I don’t see why there’s an argument. It’s still hair growing from our scalp, relaxed or not. Going natural doesn’t automatically mean healthy hair either.💜

@kurlymeka

3 жыл бұрын

I could not agree with you more. Valid point.

The natural movement also forced companies to offer a wider range of products. Its nice to see a variety of products that can be used for a variety of hair types.

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Chasity Jones Very true! “We’re here. What about us?!?” Hair lines that didn’t shift quick enough and have products catered to naturals probably struggled.

Beautifully said -don’t force us to go natural as we don’t force anyone to go relaxed😌 🙌🏽🤗

@kurlymeka

3 жыл бұрын

Lol this made my day. People be hating relaxers. I am here for both i have gone natural 3 times and now back to relaxer.

@tiffanygantt5426

3 жыл бұрын

That's my sister and it's so annoying like no I don't want to be natural let me live please smh

I was natural for 10 years, I just relaxed a week ago, I said ENOUGH is ENOUGH my 4c hair was never easy, shed and broke despite me moisturizing like crazy never grew past my chin, i finally said, IM DONE.., I took pictures of my natty hair, then did the relaxer, NO regrets..

@swisdom9117

3 жыл бұрын

How's it going so far?

@c.f.6005

2 жыл бұрын

How is your relaxed hair going now??

I love your truth and honesty in this video! 😆 I’ve experienced the same treatment from natural girls at my college. They would compliment me one second and then I’d tell them “no, I’m relaxed” then their whole face would change. I’m team HEALTHY 👑✨ hair all day, everyday and think that black women should be building each other up instead of (the few who decide) to tear each other down. 🤎

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

PerfectlyPru I get it alll the time. I’ll have to borrow that #teamhealthy! 😊

You made very good points. I'm newly relaxed after 9 yrs natural. My hair was so damaged while natural, even after weekly DCs, the fairy knots and split ends were constant. It feels good to see my ends and give it the care it needs. My hair is definitely better off relaxed.

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Yesss! I love to hear that. I’ve never once considered going natural. 😊

@youtubewatcher6378

3 жыл бұрын

I agree that I definitely had more knots and spit ends as a natural. My issues with relaxed hair was breakage. There are pros and cons to both.

I realized that the bottom line is: do what is easier for you. Some feel like natural is easier and some feel relaxed is easier. I’ve did both and PERSONALLY relaxed is easier for ME. I have friends that are natural, and that is easier for THEM. People who try to shame others for being relaxed or natural, have other issues. It’s not really about the hair. It’s more like an identity crisis.

@shenequakimbro5146

3 жыл бұрын

That's true. I went natural for months at a time in my 20s just to learn and get a feel of my hair. The beauticians would fuss at me when they would put the relaxer back in my hair because they didn't want me to go natural again but I loved the look of it and it seemed to do better. It just wasn't widely accepted back then

@deborahthompson5041

Жыл бұрын

Well said. I tried it all and all leave in products made my hair hard. Relaxed now and my hair is soft all the time. Using natural oils no more leave in conditioner. Deep conditioning with ors, crursmith monthly and aphrogee 2 step every 3 months. Hair is soo healthy no damage or split ins. Relax every 3 months trim 2 times a year. So glad I am Relaxed.

I never stopped relaxing my hair. ORS, is my friend for ages. Also, Im waist length. Only four relaxers a year, and it is important to take care of those ends. Love the video

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Stretching your relaxer is the way to go! It works! 😊

I just went back to relaxed yesterday after 10 years natural. Now it’s time to maintain some healthy relaxed hair and I’m so happy. Life is too short to be obsessed with hair. Natural, relaxed, coloured, wigs, short, long etc, Do it all and enjoy your life my friends💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

Yes I’m on a hair journey myself and I am growing my hair back out and I’m relaxed. Natural is not for everyone. ❤️ New subbie here

@nataliewilliamson38

3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@kurlymeka

3 жыл бұрын

I love both natural and relaxe hair. But i agree it is not for everyone

@shenequakimbro5146

3 жыл бұрын

So true and welcome

@tpmash

3 жыл бұрын

I ageee

I understand what your saying but it goes both ways honestly. I have been bullied/harassed for my natural hair and also lost out on a job opportunity for it. At a job Interview i overheard them talking about how they like my personality but my hair was too nappy for them to hire me. I feel like people should do whatever they like with their hair as long as it's healthy. Me personally i love my thick bushy curls. And your relaxed hair look healthy and beautiful too. 😊

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

mouse & pumpkin I hate that is still happening. Their loss. Smh. I totally agree. Do what’s best for you and thank you!

