I’ve been this way my whole life; people talking too much /loudly, sirens/ fire engines, lawnmowers, too much news, a neighbor that makes noise

@orangewarm1

Жыл бұрын

Move to the country. Get rid of your tv.

@KarmasAbutch

Жыл бұрын

I know that everyone thinks BOSE quiet comfort noise cancelling headphones are “expensive” but I asked myself -how much is my sanity worth?- now I own the over ear and the earbuds too and they’ve been an absolute lifesaver to ensure you get downtime to recharge after time in traffic or a busy social hub.

@Thats-a-fact-jack

Жыл бұрын

@@KarmasAbutch so do they block out 100% of the noise around you? Like if someone was standing next to you talking you couldn't even hear them at all?

@goddessvibes2345

4 ай бұрын

I feel the same. I don’t understand why people need constant noises around them. It’s also the constant information that gets forced into our brains from advertisers etc. peoples loud conversations that invades my brain and now I’m having to be involved, I don’t want their mess in my brain.

@thandekamngqibisa671

Күн бұрын

My sister said this

I have autism and i find that many people are inconsiderate and are annoying noisemakers. I often wear noise canceling headphones. Too many people are nothing more than mindless chatterboxes.

@anthonyhettinger9702

5 ай бұрын

Yes, I cannot handle mindless chatter because I cannot think of important or necessary things when it's going on.. Too many times be interrupted, my brain shuts off pfft. Even face expression goes blank. Narcissist abuse and her helpers causing more cptsd fight Or flight for several years. Extreme face trauma reconstruction.

Chronic illness makes me feel like I’m in a state of fight or flight. I feel overstimulated all the time; sometimes when the phone rings, I will jump. This is an important video and I appreciate you discussing this topic.

@sheronlyn2693

Жыл бұрын

Voltaire have you looked into adrenal support as your adrenals and cortisol control flight or fight reactions, being easily startled is a sign of low adrenal activity as us vitamin B6 which you need to support adrenals. Low adrenal output is also connected to thyroid disorders especially hashimotos/hypothyroidism. A really good online source of info on all this is Dr Izabella Wentz in US who from her own personal experience of these problems got herself well and recovered and she now shares her experience, info and recovery path online, have a Google of her, you might find it relates to you in ways your not aware.

@sheronlyn2693

Жыл бұрын

Voltaire, sorry missed your 1st line, chronic illness (or any stress of any kind) definitely affects your adrenals causing your symptoms, doctors have no clue about this your best source of information if Dr Wentz as suggested or there's loads of help online just Google adrenal fatigue or see a functional focused doctor or naturopath.

@lindatannock

Жыл бұрын

Voltaire I feel you! I've developed chronic illness (M.E/CFS and fibro amongst other things) and I get sensory issues. They just come out if nowhere sometimes. Lights in shops trigger me a lot, and busy places. I bought Loop earplugs. They're great! Saw someone using them online, and gave them a go. I love concerts, but they give me really bad sensory overload. They have ones specifically for concerts (you can still hear, it just reduces the decibels), and they have ones for daily use ie. Shopping/busy places. They have sleep ones too. They look good, so you don't have to walk around with foam earplugs in your ears, and you can still hear what's going on around you. Worth giving them a try, honestly! ❤

Schools and open plan offices are horrific environments for people with sensitive nervous systems. Equally those same places are a Paradise for: - people who use others to get narcisstic supply - people who like to get ego boosts through dominating others.. - people who benefit from having a captive audience My whole life seems to have been one long miserable experience of being trapped with mediocre, idiotic people - first in school and then work. And no it didn’t develop my social skills, I was naturally a reciprocal, cooperative intelligent person. What it taught me was that the lowest common denominator rules, that my needs or talent doesn’t matter, that the loudest characters get their way and I will be forced to endure them, just to survive. If there’s anything I’d change about my life - it would be that I would have found a way to earn a living early in my career that would have allowed me to avoid such environments.

If I had to choose one of your videos to bookmark to watch over and over again, it might be this one. What a helpful resource and reminder about how and why we might get triggered in our day-to-day, along with a whole laundry list of tools to help get re-regulated, mixed in with a healthy dose of self-compassion and realness. As always, thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

I have been wearing ear plugs, it helps me, especially if you voice your feelings to someone and the person dismisses your feelings.

I deal with this a lot. Walking into Ikea for example is a lot. Malls can be overwhelming. As well as festivals. I went to this very cool art immersive show and I was there max 1.5hrs and I just done. the car ride home I wanted to be in silence.

