The racism and predatory behavior that you experience is not okay. I also find it extremely dehumanizing that people have told you to be happy this happens because you’re good looking. Good looking or not, nobody wants to being stalked, harassed and preyed upon. Unfortunately as a young woman anywhere in the world, this is common. I hope you are always able to stay safe, know how to defend yourself in preparation for the worst, and always have good friends around you who won’t let these men hurt you. Nobody deserves to be treated this way and I’m grateful you are speaking up about this issue. I am so sorry for what you have gone through and continue to go through. I wish you strength, happiness and safety.

@ArchangelAdrian

8 ай бұрын

You forgot to say.. and never be alone, always be with someone!

This is why I don't get the, "Japan is very safe" crowd. Every foreign woman I've met has been harassed. If you're a woman, you're going to get harassed a few times here. There's no way a place is "safe" when you constantly have to deal with this.

@mokilisto

8 ай бұрын

Korea as well. They just sweep these incidents under the rug and hope it away.

@_MelaToneen_

7 ай бұрын

I was in the military stationed in Sasebo Nagasaki at 18 it was safe at least in my area

@ulongo123

7 ай бұрын

Sadly the culture of putting women down did not change. Japanese women need to stand up.

@mya1247_

7 ай бұрын

And they don’t talk enough about the sexual predator in the industry that just died , I haven’t heard big news on that man. You would think more ppl would speak up about it

@cetriyasArtnComicsChannel

5 ай бұрын

Because they don't count it as a crime

The fact that Japan needs separate train cars for men and women is disgusting

@kyaaaaaaa____

8 ай бұрын

It also speaks to society. And I am not even just gonna single out Japan but the whole world in general has these issues.

@ariesmry

8 ай бұрын

Brazil has the same. Its simply a method of how different societies treated the symptoms of the problem (and not the root). I’m sure there people are appalled at the amount of assault that goes on in the US and that women don’t get their own train cars

@xr2kid

8 ай бұрын

I think India has them too

@lilliancastillo8579

8 ай бұрын

That's Asia in general

@bringmefries

7 ай бұрын

Everywhere needs to have them if we being honest

I apologize that this is so long but I thought I should also share my story: can absolutely relate to you on so many levels. I recently came back to the states after studying in Japan for 1 year and my experience with Japanese men ruined the way I viewed them before I came to Japan. My very first night out in Japan after moving into my house, my roommate and I decided to go out and experience Tokyo night life. Granted it was a Wednesday and no one goes out on a weekday, we still wanted to. During that time, the only foreigners that were allowed in were students because of COVID border restrictions so you didn't see a whole lot of foreigners when I first got into Japan so this might've increased the risks of getting sexualized and assaulted. Anyways, my roommate and I went to a club and at this club we were immediately bombarded by these two Japanese guys. My roommate and I were already intoxicated so we didn't have the capacity to really think much of it. That was until we tried to leave and they were trying to make us stay. We even formed an escape route by stalling in the bathroom for a while and they were guarding the exit. We managed to slip out and go to a nearby conbini but after we had purchased our food, we saw them crossing that very road to get to our conbini meaning they had followed us out. They then sat next to us and talked to us until about 3 am and then asked if we wanted to go to Karaoke to end the night. My roommate and I didn't know what the fuck this meant at the time but we had to learn the hard way. Obviously. We were still drunk so we just said "fuck it, sure. We'd like to sing anyways" so we follow these guys to a nearby Karaoke bar. Once we got inside, the lights were off and I was immediately separated from my roommate. This man started touching me, putting his hand up my skirt, putting his hands down my shirt and trying to kiss me by grabbing my face. I kept saying "stop it" and trying my hardest to remember the Japanese phrase for "stop" but I didn't know even a single word at that time. The only way I got him to stop was by shoving him off of me in a panic and sprinting out of the bar, even leaving my friend. I was in total fight or flight mode, tripping up the stairs, hyperventilating and all. After that, I ran into an dark street to call my sister and the vibes around me were so unsettling after being sexually harassed in a dark room. Men everywhere smoking cigarette's and/or passed out in the streets, some even eyeing me like I was a fucking meal. I was so uncomfortable that I called my sister crying. Later I saw my roommate sprint out of the bar and we just started running to a nearby train. At this point it was about 5 am and I we just got on the first train, didn't know where it was going and just left. My roommate actually had one of the guys' jackets on and our other, more experienced roommate told us that we needed to go back to the bar and drop it off immediately because the guys could possibly report us as thieves and we could get deported. It will always be the Japanese's words over the foreigners no matter what so of course we dropped it off. Anyways, that's just one out of actual HUNDREDS of mild to terrible situations I experienced as a foreign woman in Japan. Japanese men don't give a fuck. The rape culture exists and still lives to this day and I and countless of other women have experienced it. From words, harassment, to actual assault. It's sickening and I am so unbelievably tired of it which was part of the reason why I just didn't feel comfortable living there. My dream since I was a child was to move to Japan as a full time student and possibly start a life there but that was shattered the minute a man put his hands on me without consent. I felt belittled, small, dehumanized, and objectified in every way possible. Since then, my trust in all men there was destroyed and I started looking over my shoulder just like I did in America. No longer do I want to create an education for myself there because I refuse to be put in that feeling again and so I am applying to an American college in South Korea. My experience in Japan was not the experience I wanted nor hoped for since i was a literal child. I am so fucking sorry that this shit happened to you and continues to happen to everyone, gender fluid + female presenting + women. I am so tired. You are so brave and strong for finding the courage to share your story and release the dark secrets of this country. Japan is a beautiful country but only if you take away the men from the equation. I hope to God that someday these men will get what's coming. Every single one of them. I'm so happy that all of us have each other to talk amongst and support. We deserve so much more than this.