@9melissal

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you reported them. That's illegal!

@shenequakimbro5146

3 жыл бұрын

Wow. I'm sorry you went through that. Natural have is not widely accepted in this so called"woke" culture. Even our own ppl are the enemies sometimes. I go to grocery stores frequently and I can tell the difference. I don't get much help when I'm wearing the nappy ponytail with my own hair but honey when I wore a ponytail that was crinkly, ppl went beyond what I asked of them. We still have some ways to go. Enjoy your journey.

@mamat1213

2 жыл бұрын

@@kristenstikes it wasn’t illegal until recently! Yay celebrate 🎉 There are really only a few protected classes that an employer can’t discriminate against you for, appearance is for the most part not one of them

The relaxer didn't say use me every 6 weeks..YOU decided to do that! 😄😆

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

🤣 it’s truuuee!

@traceylennon1204

3 жыл бұрын

@@kristenstikes 🤣🤣🤣

I’m natural and I plan on getting a relaxer. I feel that my hair was healthier relaxed or I was able to maintain a healthy regimen. I love my curls but it’s been 10 years and difficult, love both. I agree with you, healthy hair can be natural or relaxed

I’m 6 months natural and relaxing my hair this week I miss my relaxed hair and will be returning can’t wait

@Ashley-og9ti

3 жыл бұрын

how did the transition back to relaxed go?

@tiffanygantt2237

3 жыл бұрын

It didn't that relaxer was too harsh for my hair dried it out badly even ho I moisturized it every 2 days should have just stuck with motions by from now on will do the keratin treatment and just redo it every 5months was the best thing I ever did for my hair. Will be a straight natural with keratin and just. Straighten my hair every month

@tiffanygantt5426

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ashley-og9ti so update I have used ors had to figure out what relaxer worked best so7 months ago I used the lye one but the no lye is much better thriving and growing I love it

@Ashley-og9ti

3 жыл бұрын

@@tiffanygantt5426 Really I've heard relaxers with lye is actually a great choice even though most say it's bad for our hair. That's so interesting, so what made you stop with the keratin treatments and actually try no lye relaxer even though you didn't like how your hair reacted to the lye relaxer? Just curious and thanks for the updates! 💛

@tiffanygantt5426

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ashley-og9ti well first mistake was doing the relaxer myself and two I used extra strength and it was too harsh for my hair I liked keratin it was great tbh it just more expensive then the relaxer and I'm used to the relaxer so went back to what I Kno I only tried lye cuz hairlicisious was raving about it but ors always worked for me and this time my relaxer was professionally done with a pixie cut for the summer but it's already growing out and thriving gotta do what works for me lol

I agree 100% with you. I wish I knew before I cut off my waist length hair to go natural. After three years I'm back to relax/texlax with a lye relaxer and I am loving it. For the people who think I'm back to waist length because going natural...nope, nope, and no. Being natural set me way back. Love your content and attitude. New subbie here.

Good points! Everything you said about relaxers I'm guilty of Over processing my hair leaving the relaxer on until it started burning. Relaxing my hair every 6 to 8 weeks listening to beauticians telling me I need a relaxer in this time frame. Didn't know I could do a protein treatment on relaxer day. I read on relaxer day that was the best time cause your cuticles are open. I was one to blame the relaxer when my hair regimen sucks. Since I been watching you ladies I've learned how to take care of my texlax hair now. Your hair is very beautiful! 💞

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

JMocha 74 I’m glad this was helpful. We have ALL made these relaxer mistakes. You are not alone. I’m happy new info is circulating! ☺️

Thankyou so much for this! I’ve been relaxed since a child & I don’t ever plan on going natural lol. Yes, relaxed hair can be healthy!!

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Ashley Johnson It certainly can! 😘

Back in the day the relaxer box did say to use it every 4-6 weeks. Nowadays, the companies have changed it to 6-12 weeks

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

precious kristlle Wow! Just leading us astray. I did not know that. Thanks for the info.