Every aspect of my surroundings, from lights, texture and sounds to specific scents and even unpleasant aesthetics can affect me and, must be meticulously curated. This leads people to perceive me as snobbish, which I am not 😢 I need order, beauty and harmony all the time. I had to recreate a world that I can tolerate so I can live. That has impacted every aspect of my life, from where I choose to live to my career and relationships.

@goddessvibes2345

4 ай бұрын

I know what you mean. Some people think that I’m controlling but I’m just trying to protect myself from experience sensory overload. Or, they can’t handle it when I need space, they often take it personally. ☹️

Thank you for saying Disney. I have felt bad for years for crying in the castle. Thank you for validating my experience.

Yes, this was happening with me at work for most of the day. Being tired and hormonal always make me more susceptible to overload/overwhelm. Combine that with too much to do, too many details, noise and time constraints. Very glad to be home now!

Oh my goodness this is so validating Dr Sage! How amazing your daughter is able to vocalise this in such a clear way. I will communicate this better with my teens 🙏 Yes to every single trigger you list! I cannot tell you how much it has helped my anxiety levels in the last year to have deleted my social media accounts, never watch the news, begin an enjoyable work from home job and my youngest starting high school so gets the bus now. It has transformed how I am able to cope with sensory overload and time pressure and I'm so so grateful to have more control to create an environment of calm and wellbeing with soft lighting and sounds, aromatherapy and my cat by my side. I'm so much calmer for my family when they get home. I would add to your list of regulation tips..watching your videos!! You have such a lovely, grounding and supportive presence, I often come to your channel when I feel in need of regulation and support..including your older videos, they are great!❤

Not being alone is such a validation. Thank you for this wonderful video, including the importance of comfy clothing at home🤗

What about misophonia? Is it related to trauma? Do you know anything about it? I struggle with noises, smells and lights. People think I am exagerating. Thanks for sharing.

Thanks Kim. I totally identify with this. I had to give my cat up a few years ago because she constantly meowed and used to scratch at the front door while I was sleeping. I just couldn't handle it anymore with everything else that was going on. I felt like I was going insane and I was losing my temper a lot which I didn't like. I felt really guilty about giving her back to the cat shelter and I cried and said sorry to her. Childhood trauma effects me in so many ways like getting easily overwhelmed, easily triggered and easily overstimulated. It can be really hard trying to control these overwhelming emotions and the negative self talk kicks in which doesn't help the situation. I do what I can do to the best of my ability and if everything gets too much for me, I just stop, take a deep conscious breath, try to get in touch with the true "I am" of peace and love and regulate myself. I totally agree with you that you should stop, pause and don't react in the moment because acting out when you are emotionally triggered makes everything worse!!

...yeah, and besides the many olfactory & auditory simu-stims, it may also be too warm/cold, clothing is itchy or footwear uncomfortable, oncoming headlights or sun sun are too bright, there are moving shadows in environment ... not all threatening, but present in some way and 'flavoring time'. The kind of WHOA! immediate reactions in these settings that you describe are spot on.

Yes yes yes to all of this! Started taking Ashwagandha for these reasons. Thank you 💕