@TJ-jk4ut

8 ай бұрын

hearing y'all stories truly upsets me how these men treated y'all nobody deserves that!... but I do wonder how was your friend able to track down the pred. to give him back his jacket??

@shovvxa

8 ай бұрын

@@TJ-jk4ut thank you- it really upsets us too and hearing their story fucking broke my heart because it’s every single non-male person at this point. it’s sickening. but back tracking about the jacket, we had to text the guy and tell him that we had dropped off their jacket because if i can remember correctly, my roommate and I got their LINE (Japans texting app) to get them to leave us alone. thank god we did because if we had no way to let them know, they could have reported us. that actually happens a lot unfortunately; a japanese man gets rejected by a foreign woman, pushes her to get violent by taunting and harassing her and then once she finally hits him, he reports her and she gets a warning and/or deported. our situation was fairly similar and because i ran out on him in pure panic and my roommate accidentally had his jacket, he could’ve absolutely used that against me…. fucking disgusting.

@JaySmith.

8 ай бұрын

South korean men are no better. Just be aware and mindful wherever you go and no one should be out at night drinking to the point of intoxication with no designated sober person to get them home. That’s literally opening the door for unnecessary trouble because humans will take advantage whenever they can.

@jr5296

8 ай бұрын

Sorry that happened to you.

@Riu-bw4bl

8 ай бұрын

Please be careful in South Korea. ESP the night life. Just don’t do the club/night life at all there. The rape culture can be just as bad if not worse then japan. Just please be careful and I hope you have a better experience. I’m sorry you had to go through that.

Also, PLEASE seek out a trauma specialist to help you through this. You need to take care of your mental health. You need to make sure you will be okay before your trauma can make you feel like even more of a shell of yourself :( Even if you cant leave Japan and you have to do it online, PLEASE seek the right care that you need.

rape culture is everywhere but the difference in each country is how they support victims/ go about these cases. It makes me sick how desensitized we are because of VIOLENT media exposure to r*pe and sa in general and in porn?? joking is even worse. people genuinely don’t think about this if it doesn’t happen to them. they never will and that’s the sad truth. Until you are touched and preyed on when you do not want to be will you ever understand. Men have a violent nature. it’s sick.

@neetea2

8 ай бұрын

Porn really does show rape and pedophillic scenes

I remember watching your video exposing Japanese men for their hooking up a few years ago. It was your unfiltered speaking that made me subscribe. I hate how you got so much hate after it and had to take it down. Please dont take this one down. Stay strong. Even now i see so many female foreigners making vids about how Japan is so safe to walk at night and it's so aggravating. Sexual Assault is engrained in their society and im proud of you for 1. Getting better mentally enough to share your experience and warn others and 2. Posting this. Don't be quiet.

Honestly youre so brave for dressing in revealing clothing regardless. Because it truly doesn’t matter what you're wearing, but it's still scary and more scary the more "appealing" you dress. I already refuse to take public transportation if I'm dressed more provocatively. I'll be so comfortable and confident around friends and then immediately uncomfortable the second I have to pass a group of men on the street. I hate it. But knowing what you've been through and seeing your confidence regardless is inspiring

Living in NYC I feel the same way. Stop telling these types of stories to men. Men lack empathy. You will get no where with them

@mk098a

8 ай бұрын

The number of times men have told me I’m lucky, laughed or even told me it was my fault or I was making up being assaulted is truly disgusting

@BeastiezCyZ

8 ай бұрын

Thing is you will get no where with solving this global rape culture issue if you don't tell men this stuff. Men are socially conditioned to lack empathy and if you keep expecting them to lack empathy then they will continue to. Will men say the dumbest shit or even just not take it seriously? Def yes, but as hard as it is we all have to create a hostile environment for this behavior because men are fully capable to understanding others and their stories.

@dinkyboss

8 ай бұрын

@@mk098a I hate that you had to experience that mess. Yeah they really lack human decency and it’s ridiculous.

