if they cheat with you, they will cheat on you.

@Nerobyrne

Жыл бұрын

I wish someone would cheat with me because I don't care if they cheat on me, and I'm lonely ^.^

@gengar618

Жыл бұрын

@@Nerobyrnebro what is wrong with you lol, that is not the way

@abi_cat28

Жыл бұрын

@@Nerobyrne you good, my guy?

@Nerobyrne

Жыл бұрын

@@gengar618 it may not be your way, but it is a way ^.^

@gengar618

Жыл бұрын

@@Nerobyrne I hope you stay alone forever

Story 1: “you need to forgive your sister because whatever she did to you, she’s suffering from worse.” BRUH!!!! SHES SUFFERING THE SAME THING!!! ONLY DIFFERENCE IS THAT SHE WASN’T BETRAYED BY HER SISTER! Parents need to sit down and stfu!

@Aleksa1185

Жыл бұрын

Exactly my thoughts!

@JHyde-tv3if

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@buzzsawwyrm1595

Жыл бұрын

And I don’t think she came home to find her husband cheating on her immediately after the miscarriage

@philip8498

Жыл бұрын

I think even after experiencing the exact same situation, the sister doesnt understand how fundamentally she broke OPs trust. If she was any less self aware, she would seize to be sentient

@bibigamer502

4 ай бұрын

Except the Sister is the golden child

Give that husband an envelope with divorce paperwork, the receipt for filing it with whatever tip was left over, and a note saying "I made it work."

Story 1 is pure evidence of the statement “if they’ll cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you”. Nobody deserves what they had to deal with, but shame on OP’s parents for defending the sister’s actions as if OP didn’t go through the exact same thing with the exact same boy, not man.

@chocodraws5137

7 ай бұрын

She should've told them bluntly that she stopped being her sister the day she got knocked up by my ex

@bibigamer502

4 ай бұрын

They probably if not likely dislike OP and thought what happened was mild

I, as a broke guy right out of college, spent more than $100 on Christmas gifts this year. That guy deserves 6 out of 5 buttholes.

@Nikita_Akashya

Жыл бұрын

I am disabled and also broke. I spend over 100€ per month on food. The grocery prices are perverted here in Germany. And I only have around 300€ a month and need to pay for a lot of things myself. Medication, Hygiene products and so many small things I need. I wish I had a bigger budget, because I can barely afford food.

@Nerobyrne

10 ай бұрын

@@Nikita_Akashya Bro you don't get disability assistance?

@Nikita_Akashya

10 ай бұрын

​@@NerobyrneI get pocket money from the Jugendamt. I still live in Jugendhilfe. I don't have to pay for my living arrangements, but I do have to use my pocket money on food, hygiene, medicine and whatever else I need and want. I am getting by just fine, but I wish I had a little bit more budget for food. I cook all my own meals, but my fridge is always empty. I do get more money, now that I started my Reha. Berufliche Reha. But I don't have the money yet and I just started. Life is hard, but it can only get better from here.

What makes it so much worse is in the 3rd story op said she can't judge him cause it's his money. When you are married and a stay at home mom it's not just his money it's also hers so she most definitely can judge him. This is just pure financial abuse, plain and simple.

@colbylawson5331

Жыл бұрын

It depends. Not saying what ops husband did is cool, as it's definitely an ahole move, but if it's his money it's his money.

@jinxytwist2807

Жыл бұрын

@@colbylawson5331 That's not how it works with stay at home parents it's joint money then so it both of theirs

@colbylawson5331

Жыл бұрын

@@jinxytwist2807 If it's joint money, then that's a Grey area, but any money that ops husband makes is strictly his money. Are op and her husband sharing a joint account?

@colbylawson5331

Жыл бұрын

@@jinxytwist2807 While I agree it's financial abuse, any money ops husband makes is his to keep. However, her husband's behavior is still unacceptable and she needs to drop him and find someone else.

@fussbudgetstories

Жыл бұрын

The friend got a paid trip from OP's husband to cover up an affair. This woman who also went on the trip is probably not the friend's girlfriend, but a mistress for OP's husband. This whole trip was just a ruse. OP's husband is having an affair. Why else would he be paying for everyone?

Last story: Thank you Rslash for bringing it back to the fact he wants kids. As a father of a toddler, this guy's aversion to waking up early makes me laugh.

@desireeloveros1055

Жыл бұрын

The guy's inability to to basic chores makes me livid. A middle schooler has more responsibilities than him!

@cniknik9863

11 ай бұрын

Exactly! That Op made me upset. I wish he read out the responses calling him out

The guy who took his friend and his friend's girlfriend to Qatar...get real. The girlfriend is the husband's side piece. No man is going to fork over thousands to take some other guy's girl on a trip. His friend couldn't afford himself and girlfriend, so hubby says "Yo, I'll pick up plane tickets and hotel for you, but you gotta pay for your women." That's the only way it makes sense.

@esmee6308

Жыл бұрын

Exactly what I was thinking, even if you're rich you make it a guy's trip. If she's that into football herself or won't let her boyfriend go, they need to figure out the solution together. Also no way you think $100 is enough for Christmas presents, decoration and food for a household with 3 kids. I spend barely anything on Christmas and spend more than that...

@YesIlikebananasSo

Жыл бұрын

exactly what i thought

@crispycrimson6448

Жыл бұрын

OHHHHH it's the friends girlfriend... I genuinely thought it was just a middle eastern couple and the dude had a girlfriend as well as a wife...

@QuietRage

Жыл бұрын

I was thinking that they have a polyamorous relationship, at least that would be less predictable than the lady and husband having an affair behind both their SO's backs

@dubheasadalosair8928

Жыл бұрын

At first I thought they were a polyamorous v, which would make sense. But the fact of it being the "friend's" girlfriend but really his side piece is equally as probable. Still that's just not right. I spend more than $100 on JUST my 1 daughter & that doesn't include gifts for the rest of the family. & for my daughter, I get her clothes as well as things she would enjoy playing.

Can we all agree that any plus size person with the decency to pay for 2 seats on an airplane is a hero?

@alexis112

Жыл бұрын

it is incredibly thoughtful. it almost feels unfair to me that it's a necessity depending on your size. feel like there should be more options

@stephenadkins616

Жыл бұрын

@[Alexis] bench seats on a flight would be decent. But it wouldn't be cost effective, because certain people would call it (insert phobic bullshit here).

@palindrome1959

Жыл бұрын

The fact she even came out and said I'm fat, shows she's quite on the ball and makes her argument even more persuasive.

@mightyakkylex

Жыл бұрын

Yess, that's what I was thinking. Like, bruh, you're not the a hole, you're incredibly considerate to pay for another seat upfront

@TALKINGtac0

Жыл бұрын

@@alexis112 Or even just a few larger doubled up seats in the back, rather than the usual 3 small ones. If they cost more to make, you can upcharge a bit to compensate for the cost, but still keep it cheaper than buying two tickets.

First story is just crazy. Cheaters don’t change. If they cheated with you, they will more than likely cheat on you too.

@lorilancaster5917

Жыл бұрын

I’m surprised OP did tell sister “you’ll get over it” which is what her ex and sister expected OP to do in their words

@kaitycole

Жыл бұрын

@@lorilancaster5917 right??? I feel like that would be an appropriate response in that situation. Idk how she kept her cool for the most part. I’d be so livid

@chrisvillarreal6855

Жыл бұрын

I agree, a relationship started with cheating will never have the same trust in it as starting new and once a cheater always a cheater

@epichoagie5999

Жыл бұрын

Been there. One of my exes cheated on her ex with me. We got together, she moved to my home state, we were happy. 2 years later, she goes back to her home state for a job. After 4 months, she calls and tells me she has spent that entire time banging 5 different guys. Didn't give me a chance to speak on it, then blocked me. I had given her everything I had to make that relationship work. And that's what I got in return. Never ever date someone who is willing to cheat with you.

@BersealiaDreamheart

Жыл бұрын

I agree. The miscarriage is sad and no one deserves to go through that because it’s painful. However, RSlash is right. Her sister’s miscarriage has nothing to do with why OP doesn’t want to have any contact with her. It’s the fact that her sister betrayed her. RSlash said it. If they cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you. The sister should’ve known better, and now she’s paying for the consequences of her own actions for marrying a serial cheater.

As someone who isn't a morning person, I completely understand asking your partner who is a morning person to make breakfast. One of my parents would make breakfast while the other would make dinner. There can be a schedule put in place where the girlfriend makes breakfast for the both of them every other day and op can make dinner those days.

@JHyde-tv3if

Жыл бұрын

That was what SHE proposed but he wouldn't go for it. That was the problem. She said then he should do all the dinners then and she would do all the breakfast and he said no.

