Thank you for explaining something that's inherently a felt body experience but and hard to put into words. Great job!

I'm a new watcher and I absolutely love this episode. Thank you for sharing this with everyone and I appreciate this very much.🙏😘💗🤗

@vanessaandxander

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!! Thanks for watching!

I really appreciate the info you share! I especially appreciate your open mindednesses and humor.

@vanessaandxander

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Lacey! Glad you enjoyed the video!

@willemmeyer1598

Жыл бұрын

Find the Gspot and all will be well.

I had a tinder date with someone which “went well” so to speak - she kept it secret till literally the last moment… I think I preferred her not having mentioned it, it added to the excitement when it happened

Super discussion, enlightening

Love this episode!!

@vanessaandxander

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks! So glad you enjoyed it!

There are several good books out an dvd on this wonderful topic

hey thanks for talking about all of this, I didn't have sex education in school and no parents to ask about it, and I've had some bad sexual experiences in the past, to put it lightly, I love my boyfriend but I feel insecure because I keep finding out I don't understand everything about sex, he is very patient and kind, but you guys have made me more confident on my own which I think is also very important so, thank you!

@billsmith5500

4 ай бұрын

just a crazy thought here. date and love and commit to a guy who also commits to you. In an ideal situation a husband and wife will not have any sexual experience until they get married and then they can spend the next 30 - 50 years together experimenting. People can call me old fashioned on this but it definitely would solve some of your insecurity feelings.

I remember the first time... it was like WTF was that (I don't think she knew) ? Very awesome !!!

Wetter is better! Nice video on aquirting and gushing!

My current partner says she “can’t” squirt, but I feel like it’s more that there are times she’s about to squirt and she actually holds back or changes the pressure because she just doesn’t like the sensation as it feels like she’s about to pee herself

@tipushah7591

Жыл бұрын

Tell her to pee first and so she will be sure it's squirts

@RobertBlois

3 ай бұрын

That's my wife as well. She often has me stop stimulating her because she says that she feels like she's going to pee, and I suspect that she is close to squirting and either doesn't understand it, or doesn't want to do it.

@pjmendoza8871

2 ай бұрын

Yes that’s what my wife said at first but after her first squirt she is now a pro. She has multiple squirting Os . It’s great to see.

@marniemonfort7719

2 ай бұрын

It's funny it's alot of times too much pressure to the bladder..at least that's what was taught in my medical anatomy classes and training

@mattvance485

Ай бұрын

She's right.

Be careful what you wish for unless you enjoy washing sheets

Thank you for explaining not to put pressure on women to squirt and that squirting is NOT the same thing as an orgasm. This is so important for ppl to know. If you squirt and enjoy it-cool! But having pleasure and orgasming should be first priority over performances. That is what can lead to women faking it after all. Listening to your partner is the best way. Great video!

@vanessaandxander

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Danielle for watching! Glad you enjoyed the video!!

@richardpauly1635

2 жыл бұрын

Nice pic and info

@markt926

Жыл бұрын

Touch her in the MoJo, works. Every time.

@jeanmontinat1681

Жыл бұрын

They forgot to mention having the partner where swim goggles because it squirts out hard and fast and it t hits the eyes it could burn so always have a pair of swim goggles and I recommend a swimming cap to .

@aarondearth5594

Жыл бұрын

@@jeanmontinat1681 i just drink it. i don’t need googles it never hits my eyes. goes right down my throat.

Just found this video wow I’m late! My husband and I have been together for 11yrs. Honestly this topic used to scare me. And the first time I did I was so overwhelmed (a lot of sensation all at once) and nervous/ashamed that he was going to hate it/think it’s gross. But now that we are so comfortable in our relationship and know each others bodies/likes/dislikes so well and are comfortable enough to talk about these things we’ve come to the conclusion that we both love it! It’s great for both of us. He feels great that he was “able” to make me feel like that, and now that I no longer feel embarrassed or overwhelmed by it, he can make me squirt almost everytime. I love that you mentioned that it’s separate than an orgasm. To me I describe it as a “different type” of orgasm. I enjoy it almost as much. Love this video, more people need to be talking about this topic, it should not be so taboo!

@jazynthjacinto7647

8 ай бұрын

😢17 it is

Thank you for this video. I had a partner who shamed me for doing this in the past. It gave me a lot of anxiety around sex. Your video really helps.

@vanessaandxander

Жыл бұрын

We're so happy our video has been helpful! ❤️

@jamesatkinson5027

Жыл бұрын

I love a squarter I beg my partner to do so I'm into it let it go honey

By far favorite episode and I only read the title so far. Thanks for covering the subject of squirting, I can't get enough of it

@vanessaandxander

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Brandon! Hope you enjoyed the video!

@rz5b1qszkdf44

Жыл бұрын

Stecher... 😃 Was für ein Name, Alter..

love and peace to everyone...

We use to be a Host couple at a Ls club. In the 4 years of working there are playing alot, I only met 6 ladies who did!

