It's really hard to love yourself when no one does.

@TheDarkstar3601

Жыл бұрын

yep. i assume u were never loved properly as a child as well?

@FactsFromPanda.

Жыл бұрын

​@@TheDarkstar3601 yaa never felt that 😅

@atlantishorizon

Жыл бұрын

I know right.

@adaargun9375

Жыл бұрын

You are right but people do not like us because they do not know the real us. We are the only one who exactly knows why we are the way we are. However, if we do not love ourselves it will be much harder to deal with being disliked

@coupecruiser

Жыл бұрын

The thing is how does a person love themselves? I believe it’s inspecting all that enters our minds, hearts, boy and souls. So for me its about setting our own boundaries and limit what we will tolerate. Why be with a person who repeatedly treats you badly? Is that loving yourself?

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” ― Mark Twain

@bobfromsoireegames4309

2 жыл бұрын

Also, try being under 6 ft tall as a man. Teehee!

@leahflower9924

2 жыл бұрын

@@bobfromsoireegames4309 I assume that's tough im a 5'9" female and I felt like a giant in high school I used to worry I wouldn't stop growing

@darrenmcintosh8471

Жыл бұрын

everything inside job you dont need a women your enough by your self loneliness is all in your head change your thinking and your change how you feel

@darrenmcintosh8471

Жыл бұрын

@@bobfromsoireegames4309 your heights not a problem your internal monologue is

@RizzGodess

Жыл бұрын

Felt.

When he said “feel like our best is not enough and our worst is too much” that’s literally exactly how I feel

I really needed this today, when you go through failure after failure in relationships, you start to feel like you're just not good enough for a relationship.

@speakacademyespana

Жыл бұрын

It’s very hard to see clearly when your stuck in a pattern loop. Good luck 🍀

@DepecheMode5

Жыл бұрын

We are, it's okay

@AlcoholicGoblin

7 ай бұрын

At least you can get into one

@fruityasapeach

6 ай бұрын

Not even relationships - talking stages, especially ones when everything goes so good and ends as always..

@MS-ns4ki

3 ай бұрын

I gotta get fat

I have a coach who recommends saying "I'm working through this" rather than "I'm struggling with this". I find that framing to be really helpful.

@Medietos

2 жыл бұрын

Agree; struggling doens't sound very attractive.

@Flokoli1

2 жыл бұрын

@@marypp6926 very very trustworthy comment

@merncat3384

2 жыл бұрын

I love that

@ChristianaSenibo

2 жыл бұрын

That is a beautiful reframe

@darrenmcintosh8471

Жыл бұрын

internal monologue creates your reality life not happeing to you its responsing to you everything outside of us is noting more than a mental projectrary of whats going on within us

“We have to risk someone won’t want us when we reveal that thing” Dam, that hit hard…

@opticalman6417

Жыл бұрын

i dont need to waste my time i know it will only result in rejection so my days of pursuing women are well and truly over doesnt matter if they show interested in me got no desire anymore for something i know wont go no where

@Joel-pg4yi

Жыл бұрын

What thing

I used to think that I could never be in a relationship because guys around me seemed to only want to do intimate things / be casual with me and not be in a relationship with me. I used to wonder what was wrong with me but now I've realized I've just been choosing the wrong guys and I AM worthy of a relationship! I really had to work on my own self confidence before I reached this point

@oponomo

2 жыл бұрын

You are worthy. Keep noticing you on the comments Sam ^^. Keep awesome you gorgeous woman!

@SamElle

2 жыл бұрын

@@oponomo thank you so so much!!! 😊

@Atalanta01

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. Now I know better, and feel so much more confident in myself. I don’t feel eager to rush into anything nor the need to impress someone else to keep them around.

@aprilabatas9220

2 жыл бұрын

Same feeling my dear. My last relationship made me think that way. I was so blessed for he dumped me(mind game that he taught I will chase him)

@KM-jp6hm

2 жыл бұрын

Same 🥺🥺🥺

I finally got myself my first man who saw my bad days by day 30 of dating me and still supported and stayed with me. Sometimes length of time doesn't determine the strength of your relationship, only the character of the person does. Same applies for relationships and friendships

@ChloboM69

2 жыл бұрын

I don't think matt meant to show them on literal day 300, it was an example. The longer you're together the chances are higher for them to be understanding. He also said some are able to cope with our weaknesses and others aren't, he's one of those who's able to 😁 happy for you both

@HaloHuntress

2 жыл бұрын

We were together for months and when I was sad and vulnerable they left and didn't want to deal with it. I wish I would've known sooner they wouldn't be supportive. It hurts and makes you never want to open up again.

@WillGonja

Жыл бұрын

You mean you found a man that was tired of watching porn...... Getting a guy is easy all we want is Love and Affection. You ladies on the other hand you want everything my wallet can buy as well as everything it can't and then you decide weather or not we are "Good Enough" Based off of that and that alone..... A man's Emotions mean absolutely nothing to 95% of the Female Population.

"Our best won't be good enough,and our worst will be too much for somebody " As someone who lives with a challenging chronic health condition and unable to feel worthy of love because of it....This sentence sums up what I feel in my heart of hearts!

