After my husband, my kids and I moved to NC from CA, my mom would constantly say I took HER babies away from her. She would constantly bring up that she had a better bond with my son than I did because she helped take care of him after I had my daughter and started going to school. She tried to convince me and my husband to leave my son with her permanently while we lived in NC. My mom would try to tell me she would be better for him than I would. Completely tried to take over as his pseudo-mom and thought I shouldn't even have a chance. It was fucking crazy.

@paulomiandriyajayanth9093

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my god this is so crazy!! Stay safe!!

@greenlean8890

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry this happened to you and your family. Its a good thing you and your husband are protecting your children and ensuring they stay with you.

@lemnajcavite

2 жыл бұрын

Jesus. This does happen IRL then. This is a legit 'Fox 9-1-1' TV series plot.

@anonomous8649

2 жыл бұрын

Reminds me slightly of my grandma. She threatened to fight for custody of me in court, but gave up once she realized how expensive AND hopeless that would be. Still love my grandma a lot but she dealt with a lot of very bad and unchecked mental health issues her whole life.

Her Dad needs to get his wife evaluated. She truly sounds like she needs psychological help.

@kermit5822

2 жыл бұрын

Yea I mean that’s so fucking sad, it sounds like she’s suffering from PTSD after her miscarriage - I mean in some places abortive measures are like *fully* completely banned, including c-sections for dead fetuses. Meaning she may have been one of many to be forced to term and had to go through a still birth. She truly needs psychological help and therapy - it’s sad how your mental health can affect both the patient and the patients family/friends :(

I got pregnant as a teen with my first daughter. My stepmom started with the crap that I need to give her custody of my baby to her and that she need to raise the baby etc. My bio mom and dad had to put her in her place many times. She even tried to have my child’s father kicked out of the delivery room by saying I was a minor and lived with my father there for she had the right to say who can be in the delivery room. Well, my dad wasn’t having it and made her leave. I found out later that she had a daughter as a teen and her parents took the daughter and raised her as my stepmothers sister. So the women who I always thought was my step aunt, was actually my step sister. I can imagine that this messed up my stepmother and me getting pregnant triggered some mental stuff. Luckily things are good now and my bio parents kept my stepmother in her place while my daughter was younger.

@rynec.6714

2 жыл бұрын

Its so sad that it happened to her, maybe your step m and sister need some time to get together for her to heal. So she does not have to bother you anymore.

@JusMehhh

2 жыл бұрын

Did she get any help?

@sweetkandy2606

2 жыл бұрын

@@JusMehhh I would assume so, they both see therapist for various reasons and my stepmother is in 60’s and stepsister is in her 40’s. And all of this went down over 20 years ago when I had my daughter. It appears that their relationship is in a good place.

The stepmother definitely has a trauma or ptsd from her miscarriage and first failed marriage

I feel bad for the step mom bc of the miscarriage and the first person leaving her bc of it but that doesn’t give her the right to try and take the baby without the consent of the parents. No one has the right to do that unless given consent. Taking over parenting can be ok in some instances like if it’s baby sitting or watching the baby for the parents to give them a break for a bit, but completely trying to take the baby and saying it’s “my baby” is beyond messed up. Hope the step mom gets some help and op and family does something to keep them and the baby safe

When her dad came in and showed the avocado I said out loud: an avocaaaado! Thaaaaanks!

@TwoHotTakes

2 жыл бұрын

That was my thought too!!!!

I’ve had 3 miscarriages and if grief isn’t deal with properly it could result in psychological issues.Even if it is dealt with it can lead to psychological issues.it in no way excuses the behavior though.

@vinregret

2 жыл бұрын

exactly. explanation, not excuse

This is a great case of a “trauma trigger” because the step mom didn’t get what she probably wanted most at the time of her miscarriage, a baby. So seeing this person with the thing she longed for threw her brain into that scenario which caused her to “snap”. I quite honestly feel bad for her ( I’m not defending her actions) because it is really not her fault, our brains are just the worlds most complicated computers and hers got a glitch.

OP needs to get a restraining order against her step mom and dad for enabling this. And her dad needs to stop enabling his insane wife and divorce that psycho.

