This manager/CEO is the classic example of "people quit Managers, no jobs".

@kellidinit3725

3 ай бұрын

I know I have. Had a couple jobs I quite enjoyed and was exceptionally good at, but worked for a crappy manager and left. One was for a large national company, not that my job was way up in the company or anything, but they would do their exit interviews by phone, and it would not be someone from the local office giving it. They would honestly take your input into consideration and also indicated if they would re hire you. That manager was moved. Likely not demoted, but definitely not in a management position. They also told me I would have a job with them any time I wanted to come back. I know they moved the manager because I had several friends still there. Several people prior to me had very similar exit interviews.

@sweetthistle8

3 ай бұрын

Gillian Welch wrote it into her song "Everything is Free": "I never minded working hard, it's who I'm working for."

She looks a lot healthier, probably the best thing that could have happened

@Ben-Askins

3 ай бұрын

She loves the place she is currently working which is great news

@IanM-id8or

3 ай бұрын

I was thinking the same thing. It's interesting how a bad work environment affects you

@Tanyah-

3 ай бұрын

She looks so much better now ❤

@dogjennings1171

3 ай бұрын

My first thought too, it's amazing the effect that our work life has on our health

@coldparanoia1540

3 ай бұрын

​@@IanM-id8orI had the same thing. As soon as I left I looked a millions times healthier

She doesn’t even look like the same person anymore. Shows how terribly her job was effecting her. Fair play to her she looks much happier

@anthonyrispin9778

3 ай бұрын

She seems to have lost weight.

@PeckiePeck

3 ай бұрын

​@@anthonyrispin9778People respond to stress in many ways, biologically and psychologically. In grad school I gained 20 pounds and lost it the first year out.

@hollysmith1347

3 ай бұрын

​@@anthonyrispin9778 Stress can make people gain weight. High Cortisol levels can do a lot of harm long term.

@madjack7777

3 ай бұрын

@@hollysmith1347 Yeah or lose weight. However I found I could not be complaining about it, and going to the doctor for it was assinine I was told. That I lost around 17kg in 4 months was a 'good thing'. For the full picture I was on a good normal weight when it started. No it was not, it was taking a sledge hammer to my muscles and I got nerve damage by being underweight. Heck, I even got specialized food to gain weight and it took me almost three years to gain enough to be out of the danger zone and on a healthy level.

@hollysmith1347

3 ай бұрын

@@madjack7777 yes high Cortisol can do a lot of harm. Most gain weight, but there are others that lose weight. It's terrible. Hair loss, acne, brain fog, more prone to getting sick, fatigue, mood swings etc. Are some of the other symptoms. It's not good.

"Allowed to resign"? They have NO CHOICE in the matter.

@WlmaAlexender-zl6nx

3 ай бұрын

They've never been held accountable before, they have no reason to assume they will be now.

@GMMedic

3 ай бұрын

Exactly, what is this, the military?

@jenniferindigochameleon6680

3 ай бұрын

British innit

@Adiscretefirm

3 ай бұрын

I'm gone at the end of the week, no you have to stay 3 more weeks. Okay, but you are not going to enjoy those 3 weeks as much as I am 😈

@aliciacarstensen7904

3 ай бұрын

Yeah I was being harassed by a direct co-worker and went to HR and they didn't do s*** about it. Nobody was helping me. It was making me physically and mentally sick. My doctor signed me off for a 3-month medical leave and at the end I called the current manager to tell him I quit I'm not coming back. He was so pissed he was trying to convince me to come back. Dude this job is killing me and none of you are doing anything about the man harassing me so that is a hard no. My husband at the time worked there and he goes running to the husband trying to get him to convince me to come back. You're all acting like you can't live without me but the two years that I've been showing up to an abusive toxic place and nobody gave a s*** about me. Just stop the absurdity. After a total of 22 years of which I highly enjoyed the first 20 you will never see me again.... my kids very briefly worked at the same store in high school but ended up quitting and getting jobs getting paid better. They were making more than their dad working there and he had worked there for 36 years.

I had a boss tell me in a face to face that I should be in a job with no human contact because I was too stupid to talk to anyone. That was 45 years ago and I still remember how I felt and the fact that I stood up without a word and walked out to my car and drove away.

