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@Shazza67

3 ай бұрын

I asked myself this question my ex narc who is 65 has a lot of young people around him buying them drinks lending them money etc etc ..definitely flying monkeys had them calling me up have blocked their numbers

@carolnahigian9518

3 ай бұрын

My vicious CousinW and thieving First Cousin K are now EACH OTHER's only contacts left!! Poetic JUSTICE... Karma❤❤

@francesbernard2445

3 ай бұрын

I cannot afford to attend that kind of workshop yet.

They attach with anyone only when it benefits them

@ND-or5so

3 ай бұрын

@user-mp9pu... That is so true.

@rubyparchment5523

3 ай бұрын

….We benefit them, yet are told day & night how worthless we are. So they drive us away. They quickly end up on the skids.

@kathismith2865

3 ай бұрын

The TRUUUTH ‼️💯

@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap

3 ай бұрын

Agree

@lilfairycupcake

3 ай бұрын

exactly.

Basically, the narcissist has no friends also because everyone is sick and tired of his/her CRAP!!!!

@rochellet1333

3 ай бұрын

Amen!

@rubyparchment5523

3 ай бұрын

My ex reminds me of that Bob Dylan song, “I Threw it All Away.” I think he might have dementia.

@dnwitte

3 ай бұрын

@@HarryRodriguez64 When I went no-contact on my narc he left town because after 40 years here he had no one left.

@stevec3892

3 ай бұрын

My family always hang around with each other

@dustinmiller2775

3 ай бұрын

Conceit is a strange disease, it makes everybody sick, except the one who's got it! 🙃👎

A narcissist uses everyone in his or her life

@enednas801

3 ай бұрын

they may help to build u up only to be the one to tear u down.its like living in a horror movie.

@ND-or5so

3 ай бұрын

@danabailllie39 That's so true. No shame in their game. They are so fake! They don't thrive to be a good person and they have no integrity whatsoever, remorse or conscious. I would like to witness then getting called out in I could see them get called out in public too because it must be hard for them to wait until they get home to show their sick ways.

@ND-or5so

3 ай бұрын

@@enednas801 It sure is like a horror movie!

@dakoderii4221

3 ай бұрын

Except God. They think they are using God but he who laughs last, laughs best. Their destruction shall come upon them as a whirlwind and there shall be no remedy found.

@dakoderii4221

3 ай бұрын

@@enednas801 These "elite" Satanists usurping power in our governments around the world consider themselves "gods" as they have the power to raise a society and to raze a society in order to 6uild 6ack 6etter. Common narcs in our lives consider themselves "gods" with the power to build you up and tear you down at their will. From the macro to the micro, they all have the same playbook straight out of Hell.

Basically a person is a friend to a narcissist only till he remains a 'yes person 'to him

Narcissists will throw ANYONE under the bus.

@Cmbtvtrn05

3 ай бұрын

Yep

@drsyedsaudmedico

3 ай бұрын

😂😂 but i throw one of my narrsist on his respective place.2 month now and m recover by all gasliting manipulation emotional abuse and control 🎛️.. I take closer by telling him what I had observed in his personality ( evil) and tell about my boundaries i never engage him to my family and friends so nor i always ( no chance to fly 🐒 and smear campaign)

@mzgodly8272

3 ай бұрын

I realized that, my bf for almost 3 years always reach out to others when he needs help, and they will bend backwards to help him, but soon after he has used them he always had a reason, as to why he no longer wants to be friend with them, he starts speaking ill of them, I would say isn't that the person who did this or that for you? 😮it shocks me everytime

@mimi-lg8lo

3 ай бұрын

The first Narcissist to ever exist is the Devil himself! That's the best way to understand a Narcissist all at once! 😉

@scottyboy703

3 ай бұрын

@@mzgodly8272he will do this to you one day

My narcissist had a lot of “friends.” But they were all fake friends and he usually tried to buy their time.

@enednas801

3 ай бұрын

I know a narcissistic guy and one of his few and closest "friends" for a decade critizised him and he was dropped in a second cos u can never do that.the npd person wants worshipers not real friends who can give u some critiqe once in a while.

@mikeshawearing

3 ай бұрын

Exactly!