Have only been with one woman who did this and while I figured I would never be with a woman who did this it was a pleasant surprise! She was embarrassed at first but once she found I was happy about this, she relaxed. Those six months of erotic was one of the best relationships I had unfortunately it was other issues that ended it but oh boy was she tuned into her physic and knew how to treat men!

@killacali138

Жыл бұрын

I am so curious, if you feel comfortable in sharing, what do you mean she was in tune and knew how to treat men? This is an area Im definitely trying to explore as a woman so any insight would be great!

@georgejones5960

Жыл бұрын

@@killacali138 I'm very comfortable with chatting about this. During dating I found women no matter age or experience had no idea what their bodies required physically during the sexual relationship. Most thought they were good with the old spread her legs and wait for the guy thing. While I pride myself on good treatment of women in that way have enjoyed women totally from kissing to long massages and erotica. The woman I was talking about knew her physic and what she needed which was beautiful to say the least! She even taught me a couple of things which I'm always good for lol. Squirting while not required in my opinion is a pleasant surprise and always welcome!

Love love love!

@vanessaandxander

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!!

Love it but hate the mess afterwards haha

The comic Gallagher was way ahead of his time

Oh wait, hold on, let me put down a piece of plastic first. lol

It's really up to the man to be willing to take the time and make her feel everything. It's worth the time guys to melt her.

@PapyrusHoop

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@luisafrance1635

Жыл бұрын

But most of them are very lazy and selfish🙄 All about them get what they want.

@3422dave

Жыл бұрын

@@luisafrance1635 unfair statement most of the guys you have been maybe like that but please don’t say most of men are like that

What are sex sheets made of and where can you find them?

So.........would you consider the man's thingy a "Squirt.. GUN"? ...... heh- heh...heh-heh, heh,heh,heh,heh,..heh-heh....? signed:BUTTHEAD.

I’m going to try this on my girl today!🤗

Omg to get your woman to do it is amazing

I have squirted, alot before. I mean soaked through 2 towels and sheets. But I haven't ever orgasmed. And it really does make me feel broken. But I am happy to know that the squirting isn't urine, I have even smelled it to see but it doesn't really smell like urine so I figured it wasn't. Happy to know facts

@vanessaandxander

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Brittany! We have a FREE guide that might help you out! Check out The Best Way To Have Your First Orgasm: vmtherapy.com/best-way/

@richardpauly1635

2 жыл бұрын

You need to tell your man or toy to help

@thechosensuperstar966

Жыл бұрын

Whoever your partner is- is a lucky person.

@johnchaney5386

Жыл бұрын

Hello whats your phone number and how can i come see you..lol i want some of that

@aportman58

Жыл бұрын

Now that is sad if you're saying you have never had an orgasm???

Very intreresting topic

Do you guys know the hospital pads that you lay on at the hospital those are waterproof I've got like 10 of them

@davidmccartney7577

5 ай бұрын

Puppy pads are cheaper💦💦 We have two Libarator blankets that are satin on one side and silk on the other that a waterproof!! But now and then the exploding just gets everywhere 🥴👅💦💦

Skene's Glands have a volume of about 40 to 50 Milliliters or about a shot glass worth.

@sethaldrich6902

Жыл бұрын

yep, it refills after each squirt and some expand larger than that.

@shotgunreloader4964

Жыл бұрын

@@sethaldrich6902 It does refill. Its not instantaneous. Point being if one wets 2 towels and needs plastic sheets - only one structure there that has that volume. The urinary bladder.

@sweetindigo1

4 күн бұрын

BathTowels work the best! I have soaked a half of a towel a few times! It's exalting!!

Squirting is very cool. Nothing wrong with urine in my book either. Love everything about my wife's body and functions. Also, why are people so hung up about body fluids? What's the point of having sex if you're uptight about fluids and functions? It's kind of an American thing...and it's annoying!

@jamesatkinson5027

Жыл бұрын

I agree myself I beg my women to squart on me it adds extra pleasure and satisfaction to me

there are "squirters" and there are "bed soakers"

@nelsoncalderon3952

Жыл бұрын

Erika Johnson hi baby how you doing sweetie I hope you doing well

Very interesting! Thx

@vanessaandxander

Жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it!

What made me click on this video were basically. 1. The Tile 2. The Thumbnail 🙂 3. The Color grading of the Thumbnail 🙂 Weird right?? But it is what it is

I have about ten hospital pads. For squirting don't get my bed wet.

I have a relationship with one who squirts (my first & only experience with a partner). She’s 67yo & she told me that it only started to happen about 20 or so years ago. Not during her younger years. Is this possible?

@vanessaandxander

Жыл бұрын

Definitely possible, squirting can happen at any age. Great question!

Ha ha! Those raincoats!

@vanessaandxander

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed them!

@JSmith-nn5mi

Жыл бұрын

You mean a WOMAN'S vulva not an owners vulva.

@JSmith-nn5mi

Жыл бұрын

Do you use the words men and women?

Less filling, tastes great. Could glue your eyes shut.