@krismal1300

Жыл бұрын

No, she asked if he would in return sometimes make breakfast for her like they are doing with dinner, not she breakfast he dinner

@laughableInflection

11 ай бұрын

This is what i was thinking. Like... if shes going to be the breakfast person, why doesnt the night owl make dinner? It just makes sense. But he's set on doing nothing more on his end, while she does extra

@LLandS18

11 ай бұрын

Yeah no. If he wants breakfast he should get up and make it. Or he should trade something off. Especially if you go read the comments on the story. He doesn't cook most suppers. He cooks one or two a month. She does all the housework all the errands for the house. The sheer entitlement of some people to think that their partners should carry all the weight in the relationship because once in a while they help out is pretty gross. Honestly, I think Mommy spoiled too many people and now they expect that treatment as adults.

@mauricethomas2506

11 ай бұрын

I was definitely thinking why doesn’t he just pick up more of the dinners to make up for the mornings but if he isn’t willing to do that what does he expect

Last one... He could easily have avoided an argument by offering to make ALL the dinners if she's making all the breakfasts. Or he could try to train his body for mornings, though that's the tougher route so I doubt he'd go for it.

@arsteel2388

Жыл бұрын

Trying to go off coffee would probably do a lot, once his body got over the initial shock. All dinners for all breakfasts definitely would have been an easy solution. To be honest, I do most of the work in my relationship (breadwinning, cooking, cleaning, raising a kid), so the idea of *not* making breakfast for the partner was surprising to me.

@DrunkSamurai

Жыл бұрын

Going off caffeine does nothing if you're not also working out.

@firewizardrunepro

Жыл бұрын

@@arsteel2388 yeah i don't think that it was a big of a deal as it was made out to be, what annoyed me the most was rslash saying the dude was a bad person for this and his relationship was doomed to fail cause he wasn't a good person

@MugenNiFukuzatsuna

Жыл бұрын

That's a horrible idea. Dinner over all is a harder meal to make than breakfast. However, it would make sense to come up with some other thing he can do. Agree to wash clothes or do dishes or something. Though, to be frank, the fact that they are in this relationship and she hasn't been making breakfast for him when she makes breakfast for herself every morning ... is strange. That's not something a person does when they like the person they are with. OP is pretty selfish for thinking he shouldn't have to do anything extra for her, but he is right that making breakfast for two is little to no additional effort than making breakfast for one. The fact that she hasn't been doing it and started a negotiation immediately upon him suggesting it, hints that she isn't actually that invested in him. He definitely should NOT be thinking of proposing to her. That relationship is a bad idea for both parties.

@Janjones7735

Жыл бұрын

@@firewizardrunepro he is though

For the last story I don’t think the relationship has to be doomed. I think that what could happen if it’s so hard for him to wake up is that she always makes the breakfast and he always makes dinner. This would be an easy compromise as well as helps the split of responsibility.

@tsian7328

Жыл бұрын

Exactly my thoughts on that one too, that seems fair for both of them and should solve the issue

@panchoperez3964

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, OP just needs to understand that a compromise is both ways. Getting up 2-3 times a day early is manageable. Or have OP do dinner always and the GF breakfasts. That's also a compromise, doesn't matter if "it's easier for her bc she just has to throw extra eggs"

@RevokFarthis

Жыл бұрын

That *could* work, but if OP were the sort of person to do that, we wouldn't be here discussing what a shite person he is.

@fdm2155

Жыл бұрын

If the two of them are this focused on calculating what they do for each other... and are struggling to find common sense balances, ya gotta wonder how they would weather ANY challenges.

@arnoldfossman1701

Жыл бұрын

If not dinner then some other household chore, maybe a couple of chores even, if they are not daily like breakfast is that is.

You know if that person had not purchased an extra plane seat, they’d have been criticized for taking too much space. Sometimes you just can’t win, where others are concerned. I’m glad they stood firm.

@Samqdf

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely, she did the right thing and in return she was put in a no win situation.

@RWAsur

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad they *sat* firm. ;)

@jennimoses877

Жыл бұрын

Yes no matter what she would of been in a no win no matter what she did IMO

@lilletrille1892

Жыл бұрын

Exactly the point I wanted to make!

@demondogmom7221

Жыл бұрын

I flew on SWA roundtrip Florida to Arizona many years ago with a very expensive guitar. I bought two seats. The trip out was lovely. The trip back was not...I think it went Phoenix to Denver to Dallas to Tampa. Minor issues in Phoenix...a crap show in Denver. The steward(ess) insisted I needed to check it. I explained I paid for the extra seat (and early boarding). She told me it was a full flight, and again I explained I had two tickets...but added in if she'd like to assume personal liability for a $7500 guitar not in a metal case, I'd write something up and get it witnessed. I did however have printed the SWA policy on musical instruments. Not much she could do except be pissy. She informed me the guitar had to be in the window seat and seat belted in. No problem. I'd done it every leg. I put it in the window, seat, belted it in, pulled a hat and scarf from my bag and put it on the "head" and "neck" of the case. It was not a full flight and she did nothing but glare at me while I just smiled. I really hate flying commercially. If I absolutely HAVE to fly, I'll save for first class. Otherwise, I'll drive. I'm retired so time is not constrained anymore.

1st story: highly deserved ngl. The sister, ex husband and parents didn't cared about OP's traumatic experience of miscarriage which can also add depression too. Wtf is wrong with everyone?! op gets a miscarriage, no one cared BUT when sister gets a stillborn, everyone begins to care. That's a severe wtf family.

@klemenhudobreznik3421

Жыл бұрын

In way op not showing support adds to pure form this karma mirroring ops past situation.

Story 3: Don't forget the pass to the Qatar games, buying "knick-knacks", drinks, going out for dinner, all the other things you do on vacation. Sure, the guy earned the money, but it sounds like he expects his wife AND kids to make do with his leftovers.

Story 3: Him paying for his friend and friend's GF's travel expenses while just giving OP 100 dollars really shows where his priorities lay. He chooses football over his family. That ain't okay

@shadowmewfred09

Жыл бұрын

I'd say get a divorce apologise and wrap up the papers for him to open as a Christmas present. Watch his face drain of colour give the economic gaslighting abusive jerk what he deserves

@KingHayabusa384

Жыл бұрын

I'd always choose soccer over family.

@lorilancaster5917

Жыл бұрын

I’m surprised OP hasn’t blasted him on other social media so his family would know. He should be thankful that he isn’t coming home to an empty house

@gemrock

Жыл бұрын

@@lorilancaster5917 In all honesty op should tell her family then pack up everything important to husband and then leave a note saying sorry inflation had hit us pretty hard so I had to sell your stuff so we could eat.

@kiyoshi058

Жыл бұрын

I thought the story said it was just for decorations, not for the family to live on correct me if I'm wrong. I've noticed rslash does have a reaction that doesn't tally with the story a few times.

The lady on the plane is most likely the same type who'd complain if the x-plus woman ~didn't~ buy 2 seats. She's a body shamer.

@freakchickisa

Жыл бұрын

I came to say this

@kvproductions2581

Жыл бұрын

The plus-size lady was absolutely NTA on this story, but that is precisely BECAUSE she bought 2 seats. If she didn't, she'd kind of be TA for ruining the flight for whoever had to sit in the seat she was spreading over. I'm sorry, but if you're that much "plus-sized" that you take up a seat and a half, booking it is the only morally correct thing to do

@LilChuunosuke

Жыл бұрын

Yup! It's a lose-lose situation. She's an undesirable. Everything she could've done would be wrong because they saw her very existence as disgusting.

@someguywithatophat7599

Жыл бұрын

and probably complains about like, people who are thinner than her calling them 2 dimensional-

@summerdowlig

Жыл бұрын

Yes.

I love R/Slash's genuine reactions to the stories: "OH my GOD!!!"

He spent $20,000 on this trip to Qatar and left his family $100 to do something with for Christmas and told them to make it work. If Op has a family that she can go to then grab the kids, leave the house, and leave your wedding next to the $100. No way in hell I'm staying married to somebody who just dropped $20,000 for the world fucking cup and leaves me with $100 shoestring budget for Christmas and expects me to do at least $3,000 worth of things on a $100 budget

With the story about breakfast and dinner, op mentioned that they trade off making dinner. The fair thing to do in this situation, would be to ask girlfriend to make breakfast and OP to make dinner and that just be the daily routine. Therefore, you wouldn't have to have the trade off in the evening, the girlfriend wouldn't be put out as far as making breakfast everyday and then still having to make dinner that evening alternating with OP. Everybody cooks one meal every day

@anthonyruiz8519

Жыл бұрын

Ah yes add really nothing AT ALL to the GFs task and add 50% of the cooking responsibility to the BF. Feminists would be proud

@alidan

Жыл бұрын

​@@anthonyruiz8519 misread the post but leaving it here regardless. I will put it this way, when I cook for myself, it takes me the same amount of effort to make 1 meal as it does 20 (I meal prep, it takes next to 0 effort ro make more than one meal, its making 1 that takes effort) if she scratch makes pancakes 1 at a time, that's minimal extra effort, if its a pancake press, then near 0 extra effort, any of the meats, potatoes is actually 0 extra effort because the same goes into 1 as goes into 2 (feeding a family of 4 talking here, 1 steak or 4 is the same effort)

@zacharyjackson1829

Жыл бұрын

@@alidan logically speaking it takes twice as long to crack 2-4 eggs instead of 1-2, toast twice as much bread (unless both only eat 1 toast), brown double the amount of sausage, and twice as long to give a shit about a man child instead of yourself. dude needs to grow up. there's no such thing as "morning people" just adults who wake their asses up, drink their coffee if needed, and move on with their day. if you can't do that you aren't an adult

@jordanmchighlander9365

Жыл бұрын

@@zacharyjackson1829 there IS such a thing as morning people. Whether people lean towards morning or night has a lot to do with genetics.

