This video made me cry. My 5 year old DS has severe Autism. Teacher called today. DS has been aggressive and struggling at school. He is non verbal. I get beat up daily. We get services but seems not helpful. I'm struggling. Not getting any answers. Professionals are amazed at his severity. I'm lost. I'm glad I found you! Thank you.

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching. I am sorry that things are escalating with your son. Have you watched my free workshops? bit.ly/2EBvDKH . I hope they can help.

@sydneyd2094

3 жыл бұрын

put him into a separate room until he calms down maybe

@alexandraeliadis7153

3 жыл бұрын

This sounds like my daughter.... your a strong mama❤️

Dr. Barbera... So, I work with learning and developmentally challenged kids between the ages of 2 to 5. Some have been diagnosed with autism. One child in particular has been acting out aggressively out aggressively for the past month. I have been bit, punched, slapped, kicked, spit on and have had toys thrown up my head. He has also done the same to my coworkers and other classmates. The agency I work for implements a coddling approach in dealing with this behavior. We are prohibited from giving timeouts. The agency also prides themselves themselves on helping these children blossom into adults that lead enviable lives. Yet, his aggression aggression has greatly increased. Today, for example, he acted out more than 10 times. Obviously, the approach that the agency I work for isn't working. If nothing changes, nothing changes. This child in particular is diagnosed with autism. I personally feel that consequences need to be implemented. When this child grows up, if he is aggressive toward another, he's not going to be coddled and redirected... he's either going to jail or, God forbid, physically hurt or killed by the person he assaulted. How do you think I should handle this? Thanks in advance.

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

i am pretty against being reactive at all. We want to assess what is happening and PREVENT this problem behavior. My no more timeouts mini course would be really helpful for you and the organization

Great ideas. For parents and teachers, learning these are an ongoing process. I keep revisiting Mary's videos time and again. I really wish to show these to a large majority of ei professionals who have no clue in dealing with students with autism

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching and sharing. I have a toddler workshop ei professionals may like as well marybarbera.com/toddler

@jamaalhadley1985

2 жыл бұрын

I agree each child is unique and everyone has some abilities that they do well more than others. You have to work on your child's weaknesses through their strengths. My child was diagnosed at 34 months. We turned the TV off and the whole family doesn't use their phones for three hours a day is family time. We went to our next appointment they said she is fine. I'm not a doctor but try turning off the TV and spending true quality time with your child.

Starting my BCBA coursework now and it is so nice to hear your perspective. I fortunately haven't been hurt by a client either but I like working with kids with aggression because I feel like it I can help reduce it it makes a big difference for the family and their quality of life. But of course yes rule out a medical problem! That is so important for us to not practice beyond our scope. Glad you made this channel because I feel like BCBAs are so busy all the time so this is a great resource.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for watching. Congrats on starting your course work!

@MK-ci5gv

3 жыл бұрын

some therapist says -donot use any medicine. but medicine is necessary with therapy in some behavioural problems.

I am VERY EXCITED!! I just purchased the bundle!!!! Can't wait to start watching all the videos and CEUs. Thank you Dr. Barbera for sharing your expertise.

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for signing up and watching .

I appreciate the fact that you emphasize looking for medial reasons for aggressive behavior. I have found that, in our family, medical or physical reasons are almost always the cause of aggression or other serious negative behaviors. I plan to share this video with my subscribers.

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing! It is a really important topic.

@darlenesmith1298

2 жыл бұрын

Look into PANDAS/PANS/AE.

@kaydonato8367

Жыл бұрын

@Azim Premji That's fantastic!

Thank you so much for all the information 😊

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome

Thank you Dr. I have been working with DD/MI community for 10 years in supported employment. I recently began working with younger more acute cases. Thank you for your instruction. I will definitely subscribe. :)

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for being here! I also have online courses. You can learn more here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

Thanks for sharing your expertise!

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening.

I love how clearly you explain topics. Your videos have given me such a great understanding and sense of relief in dealing with autism.

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the great feedback!

Thank you for this video. I just subscribed

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching. I have more information on my free video workshops here bit.ly/2ELvSnM

I am so grateful for you Mary, I am a newcomer to being an ABA therapist and I am so motivated to learn as much as I can!!!!!

@marybarbera

9 ай бұрын

That's great! Hope you can attend a free workshop: marybarbera.com/workshop

Thank you so much Dr. Barbera for sharing your wealth and knowledge of ABA with the world. I have a nine-year-old non-verbal son with autism and his aggression has spiked during COVID-19. I am on my way to becoming a BCBA as well and my ABA skills have definitely helped a lot. It is a unique time though with this pandemic but his ABA team and myself are doing all we can. Again, I admire and appreciate what you’re doing for the autism community!

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for the great feedback. I appreciate it!

@riffboogie6529

2 жыл бұрын

Our nine year old autistic non verbal son also started aggression once COVID started as well so far no luck.

