41 and I’m just getting it. Wasted years living for the moment and now ready to change my ways and better my life. (New habits)

@mdr00799

2 жыл бұрын

All the best sir

@gavin3598

Жыл бұрын

I hope that you've made the change and living your best life now. Just made 40 but going through the pandemic is what did it for me. Losing close loved ones was the eye opener.Gave up career job, left everything behind, relocated and began living the life I wanted to live. Best decision of my life because I am happy and at peace in life. Good luck on your journey and many blessings.

@pazuzu126

10 ай бұрын

I am the same age and exactly the same position as you. Here's to bettering our lives!

@muzakdeep

10 ай бұрын

Same, I’m 42 and also fighting to feel good about starting at this age, all we have now is to do what we can to enjoy the rest of our lives from here on out. Time to work to be able to do that! Here are a couple of other videos to help, these people also started late. Everyone has a starting point! kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZHqKmbt8dMnWZaQ.htmlsi=KQskvHoDMnxcpRJf kzread.info/dash/bejne/momOwbmccrSslNY.htmlsi=SCcXwqssHQBJrgtq

@shaswathkumarshetty2574

3 ай бұрын

Doing the same brother!

I’m 39 this year. When I was 16 I wrote a list. Travel in camper around Australia, Volunteer in India for Mother Teresa, go to Nepal, Paris, Timor Leste, Borneo, live in the outback, get a degree, marry a woman, work with First Nations Communities & in Disability Arts, start an NGO, buy a VW, buy a house & get a holiday cabin. Guess what? I did it ALL and I am miserable. I left home at 17 years old & met my partner at 24 years old. I’ve had a sexless & childless marriage for 14 years & the pandemic led me to a breakdown. The thing is what is “success”? True contentment is being able to be held, seen, accepted & loved. I came from a fucked up family so I had ALOT to prove but external praise doesn’t ever fill your love tank, neither does achieving societal expectations. I’m starting to understand that purpose, honesty & true acceptance is MORE important than anything else. Edit: I’ve just applied for a job in a remote town in the desert (my preferred place) & hope to start again. Fingers crossed 🤞🏽

@gavin3598

Жыл бұрын

I am wishing the very best for you on your continued journey ❤️

@mnation6192

Жыл бұрын

Best of luck! The desert has always been fascinating to me as well. I dream of living in the southwest almost every day.

@MrJonathansb

9 ай бұрын

Best of luck mate

@amy5133

9 ай бұрын

Update: One year later. Live in the remote desert. Have found love and purpose and acceptance. Worth starting again. Life is much more simple and authentic.

@yo-a

8 ай бұрын

@@amy5133 so happy for you!

Surrender. Let go of your ego. Stop beating yourself up about your life not being how you thought it would be but let your creativitity make up for everything. Let your creativity take over your life.

@jjmccloud

3 ай бұрын

Apparently I'm lacking that ability as well 😢

I'm 43..lost my income in America. Moved to west Africa starting over. Light at the end of the tunnel.

@chosen1874

2 жыл бұрын

👏👏how is it

@BGKO1992

2 жыл бұрын

bless you man

@sirlaughsalot1977

2 жыл бұрын

44 for me! In the U.K. & just got my Visa for New Zealand. One life, that’s all we got. If you ain’t happy, do something about it👍

@lionface1364

2 жыл бұрын

@@sirlaughsalot1977 truth

@thekushness

2 жыл бұрын

How’s it going sir! That’s where my ancestry is originated from as a haitian son

This is a very good video. People born around 1980 are 40 today. Many of them grew up with Boomer parents and a school system that prepared them for adulthood in the 1980s, not 2010. Then the world rapidly changed, and then it changed even more rapidly. All of a sudden, you're 40 and your world has vanished. Things that would have earned you respect, maybe a job, don't anymore. It didn't take you to become an old man for your world to be gone, 40 is enough today. And now? Disorientation, depression, lack of meaning. The battles you prepared for aren't lost. They have become meaningless, they evaporated because nobody cares anymore. You lived to become a great writer, and when you're finally ready, the world stops reading within 5 years. The guy is right, I don't have the solution myself. I'm seeing many people my age have the same problem. Life hasn't gone as planned (if there ever was a clear plan) and now we're too old to feel the fire. Cynicism, sometimes even indifference. It is extremely difficult not to become resentful. Understanding your mistakes is one thing, surrendering your ego another. Ultimately, your old you will be broken. That's the price.

