Erik is considerably well spoken, thoughtful, and intelligent. This was a very interesting interview.

@dahmergoldstien

3 ай бұрын

thats some bar you got there. Removing emotions from intimacy? Geee, lets try that in other avenues shall we. The path to sociopths

I never thought I'd be interested in listening to an interview like this, but this guy is so intelligent, down to earth and articulate, he was an absolute delight to listen to.

The way men in the industry talk about porn and the way women talk about it is VASTLY different.

@MisterSinister47

4 ай бұрын

Yes, I was thinking that too. We're told as men that we're so STUPID AND IMMATURE. But that doesn't seem to be the case. Because male adult performers speak about sex with a very high level of maturity. The females just sound raunchy and adolescent. They usually sit in a circle speaking as if they're in the back locker room of a strip club. It's really surprising and a bit telling.

@AggressiveMediocrity1

4 ай бұрын

@@MisterSinister47 the women just sound gross.. the men always seem to be incredibly introspective about it.

@user-sl1tu9ww4n

4 ай бұрын

I dont talk about it , just make few weird noises till Im done watching it or just done! lol not even funny

@rubyjeanne1667

4 ай бұрын

@@MisterSinister47 Well, is really has to do with either fucking or being fucked. When you have been fucked in the ass let us know how you really feel about it. MOST women HATE it but men seem to think it's ok and try so hard to make it happen. IT IS NOT OK. So when women speak of it like the locker room, it's because it's degrading and they have to speak about it or they will go insane.

@christophkuropkaGR

4 ай бұрын

For the men it seems to have been a much more conscious decision and process whereas women in the industry appear to have been much more delusional and driven...

I worked in the adult industry for a few years. I started as a bouncer at strip clubs then became a bartender and eventually started working with escorts. I fooled around with a lot of girls doing voyeur and did a few strip teases at some Bachelorette parties. The two things that surprised me the most was that: 1). Many of the girls and the customers were some of the most generous and kind and sincere people I have ever met. 2). The significant majority of the girls all had a history of some kind of sexual abuse as a young person. I wonder if this is the same in the porn industry.

@Corey-iw4ot

6 ай бұрын

This podcast was done for male listeners. Women would not wanna hear this shit

@bch5513

6 ай бұрын

100%

@stever3486

6 ай бұрын

I done a little bit of a porn myself going back over 10 years now from what I found in the UK most of the people men and women were not very nice! Very fake sorta people etc.. Was a very cut throat industry aswell!.. I escort now a bit still (when I get the work)! Ain't easy as a male that's for sure!.. but yes did find most women and to be fair men aswell in porn and escorting had a story to tell from there past! Not all sexual abuse but certainly a story to tell!... guess you could say sometimes these bad experiences can either shape ya to be a better or worser person! One plus side I see from abuse as there's always positives and negatives to everything in life ("ying/yang") and that's it does turn people usually more open minded and sexually expressive/liberated! etc...

@ObjectiveEthics

6 ай бұрын

@@stever3486 4 sure! The drug addiction and alcoholism was rampat as well. BTW if you are still looking for a hustle, have you tried using dating apps to find clients? Depending on what the laws are in the UK you might need to be careful how you promote your gig though. Here in the states a pimping and permandering charge will get you 7 years minimum 😒

@MA-gu2up

6 ай бұрын

Hey, there May I ask you? You said most of those women had a history of sexual abuse. Do you mean the women who did voyeur? Also, what is your experience in the Bachelorette parties?

The laid-back feel. No injection of their "awesome personality" or cringe giggling was very welcomed. Great video

Amazing interview. I really appreciate when the interviewer lets the guest talk. Erik sounds like a man who's done some actualization work. Very thoughtful and eloquent.

This was a great watch,very insightful and informative. Erik Everhard is impressive.

Mitch Hartwell is a very intelligent and down to earth guy. He clearly knows where he is at in life and that his gift is not given to everyone. He simply has an ability to do his job better than others. He is not arrogant. He is actually Empathetic. He wants to make people better and be at peace with their sexuality,

I could listen to Erik talk for hours. He is thoughtful, honest, open and strangely (considering his line of work) relatable.

Erik comes across as an intelligent, amiable very likeable bloke. There is no ego on display at all, very down to earth. Great interview, very candid and interesting.

