"I want her to be able to grieve in a normal, healthy way." You're already a great mom ❤

My partner’s mother passed suddenly and didn’t leave a will. It has been a nightmare. This is so helpful, you have no idea how helpful this is for those who have to deal with this!!!

I’m sorry for your loss. My Daddy didn’t leave a Will either. In fact, he cancelled his small life insurance policy 2 months before he died to save money (he was on a fixed income). He’s been gone 12 years and I still grieve him. You never really get over losing a parent. To add to the drama, my siblings did nothing to help pay for funeral and burial services. They assumed since I was the oldest it was my responsibility.

@mariesconeyisland

10 ай бұрын

I am so sorry this was your reality. Sending you a lot of love and compassion ❤️

The channel Ask A Mortician has some older videos talking about what happens when a loved one dies, how to talk with your loved ones about planning for their deaths, legal stuff, the whole thing! She presents it in an open and friendly manner. It is very useful information!

I lost my boyfriend very suddenly almost 5.5yrs ago. He had a will but it was not notarized so it wasn’t legal in our state of NC. He wanted the cars, the house & everything left to me. Unfortunately, the family was allowed to have all of it & I only received my portion of the life insurance policy that he had. I lost my house, the car, basically everything. I had to move out in less than 2 weeks after his funeral so I wasn’t able to properly grieve for at least a month. It has been the hardest thing in my life to go through & I learned from that process to have my affairs in order just in case something happened to me. I’m so sorry that you are going through all of this. I never had to deal with the legal side of this but I can imagine how hard that must be.

@recordtapesbackward

10 ай бұрын

😢 his family sounds so heartless. to not care about what your child actually wanted is so cold

@bloandon

10 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for all you had to go through but I'm glad you are here today and got through it!

@burymewithabook

10 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry, no one should have to go through that! *Hugs* to you ❤️

@LecheVitrineUK

10 ай бұрын

That is such a horrendous thing to go through! ❤

@cassidym.7687

10 ай бұрын

that is incredibly unfair and I'm so sorry that happened to you. Just reading your comment made me so angry on your behalf.

I have been a proponent for normalizing "death talk" since I started watching Ask A Mortician years ago. Thank you for being so open and honest, Sarah ❤ This kind of discussion is so needed, everywhere. Sending love from Sweden.

@0liwie

10 ай бұрын

I've had the same experience, her channel is really helpful! I wonder if people fear that talking more about death would lessen the seriousness that it has, but for me it has done the opposite. I feel like I'm more aware of all the things that happen to me and my loved ones eventually.

@salyx

10 ай бұрын

Her channel is a gift to us all, I swear. Those older videos are so helpful!

Condolences to you and your family. I am literally in the same boat, my dad died suddenly of a heart attack at 49. His girlfriend has refused to give me, his only child, any of his property, money, or documents. It's been hell ever since. I am unable to watch most of this video as it's a difficult topic for me still but I just wanted to say, you aren't alone. We aren't alone. It sucks how often this happens.

@pamelaaranzazu

10 ай бұрын

im so sorry to hear this and sorry for your loss... how is this possible if she was only a girlfriend? the whole process is inhumane...

@msmuniz23

10 ай бұрын

I’m sorry for your loss and I’m sorry the gf is making you go thru hurdles legally she shouldn’t have rights smh

@sagathestoryteller7920

10 ай бұрын

@@pamelaaranzazu Thank you. She has 0 legal rights but they were living together. I don't have enough money to legally fight her so we've been getting everything in place so she can't continue to deny us everything.

@sagathestoryteller7920

10 ай бұрын

@@msmuniz23 Thank you friend ❤️

@cathferg

10 ай бұрын

A similar thing happened to me. My dad got married 3 months before he died and so his previous will become null and void and she inherited everything.

My mother died suddenly at age 55. She had reviewed her will a week before. I'm turning 39 next week. I have had a will since in my 20's becuase of this. You can die at any time. As soon as you have capital whatever that is, make a will. Its not hard. Don't leave your family with more stress.

My father passed last September without a will. Thankfully my mother and siblings have a very good relationship and we were all able to negotiate the details amicably.

