PEACE TO JASZ!!! Wow!!! A whole kcufing ATL legend in here!!! Thank you for sharing G! Love and admiration for you G!!!

I’m literally the daughter in this story… my father would give me flash cards to work on math problems, to learn vocabulary words, to learn the basic rules of my religion. I mean it’s just beautiful that now as a grown woman I can say with full conviction that I would not be the woman I am today without my father jumping through those hoops and hurdles to be in my life. Glory be to Allah.

@chicagorilla6814

2 жыл бұрын

Bless up!!!

@PROFESSOR_SEVEN

2 жыл бұрын

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@jamalhaleemtucker8425

2 жыл бұрын

Masha’Allah! May Allah reward your father and you tremendously with good in this life and the hereafter, Ameen.

@dd470_

2 жыл бұрын

@@jamalhaleemtucker8425 Allahumma Ameen!

@biafrademark

2 жыл бұрын

In the story he said his daughter is 8 years old.

This kind of stress is literally putting men in an early grave. Being "allowed" to be involved as father is so harsh and wicked.

@kinengaklassics2814

2 жыл бұрын

Facts. There is a huge difference between fathering/guiding/growing/rearing a child and being "allowed" to visit with your child on a (supervised) play date..

I completely understand. this is happening to me now. it took me 9months, 6 family court dates and 20k in Lawyer fees to see and talk to my daughters. The Judge awarded me weekends unsupervised sleepovers. 16months later now into our separation 9 family court dates, 60k in lawyer fees and my ex is still because she is still trying to restrict access/time with my daughters. I needed to see this. I will never give up on my Daughters. Daddy loves you Aria and Ayla.

Happy Father’s Day to all of the “Deadbeat Dad’s” out there.

This is why I tell people parents are the primary teachers. Children don't fail the 1st grade. Parents fail the 1st grade. In this case, the child's mother failed. Court mandated child support and alimony should be abolished.

They know fathers are important, it is planned this way. Stay strong for your family Sir.

This is powerful not many people focus on this kind of art. It can change lives

I am extremely careful about using the term "Deadbeat" on a man fully knowing how majority of the time most men don't just "walk away". Many of which are pushed out or even banned from their children through horrid manipulation. Each case by case situation is different especially knowing how women have the microphone and men do not. Especially knowing how the court system is. I don't use that term lightly. Happy Father's Day to all the good brothers out there, from full custody to estranged/alienated. Blessings to you all.

@eugeneroberts1468

2 жыл бұрын

I wish we would talk about this (Condition), not just on Father's Day, because a father, is a father 365 days a year, not just on this particular day that the system has to semi acknowledge.........This condition that many fathers have to deal with daily for the next 18 (+) years of his & his child or children's life, is a year round fight or battle whatever you wish to call it, it exist.

To all the fathers THANK YOU! -THANK YOU! being the first line off defense in our lives. -THANK YOU! for chosing to be there for that child, every moment is more important then the last one. -THANK YOU! Do the right thing for us kids even tho we can't always see the right now, God gave you the wisdom to see past feeling and guides us in the way you know what's right. -THANK YOU! for never giving up on life when it beats you up, when it doesn't care how you feel or what your needs are You still find a way to over come them and still make time for your kids just too see them smile. WE AS KIDS CAN'T UNDERSTAND THE POWER OFF A FATHER. A FATHER KEEP HIS CHILDREN FROM DOING 2 THINGS -KEEP HIS DAUGHTER OFF THE POLES! -KEEP HIS SONS FROM BEHIND BARS AND LOCKED UP! THANK YOU FOR BEING THE MEN GOD ASKING YOU TO BECOME FOR THE SAFETY OFF THE NEXT GENERATION!!!

Your story is powerful and emotional...if only that was enough to cause systematic change.

Happy Fathers Day to all the Dad's out there

Not even a third into this vid and once I heard he's in Atlanta, I began thinking, *_"if this doesn't have a happy ending, he should look up TLA: The Lead Attorney, who's a retired 20year divorce attorney in Atlanta that's had a KZread channel since retiring a couple of years ago."_*

@wnttalk

2 жыл бұрын

They're in correspondence🙏🏿

I know JASZ and call him a FRIEND! I watched this MAN go through the PAIN and TORTURE of not being able to see his daughter. I can say that he was stronger than I could have ever been in this situation. He's not just saying this for the camera's, He's a GREAT FATHER who got FUCKED OVER by the Court System. I hope that one day the Court System realizes that they are destroying the relationships between Fathers and their Children. Stay Strong My Brother!!!!!