@nosmirc7222

8 ай бұрын

Guess I'm an ostrich then I genuinely hate what I heard and I'd honestly take matters into my own hands if I was there for all those messed up moments. I'm pained she was robbed of a genuine relationship.

@whitenuttergoku7310

8 ай бұрын

Women are picky and only want to get with the high rollers who tend to get where they were due to the lack of empathy that afforded such men their success

I have a friend who had a similar experience in Japan -white American woman. So saddened to hear your experience but very glad you’re speaking out on it! ❤ so disgusting the racial bullshit, so inhumane

My grandfather told my mother to always only ever get drunk at home as he himself did. She later passed that advice down to me and I stand by it. Only 1 drink at bars and I'm done, anymore is too dangerous around strangers.

I’ve been following you since you first moved to Japan. I’m so sorry that all this has happened. That’s not okay & I pray things get easier for you in your everyday life & mental health wise 🫶🏾 stay strong. Don’t let them dehumanize you. Don’t let it get to you.

Honestly thank you for sharing your experience. You’re so brave and I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I was sexually assaulted at my apartment a month after moving to Japan, and ever since then my rose colored glasses was completely shattered. The police and my boss sympathized with the perpetrator (I guess because he’s a man and Japanese) and I had to fight my boss for a year to let me move. Part of me wants to stay here to continue fulfilling that childhood dream of coming and living here, but I’m tired of the society.

@flutingaround

4 ай бұрын

that's horrible.

@kingmaafa120

2 ай бұрын

Google Sadly Lucid Blackman rip❤ Lindsay hawker rip❤

Thank you for sharing your story. I came to Japan when I was 19 and it is the most unsafe I have ever been based off these kinds of experiences. When people say Japan is so safe, I always remind them that is only true for men. As a black woman here, it is so normal to be SA'd often even by women. I hear you and I understand and I am sorry you went through that. Kyoto is better for me rn but it still happens in Kiyamachi

@VDOTU5

8 ай бұрын

"Even by women"? Wait, what?

@VVSgem

8 ай бұрын

@@VDOTU5 yep, on many occasions

@VDOTU5

7 ай бұрын

@@VVSgem Thank you for sharing that as I considered that, not surprising, but I think a lot of people don't want us talking about that part.

Recovery is a bitch. The flashbacks are a bitch. But I’m also a bitch. A bad one. They won’t hurt me anymore.

Those people who tell you that what you went through is "nothing" are just the wrong people to talk to about these problems. Feels like $hit I know. But you just have met the wrong people, that's all. There are people in this world who surely, surely would empathize with you. Japanese men or Japanese in general do not want to talk about Japanese social issues with foreigners. They think themselves as a close collective. If you tell your story to a japanese more often than not he/she would think like "what do I do, do I apologize? does she want me to apologize for my people? does she want me to show guilt? " then the self-defense mechanism hits them "why should I apologize? she is a foreigner, surely she tried to behave as she would in her country with her night life and she put herself in danger... surely she provoked " . That is the mentality of a Japanese who has little to no contact or context of other countries culture other than the Japanese culture aka "culture of shame" as they call it, and are full of stereotypical impressions of female foreigners.

It’s not only foreign women but women as a whole. I have Japanese friends that had men expose themselves on the train and they were in middle school! Junko furuta is another extreme case. It’s been a long time problem.

@Venus-cd1kk

8 ай бұрын

Reminds me of a video I saw here on KZread of old Japanese men that were paying to spend time with literal schoolgirls.

@a.s.1737

8 ай бұрын

They do it outside the schools too. They post the videos of their behaviour on twitter. It's beyond disgusting.

Japan as a beautiful country as it is, it also has lost of people with untreated mental illnesses because of their none therapy and low communication nature I think. I'm so sorry because of what happened to you, and I hope your voice brings awareness and people don't just let this things happen as if it's normal because it's not! No to rape culture!

Wow, I've always wondered what it was actually like living in JP presenting female and being black. Thank you for your honest answer. I think people idealize this country as a safe and fun place to live but what has never sat right with me about Japan, is the fact that the country has very lax and unfair laws regarding sexual crimes. I think it speaks eons that the solution for several prefectures was female-only trains. I am livid that you have to carry this around with you when none of it was your fault. Clothes are not an invitation, but from what I saw in that appalling aforementioned video, some Japanese men are incapable of understanding that your choice of dress has NOTHING to do with them. It's a mental disconnect and perpetuated because no one wants to do anything about it. We wear what we wear because WE like it. Because WE are allowed to express ourselves. Your experience is illuminating but Japan is yet again disappointing.

