I worked as a RN for 38 yrs. I worked in many areas, but my favorite was hospice. My friends and family could not understand how I could enjoy this job. For me, my patients were going to pass away no matter what. Making this experience comfortable, pain and anxiety free as possible for not only my patient, but their families also....this was very important to me. I treated my patients like I would want my family treated. And I wanted to make sure they were not alone. I hope I made a difference

@paulaising4u226

Жыл бұрын

I feel sure you made a difference because you know what true nursing is

@jeanannperry6514

Жыл бұрын

You did. God bless you

@denise2169

Жыл бұрын

My mom passed away after three weeks in hospice. It was a wonderful time together, despite the inevitable. We were lucky that the staff was so kind and understanding, and made the time very precious. None of us was afraid and I am so appreciative! Thank you to those who are so caring in your work!

@BUBBLESPOGO

Жыл бұрын

I'm sure you did.

@gildasomia3461

Жыл бұрын

Awesome, my mother was angry that she was put on life support. She then had to continue to suffer.

I'm 34...both parents have died. Mom went 18 years ago, dad 3 years ago. Both from cancer. I lost all of my grandparents and have been around various relatives sick with cancer and whatnot. I have been around a lot of death. Knowing what I know and witnessing all that suffering...I firmly believe that a consenting grown adult is a sovereign being and has the right to choose what happens to their body, even death. Period.

@Passionatekisses2008

6 жыл бұрын

R Porterfield since cancer runs heavily in your family be sure to stay on top of your health and regular checkups! God bless you!

@mar8014

6 жыл бұрын

i strongly would rather die than live with chemo symptoms

@mandykhupiso8324

6 жыл бұрын

Miranda Wrights true

@anuragcvsr7169

2 жыл бұрын

Hi, as cancer has caused the death of most people in your family. I'd urge you to eat healthy and nutrients rich food, take care of your health than anything else. Atleast you can give peace to your deceased by not acquiring the disease which your loved one's had and not suffering the pain they had. Wish you health and peace❤️

@stevenhensman2541

2 жыл бұрын

Your mother went 18 years ago I would love to be with you when you see your mother again when it is your time the pass from this world into the next there isn't no death checkout deathbed visions near death experiences I passed away 32 years ago 12 minutes I was squeaky dead I went to heaven so all my family in I was face-to-face with our lord he sent me back I had things to do from Steve Hensman psychic clairvoyant medium

Your loved ones can hear you as you discuss everything. I remember a patient being comatose then came out of it. She said it’s awfull hearing your family arguing over my possessions

@jancraig9298

6 ай бұрын

Wow 😢

@hoakerhoaker

Ай бұрын

Thank you for bringing this up. The worst thing anyone can do is talk about someone in front of them as if they’re “not there.” The hearing is the last to go. I pulled a few doctors and nurses aside and shut them down. Don’t need to terrorize a dying person due to selfishness. Thank you!

My brother passed away in 2019,at 54 years old. He received hospice care,all that could be done was keep him comfortable as possible. He made his wishes known a few months before he passed away. He had a DNR,had his urn purchased. Hard as it was to say goodbye,knowing what his wishes were ahead of time made things a little easier

I'm 48 years old right now. At the age of 21, my colon ruptured while I was in the hospital, and I was clinically dead for two minutes is they rushed me to the operating room. I have ulcerative colitis/Crohn's disease, and also had colon cancer. Between my first surgery when I was 21 and now, I've had 33 gastrointestinal operations, during which I nearly died twice more. I've spent a great deal of my life in agony so bad that I am in the foetal position unable to straighten up. I now live with less than 5% of my entire gastrointestinal tract, have been forced to retire at the age of 46, and I'm living on long-term disability for the rest of my life because I cannot go back to work with so little intestine. No words can describe the hell that I've been through and I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, but it has made me appreciate those moments when I'm healthy enough to enjoy it, and I've made sure they're in my will I do have a DNR, or, do not resuscitate, order. I spent more than half of my adult life in the hospital in agony having surgery after surgery, if I am to reach a point of no return, and I know there is no point in keeping on trying, I want to end my life with dignity and grace, with my faculties intact, not in a vegetative state spending months, or even years, in pure agony. To me that is not living, to be nearly alive just not mean you have a life. The moment my quality of life is gone and I have to rely on people to do everything for me, then my life is over, and I will do whatever is necessary to end my life before I reach that point. We have such compassion for animals and put them down and out of their suffering, I'll never understand why we don't do the same for ourselves. But rest assured, illegal or not no, I will take my life when the time comes, as no government has any right to tell me when I can and cannot and my own life.

