood” to begin with).

@siridarby-zhao3549

2 жыл бұрын

@@pory913 but even when she kept him she was a horrible mother, her son went to hug her and she pushed him away, that is messed up.

They’re not horrible for giving him up (because he deserved way better than them), they’re horrible for their motivation for adopting him. (Content, praise/savior status, adversity, autism hashtag, etc.)

@just-be-nice

Жыл бұрын

Agree. Blessing they "returned" him.

@asmrtpop2676

Жыл бұрын

They’re horrible for giving him up as well because it is part of the entire thing. Adoption is trauma. So what they did was cause him the trauma of adoption/changing homes…. twice. All because they couldn’t listen, and were selfish.

@rayrayisfruity

10 ай бұрын

agree

@hannahw7023

7 ай бұрын

​@asmrtpop2676 tbh giving him up really was the only correct decision that they made. The damage was already done, so they could either give him up, which would induce some trauma but ultimately open him up to hopefully going to a better home, or they could have kept him, where they would continue to not be able to meet his needs while continuing to shove a camera in his face. The boy should have never been adopted by that family, but it's for the best that he was taken out of it.

@blowitoutyourcunt7675

Күн бұрын

It can totally be BOTH!

The way he smiled and got all excited when dad said “are you my boy?” Broke my heart. This poor baby is going to need so much therapy as he grows.

@aromaladyellie

10 ай бұрын

The way they refuse to refer to him as anything but “little guy” or “boy” makes my skin crawl. It feels like a huge wall between them.

@00MzAngel00

9 ай бұрын

@@aromaladyellieok I thought it was just me. Like I call my son by his name along with his nicknames. But their wording gave me itchy skin

"are you over yourself" - he is a toddler. A TODDLER.

@karenmohamedelsayed

3 жыл бұрын

And an autistic toddler 😭 what did they expect?

@avionpiscean33

3 жыл бұрын

Not only that, he's a neurodivergent toddler.

@mbt9700

3 жыл бұрын

@@avionpiscean33 as an Autistic person myself - their behavior is atrocious. Edit: the behavior I am speaking of is that of the parents'

@MinatheRaichu

3 жыл бұрын

@@mbt9700 I imagine you also are not a toddler and have had time to figure out how to cope. Toddlers are already tough gremlins to take care of, but children who have special needs will also act out a ton.

@mbt9700

3 жыл бұрын

@@MinatheRaichu hello, yes, unsure how this affects whether or not the child should be treated heinously... Which they never should.

Raycon Shadow Legends collab when

@graceelle9605

3 жыл бұрын

D'Angelo!!

@jennali9800

3 жыл бұрын

D'Angelo!! Huge fan :D

@kentokim

3 жыл бұрын

D'Angelooooo

@magnificloud

3 жыл бұрын

AYY

@djkitkat3328

3 жыл бұрын

A man of culture I see

I started tearing up at the 1:02:30 mark when the "dad" said to the boy "Are you my boy?" and he started smiling widely. He is in a better equipped home thankfully, but that moment really drives home the innocence of that child and how much they toyed with it.

@artmusicloveandwords

Жыл бұрын

I was looking for this comment. That broke my heart more than any of the other footage. 🥺

@TheLadyWildfire

Жыл бұрын

I was thinking that too and myka had mentioned that In the beginning hux had gravitated more toward James because he held him more in the beginning than she did.. Maybe she was jealous and resented him for that. So sad.

@purrrrrrrple

Жыл бұрын

@Kaydee ねこ "daddy" got mad because the baby watched him eat.... he's acting for the cameras

@Matthew-dg8xd

10 ай бұрын

If I came across this couple irl I would initiate a physical confrontation. They literally treated this child differently because he wasn’t their biological child. I’m willing to bet that if it was one of their children that had autism they would have a lot more patience. P.O.S.

As an autistic person who grew up feeling difficult and like a burden, Myka's words cut really fucking deep. I pray that this kid won't remember these things and is in a family that won't treat him like a chore, he deserves the world and it's infuriating to see Myka complain about basic parenting. "We didn't sign up for this 😢" then you didn't do your fucking homework! You sign up for EVERYTHING when you bring a child into your care, don't put yourself into that situation unless you're ready for it. This isn't just scummy, it's absolutely fucking tragic and I truly wish this kid the best with a family that knows what they're doing.

@asmrtpop2676

Жыл бұрын

I pray he won’t remember but… I’m autistic as well… so I know he will remember 😞

@carolinamurtha3102

10 ай бұрын

The “we didn’t sign up for this”, but being parents with biological children, you have no idea how your kids are going to come out. They might be healthy, disabled at birth, have a genetic condition you didn’t know both you and you’re partner were a carrier, etc. With adoption, you are literally choosing to sign up to be a parent. I hope Huxley has a chance, he’s been through so much already.

@bleethteed8681

10 ай бұрын

@carolinamurtha3102 christ now that I'm thinking about it, you're absolutely right. they DID sign up for this. knowing how much paperwork the adoption process involves, I'm sure they literally explicitly signed up for this dozens of times.

@marytodd9170

9 ай бұрын

She is disgusting as a mother!

@zoep.2891

6 ай бұрын

Myka asked for a child with special needs specifically. A doctor warned them and in one video Myka even mentioned that and she said, that this warning went in one ear and out the other. She was fully aware, that Huxley had serious health issues.

"..his our boy. Were not gonna return him..." this, didn't age that well

@Wastedtime599

3 жыл бұрын

Aged like milk 🥛 😒

@CorporalTailsDude

3 жыл бұрын

He's our boy, we're not giving him up my ass

@yeanah2571

3 жыл бұрын

That's when we knew that's exactly what she was going to do...

@Sophia-vk5bq

3 жыл бұрын

When someone says they're "not" going to do something, its a pretty clear sign of being in denial. Or dishonesty.

@RobGradyVO

3 жыл бұрын

aged like Milk

Duct taping his thumbs, shaving his head when he doesn't want it, getting angry when he looks at you while eating, all of it is so abusive and disgusting. They are abusive parents. Disgusting.

@QueenBlazo2020

3 жыл бұрын

Abusive af

@laurenettrick9201

3 жыл бұрын

She also fully pushed him when he was going in for a hug. Rejecting a child seeking comfort can be abusive behaviour and using physical force to reject that child? She was not treating him right at all. I'm kind of glad he might be in a place where he gets the attention and considered care he needs rather than whatever way they were treating him. But, unfortunately, it'll also be hard for him to get over this trauma too. Hopefully, he has a good life from this point on and Myka focuses on parenting the four kids she has now in a caring way.

@user-fd2qu6zo2g

3 жыл бұрын

@@laurenettrick9201 and most adopted kids go through separation anxiety that can go to very bad levels, AND the kids struggles with autism, so im guessing its even worse. it makes me furious how theyre trying to victimize themselves in this situation. i also havent finished this video but i vividly remember she once said "me and the kids (excluding *him*) are going to go upstairs in the room to spend some family time" my jaw fell to the floor... they literally only saw him as a cash grab... the whole approach about how they describe him (adoptive son, consistently said "he is my true son, never felt like her wasnt" being repeated OVER AND OVER again tend to have a different effect, signaling that he somehow is different and not her real son but "she doesnt see him as that") makes me feel really uncomfortable?

@casey5683

3 жыл бұрын

Thank god that baby is out of there.

@livrogatsky3615

3 жыл бұрын

I’d also like to add that in a (now deleted) video, her husband talks about how they often put the adopted child to sleep early so that their biological kids could come snuggle in bed with them while watching a movie. Further pushing the narrative that many adopted children experience that they are not the couples “real children” and aren’t worthy of certain activities

As someone who works with SEN children hearing that “are you done?” made my blood boil. People seem to not realise that if you’re not prepared to care for someone with intense special needs and commit to a life of learning you should not commit to parenthood in the first place. Parenthood shouldn’t be a gamble.

@dis_joint_ed5167

2 жыл бұрын

Same with him going in the cupboard, that's a totally normal thing for a severely autistic child to do. My son always goes to cupboards if things get too much for him, just leave him be as long as he's safe and happy.

@meganmarie4541

Жыл бұрын

when you say SEN do you mean CEN? forgive me I'm not trying to correct you, genuinely wondering if it stands for something else.

@notrod5341

Жыл бұрын

@@meganmarie4541 Special Education Needs.

@jace2343

Жыл бұрын

yep. especially given that people had told her that he had autism and was gonna need extra care and she still just went along with it without assessing whether she’d be able to care for him or not which she clearly couldn’t

@IronWangCreates

8 ай бұрын

I had no training when I started working as an SEN TA and neither did a lot of my coworkers in that department (most schools in the uk don’t have special needs education requirements for SEN TA’s) and yet we all seem to have a better understanding of handling an autistic child than this woman does. It’s literally googleable.

I wasn’t “ready for” my son’s level 3 autism either. But that’s parenthood. You don’t get to choose your child’s traits. This is how we know she thought of Hux as different than her biological children.

@stephi1311

Жыл бұрын

exactly. none of us know what we're doing. since when does autism have a manual? she didn't love that boy as much as her other babies, and that's why she just popped out another like "haha oh yeah & hux is gone." it's disgusting.