@Andres-mk8li

4 ай бұрын

How do you know that there is no ego?

@brbsnortingcatnip

4 ай бұрын

@@Andres-mk8li They said no ego "on display"

@Andres-mk8li

4 ай бұрын

@@brbsnortingcatnip i see i need to learn to read.

@Kingofthehill84

4 ай бұрын

He sold his soul for dirty money? 😅😂

@ethosterros9430

4 ай бұрын

Probably cuz he getting paid to slay

This is a great conversation. Every man will face these issues at some point, and have to learn to adapt and get past it. There are lots of shows on getting girls, pick up and getting girls in bed, but not much talk about sustaining a long-term relationship sexuallyand managing masculine sexual presence. Thank you for this interview.

This is a good interview. Erik seems more mature, aware, and introspective than the average man. He's really experienced a lot and thought things through. He's also very professional when speaking about sensitive topics. I don't watch porn but I appreciate this video. Thanks for having him on.

@redinkrose8840

5 ай бұрын

His name isn’t Erik. It’s Mitch.

@Theomite

5 ай бұрын

Lexington Steele and Dredd are both very mature and introspective interviewees.

@josealexi5141

5 ай бұрын

You must not speak with many men @transitionsnc. MOST men *ARE* mature, aware and introspective.

@transitionsnc

5 ай бұрын

I used to work in U.S. healthcare...I've spoken with and treated thousands of men across the U.S. I've also lived in other countries. In my experience, most men don't have Erik's level of awareness.@@josealexi5141

@dons1932

5 ай бұрын

I was unbelievvably surprised how eloquent and introspective he was. The interviewer was WAY out of his depth.

i did not expect to hear such an interesting conversation, i wasnt planing on watching an 1 hour long video but hear i am !!!!

Fascinating & intelligent discussion. Deserved to go on for much longer but really enjoyed listening. The internet could use more discussions/interviews like this instead of all the drum banging, opinionated, accusatory ones out there. Thanks to 'Mr Everhard' for his viewpoint & information. Along with interviews I've heard from women in the industry, it just goes to show, they are all normal people just like the rest of us. Thanks. 😁

Wow! I never pin this guy down as DEEP, and he is the real deal, great conversation and a great guy for sure.

@josealexi5141

5 ай бұрын

not just DEEP, but balls-DEEP!

What an insightful interview. Eric has an intelligence that is so impressive. And I have a new respect for male Talent. Thank you!

@_Your_Wifes_Boyfriend

4 ай бұрын

Erik Everhard for President 2024!

Awesome and an eye openner interview, I've learnt alot from erik everhard in this interview. Great guy full of knowledge

I’m always grateful to be corrected. Great interview!!

Loved this interview! Erik is also an eye opener. He deserves to be discovered. Thank you !!

@Remy2Stronk

6 ай бұрын

Ass opener

@Vedraan

5 ай бұрын

He is an ass opener

Professional way of replying to each question and also wearing a blazer like a gentleman. 👍

Great conversation! I really enjoyed hearing Erik's take and advice on performance anxiety. The certainty > hope part is an especially interesting point, and it is a tool that I will apply more mindfully from now on in order to combat the various types of anxiety I may encounter in my day-to-day life. Thanks for that little freebie Erik!

@gerhardvaneeden5615

4 ай бұрын

It's funny, because that's where I stopped watching. Hope is for a future event, which no one can be certain of, while certainty comes from a completed task. Sure, you can fully believe in a specific outcome, but there is never absolute certainty.