@08shunter

3 ай бұрын

Good for you👏

@gambar

3 ай бұрын

I would have done the same, but blood would be dripping off my knuckles..... I applaud your composure!

@julien4741

3 ай бұрын

Don't let him stay in your head another day. He's not worth it.

@aliciacarstensen7904

3 ай бұрын

Oh man I'm so glad you left!

@user-pt1cz4ot1e

3 ай бұрын

Well done. That’s all you can do with people like that. I’m sure you’re wonderful, and as someone that CANNOT handle stupid people, you are certainly not that. 🫶🏻

As soon as he said, "Imma make it four weeks," I would have replied, "And I've just made it four seconds. I resign."

@aircastles1013

3 ай бұрын

Brilliant. The kind of thing I always think of a week after I needed it 😂😂😂.

@tazylab6233

3 ай бұрын

But she needed to get paid

@Anthony-fd8mh

Ай бұрын

@@tazylab6233 Legally they still have to pay her for work she already has done up to that point.

@Plant_Parenthood

28 күн бұрын

I would take the 4 weeks to search for a new job. If they want to pay me for 4 weeks instead of 2, that's cool. But I am not going to be doing any work in that time.

Saying “Why would you quit a 30k a year job” like it’s 200k with equity 😂😂. The delusion.

@lama2584

3 ай бұрын

one could say thats above national average but in reality is quite low

@RiverWoods111

3 ай бұрын

@@lama2584 $30,000 is barely over $14.00 an hour. The national average is much higher than 30K. $30k is basically the poverty level or below, and is below minimum wage in a lot of states in the US.

@stephenhollingsworth2530

3 ай бұрын

​@@RiverWoods111in the UK it is above average, but not by much - you'd easily find another job at the same salary or more.

@lavather

3 ай бұрын

@@RiverWoods111 you americans keep forgetting that we europeans dont need to earn hundreds of thousands. we have healthcare and (compared to you guys) very affordable rent. if you didnt have to pay 4k per month to afford your apartment, and wouldnt need to fork out hundreds of thousands for a hospital visit, you would be very happy with a 30k job as well. the area i live in currently (glasgow scotland) has raised rent quite a bit over the past 2 years, but still, 800 bucks per month affords you a 1 bedroom flat.

@Outnumberedbykidsandcats

3 ай бұрын

@@RiverWoods111 but it’s not in dollars - this woman is clearly in England, so it’s in pounds sterling and £30k isn’t a bad salary.

wait wait wait....he gets given 1 week notice, he decides HE's making HER notice 4 weeks long before she's "Allowed" to leave??? Oh HELL to tne NO.

@russlehman2070

2 ай бұрын

My response to that would be, "If you don't like one week notice, I can make it immediate."

@visionsofparadise578

2 ай бұрын

Contracts in the UK and EU are different. Many of them have a required notice period.

@rex8255

2 ай бұрын

I'm in America, companies here, after decades of "right sizing" and firing people without a hint of notice, are LUCKY if an employee gives then 2 weeks notice.

@geoffmerritt

Ай бұрын

After he has told her that she wasn't any good at her job!

@meowsaidthecat5338

Ай бұрын

In Europe you do have minimal notice limits in your contract and trial periods. At will firing, in for example Germany, is very rare and accompanied with various laws. Only if for example you harmed the company very badly by outrageous behaviour, can you be fired on the spot.

"You're terrible at your job!" But also "You have to work four more weeks."

Always remember: They want you to live as though that job is the most important thing in the world, but when they need to cut costs they'll throw you away and forget you without a pause.

@licksnkicks1166

2 ай бұрын

100% agree!

@JelloTypeR

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely. They want you to live for the company and give everything and maximum effort at all times but the company will fire you / make you redundant with barely a second thought.

