I'm impressed he can keep up with a serious topic while his chat is spamming big D and Pepega

@LeLe-bo7cs

3 жыл бұрын

plot twist, he knows cuz chat gives him depression

@h4mmy753

3 жыл бұрын

He doesn't really look at chat when he's trying to explain something - also they're spamming YEP

@LixyFox

3 жыл бұрын

I barely keep up with the important topic of this video because I'm laughing at "YEP Big D" like a troglodyte

@jarred4005

3 жыл бұрын

He’s a professional

@SCORP1ONF1RE

3 жыл бұрын

He knows they're just kids being kids

One of the most insidious things about depression is that it tells you that your efforts won't improve things.

@MrCaw77

3 жыл бұрын

Something that helps is to have the mindset that, lets say the effort doesnt help. You should still do it. Because putting effort into your life is simply the only option you have. You then will start to realize through doing the effort "just because" turns into that it is helping

@stefanijovita1640

3 жыл бұрын

I sometimes have times like this, when I feel like maybe what I'm doing won't change a thing, but I'm still doing it anyway.

@thugai8150

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrCaw77 There's also the option of not putting in any effort and just being depressed for the rest of your life hoping it will end sooner rather than later.

@MrCaw77

3 жыл бұрын

@@thugai8150 yeah that is an option but it doesnt serve you any good. If something doesnt serve you. Get rid of it. I think too much and im working on being more simplistic and not thinking as much about stuff

@TheHackersboss

3 жыл бұрын

Some cases are genuinely hopeless and it would be disingenuous to say otherwise

I always think of depression like a layer in photoshop. It is always there, even if you can't see it. And often times, you think it's over, but really you are just distracted....when the friends leave, and the show is over, it returns like it was never gone...because it never was.

@aleksandartosic2261

3 жыл бұрын

I prefer calling it the Void. I have felt these moments, the return of the Void, after spending time with an amazing person, during which I felt human and alive, like I haven't felt in a long while, only to feel the Void become a part of me once again the moment we part our ways.

@sirbrokkoli5309

3 жыл бұрын

One thing I'd like to add is that depression feels different for different people. So if you wonder if you have depression, but you can't relate to some descriptions of depression, that doesn't mean it's not worth getting a professional opinion on the matter.

@DOENERUSCHI

3 жыл бұрын

@@aleksandartosic2261 that is one of the most accurate descriptions for the way I feel I have read in a while, thanks

@aleksandartosic2261

3 жыл бұрын

@@DOENERUSCHI In a way, I am glad that someone else understands exactly how it feels for me. Stay strong! :)

@DOENERUSCHI

3 жыл бұрын

@@aleksandartosic2261 likewise :)

OMG that thumbnail is so accurate. I can't even count the number of times I've been having an okay time and joking and laughing around and then suddenly... sadness... for no explicit reason. A vague thought of overwhelming dread will just ruin my mood.

@ycleptprof.5249

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you spiritually on that one, Kevin. As this was seven months ago, I am not expecting a reply. I'm not owed anything, after all, but if you see this, I want you to be okay, alive, and thriving in your current life.

it is a subtle difference sometimes - many people tell themselves they are just sad for a very long time

@robertwinslade3104

3 жыл бұрын

Took me about 4 years of thinking I was just sad and stressed a lot of the time before I found out it was depression and anxiety from a counsellor who I spoke to after having a bit of a mental breakdown

@leamubiu

3 жыл бұрын

During my teenage years I thought I had episodes of "the blues"; only when I started having suicidal ideations as a young adult did I realize something was very wrong....

@Raquel_98

2 жыл бұрын

I tell myself many times that I'm just tired. But deep down I know that it is not only that because before I was not tired all day and without wanting to do anything with my life. You know it's not just being tired when you think "tomorrow will be a new day" but you know it will stay the same.

@afonsomartins6311

2 жыл бұрын

@@leamubiu aren't suicidal thoughts normal these days tho

@leamubiu

2 жыл бұрын

@@afonsomartins6311 Not really. It may be understandable, but never normal. Please don't make light of, or normalize, suicidal ideation. It's not dependent on "objective" external circumstances. Anyone who experiences such thoughts needs support to find worth and strength in themselves again, to identify the actual causes for their pain, no matter if "these days" seem to justify their self-destructive impulses. Moreover, in times that don't seem to justify feeling desperate, people can still feel suicidal. And suffering doesn't always mean despair, most people go through tremendous loss and hardship without wanting to end their lives. So really the issue is fundamentally one of perception, where the self cannot adjust, see the possibilities, muster bravery, and make the best out of its circumstances. In such cases one of the worst things is the sort of echo chamber where suicidal thoughts are "normalized", where people are either left to their suffering and skewed beliefs, or even encouraged to foster such thoughts. We're wired to survive, so it's rather wrong to present suicidal thoughts as normal, expected behavior, rather than the symptom of an illness, or an illness itself.