I think I’ve felt this way as a tiny child. Only child…very stern mom, very stern grandmother, dad always working…favorite moments were spending time in the vegetable garden with my grandfather, hanging with my dogs, and talking to my nice, not loud imaginary friends. Mom and her mom…yelling a lot…hated it. I guess they were both raised that way. Spent first 6 months of kindergarten back in cloak room alone .. teachers couldn’t get me to come out. So many loud, obnoxious kids running and yelling…I felt so sad…as bad as it was at home at times…I just wanted to go home……..so..the teachers tell my mom..and she yells at me that I must stay out with these kids..in the classroom. Omg. She didn’t speak gently or quietly..my mom yelled…like her mom. I’ve always felt like this really. Single parent…crazy ex with mental issues after his dad passed..and I already had 2 tiny girls. I lost my dad when I was 16..cared for my mom and went to school. My mom became severely depressed. So was I…but I had to be strong. Always caring for others who need me. Born this way. Worked hectic full time job for 46 yrs. Helped raise all my 5 grandkids..after my younger daughter passed away 12 yrs ago. Traumatic. Like when my dad died at 41 yrs old. Heart issues..like everyone else in my family. Also fostered/adopted shelter dogs/cats. No child support or help from ex or his family…but they went on cruises and lived in huge homes. The marriage didn’t work out because of my ex….not me. And I survived and I protected/loved my little girls. Teen years were tough..and constant harassment from ex. Never remarried…dated a bit..omg…no energy or time for drama. Drama overstimulates me. Diagnosed with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue at 40, but kept pushing myself. Having a drink helped. I didn’t fit in with my co workers. Had to socialize at times…hated it..but one teensy drink turned me into an extrovert, a comedian…made everyone happy….I was hysterical. Never tried recreational drugs. Stopped drinking about 26 years ago. Allergic. Still funny..I’m really funny at times..,but I don’t need any substances to be happy…or funny. Grandkids all grown up..all busy..3 great grand babies …2 weeks apart..they’re almost 3 months old. I live alone..and I’ve been around for over 75 yrs. COVID…tho scary…was not an issue. Loved being in lockdown. I love my solitude..my outside critters I feed..my garden plants…but I’m a tiny woman. Auto immune issues, anemia, glucose issues, weird stuff…but I’m still grateful for what I’m able to do in my tiny home. Barely see the family..and/or neighbors. Some days I’m just grateful I got out of bed and did some stretching. Also..took in 2 sickly stray cats (inside cats now) years ago. They’re still with me. 14/15 feral cats outside (all tnrd)..they’ve been cared for, by me, for 10 years. No one…understands how quickly I become overstimulated when going to doctors…grocery shopping or to visit family (which isn’t often). I feel as if I cherish my solitude and watching peaceful wild life/nature videos on you tube. Soothing. Love non humans..always have, Feeling overstimulated … not a fan. My son in law likes blasting his music, so I don’t go there but once/twice a year, it’s exhausting being around lots of people (tho I adore and love my family). Financially, emotionally, physically I’m pretty much drained..but I’m still grateful, kind, loving and I believe I was born possessing way way too much empathy. Thank you for this video. I get it. I meditate…stretch…sometimes rest…sometimes have more energy and do too much…both outside and inside. Try to pace myself. I’ve passed out a few times from glucose levels/anemia…but didn’t break any bones yet. Weird feeling tho. I have to stand up slowly and not overdo. I am so able to relate to this subject. I’m not working now, barely see anyone .. except for feral cats, raccoons, squirrels, opossums, birds, etc…. I talk to them. They’re so very quiet and calming, I don’t know why I felt I had to ‘fit in’…but I don’t feel this way much anymore. Feels great to just love from afar..and see family when I’m able. No handy man. That’s an issue, not much money to repair stuff, but….in an instant, I could be gone. All of my family has died of heart problems at very young ages. Why I’m still here, I have no idea. But I have 3 beautiful great grand babies. Haven’t held a baby in 22 years. Nothing quite like the smell, the touch, the feel of holding a teeny baby…I love that warm glowing energy which seems to arise within me. They’re growing up fast. Thanx again…I don’t read much about getting overstimulated. Maybe no one talks about it…I never checked. Your channel just popped up. New subscriber here. Great video. 💥💫🫶👍🙏🏻❤️

@aura420.

8 ай бұрын

❤

Love love love this video! Thank YOU for these videos. As hard as it is to take inventory of life and look into the dark corners, I realize that it is much needed for self-awareness and self-acceptance. Not an easy road 21:54 when I have such high standards for myself! This video explains why I am always feeling overcommitted, overwhelmed and over stimulated. I also want to mention and thank you for your choice of soothing backgrounds and atmosphere for these videos. I am highly sensitive to color and order/disorder and your atmosphere is so warm and inviting. My soul is soothed. Thank you! 💜💜💜

Thanks for the reminders. In early 1990s when my son was a toddler I was fortunate to have read a book by Mary Sheedy something... All about reframing to positives of highly sensitive children. Most helpful for myself to only schedule one event a day!

Over stimulation!!!. Stress. Smells. Loud music. Lighting......🎉 Rude people.........

I get to my limit more than I want to admit 😢 I am seeking counseling and I don’t like meds but I am considering taking a low dose Xanax if that is what is best for me! I don’t drink smoke or do anything to alter my moods but I think I need something 😂 to help me manage ❤ I don’t want to feel ashamed to seek meds and at the same time I don’t want to be on any for various reasons! I do have all of those you mentioned to where I am at times in a frozen mode where I can do nothing but sit still and do nothing because I feel paralyzed in my stuff!! Somehow I manage to accomplish things because humans are amazing 🤩!!! Also, I deleted TikTok and Facebook because in those moments I would scroll for hours to manage my thoughts and feelings! ❤food is also an outlet for me and I am trying to change that and eat better. I have also stopped walking for a year now! I use to walk every other day for a mile or so! Moving changed that and the people where I live hang outside and approach me or their dogs approach me and I don’t like it I just want to go on a peaceful stroll without interruptions! I sound self centered but that is “me” time and I don’t want to get anxiety because of unleashed pit bulls.

