I didn't have a father growing up. Now I have a son who tells me he hates me more than he says he loves me. And I show him no matter what I'm in your corner.

@IthatengMokgoro

3 жыл бұрын

Stay in the corner brother. All power to you.

@marcusizayah

3 жыл бұрын

He’ll grow out of it. He can hate you right now. (or think that he does.) That’s okay. Just let him know you’ll still love him no matter what. Be the best dad you can be. And he’ll come around eventually.

@marktannehill9701

3 жыл бұрын

@@marcusizayah Thanks

@markhields8203

Жыл бұрын

@@marcusizayah great response Marcus...im going through a bit of that and sometimes you need to be told its a phase that will pass....keepsyou doing your best

@JT0007

Жыл бұрын

@@marktannehill9701 how’s it going today?

“Forgiveness is a gateway to confidence” More like healing.

My Son wasn’t planned and my first thoughts weren’t good. Since the birth of my child I have never been so in love with him. I adore my Son with all my heart.

At 21 I had a daughter, she is now almost 7, she was diagnosed with autism at the age of 4. Couldn't walk until she was 3. Is still non verbal. We are still working on toilet training. I feel defeated every day of my life. Each milestone is huge for us but they are few and far between. My dad was not a good role model so I am trying to learn how to be a good parent while feeling like a constant failure. Having a daughter that I can't verbally communicate with is the most difficult thing I have ever faced. I want nothing more than to hear about her days at school, how she is feeling emotionally, what I can be doing better, but the only sounds in our world are laughter and screams of frustration. I did not know what autism was before her. I know there are many people who have it more challenging than I do however, I can't talk to anyone about my situation because nobody I know can even begin to imagine what my life is like. I wish there was more awareness around it.

@scia1354

3 жыл бұрын

Try to unroll vaccinations (heavy metals detox)

@DMDAUTOLLC

2 жыл бұрын

You’re stronger than you’ll ever know

@comptonopolis

2 жыл бұрын

@@DMDAUTOLLC Much love. Life has gotten so much better since last year. My daughter is doing amazing. Honestly, life is just about patience. Don't ever compare yourself to anyone else. Only compete against yourself.

@DMDAUTOLLC

2 жыл бұрын

@@comptonopolis that’s literally a major part of how I live my day to day life my daughter is only 11 months but was premature 3 months so was in the NICU for those 3 months and now I look at her everyday and she makes the hardest days easy

@insteadof3901

2 жыл бұрын

Brother God bless you at the end of the day you are her role model she will understand when she is older when things are hard she will remember how hard you worked that will fuel her for greatness God is with us all

I’m a single father of 3 kids. Not easy but I keep my kids busy with sports. I make sure they are accountable for their actions. Schools, sports and household chores. Kids need direction and discipline. But I make sure we always do something as a family.

Currently 17 I can’t wait to be the best father I can be. I used to only want boys but now I’m really open to any gender I just want to love and care for my own child and show them the unconditional love I have for them like I wished my parents showed me.

@leamubiu

9 ай бұрын

“like I wished my parents showed me” Get started resolving your attachment issues *before* you have a kid, lest you risk treating parenthood as therapy, and your kids as extensions for your own healing. Hoisting onto kids the life that their parent didn’t get to have RARELY pans out.

So glad I have my wife she pushes me to be a better father every day and second. I didn't have my father there for me and at times it is more overwhelming than pulling a double shift any day and can be very hard. Glad have seen this video.

@james246ism

2 жыл бұрын

I think I can relate, my partner an I are expecting our first born in 4 months. We are both eqully excited however I can already feel my partner subconously and kindly pushing me to be a better parent. And I love her for that. I also didn't have a father and I think that carries a certian insecurity.

@Northstar2000

Жыл бұрын

If you are getting whipped, blink twice. Its okay we are here to help

@1Whipperin

3 ай бұрын

A real father is a man and a man doesn't let his wife or any woman push him. Your'e a simp, not a man or father.

Cried so hard 😭 I have so many painful wounds from being neglected and constantly abandoned by my father. But seeing things like this evolves my perspective that there are men that are brave to be vulnerable, to be protective, to be good spirited, etc. When he said something about reading another Frozen book to his daughter.. I didn’t know fathers read to their babies 😭 that was comforting.