@arus.2171

10 ай бұрын

feel ya wake me up when september ends 🙏

grief is a crazy thing. i still feel like i haven't fully grieved because he had alzheimer's and i already grieved so much and it felt like he was already gone. sending love to you and your family ❤️ and i hate getting sympathy too! i'm so glad someone else feels that way because i thought i was soulless 😭

I work at a bank and it’s always so heartbreaking when family members don’t have a will or even beneficiaries on their accounts. It’s so much extra work for the surviving family during that time. The amount of people I have had to turn away while they’re borderline in tears and stressed out it’s so sad 😩 very important to set this stuff up no matter how much money or assets you have!

I have two parents that are in poor health due to chain smoking for 50+ years and refuse to make a will. Seeing this video is very helpful for what I’m sure is waiting for me in the future. I’d definitely like to see more of this process and I am so sorry you have had to deal with all of this. You’ve had so much happen in such a short amount of time and I hope things settle down for you. 💕

Omg Sarah. Number one im sorry again for your loss, but that is something else entirely. My grandmother didnt leave a Will & it has been complete turmoil.

My condolences on your dad passing. I went through similar issues with my uncle who passed away last January. He wasn’t married and had no children and also no will, so my mom and I are still going threw probate a year later. This video was great

You had no obligation to pay those overdue bills if you weren't married to him, also you weren't the executor either.

Amen to what you said about smoking. I was 8 when my mom got lung cancer and that was it for me. Watching some of siblings or my friends pick up the habit as we were growing up angered me so much and I’ll never understand why or how with all the information we have available to us, someone would decide to smoke nowadays. So frustrating. *internet hug* to you for going through all of this! It’s definitely inspired me to look into life insurance, wills etc and get my siblings and family members on board too.

I am so sorry for your loss. I really appreciate your vulnerability and honesty 🩷

My father in law passed in November, and we thought everything was prepared but it wasn’t. I definitely get what you mean about it taking away from grieving, I didn’t realize how much paperwork and bureaucracy is involved in someone’s passing. It made me realize I needed to talk to my own parents about preparations that should be made, but my dad refuses to talk about it. It’s difficult because same as you expressed, he’s very responsible, but he just can’t think/talk about the idea of his own death.

I have lost both my parents they weren't old and it was a shock for both losses. I implore people to write wills, and keep them up to date. Both my parents had wills. My mum died in march 2021 and we are still waiting for probate, I'm in the UK and everything is taking much longer because of COVID, is HMRC (tax department) that is holding it up because they have such a huge back log, it will take 6 more months. Normally it would take a few months. Grief is the hardest and most bizarre thing, it does change you but you can get through it. Write wills people!

I lost my mom suddenly in 2018. She was my best friend. She had written a will, but it wasn't finalized, so I had to bring 2 people to the court who knew her handwriting, but weren't beneficiaries of the will to verify it was in fact, her will. I totally understand not being able to grieve because you have to do so much after their passing. My mom was also a smoker, and scrubbing the walls of her apartment twice over just sucked so badly. Sending you strength, Sarah. 💙

I’m so sorry. My dad didn’t leave a will either. Thankfully my parents live in NYS so, I guess with the way the law works, it wasn’t too hard to switch everything over to my mom’s name and such. My dad never wanted to think about his death or confront that. So he never had a will! I’ve been trying to push my mom to make one. Losing a parent is so strange. It literally changed me as a person. I’m sending you all the love.❤

I also believed our society shy away from discussing death, dying, and plans. There's lack of educational resources and the laws are different in each state (USA). Honestly, I feel like there should be a required class/course in high school explaining the process of death, and the legal process afterwards. I'm very sorry for your loss

Both my parents have passed, most recently my mom. She didn't leave a will and it was such a stressful mess. It took me and my siblings nearly a year to figure everything out. I am thinking of you and I hope you are able to take really gentle care with yourself.

My grandparents passed 6 months apart and they also didn't have a will. I think the part of this video that really got to me was when you talked about how this process muddies your grief. The amount of things my parents had to do afterwards was insane. It's a nightmare and it absolutely sucks you have to go through all of this.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Sarah. This is such an important topic and it's great that you are talking about it. In addition to a will, people should also have a letter of intent and POLST for healthcare decisions. I work in healthcare as well as have experienced several deaths of loved ones in a short pwruos of time. The most amazing and loving thing someone can do is to save their loved ones the stress of bureaucracy and allow them to grieve you. Death is scary, but it is inevitable. Avoiding creating these documents hurts everyone.