I find myself over stimulated all the time 😅 when I get this way I go outside and sit in the sun ☀️ and in silence

I have autism en CPTSD. The battery of my mind drains at least three times faster then it should. I don't know how to live like this.

@sixthsenseamelia4695

Жыл бұрын

Hello James. Recent adult diagnosis Autism. Also Cptsd. I invite you to join us on the youtube Autism community. Either "Autism From The Inside" or "Orion Kelly - That Autistic Guy" channels. ALOT of people with Autism also have Cptsd. One of the BEST things about meeting these 2 communities is: Omgosh! There's people who get IT! All OF IT! It'd be great to see you there. 😊

@sixthsenseamelia4695

Жыл бұрын

🌳 PS I subbed to your channel

@jameswayton2340

Жыл бұрын

@@sixthsenseamelia4695 Thanks, maybe i check that out.

@jameswayton2340

Жыл бұрын

@@sixthsenseamelia4695 Have to thank you again. Watching ''that autistic guy'' that also has a convo with ''crappy childhood fairy'' and i'm learning how much autism and cptsd is connected. I knew that a lot of the behaviour was similar but not how my autism effected me in combination with trauma. That autism and trauma are connected. Its very hard to seperate the two in my mind know. What of everything i think and feel for example is coming from autism and what from cptsd.. i feel confused. I'm also mad now because i went to an autism expert centrum for years, and of course they did not see i had trauma. They don't even know what cptsd is of course. And this was a good expert center, better then others, and they don't even help people with autism how they should cause they assign all the trouble you are having to autism and don't see its also coming from trauma.. Thanks for this.. i feel so dissapointed. It has cost me nine years to figure out what is wrong with me and feel like people failed me.

I know that everyone thinks BOSE quiet comfort noise cancelling headphones are “expensive” but I asked myself -how much is my sanity worth?- now I own the over ear and the earbuds too and they’ve been an absolute lifesaver to ensure you get downtime to recharge after time in traffic or a busy social hub.

This video was so so helpful. I’ve got 2 under 2 and so I do get overstimulated a lot! I was already doing this pause, but now I need to work on breathing through that overwhelm

Oh yes! I have some of these sensitivities, too. Especially if i'm really nervous, and somebody wants to have a conversation - I just can't! And the time thing! I had a long-term partner. He knew that i was always barely going to make it on time, but he'd wait until i had my keys in my hand and was rushing out the door, THEN he'd say, "Hold up a minute! Let me check the oil in your car." Always when i was rushing to make it to an appointment. Any. Other. Time!

I appreciate the confirmation and being authentic.

I’m so glad there’s a word for how I’m feeling. Thank you!

This was so helpful. I’m surprised there isn’t more views on your video. This was very needed. Thank you for all your help.

Thank you for the putting to words how I have been feeling with 2 toddlers. Versus beating myself up as a bad mom and craving space

Yea, highly sensitive people who process very deep emotions and feel others emotions takes much longer to sort through them. I am autistic and things not logical I don't understand easily or fast.

This came right on time

Hey Dr Kim 🥰 congratulations on passing 100k. You deserve so much more. Your content is excellent

Your content is excellent. I've seen a lot of content on other channels on these topics and yours is at the top of my list. Thank you Dr Kim

Hi Dr Sage, I am 66yrs old from the u.k. and I am so glad I found your channel. I was brought up in an abusive relationship with a younger brother I used to look after. I remember being lonely. My earliest memory of my father is coming home from the army and smashing up the house after drinking, aged 3. I found Al Anon aged 40 . After watching your channel, now I recognize C(PTSD) plus all the symptoms. A twelve year relationship with the same type. I got him drunk to make sure he was not like my father in drink. When he tried to hit me I hit him back then he turned to emotional abuse. The story goes on and on. I chose not to have children because of the childhood I had . Thank you so much for your channel. Barbara x

Thank you once, again! I'm happy I found your channel and so many topics I relate to so hard. Though I wish my parent had realized that this was my issue instead of calling me certain names, replacing your voice, your tone, and your understanding to those memories helps! I also LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that you provide real life techniques to help. Many in the industry may do a great job of explaining certain things, but don't always offer answers to what we can do to help ourselves. It's kind of why I could only get so far with CBT. It was more than just trying to switch the narrative I was telling myself. You are a favorite, and I've shared you with my own therapist!

