📲 Pssst, our Pick Up Limes app is out now (1-week free trial!): bit.ly/PUL_app 🎉 … now it’s your turn! What’s a goal you’ve had. What fear or belief is holding you back? Rewrite the narrative in a more empowering way 💪 🥅 Goal: (e.g. *I want to start exercising*) ⛔ Unconscious saboteur: (e.g. *I fear looking weak*) 👉 Conscious mind: (e.g. *I’m capable of change, and the results will come in time*)

@graceam4397

Жыл бұрын

Goal : I want better grades Unconscious: well you can’t because you have already done what you can Conscious: There is always room for improvement and you can achieve your goals

@FrootKat

Жыл бұрын

Goal: I want to have deeper, meaningful friendships Unconscious saboteur: I fear rejection, and I fear the risk of revealing my flaws while connecting with another person. Conscious: I know how good it makes me feel when another shares both their strengths and weaknesses with me. I want to be able to reciprocate that. I may feel a bit raw as I open myself more, but my growth will be just absolutely exponential. Imagine how good it will feel to feel safer around others. Darn, thanks for this video Sadia 🥲

@karanranaofficial

Жыл бұрын

🚀Goal: Grow my own KZread Channel from 1k subs to 10k subs in 2023. 😱Fear: Consistency & Speed might be slow. 😊Conscious Mind: I will just focus on publishing 1 long video each week and 1 Short each day and try to add impact to people's lives. Numbers will trickle as a by-product.

@infinitum-repertorium

Жыл бұрын

Goal: I will maintain contact with all my friends without excuses and shyness. Unconscious saboteur: It's tough and I'm an introvert. Conscious mind: I have great friends and I just need to do everything in my control.

@permieforlife

Жыл бұрын

Self-sabotage is also and unconscious way to be in control of an event and the outcome

I've suffered from clinical anxiety and depression for most of my life. One day while doing yard work I saw a tree ensnared in vines suffocating it. I realized that was me, my own growth as a person was stunted by this vine of mental illness. I realized that my depression and anxiety are not who I am and I can chop down those creeping vines when I make the conscious decision to acknowledge how I feel and choose to not let them sabotage me and my growth as a person. Thanks for making the content the world really needs! ❤

@PickUpLimes

Жыл бұрын

Wow, Megan - it's inspiring to hear how you were able to find a metaphor in nature that helped you see your own struggle in a new light. Thank you for sharing, your journey is truly admirable 💕

@lilliantkach2294

Жыл бұрын

Anxiety can get bad with a lot of caffeine consumption as caffeine targets your central nervous system and also it has to do with hormones and ect. Eating and avoiding foods that make those symptoms go away helps. Also getting a test done by a doctor to see if your are deficient in something will also help and you can heal. Also a plant based diet isn’t for everyone some of us need those fats and certain food from animal products to help out. When I was on a plant based or paleo diet, I would get irritable and annoyed more often and I got a test done by a doc it had to do with HDL levels and LDL my HDL level was too low I thought I was going crazy at times when in reality my body just needed those healthy fats. Olive oil, avocado oil and nuts don’t always help.

@alisasabo

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing❤

@Morggg6

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing that 💜 it brought tears to my eyes because I've been feeling that same way.

@blahblahwhynot

Жыл бұрын

What happened with the tree?

Sadia hits me with so many wise truths in such a gentle way I can actually comprehend!!

@mikeskylark1594

Жыл бұрын

Yeah. Because in a women's channel...

@kuslanimunasinge688

Жыл бұрын

You hit the nail on the head!

"We create obstacles to justify our poor performance or lack of effort"... you just summarized my life in one sentence.

I use the 2 minute rule from James Clear's book when I don't feel like doing something I know I should. He says that doing something for just two minutes every day is vital to forming a habit.

This is such timely advice. I have been putting off job applications for a long while now because I keep assuming I will be rejected before ever even applying. And I think this stems from a degree of imposter syndrome. I also have so many personal project ideas I’ve been sitting on for years which I’m too afraid/lazy to start. This video is an excellent reminder for me to capitalise on those waves of inspiration and just go for it. Thank you Sadia!!