@castingcauldron6578

3 ай бұрын

Oh my gosh absolutely. I mean I get that you have to invite someone out to lunch sometimes to get their time and attention but eventually nobody even wants to take the free lunch because you just become a captive audience.

@drsyedsaudmedico

3 ай бұрын

This all about validates his personality without any significant achievements .. those don't they discard quickly.

@angelablaney4575

3 ай бұрын

Exactly they buy 'friends'! And do fake 'caring'. They chase after people.

They will never understand that arrogant is the exact opposite of interesting. Nobody wants to be around them, which is why they always need a captive victim.

no matter how many fake friends they have. In the end they will die lonely and alone

They use everything and everyone to please themselves, that's why they are empty. Friendship requires honesty and closeness... sacrifice, they don't know these terms.

@IsabellaPiesch

3 ай бұрын

It requires emotional empathy...

@MSSHARIII

3 ай бұрын

💯💯

@drsyedsaudmedico

3 ай бұрын

They have honesty closeness and they pretend they sacrifice for you.. but until Narssitt knows about your hidden secrets.. so in future used against you.. just in the beginning I tell some of my secrets.. he used against me .. so don't say they don't have this thing in their NPD trait they have but untill unless they know about your secret.

@luigiprovencher8888

3 ай бұрын

That's not why they're empty.

One thing I noticed about narcs. They have no use for anybody that doesn't kiss their butts, spoil them or make their lives as comfortable as possible. Kids are useful tools to prop themselves up. When they lose someone they consider close, they are not really grieving the person, they are grieving the loss of supply.

@Inflec

3 ай бұрын

I could have written your comment. That has been the exact description of my experiences with narcs. 👍👌💯

@Haberdashery22

3 ай бұрын

So very true!

@sagittarius420cheefie

2 ай бұрын

Yup

You are absolutely correct! The narcs I know have NO friends.

My narc husband has no friends and has made sure I don't have any either. He's worked with the same group of guys since the late 1970s. All of them are retired and go out to lunch once a month to keep in touch. They asked him once and have never asked him again. This was 3 yrs ago. They don't call or text. The only "friend" he has that he talks to on occasion is not right in the head. Texting him the same thing over and over just hours apart and only talks to him when he needs a ride. I've asked him time and time again if he's heard from them and he says no. It finally dawned on me why. They don't want to deal with someone who constantly argues, and thinks he's always right about everything!!

About the competition part. It really sucked to realize that my own covert narc husband was truly in competition with me. There is no love there. What man is in competition with his own wife? You are not a wife in the eyes of a man such as this. Doormat and slave is more like it because he used and abused me.

@alexisgreene8952

3 ай бұрын

I brought him to my new office space, when he saw the name plate on the door, he didn't say, congraturations', he said, 'I am so jealous!!'. It says all. Jealous, sneaky, cunning, disroyal, hateful .. I don't think they can love anyone.

@shellymurphy2101

3 ай бұрын

@@alexisgreene8952 it’s true. They don’t know how to love. They don’t even love themselves seeing they don’t have a ‘self’ just a pseudo ‘image’. Imagine the shear horror of that fact.

@Michael_Arguello

3 ай бұрын

“Used and abu$ed”. My ex used to tell me that she was going to “use me and abu$e me”. I thought she just meant it in a cute way as she was very into the sexual aspect of our relationship. The moment she started abu$e, I ended it. She couldn’t believe how willing I was to throw away the souls mate relationship that we had. I told her that I had the power to make her a distant memory. She called me crazy so I had to prove it to her. This was 12 years ago. Funny thing was that she knew all about my narcissistic ex as I told her all her tactics on manipulation. She had to be thinking to herself while calling my ex “crazy”, “gee, I hope this guy doesn’t figure out that I’m the exact same way.” LMAO. The thing they don’t realize is that we only get stronger after discarding every narcissist. It becomes easier to see in people and walk away from.

@alexisgreene8952

3 ай бұрын

@shellymurphy2101 I think they are stupid with their child- like imature brain!

@Irispia97

3 ай бұрын

In the closet. Hates women.

They don’t trust because they’re not honest with themselves or anyone else. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, but in my opinion there’s levels to trust.

@lilfairycupcake

3 ай бұрын

what gets me is how utterly self defeating they are. they hate everything, including themselves.