@CLee-oo9yl

6 жыл бұрын

TJ Devereaux Hang in there

@rachael-777

6 жыл бұрын

TJ Devereaux I wish you all the best throughout your life.

@lalalee6799

6 жыл бұрын

I am sorry for your struggles and admire your strength. Even more than that, I respect your decision. I couldn't agree with you more that it is YOUR choice and YOUR right to decide when its YOUR time. I wish you all the best.

@TheZacdes

6 жыл бұрын

Wow mate, lifes not fair thats for sure:(

@jojojeep1

6 жыл бұрын

tj , BE BLESSED

I'm a nurse and have had many of my patients die. Believe me, no one wants to die hooked up to tubes in a hospital. It's terrible, what patients often go through. And growing old is not fun!!! I'm 71 years old and have heart and lung issues. I'm becoming frail. Unable to drive. I'm loosing more of my independence. I don't want to be a burden to anyone!!!

@MsAchampion

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sure your family won't mind caring for you, as I'm sure that you cared for them. My mom is im her 70s and I'm not really ready for her decline. She is im the hospital right now with two ulcers that were apparently bleeding, which caused her pain and vomiting of blood 😢. She has lost weight and she's been diagnosed with early onset dementia. I love my mom. However, I've got to approach her care as if im her mom now. It's truly go time when she comes home from the hospital. I'll bath her, fix her hair and I want to take her on a nice trip somewhere. ❤ Stay strong 💪

I'm a retired nurse I have chosen for my self, if I have catastrophic illness, no excessive treatment, no resuscitation. I have seen too much and I have no fear of death. What I do fear is too much unnecessary treatment.

@elbacar4838

3 жыл бұрын

Same here, is resisting what makes things more painful physically and emotionally.

@ickiedeer-lamb7282

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. I've been a patient for 56 years. Have had 61 operations including the ones for cancer and would love to die nowhere near hospitals. I'd live to die in a beautiful setting. And not of course from covid 19.

@projectbarbi871

3 жыл бұрын

God Bless- I agree with you 100% I'm a hospice nurse and feel the same.

@IwasBlueb4

2 жыл бұрын

Nancy...well saiddddd and very wise

@janie88ful

2 жыл бұрын

ME, AS WELL. JUST LET ME GO.

I was caregiver 5 years for my mother who passed @ age 93. I'm sorry, when I cannot live, only exist or suffer with pain, let me go, give me a pill to transition. Human has a right to die.

@petercooper4848

6 жыл бұрын

LightWorker61 a

@arizonasunflowers7165

6 жыл бұрын

LightWorker61 you're very lucky she lived to 93!!! My mom died at "only" 68. I'm nearly that now & feel that's too young, if you still have a good quality of life. She had ovarian cancer though, had gone through 5 years of chemo again and again as the cancer kept returning, with smaller periods of remission in between, and finally she said, no more. I spent the last 6 mos of her life living with her so she could stay at home & to try and be some comfort to her. It was very hard on me, but I think it was much better for her, so it was well worth it. I had a hysterectomy so hopefully I won't get THAT cancer, but who knows what awaits in the future. It's definitely something we will all face or maybe unknowingly experience, no matter how much money, prestige or mansions & fame we own. We all start & end life equally, no matter what kind of life we have in-between.