@ratlungworm7035

4 ай бұрын

@@gerhardvaneeden5615 That is part of the reason this moment gave me pause and compelled me to reflect on it. Neither hope nor certainty need occupy the purely pragmatic realm. Yes, you can look at it from a purely pragmatic perspective, and you're not wrong. From a humanitarian perspective, hope is essential for human survival. Human psychology, however, is not all cold logic. Is anxiety a logical reaction to normal events? I suspect you are not a person who is prone to anxiety, but since I am, I will offer my point-of-view. I believe there are psychological tricks and tools you can use aimed at self-mastery of your body and mind that are effective at controlling anxiety. Here's an example: Say you want to go for a ride on your motorcycle. You may say to yourself, "I hope nothing bad will happen to me on the road." This "hoping" you'll be fine opens the door for an anxious frame of mind. It allows the accompanying doubt and fear to rule your senses. You may be tense and jerky on the controls, worried about looking foolish, or timid and indecisive in your maneuvering. An anxious frame of mind will interfere with your enjoyment in those ways. If you instead tell yourself, "I will be fine on the road," you're introducing a calming force into your mind. You can reinforce this with things like reminding yourself that you know how your vehicle operates and you are under control. You won't care how you look because that's not what is motivating you. Being cognizant of your surroundings, avoiding hazards, and applying your knowledge of motorcycle safety; all of these things will boost your confidence and enhance your experience. As a result, you are calm and relaxed at the controls, you maneuver easily and seamlessly through curves and road positions, and you identify potential hazards sooner. It is certainty, in a sense, because you're convincing yourself that you will be fine. Does that mean that some asshole won't come out of nowhere and clean you out? No, it doesn't. I'm not saying that one frame of mind is going to keep you safer than the other, though I'd argue that the latter frame of mind would actually reduce your risk of an accident. However, I will say that it is a certainty that the latter frame of mind will be the far more enjoyable experience. It's not about lying to yourself, it's about tricking your mind to calm the fuck down and actually enjoy life. Certainty is a frame of mind, and is not subject to the same semantic constraints that the word "fact' is.

I appreciate Erik’s insight and advice. Listening to this podcast after watching his performances it completely makes sense why he is at the top of his profession, his mental aptitude shows in his performances. This is invaluable for not only men but women also.

Amazing interview, such nuance that I’ve practiced unknowingly. I must get back to this basic technique. 👍🏾💪🏾

Fantastically deep and nuanced interview. Congrats to both.

I enjoyed this, thanks! I really struck chord with the competency line of thought. So many things in life can relate to this. Getting comfortable with what you're doing on a repeatable basis will build confidence and success in any field or endeavor.

Im not religious, but the more i grow and learn things, the more i realise some wisdoms behind certain values in religions, and virginity and lack of comparisons is an example, its probably the best thing to do, its hard enough to find someone compatible with same norms and values, let alone putting the sexual aspect aswell into it, youll be forever in a quest of searching your whole life, so losing your virginity with another virgin and staying for life might be the best the way i see it

@Albert-the-Astro

4 ай бұрын

I’m 54 years old, was married for 20 years. I’ve had plenty of women before and after my marriage. You my friend are right, absolutely, I’m a Christian I believe in the eyes of God marriage is best, but also it is the most logical sound decision a man could ever make, Peace Bro.

@ervvmuller6020

3 ай бұрын

I can confirm that. I'm married for 20 years now, my body count is 1 and my sex life is bliss.

@danielfuentes5428

3 ай бұрын

These two sound so weird to me. The guy is like “hmm interesting” and I’m just like wtf that’s not interesting that sounds so stupid 😂.

@dw8840

2 ай бұрын

Losing your virginity to another virgin, well, neither of you know what you're doing but you learn together and it's all you know. As opposed to when two get together and one has had the same or more partners than the other, and can compare or contrast.

Interesting, his perspective can apply to most businesses, his view on the industry as just a business, and advise can apply to most other businesses (Of course without the sex aspect). Thanks for the interview, its been very helpful!

What a well spoken guy. Great interview. Subscribed.

This was insightful. Things hes said ive either thought about, heard, or experienced. His professionalism and articulateness shows class despite the career choice.

This is one of the best interviews I've seen on KZread. Despite any flaw it may have it's extremely engaging, professional, fascinating, respectful, open, friendly and truthful. Everyone should see it.

Freakin' awesome interview!! The guy is a boss and clearly a very intelligent person as well. Bravo

Just gained a ton of respect for Erik, this interview not what I expected when starting it. Very well done! Please get Mike Adriano on the cast.

@xo_ectophylla_alba_xo

6 ай бұрын

I’m gonna pretend I don’t recognize that name

@frankespinoza9

6 ай бұрын

what do u want to hear,why he likes the smell of shit

@origamifox5180

5 ай бұрын

lol you’re a cuck

@9mmpeter255

4 ай бұрын

He's the butt hole guy

@pulse4503

4 ай бұрын

Adriano hes Just about the luckiest Chap on earth

This was a GREAT and fascinating interview. Great questions and I appreciate Erik's intelligence and eloquence in discussing the differences between the porn industry and real life sex.