@kathygreen2659

4 жыл бұрын

Nice video! Education is the key. A wise person loves to learn about how to be better whether it is about hair care or parenting or health care. Willful Ignorance has a way of blinding individuals to say or do foolish things under the banner of pride. Live in the moment I say and understand your own "Why" in this life. We can all be kind in our presentation toward one another, even if, we disagree.

@eyekandy3000

4 жыл бұрын

Wow- they just wanted people to buy more kits- they knew 4-6 weeks is crazy

Girl‼️ You were right on point 🎯 with everything you said. I so appreciated watching this video. I am one whom used to relax every 6 - 7 weeks max. Because #1 I am tender headed and #2 I never learned how to handle the dryness of my hair as I approached 6 weeks it started to break. Because of this pandemic, I was forced to do things differently. I joined a relaxed hair FB community to discover the art of pre-poo and moisturizing. I learned watching You Tube Videos how to relax myself. Today I am 17 weeks post relaxer and feeling good about my hair 😊.

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

IMDark2 Go you! I love that there are support groups for relaxed hair. I recently joined one too and I continue to learn everyday. ☺️

In terms of "easiness" it's completely opposite for me. My relaxed hair was SO much harder and more expensive to take care of than my natural hair. For my relaxed hair I had a lot of different products, protein treatments, flat iron, blow dryer. I had to do so much to it just to keep it from breaking. I had to avoid so much (outdoors stuff) because of my hair. I ended up hating having a relaxer. I've been natural for over 2 and a half years and I LOOOOVE it. My hair is so easy to take care of, cheap, and doesn't limit any of my activities. The only downside is detangling, ha.

@kaonashii.

3 жыл бұрын

Same! People keep talking about how much easier relaxed hair is when I think it’s the same exact amount of work and effort as natural hair. Natural kinky/coarse hair isn’t difficult to comb through. People are just impatient so they end up getting frustrated quicker. I comb my thick 4c hair with ease while detangling my permed hair was so tedious because it was straight and would tangle easier.

@Rafaela.h

3 жыл бұрын

So why are you watching her relaxing video then? To brag about your “ease” in taking care of your natural hair? Get lost 😴

@sorasgirl0

3 жыл бұрын

@@Rafaela.h no, just to add a different perspective. i'm sorry i hurt your feelings so much with my comment.

@chanchan-iz1wg

3 жыл бұрын

@@kaonashii. What the hell are you talking about impatient. 12 hours to detangle is impatient? Just do you.

@chanchan-iz1wg

3 жыл бұрын

@@Rafaela.h Exactly 🤣

I used to constantly be defending myself because my hair is relaxed. Over the last 2.5 years I've completely slacked on my hair regimen. So this video is a refreshing reminder that I can stay relaxed , already know what products work well BUT I need to adjust (restart) my regimen.

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. Health is primarily due to your regimen. I have a couple videos that walk you through my regimen.

I love this video! I am guilty thinking relaxers damage hair, I went natural in feb 2010 and relaxed my hair this month. What I have learned is what was done wrong in the past, not timing my relaxers, not deep conditioning, relaxing bone straight, OVERLAPPING! My stylist always overlapped my relaxer ( I always had scabs on my scalp and bad burning from stylists, so I developed a hate for relaxers over time)so when I did it at home thinking (if I do it myself it will grow) I continued to overlap because that’s what my “professional” did. Also I thought my hair would grow down to my butt natural. All these years My hair stayed in braids under wigs trying to get it to “grow” I spent so much trying products, big chopped 4x , never grew past shoulders.Imma try limited heat, I don’t wanna go back to flat ironing monthly. I even tried locs a couple times, I went natural to feel free and it was the opposite, I feel more free relaxed. I’m exciting for the new knowledge, also I’m sticking with mild relaxer for now! I wanna enjoy my hair again and not struggle with doing it. My relaxed hair is a breeze, I don’t have to spend hours detangling and I use less product! I’m excited!

I completely agree that a healthy hair regimen is key. My hair tends to be dry, so adding moisture to my daily hair regimen has been game changing for me. Thank you for the open, honest discussion about natural and relaxed hair. New sub!

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Sherian Brown Thanks! Same. I started moisturizing daily and my hair did a 180!