@MaelynnKJS

2 жыл бұрын

The step father isn't enabling her. He had to talk & put her in her place many times. Also, I don't think divorce is the route. The stepmother obviously needs extream help. She is having somekind of mental break.

@moonloverbabe

2 жыл бұрын

@@MaelynnKJS yes, she needs help. She just isn’t over the trauma of a miscarriage

As a single mom living with my parents, I had an issue when my son was like 7-10 of him saying “nana, I mean mom!” Or “mom, I mean nana!” And it hurt me so much. I understood that because I was working all the time, they had this dynamic and it definitely made me feel like he was my little brother instead of my son. My mom and I talked about it too and while she got kind of defensive about it at first, I think it was more resentment that she had to be a mother to him when I wasn’t there. It’s gotten much better as he’s gotten older. He’s 17 now. All is good but it definitely helped to let my feelings be known.

These are my FAVORITE videos to see on my feed!

I feel like the “my baby” thing isn’t too bad depending on the context. If a grandparent is interacting lovingly with the baby and says like “aaww my baby” that’s different. It’s all in how you say it. Saying with authority and crossing boundaries is not okay. The step mom definitely needs mental help.

@celesteobezo965

2 жыл бұрын

Yes like My dad says my baby to my daughter but it's his first grandchild and he just loves her but they know she's not theirs and are respectful about it

@savannahellis8888

2 жыл бұрын

Yeahhh i still don't like that.... my dad calls daughter "my little sweetpea" and I HATE it..... he used to call her his girl and his baby and I told him "no she's mama's baby" over and over again until he finally quit it. This is my first child and she's very obviously attached to me over anyone and I already have issues with my dad living with my fiance and I (definitely some disrespect of boundaries...) he also used to call me sweetpea and some of the other names he calls her and he also doesn't acknowledge me or my fiance when he enters the room or the house, he only talks to my daughter. I'm getting to the point where I want nothing to do with my father (there's a lot of other things he does that makes me feel this way, long before my daughter was even born, but these are just what is pushing me over the edge) but with his health being so bad I can't morally make him leave or move my family out without having him somewhere to go..... so I'm just stuck in a really shitty situation and lowkey hate my life.... (obviously I love my fiance and my daughter but my dad makes my life miserable...)

@yaneisiminjares6115

2 жыл бұрын

@@savannahellis8888 he probably doesn’t acknowledge y’all because y’all are rude wtf sweetpea and his girl are very cute names grandparents give. If he’s saying it sweetly it’s because he knows that’s his grand baby. And I’m not saying y’all haven’t had a rocky relationship ion know y’all. But to be mad at someone for “sweetpea” is so gross just tell him please call her “my grand baby” or by her name

@yaneisiminjares6115

2 жыл бұрын

@@savannahellis8888 you seem very self involved “obviously she’s attached to me over anyone” no fucking shit Sherlock you’re her mom babies are typically attached to the mom first.

@savannahellis8888

2 жыл бұрын

@@yaneisiminjares6115 thats not the only thing he does to infuriate me. But thanks for giving me your 2 cents when no one asked for it... i couldnt care less what you think or feel about my situation. This is one of the small things that infuriate me, like i said. But i also dont have to explain my life to you, but trust me you wouldn't want to be in my situation. At this point, i dont want to see my dad. At all. I wouldn't want anything to happen to him, but i also dont want him in my life. I want nothing to do with him. At all. I dont want my daughter to be around him. This has been building for 10 years. Cleaning up after him, cooking for him, doing any and every thing for him. It started when i was 16.... im tired of being his mom, his maid. Im tired of taking care of him the way i take care of my child.....

My mil for the longest time would introduce my oldest when she was first born till she was almost a year old, as her daughter. It drove me freaking crazy. I ended up yelling at her. Even my fil would correct her and emphasize GRANDdaughter when she would do this. My husband would get annoyed with this too.

I’m pregnant with my first - if someone refers to her as “my baby” that stuff is getting shut down real fast.

I have called my sisters kids my babies but that's something that my immediate family does. I do not think of her children like they're my actual children. I know my sister doesn't care because sometimes she'll call me and tell me to come change my son lol. That being said, if she had an issue with it I wouldn't do it anymore. But, this is some serious hand that rocks the cradle shit!