@VictoriaisaDiamond

6 жыл бұрын

Arizona Sunflowers mine died at 61

@Synicizm

6 жыл бұрын

+Arizona Sunflowers I'm so sorry you lost your mom too soon, and in such a difficult way. Isn't it funny how, the older we get, the more we realize that we may get wiser and know more things, but our minds don't really grow older, and there's still a lot of the young adults we were in there. It never seems like enough time. Sorry, just wanted to share that thought with someone who might understand, lol. My family history with cancer is the pits too. When that gets to me, I can only hope of having someone by my side like you were there for your mom. I think we all do.

@lindaormond563

6 жыл бұрын

LightWorker61 I agree please may I never lie in a hospital bed withering with no dignity just give me a pill, injection anything so I can die peacefully as myself x

i think dying in a hospital room is the worst place to go. we should be allowed to go sit in the mountains or along a river. enjoy the nature for the last time

@lorilewlewis4915

5 жыл бұрын

mike watters I am Terminally Ill and I intend to die at the beach.

@lorilewlewis4915

5 жыл бұрын

Mike Watters I agree 100%!

@Patientandlite6768

5 жыл бұрын

That's how my uncle died he and my aunt was on vacation in pigeon forge Tennessee and they were in a condo over looking the water they loved sitting on the patio watching the ducks in the water in the evening he came in the room from the patio to take a shower and died in the bathroom he always joked to his friends that one of them that ran the local funeral home would have to come to Tennessee and get his body when he died and he did but at the end he passed away where he was happiest in the mountains and just after seeing a beautiful sunset it was perfect for him.

@Catherine-xf3pc

5 жыл бұрын

mike watters I almost had that but fkd up. Now I'm suffering so horrifically.

@Jackson-rf6rv

4 жыл бұрын

Totally agree. I would love to die in a forest. Surrounded by the beauty of this world

I watched my grandma pass away. She came home to pass and was relatively peaceful. She would wake up in a panic calling for my mom or my aunt. Was on morphine for the pain. She was ready to go be with my grandpa. Miss her so much.

@theeXodusof730

Жыл бұрын

I give you my sincere condolences.

@olivedog1880

Жыл бұрын

@@theeXodusof730 thank you ❤️

@godschild3640

11 ай бұрын

@@theeXodusof730. MAKE IT THE LAW. YOU GIVE US PAIN MEDS THE SECOND YOU FIND OUT ITS CANCER SO WE DONT SUFFER

I see it in this documentary and have seen it as someone who works with elderly, please don't talk about the patient or your loved one as if they are not in the room! Just because they can't communicate, doesn't mean they can't hear you.

@1VegasPitbull1

5 жыл бұрын

Gabby Girl ..I agree 💯..most of the time they can still hear.

@cpmffeilberg4970

4 жыл бұрын

I know. Though they can't communicate they are still alive. People need to respect them enough to include them in the conversation whether they can communicate, they can hear. God bless y'all.

@barbarachesky3432

3 жыл бұрын

@@cpmffeilberg4970 BPBP

@ickiedeer-lamb7282

3 жыл бұрын

Living in a nursing home staff talk over my head as if I'm dead already. And they need to speak English around us or, we naturally think they are talking about us. Caregivers please show us some real care.

@Truth1561

2 жыл бұрын

I retired last year from nursing. This was one of the first things we were taught when I trained in the 70s along with respecting someone’s dignity. It’s not just unconscious patients, As a recent patient for cancer, I experienced nurses chatting together about their lives, love lives, sex lives (cringe) , debt ( cringe even more) whilst performing dressing changes, changing my bed, helping me wash- all the care opportunities that I was taught to use as a special time to get to know the individual, make them feel comfortable physically and emotionally, identify fears and give reassurance. I see it in hospital dramas as well. It feels horrible lying there being ignored at a time when you are feeling poorly and vulnerable. Nurse training these days in the UK seems to be more about writing essays than learning interpersonal skills. I’ve seen far more compassion in veterinary surgeries than I see in hospitals these days.