@haley5803

10 ай бұрын

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I’m a probate paralegal; every state has different laws regarding probate and trusts and estate taxes. Probate takes forever and is such a frustrating process. I wish this kind of stuff was more common knowledge because it’s so heartbreaking how much stress families have to deal with on top of grieving.

My father was near penniless but he left me with inheritance legal troubles since he had tons of debt pretty much everywhere. I found out last minute since no one had told me. Some people just don't care enough about you to make your life a little easier before they're gone...

My mom died (unexpectedly) without a will and in a tremendous amount of debt. I was living in her house (I'm disabled and always lived with her) and the HOA began eviction proceedings against me because I was unable to pay the monthly HOA fee. I'm an only child and she was always single. I had no other family. I was able to secure low income housing for myself and moved across state with just a few belongings and our two cats. I just left the whole mess of her falling apart house and piles of debt behind me and I'm honestly really glad I did that. I definitely relate on the cigarette/smoking topic. My mom smoked 2 packs a day for over 50 years and died at 68 due to complications of COPD, congestive heart failure, and type 2 diabetes. An absolutely lethal combination.

I’m so sorry about your dad. We had a family friend whose parents both passed in a car accident. Neither had a will. She didn’t get on with her siblings and it caused absolute turmoil, chaos and heartbreak. After seeing this my dad is hyper fixated on wills, keeping them updated, leaving me information on power of attorney, finances, inheritance tax and funeral wishes. It’s so tough because we don’t want to think about it, but it’s very important. Sending you strength ❤

My dad died suddenly in 2019 (car accident) and he did not have a will. I was the executor of his estate. It was really hard and took the better part of a year to deal with everything. He was my best friend so I was having a very hard time grieving. Thank goodness my husband was there to help me. He actually handled a lot of it for me, especially in the beginning.

Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability ❤💕

Sorry for your loss ♥️ my dad died in April as well. He was homeless, so no assets to deal with, but having the entirety of planning/logistics (his homelessness has been making it especially complicated) put on me without knowing his wishes was so hard. And your complex feelings with grief are so relatable to me as well. It sucks!!! Grieving has been so difficult with all the logistics and capitalism on top of it!!!! Agghh

Thank you. I can't express how important this video is. Grief is already so messy on it's own

My dad died on New Years Day and it made this year so challenging. We hired a fiduciary to help manage his estate, and last week we found out that there would be nothing left over for his children, even though we were named first in his will. I feel guilty that I’m disappointed, as if money would be some sort of consolation prize. All this to say that I understand your feelings of complicated grief. I hate feeling like I don’t get to experience “normal” grief like losing someone you had a healthy relationship with. Thank you for sharing. ❤

My best friends dad passed away suddenly with a will and it was still incredibly complicated to deal with his assets. He had just leased a car and they call the company to let them know and they basically said well we have a contract so we can’t break that. They were like “He’s dead!” And the company was like “ok and…?” My condolences for your dads passing, I lost my Father in law and my grandma within 8 months of each other this past year and grief is crazy and hard.

Man, this seems so bloody stressful. I don't talk to my dad and I often think about his passing as if I'm trying to prepare myself. I don't believe there is something to inherit from him. He has sold all his real estate and blew all the money due to his gambling addiction. He does have 2 other kids, from a previous marriage, so If he does own something, I don't even know, how we're going to go about it. such a mess

@recordtapesbackward

10 ай бұрын

I don't know what it's like in your country, but at least where I'm from, you can inherit debt... which sounds like it could become a legit issue in your case 🥺

Sarah, I'm going through this exact thing right now, and the complicated feelings of parental loss alongside the stress of estate execution when there's no will or trust is the worst feeling I've ever experienced. I hope time has been kind and you've been able to work through the stress and grief.

My condolences..and I’m So sorry that you have to go through all the headache of no will.

Thank you for sharing your experience. My story is extremely similar to yours... California, I'm the only child, my dad was "single" and I was his primary support. He passed away after being in the hospital for about 2 months, and during that time, he refused to create a will. I believe that was because he wasn't ready to admit to himself even, that he was about to die. I admire how responsible you have been going about the process, in your own life. Way to go! However, I am sorry for your loss. It's coming up on 2 years now since I lost my dad... I still have boxes of his stuff in my space and I still cry because I miss him. Hopefully the grief will lessen one day!