My daughter has busted my chin eyebrows and lip wide open, she will hit selfharm/hit me and throw toys at me but she has never bitten anyone. My tone of voice, kind actions and words do not help. Honestlly the claimer I am during the aggressive times the more she looses her mind. Oddly enough my daughter has never hurt another child, big or small, its only adults and mostly Papa and myself. We give positive praise every time she does anything good and she loves it. Then some days she hates positive reinforcement and only wants the negative. My other spectrum children are so sweet kind and loving I fee like a bad mommy this time around. I know I am not doing something right I don't know what it is though. I am buying your book today I need more guidance I can reread as many times as it takes for it to.sink in properly. Thank you

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

That sounds really challenging. You may also want to contact a local behavior analyst.

@fragjijreiosgeriota7509

Ай бұрын

My aggressive, severely autistic brother was put on Risperidone 5mg as a child. It stopped him from biting us. There is hope.

Thank you so much, I though I was the only one going though this. Again THANK YOU

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help

@sweetmarie1415

3 жыл бұрын

You are not. I am as well

This is the first video on the topic i've found that is productive. Phew! No PowerPoint slides just meaningful info. Thank you.

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thank you for watching!

Thank you for this information

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! i appreciate you watching.

Thank you so much for your help 🙏

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Happy to help

Thank you. Your videos help me with my son and his 6 year old son who is autistic and non verbal.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

So happy to hear it! I also have online courses. Learn more here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

My non-verbal autistic son is only aggressive at school, he gets violent outbursts of throwing things and crying out in frustration but at home he doesn't have this behaviour.... I don't know what to do to help the IEP team because the behavior he displays at school is so different from his behavior at home. It's getting scary and dangerous because he's 12 now and another bigger and stronger. Thank you for this video. I'm going to watch the rest of them.

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@scorpioroyalty6942

Жыл бұрын

This is my son! He’s verbal and he’s 5…only at school. He rarely cries at home but at school it’s an uphill battle 😢

@Chick4Biden2024

Жыл бұрын

I have the same issue. Tomorrow I'm telling his team we need a bcba, I'm not signing until he gets qualified help. I'm too tired & burnt-out to homeschool him but since he's been aggressive now at school I had to pick up his work. It's hard to stay strong.

Thank you ma’am my time didn’t go to waste I appreciated it 🙂

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome 😊

Thank you ma'am for this wonderfull motivation speech😍

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

My pleasure 😊

Thank you Mary, I work with children that have autism. I just subscribed to your KZread account. Your videos are very informative and are helping me a lot to be a better behavior technician. I work under a Board Certified Behavior Analyst. Thank you for all you do to help others to understand Autism better!

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching and following!! Have you watched my free video workshops? they could help in your professional life marybarbera.com/workshops

@dee0731

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, I watched the free video workshop today. It was a great help for me very informative!

@emadhussain2731

Жыл бұрын

can you please give me your email i need a little bit of help with my brother i hope you read this and can help me

Thanks alot for guidance

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome 😊

I worked in a care home.all staff were bitten. Adult Clients had austism and staff had no training or support. Nothing to help them reduce aggression. Thanks for helping and advising. Tganks.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

This is too bad

Before your intro I subscribed instantly !!!

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much .

Love you Mary! Happy Mother's Day!💐💗

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much

As a mom of a 4 year old son who is non verbal I can now more than ever see it's about understand them n the fact that he is expressing himself when he bites or acts up he doesn't express himself like other he has a disablity so I need to understand him I not the disabled person I here to take care of him he is my responsibility and my God gift.... Hopefully other can please understand there own children GOD BLESS N CARE FOR THESE SPECIAL ANGELS N THERE FAMILY'S 💕

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing !

Just found your channel, great content keep up the good work. I have two year old twins, like chalk and cheese, now I have a better understanding of how to deal with one of my boys who has started showing signs of autism for a while now. So thanks for your help. Subbed 🇬🇧👍

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much!

Can you do a video on neuro typical tribal aggression and how to cope bullying and nonsense hierarchical orders that serve no purposes other than stopping neuro typicals from killing each other

Just discovered you , my son is 38 you have a lot of information that I do appreciate . I know you say you should get professional help , I think that’s unheard of . When my son was school age I ended up going through the fair hearing process in two counties in California won but got very little help . Adult programs are not capable of understanding autism . Thank you for your information .

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

There are BCBAs who specialize in adult services. Google BCBA adult services (your area)

I am so happy I found this programme. I am a grandma that has a grandson who is 11 years old with autism. He does not talk and is agressive at most times we don't even know how to deal with him. He bites pinches and screams in most cases. We took him to a special school with down syndrome and autistic children but it didn't help because he was left in the sand pit most of the time because he loves it more than all other activities. This situation was very frustrating and we took him out. Is there anything that we can do to ease off the situation?

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

my online courses can really help you. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

@mahlakomahlodi2646

3 жыл бұрын

@@marybarbera Thank you for your response. I will check them and give you feedback. God bless your heart.