This video helped me realize how far I have come with my depression. I used to make no efforts to be productive at all, and I'd usually spend the day laying in bed watching twitch for 6 hours straight and binging on snacks and soda. Now I have a job where I have to actually interact with people on a mostly daily basis, have an agenda of things I want to get done each day (generally), and I can recognize that I do have strengths alongside my weaknesses. Yes, I still have off days where I get stuck in the youtube/twitch trap but I keep myself pretty busy so it's hard to do that. My self-esteem is still very low but at least now I'm self-aware and try my best to combat those negative self thoughts. I can actually stop myself from spiraling before it happens. I am still on antidepressants and see a therapist biweekly, but I'm probably in the best spot mentally that i have been in a super long time ☺️ it is possible!

@Rider-fl4gf

3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you're getting better Samantha, cheers

@spaghettigal

3 жыл бұрын

@@Rider-fl4gf Thank you:)

@3cheeseup

3 жыл бұрын

Good job, keep on digging! Getting better really takes a lot of self work and you can easily be very proud of what you accomplished here

@tomeshutarov3173

2 жыл бұрын

congratulations :) be happy

@destroyerinazuma96

2 жыл бұрын

Hello. Just curious - were antidepressants prescribed by your GP? By a psychiatrist? I may have chronic depression myself (27m) but I'm scared to take medication because of fear of addiction and side effects.

I am almost crying over here. Been living with Depression my whole life (untreated first 20 years), changed a bunch of medication since then. I say I'm fine now, but I'm just getting better. It's been 10 years actively healing myself and I'm like on a spot where I can say "yeah, I'm a bit weird today, the Big Sad is here." And people (friends) around me have been educated (by me) enough to know not to push me too much, give me space, offer kind words. And yeah, it doesn't sound much, but it's so much progress. Like from a standstill 17-year-old that didn't bother planning for a future, for she was sure she'd put herself out of her misery by then. To a 31-year-old who now has a mortgage on a single-room apartment, "arguing" with a friend that "yeah, in case of my death the place is gonna be signed to you ... because it's your fault I had to deal with all of this adult-stuff" and him smiling back. I'm not okay. I still have problems. I am still forever single. I am still lonely. I would still need more support. But I have levelled up in dealing with it.

@diedforurwins

10 ай бұрын

Sometimes I’m not sure if I’m actually getting better or just getting better at coping and keeping things semi together. I’m also 31, and I can’t ever remember not being depressed. There was a 5 year relationship in my teens to 20s where she made me happy but that ended and since then it’s just been an up and down rollercoaster of trying things and falling back into the hole. Today I truly feel like I have zero energy left to keep the facade of happiness up. I’m so alone, and feeling truly burnt out trying to claw my way out of it.

When you have an indian family and they say that you dont have dippersion or any other metal health issues bcos " you are not an adult and kids cant have dippersion" is the worst most insulting thing ever

@Anuj10_01

3 жыл бұрын

Yep

@jasminepandit9861

2 жыл бұрын

the other day my indian grandma yelled at me for 10 minutes straight for daring to tell her i was feeling sad :') we really need better mental health awareness.

This was extremely relatable and insightful for me. I don't think I'm as far down the path of recovery as that person, but I'm getting there. Thank you so much Dr. K!

@chimerasofhafgufa

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate to that person VERY strongly. It's relieving to know that how I solved the same question in my head is the right way. Turns out, I don't have to torture myself when I feel down. xd

The boat analogy is really good

I've been depressed for over 4 years to the point that at the beginning ( when it was really strong) I quit my job sold my car and was just laying in my apartment all day and night. There were periods where it got better, thanks to my girlfriend and mom. They advised me to go to the psychologist and so I did. It got better but only for half a year and then it was back again even stronger to the point I started thinking about committing suicide. As years went by it got even worse, I have chosen the place where I wanted to end "things" but something told me to go to the psychiatrist. She told me I should went to her much sooner, she prescribed me mild antidepressants which did absolutely nothing, but the 2nd medicine was spot on. I can focus, I can finally sleep, it feels like I do my work 10 times more efficiently. Going into 5th month of therapy and it feels really good. So if you guys have similar problems, don't be afraid to get help, because sometimes it can save your life.

