This is how my daughter and I started teaching my son yes and no. We grabbed some of his favorite toys and I asked his sister, do you want this (fill in the blank)? She'd say yes and grab it while nodding. Or she'd say "no" and push the object away while shaking her head. Thanks to this method, he now understands "no", but we are still learning yes.

@lexi_2021

6 ай бұрын

Role playing, right? I ask my husband to assist me in RPG but he is not interested in the teaching part.

Thank you so much! This video is very helpful for me as a therapist!

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

That is great!

OMG … I’m so glad I found this video. I have a spouse with ASD (recently suspected and late life diagnosis) and I’ve lost my sh*t a few times at their inability to answer yes or no questions in certain situations.

@mercyjoseph6124

Жыл бұрын

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@Luis-pd5be

Жыл бұрын

I wouldn't follow this ladies advice she goes on and on about nothing. Like a train to no where all while promoting herself.

@megathird100

6 ай бұрын

Thank you you just gave me hope for my son in the future

By far, the best explanation I have seen/heard. I am so happy I came across this.

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching and for the great comment.

@myrnealexander4794

3 жыл бұрын

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@AutisticEdge

Жыл бұрын

Great explanation on this area, I have tried some other strategies. Definitely will try this one!

Dear Maria. My daughter is now almost 11, but when she turned just 4 being completely non-verbal she started to attend speech and language therapy. The therapist could not get any response from my daughter over several sessions. Then we went on holidays to Spain and a day before our trip I received your book "verbal behaviour", dropped it in my suitcase. On holidays I was reading and implementing your strategies. My daughter started to respond to simple questions, she was sitting on the swing, I sang her nursery rhymes and she filled gaps (because if she would not do I would not push the swing). When we came to our SLT session, my daughter was responding to all activities the therapist offered. The SLT nearly fall of her chair in surprise. I told her about your wonderful book... 7 years passed. I tried to teach my daughter language by myself using various sources. The provision here in the UK is not great. They are turning off not only ABA but even reasonable SLT approaches, reduced financing of education for children with special needs. I am wondering if you have more books where you explain how to teach all those language concepts so systematically like you explained with this example "yes" and "no". The " verbal behaviour " book was excellent for a start and brought us the biggest progress. But later I used other sources and I think I made my mistakes by taking similar approach like the one with apple ( I used matching as yes, non matching as no) and we struggled for years untill my daughter got it. Just one example. Other concepts are all going too slow. I never saw anything so systematic and natural like approach explained by you. I believe my daughter could progress faster if I used more of your ideas. Really need help as I am stacking when teaching more complex concepts and expanding language.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

intermediate learners are hard to program for! my verbal behavior bundle course may help. Check out www.marybarbera.com/workshops for a free workshop

@olenashaforost7596

3 жыл бұрын

@@marybarbera thanks a lot, received your email, the bundle course sounds very exciting, just need to thinking how to get it financed and when to start, though the price is quite good really.

@demircifd

8 ай бұрын

I highly recommend direct instruction, language for learning book if she is ready ,. You need to do assessment first. Direct instruction is ABA based indeed. Mary is great and I have 11 year old and she is working on complex language and predictions now. I wish I could afford the programme she mentions.

Thank you… great information.

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I hope it's helpful to you!

This is so important! We should not be teaching yes before the child can make tons of spontaneous mands.

@alpoutoa

5 жыл бұрын

When I ask my son how his day was and his answer is always "Yes". This video has made me think of trying to find out about his day from him another way...

Thank you so much.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome!

When I ask my son how his day was and his answer is always "Yes". This video has made me think of trying to find out about his day from him another way...

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

I am happy this helped you! Thanks again for watching. I also created a free webinar for parents here that will give you more tips! www.marybarbera.com/elc-workshop/

Thank you- I was just asking yes/no questions to my 5yr old son- he couldn’t answer. This helps me understand what I was doing wrong. Thanks

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

This is a really good video as many of the modified TSG curricula has yes or no...which sucks as many of them can not even mand any of the items when requested to do so or if they want them or if they are in sight:(Which is why I would love to show this video to many others who are insisting that 2-3 year olds during the pandemic use yes/no tacts to items they have no idea about such as a paper bag, plastic bottle, etc...they generally are not even aware of many of the lines of questioning as its too complex...Even the modified materials are so higher level and my kiddos are left staring at the screen. We will definitely be delving back the questioning--and focusing more on items that they see and want in their everyday enviornment (i.e. water, cars, blocks, etc...)..we will use various modes of operants level (pointing, gestures, word approximations, etc..)

