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Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist. She studied human sexuality at Brown University, has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured thousands of times by publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, Refinery29, New York Magazine, Rolling Stone, Buzzfeed, and many more. And Xander is a regular dude who left a cushy career in Tech once he realized it was more fun to talk about sex with his wife all day.
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Vulva owner?... You passed biology because you were "inclusive" I'm guessing? This will be so humiliating one day when you realise you chose to be a moron
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I didn't want to talk about it to much, it's making me feel old. I'm 42
I knew about those magazines
My partner and I have amazing open dialogue during sex. We tell each other exactly what to do at the time and what not to do. No 2 sexual encounters are the same, so why make the act vanilla?
I have learned to vibrate my lips which makes it a lot like riding a Sybian. Gives multiple O's almost every time!
You just described my wife
I agree too, but my wife likes my fingers busy whilst she is down there
Hi Vanessa, I knew about these things and have sadly been the victim.
Great Ideas! Thank you, for providing the answer.
Amazing 💯
The big issues are cheating and spending.
I love your open and honest answers. Please stop thinking of others. Go, please go and fly
The lizard brain overrides the "romantic " mind. How to make this fact. Pretty.
solid advice. faking an orgasm is like pretending the guy hit the bullseye when he didn't.
OMG Yes!!
Agree, except I have NEVER faked an orgasm. 41yrs old.
Use tongue. That's it. Not harden tongue though. Soft.
Great! Thanks
Nobody ever brings up condom or no condom but that can make a big difference in total duration 😂
Man, I wish more women knew these things.
I just found your channel and love y'all!
thanks for the video
Just be honest, and he'll do better next time.
Totally agree! thanks for the video!
Filth
How often u having sex?Do they use contraceptives?
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Excellent explanation! Thanks.
Good advice!
If I’m a male and I fake my orgasms am I normal?
I always have orgasms I’m vergin but i always have orgasms when i maturbate i even want to scream each time is that normal or not?
Vulva owner?
No all that identify as women have a vulva, not all who have a vulva identify as women. Inclusivity is important! - Team V&X
Good advice
Wow! I hit the subscribe button immediately! Finally a woman who gives Voice to very important issues! Also not threatening! Thank you 😊,!
Vanessa, we need more women like You!
Super discussion, enlightening
Thank you for the content. I would just suggest one thing. I would really encourage you to consider how detrimental to our Society gay relationships are and how you’re contributing to that by promoting gay sex on your channel. Gay sex doesn’t result in a healthy society and community. Huge thumbs down. Contrary to what media with paid agendas are pushing, the general public doesn’t want to hear that kind of stuff promoted.
Sooo hard to believe people don’t know this stuff - shocking to me. Truly 😮 Really?
Absolutely 100% agree
Great advice for everyone who sees this!
Yep perfect trifecta of advice!
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That, was an eye opener, thanks.
I'm at a loss to understand why there would be any question or shame. Great part of woman on top.
Sex IS disgusting. Nobodies opinions matters. When your a kids you find sex disgusting. We are only programmed to do it to procreate. Would you have sex with a spider? They have sex. They look fucking hiddeous. But cats find other cats arousing. People look like maggots when they are naked and in groups.
Great advice!
Has been in my repertoire for many years to include rimming analingus (Sp) Always enjoyable for both parties involved 😛
Wow great advice!
These are amazing. Thank you. The first one is huge. If your partner shames you for initiating there is something deeply deeply wrong. If you talk to them and they don’t take it in and change their ways then don’t keep hoping they will change like I did. If they don’t change after the third attempt accept that it won’t change. THEN decide if you can license with that. Don’t keep hoping it will change because you don’t want to face the consequences of admitting it won’t change. IE that you either have to live with it or leave the relationship. That is what I did and it kept me in a toxic relationship for years and years.