Thank you for this! I'm so happy that I've discovered your channel. As an elementary sub, I spend a great deal of time in the Special Ed classroom. I'm sooo tired of being abused! We get screamed at, hit, slapped, kicked, scratched, clawed, pinched, bitten and spit on. Additionally, we have a chronic eloper, and she can run FAST. I didn't sign up for any of this, and I'm tired. We're all so tired and discouraged. Thank you for being such a resource.

@marybarbera

6 ай бұрын

So glad to bring hope. Keep going!

@immortalityevolution

4 ай бұрын

it's time to change professions, hon 👋

Hi I would like to thank you for your sharing this information. My 28 month old has some serious aggression issues with tantrums. And he is non verbal. While he does say a word out of a blue moon nearly perfectly. It is nearly parroting what you said. But only 1 word and has only done it 2 times since he turned 2. He is not hearing impaired on the least and very engaginging with other kids but he does not get group play. He seems not to understand what others are doing in group play.

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

That sounds very challenging!! I created free workshops for families in your situation. I hope my free workshops can help marybarbera.com/workshops

@IamKarryanne

4 жыл бұрын

Jon Boll Are you real? And are you serious?

My 20 yr old daughter has just started working with a 9 yr old boy. I have sent your link to her. THANKYOU Sending love from AUSTRALIA xx

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing!

What about is aggression is entirely random? Sometimes baths calm, other times it causes flailing. Sometimes food calms, other times it causes flailing. Sometimes going outside calms, other times it causes flailing. Sometimes movies calm, other times it causes flailing. So there is absolutely nothing that never causes meltdowns or aggression. And by flailing I mean anything from arching back and falling backwards. Other behaviors are biting, ripping out caregivers hair, head butting, hitting child’s own head, or hitting head into walls or other objects. Sometimes he can’t sleep, sometimes he wakes up nice, other times wakes up aggressive. Sometimes won’t eat, other times won’t stop eating. Child is age 3 and entirely nonverbal. Also been diagnosed with AHDH. On medication for day and night but not working consistently. Caregivers are out of options. Medical professionals keep saying nothing is medically wrong, but none offer any solutions or relief for parents. Any ideas of what could be done?

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

It sounds like child needs a full assessment by a BCBA . All behavior has a function. Sometimes on and off behavior can be medical but there can be many factors like what happens before a behavior and what happens after. I talk about all this and more in my courses. They can help! check out www.marybarbera.com/workshops

Ok I'll give it a try. I'm afraid if I don't get my 9 year old extremely aggressive child under control soon, he may end up killing me. And I am not exaggerating; I am literally covered in bruises and bites. I have everything to gain from trying this. I'll order it.

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching and being candid. It can be so difficult. Do you have a BCBA working with you?? try googling verbal behavior bcba(insert your area) to find one near you. My free workshops may also help: bit.ly/2ELvSnM . I recently did a podcast with a mom who has a child with severe autism, and this may also help marybarbera.com/20

@Ummyusi

7 ай бұрын

Did anything improve? Going through the same thing with my 20 mo for months now

My brother is autistic I believe, he started out a nice boy then he became aggresive and expectant that my mom would do anything for him, he shouts loads now and also kicks and punches my mother, she ends up crying a lot now, hes only 8 and he has this sort of control over our family, I really dont know how this cycle will end. I have hope that he might become normal at 10 or 12

@yashmistry1945

3 жыл бұрын

My brother (22 yrs) started this behavior since last 2 3 years. I am an introverted, not-to-good with people kind of guy. Facts.... Parents and me give less to no attention to him. We do scold him if he doesn't listen. His tantrums lasts for less time, but I'm afraid it will get worse if I don't do anything. He is smart enough to lie at times. Remedies (That I think will help).... Spending more time with him. Appreciating him more. Using little politics at times to win his trust. Reply if you think I need to do more or anything else... thank you

@asiyah9926

3 жыл бұрын

My son is the same and he is 9. I have no idea what to do.

@lolitalolita7561

2 жыл бұрын

Hi there, I have a 9 yr old son with aggressive behavior. I ask him to use his words . If he wants something we work towards earning it using a token system. I also learned not to point out the negative behavior and praise his good actions and efforts. It is still a work in progress but these strategies have been very helpful. It is up and down so behaviors will diminish and come back every so often. ABA is very helpful . Also we have tried several strategies some work, some don’t. Taking data or keeping a journal is helpful for documentation of how often the behaviors occur.