@emilystarck3196

Жыл бұрын

Hey! I struggle with a similar situation right now. I finished my studies and now I want to get a job but I avoid to apply for it because first I don't know what I want to do and second I'm scared they will reject me and that I'm not good enough.

@jessicatou88

Жыл бұрын

I feel you on this I’m so much in the same situation. I’ve been mad procrastinating on applying for new opportunities

@MiaMakesThings

Жыл бұрын

I’m in the same situation right now - not applying so that my abilities to do things are not challenged, I’m afraid that I won’t perform as well as I thought I could. The thing is that exactly does what Saida spoke about, it’s comfortable not to have your skills challenged I think I need to focus on improving and working with what I already have to offer to build on it and grow

@lmo4879

Жыл бұрын

I used to be afraid of rejection at job interviews too. What helped me to move on was to remember that it is an *inter*view - that is to say, the conversation is (or at least should be!) a two-way street. It's your chance to find out whether the job would be good for you, as well as for the employer to find out whether you'd be good for the job. I noticed I began getting better responses when I brought that energy into the interview room. The other thing is to apply for loads of stuff so that you don't bring too much pressure on yourself about any one interview. I found it helpful to view the process as meeting new people and exploring new opportunities rather than some sort of judgement process to be suffered. Good luck with finding a great role! :)

@patislittlenest

9 ай бұрын

Oh, it sounds exactly likey own story. I am right now in the same situation. Thanks for sharing. I hope you find the energy and braveness to do the first step. Just do the first step for as long as you drink your first cup of tea or coffee in the morning. It's something I promise to myself to do, too.

Sadia, I have been using your clips in my classroom in Vancouver for the last two years, and you have made a difference in my student's lives. Thank you for being such an amazing role model. BTW - we love seeing images of our hometown in your videos!

@danijigi

Жыл бұрын

Wow , I would have liked it very much when I was at school or at any time in my academic formation to had a teacher who is so conscientious and who is not limited only to what is established but also looks for another sources of infomation to improve and motivate the students, good for you!

Our own self high expectations make us feel like we failed before we have even started. "Focus on progress not perfection" Thank you Sadia for this

Hey Sadia, thank you for this video. I had a crippling fear of driving. At 30 I finally learned how to drive, got my license and bought a car. It’s made my life so much easier. It took so many years to change “I can’t” to “I am capable”. My life has dramatically improved because of this. Love your videos ❤

@nirau

Жыл бұрын

I'm happy to hear that, thanks for sharing. Had difficult experience learning how to drive, but I will do it in the future because it's a great skill to have.

Sadie, thank you. I have made a career out of self sabotage. I ballooned up to 500+pounds just by thinking I am not worthy. 6 years of this prison. I am on the road to a beautiful painless life 100 pounds down. Just by being accountable and positive. Thank you for bringing this to light and reminded me I can still do this….it is hard as Hell. ❤️

The quote: "I'm going to focus on progress, not perfection" hit me deep. I've always been an anxious person. Scared of what the future brings. Thought I wasn't good enough or never will be good enough. That has stopped me from doing so many things. This year I promised myself to at least try it. And if I fail it's still progress. Maybe I wasn't perfect but I still tried and that's what makes me feel better. Thank you Sadia and the Pick up Limes Team for this inspiring video :) I would love to see more of those ;)

@gauraiyah

Жыл бұрын

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Can you please make a podcast channel?? Your voice is soooo soothing to listen to. I love episodes like these ❤ Thank you!

Sadia, I really want you to make a tea time Tuesday video on Handling Criticism from yourself & those around you.

The overthinking it part hit me. I overthink everything and maybe I just need to start and don’t worry about it being perfect, just the progress is enough

@m.dinfinix2043

9 ай бұрын

Omg am the same.. have you started?!

I needed this message today. I’ve been overthinking all night and sobbed all night. I couldn’t function at work. I came home early to take a long nap and ate. I watched this video and now have a different perspective on my situation. Thank you.