@temp5782

Ай бұрын

I’m a 6ft4 veteran, boxer and bbuilder. I fight other big men for fun. I’m also a single dad, raised my son alone. I’ve worn painted nails to work, funny hats, done silly dances and talked with that beautiful young man trough so many nights. The painted nails part make me a man. Not the fighting, not the bbuilding. Your father was not strong enough to understand, he can’t help it. It’s his loss. I know you will make a great mother and you will find the right father for your kids. Everybody can fight but you can only win in life when you learn to love.

When you have daddy issues wondering if you will make it to be good enough of a father

@aesaehttr

4 жыл бұрын

You're 80% to greatness

@oteleaionutbogdan5381

3 жыл бұрын

Oliver If you ask yourself that you will be a good father, better than your own. I ask myself the same question, having the same dilemma.

@Oliver-qd4ee

3 жыл бұрын

Otelea Ionut Bogdan Otelea Ionut Bogdan thanks man, i really appreciate that. For real, then by your own words. you are gonna be (or already are) a great father too

@Idiopathogen

3 жыл бұрын

Largely that will be depend on who you marry. Tread carefully.

@jjjbaraify

3 жыл бұрын

A AA

My grandfather passed at 38 of a heart attack-he didn’t take care of himself one bit. My father assumed his role was to “provide” and discipline. I’m so glad to be breaking that cycle, to be mindful, to be humble and to be able to drop my pride.

@f.s-9798

2 ай бұрын

👏❤

Beautiful moment when his father stood up

Gives me the feels. My dad has done all these things for me. I'm a lucky guy.

@f.s-9798

2 ай бұрын

And i hope you're great father to

Just got moved up to lieutinent on my local fire department yesterday and couldn't have done it without the work ethic I learned from my dad. Good dads are the best

Damn i think i've never cried so hard... This really hit me emotionally. Great speach!👏👏👏

Thank you for this video! I really needed it!

This is so pure!!

I'm 20, don't plan on having kids for at least 10 years. It's important to learn these kinds of things.

@mukumbosimpito1571

2 жыл бұрын

Better not go in raw cause things might change lol

@SyntheticVibespromo

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you’re conscious of this. My biggest blessing is my kids, but the main change I would have made would be to have been prepared for them. It’s beautiful to grow with them, but I can’t help but wish I had had more to offer them early on. Not that it matters, but I’m super proud to see someone post this even if I didn’t mimic those actions 🙏🏽 much love to you

@itskeagan3004

2 жыл бұрын

That’s commendable young man, I’m only 34 but wish I had this mindset at 20! Gives me hope for our future kids!!! My daughter has benefited SO MUCH from DBT therapy and being mindful/aware of her emotions vs reasonable thinking. So many of us operate on emotion purely, it’s terrible for our hearts, brain and mental health. TERRIBLE.

@jasonlo8780

Жыл бұрын

At 20 yrs old You should be out there laying more pipe down than a plumber not watching this video. Lol

@michaelmccauley4044

Жыл бұрын

I told myself I’d never have children I’m 27. And met a 40 year old who showed me that I could possibly be a real dad and a good one. Never had one so it just changed my whole point of view

Mark is a part of my thesis committee! Such a great guy. Glad I found this.

If you ain’t got time bc your kid is with you skip to 12:10 seconds

What an amazing and moving lecture

Thank you so much! This was amazing!

Sons always have the potential to honour and love their parents especially their fathers!

@unknown81360

2 жыл бұрын

:(

In order to be a good Parent er Father, Mother; ONE! must be in touch with our own HUMANITY!!!!!!. Don't do to our children WHAT! was done to us by our parents! . There is parents and then AGAIN there is "PARENTS!" I rest my case!

Thank you 🙏 for sharing.

A great father is one that pays his child support. Let's start with that.

@oppa1319

Жыл бұрын

😢

Being a dad is my favorite thing to do lol

I'm so thankful for having a dad that is involved in my life and teaches me how to be a man

@imbatman4665

4 жыл бұрын

Not a lot of us have those kinds of dads! Good for you man!!

@GoochiGoblin

4 жыл бұрын

@@imbatman4665 thanks. He is the one that inspired me to make a KZread channel with me lifting

@mikhail7

3 жыл бұрын

I wish i had better parents.