Glad I found your video so I don't feel so alone right now. Did a Osaka exchange program as a brown skinned latino girl and I couldn't belive the amount of sexual harrasment I had to deal with and I always felt that it had something to do with the fact that people (japanese and foreigner) saw me like an exotic animal instead of an actual person. When talking with my white friends that were in the exchange with me was like we were living pararell experiences, it wasn´t like they didn't experience harrasment but my experience was just so much violent, I mean, I had to fight physically more than a couple of times just to get a guy out of me on the streets. And one time that I started to get on a more stable sexual relationship with a japanese men it started to turn out violent so quickly that I didn't have the time to actually process in the moment that what was happening was wrong, I mean, it started normal and the I have him slapping my face, choking me, calling me bitch and even telling while having sex that he was raping me or he would like to rape me. I used to blame me a lot, I don't usually do that anymore, not everyone will get it but I got every word you said. Just you being so vulnerable and sharing your story makes me feel understood and less alone in my experiences

Thank you for speaking your truth. I’m really sorry this happening to you. It’s not right & it will never be right. Please stay safe & be with people that are trustworthy.

The mindset the Japanese have towards SA is so unbelievably....I don't even know what word would fit best other than disgusting. I'm sorry you had to hear all that and go through that.😰💕

You're one of the realest KZreadrs. As well as incredibly brave.

So sorry you experienced this 😔 everything that you said made sense and I wish you did not have to have these experiences. I hope everyone you meet treats you with kindness, respect & love ❤️ You deserve that and more

I’m so so sorry this happened to you. Please ignore all the weirdos in the comments and I hope you know that you’re helping a ton of people by sharing the realities of what goes on a country that is so heavily romanticized ❤

it doesn’t seem like you feel truly happy there would you consider going somewhere else less pervasive

@colts327

8 ай бұрын

take back the night.

I wish people would understand the difference between positive and negative attention. Yes pretty much everyone likes positive attention when people give you compliments or flirt with you in a way that’s not pushy etc. But virtually no one wants to be catcalled everyday, followed home, pestered by people who won’t leave you alone, taken advantage of. No one wants to be sexual assaulted, no one wants that kind of attention. I’m really so sorry you had to deal with all of this, and then to have people on top of it accuse you of liking it or wanting it is a whole other level of just revolting. I can understand the feelings of numbness, because I have similar reactions. I expressed a very minor thing an instructor did to me to a couple people and I got one person saying that I shouldn’t tell the other people there what he did because what he did was very small and isn’t worth it to harm that persons life. What about my life and my experience? Also I’m more afraid of him doing that to someone else. I also saw him on a large KZread channel and I don’t feel really traumatized by that experience but I just hope that he didn’t do it to someone else. And I debated so long on whether or not to tell the place. I eventually did, and I’ve actually written to them before and they responded, and they didn’t respond to this. I can empathize that if it was very traumatic to me and someone didn’t take it in its severity I would just shut down eventually. I would feel so disgusted by that person.

Thank you so much for speaking up on this topic. Being a young, female-presenting person in Japan is sooo hard...

Exactly! Why can't we JUST EXIST in safety!! Even the military leaves women vulnerable to this type of disrespect. Change your social media platforms to private and only accept those that DESERVE to be accepted. I'm sending you strengthened prayers for self-forgiveness and PROTECTION.

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I really appreciate your openness and realness

I can definitely relate to what ur sharing. Gender marginalised folk, especially those who are women and femmes are always seen as sexual objects. Adding blackness on top of that makes it worse. I honestly want to close myself off forever.

I am very sorry you went through this. Sending you healing vibes and thank you for sharing your story. I hope you are able to find a therapist to help.

This is so crazy and so common and so unfortunate that you have to deal with this. I hope other guys who watch this have the decency and courage to stop it when they see it or stop it when they hear the banter about it.

Thank you for speaking about all of this, very difficult subject but this conversation is important

I'm sorry for these horrible experiences you've had. It is especially bad in places where women aren't respected or are treated as 2nd class citizens. A lack of respect for women allows these "men" to treat women as objects who exist for their use. These are selfish and ignorant men unable to empathize or see women as equals who are entitled to respect and dignity. Unfortunately, there are entire societies and communities of men and women who share and celebrate this disgusting view of women as objects. Please know that you did nothing wrong. Take care and keep yourself safe. And thank you for sharing your experiences.

Been following you on socials for years now, always in awe of your strength and bravery

Thank you for sharing. I know it wasn't easy to share that, but it really helped me move forward. Grace and peace.

You sharing your experiences means so much to other young non men and women who have to deal with this kind of shit basically daily. I’m also gender fluid but I’m a female brown person and the sexualization I receive has made me even hesitate changing my environment or meeting new people. It’s a mixture of numbness and frustration, like why can’t I just fucking exist in peace?

Thank you for exposing this problem. Of course, we have the same problem here in the US, but at least there are laws to protect/defend women of sexual crimes (and I can navigate my way in these streets). I used to think japan was a safe country with very little crime, a place where women felt safe walking outside at night. Now I know better. I also know to never visit Japan.