@kirstyhowe3385

2 ай бұрын

Yes!! Exactly my experience! I have worked for large impersonal organisations as well as small /family-run companies who know all their employees by name, but in general I have always found that the employee is expected to be loyal and completely invested in their company, the employer and their role yet the reverse is that when they are no longer needed they are to leave immediately with no fuss and - if required - no paid time to attend interviews or for their pay packet to include full wages covering any contested hours/ days of the notice period. Basically exactly as you stated in your comment, despite it being unfair and far harder for the individual to bounce back and get through the situation unscathed and stress-free. It’s disgusting how companies can do this almost universally and that it’s expected - even accepted due to how common it is - even when the employee feels taken advantage of but still goes that extra mile to remain professional and generous (because of their integrity) and tries to ensure a smooth transition even though it only benefits the employer. I’m glad stuff like this is called out and bad practises exposed. They deserve to be. I haven’t listened to the entire story and background, only this video, so not sure if the particular person or firm can be identified, but in my opinion she has every right to reveal any events and harmful incidents involving her as long as she is honest and doesn’t declare anything illegal or intend to deceive regards the other party.

@licksnkicks1166

2 ай бұрын

My job that I just left was so toxic and I am still suffering. I phoned in a couple of weeks ago with a severe migraine and my boss swore at me. I have a witness to this and several other things. My boss stole money from our charity box for coffee money and various other personal stuff. I worked free during each Covid lockdown. I am taking this human piece of garbage to court because she created the toxic work environment. I actually had to take a 4 month sick leave. What bugs me is that I went out my way for this company so many times and I get treated like garbage. I can hardly wait to go to court. Everything is documented and dated and I have secured a labor lawyer.

@felvkitties8

2 ай бұрын

In the US I think people, young generation are finally changing this. They will not take the toxicity anymore and neither should anyone else

I was the target of gaslighting, narcissistic behaviors from a supervisor. I had to go the therapy to heal. Now I don't tolerate any of this behavior anymore. No job is worth it.

@WlmaAlexender-zl6nx

3 ай бұрын

I went through something similar, but in my case the term is "and then we got new management."

@Lucinda_Jackson

3 ай бұрын

Same.

@yazmin9483

29 күн бұрын

Same,I was treated so poorly I had no other option to quit as I had become borderline suicidal with the cruel treatment.

The boss sounds like a classic narcissist.

@Ben-Askins

3 ай бұрын

Agreed

@thegreenmanofnorwich

3 ай бұрын

To me, he sounds like a cokehead I used to know.

@JamesDevon

3 ай бұрын

It would be really interesting if you interviewed Sam Vaknin about this.

@ihogenhuis960

3 ай бұрын

1000%

@vociferon-heraldofthewinte7763

3 ай бұрын

Narcissistic sociopath.

One of my favourite phrases I've ever come up with is "I don't know why you think it's okay to speak to me this way" It has all sorts of helpful uses in various contexts.

@itzelmayoral729

3 ай бұрын

Yeap, same.

@carlamarlene2927

3 ай бұрын

No. Bc this kind of tool will say "that's bc you're too Stoopid" what you want to say is "I don't care why you think it's ok to take to me like this, but now ya know it's not ok to talk to me like this"

@TimesUp8888

3 ай бұрын

​@@carlamarlene2927Sadly, I have to agree with you here. You can't give them that big an opening to say "I know why, it's because "

@carlamarlene2927

3 ай бұрын

@@TimesUp8888 and we can't say "I don't know..."bc we ALL know why

@shushnik

2 ай бұрын

​@TimesUp8888 The response to that is, "That wasn't a question. I am appalled that you are like this."

He was a bully. He saw her as a small woman he could say what he wants to. No suprise his company went under. He has no idea how to run a company and manage people. No doubt he's the reason it went under. She looks so much healthier and happier now. Doesn't even look like the same girl. Went from a defeated looking girl to a very attractive, happy looking woman. I hope whoever he is sees this video and all the comments stating what an absolute weapon he is.

He’s acting like 30k a year is an absolute fortune, which it’s really not in the UK when you factor in cost of living…

@aprilapril2

3 ай бұрын

Gosh… I wish I could earn 30 k in the uk!

@nickwoodward819

3 ай бұрын

@@aprilapril2 you needed 30k to live most places in london 20 years ago.

@rossstewart9475

3 ай бұрын

A smidge under £30k a year was the entry level salary for the Met Police 20 years ago. Adjusting for inflation, that's over £50k today. £30k isn't even the median average for the most deprived parts of England today (NE England, £31k); In London the median is up to £45k! Utterly delusional man.