Not going to lie your channel may be the most amazing channel to learn and understand and possibly help build the black community. Stories like these really should be told and I’m glad you are telling them.

@wnttalk

2 жыл бұрын

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@MidwestBrotha

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree...this Brother n his channel is literally a blessing and how he patient to explain to the women the understanding they need to have....is nothing short of Amazing!!!!

@wnttalk

2 жыл бұрын

@@MidwestBrotha I appreciate you my brother🙏🏿🙏🏿

@MidwestBrotha

2 жыл бұрын

@@wnttalk I appreciate you and your Ministry....u show me I'm not alone with my understanding of life and there's a community of Men like us in the world who totally understand and value GOOD BLACK MEN and just want our women to stop being so blinded n easily manipulate by the Ops!!!

@MrArtifacts205

2 жыл бұрын

That’s facts. I agree 100%. This channel is powerful.

Recently stopped talking with the mother of my child because I just got sick of how little consideration for me she has. Watching this has me wondering if I should just put my head down and learn to accept it before it gets worse. At least the system isn't involved, yet. They will have even less consideration for me.

@thirty-eightandfeelinggrea9739

Жыл бұрын

Love your child more than you dislike her. Men can handle tough people in the workplace; continuing to deal with work. How can you see your child without communication?

@tonileolion9702

11 ай бұрын

Do it for ur child not the mom ! Idk what I would do if my dad wasn’t in my life … we as black little girls and esp the boys need u 😊 make peace ☮️ and push thru for ur child only

@mark01ization

11 ай бұрын

@@tonileolion9702 thanks I'm trying.

@tonileolion9702

11 ай бұрын

@@mark01ization I hope everything works out for u and ur child

I'm glad God graced me enough to marry my kids mother and raised them into adults, she left afterwards, but I didn't care tho, the mission was accomplished, my kids childhood was wonderful, and they tell me all the time, thank you for being a good father to them and a good husband to their mother..

@tonileolion9702

11 ай бұрын

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Wow Powerful ,we need more of this,men telling their side, salute to all the real men who stand hard in the paint for their seeds.

I'm so thankful I don't have kids. Salute brutha! You're a much better man than me.

This touch my soul. Everything he said is is my story. Keep fighting ✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽

Wow! that was really heartfelt. I think that thousands of brothers are going to appreciate that as much as I did. Thank you for sharing your story

My 4 year old son is behind because I am not there. Man… I felt that word: Am I optimistic? No. Not to everything that the child can be. So shameful. So shameful

Powerful. I almost didn't watch this because of the title. I was preparing myself for the same old one-sided misrepresentation of fathers in these situations. Glad that this perspective is being given oxygen. Well done.

@wnttalk

2 жыл бұрын

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This is now your walk my brother. I wish you strength.

You got judges and lawyers who are going through the same bullshit with family courts and they still won't correct it.

Powerful documentary my brother and you know we lift you up, Coz

@wnttalk

2 жыл бұрын

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Realest video I've seen in a minute! So glad I found this channel.

@wnttalk

Жыл бұрын

Welcome aboard!

i guarntee you the mother of his child is gonna make things even harder just because he did this interview.

This is powerful and informative. It's amazing how well the elders tell true stories. Well done brother Obi and brother Jasz..

All of my respect goes to you man. You are in my prayers bro. Stay strong man

Hello, this came upon my feed, I am a Girl Dad of four adult daughters. Thank you for sharing. I will do a live stream reaction video to this video in 2024 on my KZread channel. Blessings!!!

@wnttalk

7 ай бұрын

Thank you brother ✊🏿

I'm Jamaican, and believe this has to be an issue worldwide. 3rd world countries like mine are even more backup and backwards for recourse for men. I myself has chosen not to fight anymore and that's because the cheque are cashed. I buy on average 2 mobile phones per year just to communicate with my child which usually works for a month or two then complete silence. His grandmother or his mother's mother is my window into his life thank God for her and I take comfort in knowing he's cared for regardless. I'm will not fight further! Its too much. I am not an average man, I'm positioned in a higher tax bracket than most and still powerless.

This is great work! Thank you for showing a side that people rarely see or choose to ignore.

Mah nigga just told ALL our baby momma story

@SweetUareDesi

3 ай бұрын

But why are you impregnating women that you never take care of??? Why are u on CS?

I feel this brother pain my son mom duck me over but i fight like hell. Luckily i was able to see my son every day even tho the court system says every other weekend... Sound like my brother went in without a lawyer never never do that... I made that mistake but about 5 years later i went back with a lawyer then the tables was turned..... The system treat good father's like deadbeat dad's they don't care....