My narc has acquaintances but no real friends. When they get older it gets worse. People realize what they are and run.

@no.9961

3 ай бұрын

he took me miles away to meet his old friend's... lol one pretended to be out, another got a friend to yell out of a window "he's moved!" another refused to answer the door then eventually answered wrapped in a towel ... lol

@pagie2467

3 ай бұрын

@@no.9961 Yikes! LOL. It's sad really. They can figure out how they are supposed to act but can't feel it. No genuine emotion.

As a victim of a narcissistic family and then husband I also have no friends because I realize I only knew how to be in toxic relationships.

@be9988

3 ай бұрын

Same. My mother is a covert narcissist and as a result I have a difficult time trusting people. My only close "friends" are my husband, sister and my father. I have many acquaintances but it will take a very long time for me to trust anyone and consider them a friend.

@christbeliever4407

3 ай бұрын

same here

@sandracrandall4561

3 ай бұрын

​@@be9988You are Precious. You are NO mistake. You ARE Valuable & a Gift to the world. U B U & live the life God created You to live & Love with Joy🙏💕

@helenaquin1797

3 ай бұрын

Narcs tend to control your social interactions and exercise influence over those you are seen to associate wirh. When you finally get away, there's almost like a new learn8ng process. And the cult thing is spot on too. A cult of one.

Everyone is an object to them. I find it funny that they surround themselves around people that hate them just because they cant be alone.

@ND-or5so

3 ай бұрын

@JoshuanAnzel.. Ha! Very true.

@franlewis1607

3 ай бұрын

Dang. That was good.

@cassiebennet4262

3 ай бұрын

That's an interesting point. I've seen another channel talk about this subject before. How bizarre it is that they want to maintain relationships with people they've completely alienated. People who cannot stand being around them anymore. Attention is attention. They almost seem to crave negative attention most of all. It's like they are punishing themselves. It has to be a miserable existence.

@kelsummers806

3 ай бұрын

I can't be alone but I'm not nassistic

@alrinaleroux9229

3 ай бұрын

People who make fun of them behind their backs.

Extreme selfishness is the point.

That's my ex. He was a hermit before I was with him. He was always only looking out for himself while we were married. I was wondering why he wasn't put out - or to say, 'offed' by anyone to be able to get his way to me. He's very selfish and he was so into manipulation, gas lighting, blame shifting, silent treatments days upon end, tantrums, condescing towards me and he couldn't face discussions about our relationships lack of growth and my concerns or feelings were never a priority and nothing was ever resolved. He is a total coward. What a loser he is. All about himself so I told him he can go back to his hermit way of life because he just used me and abused me without any remorse for his actions he deliberately did against me. He can have him all to himself.

@emiliaemski8597

3 ай бұрын

Thats what I told my ex when I left: "Ok...If you dont want mine then enjoy your own company then..."

@rubyparchment5523

3 ай бұрын

Yup, yup. But the tricky thing he doesn’t know is that these days, there is no low-income housing, no SRO bachelor hotels. Here in DC area, renting rooms is pretty much not done, and even if he found one, he’d make noise all night, demand meals, rides. It never works out. So what’s he gonna do?

@cefcat5733

3 ай бұрын

Sounds like what we had here. I called this person the weakest link, in the family and he truly was and had to go. It's like throwing a big rock, out of the garden.

@alrinaleroux9229

3 ай бұрын

O, ABSOLUTELY -- I totally agree. "He can have him all to himself." It seems to me as though some narcissists, when they finally begin to realize that they are about to be discarded, are strongly tempted to regress to a state of infantile passivity. I do not think that they will solve their problems that way.

@anujasingh7178

3 ай бұрын

Wow... so very well articulated..you just described my marriage

My narcissist has basically burned 95% of all her friendships. Unfortunately she has no self awareness on why this keeps happening 🤦🏻‍♀️

No friends of any depth, that’s for sure; only superficial relationships.

This is a perfect example of "Divide and Conquer" strategy, where the narcissist makes their "friends" all believe that they're the only one who has a problem with the narcissist, so that they must be in the wrong.