@christianholley8384

2 жыл бұрын

I literally asked my sister the other day “how are my kids doing”

I don’t see the dad as supportive as it seems. Yes he’s reprimanding her, but he’s enabling her by not doing anything else about it. Watch when they go to police, the dad will start saying things like “that wasn’t necessary, she just loves your child like her own” 🙄

@sydneyharp1989

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t think anyone could have predicted it could be this far. It’s not uncommon for parents to be like “it’s not the right decision”. But I don’t think the dad is an enabler since he was willing to have fights over pushing marriage. With this I don’t think he wants her around the baby either.

@vinregret

2 жыл бұрын

I mean to me it seems like this hasn't been going on for all that long (relatively speaking). He could just be trying to figure out what route to go to put a stop to it. Based on him getting progressively more mad at her and reprimanding her it doesn't seem like he's tolerating it.

my little brother and i just found your podcast completely coincidentally on our own and we love it! now we talk about the stories and everything together - love yall!

This definitely sounds like a trauma informed response. It’s sounds like their (stepmom and daughter) relationship changed when the pregnancy was announced. I think the stepmom was worried about a possible miscarriage and resulting break up like she’d been through but came to latch on to the child after being assured things would be ok. Now that her unhealthy response is being called out and is causing problems, she seems to be reliving the trauma of being left because of a baby/pregnancy but can’t see how her actions have caused it. She really needs psychological help and I hope she gets it, but she definitely shouldn’t be let around op and their family until she is in a much better place and they decide it’s ok.

This could be a Lifetime movie 😅😬

I found you on tiktok a few days ago and realized that you had a KZread channel I have been obsessed with your podcast I put it on my Spotify and on my TV while I'm cleaning my house it's so insane to hear the different stories that people have

My bfs mom does the same thing she tries to get my son to call her mama instead of me and whenever I’m not around tells people that he’s hers bc she is ‘too young to be a grandma’ and I’m ‘too young to b a mom’🤦🏼‍♀️ we don’t really go around her anymore

See I jokingly refer to my nephew as my baby, I lived with him for the first 18 months but my brother knows I’m joking just like a “lol it feels like I have a baby because I’m one of many caregivers” but I would never ever try to take him

I had my son when I was 19. My youngest sibling at the time was exactly 2 years older then him. My mom a few times at first accident referred to herself as mom or mommy but immediately corrected herself. I get it because she was still a parent of a young child. But it would have been so weird if it continued or if she didn’t correct it right away.

One of my husbands best friends, his mother adores our daughter and we lovingly referred to her as grandma Bonnie and whenever we’re over she always refers to my daughter as her baby. But there’s never any confusion of who’s baby she really is.

My mom was living with me when I had my first son and we butted heads a bunch in the beginning over my parenting choices, for a while when my son would call for me she would answer and I had to correct it immediately. Shes way better now but I think it's hard for parents to adjust to their new role and to respect new boundaries. This story is some serious mental health issues tho and she probably did have some sort of ppd or pps after the miscarriage that was never properly addressed

I feel bad for the step mom, but I think it’s best to keep her far away from the baby for the time being. Your boyfriend is right, it does sound like the start of a horror movie.

I am pregnant with my first now and my boyfriend's sister who I don't know super well has already told him that she wants to be in the delivery room with me, that she wants to be the godmother of my baby, and that she wants to be "like a second mom" to the baby. I told him that I think everything she has said is extremely weird, and not something that you request of parents but instead something that you hope that they will request of you and if not then oh well. She has 3 other kids already so it's not like she is the woman who always wanted to be a mom but never was. My boyfriend is going to speak to her and tell her I'm uncomfortable but if she pushes back I have no problem with her not being around the baby at all because I get a very bad feeling from all this.

The one dislike is from the deranged step mother 😂😂😂

You know, my ex MIL is a toxic human being and she had mentioned to my ex fiancée and I if that we got pregnant she’d want us to sign over custody to her and at the time I thought it was sweet to be helpful if we weren’t able to…but now this scares me. This videos raises so many red flags for me now that we aren’t together and knowing what she’s like now

My mil and sil say my baby and it doesn't bother me, but it does when my gma-i-l does. It's because my sil and mil don't get all possessive and respect when I want to take my daughter back, but my gma-i-l gets an attitude and trys to make me feel bad.