I can so speak to this. It hurts just thinking about it.

This is a battle worth fighting for. This type of thing seriously messes with the soul, but it's what makes us men. She's a part of you so never give up. thank you for sharing what so many of us deal with in silence.

I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much and God bless you!

I'm accustomed to hearing stories like this. All around the country it's the same old same

My father is not into Father’s Day but I will always celebrate Father’s Day with him or call him because I’m proud to be his son and I am lucky to have him and a mother that I love dearly who understands that a father is important in a child’s life

Watching now! Can’t wait!

I appreciate this but the judges should have to watch this and stories like it.

I'm not a father but, Thank you.

I am so happy he didn't give in to the system and ex-wife that are trying to keep him from his daughter. I wonder how different I would be if my father had been allowed to be a part of my life. Fathers matter.

Keep fighting and I know you will

Thanks!

Thankyou for this interview these stories hep me navigate what I want my first mother to be and what I want to be as a father you and dr t Hassan Johnson are so damn necessary g frfr

Legendary Earwax!!! Jasz is a good dude

This channel has given me so much knowledge of things that aren’t spoken of that should be spoken of. This makes me not want to have children because we as BM are extremely undervalued as fathers , or just good men in general.

Oh this is gorgeous, I see the vision

I’m not built for that type of stress. Physical pain; fighting yes. But the psychological torture, nah. I thank God he didn’t put those burdens on me. Left that man with an empty child room. I’d rather not have kids at all than play the custody battle hop scotch with some disgruntled ex.

With how my job is I have my son for half the year and I have it documented that it’s been the case well before Court was in the picture but the court put me down as every other weekend so she would get the max amount of 💰. My son his own room toys and closet full of clothes at my home but thanks to court and the system I’m at the mothers mercy when it comes to how much involvement and influence I have on my son. The same thing also ruined my relationship with my older child.

I'm trying really hard to not be the guy who snaps. But I'm failing and I don't know how this is going to manifest.

SALUTE, I appreciate this.💪✊✌️

@wnttalk

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿thank you

@PROFESSOR_SEVEN

2 жыл бұрын

@@wnttalk 🙏🤲

Talking about real pain

This is sad to say the least but it happens to women too. I was retired military and me and my ex divorced when my children were 2. He decided to start drugs in our marriage and abandoned the children for 5 years. When he found himself interested in another relationship he decided to paint a picture as if I kept him from the children. He then got free legal aid and took me to court to get his visitation. I had to purchase my own lawyer and they granted him visitation. He then continued to find ways to try to take me to court over. Thousands of dollars were spent on my end. Like when the boys had activities on the weekends that he was scheduled to have them he would try to hurt me through inconveniencing them and keeping them from participating. Keep in mind this man did absolutely nothing for 5 years and he still could control the narrative. Of course my children were upset and I couldn’t explain to them in a way that made sense but the courts continued to cater to him. I was the custodial parent and he was upset that he had to pay child support so he would illegally carry them on his taxes and the court held him in contempt due to it. He then started to avoid visitation since his motive was wrong anyway and that hurt the children worse. It tore me apart at how the courts went out of their way to give him a chance to do right by his children but his whole goal was to torment me because I should’ve taken abuse and never divorced him. After years of this I started hearing that the stepmom was physically abusive and I simply shared it with him. She then tried threatening me and so on. After the next time and getting in a altercation with her I was taken to jail because the woman said I pulled a gun on her. Now I had a gun on me that she saw in my holster however she got what she wanted and I had to sit in jail for three days. I was in school to be a registered nurse and as stressful as it was I was able to graduate however getting my children back wasn’t as easy as this man explains that the court system caters to the mother. I was humiliated due to this and it delayed testing for me but my experience was totally different.

Am a Ghanaian 🇬🇭 and feel bad that a sister did that to you. Sounds like she’s one of them opportunist. Got to hear the whole story on both sides but sorry bro.

To all of the women who have alienated a father from his child or have made him a weekend dad. I would like to know if you have ever thought about what affects that would have on a whole generation of children who have gone through this also? Could at least one of you answer that question?

My ex wanted every other week. I personally told him I don't believe in a set schedule for year's on. He chose to leave our marriage with ideas of many women. Emotionally I made the physical decision 20yrs it was never my values. Sadly I know and told him he is giving up his family for a dream. That was his dream. I know he loves his daughters and is a hard worker. so know to support his daughters pay me and his expensive taste he worked 3 jobs he has less time now. The reality. If he wants the kids I never say no he personally is not unloving to his kids. I find many of our men are just loving to the women that birth them. It is fascinating and a paradox really. Having to separate your emotions of trauma from a relations and still parent is very very hard.

