anna! i've been doing the daily practice for three months, 2x daily for a few weeks. today i taught myself how to ride a bike and i couldn't believe how easy it was once i got over the self-starting hump. i felt supported by the wind and the planet all around ne. to add, i realize how so much of my depression is actually a response to the clutter i accumulate life long and i've gotten rid of/emotionally detached from so much stuff i didnt think i could. so damn uncomfortable lately but just want to share that this is truly so effective and im feeling trusting toward my future. thank you!

@Captain_MonsterFart

6 ай бұрын

Riding a bike! Good for you, it's so fun and changes everything!

@5gx673

6 ай бұрын

Way to go ❤️

@clairechocolate12

6 ай бұрын

Awesome! 💪

@melinatedvessel6840

5 ай бұрын

So love that for you, very encouraging... Thanks!@

Anna is so on point with this, the amount of letters she gets that are written with this tone is both baffling and illuminating. Rationalization and self-gaslighting under the guise of healing. It's important to cast light on the difference.

@infplife1637

6 ай бұрын

The amount of psychology talk she uses to fuel the denial, is quite amazing. And very sad ....

@sharonthompson672

6 ай бұрын

​@@infplife1637 Could you elaborate?

@joeya289

6 ай бұрын

​@@infplife1637yea, it's a danger of the tolerance/acceptance based communities. The strategy works better when the stakes are lower.

@lucidneptune

6 ай бұрын

Yes! 💯

@infplife1637

6 ай бұрын

​@@sharonthompson672If you listen carefully to what Fairy is saying in her reply, she explains it very clearly.

I wish the Olympics would include mental gymnastics so Anna can be a judge.

@5gx673

6 ай бұрын

😂 love it

@rebecca_stone

6 ай бұрын

This letter writer, sadly, would score close to a perfect 10.

Not even a year ago, I could have written this exact letter. It was like looking through a time machine. Today, I'm out of that relationship, living on my own and never have I loved myself more, had better people in my life, and felt more connected to my own life. It really helped to build a life outside of the relationship that I was excited to step into, even during the time when I felt unable to leave the relationship yet. You can do it too, Katie. Sending love, courage, confidence, and certainty that you are capable and worthy of more!

@redwoods7370

6 ай бұрын

Very happy for you!

OMG the polyamory comment made me literally LOL. I live in a lefty city that is "sex positive" and all about "ethical non-monogamy". I have no issue with either of these things, but the euphemistic language used around these things is SO ANNOYING and is used to justify terrible behaviour. "Taking space, holding space, triggered, etc." 🙄

@anarchsnark

5 ай бұрын

I'm sure it's great for some people but to me when it has been explained, it requires too much trying to repress inner alarm bells and bad feelings.

I'm 100% with you on no-porn, Anna. You call it a dissociative tool, Patrick Carnes calls it an intimacy disorder. It's bad news and it rewires the brain in a bad way. Thank you for consistently putting out this message.

@kenamoe86

6 ай бұрын

It's about whether it deepens connection with your partner. For a lot of people it clearly doesn't, just like TV, phones, food, exercise can have the same effect.

@buddyneher9359

6 ай бұрын

@@kenamoe86 A lot of innocent partners think it will "deepen their connection" with a partner who they don't realize has a sex addiction. Happiness does not ensue.

Back in the 1970’s when I was in my 20’s I dated a sleezy creep just like this guy. I had enough of his cruelty and dumped him. He wanted me back and asked me to marry him and I said NO! It was first time I ever remember sticking up for myself. I followed my true gut feeling of preservation and he was very bad news.

@Verena101

6 ай бұрын

Mostly it happens Like you told...

so, I can’t get passed this part. Her friends had sex with him? Friends?