@UrsulaZA

2 ай бұрын

I’ve noticed this - the “friends” are from different groups and generally do not get together often as a group, however gets talked about often with other friends…

Oh no, I agree, Narc has told me herself that she doesn't see her friends as friends, she said that those are people that "amuse her". Thankfuly narc is not one of my parents but she is a close relative. Growing up hearing her say 'I love you' to so many people then turn around and brutally critizise them while talking to others, that really messed up my perception of friendship.

@somethingbambi875

3 ай бұрын

This should have been a red flag too. One "friend" Said also this, that she has no friends... She is pushing people away and I felt I can't talk things out with her.

You are so right about the fact they are not trustworthy themselves, however I have noticed how good they are at getting others to do " their dirty work" for them. They never get their hands dirty. It can be so tragic when they actually destroy lives for their own selfish gains. No one can call them out because they will plot to play the victim and get others to feel sorry for them. They prey on your kindness and good nature but are quick to point out if you are strict or firm with them. They are like spoiled rotten evil children . . 😢😢😢 Stay strong everyone, and be AWARE. Thank you again, Danish for your brilliant insights. ❤

@ND-or5so

3 ай бұрын

@tinyvr7036: That is totally the narcissist the covert one especially in my eyes because it is just like my ex. They must have spent a lot of time perfecting these bad ways. It sucks to think they would sign up for this sick way of life being so hateful and evil knowing that it is wrong. They chose the dark side all by themselves. They need to get in trouble because they are getting away with crimes. No different than a rapist or child molester because in my case the covert narcissist preyed upon me. It's the same as the others that sexually abuse because abuse is abuse and all of these ones look for a victim.

brother man, i gotta tell you. you doing God’s work out here. God bless you my man

You are absolutely right my narcissist doesn’t have any true friends just one creepy one same as him and he is his bedroom partner too

@rubyparchment5523

3 ай бұрын

Wait - Whaaat? Details, please.

@cassiebennet4262

3 ай бұрын

Bedroom partner?

They stroke each other's ego.

MY toxic sister has loads of friends. They think she's terrific. But shes not on speaking terms with most relatives and has nothing good to say about them.

💯 - all they do is burn bridges

I’ve literally never been able to keep my friends because of my narc family, after every hang out or anything that had to do with my new friend they would pick them apart and (before I knew that they were narcs and they were still able to confuse me) they would say the worst things about them completely gaslighting the positive interaction I literally just had with them..and now in my healing journey I have no friends and I’m staring over 🤷🏽‍♀️

@tejalhalde7109

3 ай бұрын

I wud say congrats that u have no friends.. because not everyone is helpful.. I have had a friend since junior kg till 35 yrs of age.. but when I realized my parents are narcissist and told her she said not to tell her all this and make her bore..even I have zero friends.. doesn't mean one should give up living.. be your own friend be your own cheer leader❤

@nafeesakhan3504

3 ай бұрын

same with me

@Itsmemahaa

3 ай бұрын

@@tejalhalde7109 100%, I’m sorry your “friend” treated you that way. I’ve always loved my own company, but it just sucks sometimes when you want to do an activity that usually requires more than 1 person, but I’m honestly hopeful and happy with or without

@tejalhalde7109

3 ай бұрын

@@Itsmemahaa but u know our lives are so f***ed up by narcissistic parents that at this time I can think of only being aware of narcissistic people and healing myself.. u said u missed making frnds but I had just one frnd all my life and during difficult times even she didn't support me.. so don't regret.. becoz a friend or anybody won't believe u that your parents did that bad to u (because of the ideal image that they potray) and so they won't choose to be your frnd.. becoz it happened with me.. 😑 we have so much hatred to vent it out but nobody wud be there.. so good that u didn't waste ya time on making frnd.. coz I regret that

@Itsmemahaa

3 ай бұрын

@@tejalhalde7109 the people who don’t believe you are toxic also, trust me there are many people out there that will understand and validate you. I have one friend recently I told her about my situation and she believed me and comforted me, but we’re not close, she was kind and don’t worry there are better people out there 🤍

It's really tragic how some innocent people get trapped as cult members of the narcissist. Actually these cult members are also thoroughly used and abused by the narcissist. Feel very sorry for the enablers. Narcissists also know how to charm and hypnotize their cult members.