For you passport men. He literally married a woman from Ghana, brought her here to the states. And she still turned against him!

I out put my triggers in a box. Which comes out in different ways. But my girls they need a good father and luckily he is one. They say they want to go to their dads I don't fight it. They call and say can we come over.if he is not working fine. Also really we as women can't do it alone It was never meant to be that way. Fathers are important, I really wish most men realized it truly. Some men want to be visitors and pop in. If I was a man I would never consciously create an environment where women want to lead and I can't protect my kids. I see men chase pipe dream and play in the streets looking for broken women. But when you leave your house You just leave your daughters and sons for predators who see your kids as broken. Look at all these men dressing as women no understanding of of they are about or being proud of being boys.

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I always break down the origin of a word or phrase to it's core. * There would be no dead beat dad if a woman wouldn't be so reckless with her baby maker and the the donor of the DNA. Period.

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Trying to make sense of it will drive you insane if you're not strong. I know the feeling! I developed (Hypertension)! I'm in pretty good shape physically. But the constant wondering was leading me to an (Early Grave)! Fighting for something i love was killing me.

Facts

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This is not a black or white thing, this is Man challenging the Government to take back our rightful position in our children's lives. Let's fight!

Where can I watch the full video? Are you releasing it in the near future? Or is this being produced by someone else?

@wnttalk

2 жыл бұрын

Its still a work in progress

So even an African woman will willingly participate in this broken system???

@TheSockbottom

2 жыл бұрын

The witchcraft in those Ghanaians is very toxic. She used him for a visa full stop

@stinkreezy2791

2 жыл бұрын

Them African women can't wait to come over here and kiss the Wm ass

@serrahighsfinest

2 жыл бұрын

Yup.

@Obizzie

2 жыл бұрын

Most women from any culture would. Women are the same. American culture and system incentives it.

@WhoDeanyUnchained

2 жыл бұрын

@@Obizzie hey Obi 👋🏿

Men should start being responsible for who they lay with. Period

@501Caution

2 жыл бұрын

Lmao! That doesn't matter! Long as the system is thier corner.

Why don’t us men fight the family law system and divorce laws. We need to change the system

Man this shit is sad, the way stand up black men are treated is ridiculous, it seems no matter what we do it's not appropriated

I don’t think I can watch this... I’m at my desk at work and... I

#ProtectYourSeed #MostWomenAreEvil...but I honor those that still have hope...the bad news is hope ain't a plan...smh

It's almost like the people in charge of the system want these outcomes 🤔.

Black men matter but most of all black fathers matter. I would never dream of keeping the kids away from my husband if we never got a divorce. It warms my heart when he walks thru the door and the kids run to him for hugs and kisses. In my heart, I know we are forever protected by his presence alone in our home. This story is heartbreaking and you see so many situations like this play out in court. And I agree just because the woman Carry the child does not make her the better parent. Black families have been under attack since the 1980s and black women need to wake up and auto correct or black families will be stories told in history books.