I'm not scared of dying. I've been sitting holding hands with older relatives when they passed. The only thing that matters in a situation like that is love. And it was peaceful. As my wise grandma said; You are going back to the place you were before you were born, and did you suffer there?

@Bryn-vm8pd

4 жыл бұрын

I love this.

@gloriannepapolis6525

3 жыл бұрын

some quit taking the drugs and they get better, holy crap that is crazy scary....so the meds keep them sick and dying

@janetothen2583

2 жыл бұрын

See i am terrified of death. My father in law drowned in his own blood, and i held him (he was sat on sofa leaning forward, i was on my knees between his legs) and i kept eye contact with him till the lights went out. He was so scared it was just awful. But my step father in law has just found out he has cancer, and it isnt looking good at all (we r waiting for the doc to tell us where and how bad but he hasnt been able to eat for 4weeks already, and they found a tumor so big it was blocking his stomach with an endoscopy. But his attitude is way way different to my father in laws. He isnt afraid, all he cares is his wife is taken care of (which i already do gladly) and im hoping his experience will relieve alot of my fear and anxiety over death. I get panic attacks when i think about dying so i need to work at getting over it as my dad wont live much longer either thru his massive self neglect. So i need to be strong for everyone.

@lorikulstad9320

2 жыл бұрын

Peaceful deaths don't always happen. Death is painful. Everyone's experience is different. When you know your loved one is suffering it's very painful to watch.

@lorikulstad9320

2 жыл бұрын

Was birth painful to an infant, probably. We shouldn't guess that it's not.

I'm writing this on my husband's phone. I was lucky he was very sick for a long time .he passed away this August 2022. But he was of sound mind when he passed and made the decision to go . He wanted me to be bye his side and I was. I was so glad he was able to let the hospital and healthcare workers know his wishes.

@joycedistler4332

7 ай бұрын

My sincere condolences. My precious hubby has Cirrhosis of the liver. 7 years now

my mom died this year. She was only 54. She died suddenly. went into the hospital with a bleeding oesophagus and died a week later. Sitting with her through the dying process was traumatizing. Though the doctors kept telling me she was comfortable, I felt like she was still fighting to live. She was crying out for help and struggling. it was terrifying to watch, but there was literally nothing we could do. It's been 6 months and I relive it every night. (don't worry, I started therapy and take anti anxieties now) It's so hard to understand death until you've watched it happen.

@catherinesarabia834

6 жыл бұрын

Raina Mermaid I am very sorry, peace and love to you. That would be very difficult for anyone to go through.

@armandito9735

6 жыл бұрын

Raina Mermaid: I also lost my Mother at an early age she was only 59 I was in my forties , as a youngster I always said to her that if she would die I probably go crazy. That night her Bronchial Asthma became too much for her, as I was rushing her to an Emergency in my car ..she was in front seat with me ,...she could not breathe any more and died right in my arms as I was driving she just slumped over ,.very traumatic....but yet through my Religion and God's help I did not go crazy,...I managed to go on,....but It will always be in my mind, for I adored her. We don't know what goes through their minds at that moment,..only that their suffering is over and ours have begun. I hope my words bring you some comfort.........God Bless You.

@emilyperez608

6 жыл бұрын

Raina Mermaid my mom died when I was 3

@Synicizm

6 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. Please be careful with the anti-anxiety meds. I've been through hell with xanax (given to me by a PCP for sleep), and I don't want anyone else to go through it =/. I'm not trying to tell you not to take your medication though. I hope you can work through your pain and anxiety.

@heavenswaiting264

6 жыл бұрын

Raina Mermaid Sorry for your loss and I hope everything gets better for you❤

I won't go out like this...when I get to the point, where I can't do much.....I will save my strength and take one final hike out at night to a secluded and isolated place in the Northwoods of Mn that has an overlook on a lake, on a subzero night and take my coat and hat off and pass peacefully in the night in the forest. I want to smell and feel the forest while watching the aura borealis while I die, not chemicals and fluorescent light. It'll be beautiful.