@freedomdude5420

3 ай бұрын

Why is it, not to be bias or anything, every time cult is involved, the narcissist is always on top, I don't get it.

@Rosemoon938

3 ай бұрын

@@freedomdude5420 They know mindgames the best, that's why narcisists remain on top of the cult

I had friends when I met my narcissistic spouse, but I lost them all. He made such a scene every time I tried to spend time with them, I just stopped seeing them. 😢

The narcissist destroys your friendship with others... My narc sister befriended my friends and turned them against me. Praise God something she said was enlightenment for my friends and they ran as fast as they could. Celebrated 50 years of our friendship this year 🎉🎊🥳

I had close friends until I was about 26, then I decided to cut them off. It's hard to have friends when we don't feel on the same level and we don't want to drag them down. I had to focus on my own growth and self-respect. I haven't had friends for almost a decade. It is what it is. We can't hurt others and we can't let others hurt us.

Narcissists hang out together but they can only be together high or drunk.

@freedomdude5420

3 ай бұрын

That explains everything.

Perfect I have zero friends and I am still healing from extreme narc abuse from spouse and his family and friends you heard even their enablers abused me emotionally They r constantly surrounded by people who enabled them and treated me like movable non living thing .. just a year back I broke their abuse and went to no contact with all of them and finding peace atlast

You are absolutely right my narcissist mother had no real friends. She found enablers. Nurses doctors and empathetic people. When she wore through their patience she went on to someone else. My narcissist ex-husband did not have a single friend. I encouraged him to get some acquaintances and discovered no one wanted to listen to him talk and talk and talk about himself. He is in his 70s now back in his country and is hanging out with his family that's it.. even when I would ask for conversation it would be all about him not what we could do for the summer or the weekend with the kids .

Thank you. Great video. Yes, my ex-husband had a few long term “friends”. I now see that those were “friends” were likely narcissistic like him and enablers. They have similar ways of thinking. They seem to support each other’s toxic ways. It makes sense that he spent time with them, because I’m sure they validated him.

My ex best friend is a narcissist and she made it seem like she had so many friends and would go to many parties. She also has over 4000 people on her facebook. I noticed that when she would have birthday parties for her kid, none of those "friends" would show up. The people that would show up were her family and her kid's friends. I wondered where all her so called "admirers" were.

@deadbyria

11 күн бұрын

Same. They say they have lots of friends and admirers

Thanks to narcissist awareness, I have cut off everyone that’s associated with the narc because they can’t or won’t see pass their relationship with him. I found out as a child the narcissist was known for offering up his toys to attract friends. The facade of always being available and giving his last anything for them but mia for wife and kids. He is the life of the party to the point of his friends rallying around him. He’s always the loudest and the “funniest” too but couldn’t take a joke from me except for in the love bombing stage🙄. Now that I’m not emotionally or physically attached to him, I can see just how fake he really is. Disgusting🤦🏾‍♀️

My mom now has so-called friends that occasionally call to see how she is doing. These people came around more frequently when my father was alive. But not real interaction like others have. People respected my dad & he was a kind, likable man. My mom was the reason he couldn't have close bonds with others. She demanded all his attention. Just a couple of people enquire about her rarely. I think this out of respect for my dad. When people were starting friendly relationships with my parents, they eventually dwindled off if they started seeing red flags from my mom. The ones that stuck it out were the ones who felt sorry for my good-natured dad.

Thanks for what you do. I Really am FREE AT LAST!!!

People can smell the narcissist’s stink

@abdulbasith9927

Ай бұрын

Really? But how can you pls explain

It reminds me of a narc girl (she can't be called a woman, from the top of her 35 years old) I unfortunately knew. Everytime she showed up, she became "the spotlight girl" (it was easy because she was quite attractive). That's when "the party was on": she started drinking, drinking, drinking... And her "friends" not only did nothing to stop her but also was filling up her cup with "only heaven knows what". It always ended the same way: she couldn't even walk a straight line, ended up knocked out on the sidewalk, her face and clothes were a mess, and there it goes... Where were her "friends" at that time? Nowhere to be found! Edit: OK, I hadn't made myself so clear, let me add one point or two. She barely spent her own money, most of the time she was almost begging for someone to pay her a drink, so she could "do her performance".

