I think he's a hero, what a lovely guy...... and the poisoned bowl by higson, then Robert montague
@skaboosh8 сағат бұрын
Hickson
@laney318212 сағат бұрын
While reading this book, I paused put the book down and screamed, THIS IS AN INSANE HOUSE OF HORROR WITH A SADIST FOR A SCHOOL MASTER!!
@isabellmurphy65115 сағат бұрын
Being from a poor background I thought if you had money you had no problems, the naivety of a child. So glad you are turning this whole subject around. I wish you well.
@intoarutКүн бұрын
2:50 What I Can Do by Mary Oliver The television has two instruments that control it. I get confused. The washer asks me, do you want regular or delicate? Honestly, I just want clean. Everything is like that. I won’t even mention cell phones. I can turn on the light of the lamp beside my chair Where a book is waiting, but that’s about it. Oh yes, and I can strike a match and make fire.
@intoarutКүн бұрын
2:50 What I Can Do by Mary Oliver The television has two instruments that control it. I get confused. The washer asks me, do you want regular or delicate? Honestly, I just want clean. Everything is like that. I won’t even mention cell phones. I can turn on the light of the lamp beside my chair Where a book is waiting, but that’s about it. Oh yes, and I can strike a match and make fire.
@andreamayne3509Күн бұрын
2 lovely, intelligent, well spoken ladies, wishing you a good and speedy recovery Julia.
@JohannusFandangulusКүн бұрын
The ‘Shitty Committee’!!! Love that! Another great/helpful show
@JohannusFandangulusКүн бұрын
What a touching interview - it helped me a lot. Really thankful that Annabel was able to be so open. Julia, I’m so impressed by your hosting, the show format and your incredible daughters who provided me with more thought and comfort. I think the show title ‘Therapy Works’ might put some people off though. Comes across a bit arrogant. It doesn’t work for everyone.
@drasticplasticaustinКүн бұрын
All private health care for MP's should be outlawed. There is no way our MP's would want to suffer what they seem quite content to put us through. They'd soon be singing from a different hymn sheet if this were to occur.
@alisonhamling1212Күн бұрын
Oh Annabel, I'm so sorry for your experience and for your loss. I used to be a nurse, and can assure you this woman's cold demeanour (24:57) was not in keeping with those of us who loved our profession and demonstrated respect for our patients, and their relatives. I can feel your pain and resonate with a lot of what you describe from my own grief journey. Julia, you are amazing and thank you for your work.
@juliasamuelmbeКүн бұрын
Thank you for the heartfelt and sincere comment. And I agree, not all nurses act the way Annabel's did. Many are deeply compassionate and really dedicated to the people they are helping.
@twocardtarot64792 күн бұрын
Thank you Charles, the world needs this speaking out from a place of great articulation & from 'having done the work'. My friend was also nicknamed Buzz, it's a name I have great affection for.
@GD-cr5um2 күн бұрын
I really think people judge us so much in grief
@juliasamuelmbeКүн бұрын
I agree. There is a lot of judgment of others in general.
@GD-cr5umКүн бұрын
@@juliasamuelmbe I've had all friends literally disappear when my dad passed 15 yrs ago on the contrary I had people gossiping. Some will even accuse u of ghosting when u don't reply back. This is a weirdo world and I have learnt Ur only obligation is to make your ownself happy
@Wise-Lady-La-Aura3 күн бұрын
I think the children and adult children take the death of their parents very hard. I lost my husband two months ago, but he was battling cancer for over 5 years, and he suffered so much for so long, it was as relief to see him out of his pain and suffering. Our kids are still having a difficult time with it, but I am at peace. I cried a lot over the past few years, but when we brought hospice in, and I had to take daily care of him, with all the equipment and the nurses coming and going, it was not pleasant, but I was pleasant to him and ran myself ragged for the past few years. When death comes slowly, over a long time, it wears you out. I believe when a death is sudden, untimely and out of the blue, it’s more difficult for the loved ones. I am done crying and I am at peace. I still wish my mother, father, grandfather and brother were alive, but we all must accept life as it is and find our happiness within. I am looking forward to each new day again, accepting life as it is, and grateful for every thing. It is the ancient stoic wisdom for peace and happiness.