@taylorclarkjohnson

11 ай бұрын

I loved hearing his perspective on porn vs reality too... it's fascinating to hear from someone who has been deep in the porn industry. Glad you liked the episode. If there are any other porn stars you think would be a good fit, shoot me an email and let me know. I'll see if I can get an interview with them. :D

@redinkrose8840

5 ай бұрын

His name isn’t Erik. It’s Mitch. Etc etc etc. if he’s going to coach he should be real and tell the truth.

@hourie56

5 ай бұрын

@@taylorclarkjohnson up until a few days ago i use to be a member of eriks everhard academy, hes a really nice guy to talk to and i know hes been in the adult industry for 10 plus years but when it comes to real world stuff he has no idea or clue about them

@josealexi5141

5 ай бұрын

@scottgarbo: Doesn't EVERY 13yo know the difference? You're speaking like 99% of the people on Earth don't know porn is staged & 100% fake. Should I expect every woman to faint and squirt the moment I drop my boxers like in the videos? Holy smokes, are you even old enough to be on the internet?

It's good to hear from someone who was in porn that the porn you watch is a very condensed version of what happened during the making of that film/video. Yes competent and complete male sexual education is lacking in the US. It's good that he differentiates what he did for work and his personal life. Also that porn is entertainment firstly and is not really intended to be an educational platform. Glad that someone with that much insight has chosen to share and educate!

One of the things I remember watching way back in my early 20s was a documentary shot behind the scenes on an adult movie set - where, just like any movie set, they were setting up shots, etc. It made me realize it takes maybe a day to shoot those 10 minute videos that all look like they're in real time but they aren't - just like any movie. It also gave me a healthy perspective on how none of it is real, so consuming this content is really about buying into the fantasy, again pretty much the same as any other movie. It's all showbiz, at the end of the day.

Bro this is fucking gold man, huge step up for the channel! 🎉

@taylorclarkjohnson

11 ай бұрын

Glad you like it! Seems like the decision to have all the episodes put into video form was a good idea. Cheers brother! Thanks for the words.

Great interview. Thanks!

Great insight. Solid interview

Really great interview!!!

Great interview!!!

Super great and surprising interview. thanks so much

Such an insightful interview, loved watching this even as a gay man i found this to be very informative and educational. You definitely have amazing and such insightful interview questions that made this video so great. Nice work dude and great video! ❤️👏

I don't watch porn anymore. Erik was a great performer.

What a great guy! Have watched many of his scenes..

The reality is, most people who go into this industry do so because they have few options. Most who try to get out also return because they are so stigmatized outside so that they cannot find work doing other things. The industry destroys most lives and porn has no positive impact on your mental health over time. Everyone knows this but by down playing it and remaining so calm as Erik does here, the optics look nice but the reality is very ugly. Most performers were abused before entering the industry and have absolutely no self worth. The industry takes what is left of their self esteem. This is not a judgement, just facts. I wish everyone in the industry nothing but blessings and that they somehow find a way out. I also hope that anyone who views porn realizes sooner than later that they are doing more harm than good not only to themselves but to others.

@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax

5 ай бұрын

Doesn't happen to everyone. Some pornstars actually enjoy it and get loads of money from it. So don't tar all with the same brush.

@ernestbuckley8671

5 ай бұрын

I said “most”. Yes, a very small percentage of performers actually make a good living from this but lets be honest, the industry destroys most. ​@@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax

@maryamkim1281

5 ай бұрын

Don't believe you

@wylierichardson-tu6zs

5 ай бұрын

The money can be good, tho.

@thespadestable

5 ай бұрын

​@@wylierichardson-tu6zs - The women; not for the men. And even for the women, very few get the big contract and can make outside money.

Very educational. Thank you.

I worked this Erik and another male star 10 years ago and we got nominated for the scene from the AVN awards. He was very professional and great to work with. Nice to see what he’s been up to 😊

@wpatrickw2012

4 ай бұрын

What is your stage name?

@VicM-xc9zb

4 ай бұрын

I would love to work with you, honestly. I had one experience working in porn about 13 years ago, and wish to do it again.

@alsimmons5539

4 ай бұрын

Work.....riiiighttttt

@AnAussieinNorway

4 ай бұрын

Work! Bahaha

@taminapiwocki3423

4 ай бұрын

Don't worry about the haters. Everyone is a fucking king/queen in their own mind.