@elizabethsmith7224

10 ай бұрын

My axiety disorder was worse when I was a kid,we couldn't even go to restaurant when I was very very young because the noise would bother me so much, my parents adapted we ate most of our meals at home. They would change the TV channel every time a scary movie or scary movie trailers came on. I got better as I got older but even if I hadn't I know my parents would never abandon or give me up.

@emilyrasputin

4 ай бұрын

​@@stephi1311 Them having another baby (presumably by choice but possibly an accident) didn't sit right with me if they were supposedly struggling so much. Why would the mom going through birth and the presence of a newborn be a good idea at that point? Like it's just taking away time and money from the existing child who she claims was costing too much time and money.

Why does it legit feel like she was trying to create an “adoption aesthetic”

@teresahowick5197

3 жыл бұрын

Because she was.

@Romanticoutlaw

3 жыл бұрын

she got that savior complex

@QueenBlazo2020

3 жыл бұрын

It pisses me off because I am adopted

@ByeByeBelly

3 жыл бұрын

Sigh adopting a child when you already have 4 would not be for youtube content. She clearly thought it was going to be a magical fantasy and that she'd have such an intense bond with the child and that it'd be so rewarding. I think that was their mistake, NOT *adopting* a child for youtube content, that's ridiculous. There's a way easier way to make more cash online - onlyfans. Or even faking a terrible event like people have done would be less effort and risk than adoption. I don't believe they adopted for that reason

@gustavocarrasco9110

3 жыл бұрын

You mean a trend? Because it could have if it weren't for this fuck up. Maybe other youtube family channels will have it more difficult for adoptions now.

she has the "the only good anti depressant is going outside" vibe

@bruhjime2675

3 жыл бұрын

Ah yes the "travel to a new location if you're deppressed" types. Slap them.

@connorscorner443

3 жыл бұрын

Oh i hate those people

@Katelyst

3 жыл бұрын

In one of her old videos, 7 things to make you happy or something, she actually says to go outside and get lost in nature. So, she's certainly THAT type. Ugh.

@bennygohome4576

3 жыл бұрын

Exercise can help with depression though

@connorscorner443

3 жыл бұрын

@@bennygohome4576 it can but not always. I know it doesnt help me very much

Mommy-vloggers value their children in _precisely_ the same way that pimps value their hoes. The fucking practice should be banned by online content-hosting platforms and acknowledged as a form of felony filial abuse by governments-but, of course, there's way too much money in it for that to ever actually happen.

@aimzzz9382

Жыл бұрын

I wonder if this will be the thing that in the future and generations people will look back and say “what were they thinking?”.

@DistractedGlobeGuy

Жыл бұрын

@@aimzzz9382 if humans survive long enough for there to _be_ future generations.

@AlmostCouture

Жыл бұрын

Word!!!

@hannahloewen448

5 ай бұрын

I believe it has been brought up to the courts in France. I believe children of influencers are now entitled to the profits from the content, at least. You can look it up as I’m not sure I’m remembering correctly. It’s not a lot but it’s a start. Now I hope more countries follow suit.

@Twinkle_Toes88

5 ай бұрын

We the people of the world need to keep exposing this behavior, yes, it will happen but we have to keep pushing against people like this!! She just didn’t want a child who wasn’t “PERFECT “ 🤮. No one is PERFECT! And that is ok!! 🎉

As someone who has Autism, it hurts my heart to see this child be treated this way from parents who were extremely unprepared to take care of him. Filming his meltdowns and duct taping his fingers together is very horrendous and shows she really didn’t care about him like she said she did.

@rhenaravanderhaar5414

2 жыл бұрын

I also have autism and I agree. Even the way she treated him when he was having a meltdown as if he was a spoilt child trying to get attention. They took him on like a pet and then just got rid of him when he become too much. I truly hope this little boy is doing well and he actually has a family who loves him now. He deserves it.

@Ella_A_Star

2 жыл бұрын

@@rhenaravanderhaar5414 it’s especially harmful when you realize she didn’t even care about him. She says she did, but if she did she wouldn’t have put him through all of that, and listened to the professionals when they said it wasn’t a good idea. I hope the child is in a home where his needs can be met and he’s able to get the help he needs 😓

@mathilda6763

Жыл бұрын

not to mention 30h a week of *ABA*. that's almost a full work week of just ABA plus normal pre-school., which is often stressful for a child on the spectrum as well. No wonder the kid was overwhelmed and tried to soothe himself. I hope where he's know people are more empathetic towards him.

@Ella_A_Star

Жыл бұрын

@@mathilda6763 ikr, and I heard ABA can be very traumatizing depending on which specialist you go to. I hope the child is in a much better place now

@Unbreakable245

Жыл бұрын

She fucked up

She is the human embodiment of "Live, Laugh, Love" sign. Like a young wine mom using essential oils instead of proper medical treatments.

@Crow0567

3 жыл бұрын

And ABA "therapy" of course. The Autism Mom(tm) classic.

@foreverNwonder

3 жыл бұрын

@@ItsMeBarnaby 15:24 w/ her fake crying 😤

@Titantitan001

3 жыл бұрын

You realize most medical decisions are theoretical right? Its why they usually tell you to get a second opinion or to go to a specialist so they can make a guess. People act like natural medicine is evil lol. Doesn’t have 10-30 side effects per pills. Sign me up. Rather have some shaman in a tent try a few times before resulting to a doctor. One of the leading causes of death. Medical errors. Stop being a puppet for big pharma.

@Crow0567

3 жыл бұрын

@@Titantitan001 you do know what scientific theories are, right? Like, what the word "theory" means in that context

@mitza420

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah the one who is going to show you how you can live the "perfect"life lol The PerFect mother

The “tantrums” she showed him having weren’t even tantrums. He was literally just crying, not screaming, not throwing anything, just crying.

@samalvarez8776

3 жыл бұрын

Seriously. My boys aren't on the spectrum, and they've had full on meltdowns. I know I looked like a horrible mother at the time, but when my middle child was 2 or 3 he would scream bloody murder in the store. Every. Single. Time. I've learned that instead of leaving or getting angry, I would ignore him and let him scream it out. He would follow me around screaming and throwing himself down and I would walk away. He would chase me of course, throwing himself down. People would give me dirty looks lol guess what? He is now 8, and top of his class with a reading level of a 6th grader, and the sweetest boy you'll ever meet.

@alldetected3106

3 жыл бұрын

Right, regular kid behavior

@neoqwerty

3 жыл бұрын

@@samalvarez8776 I'm only now realizing how OFF I was as a young child for NOT acting out. Before I'd see people with kids that screamed and yelled and thought "why can't they be calm and patient like me at that age". Now I know it's because I was furniture or a living doll to my mother, and until my dad retired from his job I didn't even get attention. Props to you for discouraging him acting out in the store. (It's amusing that apparently kid-raising is the same strategy as parrot-handling-- ignore when they scream and adore when they don't.)

@angelikalaser7778

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, he seemed just sad and needed comford and a tight hug and food! Poor thing, Myka and James are horrible human beeings.

@colleenlally-ross7105

3 жыл бұрын

My boys are grown now and I do mini reenactments of mega meltdown at grocery stores where I had to leave a whole cart of food behind ...we laugh and we all survived 🤗 I played WITH my kids not FILM them.

I know this video is nearly two years old but I just watched it today. I’ve known about the story since it became news in 2020 but I appreciated this thorough deep dive. I am an adoptive mother. My son was born with multiple heart defects, which my husband and I knew about before we decided to take him in. We knew that he would need open-heart surgery. We knew he would be in the hospital for a few weeks. What we didn’t anticipate was that he would end up having complications, he would nearly die, and he would require a four month hospital stay after which he would have lifelong developmental delays. The adoption agency didn’t anticipate that either, which is why we were asked more than once if we wanted to proceed with the adoption. Not once did we even consider backing out. Six months to the day after he came home from the hospital, my husband took his own life. So now here I was, facing single motherhood with a child who was developmentally delayed and would later be diagnosed with cerebral palsy. Again, I was told that I could back out of the adoption. Again, I never even considered it. From the moment I laid eyes on my child, I fell in love with him. And if he were my biological child I wouldn’t give him up just because things happened that weren’t anticipated. Today, he is 4 years old. He is still significantly delayed and probably always will be. I will have to spend the rest of my life caring for him because he won’t be able to care for himself. Do I regret not backing out of the adoption? Absolutely NOT. He is the light of my life. My pride and joy. I love him more than I have ever loved anyone. So I can’t muster any sympathy for the Stauffers, especially because they at least knew that Huxley had severe medical issues. Hopefully he’s now with a family who can manage his needs and will love him unconditionally the way any parent, adoptive or natural, should love their kid.