@squarepeg4435

3 ай бұрын

I worked at a small business out of college. Soon after I started the business was taken over by the narcissist son. He was beyond awful. I tried for a year & then professionally gave my notice. He was so angry he told me I had to leave at that moment and wasn’t even allowed to pick up my stuff. Not long after I left, so did almost everyone else. A year and half later, the business went under. Bosses like this shoot themselves in the foot. They’re scared & incompetent & take everyone else down with them. Good for this woman!

@susieadams1553

3 ай бұрын

So many so called managers these days can't even manage their own lives and cause so many mental health issues . In my day (1970s) you had to work your way up the ladder so that you could appreciate the work done by the lower but essential staff. I am so glad I am now retired .

She should name and shame the guy just in case he tries to setup another startup.

@LeMerch

3 ай бұрын

Defamation.

@TheJaydeRaven

3 ай бұрын

@@LeMerchonly if it’s untrue

@whybekwhy

3 ай бұрын

@@TheJaydeRavenThat’s a rule in the US, defamation laws are different in the UK.

@schrempskynate8944

Ай бұрын

​@@whybekwhy Yeah the UK has weak judges with pansy laws. I could never work in that candyassed environment.

@phill6859

9 күн бұрын

​@@whybekwhyYou have to prove that it's true in the UK. As she has a recording of the call, that should be enough.

Oh, those weren’t mistakes. That is his astonishingly egotistical, narcissistic personality.

Sleeping in on a Sunday day off is a lifestyle.

@TimesUp8888

3 ай бұрын

I call this lifestyle "work/life balance" but hey I'm a total Slacker that way 😅

@verenamaharajah6082

3 ай бұрын

How disgusting! What a feeble excuse for a human being.!

She acted so professionally. She is a gem

Why the hell does he care if she was looking for other work? Its not illegal

@thisbushnell2012

3 ай бұрын

Narcissists demand total subservience. Legality simply is irrelevant to these dictatorial tyrants.

@danwells9525

3 ай бұрын

In his sad, immature little mind that would count as a betrayal, having nothing to do with 'legal' or 'illegal'.

@Outnumberedbykidsandcats

3 ай бұрын

Totally - especially if she was on annual leave. Who the hell does that monster think he is? I would love it if someone recognised his voice and told everyone who he was as he needs to be named and shamed. What a disgusting person.

@kathylovesmk

3 ай бұрын

I was fired by a psycho for looking for a new job on my lunch hour.

@nickmagrick7702

3 ай бұрын

@@kathylovesmk Disconnected behavior

She comes across so well in this interview. No wonder her boss set up another meeting to say he couldn't do without her. He was clearly in his ego in that meeting where his "feedback" was basically abuse. Glad she's somewhere she feels appreciated!

4 weeks notice. He'd get 4 minutes , and they would be full of abuse. How dare he!

I'm glad the young lady looks so much better. That job and guy were making you ill.

@torkakarshiro5170

3 ай бұрын

Are you serious? I really hope that what we see now is just bery bad lighting.

What an awful man. Imagine what he's like at home.

I worked for a jerk like that for nearly 10 years (no HR dept there either) because I didn't value myself enough to get out; and my husband at the time, instead of supporting me, threatened me by saying things like, "don't you quit your job!" Praise to her for taking care of herself.

@CC-cp5uf

2 ай бұрын

Going forward..never, ever think any company's HR is on your side.

@chrisbeer5685

Ай бұрын

So sorry that happened to you, but also good on you for getting the courage to quit a bad job and a bad relationship as well!

This was easily one of the worst clips I've ever seen, great to hear the full story and so glad she's doing well now!

@Ben-Askins

3 ай бұрын

Couldn't agree more!

@onionbubs386

25 күн бұрын

I've been binging the two of you all day, it's cool knowing you watch each other's videos

People need to name these companies and managers. Shame is the only thing that will change them.

@SamSera-sq3qd

3 ай бұрын

Leo Skagerlind

@joepiekl

3 ай бұрын

​@@SamSera-sq3qd Assuming this is correct, no need to name and shame. The company went bust shortly after the conversation, with this pretty scathing review from his investor: "I took quite a hit personally on backing Leo and the business, and I was very disappointed on the costs and progression on sponsorship, it was not at the level I was led to believe."

@nancycariker-moon9890

3 ай бұрын

@@joepieklI disagree. He obviously has no shame! However, I (and many others) would want to know the name whether investing or working.

