I’m afraid to give it my all again and be hurt like I am now. It’s scary. At times I’m hopeful but then I get scared again. I don’t want to be negative but experience makes you cautious.

@chelseaconnors_

3 жыл бұрын

Hey Myrna! Gosh - just read your comment and hear you. It can feel so hard sometimes. Just a note to say you're not alone.

@snowwhitebeautyful

Жыл бұрын

You're not alone. I've been feeling like that for the past 9 years.

@Amanda3280h

10 ай бұрын

I’ve been single for 8 years because the 2 times that I tried during those 8 years I was hurt, and I was hurt before that. Broken up with. Never understanding why he stopped loving me. Now it’s being extended to friends. I am just so terribly scared and terrified of having that pain in my chest again I cant see myself opening up or trusting that no one will leave me or betray me or stop wanting to be with me again.

@emmanuelyeboah3509

9 ай бұрын

Allow Me to drop my perspective here. The issue of being scare is as a result of the hold fear has on you. This what you're not doing, you're not learning from your experience but rather you're being controlled by your experience. Experience should teach u to open your eyes really well the next time u walk into a relationship but fear will let u close your eyes... just to rely on being scared. Ther is no formular fo getting rid of it but learning to learn and better yourself is for the next relationship is best way to go and in your next have your eyes wide open by being more careful not Because of fear because u love yourself more and you don't wanna waste your time and that person's time. All be grateful for your past experience don't let it scare you. Thank youv

@robertpolnicky7702

15 күн бұрын

I just cant imagine the next relationship being any better than the last one. So i started singing all if the broken heart songs i listened to afterci got dumoed and got big ovations sometimes and used that as a replacement. Girks would yell for me quite a bit. ​@@chelseaconnors_

As a grown man. Sitting in a parking lot and crying. Thank you so much. My life has had crazy turn. I switch schools, degrees and even jobs. Im very vulnerable and I absolutely hate it lol 😂. But it discovered the cause of why I don’t have a relationship. I have always been a relationship guy. I just want to find a good women that wants to share in the stuff I like and do. Thank you again for this video. Healing takes time.

Mediocrity and middle of the road feels safe, but not fulfilling. Jumping off the cliff can be scary and feels vulnerable. But it is absolutely the only way to experience the depth of love that we all crave.

This is a godsend. I've been avoiding relationships since 2016 after a series of bad experiences with one person.

@vixenvalenzuela

2 жыл бұрын

Are you doing better now?

@nazcarcup

2 жыл бұрын

@@vixenvalenzuela I've been avoiding dating and relationships and I don't know how to put myself out there again. Depressing.

@gabrielavilla7308

Жыл бұрын

@@nazcarcup you don’t know how to or you’re afraid to? Important to be careful with your wording because saying you don’t know how isn’t true, and it makes you helpless

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

Understanding attachment styles is key. We are often attracted to the familiar. People who resemble one or both of our parents or caregivers. Imago. This pattern can be changed with personal development. Therapy, reading relevant books self help seminars and doing spiritual practice. A few books are: Attached, 8 Dates If The Budda Dated, Getting The Love You Want, The Hoffman Process, Emotional Intimacy, Non Vioilent Communication Learning the mechanics of a healthy relationship. Only you can change yourself.

That’s my entire family. Even my extended family. My aunt and uncle have never told me they love me, never hugged me, never complimented me. My mom is the most affectionate out of everyone in my family, but we’re not a hugging family, no one shares their feelings, no one compliments anyone, it’s so exhausting. I am so full of love and affection but I just can’t express it to people. My last relationship felt freeing because I could be affectionate and loving like I want to be, but he was emotionally invalidating when it came to arguments/me getting mad at him. I’ve never felt free to be affectionate or vulnerable with people; but I want to be the one to change that. I can’t change my family or my last relationship but I don’t have to become them