@jonasprov4883

Жыл бұрын

I know it's easier said than done, but go for it, girl. If God allowed you to be struggling, He' done it with the best purpose, has gave you the grace to be able to carry on and will make a greater good from a bad thing. And remember what Saint Teresa d'Ávila said: "The cross is heavy for those who drag it, not for those who embrace it.

@seidenschnabelfederflugel5441

Жыл бұрын

I totally get it. I feel often the same way. ♥️ I hope we will get to the other side.

@ronbusby3335

Жыл бұрын

I feel the exact same way. I pray that your doing better now. -God bless you.

@Alex-bl8uh

9 ай бұрын

I felt the same as a chronically ill man. But I recently was proven otherwise. She drives me and cares so much about me whenever my energy levels are very low. We talk about everything very honestly and the connection is so deep, I haven't thought it could be possible. And it's all because I had not seen the chance of that to ever work out, so I was the most real me that I could be. No fassade, nothing. Pure connection.

@notimetodienttd1115

9 ай бұрын

@@Alex-bl8uh Happy for your happiness..Blessing and peace from another continent..🙏🤗

Our vulnerability can be a bonding factor in a relationship but also can be a weapon for someone to use it against us. So we need be cautious and show our vulnerability wisely..

@dootersnooter5343

9 ай бұрын

Sometimes they're not even trying to hurt you. Just making sure you have the self-esteem and boundaries to maintain your opinions or put in effort to deal with the insecurity that arises when someone starts saying something that makes you feel worthless. And not falling into blaming even if they did do something wrong and instead asking what you can do for yourself and how you can learn to talk about this in a productive way for both people.

@notimetodienttd1115

9 ай бұрын

@@dootersnooter5343 Excellent points..💯💯

"Not everyone is ready for your vulnerability" 👍🏻👍🏻

If you’re honest about you vulnerabilities, make sure it’s not with a Narcissist

@ella3457

2 жыл бұрын

my friend contact him immediately now for help, I can assure you all will be fine with a good result.🌹🌹

@ella3457

2 жыл бұрын

† 2349134178367🌹⏭⏭⏭⏭☝️🌹🌹

I have a physical disability. And I have been upfront about it. I'm good talking to guys via email, text and phone, but when they finally meet me, it all falls apart. So the "not good enough" feeling comes from my physical self, not from my emotional / intellectual self. I've erased all dating apps, because I see my future laid out for me as being single forever.

@shemseh

2 жыл бұрын

Never lose hope, what's inside is always what really matters and to be honest, dating apps are not very good at all and it seems like only one type of person is in there, the superficial ones most of the time 😅 wish you all the best 💗

@magorzatazioo3382

2 жыл бұрын

Matthew added a video from one of the retreats with a lady who lost her leg in a hit and run. She was giving insight into her dating life. She lost all hope after the accident as she wanted to have a family. She went to the retreat and learned that its her confidence that stands her. She had an immense sense of humour, Scottish humour:) She went on numerous dates and it all went wrong. One day she met a person who simply said "and so what ?" and that was only when when she accepted who she is as a person. Now she has a family with that man and a baby. It can get better, its hard and hurts so bad, but it is possible. I couldnt find the video, but its somewhere on Matthew"s profile. I am not marketing the retreat but I was touched by this woman"s story. We all have to change our mindsets in a way -to be more accepting of who we are as human beings and that is full.of love, compassion, beauty, generosity and kindness:)

@mirand0la

2 жыл бұрын

I have a disability too, so I can relate. I was upfront about it also with the people I dated. Now here's my experience: I did form relationships that lasted years, but they were extremely difficult. Basically, all those people, 100 % ended up abusing me, cheating, constantly reminding me that I should accept little from life because I was "broken" and they could do better than me. And I believed them, until I had enough. I have been single for years and years now, I know my worth and my life is better than it was in any relationship I've ever tried. I have excellent friends and they are enough. Being single can be a blessing, so if it happens to you too, just take it as a gift - you avoided the worst. Maybe you will find someone good for you, maybe you won't. In any of those cases, the greatest love you will ever receive is from yourself, if you have it, you will never ever lose it. It is the only love you can swear by.

@starzintheskyz4477

11 ай бұрын

Same

@sarab.2873

17 күн бұрын

​@@mirand0laI watched that video, very sad but hopeful & inspiring. Also, very beautiful what you said.😌

You wont be able to allow someone to value you until you value something about yourself. Realizing you are worthy of love will not only protect you from those who wont value you, but will allow the person who does value you into your heart.

@emp9413

2 жыл бұрын

Ding ding ding. Absolute must. They call it 'secure attachment types- trusting others and yourself

@marypp6926

2 жыл бұрын

+:2:3:4:9:1:3:0:0:5:4:0:8:7: whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here💬

@amarie6223

2 жыл бұрын

Wow that's beautiful 😍😍😍

@derrickdomino7287

Жыл бұрын

Yeah but who

@CrankyBarista

Жыл бұрын

@@derrickdomino7287 whoever fits these parameters. Perhaps someone you already know, or someone you havn't met yet... 🤷‍♀️

"What people see upfront might be impressive but when people really get to know me they might find that I'm too much..." THIS this right here. This is the explanation I'm given at every dumping. I can't explain how hurtful it is.

@sandyp1601

2 жыл бұрын

me too!

@NaTa-bh8wb

2 жыл бұрын

I haven’t been told this but I know I have a tendency to overwhelm someone when I feel vulnerable and insecure.