@riel4553

3 ай бұрын

You sure that was the narc? Sounds like a couple of flying monkey that I know. One only gets invited to parties because Narc wants to laugh at her. Narc even admits it, that the girl isn't a friend but it's fun to keep her in their social circle just to see her drunk. The other was once invited to a party right after payday and woke up the next morning laying on the sidewalk, abandoned by his 'friends' and without his wallet.

@eltonguapyassu490

3 ай бұрын

@@riel4553 yeah, surely she was. She would almost beg for anything you can call booze (barely spent her own money, she was poor anyway), and one of the few people who tried to "pull her brakes" was me. But not anymore. I've had enough. She can keep lying on the gutter where she belongs.

I just dont get along with people period, i just stay away period, i but i can smell a narcisist a mile away, they start talking about themselves and how they are better than you, i just say ok and move on.

It's exhausting wearing a mask of a normal human being for long periods of time.

Exactly like in your case , Danish ❤, my ex covert narc hubbie ‘ treated his friends so nice and me so bad ! Thanks again , bless you ! ❤

@debprobst330

3 ай бұрын

Another thing I never realized is the whole time he was saying horrible things about me ....after Danish spoke about it I knew why his friends started to treat me the way they did

I definitely believe you -- the narcissist I know told me he has no friends, then he said "you are my [only] friend." I knew, as did he, that we were not friends at all. We didn't "hang out," have casual conversations or any interaction outside of work. He treated me as a lower class form of life, and his family did likewise. They lived in their own tiny little world, as if it were a kingdom. You have also perfectly described the sycophant hive of supporters who swarm around the narcissist. None of his swarm of supporters "hangs out" with him either. To the narcissist, these people are also lower forms of life. And, yes, every one of the people who hang around him are on his payroll -- he is giving them money to be around him. You are right, the narcissist has ZERO friends. It is not even the slightest exaggeration.

this is true, my ex narc has a lot of so call friends and family who worship her and she always making new friends and she would come to me and talk so negative about them behind there back. i had to constantly here about it

I’m certain the handful of “friends” my ex had, remained in his good graces because he had dirt on them. They knew the wrath he inflected on others so they made the decision to tolerate him. I always sensed a guarded demeanor when they interacted with him.

@Danish, you are so right. My Ex Narc partner did not have any REAL friends. Yes he had acquintances who were mostly people he could benefit from. They were usually more successful and he was always secretly jealous of them. Even the ones he said were like his brothers, he did not reveal his true self to them.

This is so untrue. They come in and divide and conquer your family and friends. They have many partners/lovers. However, these people will be friends to the narcissist, the narcissist just isn't a friend to them. Despite what we say their followers are real and will do anything to remain in their cult.

This is a cool story about my narcissistic ex. When we were married, he had a group of high school friends who would want to spend time with him on occasion. He would call them lame behind their backs and come up with excuses to avoid them. Once we divorced, guess who he ran to? Straight to them to get them on his side. He hung out with them until he got a new girlfriend, then immediately discarded them again.

That last minute of your video says it all. My narc judges me by how HE thinks about things and reasons that I think the same way. He has no real friends. We have been married half a century and we are not friends at all. Danish, I'm within months of leaving if all goes well. Oh, I cannot wait to feel some peace even though after all this time he has spent everything and on my own I will have not much of anything to show for that many years. I do have my children and they are the only good thing that has come from my time with him.

A Narcissist who I knew well, abused his parental family and had no real friends either. That is such a high level, of insanity, when you think about survival. His Mother passed away, so the fight was on, about inheritance. That must have been a 'bloody' knock-down fight. For sure, there is no return for him, to see Siblings, but his Mother appointed her super wealthy best friend, to take care of her Son, after her passing. He is in many ways helpless, but is so aggravating, that he is intolerable. He also, can be manipulated., if you know him. That's pitiful.

Yep. Couldn't handle the interaction between me and my friends. Thanks man, I owe you a favor. Ah dude, don't worry about it. The whole family was transactional, evidenced by how long it took them to move out when I'd finally had enough and said I wasn't helping.