@stixoimatizontas

3 ай бұрын

@@nancycariker-moon9890 Exactly! People should know whom it is worth (not) to work for.

@TheStevenWhiting

Ай бұрын

Celebrity Esports

Not gonna lie, I laughed my a$$ off when that boss' company, his baby, his memorial to his daddy, went belly-up. Dear CEO, when you're a b#tch, so is Karma. What's the bet the partner DID find out he was funding an ahole. I'm sorry the boss left the team in the lurch like that, but I'm really glad this chick turned sh#t into manure and is now thriving, and I hope the rest of that team is too. As they say, success is the best revenge.

I quit a designer job without a backup a couple of years ago. I worked for a Jekyll/Hyde manager who was grood to chat to, but an utter bellend five minutes later. I got back after Xmas break. Caught flak straight off the bat, so quit the next morning. The relief was incredible.

What an insane story, I didn't think it could get any worse than what we saw in the original clip but clearly it could!

@Ben-Askins

3 ай бұрын

It was a mad one

It's easier to look back and see what went wrong and how you should have dealt with it. I wish I had the wherewithal to record my boss when she was having a go at my abilities. I ended up doubting myself, and (I can say this now), even thought of driving my car down a steep embankment! I was a nurse in the NHS, I knew my stuff, but lost all confidence in my abilities. Well done to the young lady for coming out stronger.

@charliewatts6895

3 ай бұрын

Sometimes we are like fish in water - we can't see the medium in which we swim. Often there are traumas in our lives which go back to childhood and we channel that. Setting boundaries can be hard but when done once it becomes easier and easier, and eventually automatic.

As a father myself it would break my heart to hear anyone do something like this to my daughter, also I would like her to not be broken by it like this girl seemingly didn’t.

I love the phrase " my skills are a better fit somewhere else" it's what I needed to hear.

What a cracking young lady, and a horrible boss. So glad to hear she's doing well now, and good on her!

She looks so much better than two years ago. That says quite a bit. Good for her. Thanks for sharing.

I love how the boss brags about a 30k job... that is basically poverty level today.

@aprilapril2

3 ай бұрын

I don’t earn that much!

@nickwoodward819

3 ай бұрын

@@aprilapril2 so what?

@carbine090909

3 ай бұрын

​​@@aprilapril2it's low for a professional job, and one with management responsibilities (teaching the university students). Edit: maybe you're worth more than people tell you. ❤

@carbine090909

3 ай бұрын

30,000 pounds is around 37,500 dollars. But still, nothing to brag about.

@theravenousrabbit3671

3 ай бұрын

@@carbine090909 I earn 40k dollars as a warehouse worker... in Sweden... Sure, my role is a little bit advanced but, still, they're acting as if they're some kind of saint for that 30k job.

She's a great example of someone who took the bad experience and took the best out of it. Both mentally and physically. Standing ovation!

The gaslighting, no, no, no! You’re an incredible person that dealt with a very difficult situation with grace and professionalism.

Christ .... Thanks to your video's I realise how many bad toxic managers I've had in the past years.... Even today; I've worked with a great company the past 6 years, but a year ago the whole Managementteam was replaced, the gaslighting is insane.

@aircastles1013

3 ай бұрын

Me too, and there are probably millions of us! So many managers just don’t have the ability to be managers.

@annetreacy2437

21 күн бұрын

A year ago my company went through a merger and the new one is a nightmare. We're convinced they're trying to get us to quit. This after a manager straight told me they are now pushing to see where the customer's breaking point is! (At which point they leave and are no longer a customer.) It's completely insane now, questioning my sanity daily.

Also, it sounds very likely that the boss was breaking UK law. If a student is producing work that is going to be used by a company then they are entitled to minimum wage. Work experience normally means unpaid.

@BlueRuby61

2 ай бұрын

I hope the student wasn’t too discouraged from this too

What she's describing about this boss' behavior sounds like classic abus*er tactics. Especially him saying she wasn't talented - that was his way of making her feel she had to stay because nobody else would take her. AND when he later groveled and apologized, love-bombing her. He expected her to come crawling back. I'm so glad she didn't. His behavior had NOTHING to do with her. He would have done that to anyone. Imagine being in a relationship with him ☠️☠️

@MoonbeameSmith

13 күн бұрын

Interesting that she had no talent etc, but he wanted 4 more weeks of her service..