@audraelynnegrimmelhaussen8808

2 жыл бұрын

Not sure if this will help but it's not just you. All women seem to think that way or are given reasons like that. And it's not cut and dried as just a guy not being into you. I suggest you read "Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's soul" by Stasi Eldredge. I found it to be very helpful.

@KM-jp6hm

2 жыл бұрын

Same, but it seems at first guys pretend to be understanding. They do this to get intimacy or whatever they can get out of me. Then they use this as an excuse to dump me. I have ptsd and get triggered from past abuse. I’m working on it, I waited to date. Like I’m not perfect, but it becomes too much for other person. I’m picking wrong men anyways, but it probably would be a problem for the right ones too.

@tmalaklaryka

2 жыл бұрын

Same, all the time 💔

I'm 24 years and all I've known is rejection and non-reciprocated love

I am 57 years old and I have loved only one person in my life and after eight and a half years they left, they left me to be with someone else. That was 20 years ago and I have closed myself off because I still have that wound of not feeling I’m good enough. I know I’m broken, it’s been so long, that the language of love now seems foreign to me.

People give up easily on others now a days no matter how they tried to love themselves, I've noticed those who don't care about the feelings of the others are more happier than the ones who always try not to hurt people.

3 minutes in and this is so relatable. I've been feeling like this my entire life. I still do because I've been alone for a very very very long time. Thank you for this

@colainebradly786

2 жыл бұрын

hey Angelie, how are you doing

@laraking804

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate. I haven't dated in 10 years. Between building my business, keeping fit and staying on top of my industry there simply wasn't any time. Then COVID happened and it killed my business. Now I have in theory time (because of lockdown) but I need to start my entire life again from scratch so basically I don't have time. I also feel that financially now I am not in a place to date...struggling entrepreneur with long hours ahead. I really feel worthless at the moment. Too old to start over and I've been single so long I can't even imagine finding someone to date. I feel I'm too flawed to date. It's easy to say just accept yourself. Well there's no on/off switch for that.

@angeliet.4756

2 жыл бұрын

@@laraking804 Hey Lara, first of all you are not worthless and even if you feel it I guarantee you that it's not true. Is there an age limit to starting over? I don't think so. Even if you're 90 and wrinkly you can start over I mean give yourself some credits. For 10 years you've been working hard and working on yourself. And I'm sorry for your business I'm sure you'll get back on top of your game. As for being flawed ... aren't we all? I understood that I had to be in solitude for a while and I made peace with that. Because I wouldn't know myself the way I do and I'm still learning more every day. If you feel like you're too flawed to date it's okay the person who you'll date will be flawed too. So carry your flaws and all that you are with grace love and pride. Open your heart and let your flawed self be loved. Let's normalize happiness despite everything happening to us. You deserve to have it all.

@dreamz9802

2 жыл бұрын

angelie plz check mi on ma email

Irrespective of your relationship statues,try be the best woman you can be both financial and otherwise.... I am 42 years old single mum living in California I'm hoping to retire at 50 if things keep going well for me. Bought my first house last month and I can't be more proud than I am right now. I am so glad I made good decisions about my finances that changed me forever.

@stellamark3150

2 жыл бұрын

Kudos pretty lady. You're really doing well at your age. I'm 45 and my finances is quite messy, I'm hoping you could share some tips to help.

@marypeter7729

2 жыл бұрын

I'm a single mother too, got divorced 2 years ago from a toxic marriage and it's really not been that bad for me. Am trying to put my finances in shape.Every month I invest 50% of my income in crypt0-currencies and stocks, I really thank God for passive income.

@bryandonald6474

2 жыл бұрын

@@marypeter7729 nice

@MariaSantos-gx5fk

2 жыл бұрын

@@marypeter7729 Amazing I want to buy my own house... that's really amazing!

@hildajames6627

2 жыл бұрын

@@marypeter7729 wow!! you're really doing great yourself. investing in stocks and crypto-currency also contributed in changing my life story. I wish you all the best and I am happy you're having great journey so far.God bless you.

In my opinion a lot of people are not showing their real personality. A lot of people show what they themself want to be or how "man/woman" want them to be. It is not just about flaws and vulnerability. You explained that soo extremely well. If we aren't real about ourself- we won't be able to GET the partner we NEED and that will fit with you and your life. The first thing we need to know is ourselves and this is not as easy as it sounds. Just because we have been along all our life does not mean we know about our characteristics and needs.

@marypp6926

2 жыл бұрын

+:2:3:4:9:1:3:0:0:5:4:0:8:7: whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here

@mariak9397

2 жыл бұрын

@@marypp6926 I already know where to turn to when I need help. AND I really doubt you had to deal with whatever I am dealing with at the moment or had to deal with. 🤣

@jeffluehrs4400

3 ай бұрын

I feel the same

I always felt lonely my whole life since childhood and now adulthood. I really wish I never existed sad world to live in.