@desireelococo1747

6 ай бұрын

Wow

@carolhogg6516

4 ай бұрын

@robertsole9970 just read your comment, a truly wonderful way to bid farewell to our earthly existence. I also love nature and animals, have a great fondness of wolves. If you can, please look up Lisa Gerrard, her voice is from another “place”, so very captivating, watch “I am Your Shadow”, the video which shows the wolves. It is absolutely beautiful. Greetings from NZ

"I wasn't dying fast enough, I flunked the hospice program." I smiled at his comment.

@skipsassy1

6 жыл бұрын

they want you to take your time - a money maker.

@pleashette9108

3 жыл бұрын

me2

@lorikulstad9320

2 жыл бұрын

Renegade Times Dying isn't fast. It takes close to a week to finally pass from a disease. Not like death from a tragic accident or heart failure.

@NJSMKMMS

2 жыл бұрын

Good thing to flunk, I'm guessing.

@gigia741

2 жыл бұрын

@@skipsassy1 that’s not it , as a hospice nurse we try to make humor out of situation..

Omg. He is adorable walking his wife around the house- Don't nobody tell me that real, lasting love does not exist!!!!!

I’m totally torn between the idea of life being a gift or it being a total curse. The pain we go through seems to totally outweigh the times of good health and happiness. At least that’s what I’ve experienced.

@homagourabi6411

3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you.

@tonyparete6892

Жыл бұрын

Earth is a galactic prison colony. You screwed up somewhere else in the universe? You get a life sentence here.

@denise2169

Жыл бұрын

My mom was open about approaching her end. She was not afraid, and because the hospice nurses were so understanding, the time we had together was wonderful, not scary. I’m so glad that Mom was so open because it made it much easier for us.

@godschild3640

10 ай бұрын

@@homagourabi6411 it would 💚be a great help. 🩷If you would 🩷tell us what 💚type 🩷of cancer where the cancer is is it a small cell or large cell? How long from the time that they were told they had cancer how long did it take to metastasized to another organ how long did it take for them to die? The reason is for people that are just finding out about cancer. We spent so much time on the Internet trying to find out how long we have to live and I think this is abusive when we should be told this is how long do you have to live and they are lying when they say that it’s five years and you know that they are lying and hiding something is July

@FastNCurious88

10 ай бұрын

I agree…

" I'll live as long as I can for her" You're the man Col. Frank Klein.

My dad was lucky to die in his sleep. He always said that’s the way he wanted to go. Love u dad

@franklinstephen3268

Жыл бұрын

Hello 👋 how are you doing?

@lindylou3519

Жыл бұрын

What a blessing…something we all hope for as well as for our spouses. (I’m more afraid of being a caregiver for years on end. My husband is showing signs of early stages of dementia & has prostate cancer).

What a sweetheart is Col. Klein! My darling husband always watched out for me, through three brain surgeries. But then I became his carer as he fought terminal brain cancer. We were meant to grow old(er) together 😭 - he was on hospice and died in my arms. It broke my heart but I know we were both against a hospital setting.

My mom was open about approaching her end. She was not afraid, and because the hospice nurses were so understanding, the time we had together was wonderful, not scary. I’m so glad that Mom was so open because it made it much easier for us. We all will die some day, and I think that many people are afraid because we don’t talk about it. But as hard as it is, we can do it, as it is part of being human.

Throughout my entire life I have always wondered why so many people are afraid to die. Having said that, let me explain further. From the day I was born I Iived and grew up in what was then called a 'Rest Home' - a smaller version of a nursing home. For 18 years I was surrounded by elderly folks in various stages toward the end of their lives. My mom, a LPN, cared for people in our home in rural VT for almost 30 years. One thing I must note is that I was shielded from seeing death occur. I do believe that this upbringing formed my attitudes on death and dying. However, I also believe strongly that a person with faith in a 'higher power' - whatever they conceive that to be, is perhaps more at peace with themselves at the end.