@lolitalolita7561

2 жыл бұрын

@@asiyah9926 hi, my son has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. He also has sensory issues and impulsive behaviors of biting, kicking, pinching, pulling hair and yelling words that don’t make sense. He also used to run away from me when we would go on community outings. It helps to give him a sensory toy like a fidget, or play dough to keep his fingers busy. He also loves to squeeze play dough. He has a hard rubber chew toy that helps with the biting. He displays these behaviors when it comes to non preferred activities such as doing homework. Using a token chart reward system has helped reduce the behaviors. At first, he couldn’t even stay seated for 5 minutes and he displayed those behaviors to seek negative attention. So I used the token chart and issued a point for staying seated for 5 minutes. Also checking in at every five minutes interval before giving the point, by asking: Did you stay in your seat? ✅ Did you keep your hands and feet to yourself? ✅ Did you keep your teeth in your mouth? ✅ (Because he was constantly biting me or the persons working with him) **You can adjust your rules according to your child’s behaviors** ✅✅✅= 🙂 We checked in every 5 minutes and issued a point if the answer was “yes” to complying to all three, and then gave him a happy face (3 check marks earns the token 😊). This can also be used for completing daily tasks. I learned this from the ABA services my child has been receiving. We still face challenges but I would not have known any of this without a diagnosis that was acquired through an evaluation. Which qualified him to receive the ABA therapy. Some strategies will work, some will not. Also keep in mind that if a certain behavior stops, it is likely to be replaced with a new behavior, but don’t give up. I hope this can be useful to you. I thought it was going to be impossible and I have been impressed with all the progress my child has made. He has come a long way.

@kimmiely2546

2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, children don't magically grow out of behavioral problems. They just become stronger and more strategic at pushing your buttons. Your parents need to reach out for help asap and make the necessary changes in how they're handling him. Your brother might just have ODD. Some kids need more discipline and structure while others need more empathy and attention. He needs to be evaluated by a child psychiatrist so they can get to the root cause. I'm sorry for what you're going through. That must be tough on you as well. Just realized that it's been a year. Hope the situation has calmed down some.

I love all your videos and tips. It's great to hear and get help from people going through similar issues. Thank you so much! ❤

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

Am here to learn. Trying to see how to decrease aggression & talking back from my child. 🤓

very helpful. thank you

@marybarbera

2 ай бұрын

I'm so happy you found this helpful! If you're ever looking for more resources, visit MaryBarbera.com/links-yt

Thank you🙏💙

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

No problem 😊

I recently noticed my emotions and anxiety affect my son's mood and behavior and I myself as his mom am trying to be more aware of that around him so he doesn't feed off my emotions aside from whatever else is triggering him.

@marybarbera

11 ай бұрын

It takes a really great mother to gain that self awareness

Any tips for a pre k student who gets aggressive when coloring work that needs to be done? Getting aggressive when going back into class after playground time? And getting aggressive when you redirect them to not do something?

@HigoIndico

3 ай бұрын

Look into PDA.

Hi I’m so happy I finally found something helpful I have 6 year old autistic son I’m really interested to do ur course

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you can join me. Have you taken a free workshop?? www.marybarbera.com/workshops

The link to the 3 step guide with the assessment tool doesn't seem to be working. Is it still available?

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, it should. Try going to www.marybarbera.com/join

Hi ma'am, thank you for sharing this information. Im glad I found your video. Im as Special Needs Education student and we're currently studying aggressive behaviour. This really helped. Salamat po :)

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Hi Dr Barbera. Is there a possibility that aggressive behavior towards other people, if not resolve, could escalate to SIB? I am currently looking for an article, but still haven't seen one. Thank you.

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

Many individuals have both aggression and sib

@krztinacombs6010

2 жыл бұрын

@@marybarbera But what if a child has no SIB and the child just developed aggression due to aversive event, will there be a chance, if not treated, that aggression could escalate to SIB? Or could SIB be developed when aggression is not treated?

Great video 😊

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks! 😊

What do you recommend to someone who is on Medicaid, which doesn't cover all the professionals that you mentioned in your video?

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

It can certainly be difficult if you cannot get the needed supports. Are you able to get a bcba?? All sates have mandates that say they must provide aba. I am not sure about the level of your child or how dangerous the aggression is, but my free workshops may help bit.ly/2ELvSnM

@cassandragarcia2581

3 жыл бұрын

I am in Texas and you can not afford ABA if you do not have private insurance. My kid is going to see a Developmental Pediatician on Thursday.

Very helpful

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you think so!

Thank you Thank you Thank you!

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome! Thank you for watching.

what is difference between son rise programme and ABA therapy? which one is best therapy for autism?

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

There are many many differences. ABA would be my recommendation. Learn more about my approach by checking out a free workshop www.marybarbera.com/workshops

I have a five year old, we've not been diagnosed yet but ruled out everything else. Due to school holidays we're having major issues with pinching while clenching his teeth during a tantrum. We're trying to work on calm time, sugar free. Time outs im becoming black and blue in bruising - several incidents a day now and at a very low ebb. Any advice please?

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

That's so challenging. Can you call a bcba to work with you? The best thing you can do is prevent the behavior as much as possible. If I gave you a million dollars how could you stop it.