@snoy98307

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this . I just lost my job and going through similar situation. Really appreciate your comment. All the best ❤

Goal: 1. I want to feel healthier (post surgeries and covid) 2. I want to be less anxious 3. I want to grow my KZread channel faster Unconscious saboteur: 1. I hate feeling weak and unhealthy especially, because I used to be very active (not athletic, but effortlessly active, could play a badminton game easily after not exercising for weeks), 2. I fear that my fears keep me safe from unprecedented failures or events, and if I stop feeling anxious, I will get in trouble, I will miss some clue about an impending crisis and suffer 3. I keep thinking about videos, and then feel it might not be good enough for people to watch. Conscious mind: 1. My body is amazing, that it has recovered so much in short span of time, it will get better slowly 2. I think my anxiety has no role in keeping me safe, I can keep myself safe without it, and in a calm and peaceful manner 3. Just put your content out there, and it doesn't matter if each and every video doesn't resonate with the audience.

The fear of judgment always bothers me but working on it.

''Don't waste time doubting yourself. Just go for it!'' Love this!

sadie always coming to rescue with right content!

Sadia, it's Holi today on 7th March in India when I am writing this, and there's a ritual here where we pray that all the negativity in our life burns away making room for the colours of life. I came back from the ritual and I saw this video. It honestly touched me very deeply as to all the aspects you discussed and I can really feel from within that I can really do the things I always wanted to do. So well let's go straight to the objective right! I want to work on myself - nurturing every aspect of my existence - the physical, emotional, mental , spiritual, psychological , philosophical - every aspect of mine with utmost care. I used to care less about me. I didn't feel that I could be fit, or I should indulge in self care but now I know ! I will workout ( I have already started & I am enjoying) , elevate my diet standards ( taking help from your videos ) fix my schedule, meditate, travel, socialise, read books and learn every fine thing the world has to offer!! I am working and I will strengthen on my career. I will always try to skill up, searching for your ways to do things , taking a sustainable yet innovative approach. Being in touch with reality yet developing it for the better is my objective! I want to do things for my family and all the people I love and well if possible, for the world & nature as well. I deserve to and I want to be loved. I already feel fortunate that there's not too much bother in my life but yes, I want to grow more on love, I want to make the people around me feel loved. Well , exams are coming by, I am prepping up for them, I will smash them with finesse. I will prepare well and won't be afraid on my capabilities and do great on the exams in career or life! I feel so happy to hear your thoughts. You are Robin's love is serene and a bliss. I wish the goodness protects you. So well , Time to enact!! See ya :) I wish that whenever if ever I see this comment again, I am at a better place. If anyone else sees this comment, I hope they do super good! 😃💫

@PickUpLimes

Жыл бұрын

Happy Holi to you! I love hearing that the video resonated with you and inspired you to focus on nurturing so many aspects of your life. Wishing you all the best of luck with your exams and all your endeavours, AFA!

@RC-km8dg

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for Expressing..thank you for digging deep down in self.. thank you for the love and light for all..

Didn't realize how much I needed this today! Thanks (as always) for the break to take a breath, slow down, and reflect. Time to get out of my way!

i so needed this video today. i've been putting off my uni assignment, i've convinced myself i can't do it, even thought i've been doing them for 6 years now lol. only because my last one i didn't get the score i wanted, i kind of feel i've given up, i'm really cruel with myself. i've been saying thing to myself like "i'm clearly not as smart as i thought i was" " i bet everyone else is doing well, apart from me because i'm useless" "ill never amount to anything, because i'm simply not good enough" my brain is driving me crazy with this nasty self talk, but i don't know how to stop it. noone has ever believed in me either, so i don't really have or had supportive people around me. one of the reasons i love your videos, you inspire me to do better.

Sadia, could you talk more about how to create an action bias. For a while I've known that self-handicaping is what I do quite often usually through overthinking and fearing rejection and judgement. Just in small daily things I tend to overthink and this can be literally anything. Since I've realised this I've gotten better at catching myself however, it takes a lot of cognitive energy to do that. So creating a bias for action sounds like a really interesting approach which I could use.

@hathaitipnantiyakul5064

Ай бұрын

Re-watching after a year. I’d like to understand more about bias towards action as well please.

You sound like a poet! Love your videos.

