Ruth Graham, who was the wife of the well know evangelist Billy Graham, was once asked if she ever thought of divorcing the Rev. Graham. She responded with a “no”, but that she had contemplated murder! 😊 I think that was one of my favorite quotes!

@richspillman4191

Жыл бұрын

My parents were married 60 years, dad spent 2 days in the hospital after eating a salad mom had made with a hand picked toad stool. 10 years after that she spent 2 days in the hospital after trying to show that toad stools weren't poisonous.

I enjoyed that thank you. I've been divorced for 23 years. Ex- husband - a good kind man but i couldn't be myself with him. Am happier now- as a single doing my own thing. There is a certain sadness though...

I married (too) young, and we were married for ten years, and produced two lovely children. One changes as you get older, and sometimes grow apart. When meeting my current partner we were together for ten years before we got married. Although we loved each other, the first marriage may have been based on lust and being in too much of a hurry to tie the knot. And that's the difference with my marriage today, it's built upon unconditional love.

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! We experience, learn, grow and develop all throughout our lives and at different rates so it's not surprising that people grow apart or become less functional as a couple. And yes, all too often marriage fails when lust dies off.

Great topic me and Mrs separated for 8 year's 2 children,we get on better great friends ,never mention devorce see my children everyday support my wife ,she supports me, children ok only live 500meters away we are all ok 👍

Just love all of Julia's clothes. She always looks amazing. Richard is pretty dapper too, of course. Interesting and controversial subject. Nice when couples are amenable.👫

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

Great conversation piece and my only complaint was that I didn’t want it to end. Maybe Divorce Part 2? I was married for 27 yrs and most of that time was not enjoyable. Should have listened to my Mum when she said she’s not right for you. Divorced, met a girl online back in 1998 when I received a Lotus Notes email from, back then, the only dating website on the planet. Being in IT was handy and as it was so unusual back then we even appeared on Robert Kilroy-Silk’s morning programme about couples who had met on the Internet. Still together having lots of fun. She teaches and I work in Artificial Intelligence which is a bit daft as I’m mad as a hatter 😁

@derekandme

Жыл бұрын

Lovely story, Lord P! I'm also in IT... 😆

This is you're best English Couple Video in my opinion. Such frank & open discussion. Very enjoyable + fantastic watch. Glad you're both together Richard & Julia!! 😊 💜 xx

Thankfully it is a subject I know nothing about but I do think it's a blessing if one is lucky to find your soulmate first time round.

Hi Richard & Julia, great topic and conversation, I wish more couples would feel comfortable talking to each other about their relationship in general. Thank you so much for sharing. I hope you both have a wonderful rest of the day! Take care of yourselves and each other. Kathy x 💖

@larryneyii2162

Жыл бұрын

Women don't want to be women ,they want to compete with men don't want to be a traditional woman and that is seriously wrong . Woman have children and are supposed to care for a husband and home .

Brilliant sharing with us and some with each other. Great partnership.

Labels, labels and more labels - why do we do this to ourselves? - takes me back to previous chats about Natural law.... We are still so conditioned to talking and accepting "legal law" that keeps us in a jar that really isn't who we are....

You make a lovely couple,and interesting to listen to. Sad you smoke though,try to stop please,it'll give you another decade together.

I agree with Julia... I don't know what Richard would do without her 😆👍

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

Haha, thank you Caz xxx

@caz12345

Жыл бұрын

@@the-english-couple 😘😘

Too happy with each other to be divorced!

@JuliaHartley

Жыл бұрын

I can't divorce you even if I wanted to 😆💜💜💜

@keithcc66

Жыл бұрын

Is this a private conversation, or can I join in

@ASmileAdayful

Жыл бұрын

@@JuliaHartley 🤣

At the end of the day, its the one thing that keeps people together despite all the ups and downs that life throws at you, LOVE. If you love one another then you will stay together. As the saying goes, Love conquers all.......and its true.

Been married 33 yrs this June, he's always right and I'm tolerant..... It works 🤣 if he ever leaves me it would take a big man to replace him and if I ever leave him I'm keeping the home 🤣.

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

Haha, 'he's always right and I'm tolerant' sounds very familiar!

“You can’t stop being a parent.” Yes you can if your children ‘divorce’ you. You can’t be a parent if a child doesn’t want contact & makes it clear they have a strong dislike of you.

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

That's a fair point. I was trying to say that you can't just switch off the feelings you have for them 💜

In Victorian Times, wasn't a spinster a woman who had never had a relationship, and because she was over thirty, she was considered on the shelf, a left over?