It's pretty sad losing a baby is a huge trauma & it definitely got to the step mom, seeing someone close to her grow a baby & not lose it.

OK. I and my family have always called babies “my baby”. I say it to my grandkids, my mom and grandma both said it about the babies. None of us actually believe the child is ours.

@jaelaandelijahworld3275

2 жыл бұрын

Mine too since the kid would come over a lot my mom sees them as her kids and treats them like there her but also when we go over to there we are treated like their kid

@Flora-vo2cb

2 жыл бұрын

If that works for the parents, it's ok. If it's NOT ok with the parents, you shouldn't be calling their babies as your own. Then it would be creepy af and crosses boundaries. I would totally understand why the parents would not want their kid to be around those people at all.

@kristinmichelleyt

2 жыл бұрын

@@Flora-vo2cb I feel like this generation of parents are far too sensitive. Maybe it’s COVID or maybe it’s the internet where they can all congregate and hear the answers they want to. I have never run into a person yet that got mad or “offended” when someone called their baby theirs.

@Flora-vo2cb

2 жыл бұрын

@@kristinmichelleyt Maybe it has made them uncomfortable but they haven't told you so to your face. For those who find it uncomfortable, I don't think they are too sensitive, they are rightly uncomfortable with someone else claiming their child as their own. They are in the right to set up boundaries for themselves and their children. I would certainly find it creepy if my mother, aunt, or other person called my kid, "their" baby. They are overstepping boundaries. Even worse, I have heard stories of mothers or mother in laws trying to teach their sons'/daughters' kids to call them "mom" instead. Very gross behaviour. What I am stressing is that it is up to the parents and not anyone else to decide what is appropriate or inappropriate to call their child. All I'm saying is respect boundaries. And if you're someone who can't respect boundaries, you shouldn't be around them.

@pettylilthing

2 жыл бұрын

@@Flora-vo2cb honestly it all depends on context and how the person is saying it, cause most of the time when people say that they don’t actually believe it’s there baby or anything, and it not and uncomfortable situation, but if the person is acting strange and says it in a certain way then it would maybe be a problem it just depends on context because most of the time it not a serious matter at all.

so i am pregnant with my first child i’m having a baby girl in dec this year , my sisters & i are really far apart in age my oldest being in her early thirties & me being in my late teens & early 20’s she got pregnant with my oldest nephew around my age (18/19 ) but sometimes she refers to my baby whenever i post the normal baby bump pictures as “my baby” they always wanted a girl but they had all boys so this one kinda made me think of that but i know my sister only means it in a aunt role but this is definitely a scary thing that i’ve seen too much but thankfully ik my sisters would never do anything like that. (hopefully)

Love your videos! Started following yall on tiktok and I'm obsessed with the content

You guys talking about the grandma/mom line confusion and it reminded me of when my little sister was first born, she shared a room with me and my mom kept having to be like “she’s MY baby, you don’t have to get up when she cries, you have school” but it was just like second nature to change diapers, make/test/give bottles, etc

My Mom and Dad lived with my (Dad's) Grandparents when I was born. Funny enough, I'm their only grandchild born IN wedlock (not like it matters at the end of the day) and they were not pleased to hear I was coming. I'm the youngest grandchild, and of course when I came into the world they were thrilled and doted on me. My Mom got my ears pierced at 6 months old, and my Grandfather didn't speak to my Mom for a month over it. Ridiculous, but my Grandfather was a very flawed man and didn't break the cycle of his abusive childhood for his own children. Him and my Grandma had 4 children, and only one is still left living. Two suicides and one was a freak one in a million chance of happening situation. When my Dad passed away we started to live with my Grandparents again as my Mom became a newly single parent and needed help with me, working, etc. She worked damn hard and is one of the hardest workers I know. I ended up spending a lot of time with my Grandma, and she still to this day slips up and calls me her daughter or her baby. It does bother my Mom because when she tells the same 3 stories of my childhood over & over (I don't mind, I just let her go on) she always makes it seem like my Mother wasn't there, and it really bothers her. I never got the perspective as to why until watching this. I just look at my Grandma and have come to the conclusion that in some way she sees me as a do over, to try and right some of the wrongs she made with her own children. I just look at as I was surrounded by a lot of love, and although sometimes chaotic I never felt unloved.