@shell6829

Жыл бұрын

You are an amazing person for giving this child parents who love him and will never give up on him and just continue to care for him and love him as any good parent should do. I also want to say I am truly sorry about your husband. I can’t even begin to imagine how hard that was/is and become a single mother, but still doing what you can to care for all his needs. I have a lot of respect for what you do and all you’ve been through. Much love and many hugs from Alabama. ❤

@zebbyscoot3990

Жыл бұрын

You’re my fucking hero

@mintytoasted

11 ай бұрын

I hope you and him continue to grow and thrive with endless happiness. you are stronger than many other people could ever imagine. i teared up reading this, and i wish you both the best. as much as i would love to say that i would do the same i know i wouldnt ever be able to both mentally and physically. no matter how hard it gets i hope you are able to overcome it all, being this selfless is truly a blessing.

@amandakate175

9 ай бұрын

@hannahloewen448

5 ай бұрын

Omg 😢 this story broke my heart, I’m so sorry you lost your husband, thank you for taking care of your baby and never turning back even though it must be so difficult. I’m sure your baby loves you more than anything in the world ❤

Anyone else notice covid sent her over the edge? He had 30 hrs a week of behavioral therapy and private preschool...she never saw him. Then covid hit and she was stuck interacting with him and it was too much work. I agree he's better off without her but the whole situation is disgusting especially how she gushes she'll never give him away..

@cyberpunkcentral8500

6 ай бұрын

VERY good point and quite insightful. 💯

I can't imagine being those kids, who have every moment of their waking life being recorded and uploaded for millions of people to see and judge.

@kait711

3 жыл бұрын

it’s not a good video if justin doesn’t have smth to say about it

@tompossessed1729

3 жыл бұрын

Kids have to deal with that in school already jesus.

@eaglesoar1188

3 жыл бұрын

The fact they will view being recorded and judged for millions to see as normal is sad.

@ZombieMiezz

3 жыл бұрын

@@tompossessed1729 The difference to me it seems, is that your caregiver is exploiting you - so trust is automatically out of the window.

@speedyeagle2.25

3 жыл бұрын

I agree Justin

I hate her going on and on about what he’ll teach her. He’s a kid, he exists beyond what he can do for you and your personal growth

@gelocide4924

3 жыл бұрын

yeah i couldn't decide why that bit was rubbing me the wrong way but that's definitely it

@Mupyeong

3 жыл бұрын

not if ur a narc🤷

@e-linamarie

3 жыл бұрын

fr, you can definitely learn from your kids but that’s not their sole purpose

@lightwalker1751

3 жыл бұрын

its all her her her

@holicandy01

3 жыл бұрын

I hope she learned to not be a clown

“It is not easier with each kid… It feels harder with every single child I’ve had.” So you mean to tell me that the more children you have to raise at once the more responsibility you have and the more stress you’ll be under?! That’s so enlightening! I never would have guessed that the more helpless tiny human beings you’re responsible for the more stressful it is!

@ruthsagers1714

11 ай бұрын

Well now you know. And knowing’s half the battle 👍🏻

@casadilla111

11 ай бұрын

@@ruthsagers1714 The more you knoooow!

@elizabethsmith7224

10 ай бұрын

​@@ruthsagers1714GI JOE!!!

@aelinorholloway3669

8 ай бұрын

Seems to be a issue a lot of very strict religious couples have. The men just want lots of kids and don't care about the physical and emotional toll it takes on their wives.

You skipped over where the report states they inflicted ABA on the kid, a "therapy" that many autistic adults have spoken out about being abusive and traumatic. It could well have been the cause of increasing meltdowns and unsafe behaviours. Also 30hours of ABA for a 4yo is almost a full time job for the kid. Ridiculous.

@little.tricks

10 ай бұрын

What is ABA?

@insulam821

9 ай бұрын

@@little.tricks ABA stands for applied behaviour analysis, a form of "therapy" that uses positive and negative reinforcement to condition someone to act a certain way. You reward someone for desired behaviour, and punish them for undesired behaviour, and through association they are conditioned to act a certain way. In the context of autism, ABA essentially rewards autistic children for acting neurotypical (such as holding eye contact, something painful for many autistic people) and punishes them for being autistic, such as stimming or talking about their special interests. It's harmful because autistic traits aren't controllable, but are simply part of who autistic people are, yet through ABA these traits are repressed, which has a huge impact on the mental health of autistic people as it makes you have to pretend to be completely different to who you are all the time ("masking"). There's also the fact that the punishments used in ABA can be horrificly barbaric and abusive, such as yelling loudly (when many autistic people find loud noises painful), physical violence such as hitting, depriving the child of food, and in exreme cases using electric shocks (which have resulted in the murders of several autistic children due to their use). Sorry this is a long explanation, ABA is incredibly harmful yet is still held by many experts as the best way of "treating" autism, when autism isn't something to be cured or repressed.

@slowslug3247

8 ай бұрын

My son had aba, it was nothing short of abuse. We ended it and my son has learned so much just by giving him understanding and not making him “work” the program. They use “statistics” to justify their abuse. I feel sick every time I see newly diagnosed kids look into aba

@mynineandi

5 ай бұрын

Just thought I’d chime in regarding ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) is very different than the therapy used 10+ years ago. I really wish they would change the name because it’s an umbrella term where not all therapy is created equal in this field. As an autistic myself, I have 7 autistic children and 2 actually attend ABA. I encourage people to research new therapies and learn about the techniques being used. I am in ABA as well from the same clinic and recommend it to other families. The old ABA was highly abusive and harmful and I’m sure there are centers still like that even now. But not all centers are the same and not all techniques are the same. Our ABA center has truly been a benefit for our family. We have no desire to change our autistic brains. We just want to be able to adapt to environments we find challenging. My children and I also deal with dyslexia and adhd in addition to autism, it makes some things difficult for us. But with our therapy we have been able to learn how to work through things with greater tools that level the playing field. My 12 yo and my 17 yo are in ABA and they made the decision to have this therapy. At any time they can decide it’s not for them as that is the choice I want them to make. As of now, they’ve been doing ABA for 2 and 4 years respectively. We are all different levels and require different approaches. I hope the discussion can be opened regarding ABA and that the differences in therapy can be shown so that people will be educated about it. ♥️

@hang5797

4 ай бұрын

​@@mynineandi not to be mean but goddang how many kids do u have

This couple not only ignored advice from a professional who obviously knew better, and warned them it was going to be difficult. They instead went to one who told them what they wanted to hear. Then they bailed when they couldn't live in denial any longer. Its really just horrible.

@tamanone7918

3 жыл бұрын

Idc about them im just so hurt for that cute baby he is truly adorable they didnt deserve him

@theglutenfreegamer8074

3 жыл бұрын

@@tamanone7918 I agree

@yeanah2571

3 жыл бұрын

Just sounded had a "Jesus will sort us out" feel to it. Always a red flag.

@anonamass9244

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! That’s what angers me the most, they went to a doctor who told them there’s a good chance they wouldn’t be able to care for the child but instead of listening they decided to go to a different doctor that basically just said “Oh but he’s so cute! Yeah he’ll be fine.” Like what? How immature can you possibly be?!

@subwoofer6726

3 жыл бұрын

"And I wasn't in denial..." Yes you were. When you get told something by multiple professionals or field experts and you go against their word, that's denial. Thick headed woman...

Bruh the doctors literally told y’all you weren’t ready for a severely autistic child 🤦🏻‍♀️

@CarburetorThompson

3 жыл бұрын

A lot of people will keep changing doctors until they hear what they want to hear

@ddjsoyenby

3 жыл бұрын

"i know, but i want clout" "wow you're the worst human i know in a just world you'd be in a cell"

@cicada38

3 жыл бұрын

She loved the attention that she was receiving from the idea of adopting. No way would she have considered changing her mind at that point.

@s.rodelo9862

3 жыл бұрын

Yup and she could have gotten a autistic child naturally too and she can’t give them back so wtf why would she take him and give him the highest hopes of a home and loving family them give him back when shit goes down

@oakwoodnymph

3 жыл бұрын

Clearly the adoption process does not equate the lack of mentality of the so called adoptive "parents". They are all despicable.

I’m not mad at her for giving up her son to a family that’s better equipped to take care of him and his needs… I’m mad at her because she knew what she was getting into and blatantly chose to ignore the advice given to her by actual medical professionals, and now this child has to deal with the repercussions of that.

The way myka punished the child for having melt downs makes me so sick and angry to this day. He was punished for trying to communicate, for struggling, for being uncomfortable, for being hungry. She continues to say "it's the principal of the thing we don't throw a fit to get our way" BUT HE PHYSICALLY CANNOT COMMUNICATE IN ANY OTHER WAY. Ugh this is old and my comment does nothing I just get angry listening to get talk to that child.

@purrrrrrrple

Жыл бұрын

Right?? Complaining about the kid "wanting to get his way" with the bio kids on the lap, while H was in the rug, and the "parents" were being mean to him. Poor baby 🥺

@marytodd9170

9 ай бұрын

She is disgusting! Shame on her for treating this child like this !

@maryr6237

6 ай бұрын

It's very disturbing. There needs to be laws protecting children from Internet moms trying to make a buck

Her husband was upset because her son was watching people eat... “obsessed with food” yes, he’s a growing child that happens

@MajesticMacaroon

3 жыл бұрын

Not just that but he came from an orphanage in China. He may not have had adequate food or food may not have been guaranteed--all of that will affect him and his outlook on food. It's so frustrating, they took zero time to truly educate themselves on not just raising an autistic child, but potentially a traumatized one as well.