@MaryKelly-ji8ve3 күн бұрын
My mum is dead 7yrs I'm 62 and still cry for her I still miss her
@juliasamuelmbeКүн бұрын
I'm sorry for your loss :(
@patrickmcgovern6763 күн бұрын
My mom died of lung cancer with 4 months to live without treatment and 2 yrs with treatment at age 52. I Had suffered my fathers grandparents losses a year prior to finding out only 4 months apart due malpractice and broken heart syndrome for my nana. We moved into their house and after my mom died almost to the date of the 2 years with treatment. I talked about it for a year in every conversation. Not realizing it until friends had told me so. Many deaths came after as well. Not including multiple overdoses of friends and acquaintances. It was very hard and even though i did shed tears. It wasn't enough.
@barbaraholley28563 күн бұрын
Cauterise emotions! My goodness! Could England be reaping in 2024? So much self hatred?
@georgiadim53333 күн бұрын
Dear Charles Spencer, wholeheartedly embrace and allow the Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ to fill every part of your being and heal all the wounds you have suffered! He is our loving merciful Creator, He and only He is able to completely heal us and fill us with His Peace and with His Joy! God bless you..
@afroman55314 күн бұрын
You are 100 present correct.. and even put some things into prospective. Thank you
@juliasamuelmbeКүн бұрын
Thank you for taking the time to leave this comment :D
@fodhilseghaghra61324 күн бұрын
May allah cure you 🙏
@frostbite51413 күн бұрын
And may Christ be with you too brother🙏
@still_chamberin_40s914 күн бұрын
I just lost my grandfather last month. He was pretty much like my dad. Still doesn’t seem real. Its has broke me down to bad place.
@lynnmanison95014 күн бұрын
I pray the arms of the divine mother holds you and strengthens you 🙏 may each day gently soften for you God bless ❤️ 🙏
@still_chamberin_40s91Күн бұрын
@@lynnmanison9501 thank you. Its been a tough time
@annangel37494 күн бұрын
I have turned my back on therapy through the fear of facing terrible things that happened to me in my life.. Charles has inspired me it is never too late even at 56yrs..
@juliasamuelmbe4 күн бұрын
I'm so happy to hear that you've decided to give therapy another try. That's beautiful. I really hope that you find it helpful ❤️
@lynnmanison95014 күн бұрын
I totally get this ,I shed many tears before the loss of my mother On the day of my moms funeral i never shed a tear,I was in that altered state of shock.,there isn't much I remember about that day ,I deeply loved my mother and miss her everyday ,it's nearly 9 years and I still feel the loss 💔 Thank you for sharing Much appreciated ❤🙏
@Sigmaboy69424 күн бұрын
Feel bad for u bro
@lilasfaves78464 күн бұрын
Always love listening to you all, I have realisations due to your gentle acceptance of what is somehow (raised in harsh critical env hence self critic comes to the fore regularly!) I grieved for years whilst my mother was alive as she had the painful dementia for 12 yrs and I always feel others have got it sussed rather than myself. Helps me go into my body and connect to myself with your gentleness thank you dearly ❤
@chaitanayanathalia24805 күн бұрын
I’m more of a 2 but it feels like in the end I will have to conform either way to have success
@Benjy22485 күн бұрын
Type 1 all the way, Jesus man moneys everything, like it’s actually too fucking important to not care about it and if you don’t then your fucked, and you gotta climb the ladder to get more of the most important thing in the world, why tf not?😂
@karenharvey25495 күн бұрын
I know I'm type 2. We dont want boring.
@juliasamuelmbe5 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I'd like to hear more about what your experience as Type 2 is. Is there a balance for you between meaning and stability, or does all stability feel boring?
@hannah52455 күн бұрын
My volume is on highest and I am only getting a soft sound.
@thewellnessclinic29026 күн бұрын
A beautiful conversation, thanks for letting us share in it x
@mscharliebrown636 күн бұрын
Thank you for your honesty x
@JosannaMonik6 күн бұрын
Makes us realize how traditions can be dangerous; just because things were done a certain way, like sending children to boarding schools, does not mean we have to keep doing it. We must constantly think anew and re-evaluate our priorities.