@lisalisgarciavillegas1178

3 жыл бұрын

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@susanstewart5194

3 жыл бұрын

My family was very British and proper, especially on my father's side. They did not hug or tell each other they loved them or show affection in a traditional way so to speak. My Grandmother would make me a big cold pitcher of Kool-Aid as soon as I arrived and always had fresh-baked pies and goodies waiting for me. My Grandfather would give me rides on the back of his tractor and take me to the apple orchard, and he would pick different kinds of apples off the trees, tell me the type and name of it, and we would taste test them together. Likewise, my father also showed his love in actions and deeds, not so much in words or touch. I understand how you feel. I realize that they really loved me very much they just expressed it in how they felt comfortable. When I see my cousins now I make it a point to show them my love and affection for them. I hug them hello and goodbye and tell them I love them when we part. My cousin was taken aback once as he did not expect me to hug him and tell him I loved him, and he gave me a big smile and hugged me back. Be the first to show your family love, and they will follow.

@sabinahusic1555

2 жыл бұрын

It’s like you’re speaking for me. Hugs! ♥️

@ajvindiesel8517

4 ай бұрын

People with the biggest hearts always feel disappointed with others. Don't expect others to have your depth, consider yourself lucky that your heart is big while others haven't been blessed like that. Good luck .

yeah, I have completely shut down from relationships, the trauma is too much to overcome for me, the worst part is that most women, don't want normal friendships, once they see you are not interested in dating or in a relationship, they really don't want anything to do with you

@dezyriquez5764

3 жыл бұрын

Well what do U want then? If not relationship because you are “shut down” women might be thinking they’re wasting their time!!!

@beatupbyshar8346

2 жыл бұрын

Right me too I just be wanting a friend first however I just find that that part gets skipped and somehow im in a relationship with someone that I never wanted in the first place

I was having a lovely relationship for 4 months- suddenly I had a trigger and just ended it! I quickly realised that I had become disregulated and was fearing vulnerability after narcissistic abuse! I have explained this to him and I really hoping we can move forward from this! I have also booked on some more therapy to help me more 🫶🏻 he has every right to be cautious now! - I felt like the abuser this time! That’s awful! X

@XVNRX

10 ай бұрын

Yeah that’s pretty bad of you…..

@diane2413

9 ай бұрын

I am having a similar experience. For me we had a year of a long distance relationship and were living together for 7 months before things started to shift. So for the last 5 months we will have some days where it's great and we connect beautifully and other days when it's tough and I get confused. I haven't ended it although I did have a conversation where I implied it. He asked me to think about it. I did and I asked him to be patient with me and told him I was going to try and work on finding solutions and being less conflict oriented. He is away alot for work.

Yes, I am off relationships as well for now - just until I put my life together a bit, I am a big mess now and so being in a relationship is not really recommended! Loved your presentation, great points!

@andersa3448

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. I was with a covert narc for a few months and that was awful. Still healing.

@ibuprofenPill

Жыл бұрын

This is what I've said my entire life.

I've been struggling with emotional abandonment from my parents since forever. They never even apologise when I point out how their actions hurt me. They just ignore me. And that hurts like hell coz now I always see myself as a burden to them.

@JulieJordanScott

3 жыл бұрын

I can completely relate to this. A life long fear of abandonment.... from way back when. Thanks for reiterating this.

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3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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@stefaniakonstantinidou981

9 ай бұрын

You Don t need their approval. Our real father is God and He will never abandon you

My childhood wounds have constantly caused problems for me in my adult life. Up until a couple years ago I never knew the root of my insecurities and co-dependency were started with my relationship with my dad. No affection, not caring about my feelings, no words of affirmation, no emotional support. Thank goodness through counseling I was able to understand what has plaques me my entire life. I am working on myself to become a better me for a better future. Great topic Stephanie. Thank you and be well.

Unfortunately I can relate i tend to unknowingly self sabotage my relationships attach the wrong people 💔

8:50 Terrifying. Very relatable

Thank you Stephanie for bringing sun☀️ in my everyday 😊

But then those who fear love end up hurting others who trust them, and that hurt gets passed on. Smh.

