If someone does all of that, I just move on. I just assume they aren’t mentally really for a relationship 🤔

@user-tk4uz9ti9l

Жыл бұрын

And you are right to assume that. Good for you.

@Mt.Moonface

Жыл бұрын

You are healthy minded. Bravo.

@mbilemagret2872

Жыл бұрын

Yes

@cateatfood6634

Жыл бұрын

Yup.

@melvingaldamez1464

Жыл бұрын

😂 you are REALLY NOT interested in him. Because this is psychologically proven works for every brain. Is like that stupid bad habit that you cannot quit no matter how you try. Be real please!

The darkest is loving them fully , then leaving them .

@kim6314

Жыл бұрын

But karma works....what if someone they truly love did this to them too...they will regret playing on someone

@Queen_Kenara_Music

Жыл бұрын

Exactly my boi🌸😫

@soleil7259

Жыл бұрын

​@@kim6314 Saw that happening. It's all a matter of time. Let the universe work for you.

@asmitachatterjee5146

Жыл бұрын

Yes, till date nothing beats that! 😂

@KoiAi_

Жыл бұрын

Yes, my ex husband did it to me.

People, don’t do this. Because if the other person happens to be better than you at these games, you’ll be cursed!

@Rose-nw9mg

9 ай бұрын

Yes. I have noticed that anyone that does me wrong they get it pretty bad. This is why we shouldn’t play with people’s emotions, but they’ll only learn through experiences. Unless of course they have some sort of mental illness.

@afiyaparween9254

5 ай бұрын

What if the other person starts the game

@TheMediaMachine

4 күн бұрын

@@afiyaparween9254 Don't play it. Move on. Shut it all down. Block, give no attention, remove them from your social media, phone, everywhere,.

This works on anxious and codependent people! A healthy person would never fall for this and cut ties with you in a blink of an eye!

@jennyk9484

Ай бұрын

Ugh....this is me...I have extreme anxiety and codependent..dangit 😢

@BryonLee

4 күн бұрын

Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes

When you realise that you re the one whom unconstiently doing these things is next level toxicity😬

@frogonthebikeheh

Жыл бұрын

Man... are you sociopath by any chance?

@JF59122

Жыл бұрын

Question, why do I resent people who like me?

@sidin4167

Жыл бұрын

​@@JF59122 maybe because you have trust issues

@JF59122

Жыл бұрын

@@sidin4167 oh

@thesevenkingswelove9554

Жыл бұрын

​@@JF59122 you probably don't like yourself or are afraid once you get close to them they will leave you like others.

If someone ghosts you. Delete and block them ... leave them in the rear view mirror and never look back.

@tiktik7608

Жыл бұрын

Agreed

@Paola01.

Жыл бұрын

I second that 💁🏻‍♀️💋 bye, bye!

@solithel

Жыл бұрын

I'm in the wrong in this I feel bad

@p.c.37

Жыл бұрын

Amen.🎈

@u.r.my.addict

Жыл бұрын

apologies, i get busy with work and often end up loosing contact with some friends. eg. tho i have 5 friends, i have only time for 2 or max 3. how can i be better friend

If someone is doing this intentionally or intentionally they aren't emotionally ready for a full filling relationship to the person on the receiving end u are worth more.

@ghayazali660

8 ай бұрын

But it works

@Unbotheredbythat

Ай бұрын

Exactly, insecure and weird.

Bro & sis ,never let too much energy into anything or anyone. Be adaptable & grounded. Focus on yourself 🤗

@Me_di

Жыл бұрын

Wise words

@Johannore

9 ай бұрын

That's the lesson learned by getting the heart broken. If it's really smashed maybe once is enough to learn.

@bena.189

7 ай бұрын

Some people feel good to destroy others by acting they love them .

@TechieAhmadYT

7 ай бұрын

@@Johannore they kill the Innocence in you

@TechieAhmadYT

7 ай бұрын

@@bena.189 ego boost.... It's a strange world we live in🥲

I was a victim of the first one. It caused me severe depression and anxiety. I even became suicidal. I believe myself lucky because I could move on from that toxic person.

@Labyrinthine_Complexities

Жыл бұрын

Praise be, for you are free from those shackles now.

@kionkasoka4964

Жыл бұрын

you're not alone.. that was me too. I'm happy you were able to move on and I hope you're doing okay now.

@kluv420

Жыл бұрын

How did u move on ? I'm stuck in a bad situation and I'm so scared of them I'm even affraid to leave yet they tell me to leave then next day they tell me to stay it's making me sick also no sex wtf 😒

@kluv420

Жыл бұрын

@@bbbybby7703 I could end the relationship if my family let me stay in one of the many spare bedrooms they have all within 5-20 minutes from were I am please pray this doesn't seem right 👍👍👍 help 😭😭😭😭

@NO_MEANING_98

Жыл бұрын

I feel this struggle.. despite the time it has passed. Even a flicker of a memory will turn on my ankiety..

nah if someone does this to me i just ignore them. 💀

@csc8697

Жыл бұрын

I do too.