@dollarbar1

2 жыл бұрын

Makes me happy just hearing such things

@zekican4312

2 жыл бұрын

@@mikhail7 be strong!!!

Great talk man!

Seems like a great man and father. Very kind.

@1Whipperin

3 ай бұрын

He's a simp.

This is amazing

Excellent job.

Kudos to all the fathers and fathers-to-be who are watching this

2 words willpower,commitment

I’m 27 years old and my girlfriend is 40. We met through a rehab where she was my nurse. Together we have come so far. Her three kids call me bonus dad they tell their dad they would rather stay at our house every night. She showed me that I was scared to be around kids because my dad left me and started a new family when I was around 12. She showed me that’s good because I will know exactly what not to do. It didn’t seem very real at first we’re on month 7 and it’s all I think about I expected to be nervous or the typical “my life is over BS”but in reality I see this as my time to be the dad my dad never was. She makes me believe I can do this Michael Myles McCauley Your daddy loves you so much man I can’t wait to hang out I was so nervous before you got here. Then I started realizing I get to give you the greatest life Promise not to let you down 1/16/23

This is such a deep presentation

Thank you

I am a single father of 2 loving boys, lately been feeling like i am failing them and myself, after fighting for them in courts- for the first time i feel like taking them back to their moms... For the first time i am filled with fear and discouragement. Everyone around me tells me how great of a father i am to my boys but deep down i feel i cant do it anymore, i feel defeated and alone, but i refuse to let them go... Today i am having one of the worst days ever or rather seasons and the only thing I look forward to is going home after work to hear about how their school day was and we laugh alot and play board games ❤❤❤❤.

As a man who is expecting a child of his own I learned so much from this video and took away some key things about being a father I realize that presence and time is the most important thing followed by patience and having the ability to understand my dad wasn’t perfect as he divorced my mom when I was 3 but he did the best he could and now it’s time for me to do even better boy or girl I will be the best father I can and could ever be

@ree589

Жыл бұрын

How's it goin?

@f.s-9798

2 ай бұрын

How is the baby

Cool video. Now I know more about how to be a great father.

Crazy to me that this guy felt so abandoned at 15. You realize how much worse off those who never had a dad have it. I hope 🇺🇸 fixes this fatherless issue-our #1 issue in America.

@jr5389

Жыл бұрын

A BAD DAD is worse that NO DAD …

@JT0007

Жыл бұрын

@@jr5389 that’s not necessarily true

I searched for this because i want kids in about 7~10 years from now. Thanks for the thoughts to bounce off, of.

TLDR: Your social persona is a result of your your upbringing. But you should strive to be better than your predecessor. Learn from those who are wiser than you whitest simultaneously applying your best judgement. If you listen to those who have more experience, and you are selective in whom you listen to, you will succeed. If you are unfortunate enough to live in a single parent home, surround yourself with positive influences. Remain confident. Without a father influence it can be difficult to have the self confidence to succeed, but it's not impossible. Positive male influences can have a significant impact on success.

My daddy issues brought me here

@Keeyniil

Жыл бұрын

😂

Sweet.

how does this not have 1 billion views?

I hope one day to do what i never had the opportunity to have

Beautiful

Being a father is a tough task.

Bull without being horrible I'm 37 going gray I've had life experiences not many people would have! I'm looking for simple answers first time dad excitement and a lot of self doubt! I need reassurance of how to be real! Emotions father and son, dad and daughters whays this going to do for me!!

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My kids have always been good kids no temper tantrums always easy to calm down always listened to us brought them up with total LOVE I dunno I'm watching shows on kids and they always talk about how rowdy they get or misbehaving I'm thankful I have such loving affectionate well behaved kids ❤️ BLESSED 🙌

You can all judge, be a father.

Brother! I hear you on a screamer! My daughter was the same way!

Leading by example

Pretty sure all I got out of this was “I was in a divorced family” and “make sure to complement your kid when you see them doing something right” was kinda hoping on a Ted talk on how to be a good dad and not just this guys mid life story

my dad past away when im 15, now i got 2 children, and i dont understand how to play the dad role. i'll keep searching for examples of how to be a good dad. we meet, debate, split repeat. its wasting time and its 5th years already. Both me n wifs wasnt happy. wht shld i do? i want happiness but cant handle a thing in family. i just hope everybody's happy. God bless u all

I think I’m a great dad but also that I need to be better at every moment

@jasonlo8780

Жыл бұрын

Striving for excellence, there is no shame in that!!!