I sure love your channel Stephanie! You present difficult topics in such practical sound ways that encourages ppl to take back their life again and then feel safe enough to open and share their lives with others. Many blessings!

Thank you, that makes so much sense

I'm 16 and never been in a relationship, I don't know why I'm so scared. I've always thought there's sum wrong with me

@brandongaribaldi8365

4 күн бұрын

Man I'm 24 and still haven't been in one

Thanks Stephanie for a such well-timed topic, again :) Stay safe and well!

Wow! you were so on target…thank you for reiterating over and over how important it is to love ourselves❤️ to take care of ourselves …so that whatever happens we’re not gonna fall apart👏 love you❤️

You are so amazing, it was as if you were talking to me directly when you speak of the neglect. Thank you Stephanie

Thanks so much Steph. I always get some positive learning and useful takeaways from you. You're helping me move forward from a breakup last September and really see and value myself. Bugs hugs to you. Billy x

I had to listen to this video 3x in a row for it to really sink with all the 💡moments in this video. I've never thought through how my family being one of those closed-off, non- affectionate families really affected me. Thank you so much for your content. Beyond helpful!!! ❤

Stephanie, your content is always so helpful. Thank you ❤️

11:45 this was amazing and i needed to hear this ty

A good amount of what you're saying is actually pretty spot on to what happened to me I'm glad I stumbled upon your video...

Wow this was very eye opening for me. Thanks so much for this in-depth information

Wow! Thank you so much for this video! I've been working on this stuff from scratch - this helps me so much.

This really helps. I have abandonment issues due to an ex and haven't been right ever since to where I just can't stand relationships or sex anymore. But this actually helps a lot thank you a lot!

As someone who was abused on all levels in a past relationship, as well as taken advantage of for a non-consensual first time at a party, it's been a rough time trying to sift through all the hurt to better myself. Hell, I'm still having problems. It took me more then 10 years just to try and date again after the party incident. The abusive relationship was fairly recently, but I am getting help and talking to others about it....but man, it was so hard to open up to others about it. I did not want anyone to know about any of the issues iv been burdening in my mind, but I wanted to just get it out in the open without knowing how. And when I did, certain people I figured would be helpful or supportive thought I was making it up or didnt care. And it wounded me even more.

I'm going through this now after getting out of an 8 year relationship in December. Now that I'm dating a really nice man it's so hard for me to accept his kindness. I really keep talking myself out of the connection. Trying to pray and stay positive but it's rough. Definitely have abandonment issues from my father as well 😢

Thank you so much. Just yesterday, I was feeling tender and a bit sad. And a few of my favourite youtubers (yourself included) happened to just upload new videos with titles that were exactly what I needed. It's like the universe answering my call

@leannesmith1207

3 жыл бұрын

And I was reflecting back to all the other times I've watched your videos- when I've been really unwell and completely lost emotionally and mentally. And I am so so grateful for your videos because it is good to know that the content you share is there for whenever I feel terrified and unsafe in the world, and that when I keep watching them it helps me get out of anything. I'm so grateful and you have helped me more than I can explain and more than you might ever know.

I have no fear of having another relationship. I understand where I stand

I was married twice. Divorced the 1st wife and my 2nd wife passed away. The mentally abuse in bother marriages was damaging to my trust issues. 3 years on my own and working through everything, I have recently met someone thats a nice person. My problem is insecurety and trust. I'm like scared this relationship might not work out too..... My heart is with her and I really have deep feelings for her, but my mind is playing tricks...??

This was truly an excellent presentation. It encompassed much of our programing of our past and how it impacts our current relationships. Thank you so much for your video. God bless you!

Spot on. You explained my childhood upbringing.