The fact that she looks stunning now (compared to the older clip) shows how badly the job was affecting her. She looks much healthier and happier now, well done to her.

@UsandEveryoneWeKnow

3 ай бұрын

She'd only been there 4 months, she's just lost a ton of weight.

@randallcraft4071

2 ай бұрын

You can put on a lot of weight in a stressful environment in 4 months.

@Carole.P

2 ай бұрын

She looks stunning now? Harsh. She looked as stunning before. In your eyes she’s stunning because she’s slimmer, shallow Al.

@nicksloan8860

2 ай бұрын

​@@Carole.Pno she didnt, she looks much better now. It's not harsh to point out the obvious. Well done to her though, shes done really well

Hopefully that boss has a great job cleaning toilets with his tooth brush.

@schrempskynate8944

Ай бұрын

He's British. Toothbrushes don't exist over there. 😂😂

@llywrch7116

Ай бұрын

He has to work five years before they give him a brush.

What a great follow up to someone who I was so concerned about! I am so happy that she found a much better job. Her boss was such a manipulative knob and to hear how she is doing now is such a great relief. Thanks, Ben!

Having worked in esports, it really is an industry full of immature ego babies at the top who bought in early with not a lot of money to go around atm.

Accusing someone of being a liar is just right out.

I was raised where the trend was to always give 2 weeks notice to quit. I have only quit 2 times with out doing the 2 weeks notice. One, I left because my doctor stated that my optical migraine was from the tension in the office and I should consider quiting. I was going on my 2 week vacation, so I turned in my notice effectively the next day with my vacation being my 2 week notice. The second one was a really toxic situation with a man who was the most chauvinistic person I have ever met. I turned in a copy of my resignation to both my boss and the HR office. On advice of the HR office, I met a HR employee and we went thru my file and both of us initialed on each piece of paper in my file. This came into use as they caught him trying to place derogatory complaints in my file, like write ups and client claims.

I have been through this. Too many bosses in the creative industries have such massively unchecked egos. It's an epidemic, and I hate it.

So glad that she has recovered from it. I've experienced disingnenuous managers flipping like this when things don't go their way. Whilst difficult, you've got to just get out of a bad work situation as soon as you can. Don't try to change things or toxic people, again, get out.

@Ben-Askins

3 ай бұрын

Great advice, thank you!

@Jalanko13

3 ай бұрын

This applies to relationships too!

This girl is so strong. I would have given this boss a piece of my mind out of anger (which is not good). I constantly encouraged the members of my team to reach for the stars and when the opportunities were outside the company we worked in yes I was sad to loose a great person but I also was happy for them. Kindness and encouragement don't cost anything and gain so much for everyone. Also the critic was giving her no information on what to do better. Everything is wrong is not helpful as it doesn't communicate what to expect.

I am absolutely thrilled for Tara finding a great job and she looks radiant and very happy now. Its fantastic. Thank you for coming on and I'm sure your thoughts and advice will be very helpful to others. Good bosses look after their people. 👍👍

She looks so healthy and happy now. ❤

Back in 2012 I was on a vacation that had been approved 8 months earlier I got a text from my boss asking me to go out on a job. I replied that I was in Jamaica and that there was no way I could make it in time. His reply was "LOL, sorry forgot." He was a good boss and it became a running joke for about six months where he would call/text and ask if I was still in Jamaica before sending me out.

If she truly didn't understand any of those things, it's absolutely on her boss. Your employees aren't mind readers. Maybe YOU AS A BOSS SUCK AT COMMUNICATION. Or being a leader in any way, shape, or form.

@markmarlatt1105

3 ай бұрын

Jacko Willink's book Extreme Ownership covers this topic in detail. It's a fantastic eye opener for anyone, Business or in life.

The company went under? Gee……….I wonder why? Is his dead father spinning in his grave?

I saw the original post in 2021. I'm so glad her life and work is soooo much better. Living your best life is the best revenge.

She was remarkably calm and professional despite the appalling treatment by her erstwhile boss. Glad she had support, so important to talk to others. Horrible to be undermined like that. Success is the best revenge.