@F1Samantha8 күн бұрын
What an interview, conducted with such sensitivity. I am so sorry to Earl Spencer and others who experienced Sexual Abuse. This will help so many. And to add, the emotion shared by you both at the end speaking about Diana demonstrates the raw and personal grief and loss, still felt over her death. Thankyou for doing this interview
@marywolters36128 күн бұрын
I'm glad to hear that you cannot get on drugs or surgery as a minor in the UK.
@rachelwesterman12238 күн бұрын
I found this very helpful. I lost my partner in January this year. He was just 41. II feel traumatised too. He was also the love of my life. My heart breaks for Annabel and her family. I also found some of the medical staff very unsympathetic. I was in the hospital the week my partner died, sitting in a chair. I hadnt sleep or eaten anything for days. My Dad was so worried about me one night that he convinced me to go home to try and sleep and shower. As I left the room, the nurse kept questioning how I could leave and pulling faces at me. At that stage we didnt know how long he had and my family were concerned that I couldn't carry on without sleep for another week. She made me feel so awful that I didnt sleep and I still berate myself for leaving now. He died 3 days later.
@lilasfaves78468 күн бұрын
Love this family ❤
@lilasfaves78469 күн бұрын
Wonderful reminder that we have that ability within our own bodies, it helps me feel less powerless… thank you as ever Julia ❤
@juliasamuelmbe9 күн бұрын
I'm glad that you found this message empowering. Yes! Our bodies have lots of goodies in them that will help boost our mood; all we have to do is shake them up a bit :D
@lilasfaves78469 күн бұрын
Lovely perspective thankyou ❤
@juliasamuelmbe9 күн бұрын
You are so welcome
@homewithemma4210 күн бұрын
Thank you for this incredibly moving interview. Congratulations. I am dreadfully sorry Charles, that you had to endure such isolation and neglect as a child, and the trauma of abuse as well. I know for myself the numbness and deep emotional corruption experienced when there is nobody to protect or support one, as a child growing up. I am the same generation as you, and have only realised recently, that the majority of our parents were incapable of giving more than they did. I also believe that it wasn’t just private schools that were full of brutality. State school pupils also suffered at the hands of perverted staff and that life at home was often not any better. Thankfully we have evolved a little and I hope your story will help many others who suffered in the same way. It is most inspiring to hear that you have worked hard at healing so successfully. Welcome back Buzz ⭐️
@lilasfaves784610 күн бұрын
Thank you for talking about this painful and heartbreaking experience a lot of people go through … you’re so understanding and gentle ❤
@juliasamuelmbe10 күн бұрын
Thank you for the kind words ❤️
@lemongate486911 күн бұрын
I cried my eyes out watching this. What a wretched childhood he had and to think that none of his abusers, those criminals, have ever faced justice. I'm so pleased though, that Charles is finally on a healing journey and that his book, his story, as horrific as it is, is helping the healing of countless others.
@katslondon111 күн бұрын
It's so wonderful that men can be so open and vulnerable now. Bless you. Far from being a whinge by a privileged man, made me think it doesn't matter how privileged you are, your suffering and abuse, your sadness is the same as anyone poor, we're all the same. A man I loved dearly in Australia from a very privileged family, had suffered similarly in boarding school at a very young age, it had such a massive impact on him and he had never openly spoke about it. Interestingly, his mother had left the family of boys too. Incredibly sad.
@christinedrayson925112 күн бұрын
Wonderful Charles.Thank you for your Love & generosity in sharing your horrific story. How strong you are to have survived it. A truly generous person to have given so much of yourself. Diana i feel would love you more if that were possible . God bless you Charles. Christine D.
@JohnSmith-lk8cy12 күн бұрын
He said it...'You have to come to terms with your past'. The only way.
@syttt792515 күн бұрын
This is terrible and I am surprised that anyone is surprised that this was and is going on. There is everything there that would create this problem - 1. a total institution -2. powerless people (children) - 3. paedophiles and physical abusers of children go where children are - 4. Stokholm fever ie knowledge that you can get people to accept their abuse (see S Lukes on 3rd face of power) and 5. bribery ie your children will grow up to be leaders.