Your not alone, I know many dads suffer due to there own fathers. I met my childrens father when I was 17 living in a childrens home and he had addictions distance abuse etc and I followed that lifestyle then however I dont blame I take responsibility I have a choice. Sometimes it's hard I find growing up I didnt heal off my mother or father and I ended up having there anger and OCD with cleaning the only way I got a smile or a hug is if I cleaned for my adoptive mum so I get where my OCD came from I learnt alot over years and fustrated with my family dynamics never had love from both parents so how can I love others. No excuse for all our behaviour however Two broken people break each other. Reflect is important 😔 painful I know been there to re live it however the freedom is amazing. Forgivness is hard however sets u free. Thanks so much for me stumbling on this. It was meant to be. Inner child helps if u write to that part of u telling it what it lacked growing up etc alot on you tube and books empowering. So love this.

What do I know about being a father? Honestly nothing. I just know to be everything my father wasn’t.

Was this recorded in a basketball court?

My appeal to the society don't separate a DAD from a FAMILY , it can effect the great relationship of son-dad .

When you got a kid otw and you trying to prep for it.

This f me up😭

Reflect re enforce check your role

My dad is coming home after 15 years in prison.. And my son is now 3 months old.. I don’t know how to be a son but I must excel at fatherhood

@KalltuniClassics

Жыл бұрын

😥Bitter sweet moment😢 | Courage man.

@jasonlo8780

Жыл бұрын

Your a great a son by default. And you'll be an even better father just don't end up in prison. Break the cycle

These ads are on fire @4 a.m. bro

Wish these vids had bullet points versus all the anecdotal stories.

I wish i have a good dad mine is very abusive and a monster.

My dad is none of those things he is not a good father or person

@malain1715

6 жыл бұрын

I don't know you or your father, so i can't if it's true or not. Perhaps your father is just a bad guy, it happens sometime. But i think that's what Mak Trahan was thinking about his dad before this retreat. So much people think their dad is bad, just because they don't know him really. So much persons think their dad is bad, and so much men are good people, that it can't match at all. If majority of men are good people, then we can't have so much bad dads. Studies show that the vast majority of chid abuse are made by mothers

@juniclark2967

5 жыл бұрын

Same my dude

@leonflores2933

4 жыл бұрын

@@malain1715 I don't believe there are (bad) persons. I think people do bad, cruel or unjust things cause of how they were brought up, the environment they grew up around is what influenced them to be how they are and act how they do. That's why we must talk with positive and encouraging language to anyone we meet. And even in our thoughts, wish everyone well.

@ebongjr793

4 жыл бұрын

He still made you. For that you should be grateful

@kakarotlifted7302

4 жыл бұрын

My dad couldn't care less what I feel. His favorite bonding sessions are when we don't speak, 'cause that would be bothering him, therefore he relishes the times when he tells me goodnight. He'd rather deal with me by not dealing with me at all. My brother died an alcoholic and drug addict before his time; and now I understand completely. I can't wait to drink to not care.

I’m 19 trying to be a great father for a child I don’t have yet

This is surprisingly very unhelpful

@CherryBlossomFlower

3 жыл бұрын

Oh course it’s a man who commented this. Maybe actually try to apply some of the tips he gave instead of letting your ego get in the way.

my dad says he loves me but he neer wants to talk with me normally he always talks to me when he needs something .

He’s definitely a young father.

Wasted research. Where's lead by example? Handing down life lessons? How to get and manage a car? How to have healthy relationships? How to manage credit? How to cook? How to clean? How to dress? Teaching the trade you've learned that feeds the family?(Even if they don't use it) How to take care of yourself? Recognizing and doing away with toxic relationships? How to be in shape and why it's important? Bloody raising the child?? Love is great, but where's the love for your child to succeed? Where's the seasoned man? Give a man fish, and he'll eat for a day; teach him how to fish, and he'll feed himself and his family to come.