@zacharyjackson1829

Жыл бұрын

@jordanmchighlander9365 and my genetics prevent me from having an amazing metabolism. Doesn't mean I'm gonna be a little bitch and whine that I can't eat snack food all day. Genetics doesn't prevent you from waking up at 5am every morning and getting on with your day. If he quit bitching and woke up on a schedule he would be fine. Just to humor you I even took 10 minutes to actually find studies that support your claim. Just about every single one pointed out that being a morning person versus a night owl was more indicative of their life habits than anything

Story 1, no Rslash you can’t call him a man. Story 3, I can’t afford to go to the rugby World Cup so I won’t. That’s just life.

For the last story, if he is too tired to make breakfast for her, they can instead trade off with her only making breakfast, and him only making dinner, so they each make one meal per day.

He gave $100 to his wife and kids for family expenses for a month for Christmas. He's an AH

@abiean222

Жыл бұрын

he's "we won't be here when you come back in a month" material.

@zacharyjackson1829

Жыл бұрын

funny how even eating just ramen for the whole month would break their budget

@mask938

Жыл бұрын

There’s no way in Hell OP and her 3 kids could last a month on just $100. I don’t think they could even last a week on that much.

@Suisuihoz

Жыл бұрын

@@abiean222 if she cant afford a month and Christmas without him shes cant afford life without him💀

I am a woman who cooks breakfast every morning for myself. If I had a partner who wanted some also, it is no big deal to throw another couple slices of bacon in the pan. I suppose OP could have offered to make dinner every night if she would make breakfast every morning, but still as long as she is cooking for herself, it should not be such a big deal for her to add an extra helping. Maybe OP could offer to do all the washing up after breakfast if she cooks it?

@shykorustotora

Жыл бұрын

OP did say he often cooks dinner. Also, it sounds like OP has the same thing I do. Don't know what it's called but it takes me about 2 hours to get out of bed. If I rush, I'll feel sick, light headed and I've already fainted and hurt myself a few times. I actually have 0 appetite in the morning, so I typically don't eat, but if I do, it REALLY helps. I do think OP should be more considerate and negotiate better, but I think Rslash is giving him extra points since he called OP "Lazy" when from my perspective, this thing we have sounds more medical

@CountessJJ

Жыл бұрын

He already makes her do most of the chores apparently so I don't think the fucker deserves breakfast.

@alexanderhenby1362

Жыл бұрын

That's what I was thinking, if she would make a big breakfast anyway (depending on how groceries are split, cause if OP does all the shopping that is a whole different story) OP could do the dishes

@M1chelle124

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@trajano777

Жыл бұрын

Yeah i mean his logic is not that out of whack except when he was just not ready/willing to do some in exchange gor it.

Story #1 summed up perfectly "You spend your nights alone and he never comes home And every time you call him all you get is a busy tone I heard you found out That he's doing to you what you did to me Ain't that the way it goes When you cheated, girl My heart bleeded, girl So it goes without saying that you left me feeling hurt Just a classic case scenario Tale as old as time girl, you got what you deserved And now you want somebody to cure the lonely nights You wish you had somebody that could come and make it right But girl, I ain't somebody with a lot of sympathy What goes around, comes back around"

Last story: my fiance wakes up at like 7am..and me 10am by then he's at work. On our days off we both wake around 10am.... I'm up first most of the time, if he asked me to make him breakfast along with mine and my mom's, I would ..an vise versa. Only reason why he doesn't make mine in the morning when he is up before me is cause I don't care for breakfast an it takes me 2 hours to want to eat something. Usually its left overs lol.

Story 2: I get that it can feel a little annoying to some people when stuff like this happens, but OP booked those seats early, and that's final. You don't just take a seat that is already booked.

@lorilancaster5917

Жыл бұрын

Even not factoring OPs weight, she bought two tickets and a guy sat his daughter there without asking. When will people stop assuming plane seats are a free for all

@Nerobyrne

Жыл бұрын

I'll help out the dad: Let his daughter sit by herself. It'll do her good to be away from that bunghole for a few hours.

@jillybean1373

Жыл бұрын

And factoring her weight, there are airlines that will make heavier people pay for two seats to make sure that everyone is comfortable. She bought those seats for her comfort and the person sharing her row.

@iononcantomascrivo

Жыл бұрын

I applaud OP for sticking to her guns. She's absolutely right: poor planning on that entitled father's part does not constitute an emergency on hers. Also, good on her for shutting down that judgmental nasty woman flyer. As for her mom acting all hoity-toity, she'll either get over it or she won't. I think her dad was totally right to laugh.

@BronzeDragon133

Жыл бұрын

Yep. You book the seats, you pay for the seats, they're your seats even if you want to sit your invisible pretend wife in that seat and have an invisible, pretend tea party.

Third story is absolutely baffling. Op's husband spent at LEAST $15K, and that's being conservative with the estimates, was gone for a month, and expected op to be able to afford Christmas shopping with just $100. Here's what I was able to buy my family with a part time job. My gifts for my mom, aunt, grandma, and two cousins: $118 My gifts for my dad and both of my cousins' boyfriends: $108 My gifts for my cousin's kid: $100 My gift for my secret Santa: $34 All in all, that's $360, not counting the shirt I got my friend, wallet for a different cousin's kid, and earrings for a friend bc I can't remember how much they were, but it probably upped it to $400. I'm 17, I don't have to worry about bills so all of this was spending money, I had $1200 in my account from saving up. But even taking that into account, this guy definitely could've afforded to give his wife more than a measly $100 when he's going on a trip that cost THOUSANDS of dollars. If he was comfortable spending that much on a month long trip, then I have no problem believing he could've given her at least $1k. Hell, maybe even $600 would've been enough if she could stretch it (but it's still cheap considering the five figure trip). This dude is 100% an asshole and op is justified in being mad, especially since he paid for two other people's expenses.....

@Josh_the_jester

Жыл бұрын

And that's not even going into detail about the food expenses, like baked goods, gravy, potatoes or whatever your family desides to have for Christmas dinner, me and my parents made 2 types of fudge, pound cake, cookies with butter cream icing, all that costed us $115

@Starlight115x2

Жыл бұрын

To make it worse, OP's husband told her before giving her the $100, that he put aside funds for "Christmas decorations, food, gifts, kids (remember 3 children) needs etc". Like...what?! The dude bled his family's finances to death for this American soccer/football month-long trip.

@amandasunshine2

Жыл бұрын

@@Starlight115x2 $100 isn't gonna last a month for a single person, let alone a family 😳

@Crow_Smith

Жыл бұрын

I used to spend like $200 on gifts [I didn't have a lot of money] but that was roughly $40 per person which was still a pretty decent gift in a lot of cases. [Per person being: My mom, her wife, my dad, my brother and my partner]. My family generally attended to the food, but I know most of the time dinner even for just 3 of us was around $100 after all the ingredients. And honestly I think this year was the year I spent the most on those 5 people, and everyone got pretty much 2 gifts each [except my dad because he got the most expensive thing I bought] so it was closer to $500 - and that's cutting out any costs I did to pitch in for food [but including any amount I gave to others to go "halfies" on their gift for someone else lol]

@lightning_skullz

Жыл бұрын

I Smell a pro revenge story waiting to happen

I'm starting to think that rSlash is like, the perfect husband to his wife. Ain't no way this man gets that audibly irritated with a story and not be a good guy to his wife. Keep being you rSlash

@Justice237

Жыл бұрын

I guess reading so many Reddit stories has given him plenty of info on everything NOT to do in a relationship

OP: “My husband only gave me $100” (using the sign for dollar, not the sign for pound) Rslash: “I’m going to assume you’re from the UK”

@makii7408

Жыл бұрын

I mean, I'm from Germany and use dollars more often than euro online since alot of people understand dollars better, and with pounds that would be even more true since euros are used in more countries than pounds-

@rhondah.1478

Жыл бұрын

He primarily assumed UK because the OP said football. Football only means American football in the US, for the rest of the world football is soccer.

I think the last couple's problem is more the expectation that marriage will be exactly 50/50 every moment. The fact of the matter is that relationships are rarely 50/50. It's more of a sliding scale. When one is down, the other takes up the slack. To attempt to balance it perfectly at all times will only lead to disappointment and resentment. The reall 50/50 is being there when the other person needs you which flips the math a bit and makes the total 100/100.