@notimetodienttd1115

Жыл бұрын

Dont ever be dear. Smile and give your best in everything you do...Exude positive aura. There is someone out there that is your match and still searching for you...And try incorporate some natural stones into your daily life like crystals and agates e.g Rose Quartz, Strawberry, Labradorite, Amazonite, Selenite, Tourmaline, Carnelian, Rabbit Hair, Amethyst, Lepidolite to help kick start and build up positive mind, good aura and enhance your energy and spirit and to aid in your love life.. Give it a try dear. Best wishes 🙏💕💕🌷

@angelicagrayson9491

Жыл бұрын

@@notimetodienttd1115 Ok. Thank you!❤

@achiebenas5286

Жыл бұрын

@@angelicagrayson9491 get the best out of This life I swear I believe in You. Accept the bad things and clear your vision in a good way

@angelicagrayson9491

Жыл бұрын

@@achiebenas5286 Ok. Thank you! It's been hard for me

@davidbowman2035

Жыл бұрын

You are of value

Please make a video about how to realize that we are actually the one that's toxic in the relationship. what if I am the one who has all the red flags that I've been trying to identify from other people

@dizmop

2 жыл бұрын

An extremely good point

@crackthecat-of8cs

2 жыл бұрын

Observe ur behaviour ....and ir interaction with dates. ..if there is pattern that something ur doing which is stopping u from relation... identify it and simply work on it.

@jugy4656

2 жыл бұрын

Listen to your close ones, there is always someone willing to call out your flaws particularly if you ask them to.

@opticalman6417

Жыл бұрын

it all comes down to self awarness what you see in others is a reflection of self you can either reject or projected your own aspects this greatly depends on where your at in terms of self awarness and willingness

@paprikagames

Жыл бұрын

Iam the red flag i think thats why i distance myself from others

The pain you get when you have to move on with the feeling that you’ll never be good enough for him- even though he’s not even your boyfriend but you have some twisted thing between you and him. I never saw myself watching these videos 😞Thank you so much! So I can makeup my mind to sleep and leave every behind one day.

8:34 Thank u so much for these words "If we can accept ourselves for who we are today with all the mistakes, then we can build on that, so we are not coming from a place pf hating ourselves, we're coming from a place of love"

I so needed to hear this, as someone who has not ever been in a relationship, it had me thinking something must be wrong with me. But, really, you need to love yourself first and let others into your life. It's hard but it should be natural!

That’s true. No one has more contexts about us than us. I went to school throughout 12 years but eventually, no one stays with me but myself

I was finally vulnerable to my guy. I told him that sometimes I get depressed. They said they would stay around no matter. One night it happened. I was crying and saying hurtful things. I apologized the next day and said I am working on this and I hope they understood I was lashing out and hurt. I hoped that they could support me through it. They broke up with me that day. A year later they are married with two children. I am afraid of ever being with someone again. I was vulnerable and open with a struggle and they abandoned me because of it. It only took one moment of not being happy and fun to turn them away. They moved on to another so quickly and marriage after knowing someone less than a year after our break. How can I ever trust someone again with my sadness? They can say they will love you know matter what but, when you show that you are human and feel sad sometimes they run.

@momobea2378

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe I’d wasn’t the sadness as much as saying hurtful things. Matthew says it isn’t the wounds that are hard to deal with; it’s the weapons. Sadness is your wound, but saying hurtful things is the weapon. Please don’t be hard on yourself. You did the best you could, and you are working through it in order to be ready for the one who is better than the one in the past.

@b3a3n3a3n3a3s

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but the other person also has a responsibility to their own mental health and it's not fair to expect someone to stick around no matter how you treat them. I'm not saying you need to be perfect to be in a relationship but if the way in which your issues manifest themselves is that you become abusive to the people around you then maybe the focus right now needs to be on getting control on your behaviour. I've been in the opposite situation where I tried to stick around to support someone's issues and because I loved them but all it was really doing was allowing myself to be abused and it definitely wasn't helping anyone. What they needed was professional help, not me. You really do have the strength to get better, it may take a lot of time and effort but you can do it. You are a loveable person, it's just that the behaviour is getting in the way of having a healthy relationship and at the end of the day we each have to take responsibility for ourselves. Wishing you all the best for the future.

@HaloHuntress

2 жыл бұрын

@@b3a3n3a3n3a3s I can agree with you if this was a situation where it was a constant issue but in this case I lost two close relatives and was grieving. I did tell him I didn't feel cared for, which I know must've hurt him. Looking back though, I'm glad he left because if he could easily leave when I was grieving, I can't imagine how he would've been during Covid or any of the other times I may have needed basic support. But I respectfully see your perspective and can agree with leaving if it is an abusive situation.

@CarinaCRamos

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you...

@b3a3n3a3n3a3s

2 жыл бұрын

@Dinah N I know. Neither is yours or anyone elses. Since that is very obvious, why did you feel that comment was necessary? All the best wishes to you.

Anyone else cry throughout this whole video?

@Matthew Hussey my biggest problem is my Asperger's syndrome. My condition is very mild and I hide it to a point but when someone I loved has found out it's either resulted in being friend zoned or worse taken advantage of and abused. This is a vulnerability I have struggled with for a long time. I think this is a video to consider accepting yourself having a hidden disability, being embracing of it and not being afraid of being open about it.