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! I hope you do share it.

Very informative🤗

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

I’am a special education teach thanks for this :)

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being here and watching! My online courses are great for teachers! Sign up for a free workshop here . www.marybarbera.com/workshops

Thanks for that advice 👌💙🇩🇪☀️🙏🌏

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

thank you so much

@marybarbera

10 ай бұрын

You're welcome!

Thanks madam

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

All the best

Hi, the problem with teaching individuals on the Autism spectrum to give yes or no answers is that many of us (but of course, not all) are less inclined to lie than many (but of course, not all) neurotypicals are. We might be less inclined to say "no," when we are unaware that the answer is "yes." We are less inclined to say, "yes," when we are unaware that the answer is "no."

I need to teach Yes/No to an adult client. Would you please link the study you're referring to? Or a good study to look into? THANK YOU

I love this

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

thanks!

@mikeh1245

3 жыл бұрын

@@marybarbera can u a thing on how we communicate to people

I can ask my child what the color of an object is or a math problem(and i do mean double digit math problems and he will answer.) I could also ask the question "What are you doing?" or certain other questions and he repeats what we ask.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

This is common in kids who may not understand the question. My intermediate course is the best for kids who struggle with these issues. Check out www.marybarbera.com/workshops for a free workshop.

This was very helpful. Thank you. My son (2.5 newly dx), can do various spontaneous mands with highly preferred items out of sight. He can't yet make a choice between items if they are out of sight; he needs to see them and then be prompted to request. He uses the same request phrase for everything, including some actions. I am just wondering how far along in his mands he needs to be before I introduce yes and no. He can say the words, but doesn't understand them yet. Should I just model right now and now work on it as a skill for him, or is he ready for me to truly introduce it?

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching. I am happy you found it helpful! It is difficult to give specific advice to answer your question without seeing or consulting with the child's team. I would suggest downloading the free ebook that includes some guides for assessing where your child is at. www.marybarbera.com/

@richa28goyal7

5 жыл бұрын

Mary Barbera - Turn Autism Around i need the book

I always start with tacting. Not manding. Most kids on the spectrum love to name, ID, line up, repeat letters, number, shapes, names of objects. You don't have to use manding alone to capture MOs. What is it? Has always brought me quicker results than, "what do you want?" Then, you do transfer from tact to mand. Now that you've got a lot of tacts for things that the child likes, you introduce, "Do you want this?" You model the response, he repeats and then you immediately give it to him. Once "Yes" is firmly established, keep doing it and on every 3rd or 4th trial, intro something he really doesn't want: empty bag, piece of paper, something he has shown you that he's not interested in and repeat the Sd. Model the response: "No." I have used this w/many children and it usually works fine. Then I branch from, "Do you want this?" I show him something that's in his verbal repertoire and say, it this a ball?" He'll say, "Yes." Again. Make it fun. "This is a ball? Really?" Four or five times and then, show him a car and repeat the Sd, model the response, "No."

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

These are great tactics, thanks for sharing!

My son learned the yes no tact first. It was very easy for him. But yes no mands is very difficult to teach because he would only echo my question if I ask what he prefers.

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

My online courses can help you with this and any other complex language issues he might be having. Visit www.marybarbera.com/workshops for more information :).

Hi there, great video. My Son is 2 year 9 months. At this point I don't think he has Autism although there are some mild indicators. At this point he asks for items or reaches for them but if I ask for example; "do you want an orange" if he wants the orange he will just reply with "orange" and if he doesn't want it then he will just say nothing. Do I just continue to ask the question and prompt with yes or no? I would really appreciate the advice. Thank you!