This story sounds like a lifetime movie

I got quite close with an older lady at my local grocery store whilst heavily pregnant. Once the baby came, I allowed her to have a hold every now and then with supervision of course, and always stood very close. She started referring to my daughter as "my baby" and would try to wander off and show her to other customers, introducing her as "my baby" or "this is my baby". Then she started to ask us to bring the baby (3mo) around to her house so she could watch the baby for us.... We have found a new grocery store.

I love your dad, he’s so sweet

I agree! When you're exposed to violence at a very young age, in your home, between members of your family, the way you learn to navigate through life is vastly different from normal! I don't think that trauma ever leaves you completely. It manifests in the way we parent our own children, for better or for worse, it's a struggle to overcome. I pretty much want to wrap my kids in bubble wrap so hopefully nothing will ever harm them! I can't ever keep them safe enough for me to stop worrying constantly about their well-being now, and FOREVER! It's not that I don't have any confidence in my parenting or my children's ability to make smart decisions, but I have first hand knowledge and experience of what an abusive and harmful place the world can be. And I've seen the heartless cruelty of so called "family" too!

NJ here. Wawa is amazing !

my grandmother and my dad are v close considering they live in different countries but when we talk over the phone it’s always how are my babies my mom doesn’t mind it since my grandmother adores her as well

I don't think my mom has ever *not* referred to my kids as *her* babies

As a mother of two small children, this story really hit me! So upsetting!!

My sister in law has 3 grandkids, the daughter, their mom always leaves the 3 kids with their grandmother like every day morning to night and weekends so she could go out and have a life, she had her 1st baby at 14, she's not working either. My sister in law loves them and don't complain watching the kids. She referred to them "my kids my baby". I don't think anything of it as grandmother say stuff like that all the time, but this continues for years her watching them almost 24/7 and not telling her daughter to raise her own kids and not mad she was out partying while she's watching them like everyday. Because she truly believes she is these kids mother and they call her mom, not grandma, but mom. I kinda feel maybe she has the right to think that because she is raising them, but at the end of day she is the grandmother, not the mother, about her raising them is actually her own fault. I mean your daughter got pregnant at 14, a year later another baby, and another year later 3rd baby came. She was not teaching her daughter anything and then let's her go partying and not taking any responsibility of her own 3 kids, she didn't teach her consequences and responsibility.

WAWA!!!!!! I worked there for about 8 years. Yes it is in Florida, it’s been down there for a few years now.

I lived with my parents when I had my first son because my ex was abusive and I had to leave. My mom constantly overstepped and I had to tell her "stay in your lane!" He is now 8.5 and I have a 3.5 yr old w my amazing husband, Gramma still has to be reminded of the boundaries when we visit her and my dad. It's a different situation because we lived with them at the beginning of our marriage too so it's been hard putting boundaries in place. We have been living on our own for 2 years now tho. It's much better than it used to be. My mom and I have deep seeded issues for other reasons so the parenting stuff causes even more stress in the relationship.

How is claiming someone elses baby is "my baby" being realy nice? It's super weird at best and terrifying and gross at worse. 😵

I love how her dad just yells "I love wawa" so casually

We had our baby young everyone always tried to take her from us or say she was “the family’s baby”or they’re baby .we cut everyone off for at least a year now everyone knows their place n hasn’t tried anything since

It is never okay to say somebody else’s baby is your baby no matter if you are related to them or not. That is a boundary you should never cross.

That's a perfect avocado! What a lucky man.

My family always say “la beba” roughly “the baby girl” when referring to my niece so it feels like “not the baby” “what about the baby” “who has the baby” only the mom says “my baby”

My mil calls my kids her babies all the time and tries to make decisions for my child that’s already born and it bothers me but it is what it is. For example she’ll be babysitting, need to leave for whatever reason and just gives her to another family member that I don’t know at that other persons house that I don’t know where it even is. She also very clingy to her, we had my daughters first birthday and she wasn’t “sharing” her with the other guests. She also doesn’t respect that we are trying to teach our daughter that she has control over her own body and forces hugs and kisses on her.