@studianon8580

Жыл бұрын

Unless it's someone you like in the first place...

@ruthgibson8386

Жыл бұрын

@@studianon8580 But you need to love yourself more and have your bondaries! With this,You will Never fall for those type of tactic.

@IrisFlorentinaA

Жыл бұрын

​@@studianon8580 a fully developed person won't fall for these tricks

@studianon8580

Жыл бұрын

@@IrisFlorentinaA :')

Had someone do this to me, it’s absolutely soul destroying when you truly love them and they willing to take full advantage.. I still don’t think I ever fully recovered was one of my first real loves

@blackjesus5813

4 ай бұрын

Happened to me dog but look up coach kyle…he’ll turn you into a super confident guy

@EdgiB0Do

4 ай бұрын

@@blackjesus5813 thanks I’ll check that out… Got nothing to lose so may aswell try

@lutfunnaher7091

Ай бұрын

It's dangerous..

@user-jj8zt1cv7m

25 күн бұрын

Same here. I don’t think i can fully recover. I attached my self-esteem to his approvals. Which comes after he treats me as invisible and gives me excuses rejecting spending time with me. When i breakup he would beg and give all attention. It was a vicious cycle. All i needed was a stable relationship where there is harmony. Not these cycle of lows and highs. We are finally done. But now I don’t know what “normal” feels like.

I used to study all these techniques but now that i have found a man who has healthy mindset and is pretty straightforward with his emotions and whats on his mind i will never dare to use these techniques because the kind of man he is i know when treated as such will just move on and consider me as one of those toxic woman. Id rather be remembered as someone whos genuine and normal than all these mindgames. At one point in our life, we get tired

Waaiminute I think someone doing that on me 😂😂😂😂

@maddy_666

Жыл бұрын

SAME!?

@madalinanegru6838

Жыл бұрын

Ayo bro, same

@barakatabioye8545

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@Prodigy300

Жыл бұрын

saaame

@DivBelle

Жыл бұрын

Detach detach detach

“Darkest manipulation techniques” 😂 oh it gets a lot darker than that my dear

@garvit6920

Жыл бұрын

🤣

@Uppercase_comic_sans

Жыл бұрын

Name 3

@financialadvisor4you

Жыл бұрын

Name 20.

@ArsonBS

Жыл бұрын

give me all of them

@metalgorilla7865

Жыл бұрын

The worst one I've experienced is a person who tells you ppl they don't even know are fed up with you and hate you causing you to destroy your own friendship/support groups so you're stuck with them wouldn't work on me now I've learnt from it but at the time it was seriously distressing and I had mental health issues over it. Remember even your closest can switch on you important to keep separate friendship groups

There is a saying in Germany, maybe in other regions too, it says: "If you want something, you will find ways. If you do not want something you will find reasons." So... In this context: if someone wants to be with you, he/she will find ways, and not only present weird reasons, why it was not possible.

After falling for both of them in the past year, I can testify that both work exceptionally well. Ghosting, gaslighting, passive-aggressive attitude and what not. A few very brutal lessons were learnt.

I cried watching this, it hurts so much to go through this kind of thing

@TheLovelybbe

Жыл бұрын

Ew

@savera700

Жыл бұрын

😢😢

@waan777

Жыл бұрын

That's why we are (men) singles, we don't want this sh***

@sanikaxo

Жыл бұрын

cry baby 🥴

@ariann9714

10 ай бұрын

I feel you, it hurts and I’m so tired

I don't know, but i only mirror someone's energy. You disappear, i replace you. 😭

@LeratoM98

Жыл бұрын

Lol same. It is the best way to go because there's so many narcissists who want to get power over people through toxic methods like this and they may not even be aware.

@fayeholder5493

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@simpleton2090

Жыл бұрын

Boom

@relentless3727

Жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with that!

@hasnainAli-99

Жыл бұрын

You'll end up alone Merika, be smart about it

I follow the rule “if you don’t have time for me I don’t have time for you”. You can have all the plausible explanations you want but ultimately it’s just a different way of saying I’m too busy for you at which point I would move on.

Those are just "mix pleasure with pain" and "create temptation" in Robert greene's book the art of seduction btw.

Oh holy fuk....the guy I'm literally obsessed with did this to mee💀

@jiyashukla9265

Жыл бұрын

Ikr happened the same with me ,it’s been a year and I’m still obsessed

@PriyaSingh-ip9wd

Жыл бұрын

Same

@draft6251

Жыл бұрын

That's what you get for being a 304

@nidhia6925

Жыл бұрын

What is Holy F..!?? Nonsense

@kim6314

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

"I am focusing on myself " this is the excuse a guy gave me 2 months back.. i didn't text him since then. Even deleted all contacts. The other day someone asked his name, I had trouble remembering his name. These tricks works on someone who cares even a little. For someone like me, it hardly gonna do anything

@mojojojo9778

Жыл бұрын

Same happen to me 5 months back It hurts to me A lot he said i have my time, i hardly talk to girls, I know myself what kind of person i am So i give up with an apology Note. I know that apology Hasnothing means to this guy But i do bcz still I wanna make a good impression of mine at end...😂

Toxicity, emotional, and psychological abuse...got it!!!