@filmcourage

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. We appreciate your comment and agree with much of what you've said. The interesting thing is when people start to redefine success for themselves separate from what their peers or others in their "cohort group" think is making it. Not an easy thing to do. Maybe it's never accomplished. It's always interesting to watch documentaries or read about those who have forged another path when most would have given up. Thanks again! Hope all is well.

@butterflymoon6368

2 жыл бұрын

and people born in 1981. i'm 41 next week. I agree that nobody cares. It's weird like your peers aren't around. I never thought about my peers until now.

@3star2nr

2 жыл бұрын

Weed. The solution is weed. You know what weed taught me? Weed taught me that the human existence is one built on stories and lies. We get taught stories with clear defined pathways. When life unfolds in a different way it fucks with our heads cause it's not following the path it should. But in reality the pathways are all bullshit. You do not have to accept a predetermined outcome or a storyline about yourself. If we learn to let go of that and forget the stories we start thinking in a more productive way. Pick where u want to go then start thinking of ways to make it happen then start 1 task at a time till u get somewhere. If nothing changes who the fuck cares you tried and lived the life you wanted even if it's I'm your head. Only rule in life is stay out of prison and try to avoid dying. That's it

@mandyl3297

2 жыл бұрын

My mom and I were just discussing this the other day when I told her I felt like I hadn't gotten far enough in life and that I feel unprepared. She basically said that very thing that you did: we grew up in a time that prepared us for adult life for the 80s, which was a time still similar to our parents'. Who knew it would radically change in the mid 90s into a world that doesn't look like anything we were raised in? I feel for my fellow 80s babies. We can do it if we can give each other support and encouragement. It will be ok.

@3star2nr

2 жыл бұрын

Marijuana helped me with this exact issue. It changed my perspective of things. Now I see everyone as having a purpose. If that purpose is fulfilled that's where u experience true happiness... The universe nudges us but she doesn't force. When we don't follow that purpose depression comes

1) Have an honest assessment of yourself. 2) Create new habits. Start small or else you'll give up too easily. Small habits are better than none.

@Moonbeingstrandedonearth50

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks. I am at #1. Incorporating #2 daily tiny bits at a time, at this point of my life. I've read an Instagram Post that said: {Paraphrasing} "You're holding on to the old you. You've changed since then because of the experiences you've been through/choices you've made. (trying to live the way you've always been I guess-or for trying to give life to a dead horse-my idea of a wonderful life) Be the new you/who you are and make a new life from this person. "

Just finishing my first documentary at 46, this give me courage to not give up. Thx.

@filmcourage

2 жыл бұрын

Congrats Walid!

@Wall-ID

2 жыл бұрын

@@filmcourage Thank you ❤️

Just turned 42 and I’ve never accomplished anything. I just survived, with jobs mostly in the service industry. I feel so stuck and hopeless, I honestly wonder how I can keep going forward. Never faced my mental health issues brought about by a traumatic childhood, and those issues only get worse and grow. Can’t find a partner now as I’m too old to be considered datable, harder to find a job and keep one as my patience and also my body are failing. This is how people downslide, they lose options and give up. How do you find the real motivation?

@abbylebaddie

Жыл бұрын

I'm 38 and I really relate to a lot of what you said. I really wish I could have a life do over.

@MaryJane-zt3pn

Жыл бұрын

@@abbylebaddie Yea, I wish that too. Less motivated than ever and things keep getting worse.

@abbylebaddie

Жыл бұрын

@@MaryJane-zt3pn I can relate. There's only so much job rejection a person can take honestly

@inner_zen_peace

Жыл бұрын

How a 42 years old who never accomplished anything but still can live her life in this world?...isnt that alone an acomplishment?...i repeat...with out even accomplishing anything...who r the better person now?..you in the past or you now?...dont judge yourself base on others...

@samuelokelo5055

10 ай бұрын

❤

I'm going 41 this year but still wandering...

@ndavis80

2 жыл бұрын

Ditto

@htoolay6581

2 жыл бұрын

it give me some relieve knowing I'm not alone. Of course, I'm 39

@PanthORandPonAY

2 жыл бұрын

Hey me too! I'll be 42 in May and totally reborn. It's terrifying in the best way.