The post I’m about to add below is one I wrote for another channel so pardon the tone. It was in response to a KZreadr talking about a young beautiful African woman dancing on the internet and how she got so much hate from other women because of all of the attention men are giving her. I think my commentary is relevant here too but I won’t reinvent the wheel . I’ll copy and paste it below . The tone is different than I would normally use for this channel because HERE you profess to be trying to come to a solution for black relationships. Please give grace to the tone of this post because it wasn’t created for this channel although it’s relevant. I posted this originally just a few minutes ago on a “messy” channel but there are valid points here that are worth sharing . Karma =The results many males get when they try to get a beautiful woman like this to listen to them , keep a peaceful home , raise their daughters and sons to continue a legacy that anybody will remember. Imagine sis teaching your baby daughters how to do that thang to get her “a good man” like you . She’ll train your seed up real good . Look at the bright side : You will probably have good bedroom action though and that’s IF you can keep your mind off her body count . *i only refer to it as karma because that’s what many of you call it buts it’s really the spiritual law of sowing and reaping That NO MAN can bypass in the world so y’all need to radically accept that . Karma - your forefathers cheated and often left his black woman and his children for side chicks or he couldn’t stop cheating because he lacked sexual discipline. He left your mothers for the side chicks and created whole other families . The black man has rewarded the side chick so much that you’ve created a whole generation of them MEANING .. even if they aren’t actually someone’s sidechick they have sidechick characteristics and qualities and NOT the wife qualities y’all want . You see.. your forefathers forced black wives to choose between forced polygamy (because the men weren’t getting rid of those side chicks ) or having to get out here and BOSS UP. Boss up they did. Be clear- FEMINISM would not have been able to tempt the black woman ONE BIT if she felt SECURE with the black man . So now MALES you have two types of women to choose from : 1. THE BOSS B who was raised by the wives that your forefathers trashed for sidechicks OR 2. The women who were raised by sidechicks and taught the ways of how to lure a black man from his family- “Get out there and shake it girl ! That man will be yours in no time . Forget his wife and kids . How do think I got your dad ? “ we’re not together anymore but I got all the child support I needed for us to have a good life because he was RICH !! “ now you go out and do the same thing . “ Blame your forefathers! Y’all are living in the KARMA they created for you . Whereas they CHOSE to exercise their options (lack of sexual discipline) and have the women they wanted .. Yall are now FORCED into involuntary celibacy because out of ALLLLL these fine women out here y’all don’t trust ANY of them to be a good wife because YOU KNOW they’re not wife material. The ones your forefathers trashed for sidechicks WERE good women .but the black men lacked discipline over his body . Connecting with those witches on a sexual level lured the black man out of his home - out of his rightful place . Some of them even started families with the sidechick. One statistic I never here some of y’all talk about when it comes to men leaving their wives and getting new “better” ones is this : what percent of those relationships with the new woman actually last? ESPECIALLY if that new woman was an option you exercised .. *the Bible LITERALLY tells you all how these side relationships will end . It’s all in there but y’all don’t want no parts of the Bible though and still trying to figure things out that have already been settled and are LEGIT surprised and baffled, frustrated and concerned with these results . Humanity without God is just foolish. Open your Bible . Smh Y’all need to THINK DEEPER! This current situation is one the black men created. These booty shaking girls on the internet (that y’all won’t marry but will act like they’re the better woman ) Be clear : black men in the couple of generations before you gave their attention and their seed to women outside of their marriages to good women … think Coretta Scott So now feminism got a hold of your women . There are some black MEN who have decided that only one WOMAN is worthy of their sexual attention , Their last name AND to carry their legacy in their wombs.. THOSE MEN … WILL GET … A GOOD WIFE . *think Anton Daniels from the Lapeef Network Some of the rest of y’all will be very SAD and in a REAL predicament in 25- 30 years if you don’t REVERSE what your forefathers did. MOST Black WOMEN will NOT accept or RESPECT a man who exercises his options. Period . She’d rather buy a dog and die alone . And the women who WILL accept polygamy, which is what many men are essentially asking for ,still won’t satisfy you . You’ll be forever seeking and NEVER satisfied because the several women won’t be enough . That’s the karma of it all . It’s happening right now . You’ve had all the women you’ve wanted . You’ve run through them (labeling them for the streets after you do )… and you all STILL can’t find one you want as MANY beautiful women as there are out here , you men can find NOT ONE that you trust to carry your name or seed. So you decide to be involuntary celibate.. y’all don’t see the IRONY in this? The irony in not being able to choose a wife from the thousands of women that you all CLAIM are “better” than the women you don’t want ??? MAKE THAT MAKE SENSE. It’s karma. You males need to go back and check with DADDY, Granddaddy, and Great Granddaddy and ask them why they taught y’all that it’s okay to dip out on your wives with certain women and then call those women trash names or worse - leave your wives and families for those women and end up looking sap in 10-15 years or less . They taught y’all in the barbershop that it was okay to get a little somethin somethin on the side although you have a wife and family but what they DID NOT tell you was the CONSEQUENCE. Y’all are living in the consequence. So you need to be the MEN and change course . But it seems to me men are looking to women to fix the black community. It starts with MEN and it has always started with MEN. Women will come alongside and help and women DEFINITELY have work to do but if y’all don’t start being MEN it’s only going to get worse for men. Women are at the point of acceptance. Peace is better than polygamy.. period. Y’all have to choose from the women who are willing to accept polygamy. The Anton Daniels of the world will be blessed with good wives . It’s WEAK to look to women to fix a problem in the black dating community and it’s hypocritical.. Black man you need to stand up and take a good LONG look at what your forefathers created because of their lack of sexual discipline. It destroyed the black home and left the black WIFE to fend for herself and her for her children.. while sidechick over there “seemingly “ winning . It’s crazy . Y’all need to stop talking so much and start THINKING!!!!