This hit very close to home. I don't like to admit this but while I was working at a past job, I found myself quite obsessive over another coworker. He knew I liked him and he took me on a date, but then didn't tell me he wasn't interested and started being interested in other people. I realized that he was interested in other people but it really messed with my head and I had a very unhealthy attachment. He began irgnoring me but it only made me feel worse. If I ever think someone might be unhealthfully attached to me, I'll be super mindful not to do anything that could potentially lead them on and tell them right away that I just see them as a friend. I won't text them a lot and call them and I also won't ignore them (still be friendly if I can). If he remained friendly while also definining his boundaries, I would have understood what was happening. Sure, it's my fault, but I realize that sometimes we have deep rooted traumas and attachment styles that can get in the way without us even realizing it.

@zeebebany

9 ай бұрын

This is exactly what I'm going through right now. My co worker and I were really good friends and we spoke every day for last 6 months, even on weekends. He used to compliment me and ask me to hang out, overall very caring and understanding guy. One day I confessed my feelings to him and he said he only liked me as a friend😢. He's stopped talking to me over call and chats, but when I see him at work he still compliments me and takes all his breaks with me and behaves the same as before. I'm so confused and it really hurts😢😢😢😢

@sevrinaanastasia

9 ай бұрын

I'm sorry you're going through that! I had to stop talking to my past coworker as I drove him away with my obsession (understandably) but if I can give you any advice, it would be to accept the fact he sees you as a friend and to distance yourself from your coworker (even just some) for you're own well being. If you can be ok with truly being just friends with him, that's great but if you need to space yourself and focus on making healthy relationships/building the friendships you already have, I would advice you to do this for YOU. Life is too short to torture ourselves with what we think we want but can't have. Just remember that if he only sees you as a friend, that's ok. because there are going to be a lot of people out there who will adore spending time with you and want to be with you for YOU. @@zeebebany

Ghosting is the biggest mistake one can do to me . He will not exist anymore . I've always been like this . THERE IS NO PLACE FOR GAMES.

He did this Exactly with me but I left him and now he is the obsessed one 🤣😂🤣 omg I knew he was a narcissist

@soleil7259

Жыл бұрын

It's called energy shifting. Some people like to be runned after and as soon as it stops, the energy shifts so they run after the person to get their attention back.

@user-yv3lh9fb9p

Жыл бұрын

How do you guys can leave someone so easily. It's hard for me to leave him even though he is the reason why I cried, had so much pain. he literally destroyed my life. He is the biggest manipulator and narcissist I have ever seen. But I just can't leave him and move on

@Leroyscaand

Жыл бұрын

Women like your make men think all women are street walkers

@thetruthisoutthereyt

Жыл бұрын

Really? Sounds like pot and kettle.

@thetruthisoutthereyt

Жыл бұрын

@@user-yv3lh9fb9pwatch this video more than once and meditate upon it. You are already recovering what is happening to you. Concentrate not on what you think he is doing but upon how you are reacting. You can control you.

I can't stop thanking you enough Dr OLUWASEUN for bringing back my lover you are the best😊

@Rose_ben

6 ай бұрын

On Facebook page

@Prince_of_Omashu

5 ай бұрын

​@@Rose_benEwu😂😂

Simp men who are in the friend zone and still hanging around should hear this.

I'm 28 and I already feel like I don't wanna be in a relationship. You meet someone you like they don't like you back, you meet someone that like you and you be like na I don't like them. Relationships are just tiring especially if you also trying to grow as in individual in terms of career and mental.

@hera09azalea

Жыл бұрын

Damnn...it's exactly the same with me...if a person likes me back i just get disinterested in that person..i know it's weird..but that's just the case! It's like you are interested in that person bec they seem like a challenge to you...and once they like you back ..the challenge is over..and so is the connection!

@theunknownseed

Жыл бұрын

@@hera09azalea fr, it's just gets more and more complicated 🤦‍♀️

@hera09azalea

Жыл бұрын

@@theunknownseed exactly

@elinhanks5698

Жыл бұрын

I don't even have the nerves to try to get to know them, its tiring and the end result is always nothing. So yeah its better to stay single

@elinhanks5698

Жыл бұрын

​@@hera09azalea im smelling commitment issues, same same

If you love yoursef enough, you'll be outta the cycle in no time

@123millionMrt

Жыл бұрын

No cap💯

@alanhaigh9682

Жыл бұрын

Hmmmm okay mind hunter

I just realized my boyfriend that I’m totally in love with, has been constantly “having to do work areound the house” and I’d wait for hours for him to get back, and when he did he’d use a plausible explanation! And it’s this weird feeling because after 2 days of doing it I’m almost obsessed? And it’s crazy cause I’ve never felt like that for someone

The first one is a biggest turn off for me.. If a guy does this to me I will automatically lost interest in him bcos my self respect and peace of mind is more important than anything yeah after getting with it more than I can bear, for 2nd one, I prioritize my time and emotions if someone cant be be with me then plz go away.

