Q&A: remarrying if the other dies?! |

How do we keep things SPICY after 15 years? Will we leave the r/s if one of us cheats? We answer all your juicy questions in this Ask Me Anything episode!
Thank you friends for sending all your questions in our previous video and to our DMs!!! We had fun answering them in this Q&A! Look out for future episodes where we will address more of these questions in full detail!
Much love,
John & Pat
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00:00 Intro
00:22 What do we fight about?
04:36 How do we spice up our r/s?
06:05 Do we compromise to make our r/s work?
07:02 What if we catch each other watching porn?
07:53 How do we manage our finances as a couple?
08:53 How did we know each other was The One?
11:21 What content do we watch together?
12:36 How we navigated the issue of differing religion?
14:28 How did NS affect our r/s?
15:20 Would we remarry if one of us pass on?
16:27 How we navigated differing family cultures
19:47 How was our wedding planning?
21:20 What if one of us cheats?
23:31 Outro

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  • @Astergarden
    @Astergarden8 ай бұрын

    15:55 the way pat slumps into her chair is hilarious, love you guys😂

  • @marcchoon6519
    @marcchoon65198 ай бұрын

    I'm in my early 30s and lost my wife to cancer a month ago, this video helped provide some perspective for my situation, thanks.

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Hello. I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what you are going through. Thank you so much for spending 20 minutes with us. - Pat

  • @nevets1209
    @nevets12098 ай бұрын

    John's mindset is really admirable (hope it won't change). Pat is so cute with her reactions 😂😂😂 hahaha fangirling here. i just admired that despite how modern the world is now, there are still people like you who stick on their morals. cheers to forever for the both of you.

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Hello! Pat is a very simple person. HAHAHA! Thank you for your support! - Pat

  • @RaphJonathanTan
    @RaphJonathanTan8 ай бұрын

    ok now we REALLY need to hear about the nuru massage🤣😂 a whole episode on it may i add please hahah

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Okokok! Let me try to churn out an episode. HAHAHA! - Pat

  • @zidoka789
    @zidoka7898 ай бұрын

    Both of you look good in your couple prisoner outfit! Its always nice to hear John's wisdom. I don't always have to wait for a new TDK episode with him in the cast with this channel. Thank you for the content! Just a thought, people always talk about their love language to be receiving but never giving. I have noticed that a person's giving and receiving love language can be drastically different e.g providing acts of service but doesn't care for receiving it. Would like to hear your opinion on that.

  • @sabrenastatique

    @sabrenastatique

    8 ай бұрын

    😊😊❤❤😊😊😊❤

  • @alexsim_
    @alexsim_8 ай бұрын

    Find a wife that looks at you the way Pat looks at John

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    How i look at him? Hahahaha! - Pat

  • @weileong6438

    @weileong6438

    8 ай бұрын

    Agree.

  • @shonekinlee8019

    @shonekinlee8019

    7 ай бұрын

    @@JOHNPATCROSS with an admiring eyes… those are eyes full of love..

  • @jennn9637
    @jennn96376 ай бұрын

    I dont think ive seen a more candid q&a video… i feel that i have learn from this video, thank you for making it :)

  • @frecks28
    @frecks288 ай бұрын

    Love the episode as usual. Very real and genuine. Every couple will have their challenges. It is how you learn about each other and try to make it work. It is an art to stay married.

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    It is really an art to stay married. Thank you for your support! - Pat

  • @stevenvincent2475
    @stevenvincent24758 ай бұрын

    This unique couple is really open, really love you guys ! I really learned a lot from your videos.

  • @shonekinlee8019
    @shonekinlee80197 ай бұрын

    Really like the genuine style of talking from the video. Able to feel the real couple feels like.

