Most coaches come off as a seller. Lee gives honest and professional advice. Ive listened to him over and over. Whatever it takes to get your mind right.

@puiichawnghlut2582

5 жыл бұрын

So true

@wisdomwisdomunivited3573

5 жыл бұрын

What about if my ex go away with my valuable things what will I do ? Stay in no contact or what ?

@simonemathew4422

4 жыл бұрын

So, true, the way he talks, and eye contact you, is as if he is piercing your heart with his words. I ain't going to lie, I use to listen to others but from I started listening to Coach Lee, am sold

@stephenherrington3549

4 жыл бұрын

@@simonemathew4422 I just ordered his kit online now waiting for it in the mail

@aluschelatukalightythunder3288

3 жыл бұрын

I’m in a strange situation.. My ex wants to be friends but I told her no, we are worth more than that. I’ve gone into NC. I’m letting her contact me. BUT She texts me almost EVERYDAY, wishing me a good day, checking up on me, watching my stories, liking pics that I post and I never reach out! But I can’t help but debate wether I should still keep doing this? How can I make her miss me and go no contact when she reaches out EVERY DAY?

I didn't choose no contact. NO CONTACT chose me. 🤣

@sofiandi6117

4 жыл бұрын

Hahaha so much wisdom:)))))

@onenickelmiracle

4 жыл бұрын

​@@sofiandi6117 Long story short, no contact chose you, could be because she never really cared much about you. There are women like that. I'm putting it to the test, will get rid of my number and messenger, and if she really cares, she'll look for me. She has me blocked, best option for me, with her thinking she is now with the love of her life. His advice is good for most people. She'll contact me if she doesn't have money for smokes and tampons, not much of a person I want contacting me before they clean up and grow up. If I let her contact me now, she would just lie to me and waste my time.

@Shana.___0179

4 жыл бұрын

Same😂

@stealthassulter

4 жыл бұрын

You didn't get the No contact you deserved but you got the No contact that you needed....

@jasonedwardjohn4475

4 жыл бұрын

Result?

I’m just tired of being hurt.

@ricardopena3070

4 жыл бұрын

Don't settle for less. Understand you're value!!

@stealthassulter

4 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the club.. not change yourself and get out of here..

@CollectivelyEzra

4 жыл бұрын

Me to king..me to

@juandelpueblo8334

4 жыл бұрын

Feel ya bro...

@aquilascott8218

4 жыл бұрын

I feel you.

If they move on... They were not for you....

@splitzyentertainment7995

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

This man is GOD... My ex dumped me... n i started no contact rule the next day itself..after watching coach lee's video Today is the 17th day of no contact.. n he texted me saying that i miss you.. n how much he misses me .. my smile... everything... Guys believe in no contact.. coach lee is the perfect guide..

@ISEEYOURASZ

4 жыл бұрын

How did you respond to him saying he misses you?

@shrikantborde8143

4 жыл бұрын

What happened

@prembrolystalin1375

4 жыл бұрын

It works on bfs 100%..but 50% chances on gfs!

@stealthassulter

4 жыл бұрын

@@prembrolystalin1375 agreed. My hoe ex is a complete whore... And she is getting the whores remorse. Even the guy she was trying to get with in a relationship is ditching her . .. how pathetic a guy is denying her to be more than a hook-up.

@Wifeyytalks

3 жыл бұрын

@@stealthassulter @Sam Hines my ex broke off with me after 2.5 yrs saying he wants to be single. He is 21 I'm 24. He reached today after two weeks called I didn't pick up and msgd hey how r u just wanted to have a casual chat. I didn't reply cz I don't think he wants to get back together as yest he met a friend and said he wants to stay single but wants me as a friend. What do I do? I want to be back with him but don't want him to know.

No contact do work. I honestly did not think I was gonna hear so soon. I'm not reading anything into this right now. I feel he needs to miss me for a while.

I totally Agree on this. My Ex Reached Out to Me After 2 weeks of no contact. I responded to Him just very Short and Polite. Now he wants to see me and talk things out. This Really worked thank you.

@blackvelvet298

5 жыл бұрын

my ex texted me a week ago & i ignored the text until i responded back a couple of days ago, but he didn't respond back. i'm getting anxious & overwhelmed that i actually ruined my chance....

@alexp4898

4 жыл бұрын

@@blackvelvet298 What happened?

@dirkdiggler5821

3 жыл бұрын

@Ken Hession8 I think she probably worked that out on her own...

@websterfelicia86

2 жыл бұрын

Same here, except he reaches out every 3 to 4 days.

I literally have you in my headphones and listen to your videos and advice all day to keep me going. I love your advice. Straight to the point and logical; there is no one else on youtube I could listen to for so long expect you. Love the videos 🙏🏼

@sadnotsassy

4 жыл бұрын

saaaame!

How important is this video. Amazing. What u say makes sense. No contact should not include not responding. But maybe we should make them work a bit harder before we give all our affections away again. Relationships are tricky these days.