@TreStyles1615 күн бұрын
If I could give one piece of sound advice to anyone who has survived this deplorable assault: cut ties with anyone who you have disclosed to and does not care/does not believe you/pretends to not believe you. Anyone who allowed the abuse to happen/facilitated the abuse/turned a blind eye. And obviously, the sub-human perp. No apologies. YOU OWE NOBODY AN APOLOGY. This isn't just from personal experience, but from others who have disconnected, and sadly, the ones who have not. There is a common thread of anger, low self esteem and addiction. No less than 5 people who have disclosed and i know well - and all perps were family members. (Mine was a "fake cousin.") All so angry. As was I. I'm not dancing around the maypole flinging daisy petals on a daily basis now, but the constant anger is not there. A level of resentment i didn't know was there is gone. What is left are strong boundaries and a strong will to never be near any kind of abuse during the remainder. I've been thinking about this a lot lately. And I think it's important to share. Peace to all reading this. You never deserved it. Give yourself as much grace as you possibly can. "Them?" Give them none and let them deal with their deadly sins with their own people. 🐣
@findmewherethefairylightsare15 күн бұрын
❤❤❤
@mirandaandrea821516 күн бұрын
So wise Sophie
@jeangreenfield599316 күн бұрын
Never send your YOUNG children to full boarding school !! ** The brilliance of Comprehensives. Such a brave interview. ❤
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I think he's a hero, what a lovely guy...... and the poisoned bowl by higson, then Robert montague
Hickson
While reading this book, I paused put the book down and screamed, THIS IS AN INSANE HOUSE OF HORROR WITH A SADIST FOR A SCHOOL MASTER!!
Being from a poor background I thought if you had money you had no problems, the naivety of a child. So glad you are turning this whole subject around. I wish you well.
2:50 What I Can Do by Mary Oliver The television has two instruments that control it. I get confused. The washer asks me, do you want regular or delicate? Honestly, I just want clean. Everything is like that. I won’t even mention cell phones. I can turn on the light of the lamp beside my chair Where a book is waiting, but that’s about it. Oh yes, and I can strike a match and make fire.
2:50 What I Can Do by Mary Oliver The television has two instruments that control it. I get confused. The washer asks me, do you want regular or delicate? Honestly, I just want clean. Everything is like that. I won’t even mention cell phones. I can turn on the light of the lamp beside my chair Where a book is waiting, but that’s about it. Oh yes, and I can strike a match and make fire.
2 lovely, intelligent, well spoken ladies, wishing you a good and speedy recovery Julia.
The ‘Shitty Committee’!!! Love that! Another great/helpful show
What a touching interview - it helped me a lot. Really thankful that Annabel was able to be so open. Julia, I’m so impressed by your hosting, the show format and your incredible daughters who provided me with more thought and comfort. I think the show title ‘Therapy Works’ might put some people off though. Comes across a bit arrogant. It doesn’t work for everyone.
All private health care for MP's should be outlawed. There is no way our MP's would want to suffer what they seem quite content to put us through. They'd soon be singing from a different hymn sheet if this were to occur.
Oh Annabel, I'm so sorry for your experience and for your loss. I used to be a nurse, and can assure you this woman's cold demeanour (24:57) was not in keeping with those of us who loved our profession and demonstrated respect for our patients, and their relatives. I can feel your pain and resonate with a lot of what you describe from my own grief journey. Julia, you are amazing and thank you for your work.
Thank you for the heartfelt and sincere comment. And I agree, not all nurses act the way Annabel's did. Many are deeply compassionate and really dedicated to the people they are helping.
Thank you Charles, the world needs this speaking out from a place of great articulation & from 'having done the work'. My friend was also nicknamed Buzz, it's a name I have great affection for.
I really think people judge us so much in grief
I agree. There is a lot of judgment of others in general.
