Seasonality and Serenity - feat Alain de Botton
For this week’s episode of the Therapy Works podcast, I’d like to share this enriching conversation with Alain de Botton, where we explore the profound depths of human experience, touching on the intricacies of our inner child, the importance of feeling seen and heard, and the therapeutic journey of self-discovery.
Alain delves into the significance of our childhood experiences, and emphasizes how they shape our adult selves and behaviors. He shares the idea that our actions often mirror unresolved issues from our past, particularly from our early years, and how this understanding can lead to more compassionate perspectives towards ourselves and others, which is a belief I share as well.
We also discussed the notion of 'good enough' parenting, a concept highlighting the balance between acknowledging our flaws and showing love and acceptance. We also discuss the pivotal role of being truly seen by our parents and how this shapes our sense of self-worth and identity. This part of the discussion was particularly enlightening, offering a fresh perspective on ego and vulnerability.
As the conversation turned towards therapy, Alain and I delve into the concept of emotional resilience and how being overwhelmed can lead to personal growth. We explore the paradox of wanting to change without actually changing, highlighting the importance of embracing our vulnerabilities and the cyclical nature of our emotional states. The discussion culminated in a reflection on the seasonal rhythms of our psyche, drawing parallels between the natural world and our internal emotional landscapes.
This episode offers a treasure trove of wisdom, insights, and compassionate understanding, making it a must-listen for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of themselves and their relationships. I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as I enjoyed filming it. If you prefer an audio only experience, you can hear the full episode on Spotify:
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Alain is highly emotionally articulate and I love his points about the sensory area of life. Of the two, he is the most interesting and empathic.
So excited to see this! Watching it now🎉 Alain De Bottons consolations of Philosophy was one of catalysts in my study of philosophy!
@juliasamuelmbe
4 ай бұрын
Fantastic! I hope you enjoyed this episode.
I wish I could have psychotherapy sessions with Alain.
thanks for reminding us of the importance of calm... it does really make a difference.
Its such a comfortable and cozy atmosphere you've sparked and alain played along with! I felt like sitting in front of a campfire on christmas eve being all comfortable! Thank you so much!
@juliasamuelmbe
4 ай бұрын
Oh that's lovely to read. I'm glad that you enjoyed this. Thank you for watching and for commenting :D
I loved this conversation. ❤
My twins are now 25 and both suffer severe anxiety. They were born into a very happy home with lots of love, however I suffered illness and went in hospital for a few days. They had to move school (they struggled fitting in at first) and these events happened age under 7 years. Have we caused this anxiety and how can we help them now?
@alisonjones3057
4 ай бұрын
First of all stop blaming yourself, it's not your fault. They need professional help with good solid practical solutions to inform their brain that they are safe now , this takes alot of time and patience. The brain has to have reliable messages of safety also detraction, detraction, detraction, the brain needs a job to do other than being anxious, so plenty of hobbies especially artistic and creative. It helped me , art saved me . Hope this helps you ❤
@christinagiannaros9817
Ай бұрын
Open for debate, my belief is that we are born with our temperament and that is shaped by events/environment. So your children might have a predilection for anxiety. This sensitive temperament can bring many gifts but also challenges. Hope you found a way to help them.
20:58 Good enough parenting / Parental Love/ Love
What is FRSL after Alain's name?
@julie5668
4 ай бұрын
Fellow of the Royal Society of Literature.
Everyone talking about this conversation in the negative missed the point of the conversational spars (or spurs 😊 ) or interjections. These moments are an attempt to elevate or redirect the conversation by creating a less obvious narrative. This is almost exactly what Dr. Alain did to Esther Perel in this kzread.info/dash/bejne/dJWgqdNqoqfUfrw.htmlsi=XtmpaDJH8iKcpZpZ Founders Forum conversation. There is one or 2 comments insinuating that Dr. Alain was interrupting Esther but again, they missed the point. Its a conversational style intended to provoke thinking beyond the basic train of thought. It is an antidote to monolog responses or interviews. Even the Supreme court Advocacy is as such, meaningful conversational spars (😊 spurs) to help expand an idea to an unexpected turn or layer to the conversation.| What memorable conversation do you remember that were a monologue? Even yur every day conversation have interjections to elevate the engagement. Granted, some interjections are sometimes unhelpful and redundant, they still make for an engaging conversation.
@christinagiannaros9817
Ай бұрын
It flowed really well, lively and interesting listening to these two special people. I often wonder why, if people find something so displeasing they continue to view and make the effort to critique negatively, if that is an enjoyable pastime for them or reinforcing some need in themselves?
Please let him talk!!! I love listening to Alain, but cannot continue listening to this video, due to the comments from the lady that do not make sense and her annoying distributions.
@nabaddajulietjosephine05
3 ай бұрын
It's ironic that you love Dr. Alain, a person so polite, considerate and accommodating yet you cannot apply even a fraction of what he stands for in this simple situation. You would imagine a true student or admirer could emulate him at a time when it matters the most, when dealing with others. To apply kindness and accommodate others when we disagree with their methods, not to use a moment as a noose.