You're the best, Coach Lee. Your videos give me so much comfort and so much valuable advice. I watch a few of your videos every morning. It helps me through the day. I thank you for that. You give me hope and hope is priceless and really all we have. Thank you, sir. Keep up the good work.

Well my ex girlfriend only reaches out when she wants to text about her life and troubles. I think I'm doing the right thing by not responding.

@Brotho89

4 жыл бұрын

Kyle Morgan Good. Don’t be an emotional tampon.

@samsunggalaxyj3prime889

4 жыл бұрын

@@Brotho89 amen

@thesoundofthesuburbs

4 жыл бұрын

That's someone to let go, IMHO.

@angelaizzo641

4 жыл бұрын

Respond will love and care. Not romantically, obviously, but to show you care.

@bigd8973

4 жыл бұрын

You are. But I would take it further and say something like, ‘please respect my boundaries to move on - do not contact me again unless it’s because you Are interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with me, thanks’. Put the ball in her court and do not answer all other responses outside of an attempt to get back together (assuming you even want her back / she is worth it!).

Thank you! It’s such a confusing time. I seem to be living in a fog but you’ve just appeared and redirected me. Thank you for your honest and balanced advice and for giving me hope.

Day after day convinced that coach Lee is the best coach ever.

I totally disagree on this specific video. “PEOPLE LISTEN UP” it honestly DEPENDS on WHAT THEY SAY, if your ex texts you hey, hi, or how are you doin” do NOT RESPOND. You should only respond when they say something important or meaningful or bring up the relationship. Guys I fell for the bread crumbs so many times replying to my ex’s simple one worded texts thinking just because she reached out she want me back. It never happened she would just ghost me after a few texts and I would feel like complete shit back to SQUARE ONE ALL OVER. If they not straight obvious they wanna get back together, then They only wanna test the waters when they send worthless texts like this. Don’t fall for it. If they want you back THEY will make IT KNOWN SOMEHOW GUYS most will straight up say they want you back I’ve seen it. and if they stop reaching out after you ignore the crumbs GOOD you dodged a bullet because they wasn’t serious about getting back together anyways duhh!!! . I wish I had someone tell me this because it caused me so much unnecessary pain and headache When could’ve avoided if I just ignored the bs crumbs. I hope this helped

@mzeye

4 жыл бұрын

This is the best advice. Think about it you deserve more than a Hi, hello I miss you. You deserve a I mess up can we meet up to talk etc...actions.

@sophierobert7941

4 жыл бұрын

I reached out after no contact and he ignored me. That just reminded me why I broke up with him in the first place.

@mzeye

4 жыл бұрын

@@sophierobert7941 well my ex broke up with me for someone else. I ignored them Because I'm hurt. No contact is more for your the dumpees. They probably hurt

@buenastelaaa

4 жыл бұрын

LOOOUDER ❤❤ damn ☹️☹️

@xonlytyrek3601

4 жыл бұрын

Beya Amurao 🗣until this day we don’t talk I’ve moved on. I ignored the crumbs and she disappeared AS I aspected. Life goes on❤️✊🏾.

YOU did catch me. The other coach for the Art of Love says to NOT respond if it's NOT meaningful. What you say makes more sense. ANYONE that IS normal who messed up will FEEL out the situation BEFORE spilling their guts ESPECIALLY when they screwed up & have to eat crow!

Best advice! Thank you for your videos. They've helped me tremendously. He started texting me every few days recently,, I've been in no contact 😉 but I always respond 🤗 shows I'm noble, friendly, courageous, and growing. Thank you Lee for everything!

@helicopter140

10 ай бұрын

Did you become a couple again

After a week of no contact, he messaged me. Thank you.

@hayhay_to333

4 жыл бұрын

did it work out to you, it seems too short for only a week.

@sab_gracie

4 жыл бұрын

Black Vortex yeah it seems too short but we’re kinda on good terms so maybe thats why. we didn’t get back together tho and It is the best decision ever. We’re both in a happy relationships now. Good luck!

I agree w/ u on this. It makes no sense to ignore ur ex when they reach out. That IS the whole point of no contact to regain control of ourselves and allow time and space to get them to reach out. When they do if u still are interested it only makes sense to respond. This video is a breath of fresh air bc ur right others say otherwise and it just doesn't make sense as they will give up for good. Thank u for sharing~ 🙏🏻💗🙂🙌🏻✨✌🏻

@derivativecovariant2341

4 жыл бұрын

But i think it still depends on what kind of message they send u. If u reply to something super casual they would feel that they haven't lost u and they could get to u whenever they want

@xonlytyrek3601

4 жыл бұрын

Derivative Covariant exactly. People think just because they ex sends a one word text or how are you “doin” text which my ex sent a million times and me being a dumb ass not knowing it was crumbs and she only wanted a ego boost has caused me more pain then good, I wished I would’ve ignored her a lot more.