Ugh, my heart breaks for this woman. I haven't finished the video yet so Anna might touch on this later but how sad is it that he says he isnt in love with her but "chooses a deeper love" or whatever just so she stays around and supplies him with devotion while he literally can't be bothered to be a half decent partner??! And probably cheating with people he's "actually in love with" (or so he says to them), how disgusting 😥

I haven’t even finished listening to the letter and I just want to lovingly shake this person so bad. 😢❤️ I relate so much to bending your mind into a pretzel to be compassionate and understanding of someone who simply isn’t doing the same for you, and losing your own wants and needs in the process, especially with spiritual bypasses and ‘clinical’ concepts for other people’s behaviour, oh my. Can’t wait to hear Anna’s reply.

@Analysis_Paralysis

6 ай бұрын

I can relate!

Ah Katie, girl. Sending you a big hug. Please dump this guy!!! When you wake up you'll be sad you wasted 6.5 years, please don't waste any more time!

Katie, as a woman of 48 who’s seen all manner of things from men, I have a hot tip for you. When you come up against a guy’s crappy behaviour, I recommend asking yourself, “would he treat his dream girl this way?” He would, like all men, be bending over backwards for her. Men are quite simple. There is way too much analysis in this letter, because it’s helps rationalise away the pain. I know it hurts, but it’s a great yardstick and reality check. The GOOD news is that YOU will be the dream girl for the right guy! Much love xo

@sheenaontheinternet

3 күн бұрын

Damn that’s a great self check in question !

IT'S LIKE YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT MY PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP WORD FOR WORD RIGHT NOW. OMG. Ok, sorry for yelling, but damn, this really does hit the nail on the head for me. Thankfully, I got out a little over 2 years ago and have spent that whole time healing, growing, and getting to know myself as a healthy, emotionally secure single person. If the writer of this letter happens to read these comments - GIRL! PLEASE get away from that guy! Cut him away cold turkey! He is poison. You're the pearl to his swine. You need and are worth SO MUCH MORE THAN THIS!! There is so much more waiting for you out there, please stop wasting your time and energy on this person! Love yourself! 😩🙏💚

@dianehoule625

6 ай бұрын

Loved your comment. Especially "you are the pearl to his swine!"

Don’t be desperate for a partner. Self confidence is very attractive. Don’t settle.

@8309barbie

5 ай бұрын

Sometimes we can’t help it.

I think the lines get blurry when you are taught not to judge others. The difference is judging their behavior to decide if its what you want.

Porn is a deal-breaker for me. It misdirects sexual energy away from a relationship, the other partner feels like crap, and so many other manifestations of an addiction that gets in the way and ruins a relationship

God I'm so glad after hearing this that I've been happily single for nine years and haven't had to put up with this kind of bull shit for equal amount of years.

@Verena101

6 ай бұрын

But what is with the physical part, hugs, kissing and all that? Did you never missed that?

@sueg2658

6 ай бұрын

@@Verena101Physical part? I’m sorry to say, not every relationship or marriage even has the physical part after the love bombing is over. Especially if you hook up with a narcissistic person. They just get it on the side by having many affairs. Those people that do have that physical part are not the norm and should consider themselves very fortunate.

@Verena101

6 ай бұрын

@@sueg2658 oh ...do you think so? That's tuff! I thought it's normal when you have a relationship, that you have sex too. But I admit, that to have sex, means not, to make love. Because I know that many people can not love really and are not so well getting along with each other. But I thought that the most couples have sex, even if they have these problems, because of the instinct and longing for physical contact...

@somethinggood9267

6 ай бұрын

​@@Verena101it is normal to have intimacy and sex with your partner.

I wonder if the woman who wrote this latter has anyone in her life who would honestly tell her that she’s being used; or maybe she already removed herself from those people. Usually people in denial quickly exclude those who honestly tells them what’s going on.