What a great interview... well done to you both

Very interesting podcast Erik Everhard is very articulate and deeply thoughtful and his analysis of sex and the act of intercourse is remarkable, he's using his experience of 23 yrs in the industry to now help men in the real world overcome some very serious potentially harmful disabilities in their sex lives and it seems like its mainly the mind and psychology that is the root cause and effect that he gets to the bottom of. There's definitely a huge abundance of education on this topic we could all learn from this man...Brilliant stuff

Erik has always been the man. Kind of taught me a fair bit, some gems in his repertoire

@davemoss9505

4 ай бұрын

Tool.

What an intelligent, intellectual, and well-rounded human. I never would've thought that from his work. Dont judge a book by its cover...ever.

Brilliant interview...kudos to both of you. When I was younger I experiment with prostitutes since regular girls never found me attractive. Even paying I dealt with a lot of anxiety and I ended up quitting sex for good about 10 years ago...I watch porn...mainly lesbian porn to qualm the only shread of sexual drive I still have...This interview is asking me to question a lot of things and join the dots and understand myself and the women around me better.

The knowledge and perspective is dead on...Thanks

Very insightful

So much wisdom from such a grimy profession but dude is speaking facts!!!

Its about camera angles. Pov is real but some people find it boring.

The Skin analogy is spot on

Thank you. This man is very at peace with himself.

@taylorclarkjohnson

11 ай бұрын

Yeah man he definitely is. You can feel it in the pacing and tone of how he speaks. I'm super appreciative of his pace/peace in the speaking domain. It definitely conveys confidence, warmth and ease.

This porn industry is ruining the life of million of young people, for me it is the same as working for a tobacco company (i had to go trough terapists and took years to get back to a normal sex life, I was exposed to porn very early in my life )

@vitorcola

11 ай бұрын

Apart from that, nice podcast ;)

@taylorclarkjohnson

11 ай бұрын

I agree, and if you were to listen to the whole episode, you'd hear Erik talk about his overall thoughts of the porn industry, which are ultimately not positive. Porn really messed me up for a long time too. Took a while to recover and get back to normal.

@fabricio4794

11 ай бұрын

I do Preffer Get "female escorts"on free zones and do a real life Practice what i saw on his videos

@chessgod951

8 ай бұрын

You think porn is better than just sleeping with a lot of people to get sexual experience

@venividivici6418

6 ай бұрын

@@fabricio4794 Escorts, while not great, are absolutely better than watching porn. Porn is watching another guy fuck the escort for you. Ridiculous when you think about it.

A remark that struck a chord was the disconnection of emotion from the act. Humans are the only species on this planet who currently have a strong emotional reason to copulate. For the rest its just an act to reproduce! So what are we as humans heading towards if we learn to remove the emotional quotient from sex? Are we making it just an act? Are we no different from the other species who mate on this planet? Once a human learns to disconnect emotion, how will he/ he know she has to reconnect those wires so they can realize they have actually fallen in love?

Great info

This is very good.

Brand new key. Never really thought of that. Makes sense

S3x with my ex was no where near as good as watching pawn. Divorced and much happier now, trying to do it with her was way more boring than going and buying groceries. 👍👍👍

@PhilipTikka

4 ай бұрын

U know which type of men watch most amount of pawn? Married men - because living with the same person makes you soooo bored, you automatically find a substitute. I am not judging you, right or wrong, but what you did is what 99.99% men do.

@taylorclarkjohnson

4 ай бұрын

You know sex with another person takes TWO people… right? Just saying. Blaming an ex for boring sex is the easy way out for most people. It’s another thing entirely to take personal responsibility for your half of the situation. @asofotida & @Philip - you’re both playing the victim card here a bit. I agree that long term relationships can get monotonous, but that is the responsibility of BOTH people. Took me a while to realize that any time I blamed my ex for my problems, what was happening was actually my own making - 97% of the time. That was a humbling pill to swallow.

@asofotida443

4 ай бұрын

@@taylorclarkjohnson Actually, I never blamed my ex, that is YOUR project. I said “it got boring for me” which means the boredom was felt BY ME and that automatically means I have a big part, perhaps the major part in it. The TRUTH is, it DOES NOT matter on whom the blame is put, the FACT is the damn activity GETS BORING over time just like all other things in life, the only thing that has infinite possibilities is YOUR IMAGINATION… which is what pawn unleashes. If you cannot accept the truth, that’s your problem, be Mr Goody Two Shoes if you like, you can’t run away from human nature.