@@juliasamuelmbe I've had all friends literally disappear when my dad passed 15 yrs ago on the contrary I had people gossiping. Some will even accuse u of ghosting when u don't reply back. This is a weirdo world and I have learnt Ur only obligation is to make your ownself happy
I think the children and adult children take the death of their parents very hard. I lost my husband two months ago, but he was battling cancer for over 5 years, and he suffered so much for so long, it was as relief to see him out of his pain and suffering. Our kids are still having a difficult time with it, but I am at peace. I cried a lot over the past few years, but when we brought hospice in, and I had to take daily care of him, with all the equipment and the nurses coming and going, it was not pleasant, but I was pleasant to him and ran myself ragged for the past few years. When death comes slowly, over a long time, it wears you out. I believe when a death is sudden, untimely and out of the blue, it’s more difficult for the loved ones. I am done crying and I am at peace. I still wish my mother, father, grandfather and brother were alive, but we all must accept life as it is and find our happiness within. I am looking forward to each new day again, accepting life as it is, and grateful for every thing. It is the ancient stoic wisdom for peace and happiness.
My mum is dead 7yrs I'm 62 and still cry for her I still miss her
I'm sorry for your loss :(
My mom died of lung cancer with 4 months to live without treatment and 2 yrs with treatment at age 52. I Had suffered my fathers grandparents losses a year prior to finding out only 4 months apart due malpractice and broken heart syndrome for my nana. We moved into their house and after my mom died almost to the date of the 2 years with treatment. I talked about it for a year in every conversation. Not realizing it until friends had told me so. Many deaths came after as well. Not including multiple overdoses of friends and acquaintances. It was very hard and even though i did shed tears. It wasn't enough.
Cauterise emotions! My goodness! Could England be reaping in 2024? So much self hatred?
Dear Charles Spencer, wholeheartedly embrace and allow the Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ to fill every part of your being and heal all the wounds you have suffered! He is our loving merciful Creator, He and only He is able to completely heal us and fill us with His Peace and with His Joy! God bless you..
You are 100 present correct.. and even put some things into prospective. Thank you
Thank you for taking the time to leave this comment :D
May allah cure you 🙏
And may Christ be with you too brother🙏
I just lost my grandfather last month. He was pretty much like my dad. Still doesn’t seem real. Its has broke me down to bad place.
I pray the arms of the divine mother holds you and strengthens you 🙏 may each day gently soften for you God bless ❤️ 🙏
@@lynnmanison9501 thank you. Its been a tough time
I have turned my back on therapy through the fear of facing terrible things that happened to me in my life.. Charles has inspired me it is never too late even at 56yrs..
I'm so happy to hear that you've decided to give therapy another try. That's beautiful. I really hope that you find it helpful ❤️
I totally get this ,I shed many tears before the loss of my mother On the day of my moms funeral i never shed a tear,I was in that altered state of shock.,there isn't much I remember about that day ,I deeply loved my mother and miss her everyday ,it's nearly 9 years and I still feel the loss 💔 Thank you for sharing Much appreciated ❤🙏
Feel bad for u bro
Always love listening to you all, I have realisations due to your gentle acceptance of what is somehow (raised in harsh critical env hence self critic comes to the fore regularly!) I grieved for years whilst my mother was alive as she had the painful dementia for 12 yrs and I always feel others have got it sussed rather than myself. Helps me go into my body and connect to myself with your gentleness thank you dearly ❤
I’m more of a 2 but it feels like in the end I will have to conform either way to have success
Type 1 all the way, Jesus man moneys everything, like it’s actually too fucking important to not care about it and if you don’t then your fucked, and you gotta climb the ladder to get more of the most important thing in the world, why tf not?😂
I know I'm type 2. We dont want boring.
Thanks for sharing. I'd like to hear more about what your experience as Type 2 is. Is there a balance for you between meaning and stability, or does all stability feel boring?
My volume is on highest and I am only getting a soft sound.
A beautiful conversation, thanks for letting us share in it x
Thank you for your honesty x
Makes us realize how traditions can be dangerous; just because things were done a certain way, like sending children to boarding schools, does not mean we have to keep doing it. We must constantly think anew and re-evaluate our priorities.
What an interview, conducted with such sensitivity. I am so sorry to Earl Spencer and others who experienced Sexual Abuse. This will help so many. And to add, the emotion shared by you both at the end speaking about Diana demonstrates the raw and personal grief and loss, still felt over her death. Thankyou for doing this interview
I'm glad to hear that you cannot get on drugs or surgery as a minor in the UK.