We have a thing in the UK called "tell us once" which is a gov thing, you upload the death certificate and they will tell everybody who needs to know (companies etc), dunno why this isn't more widespread. I kept my mums mobile number for years after she passed and one day I noticed her whatsapp image had changed. The phone company has re-used her number and I didn't know this was a thing and it was a horribly sobering moment. Grief likes to give you the odd sneak attack. Sorry for your loss Sarah.

Thank you so much for sharing this. People just don’t talk about these things and it’s so incredibly important for people to have these uncomfortable conversations. Your vulnerability is so appreciated, not just regarding the issue of the will, but sharing your overall journey with grief as well. I don’t know anyone else my age who has also lost a parent and it’s so helpful to feel like I’m not alone in these feelings.

Lost my Dad when i was 15, we were not as close i would like. It took me a lot of time to work through it and learn how to keep going. I know mom went through a lot trying to get his afairs in order because it was a suicide. I am sorry you had to deal with all this

You are incredibly strong. As somebody who has been with you for the past 10 years, these past two have been pretty rough on you, and somehow, you are still standing. Much love, Sarah. X

Hoping this ordeal will be over as soon as possible and you can grieve in peace ❤️💔❤️ “Anti-human” is the perfect term. This is such an obscene system we live inside. Peace and light. We’ll make it through ✨❤️

Grief is never something that’s easy to go through, let alone when there are these types of layers to the situation. The way you are able to keep your composure and even makes this video just shows that you are insanely strong. It’s been a bit since my last loss and this video brought out some emotions that I think I really needed to unbox, and for that I have to thank you for sharing your story. May your healing journey be as peaceful as you deserve it to be, we all are here and happy to support in any way possible❤

I am so sorry for your loss. This is SO important and I am happy you are talking about this. It is so important to have a plan.

I’m so sorry about your dad Sarah. I’m sending you hugs❤

I’m so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed seeing you film with your dad and the love y’all shared!

Thanks so much for sharing & so so sorry for your loss & all of the hoops you’re having to go through ❤

This is such an important topic to discuss. My divorced parents do both have a will and I think it is b/c they were in your shoes at one point. They have both also been decluttering for the same reason. Thank you for sharing your story and I am so sorry for your loss.

Sending you love and healing.

sending much love and good luck to you! your videos inspire me so much!

Thank you so much for sharing. This was so incredibly helpful. I hope your journey through this isn't too rough and the paperwork ends soon. My Gparents are in that worrying age and have yet to make a legal will or trust. This will be so very helpful to have them finish the process. Thank you again. 🧡

im so sorry for your loss Sarah, this video just sums up so much, i hope you can find your grief in a way that heals rather than drains your energy, thank you for sharing your experience with us, you are (parasocially) loved and appreciated

I’m so sorry for your loss and that you have to trudge through this legal and financial nightmare. I know you will help a lot of people with this video

Thank you for this video. This is an important topic. My condolences. Sending ❤

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve had no contact with my dad since I was 8. He’s almost 60 now and I worry about this kinda stuff all the time cause I don’t know how responsible I even am for him, but because of that like thank you for talking about how complex it has been for you. It’s so sad and I wish that we could have a moment to process before so much happens legally like it’s INSANE to me. I’m so sorry for all you’re going through.

Thank you for sharing. I haven’t been through this, but it is very good to hear about this kind of stuff!

Sending you virtual hugs! I'm sorry you are going through this, and the limbo waiting for the paper and time spent on this instead focusing on you and your family

Watched and helped a family member deal with having to go through a very similar situation with their parent and I felt so bad for them. It really is important even if someone thinks it’s obvious who anything they leave would go to - everyone should make a will if they can even if they are young.

I want to thank You for making this video, so brave and vulnerable of You ❤️

All your feelings are so valid and sharing them is really helpful. Thanks for your vulnerability. 💕

Thank you for sharing your experience. My late husband died ten years ago and never left any will. I was lucky that he did have some kind of life insurance through his work that barely covered the costs of the funeral. It was not my first loss, but the first loss of someone I loved and who I was close with. It was hard to grieve his loss because he died from drinking too much. He was emotionally abusive and we went through a lot of ups and downs in our marriage. I did meet someone new a few years later. My boyfriend’s dad recently passed away over a year ago. He did write a will and signed it a few months before he passed. He just didn’t file it or do anything with it. Because of this, what he had intended to leave to his 2 sons (my BF and his brother) his estranged wife came and took it all. She even had the police come to his house and make my BF leave as he was sorting out his dad’s stuff because he was trespassing. This was my BF’s stepmom and she lived a few states away. They couldn’t afford to get divorced so they just stayed married and lived separately. (We are in CA). A lawyer to clear all of this mess up wanted like 5k upfront and neither one of his kids had that kind of money. So she sold the house, took all of his things and gave it to goodwill or what ever and maybe even dumped some. BF was able to grab a couple of photos of him and his dad and that was it. It took away from him being able to properly grieve his dad. It was awful. We don’t like to talk about it, but death is apart of life.