@EternalShadow1667

2 жыл бұрын

Loved your comment, stick in there man, you’re strong :)

@KiwiOnTheTube

2 жыл бұрын

Do you mind elaborating on the difference between the first and the second medication you were prescribed, what did your depression symptoms manifest as (aside from suicidal thoughts as you already said) and which medications were they? I am just now been seeking help from professionals for symptoms that I never thought were depression, but turns out I am big D Depressed and I'd like to hear other peoples experiences and what did and didn't work for them. I have been prescribed Wellbutrin generic for my symptoms because I have a substance abuse disorder associated with it so this is suppose to help me reduce my cravings and get the energy and focus that I have been substituting massive amounts of caffeine and other stimulants for

@nonbinaryDes

2 жыл бұрын

@@KiwiOnTheTube I know you didn't ask me but I thought I'd give a response coz I had a similar experience to OP. I was given mild antidepressants that didnt do jack shit after two weeks and then after several months I was prescribed medication for the real underlying issue which is my OCD. The difference between being on the mild medication and the correct one was actually really gradual I didn't notice at first, but when I looked back after three months being on the new meds, I realized mg life had drastic changed. I was doing things that I hadn't done in over a year and facing my fears more regularly/ able to talk and understand my thoughts and feeling better. I just was functioning better. I think you know when the meds are right if u notice your life change from the last few months. Hope this helps

@KiwiOnTheTube

2 жыл бұрын

@@nonbinaryDes Thanks for sharing, I'm starting my journey and I find myself thinking constantly what if nothing changes and if I actually need a different med. I'll keep this in mind.

@nonbinaryDes

2 жыл бұрын

@@KiwiOnTheTube good luck with you're journey. I can tell from your comment alone that you take your health seriously. You're a fighter like me, we've got this 😊

Getting a job without set hours when ur clinically depressed sounds smart. Cuz those normal vs bad days be wacky

@3cheeseup

3 жыл бұрын

Yes and no, having a fixed schedule can also make it easier for you to get stuff done. At least for me I had an easier time working from my company than working from home and I suffer from anxiety/depression.

Sadness is an emotion, depression (clinical) is a mood. I like to think of it like mood like the seasons and emotions as weather. For most people, they spend majority of their time in springtime. Some days it rains, some days it's sunny, but for the most part, the weather doesnt stop you from living a normal life. You can be a person who is in springtime, but it rains for most of the days without it being depression, just life gets you down because your situation is shitty. Then you have people with bipolar disorder who episodically end up in summer time where things are way too hot most of the days and they are near passing out from heat stroke. That's mania. Autum is closer to grief and milder depression. It's a hassle and it's bothersome to go outside because it's colder and it rains all the time. Then you have winter which is major depression. And shit gets really fucking cold. You're going to freeze no matter what you do it's that cold. I have experienced situational depression, grief, heartbreak, bereavement and severe major depression knocks them all way out of the park. It gets really, really bad. Luckily I am not in a depressive episode at the moment and I dont want to go back there either. Not all negative feelings are depression. If your life situation is shitty or lacking, it might just be the reason you're feeling like shit all the time. Sometimes it might be that you have certain cognetive traps that makes you spiral into negative thougth loops, sometime it might be clinical depression. Talk to someone about it, dont isolate yourself.

@itspoison8195

3 жыл бұрын

We should chat. You sound like someone who knows some stuff and has seen some stuff like myself. Don't have anyone to talk to so i try to reach some comments.

@pdf-file

3 жыл бұрын

@@itspoison8195 can I join too?

@itspoison8195

3 жыл бұрын

@@pdf-file That would be cool dude. Hit me up on instagram maybe. tom_pepesad

@brunokubin

3 жыл бұрын

Those are pretty analogies but I don't think it would be accurate to label depression as a mood. At least not in a case like mine. I cannot relate to that. I would say that depression is more of a way of seeing the world. Like everything you perceive comes in through a filter which strips away almost everything that gives life color and beauty and meaning. I don't know if there's anyone reading this who can relate to what I'm saying.

@Massivecarcrash

3 жыл бұрын

@@brunokubin I know what you're talking about, the only thing I know is that it is the most acutely painfull experience of my life. I couldnt sleep, I couldnt eat, lost well over 30 pounds and most of the time I would just pass out from exhaustion rather than falling asleep. The anhedonia, apathy and general sorowfull bleakness and hopelesness stayed around for well over a year before it slowly lifted. It's a hard thing to describe because it goes beyond a pessimistic and defeatist attitude, it's how you experience the world, not just how you think about it. It felt like I had died and my body and mind hadnt caught up to the fact yet. You're stuck in a dark, empty void where no light shines through to you.

me in therapy earlier today, "I think everyone feels this way I just can't handle it like everyone else," doctor k reads basically that line word for word from a reddit post, "this is clinical depression…"

I relate so much to the post, I'd say I'm currently in the same state with my depression. As a person who can't get any professional help, I'm gonna give myself a pat in the back. Anyone who's going through this, I wish you all the strength and perseverance. We can do this.