@tbanda

2 жыл бұрын

Hello there .Have you managed to start up on anything ?Good day and take care

@tbanda

2 жыл бұрын

@@PanthORandPonAY hello there have you managed to start up on anything ?takecare

Depression sucks but in my case, I realized it all boils down to detrimental beliefs made because of bad experiences, thinking of what could be or could've been. Realizing that letting go of stuff that are beyond my control proves to be best decision I've ever made. In short, I learned to how not to give a F...

@kendus01

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Same here!

@MsSilkyJuneja

2 жыл бұрын

And exactly that’s what I want to learn

I just turned 40 may 8th and that night I sat and had a real hard look at my life and the things I could and should have done better. I’ve been married for damn near 10 years and have 3 kids, 1 is special needs, and I literally have nothing. A couple cars and a mobile home ( trailer not rv ) that I’m purchasing and that’s it. I’m not happy, I know my wife isn’t happy and will probably divorce me within the next 6-months if things don’t get better. But I suffer from extremely low testosterone. Like normal man my age is in the 400-1000 range and my level is 64…… the dr looked at me when she read that and said she is absolutely shocked I hadn’t tried to commit Suicide…. So I need to get that and my depression takin care of and get a fucking life!!!

@god563616

2 жыл бұрын

1. Happy Birthday. God has kept you here another year therefore you still have a purpose on Earth. 2. Our Mothers and Fathers generation did NOT have the issues we've had growing up as a Millinieal. 3. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I had a flourishing photography business in my 20s then out of nowhere I got kidney failure and was on dialysis for 8 years and lost my business and had to do customer service work. Now 3 months ago I got a miracle kidney transplant but now Im starting all over again but now in my mid 30s and i feel unmotivated and defeated and have no clue what to do in life but I haven't given up. My dad was an auditor at a oil and gas company at 29 and my mom was a medical transcription working for several doctors by 23 so yes I feel pressure. What I've learned is that there is always light at the end of the tunnel for all of us if we just hold on and by faith keep going. People died on May 8th but you celebrated life. People cry for a chance to have marriage, children and a place to stay and you have all this. I've seen many people die waiting on a kidney transplant but God gave me one and im still here like you for a reason. We are not OLD and will be okay. My prayer for you is that your mind heart and spirit will be at peace. All tension released from your home be removed and let the spirit of peace, love and unity bind you and your family together. I cancel sleepless nights and advise every time you wake up at 3 am tell God your worries then give it to him, ask for direction and thank him for taking over and getting those things done for you. Keep doing this to see results. Speaking positive works wonders and ask the Lord to help you to love yourself now until All your desires are met. Take one step at at time and trust me things will start to fall Into place by speaking positive over your life. Allow God to move you from this transitional place that your in. You wanting to make a change is a great start. Your in my prayers🙏

@adamjonesdrummer

2 жыл бұрын

Hey brother everything will work out. Idk how but it according to the LORDS will. I’m rooting for you for whatever it’s worth 👍

@Mr_Path

Жыл бұрын

Keep going fella, hope your ok

@vikinginspace4881

Жыл бұрын

Have you looked into TRT mate? it really does help to have balanced hormones. Even if you have to cut back on a few things to pay for it I'd highly recommend it. Good luck and hope your life has picked up.

@Robshta

7 ай бұрын

Change starts with you and its tough espscially when life is pushing us through fast life tunnel for us not to change lanes. Trust me..we all going through our issues but try make lil changes today; tomorrow and the feel good factor kicks in. Don't compare testosterone..men are all different and we have individually aren't perfect. Perk yourself each day by telling yourself in the mirror..you're one of a kind & you've got this!! Good luck & chin up ❤

I wish the world would cancel the obsession about age. That just put a limit to yourself and your ability

Just began my 40 now.. and my childhood to the fullest just ended. I’ll think I’m starting to go on my new life to the right direction, work here in Abroad and start a better future. And Live with a Peace of Mind is more than everything. Life goes on keep fighting🙏

Thank you so much brother I needed this!!

Turning 40 has been a hard one, I am still in shock now as for some reason it has made me question everything about myself and my achievements. I have done ok but for some reason it’s never quite enough and the pressures of so many people relying on you has taken its toll over the last 10 years of hard work starting a business. I’m sure I was happy once and I’m doing everything I can to try re set and edit my life but I haven’t quite found that yet. I enjoyed the video but I need t0 hear more advice on how to be happy

@TheBlackManMythLegend

Жыл бұрын

being happy it's a decision.

You should get Clear and start learning the living with one unit of a time with your own agreements. It is possible and super fun. That level of self awareness is not just for this life time but stays with you for following ones.its pretty cool.