Thank you! Really needed this today. 😊

Doctor Kim Sage I have been listening/watching your videos for the past few months. Thank so much🤗

Thank you so much for making this video!! I hate talking about my business in comments but I'm 15 and struggle a lot with autism, having you validify feelings like this means so much. I really like the way you explain things and relay them onto everyday issues, making it easier for people to understand. Awesome work, thanks again!

Oh yes! I completely agree!

Outstanding! Thank you for sharing what is going on with your life. I know therapists (3 daughters all LCSWs) worry about boundaries but this was totally appropriate. I am dealing with all of this garbage, trying to sort it out, trying to assign past behaviors to triggers, and so on. I tell people who are rude enough to ask why I am bothering since I am 70 yrs old and they wonder how much longer am I going to live (yes, had this conversation a couple of times) that they would not last a day living inside my head. If I can find some peace and freedom from the chorus in my head then everything I am doing now will be worth it. Your videos have been wonderful in helping me understand the connections. Thank you.

I'm so happy to have found you; thank you so much for everything you do! Your videos explaining trauma and solutions to the problems that it manifests in our lives are immensely helpful. My local therapist and psychiatrist missed the CPSD diagnosis and has been treating me with conventional therapy rather than trauma-informed therapy. You are a lifesaver...I have learned so much since I subscribed a mere week ago. God bless you!! 😍💗💗

Kim, your videos are Life changing for me, Thank you for creating then, I am working on tapping into my own inner voice and making it heard, you do inspire me to become a talker, you use your voice so beautifully to pass on such immense knowledge, I feel so inspired…🙏

this was so eye opening for me. I was beginning to think I was crazy for getting randomly overwhelmed but really it was just sounds, lightning, and too much screen time. it’s been a month limiting these things and incorporating your tips when overstimulated - I haven’t felt so good in so long. thank you ❤

Awesome, great advice! You said so many great things. The illusion of too much to do and not enough time. Move a muscle, change a thought. Lighting is a huge component, setting the mood and winding down. Meditation and prayer work great for me when I choose to engage of course! I know what works yet doing it at times seems overwhelming. I’ve been focusing on things that I like to do so I don’t wind up quitting. Focus on starting, not finishing! It sounds like you have a lot going on. Make sure to take care of yourself and your state of mind! I pray for inner peace for all. Thank you for this video!

Thank-You so much for this video - and for taking the extra-time to give real-life examples of how to deal with overstimulation; I needed to hear all that You shared. Interestingly, almost all the causative factors apply to Me; I suspect there must be shared-roots! I’m 46, and thought I had Myself pretty-well figured-out - until recently. I Thank-God for the rock-bottom times, because without them - I wouldn’t otherwise seek to learn more! Know that You’re videos are ongoing Blessings for Me/My Life! Hang-in-there, Life can be overwhelming - but (Thankfully) We don’t have to be Our Own Saviours! ❤️

Love the beautiful wallpaper! 💙

@Dr. Kim Sage - Dr. Kim I love listening to your videos! You don't talk too fast for me, cuz I have ADHD, lol! Your voice is so calm and gentle listening to you is relaxing for me. I NEVER relax. Are you an angel? 🙂😇 Thank you so much for all the hard work you do. I remember having a home, career, being married, and having a ton of stuff to keep up with at work and home. Now I'm not working - mental health issues took a big bite out of me. Life is.... frustrating, irritating, and extremely challenging. I'm overwhelmed and overstimulated pretty much all the time. I've come to understand this is because I have the dreaded CPTSD. Which is often labeled as bipolar and/or BPD. Yep. I got stuck with both. Blah blah.... I envy you. I admire women, like you, who have a family, kids, a private practice, AND a business. You are a great leader for someone like me to look up to. I'm 54, so I won't be birthing any kids, lolz. But it would be nice to have a home, someone to love who is willing and available (and not a narc!), a career I love, and my own business. My plan is life coaching. God knows I've got a TON of experience dealing with life - and I have a calling to help people.

I just realized that the reason why I would have a headache (in the temples) every day after school in elementary school was from overstimulation.