@actual_mel

3 жыл бұрын

You deserve the same. I'm pretty sure there's some good strength in your heart. I don't know what is going on in your life, but I'm sure you'll manage and push through all of it.

@3cheeseup

3 жыл бұрын

I'm really sorry that you can't get professional help. I feel like this should be treated as something very important and everyone should have the right to get it. I can suggest you to maybe read a book, if you have the money. It's called "Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy" by David D. Burns and it's helping you with CBT, which is also what you would do with a psychologist. Good luck in your journey.

@vijzon

2 жыл бұрын

Dr K just recently showed the trailer for his guide to anxiety and depression! If you'd like, I'd be willing to pay for which ever particular guide you think you'd benefit from if you do not have the money yourself :)

@Kesshou126

2 жыл бұрын

@@vijzon I saw the trailer as well. That's very kind of you. I'll have to decline but thank you for the offer. Have a nice day. :)

I could really relate to this. A suggestion that I would make is that there are more than two options. It's not go to work or sit on the couch. If you are not able to focus at work and feel like some time off would help you regenerate, plan to do something fun or recreational that would allow you to relax or destress, but try to make it something outside the home so you are still being active and won't fall into the trap of isolation.

Oh wow this just opened my eyes in a way I didn't expect. I used to have severe depression until my life situation got better which allowed for me to work on myself. I manage to pull myself through a better state but often had similar 'mild' depressive state in which I would get confused and frustrated at how little progress I felt I was doing. I would react by letting things down and just give myself more time, which would result in those snowball days like described in the video. But now it just made me realize that to reach the next step I actually just need to keep going, and that i'm doing just fine, and that by giving myself time I would just 'let the ship sink' instead of pushing through with my progress.

@AckSnus

3 жыл бұрын

Have a good day, I'm just gonna mention real quick that the "opened my eyes" part literally matches your profile picture and I just thought it was a little amusing so I wanted to share that for some reason.

@skeptic_lemon

Жыл бұрын

I think your perspective is cool, just remember to stop running around with the bucket once the ship isn't sinking anymore. Don't overwork yourself or you might make your situation worse.

This also goes for anxiety. Since I'm facing my anxiety head on, it has gotten more manageable and now I'm confused, since i still don't want to go out and it still feels uncomfortable but it's MANAGEABLE with capital M

It sounds like the redditor is someone who occasionally takes time dedicated to self-care, but they're worried that if they take a whole day, it'll snowball into more days off. Dr. K's response to this seemed to be "try to prevent yourself from *giving in* do your depression for a day," but is taking a self-care day really the same as "*giving in*"? Would appreciate anyone's insight about this :)

@theRPGmaster

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I'd say it's "giving in", days off only work for stress.

@wej0w

3 жыл бұрын

I think its very different if you accept it and be down all day and just give in to it than, thoughfully taking it easy a bit to prepare to go at it again next day. As this likely stops you from negative overthinking and causing it to snowball because you feel bad for giving in to the depression and feel the same the next day. But what do I know :D

@xcherryblossom95

3 жыл бұрын

What does 'taking a self-care day' look like for you? Do you actively plan or do things to take care of your mind and/or body (reading, writing, meditating, exercising, going outside, socializing, etc.) that will potentially help you feel better, or do you passively 'give in' to your depression and stay inside all day laying in bed? It's not black or white, but a self-care day is generally to de-stress and help you get to a level where you feel you can tackle the upcoming days, whereas a depression day doesn't necessarily do much to ease your mind. You wouldn't 'treat' yourself to a depression day. That said, depression days can be needed (and even useful) too and nobody should be made to feel ashamed about it.

@apeoftheplanets

3 жыл бұрын

It's not about the singular self-care day as much as you think. Part of recognizing my depression for me was recognizing when I was telling myself this was self-care and realizing when I was ignoring my emotions or basic needs/tasks. One self-care day really won't hurt, but when he says don't "give in" he means to all the other days where you tell yourself you should be doing better (and you beat yourself up for it), and then you just don't do those things.

@bronzeowl9

3 жыл бұрын

@@xcherryblossom95 This is a really good response, thank you! You've just made me realize that when I take days off, I do no planning and just end up doing unhelpful/unproductive things. It's something that probably seems obvious from the outside, but I just never took the time to reflect on it. When I have a "self-care day", it usually starts with me waking up and not feeling motivated, so I just decide to not be productive that day - just watch TV or youtube in bed, play video games, sleep all day. This definitely seems like it's more on the side of "giving in" to depression. In fact, I don't think I ever thought of these days as "self-care days"; I kinda thought they were just lazy days. I'm curious - how can depression days be useful?