@jimtors

3 жыл бұрын

Its not so simple for everyone.

I needed to hear this.

Fantastic questions, Karen. And another excellent interview. After two years of editing my first screenplay (and three since the first draft) I am going to enter into the world. I'm older and this was refreshing to hear. Not too worried about rejection, maybe worried about being "successful" with that script. I am ready to begin a new story. This interview is a great reminder of things ahead 🙏😁🤙

@filmcourage

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful! Our best to you as you move forward with your writing!

@AnyDayNow360

2 жыл бұрын

@@filmcourage Thank you! That means so much to me coming from you two and your channel! 🙏😁

I'm 28 and restarting my life, made some very poor choices with a total disregard for the future, but I'ts time to stop.

@missmirusrobinson6913

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

Am 43 this year, the Truth is , I can't even point at my life direction..... Have been fighting this , just need a serious help cause. I know am not lazy

Just found this video.Recommended , I am eastern and this video has been 9 years ago but this is really hit me now I read the comments.It made me feel better that I was not alone to feel struggle.On coming of age at 40++ . I lost my job and difficult to find a new one on this age.I am still lost.

I’m going to shave my head and go crazy and hope I come out better on the other side.

@lalavelez7845

3 жыл бұрын

LOL I understand the "Brittney" moment more more as I go on with life. Its so hard 😫

@antoinettecannon8749

3 жыл бұрын

Go for it

@fromchopin

2 жыл бұрын

As a man I don’t have to shave my head, I’m balding and going crazy naturally

@michaelhanford8139

2 жыл бұрын

Ironically, for people raised with dysfunctional world/self views, getting healthy feels like going crazy during the period we break the old agreements (views) & retrain healthy views & habits. ...going crazy to get sane is rather a thing! 😄

New way for new habits! It's that time for me too!

im 38 and im fucked. my dream aspiration provides me no money, and society seems to tell me the only way i dont have to live under a bridge is to work in something i hate. and i refuse now. enought of a wasted life for bosses that dont care

@filmcourage

2 жыл бұрын

What's the dream?

@iggswanna1248

2 жыл бұрын

@@filmcouragebecoming a composer

@filmcourage

2 жыл бұрын

Where do you share your music? And have you thought about posting your music here on KZread?

@iggswanna1248

2 жыл бұрын

@@filmcourage yes i do have a little channel on youtube going on but doesnt get much traction, the bulk of my experiments is on soundcloud... it might be due to the fact that im not very good at it, but the thing is, theres so many people in this world being successful without having to be the best of the best at what they do, and in some fields, like arts its very dificultto make it.

@filmcourage

2 жыл бұрын

No doubt. It takes a tremendous amount of effort to make any kind of money in the arts. We aren't as familiar with the music path. We would just say if music is a true passion of yours then you have to find a way to keep making music whether you make your living that way or not. Keep working on your craft. Take feedback and keep improving. There are a lot of ways to make money as a musician. Like you said, you don't have to be the very best. There are a lot of musicians who make their living from their music. Learn and study how they are doing it. Find the right way for you. If you keep doing those things there is no reason why you eventually can't find some success.

Good advice.

Recovery Rocks!!!

The age don't matter . I don't understand why people think to get old is to turn off your happiness..you can work and take care of your kids and after hours be silly and laugh with your partner. Is easy to say we are tired but when it comes to our kids we pull trough it. So why not pull trough special moments with your partner and be silly as you can be...is all about where you focus your energy on. Btw you can still grow as a person while being happy

I guess I have to listen to this over when I’m not so sleepy.🤷🏾‍♀️ so that I’ll understand what was exactly said in this video.

Just saw Alexis's website with a photo of The Duke of Edinburgh, God rest his soul. There was a guy who just got on with it. I admired that about him.

I didn't understood what he was saying but enjoyed reading comment box

@gloriousgloriosa8495

5 ай бұрын

Yeah right😂

I’ll be 37 next month and I think I’m finally starting to get it.

Guys; know that you are doing great! Everything is falling into place for you very soon! This is the best time to head in that direction which you were always meant to go. Everything up til now happened for a great Devine reason! You are EXACTLY right where you are supposed to be at this moment in your life!!! With that said, you are now about to reap the benefits of your tremendous wisdom gained from all these experiences. Start that workout regimen! Get the wheels moving to start that business that you’ve always had in the back of your head. Today begins the first day of the best of your life! You’re gonna do this! 💪😎👍STAY STRONG !!! FYI, I’m 51 and ready to get back in shape (like I was in My 20s)and make my 50s the best decade of my life!