I have become way too lazy lately. I have become very very comfortable in where I am, inspite of knowing this isn't the place I want to be in anymore. I am always doubting myself that I will not be able to do it, and have almost stopped making any efforts with the narrative of being incapable or burnt out. The truth is, I have stopped trying. I have been self sabotaging my growth and my unconscious mind is my biggest enemy. This was the biggest reality check I needed. Thank you Sadia for making me realize that it's all in the way we think and perceive our journey.

You feel like a breath of fresh air in a chaotic world, you’re a gift to this world, thank you for existing. ❤️

Just finishing a book called Permission to Feel, great book for understanding emotions.

The self doubt comes up in mind so many times and procrastinate the dream. This was super helpful.

Self-sabotage may be the biggest thing we can control individually. But, it also helps immensely to understand that the economic systems we are a part of are inherently oppressive and bad for mental health. This knowledge is powerful.

I'm reading "Atomic Habits". James Clear says the process is more important than the goal. When you reach a goal, you always have to set a new one. When you create a process, you become "that person" and then you're just moving forward, goal or not. I like that. My goal is to eat more plants and my underlying belief is that it's too much work. Watching your channel, I see I need to stop calling it "work". AHA! xo karen

I totally resonate with the bias towards action advice. I have been dreaming about being a location independent yoga teacher for 5 years now, and have been holding myself back from taking my teaching online due to my insecurity of being in front of the camera and the voice that tells me I am not good enough, don’t know enough, not cool enough, look ridiculous on camera etc….. In the last 1.5 years, thanks to outer circumstances that literally pulled the safety carpet from under my feet (e.g. I lost my „stable“ day job) I have been diving into a wave of actions. They were all super scary and I felt like I am going in blindly (filming Yoga videos, starting a KZread channel, creating an Online Yoga program etc) but the further I went the more I realized each scary action brings me a little closer to my authentic me. Because once you go for it, you realize… oooh, it’s actually not as scary as I thought! Or even… I am good at this / this is fun! Today, I am living a life that I thought is impossible to achieve for myself. I can live where I want and put my energy into sharing with others what‘s important to me. Of course I am constantly challenged (every day 😂) by new little or big obstacles, but I now know that these kind of fears and resistances only help me to push against and superspeed me further on my way to finding my authentic lifestyle. It never gets boring 😅 Cheers and support to anyone going through the scary phases these days and thank you Sadia for your inspiring content! ❤

I haven’t lost my pregnancy weight in 15 years. I have learned that I sabotage myself my shaming myself and by placing everyone above me. I am learning to decrease my “people pleasing “ tendencies. It really saves me time and energy to know or reframe what I have done and say “That’s all I have to give, I need to save my strength and energy to love myself.”

@KH-rh3lr

Жыл бұрын

I totally relate! It's taken me 20 years and 6 kids to realise (or admit!) that I don't have to be the one hanging back and just care-taking. A vicious cycle of tiredness, fear, shame and emotional eating isn't life for us or life-giving for those around us. It's ok to be inspirational - take a risk, follow a dream or even just some 'me-time' and personal health care. I have learned that actually it's important for our kids (whatever their age, it's never too late) to see us example a healthy balance of caring for self as well as others; trying, failing maybe, but progressing. No one learns endurance overnight and we are no good to anyone if we are 'broken'. I would not be happy with someone treating my children the way I have treated myself - was a wake-up call for me.

@susanb5058

Жыл бұрын

@@KH-rh3lr beautiful!!! 💕

@shivaagarwal4093

Жыл бұрын

Can you exaplain what exatly you did to decrease the people pleasing tendencies? I fail to do it.

@ginavloet9697

Жыл бұрын

@@shivaagarwal4093 . I am in counseling and she listens to me then asks questions about my choices. I have to pause and think “Why did I do that?” My answer falls under 1.) they asked me to, so I couldn’t say No. 2.) I didn’t want to disrespect them, so I compromised my own needs to not rock the boat. 3.) whatever I do is not good enough…so I give up on myself. It’s very difficult to look in the mirror 🪞 when you say “Out loud” how I speak to myself. Sometimes I have an automatic pilot behavior of sensing a need and filling that need of another person. Now… I stop and ask myself are you going to hurt yourself financially , emotionally, add stress to your day if you do the task that you and you only are holding yourself accountable for? It stops me to think and reflect prior to the choice of going above and beyond. I am a survivor of abuse as a very young child… so it’s how I protected myself. Once , I can identify the “why” then I can make a healthy choice for myself.