Thank you and appreciate a lot from India 🇮🇳

As a mother to two sons on the spectrum; ages 8 and 5 I can relate to many of the comments. My youngest is extremely attached to me to the point of not wanting others near me or me enjoying my time with others, other than him. I can’t work much because his energy is too much for most to handle and I’m trying to find more patience to understand him (he’s non verbal). Can’t thank you enough for sharing all this info, come here often for guidance and assistance 🤍✨

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching and for sharing your experience here.

My autistic son charlie has been very aggressive lately,so im going to discuss the topics in this video with his teacher tomorrow!

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

That is too bad you are dealing with that problem behavior but happy my video helped. Try checking out my free workshops too and sharing with his educators bit.ly/2ELvSnM

Does anyone have resources and support systems (medical, fb groups, other families) to help families with autistic kids who are aggressive towards parents and siblings in the natrona heights, Pennsylvania area (near pittsburgh)?

@marybarbera

8 ай бұрын

Our community gives great support! Join a course to be a part of this community. MaryBarbera.com/courses

Hi mary We just moved to a new country and my son who is 11 years old and autistic is suddenly showing aggression and start hitting us badly and himself too. I know he might be missing his daily routine which was followed in our country but we are trying our best to occupy him with activities and outing till his school and therapies are sorted. I’m so confused how to handle him It’s a huge change for him and he is severe gluten intolerant and know to allergies too I try a lot to take care of all the things but this phase of him is draining me as I have just gone through hysterectomy too. Please help how can I manage his aggression and this change

@marybarbera

9 ай бұрын

A transition guide might help ease it too. Get the guide here: marybarbera.com/resources/

I have a behavior person and I get frustrated with and I lash out but I also been restrained and now I have to understand that I can’t have those behavior But other wise I love her

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

Hope this helps: marybarbera.com/autism-and-hitting-resolving-autism-aggression/

@barikopman5550

Жыл бұрын

Thanks

I just found you, thank you for making this channel.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoy it!

I work with an adult with autism in the individuals home. Sometimes when I let him nap, he will wake up furious and grab for my hair. When this happens, he pulls as hard as he can and sometimes im scared he won’t let go. I’ve talked to his parents about it but haven’t found a great strategy to defend myself. Of course, now I don’t let him take naps, but im still afraid the aggression will come back at random. Any advice?

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

It is best to contact a local behavior analyst!

Is the assessment guide still available

@marybarbera

13 күн бұрын

Great Question! To learn more about the assessment, attend a 💻 free workshop to help young children increase talking, decrease tantrums, and improve picky eating, sleeping, potty training and more: bit.ly/3GZjn7m

Hello , what can I do to help my 5 y.o autistic son with behaviors in school . He does pretty well at home with behaviors but cannot sit through a full day of school with out behaviors . Such as a hard time transitioning, running away , saying “no” , shutting out . I’m not sure what to do . He’s only in the kindergarten and I’m just so afraid of what’s to come .

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

It would be good to send your school team to my free workshops as my courses will help them be able to teach him. Check it out here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

Yes its so challenging with my son, i am trying everything before medication. 😢

@marybarbera

8 ай бұрын

I understand where you're coming from! If you're looking for more help, check out my other paid and free resources here: MaryBarbera.com/resources.

hi Mary i work in an afterschool club for elementary age kids we share a classroom hut which school uses throughout the day, an autistic child we care for experiences aggression moment with his support teachers so in turn when class is finished for the day, he and his other class mates with same issues, are taken back into main school building,and then we bring him back into the class hut and he's always angry and unconsole-able cos he is reminded of the bad times he had earlier, we are at a loss how to help him as the teachers don't engage with us on what made him angry at the time.so every day is a bad day.wanting so much to turn this around for him hes 8.

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

That is very upsetting. The best way is to pair the place up with fun...but that will be challenging if there is such negativity.

Very lenghty intro for sure. This family has tried a lot of different techniques/medicines with this very physically agressive teen but he keeps going back to aggression... hitting/biting/screaming/runing away! He does have speech problems (only capable of articulating basic sentences) but is very receptive capable He's now tall and strong thus increasingly more difficult to keep from hurting himself and/or others. He does have proffesional help as well as medical, ultimately none seem to help. Has someone successfully dealt with such an extreme case? Plz help!

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it can come down to skills. My courses may be able to teach skills that can help www. marybarbera.com/quiz but ultimately you likely need someone local who specializes in this.

@frickfrack7075

3 жыл бұрын

This is just basic shit every body says. "Unless you buy my stuff you can't have the answers! " Until you buy the book and lo and behold nothing to help in there either. This woman seems like a total scam.

@robertaumpierres8366

3 жыл бұрын

She cannot give any solutions to this kid's problems since she is not the kid's BCBA. The kid needs to be evaluated first and then the BCBA plans a specific program for the kid based on the assessment. The problem is that many parents think that there is a magic formula for all the kids' problems and there is not. Each child is different .