Abusers do this. Run away from them. It's gross. Mind games are immature. They do not change for anyone but, themselves and you will not change them at all.

@happy9110

8 ай бұрын

She is basically explaining Love bombing But the sad part she is porous of it

Sounds like the narcissist I dealt with. I gave him so many chances, but I knew he was lying. He was addicting. I finally broke free, it also helped that he moved out of the building that I lived in. Ladies and Gentlemen we all deserve better. Don't ever settle for someone treating you badly. The first time is one too many!!!

@kluv420

Жыл бұрын

Sounds familiar

@TheMichaelK

Жыл бұрын

Maybe he just wasn’t really in to you. In the end we also have no right for others to be into us or have feelings towards us

I just can't stop thanking you enough Dr OLUWASEUN or bringing back my lover to me..... really appreciate sir😇

@leish9203

6 ай бұрын

On Facebook page..

@Prince_of_Omashu

5 ай бұрын

Idiot 😂😂

Every manipulation technique you post about is basically a version of hot and cold

I did this without even realizing I was manipulating them,I swear it wasn't my intention to make them obsessed with me,I just wasn't interested and wanted to tell them in a different way so that they won't get hurt

@larafalcasantos4638

Жыл бұрын

No but same I did this to someone but I didn't have the motive of making them obsessed with me. And they actually acted like they couldn't stay away from me, it was a nightmare honestly.

@natsumi3493

Жыл бұрын

@@larafalcasantos4638 ikr,the stares and everything makes me so uncomfortable,he still clearly is into me I don't know how to tell him to stop this,and he's not that kinda person who understands easily :(

@nosheennawaz14

Жыл бұрын

This is exactly what my ex best friend did

@kenashah3721

Жыл бұрын

I literally disappear from texting and calling for like 2 days and come back saying ohh.. sorry i had network/phonr issuess…. Andd plzz which girl hasn’t done the second thingy? Soo practicallyy yaa ppl have gotten obssessed andd it’s horriblee amd still i be thinking why.. 😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

@Me_di

Жыл бұрын

Congrats you’re a narcissist! Norwegians guys do this

Someone did that to me to but obsession is caused by deep rooted insecurities within oneself not by tricks such as these

@redleeks6253

Жыл бұрын

But you see the techniques being used all the time and people doing it unconsciously. It's not even like they are trying to make the person obsessed but trying to feel higher themselves. Even yesterday, i was on a dating app, (my profile is set as relationship not hook-ups or wtv) after some introductions the guy turned and said: "Look, I'm going back to my homecountry in the end of the month so letting you know I won't be your boyfriend (offers plausible explanation) BUT "I like your profile and I would like to meet you for a drink" (some compliment?). Some scarcity mixed with nagging.

@lowkeyalien6477

Жыл бұрын

@@redleeks6253 sounds direct rather than unconscious to me.

@dimitrisloterek6043

Жыл бұрын

​@@redleeks6253that is a lot of pseudo science or better misunderstanding of scientific papers in which behaviors were observed and then classified, but that doesn't mean, this behavior is always a manipulation, e. G. Your example also just could be true. Also to Nr. 1 that's the type of a borderline personality, they suffer themself a lot for their mood changes, so it's kinda difficult to say it's manipulation.

@redleeks6253

Жыл бұрын

@@lowkeyalien6477 The direct part is informing about leaving the country the manipulation is "I won't be your boyfriend" as if he decided that I had put him in boyfriend category already. I called him on this and said I would definitely not meet him for a drink he proceeded with "If you want to find a boyfriend you should try real life not apps". This is an entitled attitude on "you wont find anything better so take what I'm offering you". Dating apps are a good environment to study narcissistic and manipulative behaviors since many individuals are on the spectrum.

@lowkeyalien6477

Жыл бұрын

@@redleeks6253 Very interesting. I see your point. Rather than accepting your reply to him at face value as not being interested, he decided to soft handedly insult you because of the rejection. My question is why do some people need to have a “final say” rather than thanking you politely and moving on. It would be the easier and more mature and less butt hurt exit, right? At least that’s what I would think….

Ladies, if you do such trash other woman tell you on tiktok and IG, all that will happen is that you end up with 45 yrs old alone, with 3 cats and childless.

@WildAntics13

Ай бұрын

3 cats alone is better than a man 😂 who is like a child 😂😂😂 dont you know women lives longer alone

@thomaskonig4713

Ай бұрын

@@WildAntics13 you go girl 🥳

Happens to me before and yes I was addicted. You feel you need to justify your self worth and the person keep rejecting you. At the end, I realized it was toxic and quit. But it was very addictive, like a painful addiction.