@Jess-lk3gr

Жыл бұрын

​@@shivaagarwal4093 this might not help for you, but it works for me: personally I remind myself that I have the right to say no to things and to people, that protecting myself and my own health should be the most important thing to me, and thirdly that while helping others is kind, often they can do these things themselves! Best of luck to you on your journey ❤

Hey Sadia. I'm a Psychology student and I have been studying the concept that you have beautifully appreciated in this video for a long time. Being a student I feel that there's a lot of uncertainty about things that will be taking place in the coming future as students don't earn money or have not been financially independent. And I find that as one of the most fear-giving aspects. But over 1 year I have realised that there's so much more than what I'm doing. The continuous conflict between conscious and unconscious thoughts leads to several mental as well as health conditions. Keep making more of these videos ❤️

The world needs more empathetic and caring female role models like Sadia. Really, after so many disappointing acquaintances and friendships with women (I‘m one myself) I‘d be the happiest to have such a genuine female friend.

I feel so strongly EVERY word said here... Some years ago I found out that my children were not "difficult" and I was not "a bad parent", but they are autistic with adhd. Trying to understand them and myself more, I went for my own diagnosis and discovered I am autistic, with adhd. This explained my life and their lives, but gave my unconsciousness a lot of excuses and self-doubt, tons of ways of sabbotaging myself... Even after making lots of decisions for the good of my family and my own, and after I managed to find in my life things that inspire me, I was still saying to myself how much I cannot do, because... Sometimes things I would never said to myself in my 20s or even 30s... Thank you for stating it clearly and repeating that you go to therapist, because when I decided I want to leave my job, homeschool my youngest and enter doTerra business, I started my therapy. Today I chat a lot with my consciousness and unconsciousness... And here I am... managing both and still going for what's best for us... Thank you for this wonderful message... I feel that I will be coming back to this many times...

@vijayak7308

Жыл бұрын

More strength and power to you! Good gut bacteria can really make difference! Try to incorporate natural pre and probiotics of various strains.. home made pickles , yogurt, kombucha, kimchi. avoid processed foods as much as possible.

You are the calm in the chaos. Thank you 🙏

There is NO SUCH THING as Self Sabotage. What is preventing your goals is an internal part that expects pain or unsafety when you would do these things you want - it has your BEST interest in mind. You can explore this Part inside yourself and ask what it needs and find a WIN-WIN for both parts (e.g. the part that does want to work out and the one that doesnt). Be open(!) because you might realize that what you are conciously wanting now is not what you actually want or in that specific way. Everything inside of you wants your well being, it is just that these parts have different perspectives and are currently opposed to another.

One of the things I noticed about myself after also going through a fitness/workout break and easing back into it, is that when I see my progress infront of me (seeing how many times I worked out per week) I feel more motivated and empowered to do more vs not seeing my progress. I’ve had moments where I forget I worked out three times a week till I see that I did and I suddenly feel like I got this 💪🏽 Track your progress friends! And reflect more often on it.

As a psychologist…yes. You’re spot on. We like comfort and certain, it’s safe. But long term it’s not. We don’t get stronger, which keeps us in a disadvantage. And yes…be aware.

Hey, I would like to thank you very much for this video. I live and come from Poland and my sabotage immediately told me after the movie - you will never be able to thank this person because your English is very bad and you are so hopeless that you will never learn more than you can. Thanks to you, I immediately caught this sabotage and immediately thought about the solution of our time regarding this one of a million problems - help with google translate. And now I'm sitting and writing this message because I really feel that despite my development and partial exit from your patterns, I never thought about self-handicapping and sabotage. I've never seen it in myself. I saw reasons outside and within myself, but completely different, criticizing and judging myself. I am a beginner artist dealing with engaged art and I am just finishing my studies, which is associated with a huge project. Every day many plan how to do it best, and every day I feel too weak, too busy, too inadequate to do what I plan to do and finish my project, and to take care of myself. I think I'll be watching this video for a while every morning before breakfast. Maybe this will help me stop sabotaging myself so much. Thank you again. After this video my soul and my heart and my mind are several steps ahead. I send you as much warmth as you gave me. Thank you 🤍