Relaxing the hair makes tiny holes in the hair strands so you have to do more protein/moisture treatments. In one black hair book by Audrey Sivasothy says hair relaxers make tiny holes in the hair strands so you have to build up your hair with protein/moisture treatments more frequently. It is like pouring water in a bucket full of holes. But you can heat damage from blow drying or hot combs. You have to decide which process you will like for yourself. It is like a catch 22 like situation. Also some relaxed women are complaining that there is something in hair relaxers that prevents you from obtaining waist length hair. Good luck with your hair relaxers. In the end do with your hair what make your happy. I like natural or straight hair and both can styled in various ways.

I truly respect this video. You're relaxed and proud lol but you didn't disrespect naturals (despite the fact that 'natural nazis' obviously don't tend to show that same respect), you even went so far as to list things you love about the natural hair community along with things that don't add up. I mean damn girl you the shit lol. Thank you for this. I have been "natural" for years and it's been a struggle; I'm wearing braids all through winter and then I'm going to relax early spring 2021. Subscribed and I can't wait to see more of your content!! ❤️❤️

I love this video because you gave valid info for both sides. I’ve been natural for 12 years and love it. I love watching relaxed hair vids as well as natural hair vids. I might get up tomorrow and relax my hair because it’s my hair and my choice. I agree with it’s all about the regimen.

@kristenstikes

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. ☺️ Yes a solid regimen is critical.

I took great care of my hair with a relaxer however, when you have scalp conditions that require a dermatologist, that cream filled with all those harsh chemicals irritated the heck out of my scalp, sores that open up and the hair starts to stick to the sore 🥺 and applied by a professional hair stylists. Fast forward to 4 years natural hair is huge, thick, and growth has surpassed the relaxer length near my but, no more scalp pain, and a simple regimen of olive oil and Shea butter. Yes all my 2 to three products are literally from the earth. Oh and the money saved from the “professional” beautician because I am the master of my hair. Women should not be judged for making decisions about being relaxed or going natural.

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Connie Holmes Well said. I agree.

@shenequakimbro5146

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. I'm so glad it worked out for you

Awesome Video I was Natural for 10 years and in August 2019 I went back to Relaxers I have curly Hair and I relaxes I prefer relaxers

I just went back to relaxers the only reason I went natural was because I wanted to wear my natural curls after 7 years I was over the curls and wear my hair straight more now.

@nigerianhurr90

3 жыл бұрын

I’m honestly in the same boat in 6 years natural and thinking about relaxing my hair is getting to the point where it’s no longer thriving the way it was when I first started out and I’m not even interested in trying to do more to save my natural hair like what the hell else can I do

Also, some people people are more concerned with chemical free and healthy products for their hair rather than their body. If your body is healthy, your hair will be also.

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

True. Good point.

It’s been 9 years since i went natural and I’ll be going back to a relaxer to accompany my short cut on march 2nd. I enjoyed seeing my curls and not having to get retouches but my hair was healthy relaxed until i kept putting heat on it. I just hate doing my hair period so relaxed or natural, imma be lazy lol. Great vid and thanks for showing your routine!!

This is most open minded,most honest and fair vid,thnx for the insight.I have natural hair & most of what u said is so true.

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

esiS kinkieS thank you! I try to keep an open mind.

That hair is bomb sis!!! We need a tutorial!!😫💕

@chasityjones500

4 жыл бұрын

Its the soft waves and volume for me. How you get that??????

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

@@chasityjones500 ORS Olive Oil Mousse on flat twists. I love the soft hold. It'll last for days.

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Temika Frederick Thank you! That’s up next! 😘

Best video ever. And I’m cracking up at how many ways you said someone natural was going to come for you Lolol girl this was very positive and well explained. I hope women learn that this is all about the regimen

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

🤣 The Natural Po-Po are lurking! You’re welcome. Yes regimen matters most!