@angelsmile9789

Жыл бұрын

Well said

I sent an email asking him to stay away for a while so i can heal before i started NC 2 weeks ago because he wanted to stay friends and texting me unsignificant stuff once a week or so (cat pics because i love cats... but no convo)... he s still no show since my email i plan on staying nc until he gives me a sign he misses me at least. I had done all the mistakes, pleaded and begged. Broke up 3 months ago... he told me it wasn t just a rough patch and we weren t getting back together. 6 years friendship on and off relationship LDR... Following your channel and taking notes now i wish i had found you sooner. i love your channel best you calm me down...so thank you so much coach Lee please keep up the good stuff. Love from France

Coach Lee, you are a hero. Your advice is practical and always accurate.

@melwill9868

5 жыл бұрын

I agree!

@dirkdiggler5821

3 жыл бұрын

The guy is a legend

thanks Lee for your encouragement it can be difficult to stay positive im also standing on Faith to and focus myself keep the videos coming : )

With this specific video, you're the kind of coach most suitable to me. We are civilized and matured people, I don't think it's a good idea to completely ignore our ex even if we are in a no contact rule.

With all do respect to Coach Lee, I dont fear rejection. Sometimes, no contact should NEVER be broken.

@RealCoachLee

4 жыл бұрын

I agree. I usually tell people it’s best if you never reach out first after they dumped you. Some people choose to reach out when they believe they have nothing to lose and are going to move on if there’s no response. People make their own decisions.

@crystalclimenhage7159

10 ай бұрын

So my ex reached out, I responded....ignored and waited 14 days to respond....now what? It breadcrumbing. What if they are reaching out just to see if they have access to you?

This guy is right don’t ignore they will give up and move on

Well said coach Lee no contact is on your end but if she reaches out you respond I’m glad you made this video as last week she reach out for bill related issues and I spoke to friends and family about this and they all gave me the wrong advised which was to ignore her thank god I’ve not done such thing since the break up she knows the way back to me if she’s willing to do the indirect/direct approach I’m available and accesible but moving on as well

@devontebroncas4967

10 ай бұрын

bro i think you got played, she just contacted you for the money

I got my ex back, Thanks!

It's all making sense. When your Ex broke up with you, the ball was in her court. When she reaches out to you, the ball is in your court.

I’m going through a divorce right now with my wife. I’ve begged, seemed desperate, said I’d do any to get her back. I’m so glad I came across this video. I’ve read many articles to get my wife back and they say “no contact” but in their meaning they mean “radio silence”. I’ve seen it plenty of times but now I understand that communication is key if my wife reaches out to me. Instead of ignoring her, I should just speak to her in the sense that I’m confident and moving forward just fine(while not trying to get her to come back). This video is very helpful. Please keep them up. Background on my wife, we’ve been together for 7+ years, no kids only dogs, I was her first love, we married young when I was in the military, sexual romance was great, love was great, everything was still practically just like the honeymoon stage, but when my wife would complain or nag, I would get upset thinking that she was just complaining to complain about something. I tried to keep calm and sometimes we would argue back but then when she’d put me down as a husband and man, I would snap any say some of the most disrespectful things to her. So yes, the main cause of her wanting to divorce is me verbally abusing her. I suffer from some mental issues from the military that makes me become agressive and angry when I feel like someone is putting me down. It’s a trigger for my flight or fight response. I’ve apologized to my wife and said I’d do anything to save us. I seek psychological services, but I told her I’ll go to counseling, anything, seek the lord together, anything but she is too hardened in her heart. I’m not sure what else to do but I will keep up the NC rule and not initiate calling or texting her. If anyone has some great advice or encouragement, I’d really appreciate it. If I’m her first love, she’d would be more inclined to come back right? Anyways, thank you for this video. Truly helps a lot. I

@Riposte821

3 жыл бұрын

Hey man, I hope all worked out. Any news?

I eventually stopped responding to the rare texts from my ex. It never went anywhere. He was just reaching out to see how I was doing, then to disappear yet again. No interest in anything else. So, he was getting the benefit of my response whenever it was good for him, for his ego boost that I would respond to him each time. The last time he sent a text- I just never responded. Literally no point anymore. He moved on long ago. I need to move on with zero contact both ways. Now I know I’ll never hear from him again, and I’ll never ever contact him.

@Americanpatriot-zo2tk

2 ай бұрын

Well I’m a guy but same for me I can’t deal with it anymore. She don’t wanna talk to me I’m done period

If they have an attitude there's no reason to respond oh so you're not talking to me now is not a reason to respond

My ex reached out today after 3 days of no contact. Im glad that I've watched your video and now I know what to do. Thank you so much, you are so brilliant!

@cheyennebruyns9996

4 жыл бұрын

What did you say? I’m in the same boat

@crystalclimenhage7159

10 ай бұрын

Are you back together?

Refreshing to hear a different perspective. I’m thankful you shared.