Yeah, those experiences can really stick with you. I mean, I changed a toxic work environment in 2021, and I still sometimes have a hard time trusting my bosses, even though they're totally cool. Once you get burned like that, you're extra careful next time. I hope Tara doesn't have to go through that again and the best of luck for her.😊

@Ben-Askins

3 ай бұрын

Love this comment as ever! Thank you!

@EikePilt

3 ай бұрын

@Ben-Askins No, thank you. It was refreshing to see that she actually quit a toxic job and got a better one.

I wish nothing but the best for this woman. I hope she's having a fantastic day. Her video literally made me cry. Then watching this, I bawled my eyes out cuz I lost my dad. And him weaponizing his dad who passed, was absolutely D3M0NIC. 😡 I was so angry. I'm glad she's happy and sees how amazing she is. ❤

Godddd what an awful, abusive and pathetic man! I am sorry for anyone who had to deal with him. Absolutely not!

Recently quit an extremely toxic and stressful workplace that caused me significant amount of anxiety and significantly affected my quality of life. Left the last few days of the workplace crying as the fuckers kept guilt tripping me and FORCED me to work 10 extra days beyond my notice period. Got hired at an incredible company that values its employees with 3x the pay and also incredible work-life balance. All I can say is never stop trying for looking for that job that gives you a purpose in life and never give up despite the adversities! Much love and power to all job-seekers / people who have to put up with toxic workplaces! ❤

@KnittyElf

3 ай бұрын

How did they “force” you to work 10 extra days?

she looks great now, well done for getting out of that hellhole. have a good life,

She even lost some weight, probably bcs that crappy job made her anxious. Poor sweat girl 😢 I hope she will be treated better and win the world.

@ULTIMARAGNAR0K

3 ай бұрын

Nah Covid period either people gained weight or lost weight

@johnmunro4952

3 ай бұрын

Camera angle

@lanthanumlanthanium6373

3 ай бұрын

@@johnmunro4952 Bro, you're blind if you think that's camera angle.

she looks so much happier and healthier now. holy shit, that job was killing her

Love your channel Ben. I worked in a toxic workplace for far longer than I should have done. I can relate to so many of your videos!

I have worked for small businesses most of my 27 years in the workplace. There seems to be a personality type that start small businesses. In general they never enjoyed working for other people due to the perception that they were being exploited and or didn't deal with being told what to do. They tend to feel that they are in a position where they own you and can treat you in any way they choose. I have learnt a whole lot about poor management of people due to observing and being on the receiving end of that kind of behaviour. The worst was when I didn't have a break for 2 years because the business would crash if I did. All for basically dead end job's with little pay. I now work for a large corporation where we treated humanely.

It’s nice to see a breakdown of the actual situation. Thanks for sharing the story and interview. There’s lots of valuable information here.

Glad she landed on her feet. With the professionalism she displayed, she will go far. I quit a job because one of the higher ups forced me to work a day that I normally had off and that day was also Mother's Day. As a mother myself, I had made plans to celebrate it with my mom and mil and told them that. Didn't matter to them. So I worked that day and gave my 2 week notice the next day. The OWNER waiting until I was clocking off my last shift to reach out to see what they could do to keep me. In a polite way, I told them 'too little, too late.'

@user-bf3pc2qd9s

2 ай бұрын

Same same with......a pathetic bar job. The bar manager used to keep me late so I'd miss any transport home and gave to walk home around midnight (I was a 21 years old female). So I just gave a day's notice and he begged me to stay. I'd like to say that was satisfying but at the time once I'd morally won I didn't care any more.

One important concept I have learned in my years, which every employee needs to keep in mind, is: you are not your work. You exist beyond your work. Also: You have skills a majority of people don't have, which is easy to forget when you mostly interact with people who fill similar roles to you and therefore have very similar skill sets.

He said you were no good at your job but you had to work 4 weeks notice what a git . I hate when any person tries to control another person just because they can . My favourite expression for narcissists and he is ! when someone shows you who they are believe them .

Love what you're doing with this channel. I'm sure it helps folks learn to say "no" much earlier in life than my generation. Retired now, but too many memories of awful management (including my own mistakes) and those who'd habitually pass the buck, take the credit and abuse colleagues.