Relaxer is a tool, but like any tool it can be used improperly. I have been natural a long time and I have recognized that many tools can be used to damage the hair without chemicals. Do to having highly textured fine strand hair I have to be very careful in handling my hair to prevent breakage. I glad to see that there is so much innovation in haircare techniques better ways to apply and maintain relaxed hair, to ways to loc hair, and ways to manage and care for natural hair. Originally I became natural because I wanted to care for my hair without heat or chemicals. I admit that I did not have good experiences with either heat or chemicals at the time and am glad people now have much better options. Going natural did not automatically result in long healthy hair. I have however deeply enjoyed experiencing the journey of expressing my natural beauty and I think when I have struggled with my haircare it has been the joy of having my hair in its natural state that has caused me to continue forward. No matter the haircare method there is always effort that needs to be applied you just have to choose the esthetic and haircare system that works for you. The beautiful thing is that we have the freedom to choose different options at different times. Glad we have so many choices.

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

I love how you put that. With so much information available ppl have the opportunity to choose what works best for them. Keep loving on your natural hair. ☺️

No lye relaxers destroyed my hair. I had to go natural to get rid of all of it 😔

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Ugh. I put my hair in a pony tail and just cut it one day years ago. Starting over can be sooo frustrating.

Yes, thank you! I swear these very souls search for naturals who relax and complain in their personal choices!🙄

Girl yesss, I went natural twice. The know drove me crazy. The curls hid all the damage, mind you I only straighten my hair once during both times I was natural & both time my hair was limp. I cut it & started my journey, I’m happy with my relaxed hair. I just subscribed

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Miss S Natural hair is not everyone’s cup of tea. I’m glad you’re happy with your hair. 😊

Your hair is beautiful! Thanks for all the pointers. Good job!

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. You’re very welcome.

Relaxers never damaged my hair. I just thought it was going to be more healthy. I am going back to relaxers. My hair thrived and I didn't spend more money. Definitely will not do the virgin relaxer, but I will be doing the maintenance. I use the texture softener in the past. Now I know how to retouch it and I will be doing it 2 times a year.

This is a GREAT video, I am going back to relaxers soon. I’m young but went natural in high school grew my hair out to bra strap cut it all off into a pixie w/relaxer I’ve been growing it back out and just cut it into a bob. I want to now just grow it out as long as I can with a relaxer. I feel after everything my hair was the healthiest before I went natural the first time.

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

LoveMara Starting a new hair journey is always exciting! It’s always good to hear from those who have mastered healthy relaxed hair. ☺️

i'm 11 months post relaxer lol, just growing out the super thin ends, im at a great length now but i'm not sure if i want to relax at 12 or 13 months post

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

PrincessMoo Moo Whoa that’s a long stretch. I’m hearing a lot of that with Covid though.

New subbie 100 % I like how honest she is

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

logitech 0 Thank you! ☺️

As someone said to each their own. Personally I think I am allergic to relaxers. When I had it on I looked as if I was going through chemo and my head itched so much, I used to scratch it until it bled and even then it still itched, those 4 years of high school nearly killed me. The day I discovered the natural hair community and took on their practise, the itchiness went away completely, my hair and scalp literaly felt at peace. My hair FLOURISHED! I felt like I was meeting it for the first time. My family and friends legit give testimonies on the difference to this day. So I think we are all coming from different experiences. For some who experienced nothing but damage such as myself vs those who have had flourishing relaxed hair will have differenct perspective and opinions on the matter. I was always AMAZED by people like you who seem to have fourishing relaxed hair, good on you.

I'm relaxed and I got into hair care journey because of the website Hairlista. Sunshine is relaxed and her hair is and has been on point since she started the journey. That was 10years ago. My hair is healthy and is usually between bsl and mbl. I don't plan to go natural anytime in the near or far future.

Really good video!!👌🏾

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Nikki Boykin Thank you!

And because of this honesty I had to subscribe!! I totally agree with everything you said, it's important to educate ourselves and when I listened to your vid, I remember that when my mom used to relax my hair in HS and she took care of it, it used to be healthy and growing. When I decided to play "hot girl", I didn't know how to do things properly and because of that my hair wasn't healthy. I decided to go natural because of peer pressure but owh boy the struggle was real!!! I can attest to the fact that compared to my relaxed hair in HS, my natural was very unhealthy due to the products I used, inconsistencies in moisturizing and constant coloring. I was eventually tired of the huge fro and all the work it required and ended up being relaxed again. I love my hair and how well it does so Imma stick to being a relaxed girl and educate myself how to keep doing better 😁

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

So many have those same stories. When our moms did our hair it was great but when we wanted to go off and be grown we killed it. Many also get relaxer shamed and pressured into going natural. 😫 Thanks for subscribing. 😊