Thanks alot. My mind froze when I got a text back in the morning. I'm extremely vulnerable as I've been a jerk to her 😅 and blocked her. I reached out to her and she responded she's doing pretty good and thanks for your concern. It's good to have a guide what to say and what not say after. I'm gonna 10:20 in the morning

So I did the no contact for 3 months he reached out and said “ I want my bestfriend back “ you were the only person who was always there for me even when I didn’t want you to be , ever since we broke up there’s not a day that goes by. I don’t think about you ....” I didn’t tell him I missed him at all I just said well if you need a friend I’m here always said I’d be here when you need a friend to speak to he said I know but I thought you hated me .. I said hurt and disappointed yeah hate you ? There’s no hatred in my heart. He’s been contacting me everyday expect today which is weird but I haven’t reached out to first ... I learned to not attached and learned my power so if he doesn’t reach out to me again 🤷🏻‍♀️ oh well I was good for three months so. I feel amazing lol

@mzeye

4 жыл бұрын

I like this response over a petty dumb one. It's real and genuine.

@Edithae

3 жыл бұрын

As Coach Lee says, don't accept a lowball offer of friendship if its not what you want. I would have texted back "I want my lover back".

Believe in Coach Lee he is the truth.

Coach , you sooth and heal the broken hearts...God bless you 💐

Thanks coach Lee, tonight my ex just texted me during NC and I did respond in polite way, before this I think I want to ignore him if he feel the suffer but after take your advice we did have funny and no serious topics at all, he came to me to recall our sweetest memories together which I thought he is cruel one but actually NOT, thank you so much and wondering if I ignored him tonight it will leads to make unnecessary drama..i want to say goodbye to painful tears that I had this evening.. So many good things to tell, thank you very much Sir💙

OK after watching this I will continue to ignore as I don't want my ex back. I blocked for good, but thanks for explaining.

no contact really works..my ex started to contact me @day 3..i just wanted to express how much I appreciate all of your amazing help and guidance. I hope you realize that you truly give the best advice. You really are the greatest. Thank you coach lee🙏🙏

Thank you so much! My ex texted me a week into no contact and I panicked. Im sure glad I came across this video.

@RealCoachLee

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah man. Good news!

@crystalclimenhage7159

10 ай бұрын

Are you back together?

@AStark-dn6yh

10 ай бұрын

@@crystalclimenhage7159 Yes, we are! And we're living together and doing great!

Great advice! How should you respond to your ex messages if you don't want them anymore? Should you give them a proper answer or not contact at all?

Guys respond after 2-3 hours to show that you are busy with your life.

@ManarLebroudji

5 жыл бұрын

ChrisSoCalm that will make her think he doesnt want her so she will try to move on so I wouldn’t do that tbh speaking as a female I dont know if everyone is like this but I’m sure some are

@pinkcamille80

4 жыл бұрын

Azazel AGREED!!

@angelaizzo641

4 жыл бұрын

Meh 1.5 hours is fine for me 😉

@MrDavids-tu8eq

4 жыл бұрын

For sure😂

@MrDavids-tu8eq

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe a day to make her wonder,miss and crave you even more👌

Coach Lee is the best coach, so I watch all of your video with ads

very straight up and honest advice. thanks coach Lee

Man am so glad I watched your video coach Lee.. coz just before your video I’ve watched other relationship coaches who sod that I should ignore my ex’s calls o msgs if she reaches out to me.. It didn’t make any sense to me and am so glad that you explained it to me and made me feel right about this .. I really appreciate you coach Lee.

after 21 days I texted by ex and he called right back to say he missed me and that he was thinking of calling me himself.. I wasn't ready to talk to him yet! I had been advised by a marriage and family therapist to just put my thoughts and feelings down on paper. I asked Jim if he'd be interested in reading it if I wrote one. He said he would and with on open mind. He also said he still needs "space" and I said that was fine. He is getting over a total knee operation and is also facing a shoulder operation. He feels less of a man and has always been very active. Now at 74 he is feeling his age and doesn't have a clear sense of his future physically or what he has to offer someone. He and I were married 50 years ago for one year after which he moved to Australia to start a new life. He lost his wife of 46 years 18 months ago then came back into my life only 6 months after that. It has been a long distance relationship just here and there. Our communication has not been good and things just sort of slid into oblivion with him ending things without a clear cut reason. I am hopeful that if I say everything that needs to be said it might make some difference in the long run. Any thoughts?

After a solid 5 weeks of no contact at all i randomly check my phone and see a missed FaceTime call from my ex girlfriend, i havent replied or said anything. It's doing my head in, do i reply and break no contact? Do i wait and see if she messages again? Why is she even calling?!?!?!

@Longbyname

5 жыл бұрын

She might want to reconcile things. You’re lucky if she has reached out.