It's codependency. Mine claims he is an actor/ model so perfect for his warped psyche. Be careful bc you can become ill from sheer exhaustion from trying to figure out what went wrong. They are the problem! I told this narc he has no friends and people talk and laugh at him behind his back, he will leave a job when they stop worshipping him. I should have known what he was when he would send me a selfie every day in the beginning. I thought it was strange but overlooked it. That was the biggest RED FLAG! Be well!❤✨

I also wanted to share that I learned an invaluable lesson with the malignant narcissist whom I finally found the strength to leave. When I met him he told me he had a thousand friends in the small community in which we live. It seemed to be true because everywhere we went people would come up and say, "We love this guy!" "J is amazing." "He is such a great guy." His ex even described him as "a sweet guy." In time I started to realize that they were all sycophants.........and so was he.......kind of an unspoken agreement to the effect that "I'll make you look good if you made me look good." I also later discovered that this guy was of the petty criminal persuasion and I expect that many of them were also playing a crooked game, and terrified of going against him. Nothing authentiic about any of these people nor any of their relationships, that's for sure.

What about families of narcissists. How to escape that? They stick together but there’s no love.

Narcissists don’t let anyone become too close to them because they know they’ll be found out for the dull, nasty, boring creatures that they really are.

Wow everything you say is so on point. It's what I wanted to hear all long. Brilliant information .Thank you so much.

That explains why we didn't have mutual friends and why there were so many flying monkeys /enablers. Yeah they are always transactional with everyone.

The smallest package in the world, is a person all wrapped up inside themselves.

You are so very insightful. Thank you for this video. I have not a narcissistic parent, but a partner. I need to listen again. You are the best Danish.

Such a fantastic perspective Danish. My first husband put no effort into keeping relationships from the past alive, or investing in new relationships. And, I could never get anywhere near him emotionally. Ironically, he shared a story with me early on in our relationship that I look back on now and recognize as a RED FLAG. He told me that he once rescued a man who was in an avalanche. He expressed anger that he was never given a reward. At our wedding, his best man told his story about how great my husband-to-be was, using this one story as an example of his heroism........the fact that he carried that anger for not being compensated with him took all that heroism away.

HA! My ex Narc got out of town when all her friends shunned her. Good move!

They are fake friends

This reminds me of the girl who bullied me as a kid, and who is still obsessed with me now. She thought she was popular, as all the kids in her neighbourhood would always be in the same classroom as her, and they would harass me at her behest. I never understood what they saw in her. I got tired of her when she was harassing me on her own, they weren’t around, and I told her she had no friends. They were just pretending. I recall how that made her mad, and how two years later, that declaration came true as her pretend friends all went to different junior high. She is still obsessed with me as an adult, and still acts like a mean ten year old girl. I’m not mad, I just feel pity for this woman as I’ve heard of mean girls peaking in high school, but she peaked in elementary.

When I met my narc he didn’t have any friends. HUGE red flag that I should have seen. Then, 7 years later he had a work friend but all he does is play games like “I called him last, it’s his turn to call”. It’s weird. No wonder people don’t call, they learned what he is.

i've seen my narc demon father literally creep away random ppl. the way he approaches ppl and talks them dead, literally dead, irritates other ppl just like it irritated me. just that he cudnt beat up other ppl and scare them to make them sit and listen to him endlessly. being immigrants my mother and "father" do have their friends circle that sticks together like all immigrants do. but it works only as long my mother is there. she does have real friendships in that circle but my "father" is laughed at and ridiculed. i've also seen him frantically and forcefully try to befriend other ppl, just to show that he has friends. also, i have, and so many times, seen him make phone calls in front of me, and tried to be buddy like with random ppl. as if i didnt have the ordeal to know him from childhood and exactly know that nobody talks to him because he cant talk. he really cant have any real conversation with anyone. its always a staging. and its really pure violence. i cant remember him ever asking anything. he can only dish out. asking questions and taking in information from other ppl is something he just doesnt know how to do. and its pure energy drain if a person just wants something and never gives. the demon never asks anybody how they are and what they are up to. the demon literally prepares topics to force on other ppls face. if narcissists arent violent and openly devilish, they play a role. and if they have really low IQ like my demon father does, its just more painful to watch.