@SoManyRandomRamblings

Жыл бұрын

True. My significant other does way more for me than I do. Sometimes I worry about that. But he knows I am willing (even if not always able) so hopefully he'll continue to love me forever and continue putting up with me. Lol

@MrsShocoTaco

Жыл бұрын

@@SoManyRandomRamblings The effort counts for a lot

@Original_Tenshi_Chan

Жыл бұрын

The problem comes in OP'S replies on his post. He claimed originally that they split dinner "50-50", but when pressed he changes it a little to "whoever comes home first starts dinner..."... then changes it again to "he starts work later than her so he always or most often comes home after her, so he RARELY makes dinner.." then he adds in that "admittedly, she does all the bill and food planning and does all the shopping too". Eventually he trickle truth admits that only chore he really does is "make the bed and sometimes yard work". The gf isn't being petty and expecting everything to be an even 50-50, she's probably just tired of it being 95-5 and then he adds another demand to her work load.

@tully6648

Жыл бұрын

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan How did I know that it was going to be "whoever gets home first starts dinner." But it turns out I'm really the fool, because I genuinely thought it'd be limited to just that. I should've known that a guy who couldn't appreciate the ease of mind that someone else making breakfast for him could give him couldn't be assed to actually have a 50-50 split.

@NicholeParker

Жыл бұрын

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan shit. My boyfriend and I were listening to this thinking “it literally just makes sense for her to make a little extra breakfast” because I can sleep til the afternoon on weekends and he always gets up early. He’s also the breakfast person, I scarf down instant oatmeal and run out the door. But knowing she’s doing everything else? Yeah no. That changes things.

I feel like the easiest way to describe the outcome of OPs sister is that karma hit her hard.

@veronejaquel5106

Жыл бұрын

Was thinking the same, she got exactly what she gave

@bibigamer502

Жыл бұрын

Apparently she never learned what goes around comes around

@yellowbunny812

Жыл бұрын

@@bibigamer502 or to never date a cheater that cheats on their pregnant partners

@Nerobyrne

Жыл бұрын

@@bibigamer502 in her case, who comes around, goes around 😅

@iononcantomascrivo

Жыл бұрын

Cheaters always making excuses saying they don't know what came over them. As far as OP’s sister's goes, it was more of a case of who came over her.

So, Sister cheats with her sister's husband while OP is in the hospital suffering a miscarriage. Then is not only surprised when this happens to her, but wants her sister to meet her kids that she had with sister's exh. I mean, she put this in motion when she cheated with a cheater then married him. She deserves everything that happened to her absent the miscarriage Plus Sized Switch: NTA, you prepared, they did not.

@klemenhudobreznik3421

Жыл бұрын

NOT ABSENT STILLBORN PART! SISTER DESERVE THAT TOO AS IT MADE HER SITUATION SAME AND NOW SEE OPS PERSPECTIVE TOO LATE!

That man in the first story deserves a 6/5 for how horrible he was. We've seen horrible on here, and he somehow is worse than all those people.

Story 3: Does this guy ever do the grocery shopping? It doesn't sounds like he knows what things cost. A full Christmas dinner for the whole family, PLUS gifts? I hope he likes sandwiches and socks.

@philip8498

Жыл бұрын

What do you mean sandwiches? At current prices 100 bucks will barely buy you bread for a month when you got three kids to feed. If anything he will get a two slices of bread with a third slice of bread in the middle under the tree. Or more likely the equivalent of whatever that is in potatos. Because on a budget, potatos absolutely rule

@Robloxian-micheal69420

Жыл бұрын

​@@philip8498I don't know where you're living but I've never heard of such ridiculous pricing

@larissa-je8dc

Жыл бұрын

Honestly I really hope op got some family in the area that can help her and her kids and honestly she needs to divorce him that ain’t a man

Story 1 can be summed up by this quote: "When a man marries his mistress, he creates a job vacancy."

About the last story: I'm not sure if it's because I'm not from the States (I'm from South America) and maybe it's a cultural thing, but I feel it's almost disrespectful to cook only for yourself when you have a partner? And don't get me wrong, I can be very selfish sometimes, but if I'm already cooking for myself what would cost me to cook a little bit more for my SO? I wouldn't do it expecting anything in return other than washing the dishes. I dunno, just feels selfish cooking only for yourself and I mean, reciprocation is always great, but I wouldn't do it expecting much other maybe helping wash the dishes (which I take from my sister's and her boyfriend's agreement: he cooks, she washes the dishes). While I do agree that OP is also very selfish not offering much in return, I think this one is more on the ESH scale (and not a very break-up worthy situation tbh, just a moment of self reflection on both sides and a little bit of TALKING TO EACH OTHER CALMLY would resolve everything)

@wickkdd

Жыл бұрын

Quick add: Hmm, reading the comments here and seeing how OP has been replying people on Reddit and basically showing how useless he truly is, I understand the girlfriend now. Definitely a NTA for her since apparently she's the one doing everything.

@internetpersonayy

Жыл бұрын

I agree with the comment above me if there is that added information. The main story, however, is written in a way where the girlfriend does look like TA. I'm from the United States (could vary on area, but it's the same for me), and not cooking something for someone else when you're already making something is kind of rude. Unless the amount of food is volumes more, it takes no extra effort to cook for an additional person. Adding a few extra eggs and bacon is not difficult and does not take any more time. Part of a relationship is communicating. If the boyfriend was truly unable to function in the morning, I'd assume the girlfriend would be more understanding. However, if the boyfriend truly is lazy based on the other comments, it's understandable why the girlfriend was reluctant.

@jh9297

Жыл бұрын

I am from the states and i agree i feel it is rude to only make for urself unless they dont want or ur home alone its just the polite thing to do. I cook u clean i feel is fair

@ArtyMcKenzie

Жыл бұрын

I'm an American and I thought similarly, even down to the preference of a cook/clean arrangement. Idk if it makes a difference, I'm a southerner. We're accusing OP of being transactional, which he is, but not the gf, which she also is. But that aside, if I were cooking for myself, I'd feel bad letting my spouse eat oatmeal (ofc if that's what they prefer then whatever) and its generally regarded as poor manners to just cook for yourself (again, relationship circumstances). However, I don't tend to set up meals on this level of division of labor but since that IS a part of their division of labor calculation then I broadly agree more with the gf that they should alternate. OR alternatively, since his complaint is that he's not a morning person then he can make all dinners and she makes all breakfasts. ESH but more suckiness from the bf than gf.

@chronicwalker9038

Жыл бұрын

Germany here, agreed.

Fun fact about the World Cup husband the average UK household spends £1100 on Christmas

@catkin567

Жыл бұрын

Not sure what the UK average has to do with that story. It's the US average spend on Christmas which is more pertinent!

@ZonkRulz666

Жыл бұрын

@@catkin567 RSlash was guessing UK. Did you listen to that bit or do you just assume that every story is set in the US?

@catkin567

Жыл бұрын

@@ZonkRulz666 Thank you, I heard that bit, but the OP says 'mom' and talks about money in dollars, which is not the UK, did you miss that bit or do you assume dollars is currency everywhere?

@ZonkRulz666

Жыл бұрын

@@catkin567 and America is the only country in the world that use Dollars for currency?

@catkin567

Жыл бұрын

@ZonkRulz666 hmm what countries say 'mom' and use dollars .. maybe Canada too, but certainly not the UK, lol

I love your opinion on the first story. While I generally enjoy karma being a bitch, I do agree that a miscarriage is not something anyone deserves to go through.

@fagaction

Жыл бұрын

Nah. But she does desere the man leaving her at her darkest moment.

@xoana4197

Жыл бұрын

No, but the parents are such assholes. Like, they talk about how OP should make up with her sister because "she's going through something noone deserves". Yet when the exact same thing happened to OP, they didn't seem to care that much.

@firepuppies4086

Жыл бұрын

I feel no pity for her, I pity the child that was lost, but... I feel no pity for the sister

@SidereusOfTheFallen

Жыл бұрын

I agree, but the point of not nuking your relationships is that you never know what might happen. No one deserves to go through a miscarriage, but if you nuked all your closest relationships and no one comes to your bedside when the unthinkable happens, it's the consequences of your own actions.

@FishAnvil

Жыл бұрын

Less that she deserved a miscarriage, more that the kid deserved better parents. Let's be honest, OP's sister and ex are not going to stop at just abusing their parents, OP and each other.

First story: I wonder how this story doesn't make deserving the sister and the ex's family doesn't deserve 5/5 buttholes. The sister betrayed her and now SHE'S IN THE SAME SITUATION OP WAS IN WHEN SHE BETRAYED HER. And the husband did a repeat.

@ArtyMcKenzie

Жыл бұрын

Yeah... plus there didn't seem to be apology in sight AFTER years of NC... It's like they thought "oh, who else do we know that would understand the emotional toll of having their partner cheat on them while miscarrying in the hospital, alone?" (Also, can I just say, it doesn't even sound like sis was alone, she at least had her parents, which I don't think can be said of OP). Then they just never got any further than "my daughter needs support, phone a friend" so they forgot to consider who participated in OP going through that in the first place, how little help they were, and that OP isn't their friend as a result. Just... short-sighted on so many levels.