Hi Morena, thank you so much for sharing your story on KZread, I know that you must have passed through a lot of mental hurdles in finally deciding to share your story with us. I empathise so much with what you have been through, in or outside of Japan. I understand that you are more than a victim, but I must relay my statement of solidarity and support to you as a victim. The reason why your video came up was because I wanted to understand how or what rape culture in Japan is. The reason why I wanted to find out about that was because I’m trying to make an analysis essay on my Tumblr about Tadaima, Okaeri ep 11. Your video gave me anecdotal understanding about the rape culture in Japan. I hope that it’s okay for me to share your video on my Tumblr post as one of the sources. Again, thank you so much for sharing your story

I'm old enough to be your auntie, so I view you as a niece via the internet (don't know the gender neutral term so forgive me) I subbed to your Channel about 2019 I think maybe earlier. I have always worried and hoped for you're safety. I wish there was more I could do as a subscriber. Sending big internet auntie hugs and love💜

Love your videos ❤❤❤

So sorry it happened to you. You’re so smart, kind, and beautiful. I wish you all the best 🙏🏾🙏🏾🩷

I am so sorry that you had to experience this. Do you ever contemplate leaving Japan and finding a place where you are not a pinnacle? Regardless this is not your fault, and I hope you know.

Japanese society is so fucked up for this and I hope things can change for the better within our lifetime.

@kevinb1594

8 ай бұрын

This is not a Japanese thing. This same thing will happen to women everywhere in the world....

@Riu-bw4bl

8 ай бұрын

@@kevinb1594if your not a women and don’t experience these kind of things you don’t get a opinion on this. You will never understand and get this. Also every country will be unsafe for women in some capacity but the protections and limits to what is allowed and accepted (touching, being creepy, punishment for assaulting and being creepy) and the opinions on assault itself (“it’s not assault you should take it as a compliment!”) are widely different depending on what country you are in. Japan ranks low on almost all of those. These comments and the video should show a obvious problem in trying to live in Japan as a woman.

@isodimetrix

4 ай бұрын

tbh..its everywhere in the world... whether japan, india, usa...etc etc.. there r some lowlifes in every country which r needed to be screwed... its really sad tho...

I truly hope you mentally heal of theses traumatise experiences. No woman should go through this. That’s horrifying. You deserve the best 💓

You are brave for making this video.

Yeh it’s pretty bad it probably why they had to raise the age of consent to 18. Yikes the fact that it was 13 for all those years is scary.

@mk098a

8 ай бұрын

Each ward/prefecture has their own laws and have had it at 17-18 for years, many other countries have had a similar AOC too

@ensulalachance8353

8 ай бұрын

13..? 🤮

@mk098a

8 ай бұрын

@@ensulalachance8353 for other 13 year olds, there’s laws preventing adults from engaging in relationships with minors, the AOC is actually 17-18

I remember seeing one of your videos years ago and have been wondering how you've been doing. I'm so very sorry this happened to you. I hope you have access to therapy and have supportive people around you. I had no idea it could be so bad for black women there. I want you to know that there isn't anything wrong with you, and what you've gone through is a result of the ignorance of others and a hyper-patriarchal, xenophobic society. I hope you find peace of mind. I know that these experiences can make a person feel unsafe in their own body and that it can feel like their body doesn't belong to them. Remember you are worthy of love, peace, rest and safety, just for existing. What happened has absolutely nothing to do with you. Thank you for sharing your experience. I know it's difficult. Be safe and take care of yourself.

I know this is patronising. Stop being nice to them. Dont give them your Instagram. Dont let them do favours for you. Be rude. Set boundaries. You dont need the validation of strangers. I can't afford to be nice anymore and it makes me sad that i can't be a kind person these days. But my physical and mental health matters more. A man needs to prove he doesnt see me as a hole before i bother to spend time and energy on him. Im so sorry that you've had to go through this hell repeatedly.

I feel you, my experience has been similar. Luckily out of uni I moved to Thailand and the harassment here has been less than my home country (still harassed but mostly only by white men, for some reason. I’m a WOC). I also entirely gave up on dating men after my last relationship. It was four years long and I thought he understood my experiences and trauma, but in the end he let his friends call me a bunch of misogynistic slurs and decided his friendships with men was more important than our relationship, after 4years of me working to bring us financial security while he followed his dreams and even me moving to another country for him (for context one of these friends that I objected to had literally beaten his wife, another who was repeatedly trying to coerce a woman into s3xual acts she wasn’t comfortable with). Depressingly, my ex was the most progressive man I’ve ever met until this behavior, and most other men are just a straight no because they exhibit worse behavior earlier on. So yeah, men just aren’t worth the risks, I find almost none of them are making active efforts to unlearn their misogyny so what’s the point? In the future I hope to find a community of voluntarily single women who support each other without centering men, and want to break out of hetronormative pattens and conditioning, but it’s hard to meet women like that, most are too busy centering men who dehumanize them due to low self esteem and social conditioning. Btw I enjoy Princella the Queen Maker’s work here on KZread, her delivery can be a bit strong for some, but she puts together some excellent scientific peer reviewed research in the fields of biology, sociology and human development which explains male behaviors in the most accurate way I’ve ever heard.