@melinatedvessel6840

5 ай бұрын

This needs pinned...Great comment & soo true!@

People who compulsively watch porn are escaping, have ED and can't handle their emotions

It feels like maybe in a way both of them are crap-fitting to each other. They both want to make something work in an unworkable situation. I don't think we have to demonize the guy for whatever desires are pulling him away from the relationship, though. If he wants to have a ton of sex with a bunch of people, that's valid for him, but the point of "ethical" non-monogamy is to do that with people who are okay with it. To me it sounds like they both want each other to be entirely different people and neither of them is willing to do the work to actually go out there in the cold world and be worthy of the people who would actually be good for them. Katie needs to take responsibility for herself and value herself enough to choose to be alone rather than be in a relationship that is toxic for her, and he needs to grow up and be a man and take ownership of his desires and find a person who shares in his lifestyle.

A note about the "self-soothing" comment from the letter writer...Anna is dead on as usual that this is therapy talk being misapplied in this situation in order to manipulate and a main driver of the self-gaslighting. Self-soothing is a real thing you learn about in therapy however it is NOT meant to be a tool to make others ignore their inner alarm bells going off. Anna's stance on porn and polyamory is so validating. So much of that is self-delusion and manipulation.

@megaz2338

6 ай бұрын

I agree with everything you said except I don’t believe that polyamory is manipulation or self delusion. Some people prefer different things, it doesn’t make it bad

Wow... this letter sounds like my last relationship. I let him go. I couldn't take another one of his cycles. Couldn't put myself through that again. I still cry about it because he has to help himself. There was only so much I can do and only so long I can wait. Felt like the relationship was in a never ending limbo. I never want to be in that situation again. Its an horrible experience.

YES!! REFUSE TO DATE MEN WHO USE PORN!! AND you're against polyamory? Anna you are UTTERLY BASED AND CLEARPILLED

I want to get on a public health rant about porn but I'd be preaching to the choir. For the sake of young women who are looking for safe partners - beware. Porn objectifies women and degrades them. I don't know how a porn user can be a safe and loving partner in real life. If you think it's weird, it is!

These kind of guys are gross. Been there - sending ❤️

It seems like Katie is rationalizing and using clinical labels to justify this guy's behavior. 6.5 years of him constantly pulling back and hiding by checking out of the relationship, then coming back and apologizing when he thinks you're about to leave. That's what he's actually doing. Welcome to a relationship with an avoidant partner. At all times an avoidant person is trying to figure out "how close do I have to get? And how far away can I get without losing this relationship?" He's gotten as close as he wants to get. This guy wants you around but still wants to live alone, watch port, fantasize about his ex, and drink and smoke too much. And he's doing what he has to to keep Katie while also holding her at arms length.

I think it’s so sad when people comment (on every video), “that’s why I haven’t been in relationships! So glad that part of my life is behind me!” Instead of listening to Anna’s advice and working on yourself, your boundaries, and what you want. If you genuinely don’t want to be in a relationship, that’s fine. But when you make announcements about it, it seems more like you were triggered by the content of the video back to a bad relationship and your inner child/fear response came up and was like, “see! I was right!” I know it takes time to learn and it’s perfectly reasonable to not be in a relationship while you’re healing, but it just makes the comment section so negative. I thought we were a growth minded community of healing. If you don’t think things can get better, I’m confused about why you’re here…. And if you do think things can get better, I would suggest not commenting your fears that they can’t and stating them as facts. … ironically, people being triggered about relationships triggers me lol

@byebyefeather

6 ай бұрын

Agree with this, seems like when people say "I am done with relationships and prefer being single". Its a cope. People are hardwired to be in relationships. So its ok if you can't be in a relationship because you've been hurt so badly, but that isn't a positive thing. The harsh truth is you've been hurt

I think sometimes we have to tell ourselves harsh truths: the guy is a huge walking red flag. You crapfit as Anna says because of fear and past trauma. Only answer: run and never look back. Focus on yourself and face the truth or the truth will come to you in a worse way. My own bitter experience, at least.