Your dad is a gem and everyone loves Wawa!

So sad....you never know when a past trauma will change something in you. I hope the stepmother got help. My siblings told me that after my mom.lost her baby, she changed that the mom.the rest of us know is 180 from the mom.she used to be. She never got help. Almost 40 years later and the loss of her baby 3 hours after she was born still effects her to this day. She never got the help she needed for her post part depression.

i love her dad sooo funny also love morgan’s laugh

@hayamirin6795

6 ай бұрын

??? The guy in the middle is her fiancee

i keep accidentally clicking on and rewatching the same stories lol

I’ll she’s trying to fill a hole in her heart of a child she longs for. Some women go through this. After I had my second son I begged my husband for a baby girl. My husband has a daughter from a previous Mariage and didn’t want anymore kids. Every time I’d go shopping and see babies especially girls I would cry and cry to hold them. I finally got over it and my sons are now 25-20 but I do remember what it was like longing for a daughter 🥺

@sydneyharp1989

2 жыл бұрын

I think letting your own life fill any value you put in others is very hard. It might have been good that a girl was held off because you never know if it could have caused a person to be competitive with the already born daughter. Not in bad nature of course.

@Melcava1

2 жыл бұрын

@@sydneyharp1989 oh I certainly agree everyone is different.

I have always hated the “my baby” thing, there is no context in which this is okay.

Witnessing abuse between your parents is very traumatic. I always wanted to stick up for my mom and always called 911 myself with the house phone. Of course I would have to suffer the consequences later but as a child I couldn’t stand seeing it and tried to intervene for at least a few hours. One time my stepdad gaslit me, and my mom went along, about how they were arguing over my mental health and how I was talking about suicide. I was 11 and naive and told them I was depressed and said I have a bottle of sleeping pills I would use. That was one of my consequences for trying to help but it sucks that the abused will help the abuser In some situations with confrontation so they don’t live in fear.

your boyfriend sounding like mickey mouse when he pretends to be the stepmom 😂

Trauma from her miscarriage lead to her being triggered into some sort of psychosis when her step daughter became pregnant

I shut down the my baby comments from MIL immediately because she has boundary issues. My sister says it but I don’t mind because I know she respects that I am my daughters mom and my sister is her guardian and I love her relationship with my daughter.

There’s literally a movie like this called the surrogacy trap

In New Zealand our parents always called their grandkids their baby, Its not weird for us New zealanders!

My mum was a total ass when i was pregnant with my son. To put it simply, she acted like i was her surrogate. I actually had people who i had NEVER MET messaging me on Facebook about how nice it was that i was 'carrying my mums baby for her'. Seriously she was living out this wacko fantasy in her head that i was going to be giving her my baby when he was born to the point that she was allowing people to talk about me like i was her surrogate 🤬. She even DEMANDED to be in the room when i gave birth and quote ' be the one to cut the cord and HOLD HIM FIRST ' as in BEFORE me. She literally wanted my baby to come out of me and be DIRECTLY HANDED TO HER. Obviously this didn't happen. She was not in the room and wasn't allowed to meet my son for months after his birth and was only allowed to hold him for short periods. My son is nearly 2 now and our relationship is better because i have REPEATEDLY reminded her who the mum is. But she is not allowed to be alone with my son nor ever will be. She recently forgot this little rule and TOLD me , again not asked, TOLD me that she wanted my son to stay the night with her ( keep in mind we live TWENTY MINUTES AWAY FROM EACH OTHER and not only does my son still need me in the night but actually co sleeps with me ) i asked her were she would be planning on putting my child IF he were to come for the night ( i was never going to let this happen but i wanted to know her reasoning) she said, and i quote, 'he could just sleep with his nana ' 🤬🤬🤬 wtf. She also told me that 'nana is just as good as mama' She got chewed out by me to the enth degree and has not asked since. Edit: also OP from the first story needs to keep an eye out, unfortunately this does not seem like its over. She needs to get some cameras for her home and change the locks

My mom LOVES babies, she loves being a grandma and is super excited that there's more grandbabies on the way (one of my sisters and I are both pregnant and due fairly close together). I'm not sure what I would do if she called my baby hers all the time, the closest she's ever gotten is when I come to visit she gives me a hug and asks how her girls are (baby is a girl). Most of the time though she addresses her as "baby" or her actual name. My dad and MIL also both address me/baby this way. They also do all call her their grandbaby as well. Like other commenters here, I feel like it really just depends on the way the person says it, how frequent (like do they ONLY call them their baby?) And ofc if mama is okay with it or not. If it's meant in a weird way, or even if not and mama just doesn't like it, DON'T DO IT.