@boated915

3 жыл бұрын

@@MajesticMacaroon exactly, and I feel like she potentially added to that trauma by making him think he was doing something bad for liking food 🥴 unlike a lot of parents, they were able to & made the choice to add an autistic child to their household, yet they got annoyed with him because he was acting like an autistic child?? it’s bonkers

@connorscorner443

3 жыл бұрын

All of this breaks my heart. Especially as an autistic person with a history of trauma and little access to food as a child.

@connorscorner443

3 жыл бұрын

I wish this kid didn't have to go through this

@boated915

3 жыл бұрын

@@connorscorner443 I agree, it’s so frustrating that they went in with zero knowledge on how to take care of him and abandoned him because of their own incompetence. It is at least reassuring to hear that he is doing well with his new family. And I hope you are doing well too, it’s no small feat to overcome past traumas 🤍

It's so sad. That poor kid had to get used to living with these people for a while, only to be given back like an unwanted animal. I really loathe family channels, period.

@gremlinfifty2308

3 жыл бұрын

Wanna start a crusade against them?

@SPACEBRAlN

3 жыл бұрын

@@gremlinfifty2308 count me in. They need the amount of privacy their kids get. (including the loneliness.)

@SupaSayinSkitch

3 жыл бұрын

Here here on the disappearance of family channels. Thankfully though the little guy seemed young enough that he'll hopefully still be able to bond and grow feeling loved without this incident affecting him too muvh hopefully. Just glad he's in a better home and environment, away from the camera and people try to make a buck off him.

@Velereonics

3 жыл бұрын

Sad for the kid but the much more powerful emotion for me is rage.

@pizzgirl

3 жыл бұрын

Yea I mean I’m adopted and like

I hate parents that "can't" deal with a child with disabilities. If you can't deal with it, don't have or adopt children

As someone with a little brother on the spectrum, I've noticed several parents who have children with autism that they don't understand that their "tantrums" are not that. They have so much more difficulty expressing how they feel. My brother didn't start speaking at all until age 6. Trying to exist without being able to communicate your feelings about things as a child isn't them throwing a tantrum. It's them being frustrated that they can't tell you what they want or how they feel. They get overstimulated really easily, especially stage 3. It's not easy to parent a child on the spectrum, but they need to understand that it's never going to be easy. But, they're still your kid.

@augustoof13

Жыл бұрын

I am considered to have mild autism, but I used to have meltdowns all the time and still do sometimes. It is horrible to experience, but my grandma always knew what to do as she worked on a sped bus. I couldn’t really communicate at all as a kid, sometimes I resorted to scratching myself and screaming because I didn’t know how to say I needed help. I still do the same thing, but quieter now because it’s still so hard to ask for help. I agree with you a lot.

Imagine being a kid and watching your parents give away your brother because he's "bad". Her bio kids will no doubt be emotionally damaged from this. Myka and James are in for a rude awakening when their kids group up and are able to fully grasp what they did to that boy.

@yuki97kira

3 жыл бұрын

Or fear/dislike them when they think they will be given away as well

@juliejunkyardx

3 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for those children when they inevitably have mental health problems that need to be addressed, as we all do at one time or another. The internalization of this experience HAS to result in fear of their parents finding out that they have problems, too.

@loganmiller6603

3 жыл бұрын

@@juliejunkyardx agreed, they were already set up to fail in the mental health department the minute their parents decided to roll cameras.

@celestialrainstorm5335

3 жыл бұрын

Big oof here. My dad threatened to give my brother away as a kid and I still remember begging him on my hands and knees not to. I think I was like eight or nine. Daddy dearest is an untreated bipolar though, so what does that tell ya

@user-hm6tm9yd4q

3 жыл бұрын

They may never actually come to their senses about that. I have a feeling their mum has a way to cover it up or explain that it was a good idea. If she teaches them that autistic people are "weird" or "broken", she might be able to stop from becoming aware of her stupidity.

*Myka:* "My pet Asian was defective. I have returned it."

@CCCyougottaC

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my God, that is good and exactly what she said.

@morgantaylor517

3 жыл бұрын

I need to speak with the manager, this small Asian Child isn't working properly, I demand a refund.

@stookie6684

3 жыл бұрын

Truth right there!

@blacswanb1273

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏

@erlindaalba1682

3 жыл бұрын

I totally read your comment in a Karen's voice. 🤣

I think that the way Myka always talked about the child as if he was a project and not a person is truly disturbing.

@GeorgiaJakes7

6 ай бұрын

She is definitely disturbing. These type of women sicken me.

All I’m saying is that, if he had been their biological son, they would’ve not gotten rid of him. So… was he really their son ?

@jazzycat8917

Жыл бұрын

Honestly, given how trash they were, if this were their biological son i have no doubt they would still have tried to get rid of him as much as they legally could (palming him off on grandparents, babysitters etc). They were simply not willing to raise a disabled child.

@aromaladyellie

Жыл бұрын

@@jazzycat8917 you’re right. They might have put the child in the system as well and “cried” about how they thought they were ready for a 5th child but “simply weren’t” and had to “rehome” the child.

"I want a child that seems hard to raise but isn't. I want there to be a narrative that this pairing just sorta happened and that I didn't go looking for the perfect child." What. A. Deranged. Narcissist.

@Adara007

3 жыл бұрын

Myka is narcissistic and she therefore she sees others as objects who she uses to further her own desires. She definitely uses her children as props. The fact she was actually saying Huxley "is not returnable" means she was definitely already thinking about not having him for long. For any mother to talk about how her child "is not returnable" is disturbing. She wanted Huxley because she thought he was terminally ill and she would receive a lot of sympathy, attention and validation not to mention donations if she was seen as a mother dealing with a child from China who she had adopted and was dying. Then she most likely thought after a short period after he passed she could adopt another child and go through more attention. When she learned Huxley wasn't terminally ill but autistic she didn't want to deal with his needs. We can see this with the fact she didn't bother to learn Chinese and instead made him sign which was easier for him but also meant only herself and her husband plus a few special needs teachers could understand his attempts to communicate and this made it easier for her to abuse him, including by disregarding his needs, and for others including other adults to not know what she was doing or what he wanted and needed. The duct tape on his hand is another sign of her abusive nature and not caring about his needs and she and her husband gave preferential treatment to their biological children. Once she was pregnant again and shortly after giving birth she decided she didn't want to deal with Huxley any longer so she dumped him like an unwanted animal. She's narcissistic and her husband's an enabler and both should be off social media.

@Kellystella97

3 жыл бұрын

Insane how people accept this

@darlingdannie

2 жыл бұрын

@@Adara007 Nailed it 💯

@PaddyMcMe

2 жыл бұрын

+Tempest Tossed What a fucking excellent comment. Absolutely true.

@Hollyfae

2 жыл бұрын

100%

Im fully convinced she would never had adopted the kid if it wasn't for her channel.

@angelikalaser7778

3 жыл бұрын

They did not legally adopt him in the USA apparently. Thats why they could "rehome" him without CPS being involved

@nancyjay790

3 жыл бұрын

Several people have theorised that the Stauffers really examined the KZread algorithms, and that may have contributed to choosing a foreign child with a marked disability, as they saw it.

@firsttimeisawjupiter1031

3 жыл бұрын

A good prop

@suyashwaghmare3911

3 жыл бұрын

@@nancyjay790 ofc yt now a days has become more of a investment than hobby turned profession people take topic study for months then bring big investment to blow.

@bellaferelli751

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. The kid was a show pony-no doubt.

i’m adopted as well and when my mom adopted me, she met a woman who also eventually sent back the child she adopted (because she managed to fall pregnant and she found herself loving her biological child more.) being adopted comes with a lot of emotional turmoil that, unless you’re adopted too, not a single person understands. the way these sort of people just give back a child and possess such a severe lack of understanding of the emotional impact they’ve just inflicted on a tiny person by doing this, on top of the existing emotional and developmental trauma, horrifies me to my core.

@mackenziemoore7503

7 ай бұрын

What angers me most is that she was adamantly told about the potential difficulty she may have raising him, but totally ignored it and now he is paying the price.

It’s not easy raising an autistic child. My daughter was diagnosed two years ago. It is hard. You never know what will set off a “tantrum”. Something as simple as a crow can literally ruin her day. It’s harder on us because my husband is military and deploys a lot. Our family is 3,000 miles away so I don’t have help. Biological or adopted that child is yours, she said repeatedly that he is her son. You don’t abandon a child because it’s hard. You take a deep breath and keep going. If I can raise an autistic child by myself they could have done it. This was them being selfish and not wanting to “deal” with the child.

It's not just the mom that abandoned that innocent baby boy. The dad is equally to blame!

@hibeena5893

3 жыл бұрын

@James the title?

@LordAini

3 жыл бұрын

He was almost exclusively featured on her channel, not his, so it makes sense that the title focuses on her. But 100% both their fault without saying

@itsmeagain3078

3 жыл бұрын

Yet his channel on You Tube has continued to thrive.