@frickfrack7075

3 жыл бұрын

@@robertaumpierres8366 exactly so what the point of implying you do have some kinda secret knowledge and "help" ? All parents look to people like her for help because we get lost. As a parent of a child on the spectrum, this is the same crap we here time and time again. It doesn't help and it's just useless and annoying. Don't list a video saying as much if this is all you have to say.

@robertaumpierres8366

3 жыл бұрын

@@frickfrack7075 Why don't you take her courses then?The more knowledge you have, the better.You will be able to help your child if you study more about your child's condition.She cannot help you by just answering your question. I watch her videos and she seems to be a great professional.

My child doesn't have autism but she suffers from extreme behavior disorders. she's been isolated from the other classmates since the 4th grade. And now she is a freshman in high school. This cannot be good for her development and her transition into adulthood. She's in a behavior program with the Arlington Texas School district called C.E.A.S.E She she want the chance to be able to interact with the other students and have normal classes and not be isolated to one classroom. I am at my wit's end with my child School district. Can you explain what my options are as my child's advocator?

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

This varies from state to state. I would reach out to local advocates. If you have an autism society near you they can likely put you in contact with an advocate.

@martinafairydust6179

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Eva We just went through the same for a half year, it was horrific. We had to pick him up several times from school, he was getting more and more aggressive from this Isolation! We were desperate. Now he was thrown from school, changing to a different special needs school. My Boy has ADHD and ASS with behaviour Problems. Please change school if possible

I take care of a teenager nonverbal boy who is very autistic hes been attacking me and I am having a hard time figuring out the triggers and how to positively solve it besides running away from him and removing myself...its bad and I want to solve it and tell his mom but I dont know how..any suggestions? Anyone can answer this thanks 🙏❤

@marybarbera

5 жыл бұрын

It sounds like lots may be going on here. I have workshops for parents and professionals which may help you get started with increasing language and reducing problem behavior. bit.ly/2ELvSnM

Hi, the parents of the little girl Im mentioning don’t really seem to think there is anything they can do and are not too concerned... they also don’t like when I share resources with them and advice even though they want my help in her improvement. She will get mad and hit, kick, holler in your face, and push when being told what to do or asked something (generally midday-night). She has a fascination for throwing things at you and poking eyes. Telling her to stop only encourages it. When she gets mad she talks about hitting, kicking, ‘throwing you’, and not loving/liking you. This usually isn’t detected as anger to her parents though because she is sometimes smiling, or saying it in a funny voice, like they do when they tease. However I noticed she says these things when I do something she doesn’t like, so I have reason to think it is related to anger especially when her parents are saying something and she’ll turn to me and say “I need to throw her away” upsettly. How do I help this situation? I’m sorry for commenting so much, I just really care for my sister in law, and as long as I’m a caregiver I’m going to feel obliged to help her not regress. They have asked more of me than my job description when it comes to teaching and therapy and exercise and play... but i don’t know how to approach that either. Thank you.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

If they don't want your input then it's tricky. Making sure you have a clear role in your job will be helpful. If you haven't watch www.marybarbera.com/workshops

Is it possible to discuss with you how to find a positive discipline ABA specialist? My son is aggressive and I am really scared of putting him in the wrong place. I would love to have private coaching or what have you.

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing! I would suggest joining a course to help: MaryBarbera.com/courses

@effie3798

11 ай бұрын

@Tiana Malcom nonsense

I am interested in you one page assessment! How may I get a copy please?

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

Visit www.turnautismaround.com for the free book resources--the one page assessment is in there.

Hi Ms Mary Barbera! I watch your videos which help me a lot. I have two kids, the older has ASD and he is almost 14 years old, a teenager. He's obsessed with routine. But the big problem is that he just wants his 11 years old brother, to do some things the way he does, one example is, to put on socks every day when he takes his pajamas off and puts on shorts, shirt. If his brother doesn't put socks on, he gets mad, aggressive, he bites him, they fight. He also doesn't want him to put on socks with pajamas, evennif it's a cold winter. This is not easy. His brother is growing and I don't want this to keep happening. You can imagine. Could you make a video related to this obsession and repetition. How could I stop this? His brother feels scared sometimes. I'm a single mom and it's a really hard full time job. He receives ABA, but this is a continuous issue at home. Please, help me. My best regards, Maggie.

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

My online courses can help teach you how to take simple data to prevent problem behaviors like this. For more info, join me for a free workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.

Hello .. My child is 8 yrs old and he gets aggressive if I ask him to read and write.. I’m trying to develop interest in him to read and write but it is not working out . Can you suggest me any techniques to do this

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

It sounds like the demand is too high and reinforcement too low. We want to use a lot of strong reinforcement and very small demands to pair up the task with fun.

I believe the necessary ratio should be 1:1 when there is a history of aggression. But, that is impossible for most educational institutions. It's quite unfortunate that the individualized attention is more costly than most schools can afford.

@marybarbera

16 күн бұрын

I agree. It is unfortunate and extra support would definately prevent problem behaviors!