How do you tell the difference between someone just being polite or out of guilt/ wanting to do the “right” thing (I’m thinking the person might just send a “Merry Christmas” text) versus a “sign” that they might want to reconsider their breakup?

you should put a disclaimer : do not listen to this if you have been cheated on

This is reassuring. Felt like i've been doing the wrong process since I reply to their messages. He texts me several times a day and I've always felt like im giving him a chance to walk away if i completely ignore, so I try to reply once in awhile. Thanks for the assurance coach.

@blackvelvet298

5 жыл бұрын

my ex texted me a week ago saying that he hopes that i was doing okay. i didn't respond to that text until a couple of days ago but he still didn't reply back. i don't know if i ruined my chance, ugh...

@tyetr9853

Жыл бұрын

Update

@tyetr9853

Жыл бұрын

@@blackvelvet298 update

@steel128

Жыл бұрын

@blackvelvet update please

Likd your advice ,you are realistic and fair ,plus honest

Hi, Lee! Thank you for all the support and guiding! I have a question. What if the only time my ex reached out was at 2am on Friday (probably drunk) and I didn’t pick up? He woke me up with that call, so I muted it and dropped the next call he made after that. I had to work on the next day, so I was irritated and didn’t want to listen to possibly drunk messages. That was at around 30 days of no contact and now it’s a week after and nothing happened. What to expect?

@stealthassulter

4 жыл бұрын

It probably means you are the last option he could have had for a bang since he has exhausted every other possibilities outside . . I'm no coach. I'm just a synical dick

But, what do you do when they text looking to argue or start a fight to make you apologize and blame you for not being available for them? You reply but keep everything calm and imply that you are busy. Or do you wait for a text with the intention of casually speak or fix things? I'm willing to speak when I see her more calm and with intentions of starting a healthy conversation, but I'm not sure on what to do if they are looking to argue if we left everything clear. I know that her rebound is not working and she is looking for some attention that she is not getting. So she is frustrated because I'm not there for her.. I know this is good in a way, but do I reply to show that I care but at the same time not giving them all my time and attention?

Thankyou coach lee ... Your advice worked out for me... She reached out after 1.5 months😊

This video is just what I needed just at the right time.

Please do not ignore your exboyfriend when they reach out to you. Coach Lee, you are so right. If you keep on ignoring your exboyfriend, the outcome will not be good, so PLEASE don't ignore your ex when they reach out to you.

I hear a lot of coaches saying "ignore your ex" until that second urgent message. My ex just reached out a week later saying " Hey i just wanted to see how you were doing and hope all is well" I did respond the same " Im good, and Hope all is well with you" Did not ask anything really direct or something to really really respond to and she didnt respond and im not sending any double text... Be the bigger person without chasing playing a game and if they dont come back around you know you did your part

Bro coach lee my ex texted back casually. No contact is a killer move to anyone

Lol, it’s funny that you brought up Narcissism in this video as well, because I feel it changes everything once you’ve realized your dealing with an undiagnosed Narcissist. This is why I say there are outliers to ignoring an ex because if you were the one begging, pleading, and doing everything possible to save your marriage or relationship yet they were only looking to fulfill their own needs and wants, then you have to realize the only way you’re going to survive against them is ignoring them . Also, if an ex messages you, “Hey I miss you, let’s talk about working this out to rebuild a new relationship together” then I’d say reach out and set up a time to meet and speak with them. But if you were me and you received a message from an ex saying, “Hi, I was thinking of the dogs and wanted to see how they were doing?” then there’s no reason you should respond to a message like that. If they can’t even acknowledge you and still treat you as if you’re insignificant to them, why would you lower you self-respect and respond to them? You wouldn’t or else you’d be seen as a doormat and weak . I do believe this topic should be hit on again because there are times when you have no other choice than to ignore your ex, to heal, to put all your energy into yourself, and to move on with your life especially if your ex is moving on and dating other people. You must save your dignity and self-worth and move forward in your life whether they’re Narcissistic or not.

Thank you so much coach Lee, i found your video right on time. My boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago. he said that he doesnt want to lose our friendship this way, but he doesnt want relatioship. We have been texting each other every day after break up. But. Today I'm starting the *No contact* Maybe we will get back together and maybe not... we'll see👍

@Sshaima1

4 жыл бұрын

Samw

@yswen828

4 жыл бұрын

When they’re reaching out to you, they tell you to take them back only to realize they will break up with you again.

Wow, just today my ex reached out to me and I responded. We've been separated about 3 weeks (9 weeks living apart) I was nice and happy, just like you say in your videos. I'm in no contact, after our chat I felt angry at myself for responding to her message, because I felt I should've ignored her. Thank goodness for THIS video, you've made me realise I did the right thing. God knows I've made every mistake possible the past few months since our breakdown. But thanks to your videos and others like it, it has helped give me the strength to get through. BTW, we've been together 23 years and have 3 children together. I'm hopeful we will successfully get back together real soon. However I am also of the view, we may not. But that's ok, despite not being what I really want. Acceptance is crucial, even if its not the perfect answer you're looking for.

@PearlEphraim

5 жыл бұрын

Hey what's the update with your story ?