I just have to say, not that it matters, you can compose yourself however you choose on any video you upload but you were so well put together. So eager to explain and share and on something so vulnerable in such a helpful way. I sincerely appreciate you opening up on this topic and the way it affected your grief process too but you’re right it’s not something people want to think about. Anyway so grateful you shared about something so difficult I sincerely appreciate all your videos. ❤

i’m sorry you have to go through all this stress sadness and hardship 😢 i really hope your mom and step dad can follow through

Thank you for sharing the real details of this process.

I'm sorry for the loss of your dad

Prayers for you at this difficult time! Positive thoughts and vibes for you!

Thank you for being so open, it was beautiful and well done

You are passing along a very real thing for people to plan ahead it isn’t hard at all and relatives, children will be so grateful and spared all the extra feeling you are dealing with! It is so important!! It is kind and thoughtful to have this already done so your loved ones do not have to!!!! I admire you already and every video I watch and listen to of yours makes me respect your heart and intelligence more and more. Peace and love to you Fern is a lucky girl to have you as her mother!

My condolences 💐 🖤 This video is so helpful. Thanks for sharing with us.

This is such a raw and honest video that I appreciate you making. I lost both of my parents and neither had wills. Here in the UK things are a bit different to how you had to do things but we still had to jump through so many legal and financial hoops and like you said, it entirely muddies the grief. Have faith in the fact that you will get to a point when it’s quiet, and you’ll have to to fully work through that grief then x

Sarah, thank you so much for making this video! I've been subscribed to your channel for as long as i can remember, i too lost my mom in April unexpectedly from cancer. Your video really hit home because i was in the exact same scenario as i am next of kin, and no one ever mentions how hard it is especially when there is no will. I just wanted to let you know that this video meant a lot and thank you for speaking up about this

Just wanted to say thank you for sharing such a difficult part of life in a way that will likely help many (including me, you’ve inspired me to tackle this unfun task).

Sending you so much sympathy and compassion in this time.

Hey Sarah, I'm so sorry for your loss and the frustration of all the bureaucracy that is involved with death. We lost my mom last year due to copd and I feel so much for you for the bitterness involved with your parent dying due to their addiction. Luckily my mom left everything to a T in her will, but when having her house appraised we found out the fridge line had ruptured and we had to take out a loan and rip out and redo her entire kitchen before we could sell. You will get through this, but all the bs really does morph and delay your grief. We are expected to return to fully functional members of society so quickly and it's not fair. Sending you lots of love and peace. ❤

Reeeally appreciate you sharing this with us and would be interested in hearing more about your journey through the process down the line as well. My heart goes out to you 🖤

Big hugs to everyone out there who is griefing ❤It is always a little uncomfortable to address but a will, and also a living will for that matter, are so important. We organized everything together as a family a few years ago. When something tragic happens, everybody is overwhelmed anyways and making decisions in a situation like that can be anything from tough to impossible. It really helps to get everything onto paper in advance which you won't be able to communicate when you're either hospitalized and unconscious or you have passed.

This was fascinating! Please keep sharing about the process. I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with all of this on top of your dad’s passing. I was the same with the cigarettes with my parents. I actually got them to quit because I’d yell at them all the time and tell them they wouldn’t live to see their grandkids.

I am so thankful that you posted this video and shared your story. I hope you'll be fine and everything will go smoothly. Also, I have been wanting to quit smoking for a long time and tried unsuccessfully a few times and let me just say that the part of this video in which you talked about smoking, encouraging us to take your situation as a sign to quit, gave me so much freaking motivation to try once again. Sending lots of love and hope ❤

Sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing. Hope everything works out in your favor

Just wow. In my country, Poland, when somebody dies and there is just one kid, the kid gets everything and the whole process takes maybe a day - you collect the documents (just a few pieces of paper) and go to a lawyer, pay AT MOST $1000 and that’s it. When there are two kids, or three or whatever, and no will - everything is divided equally. When a spouse dies, the husband or wife gets everything. Unless there is someone unhappy who wants to go to court, it takes a few hours and not that much money. I’m sorry for your loss and also for all the issues you have to deal with.