Your hair is gorgeous, I’m relaxed as well I was natural for two years and my hair was so damaged in ways I had never seen when I was relaxed , before going natural my hair was healthy, after going natural I lost edges my hair was breaking off like crazy despite how much I moisturized I used a lot of great products on my hair I believe in investing in my hair products, however despite my experience with being natural I love the styles I see in natural hair or non relaxed hair, non-relaxed does not mean your natural if you have color, color has many harsh chemicals so your no different than a person whose relaxed lol, thank you Kristen for this video and speaking out on this controversial topic 😍😍

I love your complexion and you're really pretty! Any went back to relaxers 1 year ago and I'm so happy I did.

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear your transition has been successful and thank you. 😊

I went natural during the pandemic so it wasn't on purpose but after getting twists and ponytail as my first style, I decided to stay on this journey. I'm falling more and more in love with the protective styles so it might be a few more years before I relax the hair again. I'm currently pressing the hair in between protective styling so I can see and feel the hair.

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Good point. The pandemic is another reason I’ve seen women switch to or away from natural hair. Protective styles are my fave! They allow you and your hair to rest while growing. Looks like you’ve got a solid strategy! 😊

@shenequakimbro5146

3 жыл бұрын

@@kristenstikes Thanks. I do. I'm rocking crochets with passion twists and they are down my back. I go to an upscale Natural Hair salon in Atlanta and he is really great. The product he uses on natural hair does most of the work so he doesn't have to yank and detangle and plus he cares about the scalp as well. When he first start doing my hair, he said it needed some love and he gives it just that. Can't wait to go there again next month because that's my happy place.🙂

Love your video! I've been natural for about 5 years, and last year in August, I got a cute short tapered cut. It was fun, but now I'm done. One year to the day, I'll be returning to a relaxer. I was one to over-process when I was relaxed so I thought I'd go have it professionally done at a salon, but I'm finding a lot of women, yourself included, relaxing/texlaxing their own hair. The thought terrifies me, but the thought of sitting in a salon catching the "Rona" scares me even more. Any tips on relaxing virgin hair and not having it all fall out?

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks. This is such a complex time to live through. If you're comfortable, I always have someone relax the back while I do the front. 1. Know that the first relaxer may not get your hair as straight as you want. It may be a "texlax" even if that wasn't the goal. 2. However, I think texlaxing is a great way to cut down on damage from a relaxer. 3. Make sure you have a moisture/protein balanced regimen in place. Moisturize and seal almost daily. You'll have to really "baby" it well as it adjusts. Let me know if you have any more questions. :-)

I was judge because I wasn't natural BUT then I started asking for sponsors for braids , sew etc , IF I did switch lol they all admitted to it being costly trying new product , the big chop etc.

Thank you for this video! I skimmed the comments and I ran into the same thing, "Ohhh your hair is so healthy! How long have you been natural?" *eye roll* I say, "Well 41 years since it grows from my scalp (LOL), and relaxed for 20 years." My natural ladies can't get over it. Again: I don't play with my hair regime though! Loved your points!

I loved this video! I’ve been natural for almost 10 years and I recently decided to go back to a relaxer. Have you always relaxed your hair yourself? I’m debating whether or not to go to a salon or try to do it myself. What would you suggest?

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

r3dv3lvet Thank you. Yes I’ve always relaxed at home. I have someone process them back while I do the front so that makes it a lot easier!

11:13 took me out! 🤣 But even though my hair is actually happier relaxed, there's always that hairstylist, relative, or random stranger that has to comment. 🤦🏾‍♀️

Loved everything about this video ❤️

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I’m glad you liked it.

Just discovered your channel, great video! Beautiful hair😍😍😍

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Agnes Nyatito Thank you. Yes I am!

Hey k I'm nature right now but I'm yeam Relaxed all day I can't do anything with my hair but with a Relaxed I can do hair style

Love this so much. Thanks for sharing

@Tarasuewithlove

3 жыл бұрын

I recently started relaxing my hair after many years and I am almost 4 months post relaxer, do you recommend waiting 4 months or 6 months to do a re-touch and why?

Been using olive oil no lye relaxer, will I damage my hair if I switch to lye relaxer?