I actually wanna give the person in the 2nd story huge props for buying the 2nd seat knowing that it may be uncomfortable for a 3rd person due to their size. I recently flew and had someone sticking into my seat, from under the armrest a good 4 inches, but it was a full flight so nothing really you can do about that.

@mmongoose21

9 ай бұрын

If I could afford it I totally would. I definitely try to take up as little space as I can when flying.

Story 1: The same thing happened to the sister she is now asking for help, except SHE was the one sleeping with her sister's husband, which is infinitely worse. OP is NTA

Story 3; $100 used to buy a month’s worth of groceries in the early 2010’s. Now $100 won’t even cut it for a weeks worth of shopping. It’s disgusting what her husband did.

i don't think there's anything wrong with asking his girlfriend to add breakfast for him as well if she's making a spread for herself in the first place, but he has an attitude problem. He should offer to make dinner more often or take her out to places or add a bit more chores to his routine after she asked to be compensated. Personally, I'd just make breakfast for my partner as well if I'm already cooking, but if she wants to split everything fairly that's well within her rights to ask of him and he should accommodate that instead of demanding she just do him the favor every morning

@SoManyRandomRamblings

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@chrisallen9296

Жыл бұрын

When did relationships turn into transactions.

@satsujin4027

Жыл бұрын

Idk, he says she makes a giant breakfast. Making double will take double the time. What if she wants to use that time to do something else. My mom wakes up early and makes a nice breakfast and she have one simple rule: if you wake up at the same time as her, she will make a share of breakfast for you, if not, then u can make yourself some breakfaat when u wake up. She decided upon this after a few time she made extra and left for my father and he decided "today I dont want this or that"and just left the food. My mother HATES to waste food. So if you wake up with her u can tell her what u want and she willmake it. If not, u make ur own food.

@jaymevosburgh3660

Жыл бұрын

@@chrisallen9296 They have always been that way for some people. It is not a new issue. Some people just suck at being in a relationship ov any sort.

@chrisallen9296

Жыл бұрын

@@satsujin4027 No it won't. That's not how cooking works. Cooking 6 strips of bacon takes no longer than cooking 3. Same goes for sausages. he's not asking her to cook anything else. Just put on a few extra pieces of whatever she is making for him. That will have no effect on how long the meal takes to cook

I can understand you not being able to trade off making breakfast since you aren't a morning person, but you MUST find something else extra that you can do for her.

@blitzyosrs2104

Жыл бұрын

or dont treat a relationship like a business deal and do nice things for them because you love them.

Not to make light of the first story, but the, "Oh my GAWD!" sprinkled in throughout your reading were hilarious.

For the last one, the division of labor to me is clear: if she takes over breakfast, he should take over dinner and lunch is free form.

@SoManyRandomRamblings

Жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@kvproductions2581

Жыл бұрын

She already makes breakfast, she's being lazy and trying to get him to do more chores in exchange of just adding an extra egg or whatever to a breakfast she already makes that mindset of turning such a minor thing into a transaction is awful OP should've offered to take over dinner, yes, but the girl is also TA for nickle-and-diming her SO like that

@lifewuzonceezr

Жыл бұрын

@@kvproductions2581 she makes most of the dinners AND does the shopping

@kvproductions2581

Жыл бұрын

@@lifewuzonceezr They said they swap for dinners. Plus, I'm not saying the division of labor is good, or that OP is NTA. I'm only saying that, with the context we have, she is also TA

Story 2: I'm usually more than willing to accommodate for families especially since choosing seats is very expensive here, but the second it becomes a demand rather than a question my goodwill is thrown out the window. The man should've asked and when you said no, gone to ask for help from the stewardess. It's nice if you CAN help! But sometimes you can't, and that's that.

@lorilancaster5917

Жыл бұрын

Or he could’ve, just a crazy thought, book early and get two seats together. I also wonder if he hoped for an upgrade at some point during his “ordeal”?

@fdm2155

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. Also the fact that his kid is 12 makes a difference to me. He's acting like he's traveling with a toddler. LOL Adjoining seats is nice to have but is it REALLY critical?

@arnoldfossman1701

Жыл бұрын

I don't understand a father wanting his child to share a seat with a stranger. From what OP said it would be clear that OP can't avoid taking up part of her second seat, that would mean that the child would have to share that seat. The man should have looked for an alternative from the start without trying to cause drama with OP.

@lorilancaster5917

Жыл бұрын

@@fdm2155 and I doubt OP would be reimbursed for her second seat

@TarisLuna

Жыл бұрын

I would imagine that guy and his daughter would have started complaining about OP being in "the daughters seat" if OP would have let them take it.

For the last story I kinda agree with both sides. It really doesn't take much effort to add an extra portion, the fact that he even has to ask instead of her offering is weird. I honestly wouldn't consider marrying someone who didn't think of me when making food knowing I'm home. That being said it's more than fair to ask him to either switch off on breakfast or do something else. Part of being in a relationship is knowing when to compromise, this is one of those times.

I had never heard that phrase before I started watching rslash, and I love it "Your poor planning is not my emergency" Priceless!

Story 3: she should divorce him, that way she can get alimony from him to actually pay living for her and hers kids. And house and everything in it, take everything, only thing she doesn't really need is him.

The husband in the 3rd story is exactly why ladies you can't be solely financially dependent on some men. You have to keep a job for financial independence and always have an exit strategy. What he is doing is so selfish and disgusting and I'm sure if the friend's girlfriend isn't actually his girlfriend, he is at least banging her because why would be paying for her and not her boyfriend. It's really sad here because all of this is doing nothing but hurting the kids.

@LLandS18

Жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@sourcandy6469

Жыл бұрын

100% agreed!! It’s so sad that women couldn’t have a job before and were forced to be solely reliant on some mans kindness.. of course financial abuse nowadays can happen to any gender and its terrible in any case. I’m just glad that things aren’t the way they were before where I live at least and I’m heartbroken for everyone that doesn’t share the same privileges as me..

@SherriLyle80s

Жыл бұрын

Yep

@curtisalex456

Жыл бұрын

@@LLandS18 Yep, i do not understand why someone would voluntarily put themselves in this situation.

@araxe6644

Жыл бұрын

And here I thought that relationships should be based on mutual trust, respect and love. I guess not for everyone. Just because the guy in this story is a scumbag doesn't mean this kind of relationship doesn't work for some people. I'm not saying it's for everyone, it sure isn't. Though I think treating your spouse like this is a sign of distrust and definitely isn't leading to a healthy relationship

Not only did this man miss Christmas he also skipped Thanksgiving so in all actuality op didn't even have enough money to make it a Thanksgiving dinner. This is you leave him right now take the kids go to an in-laws or or your parents house but get away from him he is financially abusing you

@frankiehall5211

Жыл бұрын

The story doesn't take place in the USA so there was no thanksgiving for them to celebrate.

Last story. I'm in the same boat as the gf of op. My guy doesn't wake up as early as me, but I still go out of my way to make him something. And op is right, it really isn't that hard to make for two people. It's fair for me that if I'm going to have breakfast, so should my guy.

@crossofoxy7323

Жыл бұрын

i'm happy i'm not the only one thinking that the op was just right on this one

@mask938

Жыл бұрын

You don’t know the full truth. People in the comments kept asking OP what the division of labor looks like for him and his girlfriend, and OP kept trickle truthing them until they all figured out that the girlfriend does that majority of the work (groceries, house maintenance, chores, etc.), the 50/50 split of dinner is actually the task being given to whoever gets home first (which is almost always the girlfriend), and all OP does is make the bed and yard work sometimes. OP is a lazy, entitled manbaby who treats his girlfriend more like a maid with benefits than a girlfriend.

@ThingInTheHall

3 ай бұрын

​@mariamisah3093 reported lol scambot

1st story: while OP was in hospital *having a miscarriage* he cheated with OP's sister, instead of being with her or driving her home, got said sister pregnant and then tried to act like it was fine, OP was overreacting... what a slug. They're inhuman.

@lorilancaster5917

Жыл бұрын

It gives an extra lack of sympathy for sister that not only did he cheat on OP with her but with what OP was going through, his nonchalance about it, and telling OP that she’ll get over the affair like he can dictate her feelings. Sister witnessed this and continued to be with him.

@spicydiarrhea5662

Жыл бұрын

op should apologize and forgive

@savannahs.5874

Жыл бұрын

@@spicydiarrhea5662 she doesn’t have to do shit for them

1st story, even if you could forgive, you won't ever forget what happened the devastated you. And it is ironic for what happened to the sister with the parent saying she suffer worst. Sure, OP never suffer worst on their end. The children definitely need to know the truth behind all of this or they will someday

Last Story: I think you're being way to harsh on OP with the information given. You're saying he nickles'n'dimes her about it, but that is exactly what she is doing... If you ask a favor of your partner you shouldn't have to -pay- for that favor, a relationship isn't a series of transactions. It should be understood that if that favor is done then you will be able to ask your own favors without payment in the future. Keeping score simply isn't healthy. Immediately asking "What do I get out of this arrangement" instead of doing a low effort favor for her SO makes the girlfriend an asshole in this situation imo.