That awkward moment when you are the one doing it... I'm changing as of today...no more toxicity in me as of now

@tejasvigohe4815

Жыл бұрын

bruh! that's meee 😭

@soleil7259

Жыл бұрын

Good to see that you noticed it. A person that can admit their faults, isn't as toxic as they thought to be. Everybody makes mistakes and nobody is free of being a little out of touch at times.

@theunknownseed

Жыл бұрын

Shintsha mfethu

@philocalistartbrush74

Жыл бұрын

Me too.... Didn't realised till now ...

@zapdosxy1781

Жыл бұрын

If only men were this responsible and self aware.

I am a victim of both of these effects by one person. I would've commented "I'll just move on from such people they don't affect me " but you know when it actually happens it's extremely different and sometimes it happens when you're at your worst and you aren't that strong and cautious to realize what's happening until it happens and then you get suicidal thoughts or something dangerous harmful thoughts. Please beware of such people. They're really dangerous.

@imperial_Dragnix

Жыл бұрын

I wish indian men stop simping Try to be sigma . Don't lose your self respect brother

@seraphim7484

11 ай бұрын

Suicidal thoughts because of a person you met sometime ago??? Hell nahh bro, we Indians are better than this, STAY STRONG BROTHER!! (Judging by your username that you may be Indian)

I’ve binge watched your shorts and now I’m obsessed with your face

He did that to me. I don’t know if it was intentional or not but it was enough to make me obsessed with him … For a year at its peak! I couldn’t sleep well, thought of him everyday, couldn’t eat properly, lost weight … It was bad. I eventually reached acceptance and moved on. Now he’s the one obsessing over me…

So that’s what he was doing to me this entire time wow that’s so wrong and for a minute I actually thought he loved me but he didn’t he just wanted someone to be obsessed with him and worship him the way I was doing 😢 I’m never falling for these tricks again everybody’s getting rejected

@Junkmailings

Жыл бұрын

Yeh stay away if you can't controll your emotions men don't need more psychos

@mr.beefythecarnivore6415

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you need to work on yourself. There's plenty of decent dudes out there. Just don't go for douche bags. Taking it to the extreme of never dating is rarely a fulfilling answer.

@aliveandwellinisrael2507

Жыл бұрын

@@Junkmailings Pretty much. Not to mention she's just letting him control her even outside of the relationship since she's choosing to reject everyone based on the effect of tricks she'll supposedly never fall for again. He's still living rent free in that head

I would feel bad for the guy that wanna date her

@forexmagician

Жыл бұрын

Everyone is beatable

@stevenstovar5297

Жыл бұрын

Not really lol, all he has to do is play dumb and letting her think she's the one doing the manipulation but she's really the one manipulating her lmao

@naturalselection69

Жыл бұрын

@@stevenstovar5297 sure stevens. Did you think about this one in the shower?

@Ichigo-dh9rd

Жыл бұрын

Do u think she is the only one who do this lmao u are gullible

@Kavefenix9

Жыл бұрын

@@stevenstovar5297 you realize when a person knows about manipulation, theyll just break up and leave? Hahahaha What on earth could he possibly do once shes gone?

They were done on me, most likely unintentionally. Made me want to KMS. It’s too painful. But also, i have limitations in terms of dating pool, so it worked extra well. I was obsessed like never in my life, went crazy, started to hate myself. I had physical symptoms too, pain in the heart abd palpitations. However, the person also lovebombed me and met the needs noone ever met in my life and won’t ever meet, so that contributed majorly too.

This was spot on my ex boyfriend for 5 years of my life. It messed with my head so much because of how innocent it all appeared to be. I’m not even sure he realized what he was doing. But the very last time he tried to make contact by literally dropping off birthday gifts to me in my driveway, I never responded. It’s so sad, I wasted so many years of my youth on this person. I’d rather have someone be directly abusive extreme than be so covert and manipulative like this.

The second one worked on me until I got tired of waiting and fell out of love with him

@boniboni4912

Жыл бұрын

Currently this is happening to me, I’m just tired of waiting

@rudhadeofficial7273

Жыл бұрын

If guy keep you waiting it means he don’t wanna be with you. You there just for sex. Doesn’t matter what he says. We guys may reject girl on first day but still keep fucking her for years. A secret.

@mojojojo9778

Жыл бұрын

​@@boniboni4912kindly leave this pathway its best for u it might hurt you for some while Later youll have Pleasure N no regrets. Stop destroy yr Mental peace

You literally saved me. I have been talking to a girl for about two months and she's been doing some strange acts such as you explained in this video. I was thinking about what is going on and now I have realised that she might be using this technique. Thanks )

This shiet is so true, someone used the first one on me i have been obbssessd since last year and the rollercoaster is still the same, it gives me anxiety, curiosity and obsetion thats out of this world

This one dude did both of these things to me over 1 week. It's been like 3 years and I still think about him

I don’t think anyone should want someone to be Obsessed with them. Obsessions usually end bad when they can’t be fulfilled. That’s what I’ve observed and speculated from the headlines with some relationships ending in murder. Murderous Obsession. I don’t even want to wear the perfume called Obsession.