Today is January 27, 2022 . I have been court appointed to a child that both bio parents are drug addicts. I have had full custody for 2 years now. When this child was able to walk. He developed a habit that I have not found a way to stop. I have 2 mini Aussie's. I desperately need ideas how to stop / break the habit of the child from kicking the dogs. He has a cousin on his bio mother side that has Server Autism I have recently found out. I have the child involved in our local HeadStart Program. The teachers and their mental health case worker have requested that I have a neurological brain scan on the child due to type of drugs both parents history & family health information. What are your thoughts. The child also had shown aggressive behaviors in his classroom. They have started using some Autism learning techniques with him. I feel lost due to I am in my 60's age range. I need some help to guidance 😕 🙏. I want to do the best for the child.

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

It sounds like there may be a lot going on but the good news is, regardless of diagnosis, I have techniques that can help you to teach him. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

Going to check this out sounds good. My grandson has started hitting, ticking and pulling hair. Its hard to watch.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

That is really hard.

Is the 3 step guide free ?

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Click on the link in the comments and there will be a 3 step guide there.

Hi I am a teacher in a Montessori School and it is my first time teaching in the environment. I have a child diagnosed with autism in my classroom and I was also informed that his past teachers had hard times handling his aggression I would like to ask if you could suggest an activity that I could do with him before starting the class like a therapy or calming activity that would prepare him, stimulate his sensitivity and calm him down in preparation for the class.

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

It is great you are looking for resources for him. Unfortunately it is challenging for me to comment on individual children. I'd remember when dealing with problem behavior that they often occur when demands are too high and reinforcement is too low.

@reetlalwani

3 жыл бұрын

I am very glad to see your concern, responsibility about the kid. I had a sweet autistic child in my classroom. I tried giving him little more attention, love and pamper to make him calm and happy and it thoroughly did the magic.. All we need is love.. 😊 Love from India..

I like this. For every negative you need 8 positive.

Thank you. I have only been punched and bitten once in the years I have worked with the students. Head off the problem before it escalates🤗

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Very true ! Thank you for watching .

@mrsanonymous414

3 жыл бұрын

What did you do?

@user-sr6nf3dd2j

7 ай бұрын

How do you head it off ?

What about reducing aggression in adults with autism who have never knew or be taught how to deal with things in life? My husband has a lot of signs and gets really angry easily. I'm trying to help him notice what triggers him.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

It would be best to search for a psychologist or behavior analyst in your area to help support this.

@rozanewyorklife155

Жыл бұрын

Can’t serch for my 16 years old son hi is now so aggressive nobodies help, my Insurance Fidelis with Medicaid What do I have to do

@BC4150

Жыл бұрын

Many can't afford this option!

My great grandson is 3 years old and he only says about 3 or 4 words. He gets frustrated and he hits himself. He also is not potty trained. He is on a 2 year waiting list to be assessed. Do you have any recommendations that can help in the mine time? Thanks.

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

Waitlists can be extremely frustrating, because we just cannot wait that long to help our children/grandchildren gain important skills. My online courses can help you help you teach him with just a few affordable materials. Join me for a free workshop to learn more: www.marybarbera.com/workshops.

My son jjst attacked me today . Im starting aba next week thank u Mary just bought your book cant wait 2 read

@marybarbera

3 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear that this happened. My book will help. If you're ever looking for more resources, visit MaryBarbera.com/links-yt

As an autistic person i have had violent behaviour ever since December 31st 2020 which was what started my violent behaviour and i want to stop it and i hope this video helps

@marybarbera

10 ай бұрын

I hope so too! You can also join a course to try other strategies: MaryBarbera.com/courses

I am really struggling with my 14 year old son. He was diagnosed with HFA last July and he gets aggressive when he doesn’t get his way. This is really exhausting for the whole family. How can I handle his anger??

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

That sounds tiring! We mostly want to work to prevent the behavior at first so that it doesn't escalate that way. You also likely need to call a bcba to come do an individualized assessment.

@veronicalascurain7013

2 жыл бұрын

@@marybarbera Thank you! Yes, I will look into that!

My child is unable to answer my questions properly. Please suggest me some thing he is having problems in school as well. Need ur help cant afford assessments or sessions

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

Without knowing your child, it is challenging for me to directly help. Have you watched the free workshops?? bit.ly/2ELvSnM

I have some concerns that I would like to ask. Is it okay if I ask them via email?

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

You can contact info@marybarbera.com

Hello mam my son is autism he is 13year old. always he is runing around playing. But he didn't speek yet. But i notice now some time he is very quite no playing some time he is criying only minit than stop most the time he love biscuits crips but now he not playing not runing round since this morning i notice he is criying only minit than. Stop plz telll me why he is doing this. After week he is better becoz i notice last month is willl same problam is same problam.

@punjabdikuri5599

4 жыл бұрын

Can u reaply me plz

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

It sounds like finding a behavior analyst would be helpful. Without knowing your child I cannot give specific advice.