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Very valid question. You won’t. At one time I used no lye and switched to lye 8 years ago. But flipping back to no lye again after that may cause damage.

I just really love hair, it is thick and long

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Tashana Brooks Thank you. Yours looks great too. I am working on growing it back out. I just cut a few inches.

@TashanaBrooks24IETPGF

4 жыл бұрын

@@kristenstikes you ate welcome

FYI for those who do not understand and to correct some misinformation in this video- Hair is acidic (low pH). Lye (sodium hydroxide) has a higher pH (is more basic) than no-lye, making it a harsher chemical than no-lye. The issue that people face is that no-lye (often calcium hydroxide) leaves calcium deposits on hair causing dryness if not properly chelated/removed from hair strands. If no-lye damaged your hair, lye is not the solution- you’re better off trying a better shampoo or having a professional apply the system.

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Dr. G Yes lye can be harsh on the scalp while no-lye can be harsh on the hair. An assessment of lye being “more harsh” would be an opinion and I welcome those. Thanks for your feedback.

I currently uses Hawaiian Silky Mild Based Relaxer I been looking at ORS Relaxers

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Daveeda Jane Brown I like it. I’ve been using it for the last 8 years.

@daveedajane

4 жыл бұрын

KSTIKESDESIGNS Awesome I might switch to that when I do my touch up

Please share how you accomplished this cute cute hair style. Thanks

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Hi. I have a video on this twist out. Enjoy. kzread.info/dash/bejne/a32s2cR8oJfHoto.html

Hi! I'm 25, middle eastern with thick, course virgin hair (loose curls and tons of frizz). Can you recommend the best relaxer for me? I would like the hair to be as smooth and straight as possible with as little damage (frizz control more important to me than straightness). Also, do lye relaxers burn your scalp? I have psoriasis on my scalp.

Exactly

I tried to go natural and It was not for me. I don't like to fuss with my hair so having relaxed hair is so much easier for me

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

AbsoluteMdot Yep. I love natural styles but ease is my number one reason for never making the switch.

@fattysl26

4 жыл бұрын

Can't lie, I have my hair in twists because I can't be dealing with my hair right now especially with everything that's happening. Being natural requires patience to learn what works and it's taken me 7 years to get the hang of it!

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

fattysl26 Wow. I commend all the naturals. It’s a huge commitment.

Went 'natural' out of laziness. Went back to relaxer/texturizers after 10 years because of three words: Single. Strand. Knots. I could not handle it. I do not care if I'm no longer considered 'natural'. F*@k single strand knots. No more.

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

🤣 that’s real!

I love love love yew!!! Girrrl😭🔥❤️.... I wanna transition from natural to relax because just like yew, it's a lot!! Any tips brfor the big transition, will highly be appreciated! #MuchLurv❤️💐

Great points!!! #relaxedandlovingit

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Niseygirl Love Thanks. Me tooo!

How do you style your hair after your relaxer since you don’t put heat on it? Thanks!

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Ashley Buffington Either this twist out of a bun.

Love this video❤️👌🏼

Does she look like Ciara in sound like Ciara? Cute! 💇

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

I’ve definitely heard that before! Lol

@chanchan-iz1wg

3 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same

I've been natural for a while, back and forth with relaxed. I remember missing my coils the last time I relaxed. But now that my hair has grown considerably, I have the urge to relax again lol I realize that when my hair gets a certain length, I would rather for it to be manageable. I love ORS it has done wonders for my hair in the past, but I'm too scared to put it in myself and I would like to avoid the salon.

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Its definitely one of those “the grass is always greener” type decisions lol I just started self relaxing the last year. It’s understandable to not want to do it yourself. My sister used to do mine. I’ve been an avid ORS user for like 20 years. I think they’re the best more commercial brand.

Do you have a video of your relaxer routine?

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

I’ll be posting that next!

New subbie! Hopefully we can be friends 😀Girl I have the towel on my head after rinsing it out. The natural is not it! Lol I need to be able to do my hair 🤗

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Raquelle Lynnette Thanks for subscribing.

Sis I want to relax 😩you about to make me do it. I asked my sisters if I should in the group chat (we’re all natural) and they roasted me so bad 😭😭😭

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Lolol 🤣 Thanks! There’s a lot of great resources available now if you want to come back to the relaxed side.