@blairmartin4111

4 жыл бұрын

Kakarot Lifted You took the words out of my mouth! That’s exactly my reaction when I first started listening. I also agree with the “wasted research” phrase. I think it could be explained in depth. There’s a lot to unpack there.

@blairmartin4111

4 жыл бұрын

My mom did all the mom virtues in reverse.

Mom: 20% Dad: 100,000,000,000%

Make a choice.

5:42

I don’t even have a kid I’m 19

Confidence - Taken out of New age education (Masculinity is important) Also sounds like Santa's workshop in the background.

The word "America" comes from a German and Italian name (Amerigo) which means "work and family man" so to separate the father from the family is by definition a very unamerican thing.

What do you tell a child who lost his father when he was three months,and keeps in asking why don't i have a daddy?

@kato64

3 жыл бұрын

How about the truth?

1. I'm sorry for all of really sad stories from the comments. 2. The main goal of fatherhood is to let his child gain (in reasonable security conditions) the experience which should lead young human being to become self-decisive. In my opinion of course.

Now those 82k better be my future husband

My gf broke up with me and now I hardly got to see my kid while I battle for custody.

im just here to see how bad my dad is compared to others :/

I guess it’s possible for the acoustics in a room to be too good

I think you covered the 40%-60% of Dad’s that are already around and giving it their best shot…(as evidenced by our watching this video) but unless u got something that can prevent Dirtbag people (yes ,PEOPLE) from procreating who couldn’t ga sht about their kid’s future neither b4 or after childbirth, Trying to use those unwed stats to make already great dads feel somehow culpable for those numbers, makes me wanna just tune out!

You must be conciences of your own humanity in order to be a good father. Never do unto your children what got done unto you; by your parents. There is parents and then there is "PARENTS!"

Everybody’s clapping before he started.. what if the talk ends up being bad?

@low-keyrighteous9575

2 жыл бұрын

I think that's a risk they are willing to take.

How does this have 49k+ views and only 521 likes? 🤯

The "single unwed mothers"... 🤔 I wonder if that's really as big as it looks on paper. Yes it's an issue but are these numbers truly accurate? I'm about to become a dad with my fiance of 14 years, but according to the IRS she'll be a "single" "unwed" mother until we eventually get married

My absent father died last year, 20 years i didnt see him and now hes gone lol WHAT ABOUT US WHO DONT HAVE FATHERS?!?!?!

@sabrimo4020

4 жыл бұрын

Mondoshawan, Sorry to hear that your father died before making amends. But you can still learn from your experience on how to be a good father if you decide to become a father. Whatever your dad shortcoming was try to do the opposite. Good luck.

@KingRune

4 жыл бұрын

You do have a Father who wishes for to have fullness and joy of life, you are worth everything to him and he is proud of you. Come Into a personal relationship with Him. He brought me out-of the feelings of inadequacy due to an absent father.

@artofscripture5320

2 жыл бұрын

God is the Father to the Fatherless please reach out he will be waiting

Look, I'm a dog daddy. My baby girl freaks out if she doesn't have her mommy or daddy to project calm, relaxed, "everything is okay" vibes so my baby girl gets the idea that life is calm and good

That guy is not a good dad he's a second mother listening to the biological one !

the 1st 1.30mins are too dramatic...

My dad don't even care about me that sucks.

@littlebastard1130

5 жыл бұрын

It hurts, but it will make you an amazing parent one day to your children. Trust me on that

@aymettim

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe your dad experienced that kind of relationship in his childhood. Its your choice to rewrite this chapter of relationship and taking more care to your own children. We are all free to change this lack of emotions we need.

@Userm2155

3 күн бұрын

You’re not alone. I know a girl whose dad left and always never wanted to know her or see her. She didn’t even know much about him except that he doesn’t want her in his life. She’s doing well in her life without him.

The mothers are the issue not the fathers. Moms have all the power we are hopeless to see our children.

His father is like his earpiece. Unreliable.

@teorror8729

2 жыл бұрын

🤣

Someone with very little experience trying to give advice is worse than bad advice. Come back when your 75

@eharris415

3 жыл бұрын

So you are saying you have to be 75 to give advice about your experience as a father?

No way I’m going to listen to this. With this kind of audio.