@xAlcoholicGamer

Жыл бұрын

Completely agree, my thoughts exactly listening to this.

I'm gonna be honest Rslash, it's pretty clear you are not the cook in your house, based on your reaction to the last story. You know how much extra time and energy it takes to cook 2 extra eggs and two more strips of bacon? All but none. I'm not saying his attitude was great, as we don't have enough details for that. We would need to know tone and exact words for that. But really, he's not asking her to do extra work. He's asking to be included in an activity she's already doing. So why is it now a new job? I think I'm chalking this one up to Rslashes girl is right bias, as had the story been "Hey I started asking my bf to make bigger dinners, which he cooks every night. I didn't used to eat dinners, and snack at the end of the day, but I figured I'd try a bigger dinner. So I asked him to make more so I could have some too and then he asked if we would then both be cooking dinner now and I said no!" And Rslash would have been all over that bf for trying to act like the girlfriend owed him for cooking for him when he was already cooking.

my partner and I had entirely different body clocks. He was a morning person, I am very much not. He liked breakfast, was bright as a button right out of bed, I couldn't bring myself to eat in the mornings, and struggled to interact until I'd had a while to wake up. So I took care of dinner and the things that needed doing in the evenings, he did the morning stuff. We worked around it the way you do any other personal quirks you both have. Your body clock isn't necessarily a choice; there are actual studies suggesting people's body clocks are different, and we are naturally wired to be either a morning or evening person. Its not being lazy, or any other negative assumption people like to make, its a genuine thing. Its thought to be an evolutionary tactic to ensure some people in the group were always up during the night for safety/security reasons. Makes sense. Ever since I was a kid my natural body clock wants me up to the early hours, I just cannot sleep early, and I cannot get up early. I am 41, I've had a lot of years to try and be a morning person, I've had jobs where I had to start at 7:00am. Did a year of getting up at 6:00am change my body clock to being more functional and awake in the morning? NO. Not in the slightest. I was STILL unable to sleep until 3:00am each night. It was as alien to my body as asking anyone else to go to bed at 4pm. Next time a morning person bounces in on me at 8:00am with their 'OMG ITS A NEW DAY, LETS EAT A HUGE MEAL AND DANCE!!!' energy, I feel like doing the same to them at 4:00am when Im up and active and hungry, and they are trying to sleep. Im guessing they suddenly won't be as tolerent. That said, not saying the OP in that story wasn't being a little petty, but I do think its important to realise how one feels in the morning or the evening isn't necessarily a choice or something they can change. You just arrange your life around it.

@martletkay

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I feel like the girlfriend is being pretty unsympathetic and selfish. It's just not that hard, and if you actually love someone, it's even less hard. We don't choose our metabolism or body clock. It is SUPER hard to change your natural rhythms, and super easy to just... throw in some more bacon? I dunno. The fact that this went on for years without her ever offering to make some for him as well is pretty weird, and more troubling than anything else to me. It's like, she's allowed to ask more of him, but he's not allowed a simple piggy-backing favor from her? If it was me I'd have offered to make him some from from the start! Because that's what ACTUAL love is? I dunno, I live with people who have, at times, aggressive food insecurities from growing up as well as selfish food partitioning (like refusing to share but asking/expecting others to share, and getting food out and not asking anyone else if they want some, knowing full well anyone else would also love to have some, and either never thinking about asking or purposefully not asking), which has instilled some food anxieties in me. Having seen and experienced this, tThe idea of denying someone basic access to the same food you're eating is kinda messed up, not gonna lie.

@TipTheScales27

Жыл бұрын

Yeah but you’re actually contributing to the relationship. He’s not. Big difference! People kept prodding him in the comments about what he contributes to dinner… he was lying about helping her out. He seldom makes dinner. If his girlfriend feels like he isn’t contributing enough to the relationship and snapped at him wanting breakfast too, she is allowed to feel that way

@alidan

Жыл бұрын

me sitting here being able to sleep at any hour, and wake up at any hour. I need to be awake at 3am, just power may ass to be awake for 20+ hours, and it resets when I can sleep. never understood how anyone cant be awake in the morning if they want to be, get up eirlier sleep eirlier, if need be 24+hours of running will reset when to sleep if accompanies by an alarm to get up.

@beheroot

Жыл бұрын

when i'm writing this, its 4:27 am :> So i know exactly what are you talking about. And my partner is morning person, sleeping for a few hours now. So... he walks the dog in the morning, i do the evenings. but when he got cold, and couldnt go with doggo .... that was horrible for me ;P Aaand my back hurts in the morning so cleaning what dog did wasnt easy task > I think OP and his GF didnt grow up enough to be in relationship...

@abiean222

Жыл бұрын

@@alidan the amount of jealous hate i'm sending you could power a city

Second story : It's your seat, you paid for it. You need both seats to sit properly. The woman complaining to YOU about the lack of planning on the dad's part is just the cherry on top. NTA.

Tickets To Football: I know the stories a little old and we now all know how bad the conditions were at the Qatar game, I slightly hope that the husband in the story did not get to enjoy himself in any way. I also hope that OP found a solicitor after reading the responses on Reddit and had divorce papers ready in time to gift wrap them as a Christmas present.

1st story, she got what she deserved. No if and or buts; Karma, greater power, spirits, God's, doesn't matter. She got what was comming to her. Not all of the powers that be work in beautiful ways.

@klemenhudobreznik3421

Жыл бұрын

Amen.

With the story of the husband who spent 20K, for him, his buddy and girlfriend to go watch the world cup in person for a month... but only leaves 100 for Christmas. My suggestion would for the wife to use that 100, towards changing the locks on the house. Then spend that month, getting a head start on divorcing her husband.

@SoManyRandomRamblings

Жыл бұрын

Good idea

Well now the sister in the first story knows what it's like. She got exactly what she deserved.

@tully6648

Жыл бұрын

She sort of knows, anyway. Because she at least gets her parents rallying behind her and helping her, whereas OP got none of that. OP's sister, mom, and dad all deserve each other.

@terraguttierez2996

Жыл бұрын

who can say golden child !!!

@abiean222

Жыл бұрын

@@tully6648 like yeah! where was OP's parents when OP lost her baby and found out about her cheating husband. we know where her sister was at least. such hypocrites, i wish OP a long and happy life with her new family.

@Edgypoo

Жыл бұрын

she didnt deserve to lose the baby imo ( i dont feel bad for her though) but she should have seen the cheating coming lmao

@RudesMom

Жыл бұрын

@@terraguttierez2996 Probably why she thought sleeping with her sister's husband wasn't an issue in the first place.

I gotta hand it to RSlash for dishing out insightful relationship do's and don'ts here and there. First time being in one and honestly, he's like that uncle voice in my head giving me advice and it's really given me perspective. Thank you Dabney

Honestly I think it’s fitting to treat bad parents harshly, they don’t deserve better treatment

Story 1 The sister got ironic karma? Oh my god. Lol

@thetruth1816

Жыл бұрын

"BUT BUT FAMMMILY".." YOUR SISTER IS REALLY SOOOORRYY"..lol what a crock..

@swampwitch6133

Жыл бұрын

@@thetruth1816 I know right? She only felt sorry about it after she got her karma by having the same thing happen to her and found what it felt like to get fucked over. I say fuck the husband, sister, and the parents. Me personally? I would do the same thing she did and have nothing to do with any of them.

@HetaliaGirl1

Жыл бұрын

@@thetruth1816 OP's sister is obviously the Golden Child.

@thetruth1816

Жыл бұрын

@@HetaliaGirl1 yup..I can't stand parents like that..

Story 3: Wow, "father of the year" here, am I right? "I know, let me bomb a majority of the house's income on a sporting event not just for me, but for my buddy and his girlfriend and then get mad at my wife when she can't do just about anything with the piss-poor amount of money I "saved" for the holidays!" Gimme a frickin' break. OP's NTA. She should get her "husband" a nice, fresh copy of divorce papers for Christmas!

I've never thought you were overly harsh on entitled parents, Dabney. You deliver the verbal justice that's needed and deserved. You have a strong moral compass - and that's a feature - not a flaw.

Third Story: My god, $100? Are you serious? To be honest Christmas is one of the most expensive holidays, including food, gifts, and even decorations. The husband has no self-awareness when it comes to Christmas, and he even tries to guilt trip you with the kids get no Christmas like the other kids do! That is an ouch.

Man, I can't say I'd be mature enough not to tell the sister "Now you know how it feels." in the first story. Goddamn sisters complete lack of self awareness is commendable though.

The husband goes on a month long vacation, paying for two friends but calls his wife spoiled?