You are amazing and give the best advice 😁 it worked for me

I just needed to hear this. My ex just texted me asking how I’m doing after two weeks of no contact

I love the way you communicate without all the advertising and at least if you do do it it's at the end when people and calm and quite happy to hear it. My ex contacts me every few days the last one was to see how my plumbing in the bathroom was but it's nothing more than that I just reply but continue on other than that as if it is still no contact I don't talk about what new is happening in my life or ask questions in return other than I hope you're well

Coach lee, are you able to make marriage/separation/divorce videos please? Some topics -Steps to take during separation -How to get back ex wife especially when it comes to long marriages -If you were your ex spouses first love -How to cope with divorce -Does having pets during a relationship help ex’s come back. -Is the grass greener on the other side of divorce or not -Christian spouces divorcing without infidelity existing. These are just random things I’ve thought about during my divorce process.

During no contact you also get to reflect on if you are better off than you were with your. Give yourself that time.

Fantastic!!! My ex contacted twice me after 3 weeks of breakup. I ignored him both times. I started thinking about what to do.. thank god you posted this it helped me decide what to do and it felt right to respond. Thank you Coach Lee. Your the tits!!

@mariacarrillo6393

4 жыл бұрын

veronica guerra any update?

I just recently started talking to my ex....we work together so I only talk about work related stuff. She tries to joke with me....i just chuckle. I never will talk about us unless she brings it up....

Seeing all good comments makes me have hope wish me luck everyone it’s nc time

You r so empowering,im in my nc first day but im watching your videos for motivation thankyou.

Hey Coach! Thank you for the videio. What do you think about the situation? It was just a Happy B-day text from her (after 1.5-2 weeks of NC, and a rather dumb message it was actually), and I didn't respond as I felt it could start the process of us texting each other again. It also said at the end "I'd be glad if you texted me". Was it right not to respond yet? Or should I now (after almost a week) respond with a "thank you"?

Simple answer is NO. Ignoring is better. I ruined my chances by responding to him. I miss him very bad but all hope is now lost because I responded to him. I didnt initiate, only responded. Ultimately I wasnt healed enough and ruined it all. Take care of yourself, when you get emotionally neutral then engage.

@basicinfo2022

4 ай бұрын

In some cases, if the ex was selfish and confusing, giving them hurt, pain and anxiety by ignoring will get them to act right and learn the lesson.

Please make that video on narcissistic personality in relationships/breakups, my ex turned out to be a covert narc and it was one of the most difficult things I've ever/still am going through. I'd love to hear your opinions and advice on said subject :)

@DueM

5 жыл бұрын

it would pay to block them totally, it sucks but they will just hoover you every couple of weeks. you will be better off in the long run to duck and cover because they won't change.

@princhipessa1969

5 жыл бұрын

Brittaanaay look up ‘Knowing the Narcissist’ . He’s a Greater Narc and puts out the most informative videos out there.

@bledgerwoodSD

5 жыл бұрын

Btriaanaay, there are some really good narc videos out there.. Angie Atkinson, Sarah Speaks, Assc Direct.

@mecca115able

5 жыл бұрын

I had a narc lawyer boy friend it took me everything in my power not to break a beer bottle and stab him in the neck..lol 3 years ago.. RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN.. SOCIOPATHIC,!! narcs it's best to go cold Turkey. They want supply they are not fit for relationships. Until the get help even then they like to gaslight. Not worth it to me.

@williamr9833

5 жыл бұрын

Narcissists and sociopaths are totally different things.

Well, I responded in the all the correct ways. Didn’t push the conversation, kept it cheerful. It had only been 8 days of actual NC. She proceeded to contact everyday 5 days straight. I flirted with her, had her laughing. It was good. She even happened to be driving by when I was working out in a field. She stopped, we had one of the biggest hugs in forever. On the 5th day I get the call she wants to see me on her way home. We meet, end up kissing some. All the signs were there she was coming back...then she goes distant for a couple days and I get the “I just can’t” conversation. I should have guarded my heart but I was just so ready to work this out. Now I feel more broken than before. I just wish she never would have contacted unless she was 💯 ready. Back to NC and I don’t know if I could ever get over what just happened. I wish everyone on here the best and stay strong!

Lee makes a lot of sense and I am going to follow his advice. Many relationship coaches teach that no-contact is revenge against your Ex. But the purpose of NC is to get your Ex back.

@oneness1_

2 жыл бұрын

The purpose of no contact is to go inward and find your attractive, independent self and improve on your relationship with yourself and others

Loved the video! My situation is interesting because I dated a guy for about 2 months before he started acting different.. and after watching your other videos I realized I wasn’t keeping MY options open because I really liked him and had a connection. So NOW after 5 months of back and forth and kinda sorta still keeping in contact but nothing serious together.. i decided to do the NO CONTACT.. he recently bailed on me twice and I realized I needed to start the no contact. He texted asking where I’ve been only after 3 days of not answering. And now I haven’t heard from him. But, I’m also uncertain, since we didn’t have a lot of time together (i haven’t seen him in a month) if starting the no contact now will actually work. Advice?