Damn...the imagery of being in that sinking boat and needing to bail the water out almost made me tear up. It was a long time ago but my friends were the ones who put in the effort and kept the water out of my boat. I gave up back then.

4:02 Words of wisdom from chat, as always: "knowing is half the battle, not knowing is the other half"

Yeah, I've recovered up to a point of mild depression and I actually don't know what to do now to keep progressing, it was more obvious back when it was worse. So frustrating! But you saying the next week will be better thanks to my effort today is great motivation! I'll try reminding myself of this, it's a more concrete goal.

Also, it could be a physical illness, and not a mental one, which people don't seem to bother checking. Lethargy, mood swings, disinterest, basically anything that could be a symptom of a mental illness can also be a part of a physical one. This is mainly why therapy, even with a therapist who understands them, doesn't properly help the person.

@Phenkis

3 жыл бұрын

Unless the physical disorder specifically affects the brain, that is not exactly true. Yes, people can have a mental disorder in response to a physical illness, but it isn't tied together like that - they can and sometimes should be viewed separately. In other words, people can work and heal from their physical illness and, surprise, the mental is still there. Or they can be stuck with the physical for the rest of their life but manage their mental disorder really well. Its an interesting two way street where the physical can help the mental helps the physical, but people are complicated and are most often able to choose either individual avenue at a time. That's good news for people with physical disorders by the way, it means that having a permanent physical condition can still relieve mental treatment and improve, even without improving the physical.

@bunille

3 жыл бұрын

@@Phenkis I didn't mean that. I'm not saying that mental illnesses lead to physical ones, which they can, I'm saying that someone could have a physical illness, not a mental one, but they get the mental diagnosis instead even when there is no psychological cause. Still being stuck with a physical condition doesn't sound like good news btw.

Variety: exercise, meditate, learn cool things, watch comedy, exercise!, make your bed, clean your room, exercise!!!, vitamins, go outside; walk, ride a bike, skateboard, camp, go fishing, play tennis, baseball, go to a mall, actually say HI to people. And If you fail, keep getting back up. Eventually it'll become habit. And eventually you'll become obsessed with your mental AND physical health.

I've been going through something similar, where even though my mood improved over the last couple of years, I'm always tired. Somnolent-by-1-pm sort of tired. Crave-a-3-hour-nap-even-though-I-had-a-full-night-of-sleep sort of tired. It's really bumming me out, I can't focus on anything, can't build anything up, nigh all my time and energy goes into daily upkeep and chores, or doing self-care/socializing to fight the crippling loneliness and alienation. It's maddening. "I feel better so why aren't I doing better?" But I think it's because I /make myself feel better/, pushing down on the pain again because I just want to move on: depression has already stolen the past 5 years of my life, trapped in a standstill of sorts. When I met my counselor last time I had a complete meltdown at the idea of being forced into the workforce again. The depression isn't just wished away, it lurks and colors everything and can even drag a struggling body down....

The boat metaphor is on-point. Great advice

I love watching Dr. K videos in the morning.

This was a fantastic short little video! Very engaging to do another case study and reassure educate and elaborate on a specific situation 👌

Recovering from depression is like investing in crypto. Eventually you'll come out of it, but not when you think you will.

@ToxicHorsePucky

2 жыл бұрын

I’m not out of the hole on either Sadge

This post is 100% relatable for concerns I've previously had. Great share.

I think Screwtape called what Dr. K described as “The law of Undulation”.

Kinda like IBS. As you get better because of eating better, you start to question whether it's all worth it and if what you're doing is working. But it IS working, it's just that we would like to have results quickly and clearly, but the trick is to enjoy the process and get used to doing things that are good for yourself even if you don't see results. I've been depressed and had IBS, they're similar in the patterns.

This video actually inspired me to push past my low mood this morning. Thank you 🙏

@frankda4

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome! Your doing great!

Did I ghostwrite that? 😅 It perfectly described my days, I'm glad you read that text, I don't feel as alone as before in this, thanks 🙏🏻

Just found this channel, this is amazing work. I'm more motivated now to actually see a psychiatrist.

Thanks for this video, Dr K.

Very inspirational and uplifting

I know depression is overused as a term . However if u say are unhappy people dismiss u more readily. They might go aaaw but generally don't give a fuck. "It's your own fault, u have to take RESPONSIBILITY of yourself. No one can help u but u." They don't wanna hear it

nice piece of information keep up the good work

I’ve been in a really hard depression for years, I started to go the gym and since then, my life is better and I’m not as sad like I used to be in the past years, the gym helps a lot...