@yoonglebellz

3 жыл бұрын

exactly. I get why myka gets the most hate in this situation since she is the owner and "host" of the channels dedicated to the family and responded to the uproar by herself on some platforms (instagram I think). but it's not fair to out just myka's name in titles and threads when james had just as much responsibility as a parent off screen or not.

@-aquamarine-324

3 жыл бұрын

@@yoonglebellz it’s cause ppl usually put more responsibility on women than they do men

I am an autistic girl and use my channel to advocate for autism understanding and accommodations. It is VERY typical for an autistic child to seem developmentally on track as an infant/young toddler and to have their developmental delays show later on. If someone is warning you that your child is autistic, you need to begin preparing for that. It WILL show at some point or another, even if it is later (mine became clearest during puberty). You really need to do your research. Love is fantastic but not enough to care for an autistic child- it takes work and practice and patience. Stauffer could have done more to prepare.

@Ramsey276one

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for telling us. WE NEED TO LISTEN TO REASON AND EXPERT VOICES, NOT PRETTY PEOPLE SAYING SWEET NOTHINGS!

@HannahTuttle

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ramsey276one absolutely. While a little bit of inspiration goes a long way, MOST important is learning how to take care of real needs

@pyxeeful

3 жыл бұрын

It's even worse when you consider that Myka was a registered nurse. She has made claims of even working as a pediatric oncology nurse. She doesn't even have the microscopic excuse of ignorance.

@HannahTuttle

3 жыл бұрын

@@pyxeeful for sure. When you’re taking on the responsibility of having a young child with autism you sign up for all the hardships that brings

@emilysyoutubechannel2259

3 жыл бұрын

Subbed. As someone who hit puberty at 21 and developed autism around then... I can relate

As an adoptee and a person with a disability I can agree with this creator my mom knew what she was getting into and gave me all the treatment and more importantly love I needed to grow into the man I am today to quote my mom on why she adopted me "I just say two great kids and wanted them. In short my mom adopted me and my sister out of love not out of any gain for herself and I will always be grateful for that.

As an autistic, this case really got to me. It makes me angry how Myka was talking about H. having tantrums to "get his way" with eating. The kid was from an orphanage! And he probably didn't have the ability yet to see things in a timeframe! So for him, eating is now or never - who knows if and when you'll get your next meal. And how she says "are you over yourself?!"... Infuriating.

@nicolasnamed

3 жыл бұрын

yeah, it really irritated me too. I'm studying developmental psychology right now and regardless of autism it'd be reasonable for a child to still operate based on their former environment with likely no secure attachments. So it becomes extra heartbreaking knowing that H. probably understands her and the situation even less than a young child at that age, and that it's NORMAL for children at that age to throw tantrums. They're not doing it to be "disobedient", it's because they're still learning how human interaction works.

@camelopardalis84

3 жыл бұрын

Also, tantrums and meltdowns are not the same. And you can have a meltdown "over nothing". Such a meltdown is still a meltdown.

@WobblesandBean

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, she's an objectìveIy horribIe person.

@camelopardalis84

3 жыл бұрын

@ebony b Not sure if you're correcting me. If yes, what did I say that was wrong?

@turner15

3 жыл бұрын

@Toeps Even if a child doesn’t have developmental problems I still hate this kind of verbal interaction between adult and child. As a kid adults that talked like “are you over yourself” whenever I lightly disagreed with them or was legitimately upset made me feel like less shit. Like why is your method for de-esculating a situation basically egging the child on with something you have to know could make them be more upset???

I can’t wait for the generation of vlog children that disown their parents for being exploited and never really seeing any of that money.

@ameliac2540

3 жыл бұрын

itll happen soon. kids are already getting pissed about photos their parents posted when they were too young to understand. family channels wont be around for much longer i suspect

@Romanticoutlaw

3 жыл бұрын

@Egg T are you high or just a bot? You're in almost all of these comments and I can't make sense of what you mean in any of them

@kaykutcher2103

3 жыл бұрын

If it happened with Jackie Coogan during the silent film era then it'll happen with this as well.

@dawnsherratt2317

3 жыл бұрын

@@Romanticoutlaw bot!

@rebeccadelbridge2998

3 жыл бұрын

Agree

Wait. If she thought the boy had a brain tumour does that possibly change the outlook? If you thought the child was going to die soon and you would get to play the sympathetic mother for a while and then get rid of him that could explain why the timespan they could tolerate the boy was limited.

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE: I'm not adopted and my mother didn't follow through with her threats of giving me up for adoption - However I experienced a family situation I would consider similar to this because my mother was completely overwhelmed with me but was still trying to uphold the perfect image of the family even tho so many told her to stop abusing me. I now 14 years later was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder which (for me) includes the fear of abandonment, trust issues and selfhatred. I struggle with this everyday. Now I'm telling you all this because this kind of abuse - emotional neglect, getting abandoned by your own parents, bullying and any other kind of verbal abuse - is happening right before our very eyes There will be a small asian boy suffering from severe mental health disorders maybe for the rest of his life because of these peoples actions. They DECIDED to get a child. Adopted or not it is their responsibility to take care of their need and they've failed terribly.

@niyah_uwu

Жыл бұрын

I am actually in a kinda similar situation! I was diagnosed with BPD when I was 19 and actually got re-evaluated like five years later. Turns out, I don't have BPD and I got misdiagnosed. Through cognitive behaviour therapy I got better and that showed that my BPD symptoms were just basically 15 trauma responses in a trench coat. I do have quite some symptoms still, but nothing that could be attributed to one single disorder and so I can't be diagnosed, although I do show symptoms from BPD, C-PTSD, ASD, ADHD, possibly even OCD and/or OCPD - just not enough for any single one to get diagnosed with anything. I can't of course say that that's exactly what you are dealing with, but a lot of people don't know that diagnosis can change like that. So I just wanted to throw my two cents into the mix, because your story sounds related to what I dealt with.

@getschwifty5271

6 ай бұрын

​@@niyah_uwu i was just about to comment that diagnosing a teen or child with BPD is awful. It's most likely their response to living in a dysfunctional home or struggling with trauma.

@niyah_uwu

6 ай бұрын

@@getschwifty5271 funny that you comment on this now... I got new tests done, turns out I DO have BPD. As well as C-PTSD and ADHD 🥲 so yeah. I wasn't 100% wrong in my comment, but also not right 🤣

Someone give the first doctor a raise for calling it

@ShootBob79

3 жыл бұрын

“Yo this brain scan looks troubling, this’ll be difficult to deal with” “Nahhhh lol it’ll be fine” ...it would not, in fact, be fine

@cyberpilate

3 жыл бұрын

The first doctor was honest and she would not listen. It's not so much 'calling it' but just saying 'hey, it's raining outside, take an umbrella'.

@veggiestraws2081

3 жыл бұрын

@@cyberpilate meteorologist 1: hey it’s gonna rain, bring an umbrella myka: i don’t want to bring an umbrella ☹️☹️ i’m going to go to another meteorologist. meteorologist 2: yes it will probably rain, but it’s sunny right now! you don’t have to bring an umbrella. myka: yay! an opinion that matches what i want! i’m taking this opinion and trusting you 100%! myka when it rains: no one told me it was gonna rain 😢😢

@lux7952

3 жыл бұрын

@@cyberpilate of course! I completely agree it probably took a ton of evaluation, they even told her she would probably end up surrending him and they were right. This was an educated 'i told you so'

@thepovdweller

3 жыл бұрын

They deadass went doctor shopping huh

I genuinely forgot I'm in this video until watching it

@userequaltoNull

3 жыл бұрын

Heeho dumby

@bigmikk63

3 жыл бұрын

I would want to forget being in TRO’s basement too.

@TimeSpy415

3 жыл бұрын

Imagine being weaker then the editors smh

@captaincloudsurfer9048

3 жыл бұрын

Hello mr BOX

@kimtsi

3 жыл бұрын

Is this the taco bell complaint section?hello??

As someone who’s autistic and moved as a child I can tell that it’s super stressful. I don’t think neuro-typical people realize how many little things stress an autistic child or adult out. For me I didn’t even know we were moving out of the only home I had ever known for all of my 8 years until my mom called me while I was at my bio dads to let me know she had sold the house and started moving out. I never got to say goodbye to my home, my friends, my school, or my town and that alone upset me. I hate when people go through my things so the fact that my room was being shoved into boxes and I had no idea what was being thrown out really upset me. I ended up losing all of my care bares which were my first ever hyper-fixation. When I started at a new school I experienced bulling for the first time in my life which upset me even more and resulted in me getting my first set of bad grades which lead to me being grounded for the first time. Those bad grades and groundings would continue for the rest of elementary and all of middle school. It only stopped when I started online high school and had full control over my education without the distraction of bulling. From my perspective my entire world had been flipped upside down and I was being punished for struggling to get back up and adapt.

what rlly upsets me is that james is also a parent, but myka gets all the backlash. i understand that she’s the face of the family (channel) and so obviously most eyes r going to swing her way, but i still think james is just as guilty a party.