I wish I could tell about the toxic manager I had when I worked for the UK Government. He was one of the worst people I have ever had the misfortune of meeting and was the reason why I quit. This was many years back now and I doubt I could remember enough of the details. After I left, he eventually got a 'sideways promotion' after a racism incident (that he should have been fired for) that cost the department a great deal of money in compensation to my colleague who suffered the abuse.

That must have been such an emotional rollercoaster to be put through. Glad you find yourself in a happier position now.. I do recall seeing the beige post too beforehand - but I never realised how long ago it was now.

I’m dark skinned, not thinned skinned. I was requested to work here for my ability to increase profitability. I got called out for requesting my due annual holiday. Boss demanded I hold holiday over because they had ‘family concerns’. Turns out their personal assistant made an incorrect date booking for their child’s birthday.. I was visiting my family back home for two weeks due to my father going through his dying process. Blacker than dark. When I offered my resignation I was told that I was not considered decent and should have not accepted the position if I couldn’t control my personal life.

This was absolutely mind numbing to watch. That poor lady. He sounds like a full blown classic narcissist.

Just got on to your main videos rather than just shorts great stufff what a lovely woman poor excuse of a man to talk to her like that

So glad that the call was recorded. The lady made a sensible move to leave the company and cover her back. Best wishes to you going forward. x

Thank u for such great content. I hope this beautiful lady gets some therapy, especially from an expert in narcissistic abuse so she can learn how to identify and walk away immediately plus how to recover from the assault on her self esteem. Sending u all much love.

Glad to hear the company went under. Saves us having to boycott them.

If that young adult was my kid or even my significant other being talked to in this manner would be so compelling for me to humble this toxic boss by giving the him a half a year off from having a broken jaw, arm, leg, and mostly his ego/false pride.

_It's nice to hear this had a happy ending._

She’s amazing. Best of luck to you Tara

@Ben-Askins

3 ай бұрын

Agreed!

Such poise, I'm so glad she came out on top.

Her boss is telling her she is doing a bad job so why is he trying to keep her for 4 more weeks.

Go girl! I wish I had been there as he needed some 'frank exchange of views'. So glad you left.

I love this interview, so many times a noxious management style can just destroy a workplace.

After years of being both an employee and a boss I can tell you, if you decide to leave because you know it's what's best for you, don't them anyone us aggression or guilt to make you stay. Otherwise a few months later you'll be right back where you started but those few months will have been even worse than before. Also, never let someone's bad behaviour push you to leaving before you're ready. If you know you want to go, figure out what works best for you... if you have no financial backup, stay at the crappy job long enough to secure a new one... and start doing the job you were hired to do. People like this woman are helpful and kind... and end up getting a load of extra work, overtime and unpaid responsibility dumped on them. They'll need someone to take those jobs anyway, best to let them start sooner than later.

How would one go about arranging a chat with you Ben .. ? Great video as always, fascinating how delicately you can handle quite traumatic experiences for so many people

I'm so glad she got this footage.

Dudes on a weird power trip. I'd never even go back.

I will say this. This young lady has made changes in her life and it visibly shows. She has CLEARLY set her mind straight and didn’t let this troll damage her, she fought back by bettering herself. GOOD FOR HER! I hope she has found something better and that Karma catches up with this boss.

Nob head. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love the insults! Nob head. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Hey Ben, just wanted to say, I really enjoy the content. I get recommended your shorts all the time. I expected you to be a 1M+ sub channel by the quality. But since you're not, let this comment be a foreshadowing of what's to come.

Has the narcissistic boss made a statement about his notoriety? I would love to hear his lame excuses. 😊

This is a sign that toxic environments impact how we look and feel. This lady looks WAY BETTER - less stressed, much healthier and much happier today than she did in the original video.

More power to you. That boss/CEO should not be in charge of a shopping trolley.

Leo is a horse's behind. I'd have told him not to look for me in week 2 - 4. I'd have just removed the job from my CV (resume).

She looks way healthier now: Her affect, her emotional stability, and not that weight is important, but a lot of times people overeat when they are stressed.

You do good work. I salute you.

Several jobs that an Uncle of mine worked he was not appreciated and when he eventually quit they had to hire multiple people to replace his work load. In more than one instance they tried to get him back. One employer even came to his house to ask him to come back, which he turned down as too little too late!