Ayo chat was not helping at all while watching this but I was crying over how validating this video was. My first/last therapist (cant afford another one) wouldn’t give me a straight answer about whether or not I was depressed, said she didn’t want to scare me with labels like depression and anxiety and flip flopped between “you’re depressed, you have lots of trauma you need to work through,” and “I don’t think you’re depressed,” and it left me questioning if I really did have depression even more so than usual and my experience is almost identical to this person’s one so I really loved hearing this be talked about

In the same boat as this guy. I get frustrated when I have these off days and sometimes snowball into a week of zero productivity. I interpreted this as not getting better or relapsing but Dr K's point makes much more sense. It's bad but still better than going weeks or an entire month being unproductive.

I am so so so glad I have foung Dr. K. With this video now I know what it is actually happening to me without feeling hopeless. Now I know that I'm doing things right and that if I keep making these efforts I will feel even better without having mild symptoms of depression.

you're doing god's work brother. thank you.

love this channel

Thank you for this Dr

Clinical depression lasts a few weeks to a year? I wish I only lost one year.

@julieannelovesbooks

3 жыл бұрын

There’s also something called persistent depressive disorder where you are depressed (but often not suicidal, although this can occur). The minimum length for a diagnosis is 2 years with no longer than a couple of weeks in between where the symptoms are not present. I have this and I have been depressed for the past 10 years. You’re not alone my dude.

Lol my tweet is the thumbnail for this. That’s kind of neat I guess. Good video and very informative

@blankblank2370

3 жыл бұрын

Yooo congrats!

@DarlinSincerest

3 жыл бұрын

@@blankblank2370 thank you!!

Recommend David Goggins E-book. Saved my life.

When you decide last night before sleep that tomorrow "the day" and you will be creative, productive and advancing but next morning wake up midday you lost your thougths and efforts your head is dizzy and fuzzy, and the yesterday bad thoughts from surface becoming the talking, accusing words of today.

@MusiicRoolz

2 жыл бұрын

I think you're coming at this with the wrong attitude. "the day" is very black and white. "the day" is 24 hrs. going from 0 to 100, of course it's hard to do that. take it tiny steps at a time, wake up and think 'what can i do next?' brush your teeth. shower. make your bed. have breakfast. if it's really hard, just think like, getting up. the tiniest thing. and when you're done, move on to the next. and the next. routines and practising mental health/strength (ie not just letting your wild thoughts run the show and not being self hating about it either) are both good ways to tackle this. relying on motivation is really, _really_ hard and luck dependant.

One time I was comparing myself to another girl who is a consistent streamer, who maintained so many good relations with her viewers, got opportunities etc and my mom just goes " But she doesn't have depression hun" and in that moment I realized that I was constantly having to work harder, and battle against this state where she didn't have to. It did make me feel like I was beating myself up for something that wasn't my fault and that I needed to realize not all decks are shuffled the same; so with this insight I started working with myself, realizing this blind spot

Very Humble episode

“so good luck to u” thanks :)

Damn, same for basically all of this. I thought (Still do in some ways) this was some combo of ADHD diagnoses (Rejection Dysphoria, including rejecting myself and judging myself in addition to assuming judgement from others) and my suspected/self diagnoses of Aspergers/ASD. It's always so frustrating because I'm so motivated and happy that I have excess energy to be 'recreationally' productive some days and other days I'm just angry and annoyed and bitter at the world and don't feel like ANYTHING is easy... or even normally difficult, or even very difficult. They seem borderline impossible, yet seemed so easy just 1 day before!

I'm afraid one day I won't have the energy to keep going. I've forced myself to fight for over 9 years now.

@tomeshutarov3173

2 жыл бұрын

or you will find something later

@adityabhaskersrivastava5494

2 жыл бұрын

Don't know literally anything about U but as I see it just keep going as u have been (👍🏼👍🏼) for doing what u can do when u are at Ur best someday for the world and yourself . More power to U 👍🏼

We at tzf approve of this companies message, love to see the work you do HG, look forward to getting in contact!

You can patch the holes in your boat with flex tape.

I come back to this clip every now and then to remind myself that even on crappy days, I'm still making progress

I'm impressed that you can actually see the text that chat are posting.

About the not knowing that you're depressed, I didn't even know I was depressed until I broke down about 6 years ago and then found out throu my therapist that I've probably been depressed since I was about 12 (i'm 28 now). I'm still struggling, hard. Most of my days is just me going up and sitting next to the computer, not doing anything at all, like. All the enjoyments I used to have before (eg. gaming, watching movies etc) I can't do anymore. I just don't have the energy anymore to do those things. I also have never worked in my life and feel like it's part of me being lazy. I know it's not, well, I hope it's not. But it's been going for so long that I just don't know anymore. My depression took an even worse turn when my childhood friend commited suicide 2 days before my birthday a couple of months after Corona hit. I've always been able to bounce back to like a mild depression but after that it hasn't happened yet.