@alisonspano9931

5 жыл бұрын

As an update: he keeps hitting me up and I respond, one word or vague answers. Now he’s asking to take me to dinner and pick me up. Also saying how he wants a future with me. I’m still holding off meeting up, until words become actions.

Yeah my ex broke up with me via email in January, I ve been in no contact mode since....he called me three times and left a message to find out if I am ok and see how I am feeling this past week. I have zero intentions of responding.

when will you book calls again??? your website says that youre taking a break from them to make more content on YT. id love to look into booking a call with you to get some specific advice on my situation

MIne took almost a week to start contacting me - frantically i might add...I simply responded to lengthy apology that I am not ready yet ...a day later i responded. he had betrayed me so i wanted it to end - since he admitted to starting another relationship. It was a clean break in person and i was in control of the situation and got the closure i needed.

He reached out not to get back but to explain why he did ended things and why he did it over the phone. Twice he asked to be friends. I don't want to be friends. I'm not sure what to do.

Thanks a lot for the video. After watching it, I broke my no-contact yesterday by reaching out to my ex and told her I was really sorry for ignoring her and that I was open to listen to what she had to say. Although she was nice, I'm sure she was angry that I had ignored her, but it seemed like she appriciate my apology. Now I'm back to no-contact again, wondering what the future brings...

@SJ-nw1ym

3 жыл бұрын

Update?

@AmirSuperTube

3 жыл бұрын

@@SJ-nw1ym, thanks for asking. I tried fixing the damage during the next month, but she stayed distanced and cold. Now it has been more than three months since I've contacted her. However, after one month of no-contact, two months ago, I've lost intrest in her. I wish her all the best...

@SJ-nw1ym

3 жыл бұрын

@@AmirSuperTube I'm really happy for you that you got your closure. I wish you very best for your future ❤️ I hope that everything goes well for you xx

@AmirSuperTube

3 жыл бұрын

@@SJ-nw1ym, you're too kind. Thank you very much. Wish you all the best too.

@AmirSuperTube

3 жыл бұрын

@@SJ-nw1ym, honestly, things shouldn't be too complicated if people really love each other...

I'm in a unique situation, in that I work in the same place as my ex. I have been in no contact since the breakup, five and a half months ago. He has not reached out in a text. On occasion he would say good morning at work (a minimal amount of times, maybe five), and I would reply with the same level of emotion that he put forward. He was in a rebound the last I knew. Lately, he has been ignoring me, and I'm a bit stuck as to what to think. Have I shifted the power to myself, or is he just done. I feel something has changed with him, either his rebound has gone south, or our breakup is starting to wear on him. Thoughts?

2 year relationship.. HE REACHED OUT A WEEK and 3 days and I basically talked to him way too long and we talked about the relationship because he was upset that I was “different” and I told him I was just respecting his space he wanted.. and he wants to be friends in order to get back together.. WHAT DO I DO BECAUSE HE HASNT TEXTED ME IN 3 DAYS

Every breakup is specific. If they break up with you for someone else and they were treating you like trash. No response for the insignificant texts. Period. My ex did so. She ghosted me for no reason while I was supporting her for her drama more than two years, she was faking future, liying to me, giving false hope and she finaly discarded me. So after months of no contact she sent me an "i love you" text, i ignored her. She has to bring a lot of efforts to get me to respond and more to get me taking her back. If she is humble ok if not i'm moving on with my stuff. I say no to breadcrumbs. I love my self enough to get back with someone who is manipulative.

@adilkhalidi4547

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your response. But i feel that i don't her back in my life.

Glad I found this video. On second day of NC he reached out saying " I hope you are fine etc". I simply told him "thanks, you too". Did not expect him to reach out but I will keep the contact cool and short for now.

@mexxxtentacion5457

Жыл бұрын

how did it go?

@ML-gh2ig

Жыл бұрын

@@mexxxtentacion5457 NC worked... we re-connected and it seemed like everything would be ok again, then he hurt me and I decided to not contineu. Working on moving on right now. 😅

@mexxxtentacion5457

Жыл бұрын

@@ML-gh2ig i’m sorry to hear that, i hope you recover

@ML-gh2ig

Жыл бұрын

@@mexxxtentacion5457 thank you

Good video Lee. I’ve been in no contact for over two weeks and my ex messaged me asking if I could send a document which I wrote for her as she didn’t have it in Word (She does as I mailed it to her before we broke up). I responded light heartedly and we had a few jokes about the past and sent the Doc. She was grateful and signed off with a kiss etc, the question is where do I go from here? I feel as if she’s given me an opening with asking for a doc I’m fairly sure she could have sorted out herself without messaging me. The vibe felt okay, but I didn’t want to carry the conversation so cut it off. Is it best now to wait for her to potentially reach out again or should I now message in a few days and reach out….I don’t want to “Pursue too much or look desperate” Thanks in advance.

