Tyler's comment is huge, "If I can use my self destruction to help someone else then maybe I am worth something" stunning realization that most could not comprehend, Thank you Tyler the person!

“Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.”

Ltsd. 11 years of policing in the projects of a major city. 11 years of adrenaline rushes and being able to stabilize the chaos repeatedly, night after night. Left the force due to a major injury and this hits home. Hard. Daily life seems to be searching for a new battle of “let’s see what can knock me down that I CANT get back up from.” Thank you.

11B here. The talk about childhood self worth, being issued an identity and also LTSD brought me to tears. I feel you Tyler.

@chazvegas_

Жыл бұрын

Based!

@IronSharpensIron127

8 ай бұрын

A lot of reasons why I became 11B, but one was definitely me wanting to be what I was told I was not. God bless

Tyler is one of the most grounded, introspective people I've heard. He's more helpful than he gives himself credit for. Thank you both.

I have struggled with how to respond when thanked for my service, for years. Hearing Tyler also struggle with a response is a strange comfort. I hope that sounds the way I meant it. BTW I have settled on the response: “It was my honor”

“LTSD” is ground breaking for mental health in Warriors! Amazing! Makes total sense. 😊

@TheBridgePodcast

Жыл бұрын

Amazing concept

@sarmedic8401

Жыл бұрын

He discussed this a few years back on the Drinkin Bros Podcast and it changed my entire perspective on my life as a fireman and paramedic. I never had a problem with PTSD in any traditional sense. I love what I do and I luckily have never been plagued by nightmares, flashbacks, or any other problems that are blatantly negative but I find I'm never happy unless I am in the worst situations. I feel like I am at my best when I am needed. I often tell my supervisors in the ER I work in now that I feel like a highly trained Belgian Malinois and all I want to do is sniff bombs and bite people and if I'm not doing those things, I'm running in circles and tearing up the carpet because I'm bored.

Re. enlisting: I must come from an opposite end of the spectrum, I felt like I was expected to join, so my response to TYFYS is "Don't thank me, thank my recruiter"

Tyler is describing what I've been taught is Complex PTSD, childhood trauma which didn't just happen once but it was your normal. I have the same thing, my flashbacks are emotional and 9/10 times is triggered during a disagreement. I always tell people that during trauma events everything slows down and it's like in that Sherlock Holmes movie where he is bare knuckle boxing in the street, you see the openings present themselves beforehand but you feel nothing

@dolphin069

Жыл бұрын

Plenty already had complex PTSD before they join the service or EMS etc. High stress Childhood experiences often push you in that direction.

42:33 Thank you. I joined at 17 years old as an 11b. What you said has been the missing puzzle piece in my adult life for the last 7 years since i got out. I understand so much more in my life and in myself. Thank you. So much. The epiphany is overwhelming.

Holy crap, "LTSD" is it, I find a "peace" in the chaos, that is when I'm at my best. A normal, quiet day is tough to get through. Great interview

My only request here is have Tyler back, what a great dude and what he says makes so much sense and is extremely relatable to me especially in this podcast. Good luck brother and thanks for sharing

@TheBridgePodcast

Жыл бұрын

He shall return🤘

I’m not a veteran but I’ve been through a lot of the same things as Tyler. Divorce and rehab at the same time after 16 years at the railroad and never feeling good enough. Love you guys!

Both of you, THANK YOU!! Not for your services... For your words. I could have been in the same room with yall, or on the other side of the world listening. The point is, you got me listening..... 100% correct . Lol thank you!

I’ve never been to war. But I was a hospice nurse for over 5 years. A nurse for over 10! And a caregiver for over 20! And I’ve never heard a more honest and true discussion of internal pain and why. It’s that’s self worth. Truly. Or lack there of.

@robinjaime

9 ай бұрын

I’ve thrived in chaos. Then created it over and again. And continue to. But I’ve been aware of it. And cognizant of it. For the past few years. Think of the negative self talk you’ve created. And I have, too. But, No more. I create chaos in a flurry of JOY. Create joy. Chaos filling joy. It’s the best.