@LLandS18

Жыл бұрын

Story like this is why I would never never be a stay-at-home mother. I couldn't let anyone have that kind of control over me and my children. Not that I have any right now. Edit if being a stay-at-home parent work for you that great. But it not for me

The escalating “…oh my GOD!” as the first story went on is [chef kiss]

The last story: NTA. Mornings don't suck for everyone. In a relationship, if your partner has difficulties in some areas, you help them. I don't get people who see everything as a transaction. If you love someone you want to take care of them and make their life better. If you're already cooking it really doesn't require much extra effort. And the point of the request is that he needs help in the morning so how does it make sense that he does breakfast on some mornings. OP probably helps his gf in other areas. Help doesn't even have to be chores. Emotional support is also important.

For the breakfast story: I do get it. I feel like you have to think extremely pragmaticly. Like. If it's literally no extra work other than just adding in an extra piece then I see the mindset. HOWEVER, that is not how a relationship typically works. It goes beyond just division of labor. It comes down to showing effort and affection. Like rslash said, mornings suck for everyone. Even though I like being up early to work out and cook after, I hate having to do anything for anyone else. I still cook for the house if they're awake though. I offer to make whatever they want because that's how this relationship stuff works.

@Juju2927

Жыл бұрын

The way I see it is that if she ever accepts to prepare breakfast for him the morning, she can say goodbye to any effort coming from him the morning.

@saifmohamed2967

Жыл бұрын

It is extra work though, cooking one egg doesn't take as much time as cooking three

@emmacobb591

Жыл бұрын

I am the only one who thinks if she cooks breakfast every day he should cook dinner every day.

@lorilancaster5917

Жыл бұрын

I’m sure the girlfriend would cook if he agreed to cook all the dinners but he wouldn’t budge

@shykorustotora

Жыл бұрын

It sounds like OP has the same thing I do. Don't know what it's called but it takes me about 2 hours to get out of bed. If I rush, I'll feel sick, light headed and I've already fainted and hurt myself a few times. I actually have 0 appetite in the morning, so I typically don't eat, but if I do, it REALLY helps. I do think OP should be more considerate and negotiate better, but I think Rslash is giving him extra points since he called OP "Lazy" when from my perspective, this thing we have sounds more medical

Story #3 is absolutely deserving of the rare 5/5 score. I know you gave one already. But honestly. I think this financial abuse and HIS entitlement is deserving of it.

For the breakfast one, rSlash seems to have dropped the ball, there is more to take into account. Its established that the husband isn't a morning person and the wife is, this could easily be due to differences in metabolism among other things, and since the husband doesn't eat much for breakfast and it tends to be foods that will go right through him, it wouldn't be surprising if that is why his energy amounts differ so much from his wife. And honestly, both of these people are nickel and diming eachother when it comes to splitting workloads. The husband could just keep the peace by proposing to do some other task that isn't meal related in return for this daily favor from his wife. But in all honesty, he made a good point about it not taking that much effort to just add more stuff to the pans and its a little odd that the wife wouldn't be willing to do something nice for him without always expecting something in return. Likewise, he shouldn't expect something in return for every nice gesture either.

@SNOWM3N_

Жыл бұрын

I totaly agree i was listen8ng on spotify and came on to youtube just to see if someone would agree. +rep for you

@LLandS18

Жыл бұрын

Mommy must have spoiled a lot of people a lot in this comment section. Here's a hint if you're an adult and you want a big breakfast, get up and make it yourself. Why does she need to have more work at a to her already busy morning because this guy's too lazy to get out of. I get it I never used to be a morning person either but guess what I wanted to have a nice breakfast so I started setting my alarm clock earlier so I could be an adult and make my own goddamn breakfast. Or better yet, Denny's served breakfast all day. It's not her job it's to make sure he gets a big breakfast every day she's not his mummy. If he wants that kind of spoiling, he needs to move back home with his mommy. And if she's going to get up earlier, if she's going to make more food, he needs to trade off with something for her. She can contribute more then he's contributing more. Why is it all on her to do more

@kainleingod9662

7 ай бұрын

​@@LLandS18​ cause relationships are a partnership, not a transaction

@LLandS18

7 ай бұрын

@@kainleingod9662 oh I get it if you bought the read The updates you'd see She does all the housework the majority of the suppers/cooking. She does all the errands. She also the breadwinner. But you're right she doesn't do enough for him because relationships aren't transactional. I mean she should just give and give and give and he should just get and never have to give back. I mean the pleasure of just being with him is enough. I mean it's her job. As the woman to do all the labor all the emotional labor and cook breakfast because he's a sleepy little guy in the morning. Like I said, mommy spoiled way too many people in this comment section.

Story 4: I feel like rslash is off base on his assessment. If I had a partner that would make breakfast every single morning without fail then it wouldn't be unreasonable to ask her to throw some extra food on for me. That makes perfect sense. It not like he's asking her to go out of her way, she's already in the act of doing it. It would be like asking your partner for some water if they are already getting some.

@LLandS18

Жыл бұрын

If you want a big breakfast get up and make it yourself. Or trade-off. Why is it her responsibility to get up even earlier to make more food for him. He is not a child he's not a baby he has working arms and legs if he wants breakfast he can get up

I have lived story 3! My dad left me, my brother and our mum (his wife) to go off to Disney World Florida, at Christmas with his Girlfriend! Both me and my brother were only young, around 6/7 years old. He literally left us three with nothing. Not even £100! So my mum went F that, and (btw this was early 90s) took a copy of his credit card and bought a Christmas hamper and gifts for my brother and I on her catalogue. Afterwards my mum did speak to a friend of hers who was a police officer and he basically said that my dad could take her to court over it but it would not look good on him, esp if my mum told the truth. She wasn't working, literally had no money and was left with two kids to look after. He never did press charges or even confront her, he came back and just complained that someone had used his card. My dad was a complete and utter ass. Thankfully no longer in my life!

@lazyk7997

Жыл бұрын

Wait was he cheating with your mom or are they divorced bcuz of the girlfriend part??

@GeoToni13

Жыл бұрын

@@lazyk7997 when my parents were still married he had a girlfriend. So he was cheating on my mum. They hadn't separated then cause my dad was a cheap git (to us and my mum, not to his girlfriend) and was doing everything he could to make my mum jealous so she would leave. (he even offered my mum 5k to leave and take us as He wanted the house for himself!) She wasn't gonna let him do that though and I believe it was the next year she kicked him out.

@lazyk7997

Жыл бұрын

Oh well that's good for you and your mom glad she kicked him out good for your mom

Story 1: NTA traitors deserve no sympathy but they do deserve every last drop of bad karma the universe can provide. Edit: not the still birth that's just awful for anyone to go though, I meant her being cheated on by a known cheater and breaking down.

@klemenhudobreznik3421

Жыл бұрын

ACTUALLY THE STIL BORN ALSO KARMA BECAUSE IT MADE THIS INCIDENT UNEXPECTED EYE FOR AN EYE AND MADE SISTER FULLY SEE OPS PERSPECTIVE! STOP BEING WEAKLING AS WAS RSlash!

@shadowmewfred09

Жыл бұрын

@@klemenhudobreznik3421 actually you throwing essentially a temper tantrum like that is being weaker then you claim I am. No one should suffer something that horrific no matter how evil they are and boasting such makes you no different to them. Until you've seen a dead baby and smelled it you have no right to say it was "deserved" justice is blind not heartless her being cheated on and being abandoned realising her mistake is enough

@klemenhudobreznik3421

Жыл бұрын

@@shadowmewfred09 SAY PERSON DEFENDING POS OF SISTER WHO CLEARLY NEVER CARED ABOUT MISCARRIAGE DIDNT OPS PARENTS, YOU BEING WITH IT ONE AS WELL! SHE DIDNT EARN HER SYMPATHY OR EMPATHY AS OP WAS BASED AND DIDNT EVEN CARE ON STILLBORN AS HER POS DIDNT ON HER MISSCARRIAGE! GET HELP YOU SICK ENABLER OF CHEATERS!

Last story: I agree w/the boyfriend. His girlfriend hasn’t even offered to make him breakfast or leave a plate for him. Heck she could start coffee for him and I’m sure that he would love that, especially If she knows he has trouble waking up in the morning. Sometimes it’s about thinking of the other person without expecting something in return. And I’m sorry but relationships are not 50/50. They fluctuate depending on the finances, work, household duties, likes/dislikes, etc…

@vamvam7690

Жыл бұрын

To be fair, you may think differently if you saw the actual Reddit post and all the OPs answers to peoples response questions Turns out (from OPs responses) that the gf does all the shopping, meal planning, household chores, laundry etc. OP makes the bed on weekdays and does the yard work when needed OP said he cooks dinner sometimes but admitted that whoever is home earliest from work cooks dinner and that his gf is usually the one who’s home first so she does it most of the time So I dont think it’s really about the gf refusing to do this 1 small thing…seems like it’s probably more about the fact that their workload is already very unbalanced and he wants her to do yet another job without being willing to compromise or offer help elsewhere in return 🤷‍♀️

@LLandS18

Жыл бұрын

​@@vamvam7690 of course that's the reality of the situation. The fact that people don't see how entitled his behaviour is blows my mind. I could see that whiny type of mommy spoiled me to death little boy masquerading as a man for a mile away. So everybody's okay with her carrying more burden her doing more work because she already does it anyway. I mean what's a little more? When the fact of the matter is women today overwhelmingly work a full-time job and still do 87% of all household chores not that it's applicable in this story but they also do 92% of all child-rearing. So not only do women work full-time and contribute to the household earning they're still expected to be a little housewife. When women go on about how they're not paid fairly that's what they're talking about. They're not talking about how when men and women do the same job women earn less it hasn't been that for a long time.