@elusiva9389

2 жыл бұрын

Hugs to you🤗

@zoewebster3907

2 жыл бұрын

Wishing you every happiness and love in the world David! Someone will come along that loves you for WHO you are 😊🙏🏽💓

@ChloboM69

2 жыл бұрын

I have Autism, to a moderate degree and yes some do take advantage of you but that says more about them than it does about you. You need to be careful who you let in, like matt says, don't reveal this on day 3 but closer to day 300, then they know you and understand you better to be able to accept it. Although it won't stop someone taking advantage but it's learning to notice those traits and walking away before they take too much advantage of you. I'm staying single and when I date I'll be picky and specific, I won't be wasting my own time on users or abusers anymore. Good luck to you ❤️

@zeedo666

2 жыл бұрын

I know at least 4 aspi people: two of them are weirdly cute, and one is very smart and impressive because of his lateral thinking and observations about life and people's behaviour.

@marypp6926

2 жыл бұрын

+:2:3:4:9:1:3:0:0:5:4:0:8:7: whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here💬

I normally would say “ if you can’t take me at my worst then you don’t deserve me at all.” That’s just me but Matt hitting the nail on its head once again 💕✨

I appreciate that there's no cliché dramatic background music in this video.

@HTHTNT77

Жыл бұрын

Yes, thank goodness!

Meeting differnt guys to spot mr right. Not being attached to anyone, choosing wisely.

@peacejoy3629

2 жыл бұрын

It's hard draining and a waaste of energy

I'm a guy, and I have a weird fetish for wearing high heels in bed lol. And I have been so FUCKING scared of telling a woman about it as I was afraid she would dump me (oh she might think im gay, transgender, too weird etc.). But then I found a girl with whom I revealed it to and she accepted it. It elevated our relationship beyond next level! So even if you have oddities in your luggage that you fear others will reject, if they are a CENTRAL part of your persona: THROW IT OUT THERE - sooner rather than later. In worse case, you won't waste time on her (or him).

@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light

2 жыл бұрын

That's beautiful🧚‍♀️

@marypp6926

2 жыл бұрын

+:2:3:4:9:1:3:0:0:5:4:0:8:7: whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here💬

@Joel-pg4yi

Жыл бұрын

I have the fetish I can never tell no one

@lecomtedeneuch9994

Жыл бұрын

😂😂 dude I laughed way to hard. You're awesome bro. Don't change

lts really hard to love yourself when no one does not love you 😢

"The relationship within yourself, with yourself" 💙 - by far the most important and worthwhile relationship to focus on at all times! Thank you, Matt, you're a soothing voice amongst all the external noise out there

@ella3457

2 жыл бұрын

my friend contact him immediately now for help, I can assure you all will be fine with a good result.🌹🌹

@ella3457

2 жыл бұрын

† 2349134178367🌹⏭⏭⏭⏭🌹✅

@opticalman6417

Жыл бұрын

thank for true word xxxxx

This video came out just in the nick of time. Ive been GREATLY struggling with this. Thank you💗💗 you're videos have been helping me for YEARS

sadly some of us will never experence what it like to be loved and feel love for another

@ahhou5800

Жыл бұрын

You are not alone, bro, 22+ years and still never get into relationship yet

Matt this is one of my favourite videos you've done. I've struggled for so long with anxiety and I'm so afraid with being vulnerable with someone about this but this video was SO helpful. Thank you so much! Can't wait to attend your retreat in September x

Thanks Matthew for your videos. It’s very challenging to want to be seen by others and be that vulnerable when feeling unlovable. We just have to put ourselves out there and hope for the best

You have just touched the most vulnerable part of us so beautifully....felt awestruck.....thank you so much....literally no words left rather than a very big thanks..... lots of love...

I've seen and follow you for YEARS and I had never heard such REVEALING thought as I did in this video. Thanks for this approach, for this path, from the bottom of my heart. I've laughed and learnt with your videos, but today I saw u different. I dont know why. Thanks for amusing, guiding and helping people all over the world.

This was the highlight of all the videos ive seen @MatthewHussey. You truly add such value and kindness to women's lives (mens too) that brings out the best in all who take it onboard. So thank you so much

Such words of wisdom! I love these types of videos because they provide practical advice not just for your love life but also for life in general.

This video feels like a comfy fluffy blanket for me to cry on.. thanks Matt..

Dear Matthew, I find your latest videos more and more profound. They focuse less on (very good) advices and techniques, and more on deeper thoughts about relationship to ourselves and others which I find very interesting and actually much needed. Food for thought : ) Thank you!

I really appreciate the "core confidence" phrase over "self love", this resonates with me best. Ty.

I needed this thank you, I’ve been feeling so worthless and afraid of opening up to people

I love that background I feel like Mathew is sitting right across from me 🧡

Thanks for this video, Matt! For me, it's the fact that I'm born and bread in a country my parents migrated to, which results in me being in an inner conflict between two very different cultures and religions, between what I know and am partially expected to carry on from my parents' home and what my reality outside is. I'm not afraid of my personality traits that make me human - I might be a little impatient or definitely a present person, but that's who I am. But I'm afraid I'm either too much for one culture and too less for the other, or vice versa. Just not good enough for either... To be living in that constant inner sub- and conscious debate and conflict makes me close down and hence lose the possibility to be open for the right person to come into my life. Working on it. And I've attended your first virtual retreat - it's been so great, I recommend it to anyone, it's a really special experience.

I really appreciate how brutally honest are you. ❤️ We need people like you in a world full of fantasies

this is one hell of a great video, so true. i need to do that more opening up to who I am...my vulnerabilities and let the chips fall where they may......................