@DieselDog1929

Ай бұрын

Thank you! @robinjaime

@robinjaime

Ай бұрын

@@DieselDog1929 loves. ❤️❤️❤️

" I am looking for oblivion"... when I herd that it's like I had my life fast before my eyes, and for the 1st time and in many many year I started to cry. It all made sense. Thank you both for this podcast

Great episode, once again. Tyler reminded me of the lyrics of a song, "If you can heal the symptoms, but not affect the cause; it's quite a bit like trying to heal a gun shot wound with gauze. Then you can't heal the symptoms"

@TheBridgePodcast

Жыл бұрын

That's deep

I spent the best 2 years of my life with 3 strangers to me but veteran brothers amigos they shared and i enjoyed every second of the images and stories and hell they experienced an shared vaquely with me after 05 house flood Katrina in Baton Rouge Louisiana feeling free atlast with only 2 sets of clothes the 1 i wore and 1 i washed in a 200 year tub with half house lights no heat ac refrigerator food and my old ford truck some hand tools

I 've always liked Tyler, but this made me really, truly respect his character, intellect and thoughtfulness. Thank you for this. It was incredibly moving, educational, and insightful.

When they thank you for your service, thank them for their support. That makes them feel good.

Wish more people would watch this. This video has helped me more than I ever thought it would. Now to rewatch it and study it to help me on my journey.

I didn't realize a podcast would relate so much to my life.

Omg. I have LTSD too. Holy moly. Wtf. I’m mind blown right now.

I pray Tyler knows God made us all significant and for a unique purpose. Tyler has contributed to so much of what I learned about our troops. I know a little better of what my son went through and why he thinks the way he does. It helps me edit my conversations with him. This show is a ministry.

Been working on my mental health since I got out almost a decade ago and one of my therapists recommended a book called "The Body Keeps the Score" By Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. lots of great information in there to help understand the intricacies of the how and why shit happens to our minds through trauma. Keep up the good work here guys, thanks.

Everytime Tyler is on a podcast it becomes inspirational in a whole new way. I really hope he continues to go on more podcasts. I'd absolutely LOVE to hear him recap the target he and andy both got injured on on the cleared hot podcast.

This last year has honestly been the hardest year I’ve ever been through. I’m still searching for that purpose. I feel like I could have done more in my time in. The regret is always there. I have felt like I have let my brothers down by leaving them. I wished I’d known then what I know now. Great podcast. Tyler opened my eyes on a lot of things. Thank you

@generalkaffenberger8675

Жыл бұрын

You earned an "Honorable Discharge" ? Then You certainly repeatedly did something VITAL to the Military, the Country, the Earth. Never forget that. Continuity of World Peace & Human Life, requires EVERY PIECE OF A "JIG SAW PUZZLE". YOU did deliver a VITAL piece. True ?

The most relevant conversation i've ever heard. Thank you.

@TheBridgePodcast

Жыл бұрын

It's VERY relevant. More veterans need to hear this.

Thank you both, Gentlemen. Here's hoping you have a great Veteran's Day. Semper Fi.

@TheBridgePodcast

Жыл бұрын

Thanks!

I love this guy!! I love how honest he is about why he joined!! He joined for himself! But in boot they tell you, ".you did join for your own reason you join for these reason, Country, God selfless service, ect!!! Most join for selfish not selfless reasons! I not bashing just stating why I wanted to join, for myself!!

That shed some light on why my ex leaving broke me so bad. It's been 10 years and I still think about her almost every day. I guess it's time a talk to a therapist and address this problem.

"Say you're welcome and move on.." Love that, probably the best conversational advice ever!