In the first few lines of this letter, it was clear this woman is crap-fitting her mind to this superficial user guy. And I also, near the end of this video, i laughed when Anna said, "bull shit" because I've never heard her say that before and what the man in the letter is doing, saying, claiming, and gaslighting about is absolutely just that!

He is grooming her for polyamory and potentially preparing her to say yes to some random orgy with crackheads. He gets off on her weak mind and gets ego boost out of her self gaslighting. Sadly this will take an entire life time for this woman to fully recover from him considering she has stayed almost a decade. And that too if she leaves him today!!! She has out of body (extreme disassociation) in his presence. Anna should be paid paid double to help this poor woman. Only Jesus himself can save her.

@Susan13554

6 ай бұрын

It doesn't take a lifetime. I was in a similar situation. After the break up, I was heartbroken for a year, but then I moved on and I'm currently married to a good man and I still can't believe I put up with such a crappy person. 3 years after that breakup I was happily married (still am).

@sophiahace9920

6 ай бұрын

Keep in mind: This is trauma related. She’s not doing it because she likes it. She’s a human being. We all have trauma or we wouldn’t be here. Please remember to be kind.

I love you Anna. I had an EX announce that he didn’t want to love me and I needed to find someone else to love me. I left immediately and told him I’m going to finally accept what he’s saying. It was so painful to hear that but you’re right this is not love. My ex also blurted out things that were hurtful. I’m so glad I left and this video confirms that.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

6 ай бұрын

That must have been difficult, but I'm so glad you were able to walk away. You truly deserve better :) -Calista@TeamFairy

This was so gut-wrenching to listen to. I feel so bad for Katie, please leave this guy! Also Anna, it is so refreshing to hear you stand against porn - the more I investigate the more awful consequences I find it has on people, relationships, mind, heart and society (aside from the exploitative, violent industry it supports) Many partners with betrayal trauma as well - the idea that someone is in a monogamous relationship but searches for and masturbates to other people is so contradictory and hurtful. It is everywhere, in a very invasive way, and so normalized that you are made to be a bad person if you´re against it. I´d love to hear you expand on your experience/viewpoint

Needed to hear this one today. Struggling myself. This fellow sounds like my husband of 23 years. I wish I would have understood all of this 23 years ago, and maybe I would have recognized all the warning signs. Sigh.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

6 ай бұрын

We're all sending you support and encouragement. -Calista@TeamFairy

I don’t date people who are into porn either. No judgement but I see red flags whenever I hear it.

A lot of people view it as I’d rather be in a bad relationship or an abusive one then no relationship at all

Oh god. She needs also get rid off her "friend"group. Or those "women" who felt It was ok idea to sleep with him. Ex or not😅

Mine once told me relationships were suppose to be hard.....ya I don't think so not like that

@Leoo117

6 ай бұрын

People actually believe that and literally make things hard as a result of that limiting and false belief. If they could get rid of the smoke and mirrors and confusion around that statement, they would actually just say that they don't know how to properly show up in relationships and they have a lot to learn.

This dude is a player. Definitely sounds like he has narcissistic qualities. He needs constant supply of attention. Then gets bored with someone, moves on goes to another and goes back to another one from their past. Thry just keep circling around. At some point someone has to be done with the carousel on fire and jump off.