  • @verntingfan9003
    @verntingfan90038 ай бұрын

    you both are soooo cute!!! I love the way Pat looks at John!!!! OMGGG the puppy eyes 🥺

  • @hilaryho2362
    @hilaryho23628 ай бұрын

    13:36 this become real af at this point. I didn't think I'd be scared shitless at such a wholesome video

  • @fluffyangelzx
    @fluffyangelzx8 ай бұрын

    can Pat do like a skincare and haircare vid??? her skin and hair is like daaaamn niceeeeeee 😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Hello!! I try to slip in if i can k! :D Thank you!! - Pat

  • @grys9245
    @grys92458 ай бұрын

    Subscribed! Great episode. And some very funny parts 😂

  • @arjunsasangan9342
    @arjunsasangan93428 ай бұрын

    really loving the content and vibes

  • @ATownes
    @ATownes8 ай бұрын

    Always watching both your videos make me feel for you both are the sweetest couple.

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Awww thank you :) - Pat

  • @mercuryjpg
    @mercuryjpg8 ай бұрын

    ricky gervais' afterlife was so good! cried a lot, laughed a lot. wishing you guys an eternal life of good health and happiness!

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    RIGHT!! I love that show! Thank you for your kind blessings! Wishing you the same and more.

  • @xiaopang254
    @xiaopang2548 ай бұрын

    Yay new episode!!

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Yay! Thank you for watching! - Pat

  • @khokl9288
    @khokl92888 ай бұрын

    Please keep up the channel good work. Enjoy watching both of you alot

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your support! - Pat

  • @plainMapleSEA
    @plainMapleSEA8 ай бұрын

    Really enjoyed watching this couple channel, felt so real and genuine. PS: Pat's side of the nuru massage please!!

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your support!! Okok! Wait for me. Im slowly filming my side of the story HAHA! - Pat

  • @plainMapleSEA

    @plainMapleSEA

    8 ай бұрын

    Omg you guys replied! Looking forward to that episode!

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your support!!

  • @lolhaha4825
    @lolhaha48258 ай бұрын

    Hello John and Pat!!! Could Pat talked about her career outlook/progression? I’ve always been interested to get into product manager however I have no relevant experiences hence would like to understand how I could break through. Also, what is the daily job scope / tasks for a product manager? Or if Pat can do a day in my life kinda vlog… I am currently in a role where I handle both internal and external stakeholders!

  • @ImMochiAlyyyyy
    @ImMochiAlyyyyy8 ай бұрын

    WAH I really wanna hear Pat’s side of the Nuru Massage wehhhhh

  • @kellychong6477
    @kellychong64778 ай бұрын

    I really love Pat’s personality. Confirm makes a good 姐妹! Damn 爽快 personality.

  • @Jay-xs3wn
    @Jay-xs3wn8 ай бұрын

    5:05 jeez I was thrown off just as much as jon 😂

  • @kayabuns
    @kayabuns7 ай бұрын

    6:33 killed me hahahaha

  • @trishuang8377
    @trishuang83778 ай бұрын

    The both of u are just so sweet la 🥰

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Thank you! - Pat

  • @vhalia
    @vhalia8 ай бұрын

    I love After Life, it’s an amazing movie. Every time I watch it, I would 😢😢😢😢😢 Try watching Finding your feet….another moving & inspirational movie

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Its touching and funny at the same time right! Eh but its not a movie leh. The one we watched is a series. - Pat

  • @vhalia

    @vhalia

    8 ай бұрын

    @@JOHNPATCROSS yes, you are right, it’s a series.

  • @yieldm232
    @yieldm2328 ай бұрын

    Hi Pat, how do you deal with insecurities (if any), when Jon is in the media industry? (E.g. having to interact with so many attractive women, being away)

  • @ngsy8193
    @ngsy81935 ай бұрын

    What is compromise-able and what isnt?

  • @randychan360
    @randychan3608 ай бұрын

    Acts of service = Do things? 😉 Pat, come on. 😂😂😂

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    It is what!!! Its the act of doing something to make the other feel the love. - Pat

  • @Glitzyglambmp
    @Glitzyglambmp8 ай бұрын

    You’re so pretty Pat! In and out! You’re both such a beautiful couple❤❤

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Awww thank you! 🤭 - Pat

  • @stevenvincent2475

    @stevenvincent2475

    8 ай бұрын

    @@JOHNPATCROSSyeah would love to see a video about what you guys like about each other’s personality. and how to make sure you have a good personality !