@hadassah6085

Жыл бұрын

It definitely brings out peoples neurotic sides - for a small amount it would be that bad, but even without violence, stalking obsession on social media or real life is creepy. Only narcissistic types would want people obsessed with them through manipulation because they need the attention since they lack a developed sense of self and need external validation.

@kimberlysanchez5321

Жыл бұрын

@@hadassah6085 I agree with you. Stay blessed and take care.

@soleil7259

Жыл бұрын

I once thought about buying perfume but it's called "poison girl". I reconsidered and decided nope better not, even when it smells so good 😅

@devaapurna608

Жыл бұрын

She is suggesting manipulation, which is unkind and unloving at best.

When you unconsciously do this all the time...without even realising it...truly speaking I thought the second one is a humble way of rejecting....but I guess I'm toxic...💀

@kenashah3721

Жыл бұрын

Plzz i do both too.. omg..🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️😂😂😂

@RainXanYT

10 ай бұрын

Diagnosed narc

@allysafaith4329

6 ай бұрын

It’s okay to reject people and do it gently. I think what she means is if you do that but also play games and make the person think you’re interested at the same time

Just sit there to contemplate it all after you come back because you're gonna see such crazy and radical things in these trips. That when you come back you're gonna be like what the fuck was that? And you're gonna spend a week just in the shower, what the fuck was that? Cooking your food, what the fuck was that? Driving to work, what the fuck was that? Sitting at work doing your work, what the fuck was that? Thinking that. Trying to wrap your mind around it. Try to remember and trying to figure it out and that's a very valuable process.

Okay but in what universe is "my phone died" a plausible explanation after ghosting someone, no one believes that lmao 💀

This only works if you have some sort of attraction built. Don’t do it out of the blue if you like them but they don’t even look your way. They won’t give a shat

These work on weak minded people, people pleasers, or low self esteem peeps. Emotionally mature and more mentally strong / stable beings will just "wish them the best" as they won't have interest in pursuing or entertaining childish / toxic behaviours. Time and energy are priceless resources!

Thank you for sharing. I take "roller coaster behavior" on someone's part to be a permanent red flag. Helps me filter people out from my life.

I've done this by accident and they literally became OBSESSED with me! It's true 🤦‍♀️

she really out here tryna make us more single then we were before we clicked on the video 💀

the fact that someone has been doing these things exactly the same with me is just making me so anxious.

Narcissist people are looking this clip carefully...tysm for this video and now I can spot such people. . . Edit: oh and one more fact super empaths can recognise this pattern..and myself being one many people have left me. I always thought I was the problem, but no when my psychologist told me I just have talent of seeing such people and they know I'm threat that will make them expose that's y they bully you and you cry. This line changed my life and I'm now more confident and learning a part of respecting my own self.

This is so true! Stay away from such people.

This is true. It was done to me. A year has gone by and I'm still not ok.

@harleenprabhakar3224

Жыл бұрын

I hope you get better. I faced the same thing and I still am not better

@Labyrinthine_Complexities

Жыл бұрын

@@harleenprabhakar3224 It's definitely been a big year of personal growth. I'm excited for the future. Very grateful & proud of who I've become despite adversary. I pray for your healing and growth as we move into 2023. It might not ever be ok what they did, but we can choose to create our own happiness and grow from the experiences that shape us ✨ ♥

I cracked at the point where she said "my phone died" as a plausible explanation. 🤣

My child’s father does the first to me. We’ve been together for three years! I definitely am attached to him but I’m gaining the ability to not accept that type of behavior and expecting what I know I deserve. I think many people are very abusive, and psychology proves it with factual evidence. I know I’ve been manipulated for years by many people. Trying to break free from these abusers chains.

This is exactly what someone did and I still let them do , I am ready to throw it in then they run back , doing this same exact thing ,thanks for lovely advise and I'm ready to run off , let them see

I don't know if it was deliberate (given we were 15/16 at the time) but my ex always did this. Basically his excuse was he was "bad at messaging" but I kid you not it took 10 days at one point for him to message me back. He would always use oneliners of: "oops sorry I missed that!", "sorry I didn't get back to you, been so busy!" seemingly cheerful but would always always make me so fucking pissed off and (yes) would further my obsessed feelings with him. Additionally, when we were at school (even when we were dating) we NEVER talked. Like we could be together RIGHT next to each other, waiting for our class teacher or something, and he would turn and speak to another person or he would literally be having a conversation with people that were at the back of the line or something! There was only ONE time we hung out together at school and that was when I asked just to see but after that nothing. After he dumped me he kept giving me weird signals sometimes "yes" sometimes "no". Or when I mentioned that a lad was asking if we should date he seemed to get jealous but then would play it off, even though he was saying at the same time there was this other girl that liked him (notice it was never him liking them just them liking him, happened with like 3 other people excluding me). He seemed to get absolutely high off of other people having crushes on him even if he didn't reciprocate. Then when I met my current wonderful partner he got even fucking weirder (resulted in the end of our friendship) as he was wanting to "walk me home" complaining when I spoke about how much I liked this guy, or just weird other passive aggressive shit. This video actually provides a succinct situation of what I went through- makes a lot of sense!