Wow..! 7:15 - 7:25 is EXACTLY my scenario. I use therapy and other practices to work through it. It has definitely affected how I show up in my relationships. I became a people pleaser and over-giver. Never wanting to make mistakes and also trusting unavailable people. I've learned that this is unhealthy and will only leave me feeling like I'm not enough. This is not the case at all. Thank you Stephanie, your videos help me so much! 🦋x

Stephanie, thank you for changing my life. I am completely indebted to you for all the work you have done. I’ve left this message a few times, but I truly and deeply mean it. I appreciate you and the sacrifices you’ve made to help others.

@StephanieLynCoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! I am so glad the videos have helped!

Thank you for all your videos , your information is very meaningful. I’m working thru the toxic relationship and I’m shying away from any relationship, I have huge trust issues and don’t let anyone in.. I’m trying to figure out my own life after the abusive BF.. I’m keeping the Faith and believe that better days to come . It’s time to heal, so I can roll on and Ride against the wind...

This talk deserves so many more likes ☺️🌈

Wow Stephanie Lyn your coaching thought processing is unforgettable.

As you said you were getting goose bumps, so was I, thank you.

Thank you so much for this wonderful video 🙏🏼

So well said. In 10 min all that I was looking for

Thank you Stephanie! Doing the inner work 🔭✨🙌🏽

@StephanieLynCoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Yes 👏

Emotional abandonment OOF! Had a session with a client this morning who described being with someone he's close to, but feeling unheard, invalidated and brushed over. SO important. I love the way you're talking through this experience and impact.

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3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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Not abandoning yourself 🤔 that’s a thought I never heard before. Something to really think on.

Thank you so much for all of your hard work.

Very helpful. Thank you ❤️

Very groundbreaking!

Absolutely if a parent wants respect they need to give to you as a child the trust died for me years ago

Ty for your knowledge

thank you for these. Again.

When you said you never learned not to abandon yourself I bursted into tears. So relatable. Thank you for being a light house in my better understanding of myself.

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3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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Your videos have literally given me mental hope. You make so much sense and these are the things i needed to hear and work on. Thank u x

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3 жыл бұрын

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@ethanjordan5453

3 жыл бұрын

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Thank you. So I'll treat it like a journey.

Thanks for this video

Your videos are very much appreciated

@StephanieLynCoaching

3 жыл бұрын

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I don't want to get to close to somebody. What if I tell them my dreams and they crush them and tell me to be realistic when thinking about my future? I've never dated before but I doubt that I ever will with this question holding me back.

Holy Moly Donut Shop?!?? How crazy is that ... Exactly how I was feeling today... Sometimes our human vulnerabilities take the best of us..yip, even if I'm getting positive feedback it's quite humbling but I'm not ready for a relationship... learning how to shake off the feeling off betrayal etc to let that go and acknowledging how I'm feeling. Feels quite strong and liberating.. yet still shaking off the negativity and doubt. I had to let that steam out a little bit extra at the gym today.. Thanx for your guidance, It's almost as if you know what we are going through while we're going through it very insightful Thank you for your help and wisdom... Respectfully Matt

Yup, both parents walked away from me and my siblings in my later teens. Growing up they weren’t emotionally there but physically there and abusive. Then they walked away and the physical abandonment took place. This messed me up for years. This is spot on. In a relationship after a emotionally abusive one who also abandoned me for someone else. I’m in a new relationship and I’m terrified. He waited for five months for me. He loves me and patient and I don’t want to hurt him, he’s scared i’m gonna hurt him though.