When you procrastinate alot eventually you're going to start doubting your ability to actually make that step. You'd be killing your dreams unknowingly because your mind is like what's the point of even dreaming if I'm never going to actualize it. Procrastination prevents change. It springs up from the fear of leaving comfort. We all like to stick to the predictable. However I'll still advocate for not rushing into decisions because we feel that adrenaline rush. Take time to examine your motivations, strategize, pray if you will and then most importantly take that first step it will all come along as you go on. Don't let your fears or inadequacies stop you from experiencing life.

Not only do I find this video helpful for myself, but I'm also realizing these ideas can make us all more empathetic to others as well. Thank you. 🌹

Your timing on this video was pure kismet in my life. Can’t even begin to explain. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽

These videos are absolutely fantastic. You deserve 10M subscribers. I feel the same way after watching your videos as I do after spending time with a good friend.

Sadia these worlds hit home very hard. You have a very spot on intuition. A few months ago I had just broken up with my ex and it was horrible. I loved him deeply and his attachment style (dismissive avoidant) caused me so much pain. He dumped me and moved on with indifference. I fell into a depression that took months to claw my way out of. By the time I was coming up to needing to do revision for final exams for my master's, I had built a narrative in my head that I was not going to get a good grade because of my mental health struggles earlier so why bother? I spent ages slipping into self destructive habits, but I was miserable every day. I'm a person who thrives off improvement, growth and achieving my goals. This was a big mistake for me to give into the inner critic. Not only did it hamper my goals but it created a horrible feedback loop that took going to see a CBT therapist to challenge. She said, 'how do you know you won't do well?' and I couldn't answer her because in all honesty I didn't know. That's all it took to change my behaviour! from that moment on I spent the next 6 weeks doing nothing but work and exercise every day. I revised until my hand cramped up. And I'm still trying every day to have the wisdom and self knowledge to catch when this self sabotage is happening, or when I overthink achieving my goals and don't actually take action because I fear hating the quality of what I produce.

I've just downloaded the free Wim HOF App and completed my first guided breathing session and I feel great. I've endured so much stress these past few years with the death of my daughter and I realise I need to start looking after my own MH now. Listening to Sadia helps as she is so soothing and so wise.

@laraerae4321

Жыл бұрын

So sorry for the loss of your daughter ♥️♥️ sending you love!

Great video and tip! Regarding your fitness goals - maybe the reason you’re uninspired is that you haven’t found the right activity for you? I hate regular exercises, but swing dancing and acroyoga give me so much joy!

I think it is more about taking small actions gradually and learning by doing (i.e., getting empirical data) instead of overthinking everything (i.e., keep generating false internal data), than it is about dissecting the conscious/unconscious mind (it is hard to tell which is which, plus some people's "conscious" mind can still be toxic, over-confident and full of dangerous desires).

@PickUpLimes

Жыл бұрын

You bring up some really valid points! The "create a bias towards action" tip in the video definitely aligns with the idea of taking action as opposed to overthinking, as you mentioned. It is true that our conscious mind can also sometimes hold us back and presents toxic thoughts, but in this video we wanted to specifically explore the case in which our unconscious thoughts are at the root of our inaction. Trying to identify them (which can indeed be difficult), and practicing cognitive reframing can be really helpful in this case. Thank you for sharing your perspective and opening up this dialogue, Marmotian! It's always great to have discussions like this 🤓

@marmotian4287

Жыл бұрын

@@PickUpLimes Thank you, I agree with what you said! I appreciate your insight, basically be aware of what you are thinking rather than falling into a subconscious habit. "Be an observer of your own mindset". :)

I am soo happy these videos are back! Reminds me of tea time Tuesdays! Old follower ❤️

You have no idea how much this video answers all of my feelings today.