  • @Disc1ple_YT
    @Disc1ple_YT8 ай бұрын

    doesnt reckon mean think?😭🙏

  • @joeylim261
    @joeylim2618 ай бұрын

    lovely couple🥰🫶🏻

  • @justintan3761
    @justintan37618 ай бұрын

    Afterlife is awesome. Slight Dark Humor, but awesome. by Ricky Gervais.

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Yes! Funny and touching! Too brilliant. - Pat

  • @vishaalinivasanthanathan7452
    @vishaalinivasanthanathan74528 ай бұрын

    🧿

  • @benwong2061
    @benwong20618 ай бұрын

    Algooooooooooooo

  • @manyue2003
    @manyue20038 ай бұрын

    What ? I thought you finally going to answer the Nuru massage question. I have asked since your first video but ok I will wait patiently for the next video. 😀. Bonus question. Though not common in Singapore, would u guys consider open marriage say after another 10 years ?

  • @jen5138

    @jen5138

    8 ай бұрын

    lmao, they are opposed to cheating so obviously not. Can tell they take the sanctity of their marriage vows seriously n rly love each other.

  • @manyue2003

    @manyue2003

    8 ай бұрын

    @@jen5138 Definition of sanctity is different for every couple. Some couple will see going for nuru massage as crossing that line. We should not define it for others, not saying you do, just saying we should all be more open minded.

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    Hello! Soon k! I trying to churn out one episode just on that. - Pat

  • @ashytxh5506
    @ashytxh55068 ай бұрын

    would u still go ahead to marry ur partner if ur partner family dislike ur partner and the family?

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    I think it depends on why they dislike my partner and his/her family. If it is for superficial reasons like wealth, then I will ignore and go ahead. But if my family saw some red flags in them, then I think worth considering again. - Pat

  • @animemachinex3
    @animemachinex38 ай бұрын

    just curious, if john is so religious from the beginning, how come premarital sex was ok for him?

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    His criteria for his partner is only to be in the same faith. But how strong? Not relevant. :D - Pat

  • @amk573

    @amk573

    7 ай бұрын

    To put religion as one of the criterias, I feel is a very silly thing. So what if your entire ancestral ashes are put in his church, to me it’s just a coincidence and that’s it. Religion is a very personal thing and one should never impose your beliefs and expectations onto others. But when a religion imposes a non-believer to convert inorder to have the marriage recognized, this is a big No No for me. 😊

  • @hhspore
    @hhspore8 ай бұрын

    Cute couple. From aunty H

  • @rossh9892
    @rossh98928 ай бұрын

    Promo`SM

  • @awkwardsmile
    @awkwardsmile8 ай бұрын

    The sad thing is men are visual creatures. Once a lady take for granted her figure and lose attractiveness in the eyes in your partner, most guys will lose the attraction to their partner. This in addition to the lady's personality. But if wife is hot but ugly personality then gg.

  • @JOHNPATCROSS

    @JOHNPATCROSS

    8 ай бұрын

    I wont say all men are like this luh. I've seen men who stuck it out with their wife who sacrificed their figure to give brith and their husband still love them a lot kind. Most important is cannot be complacent. - Pat

  • @awkwardsmile

    @awkwardsmile

    8 ай бұрын

    @@JOHNPATCROSS agree on both points. Not all men but quite a large number of men and def complacency.

  • @evangelinelim7174
    @evangelinelim71748 ай бұрын

    Have kids lah.

  • @Aaleeexy
    @Aaleeexy4 ай бұрын

    u 2 need to have a kid for sure. just 1.

  • @vishaalinivasanthanathan7452
    @vishaalinivasanthanathan74528 ай бұрын

    🧿