"ReSpECt OuR PrIVaCy" > Familly blogger exploiting her children for money

@Annasea666

3 жыл бұрын

My eyes rolled out of my head

@matthewdoherty803

3 жыл бұрын

Yea the retiteion time must be alot

@Kellystella97

3 жыл бұрын

Those kind of peoples that bitch about their business and privacy yet have noooo respect values or respect for their kids

@bigbiemacaw

3 жыл бұрын

Her child my foot, her child till the copper rule came out on KZread making it harder to monetize the chuld..but arill had the work of raising said child,...if someone labels a child with a crazy name for me the red flags go up...

@penskepc2374

3 жыл бұрын

That shits hilarious! Public life comes with public opinion and possible berating. Everything has its downsides.

Can we say ''The family who gave away THEIR son''. He's JUST as bad as she is.

@keganbancroft3617

3 жыл бұрын

if not worse

@charlotted4642

3 жыл бұрын

i think the reason people are solely blaming her is the combination of her family clogging channel and sexism

@spiritbx1337

3 жыл бұрын

I doubt having a billion kids was the guy's idea... I mean, he did give in, so he IS responsible, but she is most likely the instigator here.

@julia-ce3ps

3 жыл бұрын

@@spiritbx1337 he’s still at fault

@yeonniegiri

3 жыл бұрын

He is still at fault yes but he isn't the one who has the family channel nor told people to donate to crowdfund adopting their child nor asked everyone to pressure him into adopting. Yes he is shitty but she is 100% deserves the amount of criticism not due to sexism

I agree with your analysis, my only problem is that it seems like the “fathers” in these situations are always given a free pass. He made the same terrible decisions that she did, and he is just as responsible for abandoning this kid and opening him up to even more difficulties and abandonment issues growing up. Both parents are responsible for this disaster.

15:25 she touches her face to check if the tears have come out yet, and then gets frustrated with herself for fake crying badly.

1. Her referreing to him as "nurse said there's nothing _wrong_ with him" and "he walks and talks like a _normal_ child" was a HUGE red flag. 2. Repeatedly saying "Are you done?" and "Are you over yourself??" at an overstimulated, overwhelmed autistic child is abusive. 3. All she ever cared about was self-aggrandizing and sainting herself, the "what disability is easier than it looks" post gave it away. 4. Her husband, though less insufferable because not on the soapbox, is disgusting and clearly resented the boy from early on.

@larissabrglum3856

3 жыл бұрын

I'm inclined to believe that James had a lot to do with the decision to adopt H because he was always in charge of the algorithm analysis aspect of the channel. Myka is not smart and she's especially bad at math.

@AarjavSinghKanyal

3 жыл бұрын

The nurse would refer to him as "normal" because of his condition

@Em_Elizabeth

3 жыл бұрын

What parent doesn't say things like "are you done" "are you over yourself?" "Be quiet before I make you be quiet" to their kid though? That's every exhausted parent. I don't like how she gave up on the boy, that I know is wrong but most of the way she raised him looks...common.

@AarjavSinghKanyal

3 жыл бұрын

@@Em_Elizabeth yeah I mean she gave up. That's the main issue here

@alchemysaga3745

3 жыл бұрын

She probably wouldn't have been so 'exhausted' if she didn't make her money by using her children via recording them and posting **their** private lives for strangers to see and judge. Or, you know, had gotten him **any** of the assistance that people literally begged them to get? Giving him up would have been one thing if they hadn't literally been exploiting him, and had instead done it because they didn't understand what they were signing on for and thought that it would be easy.

Family bloggers shouldn’t exist. The children can’t consent to Being filmed and when they grow up mostly likely they won’t like what they see.

@ihatecommunism9958

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, your point makes no sense, lol..Like it or not, parents have the right to consent on their behalf until they're legally an adult.

@moralkombat66

3 жыл бұрын

@@ihatecommunism9958 that doesn't mean the child consented, tf?also, why would you name yourself and dedicate so much energy on something you hate?

@TheKatera4a

3 жыл бұрын

@@ihatecommunism9958 Bullshit. Maybe they can kinda order me around since they feed me and give me a roof over the head, but going as far as deciding for me is kinda shitty. Legally, they have 100% the right. Morally tho, that shit isn't about to go down their way.

@ihatecommunism9958

3 жыл бұрын

@@moralkombat66 It dooesnt really matter if the child consented. At that age, the parent holds power of attorney and can consent on their behalf. And Communism killed we over 100 million people. What, are you Stalin lover?

@tinywalnut6337

3 жыл бұрын

I felt this way about home movies. Put that shit on the internet and you can write me out of your will.

When they adopted him, he became as much their child as their other kids. To give him away like an object is so traumatic and evil, if I were her other kids I'd be so scared to even have them as parents... if I did something wrong, would they literally give me away like they did my sibling? Their other kids are not old enough to understand their parents only adopted him for clout online and to get subs, so it had to be really confusing for them

As someone who has studied child psychology and worked with special needs children, I understand the frustration and struggle. It is not easy and will require most if not all of your time to create the right environment for that child. Sometimes, it's not easy to admit that you are not equipped to help the child. That being said, I feel very uneasy with their story. It felt more of them trying to capitalize on their child having autism. When they realized it was too much, they just gave the child away. Again, I don't really blame them for acknowledging that they are not equipped. It's like what happened on the 90s when many parents in the US adopted Romanian orphans only to send them back because they couldnt handle the trauma that affected the children

@iwakeupandboomimarat

10 ай бұрын

honestly i agree sm about the romanian orphans comparison, i studied it in school (though mainly from the angle of how the kids formed attachments to their adoptive parents) and it was just heartbreaking :(

The fact that she keeps calling him ‘our son’, even after she gave him away. The second you started treating him like a burden was the second he stopped being your son. Sending him away just confirmed it.

@Thabeezkneez1350

3 жыл бұрын

This is how dictators are made

@victoriawhite9798

3 жыл бұрын

Veeery true. FFS, I was less annoyed with my cat when he woke me up 2-6 times every night because he kept changing his mind about where he wanted to sleep. It just shows that Myka never really treated Huxley like a family member, or someone important.

@devon1777

3 жыл бұрын

she doesn’t actually see that little boy as her son. she’s just used to telling everyone that to make herself look good. you don’t “return” your son.

@Em_Elizabeth

3 жыл бұрын

Good point, but I have to disagree on one thing - that considering a child a burden makes him not one's child. That would virtually disown like ninety percent of children. It's wrong to present a child as such but all parents are thinking it.

@victoriawhite9798

3 жыл бұрын

@@Em_Elizabeth That's true to an extent but you have to note that OP said "treating your child like a burden" not thinking anything along the lines of how bothersome a child can be. Groaning about your child when they're being annoying is one thing, treating them like dirt because you're annoyed is another.

“Family vlogging” is child exploitation rebranded. Change my mind.

@blue1584

3 жыл бұрын

I agree

@personismaybe0610

3 жыл бұрын

Well that’s just common knowledge

@bawpwarthegreen6065

3 жыл бұрын

it is... impossible to change that. them's the facts.

@s_spiritstar

3 жыл бұрын

Not gonna change your mind

@beybladelover2171

3 жыл бұрын

It isn’t if kids are not involved that would make it better

I honestly found out later in life that I'm autistic and I remember how'd I'd have meltdowns when I was younger like 10 or so and it wasn't something I chose to do it was overwhelming and I couldn't release emotions in a nerotypical way. So it's sad to see this kid be treated like he's having a tantrum rather than the parents being more caring giving the child a safe and stable environment for those moments where they don't record and monetize his meltdowns.

the "are you done?" and "are you over yourself?" actually almost made me throw my laptop against a wall

"We dont throw fits to get our way." That is literally a major character trait of 2 year olds.

@Lukkaboc

2 жыл бұрын

Not just 2 year olds.....lol

@geno9456

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, don’t matter what medical issues they have. 2 yr olds throw fits, you’d think they know that considering that they have biological kids of their own. And more then one at that

@theresalally1620

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@sandygrogg1203

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my, yes.. My five grandsons are grown now…but I remember….

@nunyabiz6925

2 жыл бұрын

Totally… she reminds of the yoga moms at my kids school.

Can we all just agree that parents that force their kids to live in front of a camera are bad parents? It never seems to end well for the kids.

@marisilva3883

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah and usually this family’s has so many kids !! It looks like they are having kids to make videos about it !!

@mdstanton1813

3 жыл бұрын

YES. KZread allow it because there is money to be made since companies will jump on the band wagon and vapid idiots will watch as family channels are both relatable and aspirational. I think they are sick. Removing your child's privacy, autonomy and then immortalizing your efforts... the arrogance and disregard for your child wellbeing that these people must have...

@fockingreat1125

3 жыл бұрын

It's already damaging to make your own life into content, let alone a child/children who never even asked for that

@travisdelee8647

3 жыл бұрын

Kinda like daddyofive. It was all about the money, and getting a big ass house that they only had for like a year. Then they lost the kids.