@nhatanhle

Жыл бұрын

I know what it feels like, something similar happened to me too. My ex would always invite some of his friends to our dates or would stay all the time to entertain himself with activities that doesn’t interest me and never bothered to care of how I would feel. It was never a quality time for both of us, always me chasing him, trying to be a part of his world, doing all the stuffs that made me uncomfortable just to be near him. That was frustrating and I was always miserable, then if I say something he would say that my anger is a problem. Of course when we were out with his friends I would always be ignored and had to find company in other persons to not feel isolated. 😢 Just because sometimes he showed some affection towards me (obviously when noone else’s around, like he was shameful of me) I feel like I was reborn and there was some rewards for my sacrifice. It took me 7 years to get out of that situation.

@ashthepotato3172

Жыл бұрын

@@nhatanhle Jesus. 7 years of your life with such a tone-deaf, neglectful an (likely) manipulative asshole. I'm glad you got out of that situation. So so glad for you. And yes you describe your situation so similarly to my experience. His presence always felt like a drug. I'd get high in the attention, despite how scarce it was. I craved it. So much so that I developed an unhealthy obsession with my imagination. I imagined the perfect boyfriend. The perfect image of him. And I clung to it. Tight. And it caused me to have so many unrealistic expectations of him. Of our relationship. That I don't fault for. But it's the neglect that pushed me towards it. God it got to be such a mess. But I'm so so glad that you were able to get out. You should be SO proud of yourself for that. I hope you're able (if ou haven't already) to find someone much more deserving of you, someone who loves you and treats you well. 💜

Obsession? this causes me to be like "just be up front, if you don't like me like that cool, there are 7b people out there"

@michaelbishop3439

Жыл бұрын

Actually it's 8 billion now..lol

@stormflame829

Жыл бұрын

@@michaelbishop3439 7.837 billion, I just googled it homie.

@khushisharma7698

Жыл бұрын

A guy's been trying to do that with me but I'm already in love with my toxic ex and I'm focused on moving on from him so much that the manipulator person doesn't even get the full attention. All I think is the I'm not an important friend for them

I did that without realising I just didn’t like them and wanted to show it without hurting them 😢

i choked- i rlly don't think it's a manipulation but i felt like you called me out with those examples 😂 im trying to prioritize my mental health now so I tend to get lost and come back when I feel like socializing. And second one often happen for I can socialize just fine when I'm on it, and guys always get mistaken which put them into liking me bc of they said "personality" -so me as a nice introverted ass inside who cannot hurt a feeling directly, I often use excuses like I'm 'study first' or I'm focusing on myself (which is rlly true) and doesn't have time for foolish love nor energy, but I'd be rlly glad if i can keep the friendship

I didn't know this before but I rejected a guy last year and told him I couldn't be in a relationship because of my studies he said okay. Then 2 months later he asked me again and said no again he didn't want that but said okay, this year asked me again and I was like will this dude just give up. Now after watching this video I realise the obsession 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Somali_pirate

8 ай бұрын

No offense but from your profile picture you’re a 4/10 I dunno why he was chasing for a year,I’m just saying

I had a guy come on to me 37 years ago. He was so adorable and funny. He did both those things and yes I became obsessed but I kept my distance after he rejected me and was heartbroken...soo heartbroken but I know now that I was never in love with him..even though I thought at the time I was. Reflection of the past it was rejection that was so hard to deal with.i think it was so hard for me because I never knew my dad and it just reinforced that I was not worthy to be loved...wished I would have known my worth then..

@soleil7259

Жыл бұрын

Same i was treated like trash by a narcissist. It even ended in physical assault 😥. It stems from me growing up with a narc as a father. I thought i was worthless.

when I realized that this was the reason why I was so attached to my past situationship. He was so toxic and now I know.

Goddammit i fell for the second one. He rejected me and gave me a plausible explanation, but then he acts flurty with me all the time givi g me mixed signals and then i was obsessed, but now i got over it.

I just got 'roller coaster-ed' last month and i totally cut them out of my life cuz I don't need that sort of negativity I've got zero tolerance for things like that

One of my school crush used to do this to me (probably unknowingly) and it was really hurting me coz in the end he had reasonable explanation for everything and it made me feel as if i am always wrong but i decided to end this cycle of stressing and relief by breaking ties with him...... But now i am exactly like this unconsciously and i didn't realize it until i figured out why everyone i meet become obsessed with me and falls for me. I'm not really a social person so i disappear asap but at the same time i don't want to hurt them or make them feel that I'm ignoring them, so i give a reasonable explanation later.