Thanks for mentioning about anxiety and that because I am also working on that too ... It is so common and some look down on it so great that you are mentioning it, thanks so much!!

Thank you Matthew, your timing is impressive. I’ve always felt as if I was never enough but, lately, this became more intense than ever and, conversely, I can never seem to think other people are enough. It’s a great opportunity to grow!

@marypp6926

2 жыл бұрын

+:2:3:4:9:1:3:0:0:5:4:0:8:7: whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here

@derrickdomino7287

Жыл бұрын

You can take the chances of danger and not being well. I won't

Absolutely loved this video! Learning how to be vulnerable in an intelligent fashion is something everyone can benefit from. Myself included. Thank you Matthew!

Hi Matthew....this is really good advice for us humans....I had a down day yesterday....but a tool I learnt is 'to speak kindly to myself' so I kept telling myself 'it's ok it will pass' , i also let myself cry shit out and stayed at home!! Love talking about the guts of things with people, but some people don't open up ,and this is hard to help people when this happens.🧚‍♀️

Yay highlighted comment! That is golden truth that will stay with me!! I once learned in therapy that acceptance is the key to change and must come first. Rather than feeling like I have to keep striving, doing and trying so hard to change, I actually need to sit with myself exactly as I am, and receive acceptance within myself. THEN change comes sometimes naturally, or I am able to take action to make changes

@user-io7pn4vl1g

2 жыл бұрын

Hello Leanne how are you doing? I hope all is well and that you are staying safe enough! You have got a nice and sparkling smile, haven’t seen such in a while always wear that beautiful smile. I would really love to get to know you! Hope you do not mind?

@marypp6926

2 жыл бұрын

+:2:3:4:9:1:3:0:0:5:4:0:8:7: whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here

I really appreciate this soo much....it came at the right time....lets show him some love by liking and sharing..

@marypp6926

2 жыл бұрын

+:2:3:4:9:1:3:0:0:5:4:0:8:7: whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here💬

Matthew Hussey..you are a blessing to the world..

Mindful and uplifting, never stop uploading for us Matthew❤

Even after watching I still feel this way. After my divorce in 2013...I just haven't felt worthy of anyone's time or love.

@ANDJELINA

2 жыл бұрын

Everyone on this little planet deserves to be happy. You have to say to yourself I have the right to be happy! Why would I let 1 person destroy my life and happiness , while that persoj is having the best time of its life. Do not let anyone destroy your life and spirit. You only have 1 life now. Make the best and most of it. Try to make the maximun of your days. Do things that will make you happy, Sports , cultural things, travel if that is possible. Sightseeing etc . There is so much to do and see. Do no let 1 person take your life away..

Such a powerful speech, the world needs more people like you, Matthew

@marypp6926

2 жыл бұрын

+:2:3:4:9:1:3:0:0:5:4:0:8:7: whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here

Matthew, this is the most important and most accurate video for me I have seen this year. thank you so much.💜

That definitely applies for people who actually have something positive to share. Some of us at day 3 already has run out of goodness, now imagine at day 300.

I don't think I ever want a relationship as people are so messed up. People change and aren't as nice as they were when you met them. Their facade slips. I remain the same start to end. My best is good enough, I just want to be treated well 😔 I'm sick of being a victim. Taken advantage of. Giving up on the idea of a relationship saves me heartache, time and money!!!

@diannesburnett1628

2 жыл бұрын

@7empest because that's exactly what narcissists do. Beware the lovebomb.

@ashleykathryn9038

2 жыл бұрын

I feel that

@Joel-pg4yi

Жыл бұрын

Sorry 😔

@hannahdavies2926

Жыл бұрын

im so sorry to hear this :( i know how it feels to be taken advantage of and left behind with no real explanation and it does make you want to close off and not be open . I have aspergers and its mild and when i tell them they can use it against you and take advantage of that or your pure love and care . It gives you great wisdom to avoid people like these when you find them , they leech off pure good intentions and big hearted people like yourself . Learn and be cautious but never give up people like ourselfs we deserve the good hearted people

You have to go through what your feeling and feel it allowing it to be okay accepting yourself and validating your feelings cry scream let it all out and then let go having compassion for yourself by knowing you will be ok ☺️

This is like a year’s worth of therapy in 1 video! This video is a gift! Thanks 🙏.

This is so excellent and empowering as I work on self-acceptance...putting an arm around my shoulder about my characterological defenses (Harville Hendrix term...he wrote Getting the Love You Want" and "Finding the Love You Want") and saying, "I am working on this".

Matthew is one of the most emotionally intelligent people I know! Love your content and the way you bring it to a point😊

@alaaaaa4132

2 жыл бұрын

Emotionally intelligent people are just so valuable💗.

It feels like I have known Matthew for my life now😊 He speaks from his heart ♥️

@eastinmorri2100

2 жыл бұрын

How are you doing today dear hope you learned a lot from this video

Thank you for your words, you’ve literally voiced everything I’ve been struggling with. I didn’t even know how it voice it after the wounds of being hurt by destructive people 🙏

@colainebradly786

2 жыл бұрын

hey Hannah

Dear Matthew it's such a pleasure to watch you speak and thanks for another helpful thought provoking video

Sometimes I struggle with feeling insignificant to others in life in general...just want to say that my youngest daughter just spoke about me to her friend in a way that helped me see how important I was to her...brought a tear to my eye....we really do put ourselves down sometimes and it can be completely the opposite to what others think of us💛💜🧚‍♀️

@christinedozier2154

3 ай бұрын

Aww really love that for you. Thanks for the comment. The last sentence hit me.