Wow. I’m so glad I have parents (and in-laws) that respect my husband and I as parents… We have a 15-month-old boy and are expecting a second boy. My parents and my in-laws are both very close with our son, especially my parents, and are completely obsessed with him. But they’ve never called my son “their baby,” or exhibited any possessive behaviors. Sure, their FB profiles have lots of pictures of him on there, but they only share his pictures with my permission. He’s also the only grandchild on both sides of the family, so he is a little spoiled. But dang, I feel bad for any parent who’s had to constantly remind their own parents about boundaries.

This is a lifetime movie plot

Florida here. Wawa is the best!!!!! Our favorite place for quick good food. ^_^ Def not your typical gas station.

This sound like So hand that rock the cradle stuff

DAD CAMEO!!!!

I am a mom of a daughter who had a baby at 17 and she lived with us. I took care of her daughter while my daughter finished high achool. I never called her my baby and would never. That is her child, not step moms.

It’s like her brain glitches and she just really thought she was taking that baby

what program do you use when you record??

It's a life, when you lose a life, it's a lot, it's so much trauma but I can only image when it's your own baby, with grief you. And yes medical attention should be sought out, professional help is better than the cops tbh

I wonder what subreddit are these stories comes from

I call my niece my baby or my child but it’s because she’s lived with me her entire life and does not live with either of her parents. I take her to and from school, make her lunches, take her to the doctor, bathe her, etc. I am her parent her all intents and purposes. She calls me mami sometimes and says that she’s my daughter. That being said, I do tell her that her mommy is HER mom and I don’t let her call me mami around her birth mom. If her mom tells her to do something when she does she her, I make sure not to step in as to not take away her authority. However, I do not ask her birth mom for permission to do anything with my niece and she needs mine and my mom’s (she has custody of my niece) permission to do anything with her daughter.

Does anyone have a link

This is like that one episode of law and order svu

mental illness episodes don't always have a trigger. sometimes, especially if it is a mental illness that has a genetic component and there is positive family history, major episodes will seemingly come out of nowhere. but many things can also trigger or at least exacerbate the onset of mental illness or an episode- stress, sleep deprivation, illegal drugs or alcohol, and major life events or a traumatic event

My mother did the whole my baby bs while I was pregnant she would come in while I was asleep and would jiggle my stomach to wake me up she constantly called him her baby after he was born and most of the time we lived with my parents I was their caregiver as both of them ended up in wheelchairs but she was emotionally abusive to the point I have stolkhome syndrome issues and my son and I have both gone no contact my son is now 19 and doing amazing

I would of called the police even if she left

@livewellwitheds6885

Жыл бұрын

same! id probably even get a restraining order if I was OP

Op's stepmom probably doesn't see her baby as her grandchild, but rather desperately wants him to be the son she didn't get to have after her miscarriage. Things didn't go her way so she decided the only option left was just to pack his things while the mother was distracted with work and tried to leave with him. She's not over the trauma, I get that. But she has no place blaming op getting pregnant for her problems. Lauren: *being serious* Justin: Update update update!

Having a miscarriage is incredibly traumatic, not to mention the guilt and blame the step-mum probably faced from it and her failed marriage, so it's plausible that it could be a psychotic break. She can't be blamed for that but she really does need help and understand.

My mom will call my baby "our baby" but she's always made it very clear to me that she means he's the family's baby, which makes sense as he is the first grandbaby and the only baby on my family's side.

25 age gap between step mom and dad. Maybe dad can’t have children with her because he’s fixed or whatever and she bitter/jealous towards step daughter for having a baby. Causing a total melt down.