00:00 🚩 Recognize rationalization: Trauma-driven thinking can mask a partner's harmful behavior, leading to denial despite obvious signs of lying, cheating, or manipulation. 01:52 🤔 Anxious-avoidant dynamics: Relationship struggles rooted in childhood trauma responses, resulting in anxiety and avoidance patterns between partners. 03:30 🛑 Boundary setting: Establishing boundaries around discomforting topics, like fantasies or exes, to avoid triggering fears of abandonment. 06:00 🚨 Recognition of unhealthy dynamics: Partner's inconsistent behaviors, emotional avoidance, and lack of true connection, causing deep insecurities and repeated hurt. 08:31 🎭 Dissociation from reality: Ignoring blatant signs of a problematic relationship by rationalizing behaviors, leading to a denial of the truth and one's own feelings. 11:45 🚫 Walking on eggshells: Utilizing language to navigate discomforts, but inadvertently abandoning personal feelings and needs for the sake of the relationship's status quo. 14:43 🚧 Extended unhealthy relationships: Holding onto a relationship despite recurring discomforts, emphasizing good times while neglecting crucial negative aspects. 16:19 ⚠ Excusing damaging behaviors: Partner's use of coping mechanisms like pornography and substances rationalized as avoiding difficult feelings, rather than acknowledging their impact. 17:57 🤷‍♀ Self-suppression for relationship: Engaging in self-soothing practices to cope with partner's withdrawal and fantasies, neglecting personal discomforts for the sake of the relationship's stability. 21:26 🚩 If you're constantly trying to understand your partner and neglecting your own needs, it's a sign to reevaluate the relationship. 22:49 💔 Loving someone who doesn't reciprocate those feelings is painful, but acceptance is the only way forward. 23:58 🚫 Trying to fit yourself into an unacceptable situation to avoid heartbreak is a common response, but it's essential to acknowledge it's doable to leave. 25:08 💔 Being in love is not a fantasy; it's a real prerequisite for a meaningful romantic relationship. 26:32 🛑 Don't gaslight yourself into thinking suppressing emotions will make an unhealthy relationship better; authenticity matters. 27:30 🤯 Recognizing unhealthy behavior in a relationship is crucial; don't justify hurtful actions or numbing behaviors. 28:11 🦋 Leaving a toxic relationship brings peace and clarity, removing the need to compromise integrity or face constant struggles. 29:07 🧠 Building trust in oneself and staying present in reality, rather than indulging in fantasy, is key to healing and growth.

@ixizn

6 ай бұрын

how did u do this when the video just got posted omg

@dameanvil

6 ай бұрын

@@ixizn Magic

@ixizn

6 ай бұрын

@@dameanvil alright then, keep your secrets... 🧙‍♂️

@vlightphotography

6 ай бұрын

@@ixizn It's done with AI, there are various websites and even browser plugins where you input the link of the video, it then analyzes it and it creates a summary and timestamped breakdowns of all the information.

@ixizn

6 ай бұрын

@@dameanvil I mean. I didn’t say a thing about AI. I was genuinely wondering how you could sum up a 20mins long video that was posted 4mins ago when AI hadn’t even crossed my mind.

What a bunch of bs from a so called partner... Op, if you had a daughter in that same situation, what advice would you give her?

This letter was a tough listen. Every sentence got worse and worse. Sending love to the writer and hope she can get some perspective in time

Preach it sister. By the way spaciousness I believe meant not cornering/confronting Lady....leave that guy.

Thank you Anna - Nicole Ireland 🇮🇪

I suspect LW says: Thanks so much for dealing with my insecurities and craziness! and he thinks: Yeah! I'm rescuing you.

First thing, nobody will or can rescue you besides YOU. The first sentence is that he's wonderful? How? Where? Everything what she describes is more and more worse. That's not even friends with benefits, because there is not even a friendship. No friend would tried you like this. I think even her friends are more like enemies. Who sleeps with your "boyfriend" who is a friend? WTH... Run and don't look back. He's just a trauma bond, nothing more. It's so sad to see somebody live in a fantasy world like this 😢. Been there too but not so bad. Thank god.

"working on things is good when you're actually working towards the same thing." Tattooed on my brain now.

Many of us live in a fairyland world. I believe I was in my twenties when I stopped believing someone was coming to help me. I refused to have worthless boys who noticed I was independent & wanted a sugar momma. This lady needs to think better about herself. Her needs aren't met. If she doesn't take better care of herself she will end up an old lonely lady with true brokenness. I wonder if she's giving him money & her body.