@yukisuperstylish

3 жыл бұрын

Yes and their viewers are the one to blame too. Clowns love attention

my son has autism and though i do engage in social media, he had made it very clear he doesn't like cameras and phones (they look like eyes) and literally nobody, even family knows i had him til he was 4 when he was ready to socialize. id never dream of choosing social media over his development. its hard but worth the sacrifice when i see him overcome something that made him upset like wanting a photo with Santa. i do have photos and vids of him when he isnt looking but they are personal videos not for the internet. i call them mommy moments so i can remember how strong he is

As someone who has gone deep down the adoption path, without actually pulling the trigger, I can confidently say there are two primary questions you need to answer before adopting: 1. Is the adoptee a good fit for your existing family? As in are you in a position to absorb another human financially, and will the existing family members be negatively impacted by the addition? 2. Is you family a good fit for the adoptee? As in if the child has special needs, is your situation a good fit (e.g. the child is autistic and needs a calm environment, and your house is chaotic)? If the answer is no to either question it needs to be a hard stop. I don't think these folks fully considered these questions before bringing another person into their family and this is why it played out the way it did.

This 2 year old boy had food insecurities and her reaction was “gross, I don’t like that he looks at my husband when he’s eating” instead of being sympathetic.. says a lot about this couple. How disgusting.

@lemoncardboard3270

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah and also it’s strange that she cares so much?? Like I hate being watched while I eat but… like… he’s a child? Even though I’m super sensitive to being looked at any child is totally fine because I understand that they (whether they have autism or not) just tend not to gather social things as much as older people do and may not understand that looking at people while they eat isn’t always comfortable? Doesn’t it just seem weird? That poor kid… as awful as it is that they returned him it’s probably the smartest thing they’ve ever done as parents… im a teenager with no maternal instincts or children or like a great home life and *I* know this stuff… their ignorance is not only embarrassing but absolutely vile and disgusting.

@tallyp.7643

Жыл бұрын

@@lemoncardboard3270 Not to mention, children learn through observation. When they're that young, they engage in looking and mimicking. They're trying to learn the only way they really can. I don't like being watched either, but for someone that young, I'm more than willing to participate in a healthy learning opportunity. Heaven knows proper manners are going out the window at an alarming rate as it is. Teaching a kiddo how to eat and behave at the table is always a good idea.

@scream_kinh614

Жыл бұрын

Its truly sad. You could tell from rhe very beginning that she thought of him differently than she did of her biological children. She treated him like a nuisance rather than a child, and I feel for him and how he'll progress in life with his experience with her and her family. I hope he's doing well and finally being treated like the growing child he is rather than a tumor on her thigh.

@lawjef

Жыл бұрын

She clearly didn't believe or practice what she said online. She was saying whatever it took to get fame. If that meant positive parenting, sure she will say that ad nauseum if it makes her popular. Her only goal was attention. For her. Only for her

@Thomas.3698

Жыл бұрын

It's obvious this lady didn't love her adopted child from the tone of her voice. Scary to me. What seems like common sense about any two year old, she's totally missing. Who raised her other kids?

I had a child at my daycare that was adopted from China. When the adoptive parents found out she was deaf and had emotional problems they gave her up. Praise God another couple who had a deaf son and were deaf teachers adopted her. They came to our daycare and taught us sign language so we could talk to her. They were a blessing for her.

@calliusgentius

2 жыл бұрын

they probably werent prepared to handle something that servere. Or maybe they thought it was like getting a dog i dunno

@GloomGaiGar

2 жыл бұрын

why do people like taking china's unwanted kids?

@fallenoak4560

2 жыл бұрын

@@GloomGaiGar They have rampant child trafficking or child abductions all around the country. It’s so notorious as their organ harvesting.

@yoshita4140

2 жыл бұрын

@@GloomGaiGar adopting from america is a lot harder, much more expensive, and the rules are very stringent. adopting from overseas is significantly easier

@ReginaApple007

2 жыл бұрын

Omg I'm crying

As an adopted child who has been abandoned by their adoptive dad this is absolutely horrible and this boy deserved a lot more than he got from them

"Are you done?" that's such a horrible response to a child's meltdown. How does that help him learn how to regulate his emotions? It doesn't. It just shows him that you're not going to help.

It's the fact that they chose to have a baby while their severely autistic child was struggling that is telling about how money/fame hungry they were. Responsible parents delay having another child or do not have more children in the interest of their already born children all the time. You can't always have your way, and sometimes you have to take care of what you already have first. But a 'family channel' like theirs doesn't bring in the clicks unless there's a new cute baby every few years...

@Redacted937

3 жыл бұрын

Yup yup yup 💯💯💯

@calamitynatalie8590

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! My husband and I have 2 children, our youngest is autistic. So we decided to not have anymore because both of our girls are going to need us to be more physically and emotionally available. If we have more kids we will have to divide that again...and for what? Cos we wanted more and more children? No sir! I think if we had more children then our eldest who is neurotypical would of potentially had her needs neglected because our daughter with asd requires a lot and so do babies! The behaviour of the Stauffers is narcissistic and neglectful! Disgraceful!

@AmazingAutist

3 жыл бұрын

I agree in most cases, but for some families they have religious Hang-Ups about that. I don't understand it, but accidents happen and they don't believe in abortion and stuff.

@Maiju86

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@frogbutts3628

3 жыл бұрын

You see, these kind of people are like Tiger King. Kittens make money, but once they get less cute, it's time to make room for more kittens.

Family vloggers shouldn’t be monetized. Period.

@Yomasi

3 жыл бұрын

@Egg T basically

@rebeccadelbridge2998

3 жыл бұрын

Agree! Nor should they even be allowed. It is child exploitation. Children are not able to give consent to their private lives being broadcasted. No different from sexual activity.

@nocturnalmayhem0

3 жыл бұрын

agree its honestly pathetic but when they fall from grace i cant help but lmao at them

@JahlenJohnson11

3 жыл бұрын

@@rebeccadelbridge2998 I think it depends entirely on the family and situation. Some vloggers don’t show their kids often but the content is geared towards family life. I as a mother have the right to show my son if I choose to. I think I have 2 videos that he is in but that’s my right to do. Censorship in this country is getting worse and worse. I do agree however myka should lose monetization.

Wow, they are horrible parents. Also, EVERY Pediatrician would tell you that you feed a hungry baby. He was far too young to put on a meal time. You feed babies when they’re hungry. You don’t punish them for crying for food. They should have all of their children taken away.

They're called the terrible twos for a reason. And it lasts a couple years. They never gave him a chance to fully be part of the family. I hope he's happy and thriving.

Let's not forget the husband is just as shitty yet his channels seem to have come out of this unscathed - he deserves just as much heat

@angelikalaser7778

3 жыл бұрын

He buys subscribers and they made a LLC for his channel so H. can't sue them. They are horrible through and through. Their other kids needs to be rehomed asap

@helloalexandraa

3 жыл бұрын

@@angelikalaser7778 what the fuck... that’s disgusting. The fact that H possibly suing them has already crossed their minds just goes to show they know they fucked up.

@chomosuke0720

3 жыл бұрын

@@angelikalaser7778 who's H?

@ABD-42

3 жыл бұрын

@@chomosuke0720 I think they're referring to the adopted son or the extended people now supporting him?

@DoctorTauri

3 жыл бұрын

Yea he let this all happen cause he’s too beta to tell her this stunt was clearly not gonna work

I was watching this and my mom overheard the part at the end where Myka is doing the interview where she said the kid they adopted was first diagnosed with a tumor, which she thought she could handle as a cancer nurse, but when he was diagnosed with autism that meant he might never move out. My mom said “so she thought he wasn’t gonna live very long when they first adopted him and wanted sympathy views?” 🛎🛎🛎🛎

@Taybrian1

3 жыл бұрын

That's exactly what I thought too.

@WobblesandBean

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, pretty much. "He's Chinese AND dying? Oh man, the algorithm is gonna LOVE US"

@UnluckyOctopus

3 жыл бұрын

Your Mother is SPOT on.

@clairerobinson4142

3 жыл бұрын

That’s spot on what I thought !

@MokaReligieuse

3 жыл бұрын

I never thought about that.. If this is true it's horrible..

First to answer your question: no way would they have adopted if they didn’t run a family channel. They wanted the clout & the profit and figured they could roll with it and be fine. Second, keep in mind that in China, kids that young that are up for adoption are mostly little girls. The fact that they were initially told the kid had a benign tumor and later found out the poor kid was cognitively impaired obviously shows that they didn’t just get “lucky” enough to adopt a boy. The people who handed him over absolutely KNEW the kid had a serious issue and chose to hide it so he’d be more easily adopted. After all there wouldn’t be legal repercussions for it. In the end, the child suffers. I hope he’s thriving in his new family.

“we’re not gonna trade him in” IM SORRY?? “TRADE HIM IN”?? She’s acting like that poor child is a new iphone 😭

As an adopted child, this story is absolutely horrifying. I can’t believe they actually did that.

@crazyphan18

3 жыл бұрын

I too have been adopted, not only that, I have been “returned”! A foster family I was in before my forever family came into the picture, found some issue with me I have never been able to understand felt it was best to returned me to the orphanage center. You don’t forget that. Ever. The nightmare of looking out the family car window one night and seeing the place you thought you had escaped from forever. Haunts me to this day. And mine was a private affair. Imagine all that but set to a world wide platform. Oh I hope this dear child is somewhere he is unconditionally loved and treasured and never ever shown this or any of her videos.