God every one of these is pure brilliance. You guys Inspire us to be better everyday and realize we have no real reason to be bitching about our small problems

@generalkaffenberger8675

Жыл бұрын

True; because we have plenty of buttheads more than willing to create truly BIG PROBLEMS for us. They would never survive, the things that we helped them survive; and now they work their greed for Money, Power, Lies, that they use AGAINST US, their Protectors.

@generalkaffenberger8675

Жыл бұрын

God & WarFighters, please BLESS THE KIDS, for they are the most INNOCENT of all.

I like all of the podcasts you're putting out. This one in particular couldn't have come out at a better time for me personally. Thank you to Tyler for speaking your mind and Travis for hosting this.

Tyler. I am you. You are me. I haven’t heard anyone explain this as good as you have. I am blown away. At minute 52. And I am so completely freaking out.

Tyler articulated the experience of the modern male existential dread perfectly when he said: "The fasttest way to destroy yourself is to not be you (a warrior)". I myselft have been through the process of "not being my self" just to avoid conflict at home from a young age. I'd like to thank everyone involved in the prodution of this episode. The information I've aquired listening to this one proved to be worth a pound of gold for every second of it.

Combat Stress Disorder! Pretty much the same as he described. A non-VA clinical psychologist broke it down for me, after removing the PTSD classification.

My favorite response: Thank you your support!

Warrior Poets is the phrase that came to mind while watching the podcast today. Thank you sincerely for these podcasts - they are uplifting and introspective as well. I know others are encouraged by them also.

@TheBridgePodcast

Жыл бұрын

Perhaps we'll need Lovell on here🤘

@norseman6306

Жыл бұрын

@@TheBridgePodcast That would be another great podcast! Thanks again for what you guys are doing - hugely impactful to me. Awesome stuff!

LTSD - Longing for traumatic stress disorder

Travis and Tyler thank you very much for sharing this podcast ❤ You both inspire us to be better every day!

Its a way to validate life pain self inflicted is calming not anyone else's validation

I cant explain to you guys how much i needed this. Im not a vet or le but im 25 and relate to everything he said ive felt and dealt with alot of those feelings. Thank you.. I needed this. God bless you guys.

These were all so great. Wish it didnt end but I guess all good things do. Thanks for doing them in the first place!

Thank you both for your service ;)

This was fucking amazing !!! Holy shit. 15 mins in and this is so tremendous. Tyler Grey I feel you brother when you said you had no value as a kid and had two imaginary friends. I am 24 years old. Since we have left our warrior cultures, we have allowed our people to divulge into degeneracy. I’m still living in MA and it’s much worse than people think.

Thank you for sharing. The conversation and openness is appreciated.

Looking forward to this one certainly.

Thank you, Tyler! You're awesome.

Thank you Tyler

Good stuff guys. I can relate to a lot of this. Thanks for continuing the conversation to help former service members improve themselves instead of getting stuck in the downward spiral that so many get trapped in.

Thank you guys for doing this! It's the real truth in my experience

I'm so glad they didn't let their ego's get to them as people who would often expect them to compare who's the best with Army vs Marines and given their elite backgrounds in those branches

This is a house of learned doctors! Thank you, gentlemen! The bounce off of ideas between you two was synced up perfectly. Very thankful for this episode! Gained a new subscriber here.

Of all your podcasts I’ve watched so far, this one hit home so hard. I just hope I can live up to what I am able to. And to what you both spoke of. Not just for my family, who have put up with a lot from me, but also for myself so I can be better for them. And the point he made of LTSD hits hard.

Outstanding work, gentlemen. 🙏🏽

@TheBridgePodcast

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for tuning in

Great freaking pod cast, He was 100% on about past trauma messing up our current life circumstances….👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

i dont think i've ever resonated like i have with Tyler... keep you as you are my friend.

This was great, I'm a civi and not even american, but there's many things I was able to relate to and got me thinking through the video, so I thank you for that.