Confidence is Competence. 💎

This interview, once again, proves you can never judge anyone by the cover. He is completely different from what I imagined seeing him in his porn scenes. And I agree, biology trumps everything.

@B_COOPER

7 ай бұрын

Right? I didn’t ever imagine he wore clothes! Haha I’m joking.

@venetianlucifer

7 ай бұрын

@@B_COOPER Lol, he's seems like a much nicer guy when he's dressed, he's almost possessed when he's banging a chick.

@jaywilldoit

6 ай бұрын

Or by the lack of cover.

@ThePeacePlant

5 ай бұрын

Honestly. I have heard that a lot of porn stars are manipulative and can put on a professional act to look like they are so cool and balanced. I have heard it before and someone in the comments even said they are like that and know this because they worked around them

@stevenwilliams1805

4 ай бұрын

Yeah it's interesting because he fu¢ks like an animal but has a layed back personality.

The "sex" triangle. Interesting. Good talk!

1:09:00 Competence. The host mentions training. Well what is training? Learning a skill or technique and how to import properly through fhuking hands on learning with repetition! How is it that we hear from when we are children “practice makes perfect”…BUT as adults we believe that is true for EVERYTHING but S3X! You can’t have do it twice a month and then complain that it’s bad! You have to be putting in the time to get to know each other’s body!

@genb8665

5 ай бұрын

Actually, speaking from experience, when we were doing it several times every day, it kind of was no big deal. But when we have less sex for other reasons it's much more special, since we have time to miss each other. But for each to their own.

@VikVaughnMISC

4 ай бұрын

Exactly. People constantly behaving like you can't discover your preferences with only 1 person and NEED multiple partners. Hedonists will make up anything to justify their lack of impulse control.

Fantastic interview. Personally I find male porn stars to be some of the most mysterious and intriguing people in the world. You rarely get insight like this primarily because their entire existence is built around being in control and anonymous at the same time. These guys really approach their day like any other profession… while being expected to do things very, very few others are capable of. Very cool

@julia.goulart

6 ай бұрын

"while being expected to do things very, very few other are capable of". Like, having sex with attractive women? Yeah, I bet most men wouldn't wanna have that job... It takes so much skill and years of studying, right?

@TheOzumat

5 ай бұрын

@@julia.goulart KZread is now 18 years old and people still comment without watching the video

Everybody else here for the conversation... and I just want to know where the background clip in the thumbnail came from 🤷‍♂️

I just went and looked up one of his movies. It was surprisingly entertaining, well acted, and funny during the beginning and end.

man you're all over the place with these questions and some of your responses are done i think without thinking first. Not sure if you were feeling anxious or nervous

If what your guest says is "factual" about what he conveys and experiences he had as a porn "performer" it seems to be a lot of psychological and physical "torture" to get a porn scene "in the can," not to leave out the impact on any relationships he has in "real" life!

Interesting Interview

What a great interview. Didn't expect that

Fascinating interview. His intelligence and articulation is very impressive. Almost clinical.

Im a huge fan of Erik, kept watching his DVDs during college..😅😅 he deffinitely is a PRO

To all younger viewers, do not get sex or relationship advice from porn stars. You will never have a healthy or promising relationship if you do. I’ve been there, where sex is the only thing that matters. And when you mature, you regret you wasted so much time with one temporary/meaningless driven purpose. This is not what good women are looking for.

@Crobian

4 ай бұрын

Well he actually said that in the video lol. He said that ignorance is bliss, the more you experiment the more you have to compare to and it makes it worse.

12:33 Spud Webb and Muggsy Bogues would like a word. 😂

Happy new year 2024 gentlemen 🎉

Great information and perspective in this interview.

He says he’s seen porn hurt way more relationships than it’s helped. He points out how it really messes with kids these days. They can see so many images in no time. He doesn’t extrapolate to how this can undermine their ability to pair-bond or be in a healthy relationship when they’re older, but it does have a profound impact on all that. And yet it’s just a -2? I don’t know…something that destroys relationships and messes with kids sexual development feels more negative than -2 to me. That’s not even to speak of the harm it does to actresses. I wonder if he knows how many of the 5000 women he’s had sex with for work have died of drug overdoses, suicide, or homocides (porn actresses have elevated risks of all of those).