I've never been in a relationship before..but I'm terrified of getting into one. You could say I've never had good role models. I was born from an affair and never met my father, the only thing I know about him, is that he wanted my mom to abort me. I grew up with my uncle and mom, she was depressed and he was the only male example I've had...an alcoholic that would get aggressive very often. Then my mom got married, and the guy treated us both like sh*t. Then she divorced and we moved in with my "grandpa" who thinks women are maids and can't do anything without a man. I'm still a minor but I'm going to be 18 soon, all my friends already started dating, and I'm so happy for one of them, who found a really nice guy! I, on the other hand, realized that every time a guy does as much as show interest I start to push them back with all I've got. I'm not sure why, but I suppose I'm scared of being vulnerable, I don't know how to. Even at home. I grew up knowing that I had to either be tough or see everything crumble...I don't have a place to call home, or a safe space, it's just constantly a fight from the moment I wake up to when I go to sleep. I even had to take a gap year at school, I'm searching for a job this year..so my idea of a "normal childhood" wasn't exactly "normal" which might have contributed to this mess. I was once quick to let people in, but I'm so, so scared of letting someone close to my heart now, and even more so to let go of control. I'm also too much of a perfectionist, I usually don't do things I'm not sure I'll be good at so there's that too.. failing is scary. Somehow it feels like I'm broken and that hurts 10 times more :')

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5 ай бұрын

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@leannesmith1207

2 жыл бұрын

Omg just realised I've already watched and commented 3 months ago apparently haha!! It's great when you can see something through new eyes and it feels like new info again!

Thank you so much.

My brain believes its worth it and is trying to talk me into it but when i feel those feelings i can't handle it and i shut down everything

Thank you!

My problem is that I was excited about a new relationship and now I feel these things are coming up for me again. I dont know what is real relationship issues and what is trauma coming back. I have started to feel unsafe and unloved. I feel like i need to pull back and keep things to myself more often.

Also my parents never understood me on any level they reject who I want to be and my passions and truly don’t get me .

I've really enjoyed watching this video thank you!

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3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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Thank You ☺❤

Thank you so much!

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3 жыл бұрын

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This is literally applies to everyone. That’s the sad part. After a divorce, fix yourself all you want, but you’re still on an island of misfit toys.

I've been incredibly Hurt. I would open up to him and tell him how I feel. He would not acknowledge my feelings and then ignore me instead of validating how I feel. It's caused alot of pain and damage

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@danielmorg8155

3 жыл бұрын

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30 years avoiding relationships of ANY kind after a sudden breakup which I never was able to work out - it haunts me everyday I wake up and fall asleep - Afraid of ANY form of intimacy (When I felt myself falling for someone I would avoid ever seeing that person again) - Afraid of marriage (As long as I still had feelings making vows to anyone else would feel like cheating) - Afraid of having children (I dreaded that I would someday look into the eyes of my future child and feel regret) I’m sharing this as a ‘cautionary tale’….Too late for me If you’ve just gone through a savage break THERE’S NOTHING AFTER YOU DIE THERE’S NO DO OVERS THERE’S NO NEW LIFE WHERE YOU REBOOT OR RESET AND CAN TRY AGAIN DON’T WAIT 30 YEARS TO TO GET HELP Grab that person that makes you feel whole, have lots of kids AND LIVE A FULL LIFE No one is going to give it to you in your lap

Been avoiding relationships since 2013. I don't think it will ever change.

@aurinkobay7118

Жыл бұрын

I feel the same

Thank you

@okujiruth9991

2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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I am 27 and have never been in a relationship, I havent really been attracted to someone and when I try I always feel like the other person WANTS something from me either sex or physical touch right away. To me that is hard to do since I need a connection to even rationalize trying to be physical. But I am trying to date and it always feela like I am trying to compromise for certain things and I end up getting nothing out of the relationship. Even if I find some connection, I am afraid of it going beyond and the next level. It scares me. Im not comfortable with it and it just makes me think of the same thing, "they are just doing all the can to secure me and dont really want to get to know me" I cant even picture myself in a relationship. But I dont want to get older and be alone. But I am comfortable as I am now. And I am tired of being pursued and using my energy on this.