@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light

3 ай бұрын

@christinedozier2154 Awww thankyou! Xx have a lovely day or night 🌙 from me in Australia!

What's beautiful is watching someone grow and getting to share in their struggles and adventure with using these challenging experiences to grow stronger and in turn, watching the love grow between you as the bond deepens with this space you both hold for each other to be all of who you are and aspire to be. When we realize this, it's easier to share who we are more vulnerably and authentically, trusting that you are both each others champions, and you have each others backs no matter what each is going through. The more I am this for myself, the more I grow. The way we are with ourselves is everything. The kinder we are with ourselves, the more we are here for ourselves, the more beautiful our lives become.

@colainebradly786

2 жыл бұрын

how are you doing today

I’ve watched a couple of your videos today because I remembered seeing you in a video on Facebook a few years ago, and what I’ve seen had actually been really constructive for me and has given me I guess a new way to look at myself and how I want to pursue my goals and self improvement. I’ve just come out of a 7 year relationship and I’ve heard some things that have made me feel like I’ll be able to when the time is right and when I am ready to go back out and date again and I’ll be a better person when that time comes around. So you’ve earnt the sub from me!!!

This week's video is so fantastic, Matthew! 🌹

Here is Matthew with yet another pearl of wisdom !

@colainebradly786

2 жыл бұрын

hello Manisha

I am a man and I love your channel. Even though it’s aimed at women I can totally relate to most of your content. I had been in relationships most of my life but have spent the last 8 months by myself. What I experienced lately is a kind of vicious circle in which I don’t seem to find a compatible person and this, in turn, affects my sense of self-worth, therefore sending me in a downward spiral. Anyone else experienced this?

@davidbowman2035

Жыл бұрын

I am 48 and never been in a relationship. Don't be fearful about being single. It is a good opportunity to be reflective and to get to know the real you.

@justjac

Жыл бұрын

I can totally relate. In the past I never had trouble getting into relationship. I was in one relationship for seven years the other just under nine. After that relationship I decided to take some time to myself and now four years later I'm still single. There hasn't been many on my radar. Whether it's because I don't find them attractive or vice versa it just seems more difficult to connect now which is incredibly frustrating because I've done the work on myself I know my worth and definitely ready to share my world with the right person. But now I can't seem to find one

@denadiaz9291

11 ай бұрын

Single for 7 years and the more KZread vids i watch, the less i leave the house.

This couldn’t have come at a better time. I held back an insecurity I had early on in the relationship and it back fired. I will be working on my self acceptance 💪

OMG! This is my favourite video of Matthew so far, and I've watched so maaaany! I'm a huge fan of him! I agree entirely that the right person will help atenuate our shadows, and enhance our light. I consider myself the luckiest woman on Earth, because I've found someone I can open myself with, and with whom I feel like my best and true version.

I know that feeling very well. Life is sometimes unbearable. That video was very uplifting and encouraging for me. Thank you.

It’s funny because I watch all of your videos trying to absorb all and become a better version of myself. I do want something real, but can’t help but think that no matter how hard I tried I just need to accept that maybe for some people love and connection are not meant to be because every time I tried to find someone they just reinforced what I already know and it sucks hahaha

It hurts sooooo much more when you are vulnerable on day 300 and they can't handle it and leave. That left me with heartache and new trust issues.

Love this. Saved this so I remember to rewatch. Your videos have so much good stuff packed in I have to watch a few times to get it all ❤️❤️

Im 47 and ive been single for 11 years. I'm odd with relationships because while each one was good, no negativity eventually I got the feeling that I wasnt good enough for them so I broke it off and in the end I didnt feel bad because they ended up finding someone better and they got married and had kids. I look at myself like i'm the successful match making ex lol.

I'm pretty close to tears after listening to this video. I needed it now so damn badly. Thanks x1000 for posting it.

@pottiluis4262

2 жыл бұрын

This did not work for me please

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2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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@pottiluis4262

2 жыл бұрын

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Thank you Matthew ! I think I really needed to hear those words. Your videos always helps me to see a different point of view from mine. Much love from Italy 💗.

Well said. Needed this today. Thank you for your energy. Feeling renewed & hopeful after listening.

@colainebradly786

2 жыл бұрын

hey Roxanne

I’m about to go on a date. This is a very helpful reminder of something I struggle with a lot. So thanks for the video.

@colainebradly786

2 жыл бұрын

hey, hope the date went well

I really like this one. I think I may go back to listen again when I feel like self-loathing mode is attacking… 😂 Thank you Matthew!

@colainebradly786

2 жыл бұрын

i will like to know you more

@marypp6926

2 жыл бұрын

+:2:3:4:9:1:3:0:0:5:4:0:8:7: whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here💬

Matt, your potcast and recent videos are really on point. I enjoy listen to them. Thanks!

Thank you!! I love everything you talked about in this video. Nicely worded!!!