@donodono2287

6 ай бұрын

I'm sure he does. What do you want him to say or do about it?

@cliffchampion5501

6 ай бұрын

Porn does harm to everyone not just actresses get your head out of the feminism and into reality. I agree with everything else you stated.

@donodono2287

6 ай бұрын

Is that really his fault if they bit off more than they could chew?

@todayisagoodday5027

5 ай бұрын

Hot girl summers also have an effect on pair bonding and being in healthy relationships. No porn required just destruction of Oxcytocin. %80 of divorce filed by women creating single parent homes. No masculine guidance helping boys become men and girls not wind up in porn. It's not that simple is it? We as a society all have a role.

@commonsense3921

5 ай бұрын

Woman 🙄

IT's funny to me his response about fantasy and how it's different if you know the players. I am personally friends (one we just have hung out but they were great friends with my friends) with several UFC fighters from the early days. The fantasy component makes sense to me because when I watch them fight it is like what I've already seen every weekend so it's just my buddy having another fight. It feels really weird going to an event where everyone is going berserk and to me it's like I can't go nuts because I've seen it a million times in our personal lives and again, it's just another fight they're in. Same must be true with pornstars in that once that fantasy component is eliminated, it nor something you get excited about anymore.

Great interview an topic! Eric an Nina Hartly could do an enlighting interview on sex & The Industry. I agree about knowing what you like. There really are only two or three Adult Female Perfomers and they STILL my favorites. 1. Nina Hartly 2. Ryan Conner 3. Joyclyn Stone That is my kyrponite lol. One thing that I have learned is I have listen to each of these Performers talk about themselves and read many article about them. Each has a certain Sexual Knowledge & Energy, yet a sense of humor, Story and present as someone you could have Sex with not a porn shoot. I guess my sense of Loyalty comes into play. One of the best Interviews on this topic I have Viewers. Great Work to You both!!

5000 plus! Bloody hell.

I feel like a lot of men separate sex from emotions. Unfortunately, this seems very common.

@marila1005

5 ай бұрын

Yeah, because they watch too much porn.

@transitionsnc

5 ай бұрын

That's certainly one of the reasons. Unfortunately, they don't tell you this up front. You have to figure it out.@@marila1005

@commonsense3921

5 ай бұрын

Who cares, Women do hookups too.

@Craig-pm2kc

5 ай бұрын

​@marila1005 It caused me to sleep with women and not contact them afterward. I'm not proud.

@jackiepowell7513

5 ай бұрын

Even men get intensified by oxytison

Id be interested in hearing how one practices and learns how to perform “the money shot”???

This guy has a very similar aura and vibe to Neil Strauss-like a calmer Neil Strauss

This is rare I know, But my husband and I have been married for 20 years and we both don't engage in any pornography. As a woman I have never sought it out and my husband does not either. When you don't have all those visuals in your head from viewing pornography, It's amazing how easy it is to be satisfied on the most basic sex. We're both Christian. We both don't want to contribute to the p*** industry. We see men and women as valuable and not as objects. So we refuse to partake and I am beyond proud of that fact. My conscience is clear and that means more to me than anything. It's sad that sex has become more about how gross and twisted you can get than how you can make each other happy and fulfilled consensually without being degraded or having to degrade someone. Sex should be about a commitment and LOVE. P*** is leading to the biggest downfall in society and I'm just grateful I don't have to be a part of it.

@slayemin

4 ай бұрын

So, are you commenting on here to just sit on a high horse and preach about your sense of virtue? On an hour long interview about porn with a porn star?

@brianjenks1

4 ай бұрын

Your husband does.

@steveclark..

4 ай бұрын

​@@brianjenks1Those are my thoughts too,... it's almost impossible to find a man who hasn't looked at porn.

@hueco5002

4 ай бұрын

@@steveclark..OP said married for 20 years. Porn when hubby was coming of age was a magazine. Dude was probably saying how marriage vows while we took the gamble on the next 20 second clip or a virus off Kazaa. Wouldn’t surprise me if he still rocked a flip Phone and if that IS the case, yea I’d believe OP.