I hope he doesn't face increased adversity from his ex behind this video.

being “allowed” to be in your child’s life smh that’s crazy

This channel is going place love the work. However with the wishes off the own off this platform only black ppl who want to date and be with other black ppl, so since am date Spanish woman I will succeed and move on and with this platform all the best...

But would he had listened to Kevin Samuel before his experience?

Although the im the product of a deadbeat dad I do not use those words loosely to define all men not in their childrens lives. I’ve worked with dads who were literally mister mom’s when they had their kids only to hear how their BM talked about them around people who didn’t know I had the connection. It was blatant lies as I actually saw the things he did for his kids since we would kick it from time to time and work closely everyday. I knew he washed all their clothes before returning them to their mom when she would drop them off with nothing. I saw him prepare meals and enroll them on activities and profess his love for them in public, all while his paycheck was getting docked very heavily just as of he was a deadbeat. It’s hard to see a grown man take home $400 dollars after working 2 weeks before you’ll think something needs to change. These are the stories that get overshadowed by the pookies and ray rays.

Most criminals have single moms from homes on welfare and live in crime ridden areas… the judicial system would be halved without the fatherless doing its bidding. They know this and continue to let it happen so more people can be employed

Its high treason to question our mother's as black people....

My man was in the right tryin to build a healthy black but he slipped up from the very start when picked a woman thats tryna ""escape"" from her homeland not move for future character growth an development but ""escape""................thats a serious red flag that he failed to spot in his youth.............

damn shame

It is a spiritual attack on men but men you also have to be selective with your seeds. Let God choose your spouse and please don’t have sex out of wedlock. There are consequences for being out of God’s will period.

What I consider deadbeat are the 1s who leave the woman and decide to leave the child too. And the woman has to keep trying to get him to come get the child, call, talk etc or else they don't. My child's father is excellent and I pray that he would continue should we ever part ways.

Let me start by saying that I believe this man is a good man and my commentary is NOT directed at him specifically but we HAVE TO START THINKING DEEPER ,black men . THINK! When we have failed at something (like two marriages) I’m noticing a pattern amongst SOME black men ,not all : It never fails . The conversation defaults to pointing the finger at 1. The court system 2. The black woman and/or 3. Slavery. Watch how often the conversation goes in that direction the closer it gets to a black man having to take accountability for the failings in his family . We need to stop that .. RIGHT NOW. My brother in the video said (paraphrasing) that the court system is where the whole family dynamic gets convoluted . No. It starts long before that, black man . In a right relationship dynamic, with GOD at the head, speaking from personal experience, the court doesn’t even HAVE TO BE and SHOULD NOT BE INVOLVED in your family dynamic. That’s the result of situation YOU helped to create. We have to stop the victim Olympics. No blaming “the court “ for your family breakdown. Your family was broken and YALL approached the court with Y’all’s family business. The court would LOVE to just sign OFF on an agreement YOU came to with your wife before you even stepped foot on the courthouse steps . The court was over sitting over there minding its own business and YOU brought your family down there and said please tell us what to do because YOU CHOSE to plant your seed in a disagreeable woman when you (at some point) likely already had a good wife according to how you refer to your first wife as “my wife.” Don’t blame the court . The court didn’t know anything about you or YOUR family and would RATHER you work out issues of custody and care of your children amongst your ADULT selves. How is it acceptable for a man to blame anyone BUT HIMSELF for the failing of his family dynamic? This is a failing mindset.. men need to break free from it . Own your stuff, black men . You do not want to accept the consequences or CALL out the consequences for your lack of sexual discipline. Black men need to REPENT and turn back to FAITHFULNESS to their wives and families or else y’all are doomed . I can’t say it any plainer . This brother is blessed to be able to say he’s a great father and his children are blessed to have him because it sounds like he really IS a great father but we’re not going to sit here and pretend that a greater father is one that is IN the home WITH the mother covering and protecting his wife and children all the days of his life . I find it interesting how he referred to his sons’ mother as his wife before going on to refer to his second wife . I address this in a post below . The post I’m about to add below is one I wrote for another channel so pardon the tone. It was in response to a KZreadr talking about a young beautiful African woman dancing on the internet and how she got so much hate from other women because of all of the attention men are giving her. I think my commentary is relevant here too but I won’t reinvent the wheel . I’ll copy and paste it below . The tone is different than I would normally use for this channel because HERE you profess to be trying to come to a solution for black relationships. Please give grace to the tone of this post because it wasn’t created for this channel although it’s relevant. I posted this originally just a few minutes ago on a “messy” channel but there are valid points here that are worth sharing .