Thanks for bringing this...tea times back😊

I have been feeling so tired and demotivated lately. Thank you for this

I have a big set of exams coming up in a few weeks, and I keep finding myself avoiding studying. I often find myself caught in this narrative that I'm already behind on the studying process... that I didn't pay attention perfectly in all my classes and now studying is going to be so much harder and I'm just going to fail anyways, so why bother with starting studying. But when I tune in with my conscious mind I can pick a different story: I don't have to do this all at once. My goal isn't to ace all my exams, it's to get comfortable and confident applying the material we've learned. This isn't something that's going to come all at once, but every day I work at it will get me a little closer. As you said in the video, focus on progress, not perfection

i've been having those self sabotaging talks with myself for many years and recently i've acknowledged and changed the narrative and now my conscious and subconscious mind are fighting against each other, lol 😄 On a serious note, i've been implementing this "cognitive reframing" just like the way you mentioned in the video and my life has improved in the past few weeks. For anyone reading this, please know that if we can perceive our fear as a positive force instead of negative, then we can stop the self sabotage and be a better human being.

This hit home. Thank you.

Hey! It’s literally the excerpt of the book I recently read- “The mountain is You”. Thanks for speaking it out loud! :)

Much needed, Thank you!

Wow, just as I was self sabotaging by not working on my Master's Thesis and actively avoiding it because I'm scared that whatever I'm doing it won't be enough, I saw you posted this video. Thank you so much for this, I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this today! Keep up the good work, it means a lot to us! :)

@Livemindfully247

Жыл бұрын

A Master's thesis is a tough one to get to. I am in the same boat. Spent my whole Friday evening avoiding my next assignment.

@user-bh4si9dy9m

Жыл бұрын

@@Livemindfully247 I feel you! Hang in there! Wishing you all the luck with your Master's thesis :)

@IsidoraSage

Жыл бұрын

one of the things that got me through my masters thesis was the decision to write 15 min of utter crap per day. I found when I actually sat down and wrote, the 15 min turned into an hour or two and the crap turned into some useful stuff. You have been studying for years to get to this point... you can do this!!

@user-bh4si9dy9m

Жыл бұрын

@@IsidoraSage that's a good tip and definitely worth trying. Thank you very much! :)

@scienceislove2014

8 ай бұрын

Couldn't resonate more with this

Hello PUL! Most often we go through these situations and tag it 'just feeling a bit low' and feeling that everything is beyond our control. Thank you for talking about this. I feel I needed to hear this. Always looking forward to your uploads!

Always excited for your videos🤗

I needed this 💗

I love these kind of videos from you not just food vids

Thank you for this. 🙏🤗

I identify so much. I have been following you for years and I can relate to a lot of your content. Also the expat life and European culture. Thanks for your work

Mad respect to this channel for videos like this

I so needed this video! Thank you Sadia!!

Thank you so much Sadia for existing. You are immensely inspirational. I am sitting here with so much to do and yet I can’t seem to find the energy, the drive to do it. I am 46 years old and feel completely lost. Your message has given me a small boost of energy to get up and tackle at least one thing today. Thank you and May God bless you, your family, your health and your business. Hugs to you ❤

@julietidwell4947

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Hi, I’ve had days like this! For the life of me I can’t remember where I heard this advice but it had helped me. What is the one thing that if you don’t do, you will beat yourself up when you lay your head on a pillow and try to sleep tonight? It can be as simple as doing the dishes, taking a shower, making a phone call. Whatever that one thing is do it and forget about everything else. Small things are empowering and make a difference. Hope it helps!

@pazbravo3886

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@@julietidwell4947 That is beautiful! Thank you so much. ❤️

I needed this! 🤗

This is so good!!!

I needed this so badly! Thank you!!

Such rich information!! Thank you!💗

Via watching your incredibly handful videos, not only am I enjoying my time, but also I'm increasing my English knowledge..

Thank you I needed this so much ❤

This is so true

Love your videos! Thank you 💜

Thanks!

I needed this more than you know!!! Thank you!

This was so needed, thank you Sadia 🤍

Gràcies!