@ruth540

3 жыл бұрын

I was a foster child myself so I understand the feeling of "this is my home & family now" and also the feeling of "why did they get rid of me? What's wrong with me? Did I do something wrong? Please don't leave me." You get used to it after you get passed around multiple homes and kicked out before 18 (you'd be surprised how often that happens). I can't imagine how it feels to know you were adopted tho. Being a foster kid, you always have the knowledge in the back of your head that "I could be tossed at anytime" or being threatened to be tossed away again by the foster parents own mouths. You think that being adopted would be a forever thing, but I guess not. 😰💔

@kiarapinto8884

3 жыл бұрын

@@crazyphan18 he’s in a new home now and the police have confirmed that there are no signs of abuse and he’s completely safe and happy and everything is legal. He’s even calling his new adoptive mother ‘momma’

@ZenitsuKunn

3 жыл бұрын

@@kiarapinto8884 Source?

@crazyphan18

3 жыл бұрын

@@kiarapinto8884 there are no PHYSICAL signs of abuse. Funny thing about abuse and ptsd, to survive you push that shit down and it goes dormant until something unlocks it. I have been in therapy since I was taken away from biological family at the age 8, but I got progressively worse as I got older, it’s only in my late 20’s have I have to terms with what happened to me and who I am because of it.

I was an adopted kid who initially bounced around from home to home. Even when I finally ended up with a loving, permanent family, that fear of abandonment never went away and still follows me as an adult. Regardless of how loving his new family is, the emotional damage from re-homing cannot be so easily undone. Edit: Of course staying with an emotionally abusive family would be much worse for Huxley. I just wanted to let everyone know that you can’t fix everything by rehoming a child. Please do not adopt unless you are 100% prepared.

@liyans1

3 жыл бұрын

I’d like to give you a virtual hug 🤗 you sound good from the inside out despite everything that happened that you couldn’t control, and that’s true testament to who you really are✨

@allywolf9182

3 жыл бұрын

I understand more than you know on that experience.... sending you love

@DroseraNara

3 жыл бұрын

As a fellow dr icon, know my sympaties are with you. My mom didn't 'abandon' us legally, but she did in other ways.

@stickykeys1594

3 жыл бұрын

_ifeltthat_

@Ulove619

3 жыл бұрын

You are past right abt this. We offsprings need stability. We need our parents. Yes abandonment is a life long horrible sad feeling that sticks with us forever!! Hugs from 1 to another.

Lets be honest, if it was a biological child that was diagnosed with the same condition, they wouldn't have given them up for adoption...period. And the only reason they were staying private, was because they didn't want to admit what they did to this child.

You should never judge someone named abercorne, but you should judge their parents.

I hate family channels

@johnthebarbarian

3 жыл бұрын

They just seem so.... plastic... to me, man.

@Yqgs

3 жыл бұрын

The ace family is worse then them

@sleepfgc

3 жыл бұрын

I family hate channels

@magnificloud

3 жыл бұрын

@@Yqgs fr, it baffles me that people still support them

@jayger1018

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnthebarbarian i agree

As an adopted child from China, when I found out about this, I was shocked and appalled. Both myself and my sibling are adopted, and yes, of course we've had our own "challenges" growing up, but I know my parents did their research, were responsible, and knew what they were getting into before they decided to adopt, and be that "hero of someone else" with the whole idea of saving someone from a bad situation. They never gave up, and were prepared to take on the good, the bad and the ugly that did come with it. I have some adopted friends who have trust issues from bouncing around from orphanage to foster home to foster home, and I am absolutely disgusted at the fact that this family just got rid of him, that they gave up on him, and that they could further traumatize a CHILD.

@Tatertottt

3 жыл бұрын

The amount of people that treat children like pets or property is insane and further destroys my faith in humans

@WickerMan73

3 жыл бұрын

Your parents adopted you to be loved n cared for, not for views n sponsors.

@Cinko420

3 жыл бұрын

Totallyahooman I agree with all that you said (though I wasn't adopted). It's similar to all the stories where Karens and Darrells treat workers like personal servants. Only difference: kids can't get out of the situation (dependants) or get revenge (bossy people). I feel so, so sorry for that kid. I sincerely hope that he gets adopted fast and forgets that his parents existed to have a better life in the future. As for the parents, they'll get what's coming to them. Getting thrown from the Internet is only the beginning, Karma will get them eventually.

@artwithlaur

3 жыл бұрын

Adopted fam. I'm adopted from russia. I was a terrible child I was always screaming and crying. I had really bad tantrums up till I was 11 and got therapy and I think that's when I cooled down. But my parents never gave up even though they now have an epileptic and no good childhood memories of me. Because I was their kid, not biologically. But they did so much to get me they wouldn't just drop me. This family disgust me

@kallamarsspouse

2 жыл бұрын

@Totallyahooman Animals aren't property either? How about don't treat living creatures as property.

Thanks for blurring out the child's face and giving him the respect his parents couldnt! :D

Family KZread channels make me nostalgic for the good old days. Not of my childhood, but when you could line people up and shoot at them.

With how much she said stuff like "we would never give him up" and "we adopted a little guy from china -- definitely not a failure!" it's like..... Who's she trying to convince?

@krispy857

3 жыл бұрын

Funny that when asked about her biggest failure, she immediately thinks of her adopted son, regardless of her trying to label it as a “challenge.” She sickens me.

@EmeraldAshesAudio

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! So many "the lady doth protest too much" moments in the family's clips.

@EmeraldAshesAudio

3 жыл бұрын

@@krispy857 It cracks me up that she was asked about a failure, and instead, she talked about a challenging situation that painted her in a saintly light.

@krispy857

3 жыл бұрын

@@EmeraldAshesAudio yes! At least that’s what she THINKS it sounds like to us, but as an obvious narcissist would do, is to try to say things & act in ways that she thinks might be the way someone in her position WOULD act. But many narcissist who are as obvious as she, will tend to give themselves away. She might say stuff that she claims is not her motive to do different things, when in fact it was exactly for that purpose she’s saying it wasn’t. Or, like in this instance, when asked about a failure, adoption being her response speaks volumes on what’s really going through her mind at that time. Narcissists especially, do not like to dwell on failure or even the thought that they might be one, so they will not look at anything in their life that way, therefore they never learn from their mistakes. They push blame of any type of failure onto others in their life, & they take absolutely no responsibility for their own actions...ever. She HAS admitted responsibility a couple of times pertaining to this incident, but if you hear or read when she takes that responsibility, right before &/or after she accepts it, there was mention of blame elsewhere. Whether it be on the adoption agency, the medical professionals, the other children or even the child himself. Narcissists also tend to be impulsive, even at times in life when, given the circumstances, it’s expected of them by others to act in a completely opposite way. She has major issues & the only ones suffering are the children. Unfortunately, only time will tell on how much they really endured through all of this.

@AnnClaire

3 жыл бұрын

yup. narcissists do this apparently where they tell you the truth about what they're really doing really early on. There's another channel where a psychologist breaks down her behavior and Myka does this a LOT. She is already having doubts and thinks that a "normal good person" would just push all those doubts aside and do it anyway, but that's actually not what "normal good people" do.

She was okay with it being a brain tumor or cancer because that came with increased odds that he might die. That would have been great for views AND would have made sure he wasn't around too long. Did you hear her? "That might mean he lives with me forever." said with disgust. She never planned to keep him.

@tankbeast8480

3 жыл бұрын

Yikes you are hella honest

@blueshell292

3 жыл бұрын

@@tankbeast8480 I mean, that IS how folks like her think, ain’t nothing to be sugarcoated there

@texasktea

3 жыл бұрын

They meant like he would never be able to care for himself. Even into adulthood

@LegendD112

3 жыл бұрын

This

@faithbarcelo4795

3 жыл бұрын

That interview was illuminating, nauseating and shows how calculated she is. She has nursing training and wanted to have a kid who would die so she'd be the white saviour who "gave him a good few years out of the kindness of her heart and is devasted by the loss and needs sympathy" type situation🤢🤮 She also said she planned on adopting an African kid next, like some kind of collector ok I have to stop or I'm gonna barf omg 🤮

Mom of a child adopted from China here - the adoption is fully finalized in China when both parents travel, and American citizenship is granted as soon as the child’s passport is stamped in their first landing point in the US. What most parents do, and it seems possibly that this family did not - is to “re-adopt” once home to change the child’s name formally and receive an American birth certificate. (Vs the one you’re given in China which is written in Chinese). Doesn’t change the circumstances, but wanted to share a little personal experience.

I have 2 kids with autism. Yes they have some tough challenges, but they have gifts as well. More & more neurodivergent people are walking among us on this planet. To be a humane society, we must strive to understand them and accept them for who they are. Society cannot keep marginalizing it’s differently-abled population. Many people on the spectrum are highly gifted in a specific area, and they can be productive members of society. That is, if ableist dicks actually give them a chance! This must have been incredibly traumatic for little Huxley. And for their other children too…how do you recover from knowing your parents gave your sibling away? How would you ever trust them again? Ick….