It’s a lot if bitter woman wanting to be all that their fathers weren’t and more

I don't think this is the majority of women. My kids spend time with their dads. I think men don't realize for women attaching to men via false promises of love or when men really hurt a women and do some messed up stuff, it is hard for that women to feel adjacent to that or said man. I am not saying that is his experience. This is why it's so important to be honest in the intention with a women. Some men want the baby but not the mother. Some women keep the baby but don't want to see you around because they feel tricked. How can I compare it is like a man sleeping with someone they though was a women but turns out they are trans. Again I am not saying this is his experience. I am saying it is emotionally hard for women to share something so sacred as their womb and it is foreverrrrrr. I think many men especially in the blk community say I can hurt you deeply then it is simple just put your angst and fears to the side. Emotions are not simple, fear or anxiety to a mother makes you want hold your kid close. This is why if people want to part be honest. Don't try to brainwash someone to staying. It is import that you choose a mate carefully and have shared values. People have different values.

@youmeanblackamericanculture

2 жыл бұрын

some of your statements seemed like rationalizing your desire( clearly not the actions you have taken, and thank you) to use the child to hold a man accountable for hurting you. honestly, I just thought you were bitter but if it is truly how a man feels if we were tricked into a relationship with a trans I can empathize. I have a follow-up question? if we are tricked into a trans relationship, for me it would be like being raped and your manhood snatched from you. it would permanently scar us and cause us to probably want to lash out at similar people to the fraudster. it would mean some one stealing a decision that a lot of us would under no circumstances make. can you say that you feel all this and more if not can you explain the difference? thanks

@cvzdez

2 жыл бұрын

@@youmeanblackamericanculture I do feel like that. I just stop talking to men. I just have become okay with being alone. Sadly I find a lot of men think doing this is okay. The bar especially in the bok community is in hell. The culture at large in the US is in hell. Popular Culture is so degenerate. Look at a future engaged to a women then doogs her out. Also I figure if my husband could treat me like that what are the odds of another man not seeing my daughter as prey. I just don't see the benefits in possibly exposing my kids to another man who may. Be shisty on a hope. I heard a man online say single mom's are easy prey. In my self autonomy I do things happy for me. It's weird because I am heterosexual. Maybe I will get over that one day. But if I am honest when I was younger I saw do many older women who never remarry or get into relationships. Women we can get to a place where men can remove all our desires. I don't see the incentive. I am happy I have a bug family. I have friends. My life is actually stress free I go on vacations Free festivals with my kids Enjoy my kids my cousins. I am good with having relationships. I am a good person loving. Not everyone deserves your attention. I'm my best friend I guard my peace of mind and spirit like fort Knox.

@cvzdez

2 жыл бұрын

@@youmeanblackamericanculture if you really think about it a lot of women leave the market. I know women who haven't have sx for year's Women we shut down when we are scared or unsafe. Got must have made it our fail safe to bring in kids in a safe environment.

@youmeanblackamericanculture

2 жыл бұрын

@@cvzdez thanks for the reply, can you describe in detail more of the parallels you see or feel are relevent in relation to a man deceiving you or the relationship not working out being similar to a man being tricked by a trans person? I'm curious because that example opened my mind to the possibility that it may be something large I'm missing with how women view relationships breaking up. I personal think my response would be explosive to say the least if that had some how happened to me , I appreciate you detailing, how you reached the decision in regards to removing your self from the dating pool to protect your child from the way you perceive men that makes since logically if you perceive men as predators in the way you described. Do you think that the leaving the dating market for the older woman may also more closely align with the available dating pool drastically decreasing and the change now makes giving up more attractive or realistic? And if you don't mind what age did you make the decision to leave,?. Sorry for being intrusive I'm really a curious person

@cvzdez

2 жыл бұрын

@@youmeanblackamericanculturewhen their kids in these relationships and You want to leave but your think of your kids and the bonds they need. So now you are not listening your intuition. The one thing God gave you to heed off danger.

Is this what raising a child that doesn’t live with u look like? 👀 Most men will have to settle for this in the communitah it seems like Let’s not even mention if you’re lucky enough to have an intact family, the whole block is a block full of single moms, now they have influence over your girl smh

He speaks of how "the system doesn't care". I agree and this is why it's futile to engage with ANY western woman. It's conditioning (behavior) as well as the laws that disenfranchise men & father's rights.

