Solving the Fatherhood Crisis | Justin Batt | TEDxHiltonHead
There is a fatherhood crisis in America. According to the U.S. census bureau, 24 million children, 1 out of 3, live without their biological father in the home. For the children fortunate enough to have their biological father in the home it's not much better as the demands of career, society and technology leave many fathers in a zombie-like state of presentism.
As a result, the father is a factor in almost all social issues facing America today.
The resiliency of the American father is what will change the fatherhood crisis. It's going to take fathers who have grit and are willing to set their pride and egos aside. It's going to take an "intentional" dad who creates epic memories with their children so that they raise not just good kids, but good kids who become great adults. It takes a dad who has an investment strategy and chooses to invest their time rather than be absent or just spend time with their children. It takes a dad who views their children as a blessing -rather than a burden. It takes a dad who understands that margin matters and peak performance as a dad is possible. Today's dads need to stop trying to be their kid's hero and instead be their guide. It also takes a dad who realizes that far more is caught than taught and it's not what you say, it's what you do that matters. It's about a dad who chooses to create epic moments with their children that will plant memory seeds and pay dividends long down the road. It takes a dad with a strong compass who has a vision for his role as a father and his children's future.
Finally, it's about a dad who reengages his children, sets aside the pull of society and raises good kids who become great adults - and fixes the fatherhood crisis in our country.
Justin created Daddy Saturday: A Dad’s Guide to Intentional Fatherhood by creating epic moments with your children in order to raise good kids who become great adults. It's his solution to the fatherhood crisis and it started in his own household and with his own children. Early on he realized the importance of being intentional with the time he had each Saturday with his own children and their desire to have epic moments and memories with their Dad. Each Saturday, Justin and his four children embark on a new epic adventure which are filmed for their KZread channel. Past episodes include epic moments like a bubble wrap battle, trampoline pool, blue crabbing, beach sports, magic bubbles, blind taste test and more. Ultimately, Justin’s passion to help other Dad’s become intentional father’s and experience the same positive growth in their kids fueled the creation of the platform Daddy Saturday. The book titled Daddy Saturday is in publication with a release date in spring of 2018. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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THIS is a great talk!!!! ALL those things you think "annoy" you right now, the toys, the tears, the late nights....one day, in the not so distant future, you're going to miss EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM!!!
Hey Justin... Thanks for this TedX! So GLAD to hear SOMEONE standing UP FOR DADS!!!!! The forgotten Parent!!!
The wife died in 2018. My son just turned 12 today... Im not going to lie, the last 3.5 years I have done less and less with him on the weekends.... I watch TV, nap, then cook dinner... This video is an eye opener...
@74567justin
Жыл бұрын
Have you started to do more?
That was amazing
Let’s bring this talk to young people in high school. We have a program called Best Practices of Fatherhood earmarked for high school students.
Hits the nail on the head!
@DaddySaturday
5 жыл бұрын
Daniel, I know you and the "Kid Trillionaire" are doing this daily. Keep up the great work!
Fantastic thoughts, well done sir!
@DaddySaturday
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Join us on the Daddy Saturday movement to impact 10 million fathers in the next 10 years and disrupt the fatherlessness epidemic!
Anybody have a link to info/vids based solely around children of divorce & the lack of their BIOLOGICAL FATHER playing a significant role in their lives?? My ex REALLY needs to see any/all available info.... like . . . YESTERDAY!!🤦🏼♂️
There is a better way. Parental custody of children is actually a very simple matter to solve given the true desire of “What is best for the child”. We need to separate and discard marriage from family law as they no longer seem to be connected and "Marriage makes people treat each other as articles of property and no longer as free human beings. Einstein". We can develop protocols that confer (over time) equal parental rights and responsibilities,…..once parentage is proven. Children’s natural maturation process has 3 essential stages of need. A.The unconditional love of the mother from birth until about 7 years of age. The mother to have “thefinalsay” and to receive child allowance. B.The conditional love of the father, who takes his children out into the world, gives security and teaches social boundaries from 7 until about 13 years of age. The father to have “thefinalsay” and to receive child allowance. C.The friendship and respect of peers from 13 until 18 years of age. The child to have “thefinalsay”. If these 3 stages are not gone through in order, maturation is unlikely to be satisfactorily achieved and mental resilience reduced. This has now become generational. Such a regime of equal parenting rights (over time) would bind parents into a co-operative relationship, because (over time) each will hold the power of “thefinalsay” sequentially when they are best favoured to use it. Such family protocols would be the default position, (allowing love, courtesy and humour to prevail) but could in exceptional cases be varied by the court. Buckminster Fuller said:- “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete”. To alleviate suffering is worthy. To prevent it is divine, but thankless.
Press your henpecked..
Lol 2017 video 1500 views.
Understand the idea behind this presentation. Not feasible when I'm a single income household. Working a night shift doesn't present the "father factor" he's proposing. Can't work nights and be available at the same time.
@mastermind0981
5 жыл бұрын
Then, plan ahead, do something special at your own time. Quality time is more important than a lot of non quality time.
@shushanto
4 жыл бұрын
@@mastermind0981 Very true. Loads of fathers waste their available time half-ignoring their kids or give the wrong kinds of attention
Raise your hand if your father skipped out on you too 🙋🏼♀️
@romanithompson8310
4 жыл бұрын
Coco K that’s what she told you
@antoniosdimoulas3566
2 жыл бұрын
I didn’t skip on my kids, been kidnapped from me by the American bias discriminatory judicial system, all mothers are so good and most fathers are bad, that’s the American mentality unfortunately, they sidelined the dads. In my case for the last six years I haven’t seen my kids because the American bias judicial system doesn’t allow me even phone calls to my kids. My kids been taken hundreds of miles away just because the mother found a new boyfriend. And I don’t pay Ransom.
Raise your hand if you had the worst father in the world