I agree Except dealing with a teenager daughter who has been brainwashed and spoiled by her Narcissist dad and Narcissistic Grandmother, I can't deal with her crazy nonsense every day! 😤 I'm so exhausted from taking care of my kids since their dad abandoned us I have no patience anymore. Yep I'm afraid of getting into a relationship with a Narcissist again because it's all I've ever had Except with a few golden genuine friends left who haven't stabbed me yet. The BEAUTY of being an INFJ is we can sustain ourselves on our own and we don't need to be validated by someone else. 💖💪

Thank you so much

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3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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@StephanieLynCoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Why do people leave this strange comments.

3:11 ...yep

Now days it's really hard to find someone that's true and it's like a lot have been ruined because of the matrix system fb, etc, or they are just damaged and toxic, it's like walking in a mine of bomb's,but at least we know all the red flags to watch out for.👍 up Stephanie

What you said about showing up and being yourself it's more than likely going to make the other person to show up and be their selves and you can have very real conversations because people like to mirror back what they see in someone else. So if your real with me and if I can get to the place where that person really accepts and understands me and I feel comfortable with that person, it will take some time trying to feel safe with this person then I'll be able to not be so closed off because if I feel you understand me truly, have my best interests at heart I'd feel reasurred to be able to open up. If I felt I had to work for your affection, if I felt that your the type to judge others and you criticise me there's no way I'm going to be emotionally capable of opening up to you because I won't feel accepted. If I told that person the worst things, I would feel like they could leave because if I have to fight to get your attention I know they only like me for what they see. Plus, I do feel it with some people. Like I can tell them this is what's happened but I'd deal with my emotions about it privately as best as I could. There was this girl who I only cried twice in front of once when my boyfriend had broken up with me and she got angrier with him than I was at first over a message and she was like how could he do this to you and she was very angry, actually unbeknown to me started laying into him. I think there was a time when she cared about her friends and on some level I did appreciate that was her way of sticking up for me. She was sort of there for me the second time I cried but I don't think she was fully equipped to deal with sadness and pain from other people. I never felt I could go to her with a problem I'd just go to someone else, I did help her out one time when she was breaking down at work over her one relationship and I when she said she wanted to go i took her home on the bus. I remember she was in her bed upset with tears and I felt like I had to ask her if she wanted a hug she just shook her head, and then I said it was me who needed the hug and then I got a hold of her. I mean, I was there for her nights when she was throwing up in clubs, I had to fight with her one friend who just told me to leave her to be sick in a bowl with her hair half in there and when she needed to throw up I was there, holding her. I think there was a friendship there - I knew however if I wanted a good time I'd go out with her. I'd go shopping with her, id go to the gym with her I did quite a lot of things with her. She was very active and on the go and I loved that. We did argue with each other over things she'd be blaming me for something and we'd be arguing back and forth for hours over our phones because I was at a point in my life where I wasn't taking other people's crap so much. The first time she stone walled me, that hurt. I didn't cry in front of her but I did and just a lot of stuff went on between us a lot of situations where I'd expect her to act as a friend and be loyal to me but she didn't. I think a part of me at first didn't want to loose what we had so although we'd argue but because I'd put her in her place I felt like as long as I stood up for myself then the friendship could continue. And she did loose a lot of her other friends who I was close to so it want just me. I actually did warn her that something like that would happen if she didn't stop and it would be a crying shame if she lost one friend in particular which she did. Everyone got sick of her nonsense bit by bit and although I tried to make it work even though the relationship between us was strained in the end but even I got to the place where I didn't want to be treated like crap and ignored and then suddenly go out and do something with her. She used to send blank text messages to me or pretend the message was for someone else and I remembered just looking at the message seeing how nice she could actually be to someone else and then I knew the behaviour I was getting back wasn't from a friend and it was then when I had nothing to do with her. I wasn't going to allow myself for her to be a part of my life to get treated very differently than a good friend when I did have some good friends in my life then because I could feel the difference between these other people in my life and her.