Man thank you both. This was awesome. Not enlisted but here to comment - you're putting words on things that should hit a nerve with every modern first world man. Many of us have lost our identity as men...and we're passing that on to the next generation of young men. We've got to stop that cycle and build up those little dudes. Give them identity. Build a belief system into them. Man really amazing talk here and guys everywhere need to hear this. Tell a friend. Tell your brother. Help them grow.

The back and forth between you guys about being thanked for your service and Tyler’s comments regarding his responses really resonated with me. I have been a first responder and became a first responder for self betterment. I did it because I wanted to do it and I want to do crazy shit and have fun everyday I go to work. Being thanked for my service has always been a severely uncomfortable experience for me. I never want to say “you’re welcome” because it makes me feel selfish so I always respond “thank you”. I’ve never really spent time to think about my response until listening to you guys and realized that it boils down to me feeling guilty behind the reasons for doing my job. Anyways that’s all. Figured I’d share.

I don't even know how to think right now, he hit on so many things that I too feel, like self worth, why I joined and being able to forgive and move on. It's hard to acknowledge your mental health, it's even harder to seek understanding and help, Tyler helps me keep pushing forward in my journey to get better mentally and physically. Thank you for this

Amazing

Quality content

"Warriors living past their purpose," that is some deep and real $hit.

The first comments being about trying to knock down the difference in trauma from vets to civs, honestly I never really thought there was a huge difference. I served 6 years working emergency service, and it was an extemely active and violent 6 years. Having to tell a 14 year old boy that his mom was dead, the babies, the shooting galleries, the fatal accidents where entire families were gone. It was tough man. I had to move on, and was forced to once I had a back injury on duty. I was always resentful about the "thank you for your cervix" and the BS. I was angry that I left with an untransferrable skill of spraying brain matter off of the road. Angry that I put my wife second to the service i gave my community, and my mental health and wellbeing was last. We found out we were pregnant and I decided, with the injury, that enough was enough and I needed to move on. I listen to alot of interviews with vets, like with shawn ryan and yourself, because the stories are so damn similar to what I lived through. The traumas, the injuries, the bonding with your team, the addiction to the violence and adrenaline, all the shit that comes along with it that people dont see from the outside. Idk man. Thanks for shining some light on that. Its a tough place. I want to speak about my story, and try to help anyone that is going through it, had gone through it, or is looking at starting down that path. When I trained people as an FTO/LT, i made sure to drill in some of that understanding of what it's actually going to be like.

Good stuff, gents

I love that pelican case idea for the mind. That’s brilliant

Every being has a " protect or kill " switch with in us you just need to know how to use it to your advantage

I love Tyler on seal team! Also remember him on a interview thing with Vickers as well

DABDA... denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. phases of grief Tyler was talking about.

I think there's some relevance to this LTD thing, I felt like he was my brain talkin to me about what's wrong with it. It resonated with me in such a way I got teary-eyed. I think you've struck a chord with me.

"under conditions of peace the warlike man attacks himself" Nietzsche 1899 'Beyond Good And Evil'

As a firefighter..that left after 22 yrs..I work better in high stress situation,than I do throughout a normal day... I worked better in chaos. I would be totally calm during high stress situation

14:30 ... I feel you brother. I feel you.

This whole interview I've been trying to remember who you remind me of Travis - it's a 1950's Brit actor called Richard Todd. He starred in the Dam Busters film. He could be your dad!! Enjoyed the interview btw.

Real heroes are the ones who sacrifice everything for their country and countrymen. Or the ones who come home yet will never recognize themselves as heroes. I used to be the kind of person who did the "Thank you for your service" line every time I interacted with a vet, but sooner or later I realized that they just want to be treated like another ordinary person and not put up on a pedestal for what they did overseas.

@generalkaffenberger8675

Жыл бұрын

However IT IS WHAT WE DO ( or don't yet do ) FOR AMERICA & AMERICANS, THAT IS CRUCIAL . Go overseas to guard someone else's dirt, and do their work at risk to ourselves ? 😂 To guard, coach, teach, lead, encourage HERE is OUR own Work, and exemplifies TRUE GENIUS ( That has overcome persistent Propaganda, from Global SLAVERS ). 😂😂😂 SET all of the KIDS FREE Persistently

Semper 🔥

This guy is deep as the Marianas!