This 3rd January was the 20th anniversary of my divorce. The BEST and I mean the BEST day of my life and I know the Best day of her life 🙂. We all have one life and should always seek the very best that we can derive for ourselves - because unless we ae truly happy inside, we cannot radiate love for anyone else 🙂

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So why do you think people marry the wrong person in the first place? Is it a case of, "I don't want to be on my own and you will do". As a member of a huge family I think a big cause of the break down of marriages is complacency. They don't make an effort anymore and every day is the same.

I guess I just assume that all marriages are like mine which probably makes me a naive person but ive been married 20 years and my husband is my best friend, lover, father of our children. I just can't imagine being without him and vice versa. So I'm shocked when people just get divorced at the drop of a hat. I'm not judging because I know life doesn't sail smoothly and it takes 2 to make a marriage but isn't divorce teaching our children to just give up? 🤷‍♀️

It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go. Thank you both so much, several teens under my care saw this. Grateful.

I admire you as a couple, you are very lucky to have one another. Keep up the great posts👍

Well done, awkward subject.Today your beautiful and so am I, but tomorrow when the connection of loves bliss fads and your minds divide now enters the do I really know or ever knew this person ...that's reality. It's a long road to wait until the kids can get on their own bikes , me thinks I hear an admirable character to put the children before oneself. Some soldier on until a more worldly permanent departure.Is that a good thing?

Never been married but been with my partner for 35 years but I've certainly seen lots of my friends go through divorces guess I just thought I didn't need a piece of paper to provelove and commitment

Three some, maybe 🤣 only joking, great chat, thanks

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

Gee whiz, no! LOL. One lover is more than plenty thanks!

"dunce, dragons, dungeons" do all - in a weird way have connectations of "divorce"... 😜

The myths of marriage are just that

Haha so funny @julia I used to want to marry prince William too. When I was at school 😮😅

@the-english-couple

9 ай бұрын

Haha, the folly of youth eh? Xxx

Been there done that , married and divorced by 24 , married again .

She said she is dragging her feet ? It sounds like she would go back to her husband ?

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

It sounds like you don't know me very well. Don't worry, I wouldn't trust you either (I jest of course!)

How about making marriage a lot bloody harder to achieve : Would sort a lot of immature people out of the prospect of a failed marriage.

@larryneyii2162

Жыл бұрын

Marriage doesn't matter anymore . Just ask Richard ? It's not the way I was raised I'm a child of the sixty's and the 1970s .

@larryneyii2162

Жыл бұрын

I think Richard is more liberal than he puts on ha ha ha .

Spinsters charged good money for their talent so they didn't need a husband's house nor to deal with the potential problems associated with the behaviours typical of men (absences, drunkeness, physical domination, laziness, carelessness, self-pity,....) unless they learn self-control and self-disapline.

Julia and Richard, you seem really well suited to each other.

Intersting i am your new subscriber. Hello.

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

Thanks! Hello and welcome.

its dragons

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

Oh drat, you are correct, we were meant to talk about DRAGONS!!! Teehee. Oh well, next time!

Dear Richard and Julia have you had a row yet

Im divorced never been happier Sort out or pay out Disagree at solicitors and it will cost you financially Its all for the best if you no longer like each other Its also no good for children if they are involved

The loving couple David and Lily here Plus of course the Lovely Katie who is now 15 and ever so thankful that I divorced the first wife. Yes of 16 years the first few very happy. Her best BEST friend also a Philippine girl struggled with friendship for another 10 years but had to abandon... Then realised why I had divorced. We Lily and I got abandoned at the same time. COUGH. My new Chinese girlfriend went off and Lily's boyfriend came back from Thailand with someone younger. My first wife went with a Steve who was 10 years younger. We love STEVES. Yes they got married. They have no children??? Yet I was blamed for not having children with her. She being far too neat beyond neat and tidy. Her friend related a story which I totally believe as it is so her... That for each room in the house there is a pair of slippers which you have to change into at the door if you want to proceed!!! WOW I MISSED THAT ONE.

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

It's a funny ole life eh? Thank goodness you escaped that bullet, I mean, slippers for each room?? LOL x

I can't imagine anyone turning the lovely Julia down!

Was married at 20 was 17yrs... And we married on lust and thought it was love. Divorced and remarried and we love each other with a love the Bible calls a Holy union. We are very happy as a couple for the past 8 yrs.

The problem I have is the children go to their Father's every weekend but he keeps bringing them back. ;) Break ups are a little messy sometimes. X

Richard watch out I wouldn't trust your girlfriend? I've be divorced twice .

@the-english-couple

Жыл бұрын

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