@kwakuali2893

8 ай бұрын

Your best thinking got you where you were. Women tend to bash all men for their choices. Choose wisely.

The men who keep violating people, somebody needs to... handle... them, as well as any woman doing such things, I'll leave that part at that cause I don't wanna catch a case. I've had enough experiences and seen enough to make me not trust being around anybody I'm not familiar with, including women, for so many reasons, partly due to me being violated by a woman when I was a little 13 year old boy in 2008, nothing about this is a competition, I'm just expressing my experience. I avoid people, a lot hence I don't experience all that much harassment. Online I do, of course. Getting in arguments with men and women who downplay S.A. just because of surface level crap really gives an isolating feeling, causing us who actually want to help each other to be scattered as hale around the planet. We gotta aid each other as much as possible.

I made a video about this explaining why blk men do this but its all men who have this problem. Its disgusting that you had to go through this experience. You inspire me to make a video of how to heal the womb as a sexual assault victim

I remember the tragic story of a white woman that got murdered in Japan. (I believe she was British)

Thanks for sharing, sorry that happened to you.

I like ur haircut!

It only took me a year or two of my life to realize that bars are a bad place to be (for myself). Nothing good ever came from it. I prefer the library and being sober these days. Thanks for being so public with your story. I will be avoiding bars in Japan, as well.

Please learn to be deadly...It sounds weird to say but I hope you fight back, get your revenge by being greater, take your power by harnessing ang building your strength...I'm not trying to be philosophical but...I'm a man yet there's distrust I have for being around other men. That also sounds weird but I have my reasons why I don't trust anyone and I think you're to not trust anyone, but do learn to read people so you can see the signs on whether you can allow them into your life because there are those you can trust...those good, loyal, loving and caring who will protect you, be there for, help you, heal you, strengthen you, empower you and liberate you through the blessings and lessons of their love. These good people you should open your heart to but know when to carry your weapon and shield against those who try to hurt or do foul to you...learn to strike when stricken especially if it's a man...don't let anyone take away your joy, your strength, your power...I believe one day this world will change..it may sound like a pipe dream but I refuse to be defeated by this reality and I hope you refuse to be defeated too...fight ma'am... there is a child within you that needs healing, a beast that needs unleashing, a power that needs unlocking and if you do those things a rebirth will happen for you and a fearless, strong, invincible, powerful , mighty, godly warrior queen shall be born and I believe you will become that warrior queen...Bless you

I'm terribly sorry to hear that sista that is so sad😢 how that happened to u n the states n Japan like that really sucks how they got away with that but try to b strong sista, will u continue to live n Japan?

@jastaykotuce2249

8 ай бұрын

reported you, and by the look of it better get that new channel ready

@ninja-nk8vx

8 ай бұрын

@@jastaykotuce2249 why did u report me?

Im so sorry ❤ you never deserved any of this and you are a beautiful survivor! It means a lot to us to survive

You couldn't pay me to live anywhere in Asia. I wouldn't even visit!

Kai??

One of the reason I am not keen on visiting Japan even though I was to visit different Asian countries. I don’t feel comfortable traveling to Japan on my own.

I know that you posted this to spread awareness, and not to garner sympathy, but I'm earnestly, genuinely sorry that you've experienced the terrible things that you have. I sincerely hope that you find peace, and a healthy, nurturing, reciprocal relationship.

I am not okay with the way you are being treated there sister, I hear your pain and feel your sorrow! And will never compare your experience with my experiences living in America as a successful Black American man in American, with the financial resources (at 38 yrs old) to be able to leave my life in New York and live abroad but African American women didn't even look at me because I chose to PLAY CLARK KENT, and hide my wealth instead of WALKING AROUND like I am SUPERMAN and spending lots of money just to impress women! Perhaps you can relate to my reality, as a Black American man living in Bangkok, Thailand because I couldn't find an American woman who felt I was worthy of her!

omfg! This is so sad. :(

So sorry this happened to you! 😔 Hope you can have a normal life where men are not horrible to you...

I love you and I'm sorry that happened to you.

None of the things that have happened to you are okay. I truly hope you are able to recover and that nothing like this happens again. You must be careful, however. Society is predatory towards female presenting people (especially of colour) so you have to take extra precautions. Stop going out alone in shady areas and getting drunk alone. Always have a buddy/friend. Get drunk at home if you want. Carry a something you can use to defend yourself. You matter and you are loved. Be prepared for people being bad, but don’t expect that it will always happen because that is awful for your mental health. It’s so sad that women can’t exist in safety and can’t feel safe around men.

Asagi (Japanese KZreadr) story of being victimized really broke my heart. My question is does the Japanese government keep dragging its feet on this.

This is how I feel living in the US. Sigh

Hi there,you are a very intelligent young woman. I’m living here in Yokohama Japan. I would love to have a sit down and conversation with you! I’ll be waiting for your response.