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it is easiest to start with no as I say in the video. Then you'd do yes no with obvious things he;d want or wouldn't want and prompt that, yes. You don't want to ask yes no questions if you accept orange or else he won't know what type of response you want with that questions. I discuss all this and more in my online courses. Go to www.marybarbera.com/workshops for a free workshop

We are having a hard time teaching my son the “no” mand. He gets very frustrated and refuses to work anymore on the task. :( He’s almost 4 and non verbal and has been using pecs for about 6 months. He is also using his sentence strip for “I want _____” when this was first initiated, he got the “no” mand correct about 36% of the time without prompting. But now he is getting it incorrect almost all the time.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

If he is non verbal, as I say in this vlog, it is likely not time. I also advise against "i want" carrier phrases. you can google mary barbera carrier phrases for more on that. My online courses can really help you get the programming on track. check out a free workshop www.marybarbera.com/workshops

@joshthomas2494

2 жыл бұрын

Hi how is your little one doing ? Mine is 2 1/2 need him to start this asap

prior to Y/N do you consider developing functional communication and developing a range of gestures. I am not understanding why Y/N is important. If you ask a child if he wants a cookie (preferred) it seems to me that teaching a child to reach or point while referencing the attention of an adult is far more important and functional. Reaching + referencing obviously is a yes. Teaching a child to push away objects he/she does not want would indicate "no". Then the spoken language comes in: nod head/shaking head and saying "don't want", "i want__", again is functional. PhD, SLP here

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

yes/no is not important until you get those initial functional skills and requesting completed. I do not teach I want or other carrier phrases, but yes, you would want and prefer single functional words. That being said, yes/no can be quite beneficial after that repertoire is built.

We started with no and now it’s the only response she will give. She knows all her colors but if I hold up a crayon and ask “is this red?” when it is, she still says no. If purposely say the wrong color she says “no that’s ___”. We are about to start speech therapy

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. I would highly recommend joining our courses! marybarbera.com/courses/

Has anyone been on the course and how was it?

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

I have many families in my courses! I also have a money back guarantee. Check out the free workshop www.marybarbera.com/workshops

I'm an RBT, I also notice that my client ST taught him yes/no tact first before teaching him yes/no mand. That's why when I first handled him he would say no to everything I ask for manding.

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

yes it is a common problem! My free workshops are great for professionals as well ; marybarbera.com/workshops

I am a BCBA who works with an adult woman with autism who has limited vocalizing. She is an expert at "yes" and "no" tacts, but always responds with "yes" to mands (whether she wants it or not). Have you seen this before and do you have any recommendations?

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

In my Verbal Behavior Bundle course and community, we have an entire lesson on teaching yes and no. Find out more: MaryBarbera.com/bundle-join

My sons is 4 I haven’t heard him say yes or no yet. But he does shake his head no sometimes

@felishabooker1902

3 жыл бұрын

My son always pushes away items he doesn’t want

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

That is good he is shaking his head!

do u have any videos for the blind toddlers who is non verbal

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

I do not at this time . Thank you for the idea.

@angelicscons4742

4 жыл бұрын

thank u..

While doing mand my son has learnt saying yes I do as a rote to get his favourite things..in tact he will correct but never say yes or no..for example if I point out to car as ask him If it is a bus he will say a car or it is a car but never say no. What should I do..he is five and lacks comprehension and conversation though very good in reading, singing and counting.. Please guide

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Are you in or have you taken my online courses? We over all this intermediate programming there. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

So when is a good age to start teaching them Yes or no my baby is 19 months is showing all the signs but has not been diagnosed yet .

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

It is less about age and more about where they are developmentally! We want to make sure they can request a good portion of their wants and needs before introducing.

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The fact that I speak Spanish to my son, but he watches TV in English and most of the time his sister speaks English as well , I think my song is confused

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

It is possible he is! I would recommend signing up for one of my free webinars marybarbera.com/workshops or my free 3 step action guide marybarbera.com/join to help you get started on helping your son!

@abdullahsherdil6879

4 жыл бұрын

Can virtual autism be cured?my 3 year old daughter used to say some words even sentences in our native language,then she started eatching cartoons and videos in english and she has created her own language and speaks on her own and responds less on asking questions..what to do?