Ah, I didn't understand what was happening to me, thanks for explaining!

So glad I'm not alone. I think I need help understanding what is healthy/neurotypical

I relate to this hard as a grad student

I still contest to this day that everyone has a form of depression and struggles with major anxiety disorders and that the "healthy ones" are just people who are better at regulating it all the time. Every person I have ever gotten to talk to and known on a deeper level has confided in me that they struggle with these emotions all the time. I think it's a natural part of being human and I feel that the people who gleefully pipe in that they are happy after I say this are more trying to convince themselves than they are me and I usually just tell them "whatever helps you sleep at night". I understand that clinically it's a healthier answer to give to a patient, the idea is to give them hope but I honestly think it's an unrealistic thing to aspire to. I think it'd be healthier to prepare a depressed person on how to deal with the bad days and maybe work on strategies to do that. But to say you can ever make it completely go away is just pure fantasy imo

Holy shit this hit so close to home

IDK if he has already talked about this but what is his take on Depression and Diet/Nutrition?

Thank you.

Can relate to that person in a different way. I have a very poor response to one of the most commonly used anaesthetics. So for almost all my life I was under impression that "painkillers" only make the pain slightly less intense...

Thanks bro

How bad is my depression that I often feel I don't even deserve to be depressed?

According to Andrew Solomon, depression come from a genetic predisposition and then some initial trauma.

that was on point

"Giving into it" would begiving into destructive self-talk and such?

I had a breakdown earlier. Its harder to want to die and not have the balls to do it. I get jealous of people that die.

@4xzx4

3 жыл бұрын

=( Remember that committing suicide is a permanent "solution" to a temporary problem. Please don't commit it! I'm rooting for you! n_n

@eroki2946

3 жыл бұрын

I believe in you. Keep on fighting, and not get more balls that is, but to get better

@juleslopez3342

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like a lot

@fatihsapanoglu3236

3 жыл бұрын

If you have family who love you or friends, just imagine what they will have to deal with if you pass on. Committing suicide is passing on your pain to somebody else.

@julieannelovesbooks

3 жыл бұрын

I just wanted to remind you that you have survived all of your worst days, and you will survive this one too. I’m glad you’re still here and I just wanted to let you know I care. I care if you’re here on this earth or not even though I don’t know you. I can really relate to this, but I can also tell you that I managed to get out of that deep dark place, and I know you can too. ❤️

Omg, I'm currently struggling with ALL of these bullet points.. How to move on from this state for good, though? I can usually pull myself out, but, every time I face a new depressive episode, it gets harder to believe in permanent positive change & and therefore, I'm less motivated to put in the effort to pull myself OUT. Words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated!

Despite getting to the point of being in an outpatient program I still feel like I just suck at dealing with life lmao. Only one minute in and it's hitting me like "yeah no, you're fighting Depression man"

I don’t know if I’m actually depressed but I live my life forcing myself to get out of bed knowing that no matter how much of a screw up I am I can still help someone by doing things that will give them a minor efficiency boost. I’m a complete and total failure but it doesn’t take much skill to move a single type of brick from one specified location to another specified location so at the very least I can do that. Occasionally I’ll hit my stride and do something productive like coming up with a good idea but for the most part it’s the small tasks that don’t require much skill but will free up a small fraction of someone more skilled’s time to do something better that I think of when I get up in the morning.

@itsmedrew.2097

3 жыл бұрын

it's not depression its lack of self worth

BIg fan of Healthy Gamer team. You are doing gods work 👌👍

I'm not depressed,never was and i hope never will be... I'm just watching this to look out for my peeps

i wonder if i ever will get better enough, so i'll stop dreaming about not existing

@astolat2262

3 жыл бұрын

❤️

@DerangedMerger

3 жыл бұрын

@@astolat2262 thank you 💖

Can I make the conclusion that the reason I related to this is because Im getting better. Over the pass week, I’ve been viewing it as something new and therefore, scary. If I were to tell my past self that she’ll get to this point one day, found good explanation video, get the opportunity to talk to someone (I have an appointment today), I know she wouldn’t believe me and I won’t blame her at all. Being self-aware is like wanting a clone of myself to be beside me because I could be there for anyone even in my depressed day but I just couldn’t find anyone like me for myself. (This is taking a narcissist turn)

I have all these symptoms but I accept my life this way.

@BoeingPrototype

2 жыл бұрын

Therapists in my countries suck. Not worth it. I could give it he advice they give and save the cash.

The self awareness makes me second guess reality 😅

Yeah its been a while since I had severe depression. I still get episodes, and still passively want to die. But it's at the back of my mind now. Not something that I constantly think about anymore.

I’m surprised not being able to do anything for the mentioned 5 days can be surprising...