@adeleg4759

2 жыл бұрын

I think the 25 age gap is between OP and stepmom

@jasperj.d.g.4147

2 жыл бұрын

The Gap is between the daughter and stepmom

Stepmom get beat down if this was me

It sounds like she never finished the grieving process for her lost baby and so she may be seeing this new baby as s replacement. IO she is obsessed with this baby and is possibly having an acute psychotic break where in her broken mind the lost baby and this baby have merged to justify her feeling that she is entitled to this new baby who was sent to her as a reparation. Serious MH issues in place making her extremely dangerous to OP who she sees as the enemy depriving her of her baby. This story appeared elsewhere, and this is what happened: OP went no contact with the parents which dad understood. OP took security precautions but one day when she got off from work she was to meet her husband who had the baby with him, for dinner. She laid out her make-up before getting ready and when she came back to use it the make-up was gone. She thought it odd but was in a hurry and had other make up so finished getting ready and left to meet her husband [restaurant was right around the corner]. While they were ordering she became concerned about the cooling temperature so she told her husband she would run home and grab a sweater for the baby. When she got home she heard some noise in the nursery and found stepmom laying out complete outfits trying to decide what she should dress the baby in. Well OP lost it and told her to leave and she was calling the police. Stepmom followed her crying and a screaming and as she was calling 911 stepmom ran into the kitchen and grabbed 2 knives holding them to her temples. [Meanwhile she also called hubby] The police arrived, and they were able to talk her down and she was placed under arrest but was shortly transferred to inpatient psychiatric care. I can't remember if they moved after that, but they were still in contact with the dad. After a while she was transferred to outpatient care. As it happens a friend of the family's daughter was having a bridal shower and stepmom sent her a basket of things that contained among other items OP's missing make-up which were high end products which is why she recognized them. It thoroughly creeped her out that while she was dressing, stepmom was hiding in the house.

I kind of feel bad for the stepmom and she could just be having somewhat of a psychotic break but at the same time like the child isn’t hers and so she has no right to take the child. I think she is just dealing with a lot of emotions and needs to stay away from the baby for awhile.

Yall ever seen a lifetime movie? Something like that

Omgggg! She watches manifest! It feels like no one knows about it! 😂

My husband and I live with my mom we are in our late 30s and we have a son who will be 2 in December. In the beginning the first few months after bringing the baby home my mom would constantly refer to my son as “our” baby. This never really bothered me until my husband made a comment about it bothering him. Thankfully this ended up stoping on its own. My husband and I chalked it up to me being her youngest child and only daughter and our son being the youngest grandchild. He’s also her only grandchild to live with her. The closest cousin to him on my side of the family is 16 years old. So it has been sometime since a baby has been around. I was also told it’s a completely different experience for moms when one of there daughters has a child versus one of her sons. So to me it was more due to he excitement of having a new baby in the house and my husband being a new dad and feeling territorial. My mom and him have a great relationship she’s a wonderful mother and grandmother!

All the babies in our family are our babies between grandma and aunties lol but nothing like this

Omgg right when she said manifest I instantly knew

My mums friend always wanted a child but had two miscarriages, one of the babies would’ve been my age… she was never like the first story instead she has always been the nicest person and gave me lots of gifts

I have three sisters and 7 nieces and nephews. I have no kids, but my sisters and I will joke that my nieces and nephews are my kids too. But it’s def a joke and I would never take my nieces or nephews somewhere or make decisions about them without getting permission from their parents!

My cousin's baby mama has a 5yo daughter that isn't his but he helped raise (They've broken up but he's still involved but not because she wants him to be. He's an abusive asshole and she's trying to leave him but my family and I will still have a relationship with them. They have a son together that is four years younger than her daughter.) Anyway, M(the baby mama)'s mom had M arrested for assault when M accidentally spiled coffee on her when she intentionally scared M after some she was harrassing M who was trying to leave for work. She then convinced M's sister not to make bond because M was "unstable". Once M called my cousin (they were broken up at the time, and she was pregnant with their son, but got back together after this incident) and got out, M's mom kept the daughter for two weeks until police intervened claiming M was neglecting the daugher, which wasn't true. M is a great mom. They are now no contact, except for a few incidents, including an incident where M's mom tried to kidnap the daughter while she was with a babysitter at the grocery store.

@victoriashevlin8587

2 жыл бұрын

Sweet christ, that poor woman.

Wow, she really needs help.