Sending you love honey. I can’t imagine what you’re processing.

I am sorry for what happened to you. I hope that you seek help from a trauma psychologist and will be open to it. If you have experienced this much pain and trauma in Japan I suggest you leave. There are a lot of Asian countries that are safer and their rules are stricter, making it safer. It’s never safe to get drunk in public so I hope even with friends dont do this. Never accept drinks from strangers. Always have a panic button with you as a deterrent. It will attract attention and you can run to the nearest police station. Never hesitate. Avoid staying out too late esp if you’re alone. Again, I am sorry for these traumatic experiences . It’s not your fault. Remember these men are predators.

So sorry this is happening to you.

I'm sorry for my bad English. I'm gonna invite you to islam. You should listen to surah Yusuf one time with subtitles. It's the story of prophet Yusuf. It talks about trauma and how he found disclosure. Prophet Yusuf was put inside a well by his brothers when he was a child. He got traumatized by it. He was put in jail by his yet becoming wife a few years later. "They said, are you Yusuf? He said I am Yusuf and this is my brother. Allah has certainly favored us. Indeed, he who fears Allah and is patient, then indeed, Allah does not allow to be lost the reward of those who do good." - surah Yusuf, ayat 90 This verse says that even if prophet Yusuf went through trauma, his story got a happy ever after (reward), because he was patient and had taqwa and did good. Taqwa means trust in Allah. "By time, Indeed, mankind is in loss, Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience." - whole surah asr

Japanese women keeping a lot of secrets 😮 Ask em about their experiences and sadly from a young age EVEN FAMILY MEMBERS 😮 I KNOW FROM TALKING WITH MANY 👍

Why does it happen to you so often? Shocking ☹️

@Mcgturtle3

8 ай бұрын

@@EmmaGodLovesTruth95ohhh that makes sense. I was wondering how they kept letting men get them drunk

@MorenaInJapan

8 ай бұрын

I was never a “prostitute”. I got a full ride scholarship to be a student. This person is just being hateful.

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2:09 "if you want to hang out with the A-team and leech off our clout be prepared to pay the price"

What happened to you very sad and unfortunate. I have 4 sisters and I would hate 😡 for them to go through what you have been through. With that being said, I hate when people take thier anger on all men or women from thier bad experience they had with certin individual of the opposite sex. Women bash men and expect men to jump in when its needed, sorry you can't have it both ways. If you are telling the men around you and they downplay your truma, its time to change the people around you. Best of luck to you and I hope you find peace.

Sweeet Jesus .....

Goood Laaawd have mercy ....

Ok girl. You might not want to hear it... but i think you should leave Japan. You sound like you NEED a good therapist and good mental health care to help you through what you experienced and unfortunately Japan doesnt offer that. And it sounds like you are being retraumatized on a regular basis... I think it would be better for you if you genuinely considered taking steps to put yourself in an environment that doesn't make you so miserable :( And i say this as someone who has spent 7 years learning Japanese and is moving to Tokyo next year :( Also, if anyone even just implies it might have been your fault or any type of victim blaming, id say cut that person out of your life. Or if you can't, be as cold and professional with them as you can. There's no need to have people like that in your life.

@MorenaInJapan

8 ай бұрын

I’m not sure if you watched this video in its entirety. I was raped in the US as well. The problem is that this issue is normalized globally. I can’t drop out of school and uproot my life (that I enjoy other aspects of) to move to a different country with no support system. I have my support system here. If people want to help fund therapy for me that’s fine. But that’s hundreds of dollars I don’t have. Relocating would cost thousands.

@theweriodpeople

8 ай бұрын

Are you well? They literally spoke about the rape culture of a country you haven’t been in. Literally giving you a forecast of what you may experience there and you’re acting like you can cut off men from every country. Please be a little smarter and watch the content of the video

@kevinb1594

8 ай бұрын

At the very least OP should probably stop getting drunk, if not axing alcohol all together.

@verycherryberry3752

8 ай бұрын

@@MorenaInJapan i was trying to be kind and supportive. Yes I watched the video. 1. No one said anything about the US. You can move to other countries too. Yes Rape exists everywhere but at least in some countries theres national healthcare and therapy is accessible. Canada, Germany, Denmark, literally most of europe. If you want to stay in Japan that's fine. But have you ever considered that it it was SUGGESTION? I was trying to HELP. You clearly need medical help from a professional to help you work through your trauma. That's a thing Japan doesn't offer you .

@verycherryberry3752

8 ай бұрын

@@theweriodpeople 1. Yes i am well and 2. yes i watched the video in its entirety and 3. Just because I said i am moving there next year doesn't mean i have never been and 3. Just because some people get raped there doesn't mean every single person will. Its insane to sit here and act like 50% of Japans population of 123,061,355 ALL get raped. "be a little smarter". Ah Yes... acting like every single person who goes to Japan gets raped. How very smart.