@kenashah3721

Жыл бұрын

Samee sissy sameee

Your work is so valuable and important. There’s nobody out there like you. Thanks so much for sharing this priceless information. ❤❤❤❤❤

Man thats why i am so obsessed with her

That’s what he’s doing on me 😭😂

@ookamisan7696

Жыл бұрын

Leave!!! And go on with your life. ❤️

The rollercoaster effect is so true. Human mind is extremely complicated, I'd crave attention and consistency from even my enemy if we were to stand together and they left me for a second since I easily panic when I'm alone.

@chelo9882

Жыл бұрын

I do this all the time 😵‍💫😵‍💫 it's not that I want or desire obsession. It's just, I loose interest in playing an active role in a relationship. It's tiring

Sounds like Kindergarten to me 🤷🏻‍♀️ would never pay attention again to a person treating me like this

@TheGr8-1

2 ай бұрын

😂😂 suurrreee. Women go crazy for this type of behavior. Especially when they are really feeling a guy. Inconsistency and indifference are the most effective way to get a woman wrapped around a man’s finger.

Every trait of a covert narcissist … Stay educated my friends!

Surprisingly, the first one happened to me. We were just on stage of getting to know each other. The girl did that to me twice but the second time she did it, I walked away without a second thought.

the first tactic doesn't work for me because a guy tried to do that by asking me to stop talking to him and after 6 months he started talking to me again and I just replied: " weren't you the one who asked me to stop talking to you? I'm just doing what you asked" and he didn't say anything else r/Maliciouscompliance 😂

@gacha_kyrie6671

Жыл бұрын

Lol, I think he did it wrong 💀

@ritinhaparacana

Жыл бұрын

@@gacha_kyrie6671 yes 😂

@kim6314

Жыл бұрын

Theyre mentality unstable.....probably

@ritinhaparacana

Жыл бұрын

@@kim6314 yes, probably 😂

@Marecil1

Жыл бұрын

The guy told me I’m done thru text, so I blocked him and never texted him then I saw him and pretended like I didn’t know him, the guy was so angry. He tapped my shoulder and said hey you never text and I said do I know you? Best revenge 😂 I told him I deserved more than that and a whole lot more, you asshole!!

sis thank you so much to make this video a guy I was talking to did the same to me but now I released he is playing mind games I have focus on myself

Someone did these two things to me. Ghosted, came back for an explanation, then ghosted again after promising to never do it again. He also told me that he likes me but doesn't want me to be his girlfriend. The latter is tolerable, but the former is so damaging. I'm feeling a lot of pain.

Well if someone rejects me I know its time to go. I think this works for people with attachment issues.

@fionanoroozi6858

Жыл бұрын

Don’t leave you should play back and manipulate it’s enjoyable game

I did this to a guy but I'm just realising it rn🤡

@nowshinjahan333

Жыл бұрын

Usss

@emokid6944

Жыл бұрын

Sis same!! 💀 I feel awful

A guy did this stuff to me and I saw through his childish mentality level. I tried to be patient but it wasnt worth it. I want happiness in my life! I changed my number, grabbed my savings and bought my first house 35 miles away. My friends were telling me he was so perplexed by my dissappearence.

all the guys i rejected are obsessed with me, even after months and years. Because i never gave them an exact reason other than i wasnt feeling it. They may not be obsessed with who or how i am, but definitely obsessed with the fact they couldn't obtain me.

I can’t see either of these approaches working unless the individual you’re using them on already has strong feelings for you/and or has low self-esteem. The vast majority of people aren’t entirely governed by brain chemicals ; our ability to ignore these base impulses, is what distinguishes us from most other animals.

@linuxducky

Жыл бұрын

you'd be surprised, I've accidentally done some of this stuff with guys with huge self-esteem etc. (but by accident, I didn't know I had these toxic traits). and ooft guys become obsessed.

@aarankayse160

Жыл бұрын

@@linuxducky Same here, I'm a young man... I have that I've attached all those girls in a toxic way (without knowing it)... then I lose the attraction for them because deep down I feel that I took away their freewill. (the entire process is automatic).

@mikemierspadios7036

Жыл бұрын

There are two types of Mind state. A. Conscious B. Unconscious: this is where manipulators target a victim. Example: in business world they make sale or some other tactics for them to sell.

This woman be spitting life hacks, facts and lessons that I had to attain the hard way. Dayum! Freakin relatable!

pov: you realise your crush is using the roller coaster effect-

Moral: Limitations make the game more interesting.

You may like someone but be too scared to in a relationship with them because you may scared getting hurt again. That's not manipulation, this is being you not ready for having someone in your life. Focusing yourself at this matter should be your first priority. No one should please for whom they like but first their self.

@hubbardengland3223

Жыл бұрын

She is merely explaining how it works don't hate the player hate the game 🎮

@Camm604

6 ай бұрын

​​​​@@hubbardengland3223 eh can we hate the player for not understanding the point of the game??

People do this unknowingly and then deny that their doing it.

That seems to explain why I used to be obsessed with my crush even though there were indications that the feelings were not reciprocated. They always had a reasonable explanation for everything. I only stopped having feelings for them when they started having a relationship with someone else

Guys I have ADHD and when I leave you on read... it just means I thought I responded but I didn’t