@MarjyGTV

3 ай бұрын

This sounds just like my narc father to the T. They all act so similar, and its so cringey when he would force himself to be friends with others. And make others uncomfortable

@rahulm2827

3 ай бұрын

@@MarjyGTV true.

They burn many bridges in life from a young age

I am divorcing the narc in my life after 20 years. He discarded all of his friends and completely changed his behavior after finding another woman DURING OUR DIVORCE. He is completely focused on her and getting her hooked in.

was with my narc off, and on for 8yrs. she never once mentioned childhood friends. reason being, she didnt have any.

I agree. He doesn't have friends. There's a reason why they don't have too many friends. It's because of their rotten attitude. They're afraid someone will find out their ugliness within.

Thank you so much for your videos, Danish.

Danish you are so on point here👍. my Narcissist elder sister doesnt have any genuine friendship with anybody, she doesnt visit or be visited by anyone.

Wow, very interesting & insightful into 'their mind & thought life'' ... well explained I did not know they were that paranoid ! ... I truly Appreciated your Video, Thank-you for sharing !! : )

I was very confused growing up because my covert narcissist mother has a core group of “friends” - surely this means she is a loving person? Surely the problem lies with me? Now I see perhaps they are all just using each other for this image of friendship. All her friends think she is amazing - even when she went on vacation with them when I was just released from 3 weeks in the hospital! It is impossible to understand this as a child. It is an insidious evil.

Hey Danish, I just started the video seconds ago and want to say: I AGREE with you, can't wait to watch the rest..

I have learned that all people tend to see people as a mirror of themselves until shown otherwise. The narcissist won't care.

1000 %true.i completely agree . Narcissistic has no real friend .All are enabler and use the narcissist for feeding ego and take advantage of him by validating his wrong deeds which narcissist not able to see .my narcissistic partner has one true childhood friend but due extreme ego my partner cutoff all the relationship with him as he is the only one who speaks truth on face and has guts to slap him on his face .All others whom he drink,do party and spend time all are just enabler not at all trustable.

I completely agree with this. It should have been a red flag that I should have seen. I know better now

Another good episode. Thank you Darnish

Thank you it helped me.I was like why cudn't he fake upfront with me? COULD YOU MAKE A VIDEO ON MALIGNANT NARCISSIST,IF YOU GET TIME OR FEEL INTEReSTED?

They don’t have friends, they have frenemies. Will never be able to have a real relationship with a narc because they’re all in competition.

They don't have friends they have cult members.

Oh i rly needed this 😊 ty AGAIN, Danish 💙❣️

Its true, they don't have any friends at all.

Thank you Danish,I needed to hear this today. 🙏

We were very involved in our big church. Church was a major source of supply for him. He taught classes, he played the guitar, he was witty and charming. All of our relationships were surfacy. They admired my husband because he was so "spiritual". If we ever had anyone over for dinner, it was to network within the church. NO ONE knew the real us. NO ONE knew what was going on in our home. We didn't hang out with anyone "just for fun". The best man and ushers at our wedding were people he chose to "get points" with. He had no "buddies" to pick from.

Amazing amazing content 🔥 hit it on the nail with this one !

Thank you so much that all makes so much sense kindly appreciated appreciated

Great video. Thank you

I still remember , my ex narc friend always said that she has soo many friends. Always lull that to me, like desperately asking for Validation. I got that now. You have so many friends that only for party and happy happy. But the TRUE FRIEND, you have zero.

Wonderful video and on point from my experience with exNARC-GF. Truth To Power! 🙏🏻

First to comment! Thank you for your content Danish! 🙏🏼

Very insightful.. Thanks🙏🙏🙏 and blessing from India🇮🇳

My gf was raised by a narcissist mother. She is the oldest of her and 2 sisters. Her mom put pressure on her to be perfect. Ive noticed she gets pissed if i give someone more attention if we're out and i see someone i know. She doesn't want to meet anyone i know, and if she does its short. Shes a loner and keeps to herself. She does however give back if i do stuff for her. I think she's torn and is careful with being vulnerable. Yes the sex feels like a transaction but she reached down at one point last week and gave me a kiss unexpected and caught me off guard. She never initiates a kiss.

The narcissists have sycophants as followers and the narcissist is also a sycophant themselves.