@ethanjordan5453

3 жыл бұрын

It is hard to give up on love and we can always make our relationship a success so we have to fight for the one we love after my husband left me for months I was lonely, sad and devastated luckily I was directed to a very kind and powerful man Doctor Roarke who helped me brought back my husband and now he loves me far more than ever am so happy with life now thank you so much 🦋😊😊❤❤😊😊❤🙏🥰

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The thing is, I'm terrified of relationships because men are doing bad things. I'm a woman so I am attracted to men only, but I see what men do to other women. It's this thing called self preservation. Also, I'm asexual so a man will get tired of being rejected and dumb me for another woman, not worth it. But we have this hope in Jesus Christ, that even if we don't have husbands or children, we have eternal hope in Jesus name. There is a heaven for the eunuch and asexual.

@aventura9182

9 ай бұрын

Their stories are not your story, their history background is not your history background, their family is not your familiy. Dont let your story be written by others people experience. It´s the most convenient thing to hope that some day in heaven everything will be fine. But that is not the purpose of life... Life is a blank sheet of paper waiting for you to be painted with all of your emotions and experiences. And guess what? You are already living in this realm called heaven or hell... and you are the creator of it.

@foreverworshipjesuschrist3263

9 ай бұрын

@@aventura9182 My understanding of life is different. I believe that God created me and my only purpose in life is to do his will and obey his commandments. Jesus Christ came to make that easier for us and explained how we should live and behave in the bible. That is my only purpose in life, I literally have nothing else to live for. Nothing else gives me purpose or meaning so I will fear God and obey his commandments.

Hai, I am your new subscriber I just wanna know to how to overcome something which is bothering you without getting involved in it and get focused to do your thing correctly and that is good for society. Thanks for the information.

I definitely have that fear I was with a woman for almost 12 years and had a child with her and then she cheated on me and I caught her and it destroyed me and ever since then I haven't been able to allow myself to be happy at least in that way I'm constantly scared I'm just going to have my heart ripped out again..... I guess the thing that bugs me is that that happened many years ago but still leaves the anxiety feeling like the wounds are fresh

My family was good. It was everyone at school who was horrifically negative to the mildly autistic kid. Its ruined me until now. Going for relationships doomed to fail or I didn't love anyway

and spiritual abandonment. when and why did i loose faith in loving self?!

I'm extremely anxious over my boyfriend's bond with his ex wife of 18 yrs. They sometimes have hour phone chats..I have such fear and feel like my instincts are telling me to run.

@Jakilyn

Жыл бұрын

Wish I would've trusted my intuition. ONE day after I ended it, they got back together.

Please help me open my heart I am so disconnected from my heart and this life I’ve had a lot of physical and emotional trauma

Hi, your wideo is amazing. Thank you so much❤but there is something wrong with subtitles, it don't match to what you say

This video resonated with me. None of us has perfect parents. But if we experienced childhood trauma, we are definitely handicapped with respect to knowing how to experience intimacy. It's very helpful to parent ourselves, and choose healthy partners and healthy behaviors in our relationships.

@StephanieLynCoaching

3 жыл бұрын

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I was emotionally abandon from his death 😢

What do you say to the toxic/narcissist friend or family member that confronts you for avoiding them? I want to limit my time around them as much as possible, but they will definitely notice when I’m always keeping interactions brief and not putting effort into conversations.

@ethanjordan5453

3 жыл бұрын

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@ethanjordan5453

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Question, 2 parts: (I'm 45) My biological father left when I was 4-5 yo. My mother remarried to the great man who raised me and my brother. I have never known any love for my biological father. Is it possible to have unknown abandonment issues there? Part 2: My older bother (3 years) was my hero growing up. Around age 8, my bother started treating me like an unwanted little kid. It never changed. One day after trying to continuously reach out to him, I decided to stop let him contact me. That was over 10 years ago. Question is, could this "abandonment" affect romantic relationships?

@faithanikpeh7238

3 жыл бұрын

Hello are you planning to get your ex. Can why don’t you try dr oba he was the one that help me get my ex back

@faithanikpeh7238

3 жыл бұрын

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Self fulfilling prophecy