Bravo Anna! What a great insight into the situation, because it’s not a relationship, or if it is, it’s a one-sided one. Having one person work overtime to pick up other person’s slack doesn’t sound like a good time at all😢 I wish author the best and to choose herself because if she keeps choosing him she will be spiritually bankrupt soon if not already. I can just see him like a leach telling her stuff that undermines her abilities and lowers her self esteem..

I love your work 🙏 I really try so hard not to comment on any platform. This one I couldn’t hold back(sorry) Huge 🚩…when a person in a relationship continues to talk about his ex/fantasy. Trust me this is an admission of guilt. A guilty person with low morals will use this tactic to justify their actions. Again sorry

I had some realllyyyyyy bad experiences as a result of my ex's porn addiction, i think it's super valid to call it out. I personally think porn would and could be great, if it was not perpetuating ideas and fantasies in the subconscious that are objectifying and honestly sometimes evil. And some of those videos are really scary, as in i worry about which ones were actually consensual and which ones are honestly just an exposure to the darkest cruellest parts of humanity.

@buddyneher9359

6 ай бұрын

Robert Jensen and Gail Dines have written excellent books on porn and its industry. I recommend them to anyone who wants clear analysis of why porn is not harmless.

Hi! Thank you so much for your videos Anna 💕 I'm learning so much about CPTSD, relationships and about myself :) and while I'm watching this video I realize I was dissociating so much in my last relationships and that I really need to heal before I can have a healthy one!

You are so smart. Sometimes, it is really hard to get through your videos. I have been with my therapist for 18 months.

Goodness, I just love you. Your clarity and directness is breathing life into me. Thank you

the worst is if these thoughts where taught to her by her therapist... I had my therapist explain to me these same things in a similar (but much much shorter) situation, that I am the one with the problem and that I have to change how I react or feel ...

@JMarie0921

5 ай бұрын

I had one tell me the same, that's why I stopped going. And now that I'm wiser I realized I was right that it was him.

Such valuable insights - thank you so much, Anna... Love your service ❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

6 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy

She reminds me ir the dissassociation I used to do when I was molested by a "friend" at age 12... And yes,I am still dealing with the after effects of it today at 53 years old... 😢sad...

I agree with you re porn. It's absolutely awful and contributed to the ending of my ltr, I won't go near anyone who watches porn.

I agree. My husband used porn and it ruined our marriage.

Also me. The part that struck me about your response was "grooming me toward another partner" which is exactly what happened. I hung on for so long, only to feel like a broken toy. He's a recovering alcoholic, now I understand what a dry drunk is. I blamed myself for so much, now I am free. It took a chunk of my soul though, not sure I'll ever be the same.

I hope she can find love in a hobby like I have done.. Model Car Building has taught me a lot and I believe I have grown since I rediscovered the hobby 2 1/2 years ago... It replaces a relationship for me and I also don't have to go through a mess like this...

Anna, what do you do when you have absolutely no money, no job, no place to stay and no support by anyone. How is it possible to be alright?

@babaganouche9605

6 ай бұрын

That's really rough and I am sorry if you are going through that. I think you just take it one step at a time. Start by getting a job and saving money. One problem at a time, but money will buy you freedom. There is a channel called Healthy Gamer, where Dr. K (who is a psychiatrist) goes through a lot of different mental health topics in a deep way backed by science. Might be a good resource to understand how to strengthen yourself.

@condwiramurstally

5 ай бұрын

I've been there too. It's normal to not be alright in that situation, but you can do something with it. A really good thing is to have faith in the future.