How long did you process for? From star to finish

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

pats cookie 15 min. I always have someone relax the back while I do the front.

Why are you washing your hair backwards in the sink? Would just be easier to lean forward lol. Good video and application 👍🏽

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Lolo Future it def would 😫🤣but I try to keep my hair running in the same direction instead of flipping back and forth to reduce tangling.

@eyekandy3000

4 жыл бұрын

KSTIKESDESIGNS I hadn’t thought of that- good point

Nice video. You kind of remind me of Ciara.

how long did it take you to grow your hair like that

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

Hmmm.. thats hard to quantify exactly. My hair was probably bra strap length from 2009-2012. I got more serious about my hair in 2013 which led to the length it is now. I’ve also had setbacks and 2 major cuts. I hit waist length a couple times between 2018 - early 2020 but had to cut it.

please put subtitles you have spanish video, i like the speech too much i can't follow it in english😪

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Yaimara Delgado good idea! Thank you.

@yaimaradelgado2937

4 жыл бұрын

👏👏

how long do you leave the product on your hair?

@kristenstikes

2 жыл бұрын

Hi, which product are you referring to?

Best video.

Do you like the no lye?

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

I prefer ORS lye relaxer. I’ve never tried ORS no-lye but I know a few people who use it and like it.

What do you do with your hair after 9 week mark?

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Modest Minamalist I typically stick to a bun or wigs. I moisturize and seal nightly and brush my hair into a bun in the morning. I don’t comb at all through the week. I either do a ponytail or braids under my wigs.

@minamalistlyme

4 жыл бұрын

@@kristenstikes thanks so much. I started protective styling more but can't cornrow for anything. Do you take down your ponytail holder out at night or your bun down and just smooth in morning?

@kristenstikes

4 жыл бұрын

Modest Minamalist I will either take it down or put on the pony tail holder but not overlap it so my hair continues to go in the same direction. Yes I just smooth in the morning.

@minamalistlyme

4 жыл бұрын

@@kristenstikes you've helped so much ❤ 💖 ♥ thanks again

I’ve notice natural hair products cause a lot of autoimmune issues.

Yeah no one will ever be able to convince me that having puffy new growth with straight ends is a cute way to look until you can get another relaxer. I like my natural hair..its almost tailbone length, curly and has the ‘swing’ people seem to be hoping to gain with relaxed hair.

@nenebrat2389

3 жыл бұрын

If you do your relaxer right your new growth wouldn't be so different from your the curl pattern you have since a relaxer is to only relax your curl not make it bone straight. So if you're 4c your curls should be on a 4b/4a level. There are ways to maintain both new growth and relaxed hair. Hell at the end of the day, it's all about what a person chooses to do with the scalp they spend money on and what works for them.

If you take the TIME to take care of your hair, whether natural or relaxed, your hair will be healthy. All these natural sisters guilt tripping relaxed sisters needs to STOP. I watch 100s of videos and it seems more "natural" sisters are returning to relaxed or texlaxed hair. Hmmm!!! Go figure! 🤔🤔😋😋😁😁

@kristenstikes

3 жыл бұрын

I get a message from someone about once a week saying they’re going back to relaxers. You’re 100% correct. If you take care of it, it will be healthy regardless.

@Erikajon79

3 жыл бұрын

@@kristenstikes After 50 yrs relaxed hair I JUST discovered "texlax" and starting in June I will be texlaxing my new growth. I do appreciate texture and volume. Funny story for you.....I had bra strap length hair and for some reason my hair started breaking off very bad! I could not figure out how to stop the breakage. The other day I watched a young lady talk about keeping combs and brushes clean, which I do. But she also spoke of damaged combs and bent bristles. So I examined my combs (I've had them for 20-years) and they looked ok. Because of my bad eyesight, I took a picture of them and blew up the image. OMG!!!! My combs had nicks and cut up and down the teeth of the combs that were catching on my strands and pulling them out!!! I threw ALL of those combs away and bought new. I'm surprised more of you girls aren't reminding your audience about the importance in the upkeep of hair brushes and combs. Smdh. You have beautiful hair and so does your Mom. Thank you for all the useful info you put out there. I love watching YT videos on hair and skin tips. Good job little Sister! 😁😁

They act like they're better for being natural but hide their hair with straight wigs and weaves 99% of the time smh