The First Story: OP made the right choice in cutting out toxic people in their life so I hope they continue to do so, cause she doesn't owe her sister any sympathy at all. Where was op's sympathy when she needed it huh? It centrally wasn't there when her sister slept with her ex, or even from the rest of her family least of all her parents. The Third Story: Yeah that sounds like a divorce is brewing. It can be said that it doesn't matter what your gender is if you marry someone and they want to be the primary bread winner, just don't keep what ever job you have so if something like this happens(and hopeful it wont because not all people who want to be the bread winner pull crap like this.) you can get out on the other side ok. It is never ok to abuse anyone in any way. This last story: Like wow how much of an ahole are you OP. I even trade off making meals with my gf that includes breakfast, lunch and dinner. I agree with rslash you're nickel and diming her, and acting like she needs to be like your mommy and do everything for you. You're so ass backwards and stuck in your old ass traditions of things you don't realize who the hell would want to marry someone who acts and treats their partner the way you do. If she leaves you OP it's your own fault and I don't think any of us would feel bad if that happens.

Breakfast story: He should have offered to clean the dishes or anything she uses for the breakfast if he isn't doing that already on the chores

@SoManyRandomRamblings

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, give and take, if you want more offer something in return

Story 1: You KNOW FOR SURE they aren't sorry AT ALL when they go ahead and get together after the cheating.

Completely agree. If you can’t wake up for your own breakfast, you will not ever be there to help out if you have a kid at night

For the last story, why didn’t OP prepare breakfast at night and reheat it the following morning, for himself and/or girlfriend? That way he doesn’t have to get up early but is still fair to his partner

OP in story 2 literally did everything she could to make this experience as comfy for herself and others on the plane. It's not her fault that someone else didn't book seats in advance🤷‍♀️

First story: OP is NTA. This story is literally a betrayal by both her now ex and sister, and it happened on one of the worst days of OP's life. Hell, even if the husband wasn't cheating, he should have been there in the hospital with her, and he wasn't. OP owes her sister nothing. Her parents are also jerks for insisting OP bury the hatchet with her sister. Also, this is why you should never date someone who you know has a history of cheating. There's no guarantee they won't cheat on you. Second story: OP is NTA. Her tickets, her money. If she doesn't want to give up her seat, that she paid and arrived on time for, then that's her right. The woman who switched seats was also rude for giving OP a hard time over this. Third story: OP is NTA. Her husband is spending his hard earned money on two other people so they can go to the World Cup, instead of his children. He's the Grinch here, because he literally stole Christmas from his children. $100 is hardly worth anything for Christmas especially when he spent $20K on this trip. How do you not set aside more money for your family for Christmas? I agree with rSlash that this is financial abuse. Fourth story: OP is TA. If he wants to eat a cooked breakfast, he should at least wake up at the same time as his girlfriend. He should also be willing to cook himself. It's 2022, grown men should be able and willing to cook.

@samalvarez8776

Жыл бұрын

That third story, I hope he comes back to an empty home

@spicydiarrhea5662

Жыл бұрын

OP is major buttcheeks, she should pay alimony and love her sister's kids as if they here her own. I hope he court will order just that but still... there IS a special place in hell for op to act so selfish and hateful. Allah WILL punish her for turning her back on the family

@d.persia2548

Жыл бұрын

What's wrong with asking to be thought of when making breakfast? Rather he's able to cook or not.

@eeveefan132

Жыл бұрын

You’re kinda missing a key detail in the second story; OP shouldn’t have let herself get that fat in the first place. ESH.

@superphantom100

Жыл бұрын

@@eeveefan132 she said it was a medical condition for one and we don’t her life.

Story 2: When I was 8 my family went to Disney and on one of our flights my Dad wasn’t able to book us seats together. He took me aside before the flight, explained that I couldn’t sit with him or have a window seat like I had been but it would be okay and he wouldn’t be far. I sat next to a very nice lady and her adult son with my Dad a few rows ahead of me where I could see him. Somehow I managed to survive just fine with my snacks and my Mrs. Piggle Wiggle books.

3rd story: HOW TF $100 WILL BE ENOUGH FOR A CHRISTMAS CELEBRATION?!?! tree is like $300+ for the fake ones, decor varies so around $80 - $100, food around $50 - $80 to cook. Presents varies too from $15 - 30 per toy. Like wtf is this? Also for almost 1 month and a half is INSANE WTF I just hope OP contacted her husband's family about the situation and how much he left so they can help a bit with food purchases. My god. He should be exiled immediately from parental license *nods nods*

I’m totally agreeing to splitting chores. But the girlfriend is almost too obsessive on always keeping track on what she did for OP and what OP did in return. ofc she still doesn’t deserve a butthole score for that, but I personally think that in an ideal relationship, there’s no need to constantly counterbalance everything. Sharing chores should happen naturally. Maybe they should talk about that and realize what the other one brings to the table without having to bring it up every time and quite literally putting it on a scale where OP has to balance it with something completely equal. I don’t mean it in a way as to excusing OPs behavior, but there’s definitely a solution to what OP can bring to the table other than making breakfast.

@avashnea

Жыл бұрын

She totally DOES deserve a butthole score for that. He's the one not deserving one at all.

@kvproductions2581

Жыл бұрын

She definitely deserves an AH score. OP doesn't seem like he's doing it right either, but she was already cooking breakfast, as others pointed out adding extra ingredients would be no effort, and she's trying to get OP to do more chores in exchange of that zero effort. She sounds lazy and uncaring

@korinomiko

Жыл бұрын

@@kvproductions2581 yes, you’re right. I don’t know if her behavior is result of disorder, that’s why I wanted to hold back on the butthole score. But even then I guess it shouldn’t save someone from getting a butthole score :D Technically it’ll be a 1 out of 5 imo for both of them.

@korinomiko

Жыл бұрын

@@avashnea well I just replied to the other commentator, I personally wanna give them both a butthole score, mostly for being childish and not talking this through and I believe both of them have something to work on.

Story 2: If you paid for the 2 seats then it doesn’t matter if you don’t want to share. 😂😂

3rd story: I would've taken screenshots of how much decorations, food, and presents cost and sent it to him to prove how $100 doesn't work for a whole FAMILY'S Christmas

With the second story: don’t be angry with the plus size person, be angry with the airline for not making seats that actually fit a wide range of people without someone getting squished.

story 3: it kind of looks like OP's husband is having an affair with his friend and the girlfriend's of that friend spending so much money but leaving your family with 100 dollars for Christmas is a bit sus

For the last story. When you know that you're really tired in the morning, and won't be able to make much of a breakfast then. The solution to that is simple; prepare your breakfast before bed, so you can just go and get it from the fridge.

story 1: OP's Sister is dealing with the exact same situation that happened to her and the parents say that her sister suffering is worse?! You can tell whose the golden child in the family.

I’ve had a similar experience as op 2. I had upgraded to economy plus at the kiosk at checkin. And it was an aisle seat. At the time the seat next to mine was still open. When I get go my seat the guy sitting next to me asked me to switch with his son who had a middle seat 4 rows back (not economy plus). I said no because I paid extra and I hate middle seats. He got all mad so I asked him why he got economy plus but didn’t get one for his son. He kept bitching under his breath the entire flight. In the last story the op should’ve said he would cook all the dinners as an even trade.

@abiean222

Жыл бұрын

it seems to be a thing where people will buy a cheaper ticket and then ask their seat neighbor if they will trade with them so they don't have to pay for two expensive tickets. most people are trained to be courteous and thus will give up their seat so a parent can sit next to their kid, and these jerks are taking advantage of that nature. its only fair to trade unless its in the same priced ticket anyway.

Story 3: I was so confused about the guys obsession with football until they said Qatar. That's when it dawned on me that he meant soccer. I was imagining some british guy obsessed with football and travelling to America. I was wondering "What football events take place over Christmas?"

@serenitymoon825

Жыл бұрын

Ummmmm, there was a Miami Dolphins vs Packers game on Christmas

@nottonyhawk123

Жыл бұрын

@@serenitymoon825 lmao I don't really follow football at all... or sports in general

@ramenbomberdeluxe4958

Жыл бұрын

If anything, christmas is one of THE big football days over here, as well as thanksgiving.

@chickaboom163

Жыл бұрын

​@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958Thanksgiving is the big football day for me, especially given I live in one of the states with the og teams who started Thanksgiving football. It's practically a crime not to, even if it is the Lions