@Harold10ful

2 жыл бұрын

I am extremely careful about using the term "Deadbeat" on a man fully knowing how majority of the time most men don't just "walk away". Many of which are pushed out or even banned from their children through horrid manipulation. Each case by case situation is different especially knowing how women have the microphone and men do not. Especially knowing how the court system is. I don't use that term lightly. Happy Father's Day to all the good brothers out there, from full custody to estranged/alienated. Blessings to you all.

The system the women can careless about the child

You are an antichrist if you don't provide for your child. A man is not a man if he is willing to deny his own child. He is wicked. Have nothing to do with the wicked. Fathers who deny their child/children; are they going to Hell? Yes, if they do not repent. Timothy 5:8 "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." There are no unbelievers in Heaven. Go make peace with your child What does God say about this? 1Timothy 5:8, KJV Psalm 27:10, KJV Ephesians 6:4, KJV Titus 3: 10-11, KJV Deuteronomy 31:8, KJV Proverbs 22:6, KJV Colossians 3:21, KJV “So to a man who is a stranger and yet my father I say this: “Go to hell.” But, he’s already there, isn’t he?” - Lashanda Matlock

I’m not sure how he attributes her failure in 1st grade to his absence due to not being allowed to see her... those young years are “traditionally” the mothers portion of accountability wether the child can read or not and her sociability. The fact that she failed the first grade is her MOTHERS fault not the fathers inability to see her. But that selfless and unjustified accountability on his own part entails men’s true nature: taking the blame where no blame is due, such as Adam being held accountable for Eve’s rebellious actions to take it upon herself to prepare a dish of the doctrines of serpents...

@pjbpiano

2 жыл бұрын

He said that because he knows his ex wife is not someone who can teach his daughter.

@thePraddagee

2 жыл бұрын

@@pjbpiano perhaps not, but traditionally it’s still her responsibility. You can argue that today it’s not because both parents have to work. But in a traditional sense the man works and the woman tends to the early development of the child. The father steps in to teach the child how to be a man/woman etc. at a certain stage. A man can’t breast feed and spend all his time coddling a toddler from infancy to 1st grade; he has to provide. So the child’s early development falls upon the woman’s responsibility. That is her JOB.

Here's the truly sad part of his story, there are BM who if they had to choose between his outcome, and either no kids or kids with another phenotype, they would "accept" his. The [emasculated] cruelty was & still is the point, it's Chess not Checkers.

What is this propaganda 😂 10:09 Let see his past LE run ins. Is he mentally delayed? 10:56 really sir😂

How was he "kept" from his daughter? If he knocked on his ex-wife's door everyday and asked/demanded to see his daughter, he would seen her. If he showed up every morning to take his daughter to school, the ex-wife would have finally relented and he would have been taking the daughter to school. How/why was he prevented from being with the child? The mother did not abscond with the child and go back to Ghana! I take what this guy says with a grain of salt. He is/was pissed because he had to pay child support and had to cooperate/interact with his ex-wife! He wanted to have total control and economic freedom from the ex-wife and the court did not do that, so he made little effort to require his ex-wife to keep him in the picture. He pouted like an immature person does. Because of his limited "fame", he expected to be acquiesced to. The court ( and his ex) did not do that. AND.... If he was waiting on his ex-wife to bring the child to him, then that was an unreasonable expectation for a woman who had just divorced you. He was not proactive. This man is a cop-out. This is weakness filled with excuses.

@quettarichard6693

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾

@julianbroughton

2 жыл бұрын

Why are you talking like you know his ex personally 🤔? You don't know their situation, so where is all this conviction coming from? I'll admit this is a he said she said thing but he hasn't given us a reason to doubt his word. Get out of here with that bs.

@christophermayfield6

2 жыл бұрын

@@quettarichard6693 no accountability

@srhenderson

2 жыл бұрын

what took you so long simp-suka-bitch? we were wondering when you were gonna show up.

@top_tier2920

2 жыл бұрын

@Worthamway Man, there are numerous women out here who would love to call the police and claim he is “harassing/stalking them” and then get a Domestic Violence/Restraining Order by a father doing exactly as you said. Very Bad advice. And then this man would be arrested, and completely lose all father daughter time period for the many years to come into the future. And now the child’s mother has the child for more time and thus mother ends up getting more money in child support (Dissomaster court child support calculator). And if the mother really wants to be evil, she can say she felt threatened and wants the father to take 1-2 years worth of paid anger management classes 2-4 sessions every month. ($$ per session). Just walking up to the mothers house who may dislike you and is the worst advice possible. God forbid her new boyfriend lives there too…that is an altercation waiting to happen. A few months ago it was all over social media in TX when the dad of the child showed up to the ex/mothers house and the new boyfriend shot him with a shotgun.