Xander is a lucky guy to be married to a Sexologist.They are probably very communicative.

@emiliailioiu9429

Жыл бұрын

Vanessa said in the episod about dirty talking that she was embarrassed to respond to Xander. He also came with some assets 😉

I have made my partner squirt on many occasions also gosh but I feel that there must be a difference between squirting and gushing I know that squirting isn’t urine but is gushing

Why do you use the term “vulva owner”?

@vanessaandxander

Жыл бұрын

To be inclusive! Not everybody who has a vulva identifies as a woman, and not everybody who is a woman has a vulva. Not everybody who has a penis identifies as a man, and not everybody who is a man has a penis. So it’s a simple, straightforward way for us to include everybody, and specifically to let people who are not cis-gender recognize that they are welcome here. 💖 Sometimes we hear back from cis woman who say, “I don't like being called a vulva-owner because there's more to me than just my vulva”. Yes, we are all so much more than our body parts, but the phrase “vulva-owner” doesn’t mean, “The only part of you that matters is your vulva.” (Ditto for penis-owner.) Language is a powerful but simple way we can be all be allies.

@an1megraphics627

Жыл бұрын

@@vanessaandxander It doesnt matter , you are born as a woman and you are a woman , the universe and mother nature doesnt care if you define yourself as x. One day they will dig your grave and due to your anatomy , they will conclude whether you are a woman or a man. Lord may have mercy to all those misguided

@dannydeshler4327

Жыл бұрын

@@vanessaandxander more modern woke crap...they are women...period.

Well, prepare to strip the bed and wash it all after every session.

I’m single and 63. Young for my age and I tend to date younger ladies. In the last five years I’ve come across at least ten different ladies that squirt like crazy during orgasm. Actually had to purchase a new mattress. Prior to the that I had never encountered it in 40 years. I have no clue why this has become such a thing lately. I’m surprised how many women actually bring up the topic and are super excited to do it. I guess it’s because porn has become so mainstream.

Great video! Could you use the raincoats in another video? Maybe how to get your partner wet or something?

@vanessaandxander

2 жыл бұрын

Hahah great idea! We'll have to have them make a reappearance!

Can a girl that had a hysterectomy squirt ?

@vicdeviking6356

Жыл бұрын

Yes, my wife regularly did after her Hysterectomy.

@dq6169

Жыл бұрын

Yes

Just curious why you would use the term vulva owner instead of woman.

@vanessaandxander

Жыл бұрын

To be inclusive! Not everybody who has a vulva identifies as a woman, and not everybody who is a woman has a vulva. Not everybody who has a penis identifies as a man, and not everybody who is a man has a penis. So it’s a simple, straightforward way for us to include everybody, and specifically to let people who are not cis-gender recognize that they are welcome here. 💖

@robertjacobsen3742

Жыл бұрын

Amazing how far people will go to placate an extreme ideology.

@davidparker8752

Жыл бұрын

@@robertjacobsen3742 I agree.

@JasonoftheNorth

Жыл бұрын

Why do you say it's extreme? Honestly asking I want to understand your perspective. 😊

@robertjacobsen3742

Жыл бұрын

@@JasonoftheNorth because in the history of the world no man has ever had a vulva. Science is a real thing and it includes biology.

Vulva owners??

any p. f . down there

Can we just say women? Vulva owner? Absolutely ridiculous to take the word woman out of the conversation ABOUT WOMEN!

@vanessaandxander

Ай бұрын

Not all people that identify as women have vulvas, and not all people with vulvas identify as women. We value inclusivity here and one person's experience is no less valid that anyone else's. - Jackie with Team V&X

@michaelbridge4717

23 күн бұрын

@@vanessaandxander but if you don't own a vulva then you are not a woman and can not squirt and therefore will not be watching the video

So is it easier to squirt from penetration (toy or real), tongue or finger? Also how long does it take on average?

@rachelkelley884

10 ай бұрын

Penetration. Once you find that “g-spot” area that she mentioned (different for each person) but it doesn’t take very long at all. Especially if the person has done it before and is comfortable doing it.

So sad…

I would love to do it to my wife but don't know how

@justis4men211

Жыл бұрын

And you never will.

@kencrittenden29

Жыл бұрын

She can do it for me then

@samuelstanley1374

Жыл бұрын

Go on adult websites and type in how to make her squirt... very simple and easy to understand

Why would you want to squirt? does it feel good to the woman when she squirts- I'm honestly confused

@PapyrusHoop

Жыл бұрын

There can be a buildup of fluid and pressure when super aroused in a particular way... When stimulated just so, that pressure buildup gets to a point of release that's a pretty powerful feeling... And because it can happen over and over it's a fun ride ;)

@rachelkelley884

10 ай бұрын

Absolutely feels amazing. Such a “release”. Can be overwhelming, sometimes it makes me shiver after.

@xdxdxdxd4575

Ай бұрын

I squirted two times. Both of them was extremly good!

1st GF in high school was a gusher !!! Thought all vulva owners did that. I was wrong 😕