Also, the same way one eyes get tired, so do our ear drums. Ask musicians. Amanda Palmer has spoken on it. And you can have both happening together, of course ❤

Thank you for this video, it helped me a lot today. Understanding myself and what I'm experiencing will help me explain to my spouse what is going on and that it's not about them.

You are literally helping me so much right now. I think you are the first person i came across that i can really relate to and understand what you're saying and not even my therapist has really helped me

@katiejane6761

2 ай бұрын

Jesus can help ❤

OMG. I cried through this whole entire video. It explains my whole entire life my first job I asked to be moved four times because two people were regurgitating their phlegm one constantly sniffled and one was constantly eating ice all day long. My boss Tony told me this was the last time she was going to move. I've lived in this regulation for three years at a toxic workplace. Thank you thank you thank you so much. I will be buying your programs.

Yes, please do make a video about how to work on your sleep!

I had to live alone during the second lockdown in Canada and have worked from home for 3 years now. After that experience I’m not the same person anymore and get easily overwhelmed with crowds, sounds, packed spaces, or closed spaces. I start feeling as if I’m in a dangerous situation. Right before the pandemic I lived a completely different life, where I commuted during traffic every day, talked to people all day long, and lived a lifestyle where all these stimulations where I’m constantly among crowds and noises was normal. I really want to go back to feeling ok and trying to take it step by step

@elizabethm72

3 ай бұрын

I experienced the same thing. The isolation during the pandemic made me come out very noise sensitive and easily overwhelmed by the senses. What I've been doing is slow, scheduled exposure (think like the exposure ladder used in CBT for social anxiety & phobias) to public spaces with stimuli. I have had some improvement, though it is slow.

🍃💜🌷💜🌷💜🍃 Thank you Dr Kim! Excellent resource, will definitely be referring to this video subject over the next few weeks. Tapping, rocking etc is like stimming. Loud rain ASMR is my "go to" to for oversensory auditory issues.

Thank you. ❤. Smell rage. 😊

Interesting topic. I can relate to hyper sensitivity to smell, noise. As I was woken up at 5 am by my neighbour's bedroom activities, despite me having earplugs. This really triggers me big time and it is hard to cool down the anger and stress.

Thank u for making this video. And for sharing it with ppl. I experience this a lot and I never used to really get this way until the last six years or so now. A year ago I found out I was epileptic and stress and financial strains and economic a xn job issues at my employer.. a lot. Parenting I love being one.. don't get me wrong I am honored to be my child's parent and rock but I'm overstimulated a lot now and nobody in my family understands they will not turn down the radio they will not stop talking I never get the silence to regroup and when you don't get that you start having seizures and you're literally go down the drain with your health and sanity. I just want it quiet sometimes not the stereo blasting I just want the TV on a normal volume not on 80 while I talk on the phone and manage my families lives and my own. I don't think I'll ever get the peace my health now requires to make a full and adequate recovery where I can get back on my feet again and not get over stimulated or overwhelmed in the moment

For anyone dealing with chronic pain or any other issue showering / bathing…. I find wet wipes in gentle slow movements really help a lot. The moisture alone, non rushed, is incredibly soothing (for this person, who sometimes has to go weeks without body hygiene. I use the cloths for multi use, born from the *shame* of hygiene problemsms)

Thank you!!😊

I find a baseball hat has been amazing for shopping lighting. I used to need earplugs but have lost some hearing probably helped along by all the noise so not as much anymore. I moved from crazy aggressive loud neighbor...video games on full blast after midnight after I requested more quiet... I was born this way with sensitivity...my mother says I would put the blanket over my head in my playpen lol... I had to leave school from migraines and test out...I did not realize the lights were such an issue...oh to be homeschooled. It was only a fantasy years ago.

Sounds are HUGE triggers for me. My husband wears a particular pair of shoes that drives me absolutely nuts when he walks across the kitchen floor. In addition, we are of different faiths, so certain events going on in the world cannot be discussed. I am a very, very sensitive person who is on the spectrum and has not completely worked through PTSD, and sometimes I think that life in general triggers me. I work in a personal care home for the elderly, and each resident is given a Life Alert-type pendant. One gentleman in particular has dementia and plays with his whenever he’s in bed. It goes off constantly and just that particular stimulus puts me into hypervigilance overdrive. Plus, the habits of co-workers are difficult to process for me as well.Dr. Sage, I just want you to know how much I appreciate your videos. You really, really understand ❤. God bless and thank you so very much. Much love and respect from Pennsylvania❤❤

Yes, sensitive to noises, smells, sounds, etc. Yes, yes, yes.