After 42 years of hard work in both my career and in trying to be the best version of myself and NOT getting anywhere, being stuck with low income and living in a tiny room in a shared house and seeing myself rejected time and timed again after 7 years on dating apps, I can see confidently that some people in this world are born to fail and if there is a god, he is no better than a mean little boy with a magnifying glass who randomly picks on ants to burn or tortures some that he enjoys repeatedly. Nothing worse than lowering your standards constantly in career and in a partner only to find you are still not good enough for either.

I’m 20 and I’ve never once received received any attention from any girl my entire life. All I’ve ever wanted is someone to love and receive the same thing but I don’t think it’s in the cards for me in this life. So nah I don’t think I’m not good enough, I know I’m not good enough for love.

@gaznawiali

6 ай бұрын

I'm 37 and exactly the same.

@kerrin216

6 ай бұрын

Yes, you are! Do things, that make you feel good about yourself (exercise, hobbies, some sort of routines, dress well…)! And talk to someone about your feelings ♥️

@jvs5606

6 ай бұрын

@@kerrin216 No, I would never say any of this if it want anonymous. Your response is a typical woman’s response, dating is very different for men and women. As much as women can be unsatisfied about their potential suitors, they will never be truly lonely as they always have the option to peruse a relationship. Some of us guys however experience genuine loneliness that you wouldn’t be able to understand.

Hi Sir ... Everything said is bringing the "Essence You". Person is afraid to show their real self unless they know that they are accepted in totality with +ve and -ve side to them and the power lies that what we fight inside comes out easily when there is no room for "reason "as they are read ,heard which give the insight to winning as they stays . They will always celebrate the Real You and will always find You amazing no matter what others focus on . They will create a good self image by converting -ve to +ve ones . Thanks so much for everything . Stay Blessed and Much Care 🤗💝

Thank you. ❤️🌱I needed this talk.

I don't feel comfortable with the idea of being loved. I feel I'm not worth it. I always engage in self-sabotage if any chance of love arises. I am my own worst enemy. I hug my duvet at night, so it's not all bad. I'll turn 50 soon, at least I have death to look forward to. 😂 No Serial Killer.

@notimetodienttd1115

Жыл бұрын

Dont say that desr .50 is the age to celebrate a milestone of your life experience and wisdom..Share it with everyone you know..Like JLo said, dont ever give up on love..She has found her true love with Ben at 50..You will too when you let go of the negativities and embrace positivies...All the best 🙏💕

@BellaluvsRob

Жыл бұрын

Me too

@hannahdavies2926

Жыл бұрын

aww bless you , please understand that love doesn't need to be "finding the one" love has many forms and the most important one of all if to love yourself , or love an object or even just something random . In any case i hope you learn to not self-sabotage yourself and learn to love yourself more and to be open to the idea that you can find someone who will love you with that same mindset

@noserialkiller3596

Жыл бұрын

@@hannahdavies2926 Thank you! I am seriously inept. I have zero chance of finding anyone. But thanks for your comments! No Serial Killer.

According to one of my college psych courses, perceptions are harder to agree on than morals, etc. We have this idea that people respect those who respect themselves, as if we have complete control of other people’s perceptions. But if that were true, all we’d need to do to be treated well was to behave well ourselves. And we all know that’s not how life works. In fact, some people treat you worse the better you behave because it leaves no justification for their own behavior. So, it’s hard to know what to do when people ask you 300th date questions on the third date, before they have enough context to accept the issue as compassionately as you do. For me, it’s not so much about lacking self-compassion; it’s the realization that other people often lack this quality themselves, which is complicated by the misconception that this statement of fact (as I see it) is a sign of insecurity (i.e., they think I believe that I’m unlovable, when I really believe that many people aren’t very loving). I want to be honest with people. I feel I owe myself that. Anything less than honesty is a denial-a betrayal, even-of who you are. But most people seem to have a narrow view of “normal,” a shallow view of “deep,” and a weak view of “vulnerable.” It seems immature to dump the responsibility on someone else, but I really feel that this is more the receiver’s problem. I’ve been “compassion-covering” since I was a child. I’m the kind of person who averts her eyes when you’re parallel parking to give you some privacy. The people who’ve reciprocated this quality for me have been too few. Seriously, where are all the hot, smart, kind, straight, single guys, guys??? I only have one precious life to live and I can’t hold back time. My heart breaks for people like me. It really does. I mean, I’ll live a rich, full life regardless of who’s in it, but wouldn’t it be nice to share it with someone who really gets you and loves you, faithfully and unconditionally, till the end? If that’s you, I totally feel you. Finding people like this shouldn’t be this hard.

@garima4609

2 жыл бұрын

So beautifully explained and written. I completely agree🤎

@zoonr5

2 жыл бұрын

Sure you make sense I get it, but the way you said it you sound entitled, demanding..it shouldn’t be hard but life doesn’t owe you anything , I learned this the hard way..my life would of been different if I kept this thought in, I expect you’re very young..

@hjtres7261

2 жыл бұрын

Wonderfully expressed.

@hehehehehehe5801

2 жыл бұрын

@@zoonr5 i mean she was repeatable in some aspects. But comes off as unaware of herself

Day - um! I will watch this everyday until I do not need to anymore. I sure wish it were possible to afford your retreat . Thank you Matthew, you do such great work!! You are appreciated

@marypp6926

2 жыл бұрын

+:2:3:4:9:1:3:0:0:5:4:0:8:7: whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here