Do you know any resource, particularly KZread that discusses aggressive behaviour in autism ie punching, kicking, slapping and how to de-escalate this quickly and to not be intimidated and let this damage the relationship with this person?

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

I do not as this is quite specific and individualized information. A BCBA trained in these behaviors and various crisis prevention methods could be investigated.

I'm in north idaho. My son became aggressive at 17. He's now 21 in 3 mo. I'm at my wits end. Lots if therapy. Tired of being injured

@marybarbera

3 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear that. You can join a course to start helping your son: MaryBarbera.com/courses

Hello i live in the uk I have 3 children my oldest who 11 years old he does hand flapping he counts his toys all the time and he could be watching a tv show and then shout. I been asking for help with his old school. And then on his last week before we moved then senco said yep we have seen some hand flapping i been crying for testing. He has hit me push me into the fridge and push me down the stairs. My second child who 9 years old is behind 2.5 years in school (covid) and we got a dr at the hospital she said she has 2 mild genetic disorder and hypertelorism. My 5 year old who was diagnosed with autism she does get upset and pulls hair and hits. We do try not to get to that point we have a cushion where we sit her down and try to calm her down. We do now and next boards and we tell them what happened I just like to know what else i can do As i done video and a book on them too.

@marybarbera

6 ай бұрын

We have members from the UK, Take a free online assessment here and attend a free workshop: MaryBarbera.com/freeassessment

My 8 years old brother loves to throw things at me all day and it’s really frustrating. He does it and he laughs and grabs another thing to throw at me. It happens sometimes that he throws dangerous things at me when i am busy doing something.When he is angry he startes crying and screaming and breaking everything on his way and the first one he thinks of hitting and biting is me At night he gets stressed and starts screaming and doesn’t sleep until 3 am And in the morning when he gets up he’s always in a bad mood and starts the process all over again. I think he has digestive issues but we couldn’t diagnose him Hope we can find a solution for him 😢

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

That sounds really challenging. Tell your parents to watch this www.marybarbera.com/workshops and perhaps look for a local bcba.

@tma957

3 жыл бұрын

@@marybarbera Thanks 🙏

@ethieanmcpherson3050

Жыл бұрын

Less sugar and more natural foods and u will be amaze how he will change.

Hello, my child is 2 yr old, he is non verbal but he is vry aggresive child, he cry non stop nd also bitting on his hand... Sometime slap or bitting me, i am worried, plz help me wht cn i do?

@marybarbera

4 жыл бұрын

That sounds challenging. My free video workshops can help increase language and decrease problem behavior. Try watching here bit.ly/2ELvSnM

Turns out my 2.5 year old grandson has been biting scratching his babysitter and her children , he’s been through 2 babysitters in one month . He hasn’t had an evaluation yet he’s on a waiting list because of covid . He also doesn’t speak . I knew it was autism 😪

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

It can be challenging when they have no language and are in group settings. I have online courses that can help you and your son/daughter help your grandson. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

So what do you do when you're 7 year old autistic daughter has been being aggressive for the last 3 months and you're trying to help figure it out but the school doesn't have any interest in helping your child seems like they only want to punish her. And you can't get any help anywhere, messages emails everything goes nowhere just waiting list and nothing. I don't know what to do anymore .

@marybarbera

Жыл бұрын

Join a free workshop today: MaryBarbera.com/workshop

Where can someone find a behavior analyst?

My sons is 6, started bitting 3 . But trying kick angry outburst, find out that he was hungry or thristy but couldnt express, so every few hours making sure full. Also sometimes sleepy but him in bad also sometimes he just want go outside in play, so boredom he likes walk outside or play water so he need a lot walks everyday to release pen of energy, aggressive reduced significantly to almost nothing

@marybarbera

11 ай бұрын

You can join our courses to get the best help: marybarbera.com/courses

@Red-gy9gx

11 ай бұрын

I found this to be helpful, pay attention to signs of boredom, hungry, sleepiness, or thirsty 100cure. Play tickel game and run around house or yard to run off pen up engery plus walks , so everyday with them something they enjoy. Incase of my son non verbal be aware of need to drink eat. Sleep . Play . Or rest on bed without a nap , all this suggestions 100 💯 percent works, because i tried them, so aggression is next to none implemented these suggestions anyone need anymore suggestions feel free to ask

I have a 2 year old baby cousin and he has autism. he pushes and hits alot and he bites me really hard. It’s abit overwhelming to look after him because i don’t know how to stop him doing this and he is non verbal too. he doesn’t understand when you talk to him

@marybarbera

2 жыл бұрын

That is challenging for sure. Think about ways you can prevent it and stick with that! sometimes joining him in what he likes can help.

Hi my 2 year old get aggressive when he doesn't wants to eat, is this normal, he refuse to eat.

@marybarbera

3 жыл бұрын

feeding can be tricky. if there are things he happily eats you may want to prevent this with that while you can get a plan in place.