Depends on the noise. Any animal sound I have to know that the animal is ok. I can control my hearing. In a crowd I can pin point one voice, even one across the room, drown out all other voices. I can switch between voices in the crowd. It’s overwhelming so I learned to tune out sound and focus on one sound only. People say I look like I am lost yet what I am is hyper focused and fear of unsafety. I am scanning. It’s like an automatic fear response. Thanks

If someone thinks that you're talking too fast in your videos that may simply lower the playback speed 🙂

For me, it's always the lights and sounds. When the lights are flickering and won't stop it just bothers me, I can't deal with being in a room with so many people that are yelling, talking, running around, and much more. It helps when my friends are trying to help, though.

I love your shirt

As someone who is bipolar, I’ve noticed I like a lot of stimulation as I’m riding a little higher on mania but then get to a breaking point when I can’t take it anymore. Can anyone else relate?

Yall who have these problems Without kids dont even know how much worse it can get.

I have a lot of sound sensitivity at the 2-3 kilohertz range. This is good for me to know but not useful to explain to too many people. Ultimae Records (who does my album mastering) has a lot of good ambient music that sometimes is energetic as well. Mare Nostrum is a minimalist ambient label that often sells its entire collection - hours and hours - for very cheap. And if you haven't heard Global Communication's "14:31," it is fantastic for being calming while interesting.

One thing I figured out is wearing sunglasses whenever I need, especially when traveling. Limits input. I did not use overhead lights at work either.

A sleep video ....yes, please 🙏🏻🥺

🌼Sound Dampening- ear plugs, music. 🌸 Change of Environment or Sensations- shower, bath, change to comfortable clothes. Nature (blue & green) is a calming environment. 🌺Sleep & Stress Management- sleep hygiene & stress reduction resilience. 🌷Self Care & Self Soothing techniques- havening, tapping, reparenting, stimming, be mindful of device use, exercise, nutrition. Giving yourself grace & asking for help. Slow down. 🌻Focus on Priorities: ex. Creating an environment of calm. Shedding unnecessary demands. Being intentional about your energy output.

Dr Kim you mention attention deficit and sensory overload, is it more correlated when we had immature/ eggshells parents that couldn't teach us mirroring and self-soothing skills?

This is the first time it's been acknowledged an actual thing but anyone else psychologist and therapist I've seen off and on throughout my life it has bass on it but they consider it an afterthought and I would really like to communicate with you in some way if possible because that has always been a thing and then is also recently been more so because I was in a toxic relationship where it was weaponized against me an abusive manner and the aftermath no one I've talked to seems to Fathom as a thing that exists even and it's exhausting and devastating I'm beyond ready to zoom from where I'm at I need you for more than just my sake functionality. So dr. Sage, if you see this I would love for some kind of communication if at all possible to help give you further Direction can't help myself pass for your videos have already been more helpful lifetime of surface appointments

Currently pregnant & overstimulation is HIGH. Whole video im just yelling “yess”🤣

You are explaining me! Oh crap. Oh my gosh...

any tips for dealing with walking in new york or tokyo and there are crowds of people all around you

I have had these overloads with having to hear the neighbor's drums bangging, his horn, blowing, or a crowd laughing, news, etc. Lighting bothers me, this why I wear dark glasses and isolate them. This is why quit watching TV and being around crowds. Have difficulty in holding my cool if someone has thrown me underneath the bus. Then I talk out loud in anger. I turn my fan on, which helps me sleep along with my LORAZEAPM.

I am just like you. Ear plugs, fan and I use eye mask. I am a super light sleeper.

I am currently overstimulated

How does a single parent step away and reset when stimulated

The world. Is so. Loud!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHH

in 1997 i was diagged with severe ptsd, in 2005 i was diagged with bipolar and was seriously overmedicated. In 2011 i got an apology for overmedication. In 2012 i was told by another GP i wasn't bipolar i was a HIGH ENERGY PERSON ?? I'm very confused but have been mega rah rah with music since age 6 and after a long period of manic outbursts i crash. I'm quite confused with all the medical diags. whats going on ? EDIT shortly after. I've just Googled short bursts of mania followed by deep crashes. CYCLOTHYMIA came up and I REALLY slot into that diag. Not sure what to do. My mania has people step back but I'm already on opioid painkillers for renal failure but a SLIGHT come down would be cool, not too much to stifle my creativity ? Feedback anyone ? Tks

Lighting is a huge trigger for me

@_kikizaman_

4 ай бұрын

Bro yes, sound and sight are my two biggest triggers. It’s like everything is 10x brighter/louder than it’s supposed to be, and instead of your hearing focusing on one sound and the rest fading into the background or your vision focusing on one object and the rest fading into the background- my eyes and ears are trying to focus on each individual sound and each individual object in the room all at once while simultaneously experiencing everything 10x as bright and as loud. It literally feels like my brain is gonna pop like a balloon.