Struggling with a guy who is so absent emotionally when l state unmet need or desire. l think his libido is activated by fear of me loosing interest. He has a hard relationship with parents…child of emotional neglect. Knowing and witnessing it, l am still questioning whether he is autistic. I asked him to get evaluated because it’s really weird. I know he loves me, but the passion feels absent (just a really good friend). He says his actions don’t match his love and the closer we get, the worse he’s in the relationship. How do you untangle this? My guy just shuts down, no addictive stuff etc..he immediately leans performatively.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

6 ай бұрын

A great way to get clarity about difficult relationships is through Daily Practice. Check out the free course here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice If you'd like to dive deeper, Anna has a whole course about Dating and & Relationships for People with Childhood PTSD bit.ly/3IBbrv7 You can also contact our customer service team at hello@crappychildhoodfairy.com and ask them for providing you with more materials. Nika@TeamFairy

I had the same exact relationship in the past for over 5 years and I'd be so much better now if I turned the meter off on it when my intuition told me which was pretty much right away. It's also important to understand that culture to which this man belongs to. If you're not sharing the same cultural background; you might be used by this guy. Have you met any if his family and friends? Do they acknowledge your relationship as well, or it's only you and him?

Do you still accept letters? If so, where do I send it/ email it? Is there a PO Box?

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

6 ай бұрын

Yes, Anna still accepts letters. If you’d like to send yours, here’s how to do it: bit.ly/CCF_Letters For more questions, feel free to contact our team at hello@crappychildhoodfairy.com Nika@TeamFairy

I believe he was poorly parented as well...

He is definitely very screwed up.. and what's worse... He is self medicating as well...

Do you know of a channel that deals with similar topics but for men? Could be of real help.

I crap fit and did so for 47 years with every relationship.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

6 ай бұрын

You're in the right place! -Calista@TeamFairy

I think a lot of women would be happier if they put their desire to care for and nuture something into their friendships or volunteer work instead of men who are projects.

He also sounds quite narsissistic...

"Often Wonderful"......oh oh 🚩😅

Absolutely no porn! It cheapests the relationship . I have found porn magazines and what my ex husband at the time never got was it turned me so off towards him. Back in the day men went to Adult shops or though C Stores where the back section held the porn Magazines. Today it is pretty bad with the internet.

You only take letters from women?

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

6 ай бұрын

Certainly not! You can write to us here if you're interested: bit.ly/CCF_Letters -Calista@TeamFairy

He doesn’t sound as nice as the first paragraph at all 🤷🏻‍♀️

What does it mean when husband's/Boyfriends receive and send their buddies or co-worker porn ? I have been in that situation. Women don't send their friends porn . Granted a small percentage of women might be ok with that with their other half. Never has my girlfriends sent me porn !

🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

I’m not an expert on this as I’m monogamous myself, but I think Anna might be confusing polyamory with an open relationship? Polyamory has to do with the ability of being in love with more than one person at once, and when done ‘properly’ is supposed to be built on just as much trust and consent as relationships of any other sexuality. It CAN include having an open relationship, but it can also be, for example, three people all being in love and only dating each other. Maybe Anna still stands by her opinion on it, but while I fully buy that open relationships would be a bad idea for the majority of us who grew up with trauma/have attachment issues, being poly shouldn’t in itself be the issue if that’s what someone’s sexual orientation really is (and they’re not just being pressured by a partner who really only wants to freely cheat, basically). Either way I felt the need to mention something about this for anyone who doesn’t know the difference. :)

@Captain_MonsterFart

6 ай бұрын

Yes that describes it very well. People make a lot of big assumptions about what goes on in those arrangements.

Anna! Thank you! And 🙏🏼for all trying to escape from this. Key word was disassociating. 50% of this man describes mine Trying to end after 8 years! My TOOLS: Listening to Anna for reality check SLAA meetings (sex & love addiction) Alanon mtgs, tightened female relationship get togethers, Joe Dispenza meditation, back to college(at 61 yrs.) utilizing brain, worship music & church to elevate mood & serving others(homeless). God I pray I and you all get away this time & heal the abandonment🙏🏼🩷

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy

I hope this lady heals, her scenario sounds similar. A follow up to see how she gets on?

Here for my daily dose of sanity 🎉😂