Thank you for making this video, I’m sure it will be helpful to many people, and definitely sparked some important thoughts. Sending love as you go through the journey of grief ❤

My Dad was a smoker too. He has quit for MANY years. I have a resentment against cigarettes and vapes because of those memories of walking in as a kid to my parent's bedroom and smelling the foul smell of cigarette smoke from my Dad. Vapes are just as bad too and I hate that there's so much misinformation being spread around about vaping as well. Like, I can understand that people smoke or vape for anxiety reasons, but it doesn't change the fact that smoking and vaping too much can lead to so many terrible health issues when you get older. I try not to judge, but I cannot stand it when people smoke or vape. Even if they do it right in front of my face

@spacebar9733

10 ай бұрын

the irony is that it makes your mental health worse.

@rebeccassweetmusic4632

10 ай бұрын

@@spacebar9733 Exactly! And they don't realize how it can take a toll on not only your mental health, but the brain too. The hard part is that we can't push them to quit! They need to hit a bottom in order to take the steps of sobriety

@spacebar9733

10 ай бұрын

@@rebeccassweetmusic4632 my dad had two heart attacks before he finally stopped smoking cigarettes, and he already had a heart transplant before that. I think he still smokes weed though, I'm not sure.

@rebeccassweetmusic4632

10 ай бұрын

@@spacebar9733 My dad smokes weed too

@spacebar9733

10 ай бұрын

@@rebeccassweetmusic4632 we gotta try moving them to edibles...

Grief is weird, and you will grieve the loss of different people in your life differently. The first loss I experienced I had a five minute cry, and that was it I was sad about it and I Still miss them but it didn't hit me the same way as when my grandmother died, I think that was the first time I cried in public and in front of my parents and siblings as an adult it was a very bizarre experience but time makes it easier and some days I'm like wow all this time has passed and she's missed out on so much and that makes me sad. I'm sorry your dad left you in a shit position, Sarah, and I'm sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry your going threw all this and thank you for all this information . My husband and I have had this conversation before it was a very hard conversation but a very important one. Wish you all the best in threw this journey . Once again thanks for giving us this information and being so valuable, we appreciate you ❤️

Thank you for your honesty❤

It's really meaningful and helpful to hear you share all of this. Wishing you all the best.

Dang much love to you ❤️ my mom passed over a year ago and I feel you on the complicated feelings. She was an addict my entire life and we were never able to have a typical relationship. It's definitely a different kind of grief from others that I have gone through. I think it really helps to relate to others in your grief and when it's not typical it can be hard to find people you can relate to and it makes the grieving process so incredibly lonely. Sending you *hugs* and wishing you lots of baby snuggles to get you through.

Always appreciate your transparency and vulnerability. Sending love 🤍

I feel a little relieved that I’m not the only one going through this experience. It’s been very difficult going through this process and grieving simultaneously. Thank you for making this video and sharing your experience.

Thank you for sharing this! Never thought about this before and this video was very insightful.

Thank you for sharing this Sarah 💛

I’m sorry you are going through this situation. Death of a parent is hard enough and then add in the stress of dealing with the financials. It is very overwhelming. I lost my mom very unexpectedly in 2020 and I still haven’t really accepted it. Grief never really gets better you just get used to the new normal . I hope you sharing your situation helps you to feel a little better and that your not alone in your feelings. Hang in there😊

I lost my dad in February and he also didn't have a will. I'm also an only child and feel all of this so much. It's been such a wild ride. My heart goes out to you. The grief comes in waves for sure.

Thank you for articulating this. It’s so important

I relate to so much of what you shared. My dad also died without a will and it has been such a huge headache and weight on my shoulders. I understand why it makes it hard to grieve. Thanks for being so open about your experiences. Sending you good vibes!! 💖

This is a great video. Thank you for sharing your experience with us and being so honest. My dad is a smoker as well and it frustrats me so much because he knows what it is doing to his health and doesn't care to do anything about it. I definitely will be talking to my parents about a will soon.

Thank you for making this.

This was a really enlightening video. I had never thought about what this would be like. Thank you for sharing ❤