Are you related to Jessica Lang?

Being Bipolar can be over stimulating..

I also hate the smell of weed.

@renawojczynski6472

8 ай бұрын

Hate it and it’s everywhere

Yea , except leaving to take a breather doesn't help when your man is a vacilator and I am a avioder on top of this... Plus we have a toddler.. I can't just leave 😪 I feel like leaving to a hotel I'm especially when My PMDD is happening..

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Move to the country, switch to a dumb phone / house phone only, check personal emails once a week, no TV, 12 friends, 1 walk per day without phone, no ig, no Facebook, no TikTok, limit youtube to 1 hr/ day.

@Thats-a-fact-jack

Жыл бұрын

So far I do a couple of things you mentioned- no TV, go for long walks without a phone, no ig, and no tik tok. I could do better with the other things though. I will look into the dumb phone. And Facebook lite

Unnecessary words grrrrrr, ironic. I came here for Solutions, not extra words

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I spent 21 years in the military. This sounds like people can't deal with stress and life. I wish I could have told the enemy to stop shooting at me and not to fire mortars into the base. People are normalizing this and it leading to mental illness. This is becoming a crutch for people to use. I'm really scared for the direction our country is heading.

@_kikizaman_

4 ай бұрын

I’m diagnosed with with cPTSD and adhd and a couple other things, I really really struggle with sensory overload due to constantly living in hypervigilince 24/7 due to my cPTSD and I’m just more sensitive to sensory input because of my ADHD. As you can probably imagine, to get cPTSD, one has to go through a decent amount of stuff in their life time. I’m not a little softie, I’ve been to hell and back I’ve battled with addiction I was homeless as a teenager, I was kidnapped held at gunpoint and lured into a human trafficking ring at age 14 and raped again and again, and that’s not even scratching the surface. I’m not a little snowflake that’s gonna get mad when people aren’t bending over backwards to create a safe space for me. But sensory overload is one thing that I really find mentally distressing and even physically distressing. I suffer with chronic migraines, I get on average one every single day, and if I go into sensory overload it’s almost guaranteed that I’ll get a head shattering migraine (my heads so sensitive I can’t even wear hats, sunglasses, or headbands without getting a migraine). And when trying to go about your day to day life, it really can be quite debilitating. Especially when my migraines usually include vomiting, and I can’t even wear sunglasses to block out the light because sunglasses also give me migraines so I just have to sit there with my eyes closed. Because of my chronic migraines, I do my uni courses from home. Before I started doing them from home, of course I wouldn’t ask the professor to speak quietly and turn off the lights because “I have sensory overload🥺”. But now that I am working from home and I can accommodate myself without being an inconvenience, of course I’m gonna do it. If it improves the quality of my life, physically and mentally, why wouldn’t I? There’s no problem with doing little things throughout your day that are gonna make you a better version of you, as long as your not making anyone else bend over backwards to adhere to any rules. This generation definitely is way too soft, but in what way did this video Indicate that?

Hi don't mean to be rude but I suffer with high Piper over active sensitivity and I was hoping to listen to your video for some tips and help but I found it so stressful to speed in which you are talking and the information that you have put in what was so much more than what was needed to get the facts of what you're saying across I had to switch off halfway through I have mine could not cope with it no death respect but for me it was like verbal diarrhea you were talking too fast too much information all so fast into my head I could not hold it all in you need to speak a lot slower and don't put so much content in so we can all get our head around it without being over stimulated

@VanessaAsay

3 ай бұрын

You can adjust playback speed in your settings to play more slowly. You can also only play one or two video sections at a time so you have time to absorb what has been said. We have to make accommodations for ourselves, not expect everyone else to cater to our unique needs. Good luck!

@karagraham9764

2 ай бұрын

You can change the playback setting. Google how to change KZread playback speed, for instructions