I genuinely feel for you but for other people please name and call out your abuser not calling him out is really just enabling his behavior and he will no doubt do it again to someone else

@hurricanesweettea2149

8 ай бұрын

The only thing "enabling" his behavior is the rape culture in Japan and how much they as a country fail their vcitims. It's not up to you for her to expose his name, and she already clearly stated she didn't want to.

@sophialopez7787

8 ай бұрын

@@hurricanesweettea2149 nobody said she needs to call out her abuser if that doesn’t give her peace read what I said correctly 😂🤦‍♀️theres a huge rape culture in japan agreed but how does you not standing up for yourself help that culture? Make it make sense

@sophialopez7787

8 ай бұрын

@@hurricanesweettea2149 I clearly said for other people 😂as a rape victim not reporting it was my biggest regret and ill never get my justice and I have to hear about how he continues to assault woman when I could have just reported it and he wouldve been incarcerated you get me ? Now a bunch of other woman suffered bc i didnt have the balls to say something so yeah stand tf up bc all i did was enable it not wanting to deal with the backlash

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I am so sorry that you went through all this, I hope you get the help and are getting the help that you need. However I have to keep it a buck, from what you said these incidents occurred when you were intoxicated. I wished you also used your platform to tell other women not to put themselves in danger/harms way. I’m a man,and right from youth I knew that you shouldn’t get drunk, drinks from strangers or leave your drink unattended. When you are intoxicated, your body and mind is weak. Easy for predators to strike, people especially women should be mindful of the company they keep and curb their vices for the world is a very dangerous place, filled with monsters.Some people have lost their lives living carefree, callous and reckless lives. Please be mindful of yourself, environment and protect yourself at all times. If you go out, go with your friends (leave with them too), don’t accept drinks from strangers, NEVER take your eyes off your drink and NEVER ever get drunk. My heart goes out to the victims of Sexual Assault, may you all get the help, healing and justice you need 😢😢😢

@WillMonroe6

8 ай бұрын

dawg this isn't the right way to respond. I know that yes there are dangerous men at night at bars and clubs but to say that these things happen to her when she's intoxicated and telling her that she should use her platform to tell other women to be careful is just victim blaming and tone deaf. I know you're trying to sound helpful with this but you telling her that these happen to her when she's drunk you think she doesn't know that? She isn't a high school student she's an adult she knows what kind of dangers she has to face because she grew up with that

@maximusdraxkratos6315

8 ай бұрын

@@hehehejohnzo3839 . That’s the point, men and women aren’t the same. There are double standards for both sexes! A broke beautiful woman can get chosen by a billionaire and automatically become one, a broke handsome man can’t do same. Likewise a man can sleep with many women and it’s no big deal,but a woman who does same is considered a w HO re. Even as careful as I am , the only time I got attacked (attempted robbery) was when I got a bit tipsy when I went to a club, while I was leaving I was attacked unsuccessfully by 6 men,mind you I am 6Ft 3” big black dude(trained a while in martial arts). They thought I was drunk and tried it,and got what they got. The danger in real, and you do these ladies a disservice if you don’t warn them. Truth is like medicine,bitter but better. It hurts the ears,but heals the body ,mind and spirit.

@painless_noiz5786

8 ай бұрын

You are basically the same as the men they’re talking about. Can you not express sympathy without telling them in some wishy-washy way that it’s their fault bc they got drunk? That it’s their fault bc they left their drink unattended? A woman or female presenting person can have only one drink and still be attacked. You should be ashamed for saying this to survivors.

@dongysakura418

8 ай бұрын

Nah you should never take advantage of a child. As a man you should know to not lust after children and people not in their right mind. Reminds of people who take of advantage of autistic women. Sickos

your man is waiting on the other side of town, there are men who will understand you sincerly, just stay safe please and watch your surrounding

Came to Japan for a fresh start? You didn’t talk about all of your reckless behavior where you intentionally put yourself in dangerous situations…. You haven’t changed at all I see. 🙄😑

@kyordannydelvalle523

3 ай бұрын

Damn, bro, you are proving japan do have problem with sexual assault xd. They have one of the worse laws regarding it. Most of the time the culprit get away or is forced her to apologize. Japan is improving though as recently they are putting laws against it but still they have way to fix that issue.

You should really try emdr therapyif you can, it's made for people with extreme trauma like this. I am currently in it and it helps a lot ❤

@MorenaInJapan

8 ай бұрын

I'll check it out!

Thank you for enlightening me about this before visiting this country. I’m sorry that you had to experience such terrible things ❤️‍🩹

It really sucks you had to experience this. This shouldn't even have to be a reality that we have to accept. I'm really glad you have a support system around you as well as a platform to speak out. Please stay strong and (not that you need one) I hope you find a partner who rises miles above those scumbags, who you can find happiness and safety with. 🤍