Thankful for 🍄 for PTSD treatment!

@fathead8933

Жыл бұрын

It'll work until it doesn't

What ever happened to Dues Ex Machina, Tyler's company? I bought a gunfighter trigger and the flipping thing broke. One of the pins holding the trigger shoe and safety broke, rendering my weapon inoperable. Went to contact DEM, only to find out they no longer exist. Class act.

@paddyk9632

Жыл бұрын

Cool story, cry a River. Welcome to the real world

"Parades, families running across the beach, jets flying overhead..." Yeah, happened EVRYTIME I came back from a deployment with the Marine Corps.

Good interview! This guy is dead on re war zone vs civilian life.

47:47 - LTSD Lack of Traumatic Stress Disorder Calm in Chaos Chaotic in Calm 51:08 - Fundamentally Self-destructive Creating problems so you can learn and grow from them. 1:01:11 - Healthy Chaos Finding calm in less self-destructive ways. 1:02:59 - Reality of Ruthlessness Insensibility to evil people does not make you an evil person. 1:05:06 - Recipe for Misery Fighting who you really are. 1:08:17 - Finding the Right Help Usually you have to try a few before you find the right one. 1:13:32 - When there are No Rules The real world. (1:14:14 H. Katrina) 1:17:57 - Post Op Decompression and Communication. Heading home; then vs. now 1:22:46 - War Zone or Home Can you be good in both places, or are you better in one than the other? 1:28:22 - Your New Purpose Redefining yourself at home 1:30:18 - Old Warriors Out living war. 1:35:02 - Re-Integration The lie told thousands of times by those that never did. 1:39:12 - Grief from Loss. When you leave the military.

11:58 is Gunny saying the SOP messed me up

Lets start a Corrections video series. I know were under spoken and unrecognized. PTSD, stress, under-staffing.. its hurting us in IL. please help!

@iilawlessii2211

Жыл бұрын

we have multiple shifts running buildings beyond their capacity. yet were just trying to get by day by day. deal with issues. its not fair to us, or the incarcerated. period.

Is Tyler gonna move to Scottsdale?

What was the book you mentioned about post traumatic growth?

Types of warriors "A hero fights for love, a bad man fights for greed, a soldier fights for orders, a psychopath fights for pleasure"

Shrooms night by self helped me occasions to put back the books in order that were flung on floor

8:33 FACTS

Better than Joe Rogan

Rad 😎

IF Anything I will thank the rare case of a fukked up vet for their sacrifice! We all sacrifice but some way more than others!

It's like loosing a limb

Here's the real deal on transitioning: DoD was congressionally mandated to assist the transitioning of the Service Member out of the military with the primary focus of helping the SM for a civilian job, period. Veteran unemployment rates for either political party just have BAD OPTICS. That is what they focus on - assisting you build a resume draft and one round of job fairs. Here's the real deal from someone that successfully transitioned on that program - one day in uniform to the next day retired entering into a good civilian job - the focus to set me up for the next job WAS THE LEAST of what should have been the priority. Mental health and the focusing on relationships that took the burden, the weight and direct hit from a 20+ year career should have been the priority. But that is not what is focused on. The military has only so much time, money and resources to transition the SM, so they focus on the one that thing that is easy, quick and feels good. The moral - like they both said on the show; do the homework, don't rush to failure and get your head straight BEFORE you drop your packet to get out. If you do 20+ years or four years and get out and your relationships suffer to the point that they don't exist anymore, then what's the point of it all bro? Great show!

1:39:50 unrelated to the subject but who else had a really hard time throwing their boots over that wire? Boots throw weirdly. Was it just me?

1:47:06 if "gotcha" was ever illustrated

balance is the opposite of focus

Rites of passage? Where are they today