@steveclark..

4 ай бұрын

@@hueco5002 At the end of the day the urge to look at the female body and for a male to spread his seed is natural, that's why 99% of males are into whatever form of porn that's available at the time. Look back through history for the proof, before printing presses, only the wealthy had nude paintings done for example.

Quite interesting listening to this

6:16 Super insightful podcast. The lock and key part here is really the thing. Biology

@taylorclarkjohnson

11 ай бұрын

Fascinating stuff right? I loved this conversation. Glad you're getting insights from it too. I really wanted to interview a porn star, and Erik fully delivered. :D

@alexsheppard153

4 ай бұрын

Lotsa rape allegations too. He’s continued when many women have told him to stop. They all ended up in the hospital because he would not stop and how hard and rough he was with them. This has happened many times. Corina Taylor accused him of raping her on set. He never addressed her rape accusation only until a year later. If you’re being accused of rape like the many other times women have accused you of abusing them on set, wouldn’t a normal person address the issue right away? But he waited a whole year because he’s allowed to treat the women the way he has and he’s used to getting away with it. Because porn has never held women in any regard except as fifth-class citizens.

@Hexiad

4 ай бұрын

@@alexsheppard153 Ole boy isn't interested in any of that. This channel is obv about clout.

As a woman, it doesn't bother me if men separate sex from emotions, like it does most women. Women find it hardcto do this, c though I learned how to, to avoid being hurt. What I object to us the male deceptive c element. When guys act as if they love you but ii's just sex. Or the reverse; guys saying they're not in love with you, so don't get heavily involved. And then they fall madlly in love.

Drinking moonshine, are we? :) First, I'd like to congratulate you and your guest on this fabulous interview. I would also like to say that I have never done porn, never even thought of doing porn, however, my occult practices demand a lot of sexual activity with various partners (especially at this time of year). The funny thing is that I was relaxing from our "main yearly event" (winter solstice, yule, and so on) when I came upon this podcast. There is one huge piece of advice I would like to give to every man, find a good female sex therapist and keep using her services for as long as possible. Not only will she teach you how to control your body but she will also teach you a lot about the female body. In case something does not work for a girl you will have a whole arsenal of other things until, eventually, a few will do the "trick". I have had sex therapists for about 15 years and it was the best investment I ever made. I have almost total control over my physical and emotional sexuality and, most importantly, I know how to quickly find out what works and doesn't work for my partner (in sex magic it is very important that both participants are projecting a lot of positive energy if you catch my drift, it is also important that both have huge orgasms at the same time). The driving force, in this case, me, but it could either be a male or female occultist, has to guide the process so that all the energy is released simultaneously, that is for the most part where the knowledge acquired from your sex therapist is of fundamental importance, not only are you controlling yourself, you are also able to read your partner's body and at what point it is to release. In that way, you can either hurry the process or slow it down. Both, as one, are looking for perfect harmony (remember, the leading party has years of training, but your partner does not, so it is up to the occultist, male or female, to do all the "driving"). So, to all men, I recommend getting a female sex therapist as soon as possible and don't mind "shopping" around until you find the right one. This step will improve all of your life, keep your libido, and also your sexual health (I have reached my 40s and am performing better than in my 20s), Cheers.

What an interesting intelligent man this guy is. Great insights and observations.

He dodged some of the real dangers in the industry, but that's to be expected for an active worker. Overall I liked his insight. Just think he was dodging bullets to keep his job. Which is sad because he sounds like a guy I would like to hear uncensored. Alot of the active workers I'm seeing now doing these podcast and streams are doing more promoting the industry than talking about the dangers of it. Which doesn't give a clear picture of what we are dealing with as a society of vulnerable men seeking someone to give a fuck.

this is exactly why having too much bodycounts is a bad thing for both genders.., and this is exactly why a marriage between a man and woman as virgins last more and marriages of people with high bodycounts are more likely to end up in divorce....its just logical that a person is more likely to be satisfied with the one and only partner he or she had, bc having tasted all those different varieties only makes a person missed it when the relationship goes through some problems, and there is no relationship without its problem..

If I didn't know him I'd say this is a Doctor. I'm impressed

Thanks!

Weirdos bro. Intimacy is supposed to be intimate, not public😂

I love Erik! He’s soooo eloquent