@Saintacy

4 жыл бұрын

@@abdullahsherdil6879 cartoon language is difficult for kids to understand but they are intrigued. Remember cartoons are not real life so it makes learning language more confusing. I've worked with a child with Autism, from Vietnamese speaking home. Parents insisted she understood Spanish more from watching Dora, and caretakers spoke Spanish, but all instruction has been in English. The child did apply repetitive parts of Dora to parts of her life but people didn't notice.. Vamanos meant she wanted to go somewhere. She didn't have another means of expressing it and up until she was 15 no one gave her any other way to say such nor explained to her what it meant. So.. Watch the cartoons with your child. Turn on the words, try to help make meaning of the words and apply it to people is what I'd suggest. Language is complex learning it is difficult if you have a delay, I like to imagine that for some with Autism and severe language delays, learning to communicate has similarities to someone who is a fluent mono language speaker learning a new language for the first time, but maybe they've heard it growing up. Example. I speak English (monolingual) but I've heard people around me speak Spanish or even other languages. I still cant speak them even if I understand or know a few words in them. All of us watch TV or have watched cartoons as a kid to try to figure out life.. Kids with Autism may be trying to do the same?

Hi I have 4 years old son and when I give him choice by saying do you want an apple? Yes or no ? Then he says yes if he wants or no if he doesn't Please let me know if I'm doing good 🙏

How do we correct defective yes please?

@marybarbera

8 ай бұрын

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Hello Maria my daughter is 2.5 years and she is actually verbal I mean she sings poem and whatever she likes but I doubt if she understand what she is talking because she doesnt respond to us . She speaks her own words even while crying like never ask like give me this or even if we ask do you want this ? Answer in yes or no and sometimes she shows colors and all without even asking so we are bit confused how to deal with it.

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

My online courses can help you greatly increase her language skills. Join me for a free workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.

I thought that my grandson said yes once and not again he is 5years

Is it possible to tech 4 different skills in a month a 10 yr old girl?and which skills .....im a special educater. ..need your help

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

It would depend on the skill and depend on many other factors. That being said, I do have free online workshops that would be helpful for anyone supporting children from toddlers to teens. Sign up today at www.marybarbera.com/workshops

I have probably made the same mistake at some point, but did the SLP continue forward with the task multiple times across multiple sessions? Or did the SLP stop after it was evident the activity was not appropriate?

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

She continued to make it her goal. We all make mistakes as providers, that is often how we learn! I have learned a lot in the last couple decades!

I feel completely lost watching this video. I have no idea what a mand is. And I just want to get my son to be able to answer yes or no. It’s very frustrating talking to a child all the time that never responds to any questions.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

a mand is a request. So if you ask a child do you want a cookie? that is a yes/no mand . If you ask a child is this a dog? then that is a yes/no label. Does your child have words? Answering questions is tricky and often needs to be taught. I go over this more in my courses. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

@chelseastrmserver2813

3 жыл бұрын

@@marybarbera yes and no. He has said some few words but they very rarely are used. Usually he will learn a word and then it’s like he forgets it and he won’t say it anymore.

@chelseastrmserver2813

3 жыл бұрын

Thx I will look at the video

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

You certainly need really strong and consistent requests and words before jumping into yes no. My courses can help.

my grandson I was told that he will never talk

Which you would have introduced this without the story of the speech-language pathologist "doing it wrong"

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, that was my experience at the time. This does not mean all SLPs teach it wrong.

sorry, this was a lot waffle

Thank you for thi i have made a terrible mistake already by asking do you want milk, child said yes no ok. I will stop asking . I want to help but thru ignorance am making things worse. s

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

Geraldine, you are doing a great job in making this change! If you want to learn more visit www.marybarbera.com/join.

If I ask do you want a cookie my daughter will say "yay cookie" but not yes.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah , from your other response it sounds like she may need a lot more language instruction first. Check out that free workshop .

pairing means to keep things out of childs reach, gave child ask for item they want ( example: bear) duh

😢😢😢😢very difficult to teach

@marybarbera

8 ай бұрын

It can be, especially if they don't have the pre-requisite skills. I can teach you yes and no plus MUCH more. You can see all of my paid and free resources at MaryBarbera.com/links-yt.

You haven't answer...how to teach ...?

if he wants more food he will grab the spone