Coach thank you very much for this wonderful coaching☺. I'd just like to know what to say when she actually texts. We broke up on Sunday, I went into no contact immediately. On Thursday she texted, just asking if I'm alright. The conversation was pretty short, though I'd have liked it to go on longer. How do I get her to say that she wants to get back together? How do I get her to open up? Please help.

@rolfivarskar7096

4 жыл бұрын

Keep conversations short. Time and your ex's mind is your friend. She is the only one who can get herself to say the right things.

It is ridiculous to ignore your ex if you want them...no room for games in an honest and loving relationship. Have an open and honest heart. Build trust and positive interactions.

@NinetyFourGrown96797

5 жыл бұрын

This happened today, help me out please!!

@NinetyFourGrown96797

5 жыл бұрын

I texted her if she called on accident then she said it was an accident. What do I do now

@azazel3944

5 жыл бұрын

Yes sure "an accident call" live your life until she reach out to you

@NinetyFourGrown96797

5 жыл бұрын

Petros Giorgallis yea that’s what I thought, I didn’t respond to her when she said it

@sshuteandrew

5 жыл бұрын

Michael Pimo Great! What you’re doing is working...I’d return her call! I just saw she said she called “accidentally?” Then I’d continue no contact- it’s working. Lay low....

After 29 day's of no contact my ex give me a miss call, just one ring, what should I do?

@RealCoachLee

4 жыл бұрын

Stay in no contact. Watch this video all the way through: m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/foV6vJVwl9DRXbg.html

Coach Lee....what if they only send bread crumbs? I found from experience that ahe only reaches out when shes having problems or mundane questions, seems to me like she is only getting emotional validation only...any advice on this?

How I schedule a call with you? I have bought the emergency breakup kit and still have some questions for you geared towards my situation. The website says you are occupied making videos atm.

Question: what's the appropriate response if your ex just texts you "Happy Birthday"? Just because they care enough to send that message doesn't mean they're considering getting back together. Thanks for the great material Lee!

@RealCoachLee

5 жыл бұрын

Just say, “Thank you.”

@sifugurusensei

Жыл бұрын

My ex texted merry christmas

@DaCrunkwizard

Жыл бұрын

@@RealCoachLee Hell Yeah, That's the answer I was looking for lol

I wanna know what means if he reaches out to me reaches out to me, and wishing me happy bday, but thats all.

Hey Coach, I asked this on another of your videos. Marc Hey Coach, question. I've gone back to NC a couple of weeks ago. after a couple of months apart. I broke no contact last month after three weeks and decided to start over again on Nov 1st. I will NOT ever contact her again. I haven't heard from my ex since Oct 1st and have to get back to NC to make her feel the separation and hopefully to see that she will miss me. I hope. Anyway, my question is...does her texting my daughter on her birthday indicate any hope that she wants to talk? Neither of my daughters have heard from her in months. Also, my ex's mom sent a birthday card. We were together for over 12 years and I know that her parents are upset about this and hope we reconcile. All in all, we had a good relationship but had some minor issues that seemed to have blown up to being bigger than I thought would ever be. Marc

Thank you for your advice , me and my ex broke up she left me are relationship had no boundaries and I had alot of insecurities we talked on and off after the break up and have slept together twice sense the break up One night I called her after I finished work she didn't answer me or never called me back so im going into no contact and not chasing it's hard but im praying for the best and just looking for more guidance to regain my power and control thank you coach lee .

This makes sooo much sense and the first coach that I have heard saying that we should not ignore the dumper... and here I was planning to continue to ignore cos other videos have told me to....ok so when he messages next I will respond than to ignore....lol thats if he even will now as I have been ignoring his texts since 2nd June,...tbh it did make me feel empowered...what can i say

Coach Lee is a business man amd does sell his content, but he is absolutely genuine and thays a lost art in tje coaching community!!! He's as right as rain people!! This man absolutely t totally knows his shit!!! He's a consumate professional, with 2 decades of real world experience!!! Listen amd follow his advice to the letter folks, if you want the correct outcome!! If you're not gonna follow his advice to the letter, then why waste your time?!!!

38 days! My ex called me tonight and said she was thinking of me because she saw my mom. She said she wasn’t sure if I’d take her call. I was actually on the other line & shot her a text when I got off ... she called back ... we spoke for 40 minutes. Not sure what to think .. she knows damn well I do not accept friendship yet said “maybe we’ll see each other with the dogs “ me, to myself: No you won’t because I’ll be back in hiding mode! (I’m used to this tactic) back to NC I go .... wish I had Coach Lee on speed dial 😉

@elianne5164

5 жыл бұрын

No contact.. really works

trueee but what if they were narcissistic and then reaching out to you becomes a form of manipulation?

He reached out once, we had a small convo and I let it fizzle out, how do I get him to message me again so I can ask him to meet? How long will it take? And will he read out again?