@Mr_Path

Жыл бұрын

Well said 💪🏻

@jooning877

8 ай бұрын

How is it going ever since?

Brain is a complicated heart...so true❤❤❤

I just turned 38 and am feeling lost never had a real job but survived now i want to start a music production career and a photo studio am u too old for this arts

@respectableandserious

9 ай бұрын

You're not at all old for this, nor are you old for anything else. It's all about persistence and motivation in the cause. I got into producing music at the age of 34 and I learned how to do it quite well. It wasn't a job for money because I didn't set that goal for myself.

@Blindswordsman1994

2 ай бұрын

You will only be too old when you’re dead or unable to walk. Try it now as 38 is still young anyway

May I ask how can primary school substitute teacher make a career change at midlife crisis please?

I just want to work, own a small home and a fast car, I don't even care about retirement

I couldn't understand the answer... only the willingness thing and the habits ... the self cannot service the self ?

Turned 40 a couple of days ago. The depression has been very real.

Respect 🇯🇲

@filmcourage

4 ай бұрын

🇯🇲

💙

What would you do if you've just found yourself completely alone in this whole world? with no family or friends because all of the people you ever knew were related to the old life that broke down completely and that you have invested in so many years of your life in sacrifice for a better day tomorrow. What's the first thing you should do. What's after that ?

Can you allow me to share my story? I have overcome many adversity

@tariqtariqtariq88

2 жыл бұрын

Yes lets hear it please

@hax0rbugan670

2 жыл бұрын

Lets hear it ma my man

@tbanda

2 жыл бұрын

Please go ahead we want to here. It probably will inspire alot of us here .Thank you

@astheticrose960

Жыл бұрын

Yes

@feelone1094

Жыл бұрын

Please.

How do you feel currently since you are 50 now?

Toxic workplace and keep on blaming my performance so i couldn't stay there inmy job . i 38 and try for new job last three month still i couldn't get job . finally its weeping moments daily for me .

the question was spot on, the answers worst. didnt satisfy

Hey

Who is this?

Yeah britney spears example is good

I didn't got the answers

@charmaineberry7701

5 жыл бұрын

Alaa Arabyat I didn’t it

@dinofabrizzi2116

4 жыл бұрын

I didn't GET or... I haven't got (or understand) the answers..: this is proper english..😃😃😃😃😃😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I m 40 and Single...lost job .... really sad.. No motivation..

Does this message have an age limit, I'm 69 Yrs. old & saw the number 40 on your video title so I'm kind of intimidated ?

Ages just a Number 👈👈

@vikinginspace4881

Жыл бұрын

A number is merely an idea

@TheJimbo1791

Жыл бұрын

@@vikinginspace4881 an idea is merely a small seed which can grow

@erinburke9711

Ай бұрын

Until you look in the mirror

How did life change for you at age 40?

@fromchopin

2 жыл бұрын

I’ll know in 3 weeks when I turn 40.. but from here the future’s not looking very bright.

@Powermoves1080

2 жыл бұрын

A new mindset. 41 and finally had my “aha moment” after making bad choices over the course of my life. I like this new starting point.

@bellaphone5719

2 жыл бұрын

Not fun wondering a lot .

@BrianRenardDavis

Жыл бұрын

@@Powermoves1080 RealTalkWithRosebudd

@vikinginspace4881

Жыл бұрын

joints in my limbs creak more

that man talked in riddles for 5.06

@jen1748

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the warning I thought it was just not making sense to me

So he fucking mumbles his way through. Just say you don't know.

Yes the brain is actually a super Computer...

processing as I listen and watch this video, and I want to openly declare my PASSIONATE manifestation for this blessed New Year of 2022 (may we all be blessed!): romance and true soul-mate/twin-flame love, with someone who will: 1) think of me and be with me and pray FOR me, and pray WITH me: A LOT 2) feel surges of energy and aliveness, because of our sacred love: for one another 3) pay attention to my actions, my words: because they are curious and interested 4) prioritize me, us, our relationship 5) have their emotions tied to my emotions (deep deep deep: unexplainable connection) 6) daydream very often about us being intimate (our intimacy is deep and passionate on every level) 7) be willing to fight for us

Sleepy Joe ruined my life.

You can shave your head and go crazy. Just not in the public.

wtf is this boringgggg

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