Thank you❤️❤️❤️!!!from Ukraine! this is very relevant to me right now… thank you! and thank you, because such open, positive, soulful people give confidence in a bright, happy future🙏❤️ thank you for sharing knowledge and Light!❤️❤️❤️

Finally the wait is over ~pul is love❤️

There couldn't be more perfect timing for me to watch this video. I struggled so much to get things done at work (if they required deep-dive or were not urgent), I wanted to start practicing yoga again but don't get up early enough before my 2yo buddy wakes up and I always excuse myself - I had rough night/months/2 years. That's why I lack energy to do something I really need! :) There is also an empty nutella jar in front of me, 3 spoons one day, 5 the other and it's gone. And it's one big regret. I'll make sure not put it in my shopping cart next time and well, let's see if starting my day early will allow me to do stuff I care about and still have energy to do my best for the ones that are most important. Keep up great work! You're amazing :)

Great thinking. Thank you.

I needed to hear this 💕

Wonderful!!! I have been saying I can't and don't want to eat in. I end up making food choices that don't follow my plant based wants and then feel so much guilt and embarrassment. I am afraid of the cooking takes to long, that I get frazzled and get snappy with my husband and kids. When watching this, I challenged myself to think I can eat at home, I have all the food already paid for, I can choose more simple meals to make, I can slow down and invite my family to cook with me, we can chat and laugh in our home, and not throw food away. And all staying with the plant based goals we have and save so much money and time.

Love this. It’s always better to try than to have nothing at all

Hi Sadia! Been following and loving PUL for over 4 years but this is my first comment here (I guess I'm too lazy! ). Your self-help videos are definitely my favorite ones. The positive vibes that you radiate always inspire me so much! Wish you a Happy Birthday and a super year ahead. 😊 As for rewriting the narrative regarding one of my long-time goals, I'd like to write a fiction novel. The unconscious saboteur has been that voice telling me why waste so much time and effort when there are such slim chances of the book becoming popular. I guess I could change the narrative by just focusing on the process and believing that even if the book doesn't do well, it would still be a significant personal achievement!

This exercise was so helpful, thank you so much! 😌 🥅Goal: asking a friend to meet up ⛔Unconscious saboteur : I have nothing to give and I feel unlovable (goodness, that's hard to admit) ➡️Behaviour: procrastinating, not asking 💪🏼Conscious mind: I know I have so many beautiful qualities and I am capable of socializing and being vulnerable. Social anxiety is hard, but remember: social stuff doesn't have to go perfect in order to be likable or lovable. I've been struggling with social anxiety, so this is an amazing exercise to investigate it, instead of only being overwhelmed by it 💪🏼

Something as simple as eating healthy and working out has become the biggest challenge. I am unable to lose 20 pounds and cannot eat healthy and go to gym. This issue becomes bigger bigger and I try to start eating healthy but I fall out of it again

Awesome!

Tea talks is my favorite videos of your! You have so much to share, everyone has, but majority of us do not do that. Thanks for the courage! Thank you for reminding us to inspire ourself and others!

I love these inspirational video from you (also the food videos obviously) - you're like the wise, calming sister I never had 💛

@PickUpLimes

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Thank you! 🙂

That’s exactly it. I’ve been struggling with this intensely for years. This explains it. I’m self handicapping working out bc I know my performance/results are going to be judged by whatever partner I’m with. I can’t bring myself to do it. Thank you Sadia for explaining it to me you’ve really helped me out. New belief could be “I’m taking care of my health for my future self”

I really needed this today. Thank you. ❤

I think my main self-sabotage is not trying to get a job or starting a business by fear of failure, rejection and performance anxiety... I have several mental disorders that impact those feelings and make them so worse that it can lead me to not wanting to live anymore. But I still think that not trying is my main self-sabotage because I know other people with the same disorders who have their own business. And even though they can't work when their health is too bad, they do have some sort of income from time to time. Allowing them to create safety, stability and comfort for themselves. A lot of basic needs that I don't currently fulfill for myself...

💖💖💖💖💖💖Thank you Sadia. So many revelations!

This is like a mini therapy session. Absolutely love how you consolidate everything and convey in such gentle and calming way. You're a star :D

I needed this thank you sadia❤

I love Teatime Tuesdays!