This is all true for severe eczema as well 😢

I’m concerned that I have depression/anxiety but I don’t know how to reach out. My parents are overbearing, and they brush me off whenever I try to talk about my mental health. Should I wait until I’m able to move out? Or is there another, less obvious, way I can get the help I might potentially need.

@hwanniggles187

3 жыл бұрын

Depends. How old are? If you're old enough to go out on your own then its best to seek help instead of wait

Medication usually solves the problem. After that there are usually more important things to attend to, which are more important than the states of mood themselves...

I have a very intense conflict within my mind, some years worse than others but I've felt this way since 12 approximately. I want to accomplish a lot, leaving the 3rd world, having a family, buying a home, being financially independent enough to stop working all together etc but at the same time, it's so damn hard to succeed and even leave a 3rd world country (legally, I don't want to do illegal shit) in the first place I just want to die and stop suffering. I don't know, for now I still work my ass off and am trying to get a damn appointment set with the Italian embassy to get my citizenship (my grandma is Italian and alive but good luck getting then to pay attention) and studying to get a good life in Europe or at least feel progress. I feel pretty smart sometimes because I've taught myself English and Japanese, but at the same time I feel absolutely stupid because I can't figure maths out and I can't even divide ffs. The feeling of being totally inept at it makes me wanna off myself too, since I know maths will be a requirement in the future. I don't know what to think, what to do, anything. I’m also super anti social, I feel detached from people and even push them away, I have my few best friends that I hang out with but I can’t remember having fun while talking to a co-worker, boss, teacher or any of my university classmates. The last meaningful relationship I’ve built was made in 2015. Probably no one cares about my personal issues and I wouldn’t blame you but I just wanted to write it since it helps me cope with it. Unfortunately I can’t get professional help cuz financial problems but I’ll do if I get to graduate. I’m extremely ashamed of being Latino (although I’m white, but you know what I mean) I don’t identify with the culture, what people like, I feel left out.

@astolat2262

3 жыл бұрын

❤️

Ahh yes, I remember those moments. really sucked

OMG the thumbnail!! It's like .. " No no that's not the depressed guy , that's the psychiatrist! "

Damn, any tips how to fix audio triggering? For example in this video I could count up the times you "breath in" before talking, because it's very loud and non-harmonic with the rest of sounds. I have major problems with family members, because they are mad at me, since I do not eat with them. Their chewing and teeth hammering drives me nuts. Tried playing some music in the background, but then they decide they want to talk and the chaotic sounds galore just kills me....

@halwaffles

3 жыл бұрын

Hm you definitely appear to have some sort of hypersensitivity to sensory stimuli. No idea what it could be but I’m certain if you looked up sensory disorders you might find something that describes your situation

@julieannelovesbooks

3 жыл бұрын

I’ve gotten ads for these noise reducing in ear things called ‘loop’. I’m still not sure if I want to get them, because I currently have no real need for them, but once I go back to school I will definitely buy them for my commute. They’re not electric so you don’t have to remember to charge them and they have this membrane inside that filters out noise. So it’s not muffled like with regular earplugs and you can still hear and follow conversations, but the sounds of chewing won’t be so intense. Maybe something to check out? I hope you find something that works for you. I can really relate to sensory sensitivity ❤️

@pernishkatehaswaytoomanypl8273

3 жыл бұрын

Noise canceling headphones might be a good idea if it's too unbearable, good luck!

which stream/vod is this from? thanks for help

Chat is never depressed :D

Healing from depression looks like constantly putting effort to stay aflot and slowly begining to ask "is this real depression, is this clinical?" and then the bad days are going to start getting more and more rare

I used to be Depressed, but now I have very very significant, strong spikes from time to time.

@thekoolkiwiii

3 жыл бұрын

@Jennifer Wang did I what?

@thekoolkiwiii

3 жыл бұрын

@Jennifer Wang When I started feeling better and got out of the 3 year long (of what I later descovered being) depression, I still had times in which I felt it creeping into me, so I accepted the fact that I would bring this scar with me forever. I guess the pressure university puts me in makes it re-open it and spill more blood, figuratively speaking.

@thekoolkiwiii

3 жыл бұрын

@Jennifer Wang Thank you!

@julieannelovesbooks

3 жыл бұрын

So proud of you for fighting through it! I’m currently at a place where it’s not the worst it’s ever been, but it’s different than ever so I don’t know how to deal with it. I just keep telling myself I have survived all of my worst days so I will survive this one too.

So if deppression lasts 2 weeks up to a year howm i still deppressed 4 years later?

❤

Clinical depression is only supposed to last up to a year? Well shit. I feel like I've been depressed for well over a decade.

When did you explain sadness vs depression?