I found this very helpful. I lost my partner in January this year. He was just 41. II feel traumatised too. He was also the love of my life. My heart breaks for Annabel and her family. I also found some of the medical staff very unsympathetic. I was in the hospital the week my partner died, sitting in a chair. I hadnt sleep or eaten anything for days. My Dad was so worried about me one night that he convinced me to go home to try and sleep and shower. As I left the room, the nurse kept questioning how I could leave and pulling faces at me. At that stage we didnt know how long he had and my family were concerned that I couldn't carry on without sleep for another week. She made me feel so awful that I didnt sleep and I still berate myself for leaving now. He died 3 days later.
Love this family ❤
Wonderful reminder that we have that ability within our own bodies, it helps me feel less powerless… thank you as ever Julia ❤
I'm glad that you found this message empowering. Yes! Our bodies have lots of goodies in them that will help boost our mood; all we have to do is shake them up a bit :D
Lovely perspective thankyou ❤
You are so welcome
Thank you for this incredibly moving interview. Congratulations. I am dreadfully sorry Charles, that you had to endure such isolation and neglect as a child, and the trauma of abuse as well. I know for myself the numbness and deep emotional corruption experienced when there is nobody to protect or support one, as a child growing up. I am the same generation as you, and have only realised recently, that the majority of our parents were incapable of giving more than they did. I also believe that it wasn’t just private schools that were full of brutality. State school pupils also suffered at the hands of perverted staff and that life at home was often not any better. Thankfully we have evolved a little and I hope your story will help many others who suffered in the same way. It is most inspiring to hear that you have worked hard at healing so successfully. Welcome back Buzz ⭐️
Thank you for talking about this painful and heartbreaking experience a lot of people go through … you’re so understanding and gentle ❤
Thank you for the kind words ❤️
I cried my eyes out watching this. What a wretched childhood he had and to think that none of his abusers, those criminals, have ever faced justice. I'm so pleased though, that Charles is finally on a healing journey and that his book, his story, as horrific as it is, is helping the healing of countless others.
It's so wonderful that men can be so open and vulnerable now. Bless you. Far from being a whinge by a privileged man, made me think it doesn't matter how privileged you are, your suffering and abuse, your sadness is the same as anyone poor, we're all the same. A man I loved dearly in Australia from a very privileged family, had suffered similarly in boarding school at a very young age, it had such a massive impact on him and he had never openly spoke about it. Interestingly, his mother had left the family of boys too. Incredibly sad.
Wonderful Charles.Thank you for your Love & generosity in sharing your horrific story. How strong you are to have survived it. A truly generous person to have given so much of yourself. Diana i feel would love you more if that were possible . God bless you Charles. Christine D.
He said it...'You have to come to terms with your past'. The only way.
This is terrible and I am surprised that anyone is surprised that this was and is going on. There is everything there that would create this problem - 1. a total institution -2. powerless people (children) - 3. paedophiles and physical abusers of children go where children are - 4. Stokholm fever ie knowledge that you can get people to accept their abuse (see S Lukes on 3rd face of power) and 5. bribery ie your children will grow up to be leaders.
If I could give one piece of sound advice to anyone who has survived this deplorable assault: cut ties with anyone who you have disclosed to and does not care/does not believe you/pretends to not believe you. Anyone who allowed the abuse to happen/facilitated the abuse/turned a blind eye. And obviously, the sub-human perp. No apologies. YOU OWE NOBODY AN APOLOGY. This isn't just from personal experience, but from others who have disconnected, and sadly, the ones who have not. There is a common thread of anger, low self esteem and addiction. No less than 5 people who have disclosed and i know well - and all perps were family members. (Mine was a "fake cousin.") All so angry. As was I. I'm not dancing around the maypole flinging daisy petals on a daily basis now, but the constant anger is not there. A level of resentment i didn't know was there is gone. What is left are strong boundaries and a strong will to never be near any kind of abuse during the remainder. I've been thinking about this a lot lately. And I think it's important to share. Peace to all reading this. You never deserved it. Give yourself as much grace as you possibly can. "Them?" Give them none and let them deal with their deadly sins with their own people. 🐣
❤❤❤
So wise Sophie
Never send your YOUNG children to full boarding school !! ** The brilliance of Comprehensives. Such a brave interview. ❤
Both??? There's no damn way.
LOVE ♥️ to all suffering.