@Truth1561

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your beautiful words Shirley.

The husband caring at home for his wife is just a sweetheart, my heart goes out to them!

First time watching this. I am 68 have had cancer and cancer free now. I have already told my daughters that I don't want to be on tubes and life support. If nothing is going to help, let me go.

Sometimes dying in a hospital room isn't bad. Mom died 7 months ago in the hospital. She was in palliative care and had a huge room to herself. The bad thing is when you die on your own with no family member with you. I live in a nursing home and use a power chair, so travelling is not fun, especially because to get from my home to where mom died was very expensive. I was there with her twice, once in icu and the last time was 2 days before she died. She knew I loved her and knew my $ situation was bad. The other 3 sister's never visited her and they had a way there like a car. Mom knew I loved her. Sadly the only 1 out of 4 of us who cared. The last time I saw her alive I kissed her forehead and told her I loved her. But her nurses were great. If call like 6x a day and they were great, they were always glad to hear from me. Mom I miss you dearly. RIP. To the doctors and nurses who looked after her at McKenzie Health care in Ontario Canada I can't thank you enough. God bless y'all. Death hurts. My condolences to all going through grieving the loss of your loved ones. 🇨🇦😇😇😇😇😇👼👼👼👼👼☄☄☄☄☄☄☄

My dad was my hero protector ,provider, was so sudden unexpected 54 years old better body than a 35 year old .on his way to work first rain Oct 14 2016 on his new Harley slid to a guard rail no markings on his body and find out he had heart attack .just hoes to show death can be sudden .love everyday and cherish the ones you love .and say things before it's to late

My mum died of cancer, a slow and painful death and the guilt of making the decisions that we were not sure would be what she wanted was devastating for my family. We never really talked to each other properly about it for years...because of the feeling of guilt. Had we made the right choices? So my dad died four months ago and he had put his care plan in place through his doctor, hospice and my eldest brother. I will always say... that he gifted us and so accepting his passing in hospice was made so much more easier to cope with because we honored his wishes. No Guilt , No Stress. I support Passing On.

@Strawn149

6 жыл бұрын

lois burns- I know how you feel. I had to convince my dad that he needed to stop chemo and have hospice come to his home. I saw all the hope drain from him. He couldn’t, eat, couldn’t, walk, and was so sick. The doctor said that he has weeks to live, and he should not spend it suffering through chemo. He died three days later. The guilt is unimaginable.

@yesterdayitrained

2 жыл бұрын

@@Strawn149 : I’m so sorry. You did your best by your father. Take peace, knowing that. 💔

Col.Frank Klein is such a wonderful,loving and very caring man.I do not know him but you can tell that his wife is his shining star and that his life revolves around her and her care.This is how love is suppose to be.A very encouraging story about these 2 people and also a very well put together,informative documentary.

@lindylou3519

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I don’t know that I could be as patient as the Colonel.

The brave souls in this segment are Angels. But my condolences to all their families :) This has helped me. My loved one has stage 4 cancer. 6 months? I am praying for strength to help

Col. & Mrs Klein...WOW! What a lovely couple. I watched my Mom take care of my Dad this way. They passed away within 6 weeks of each other. Young people should look at stories like this to find out what love really is.

@cpmffeilberg4970

4 жыл бұрын

My late husband Ken and I were soul mates. I don't understand though that he died 12 years ago and here I am, still here though in a nursing home. I guess my Lord isn't ready for me to die yet. God's will, not mine be done.🇨🇦😇😊

@gkskforever6909

8 ай бұрын

So true ❤

What a wonderful lady who took care of other's. She did a great job raising her grandson. Sympathy for this young man.

@Lilliecwalinski16

2 жыл бұрын

Yep. She sure did!!

I’m more afraid of having to be a caregiver than death. I was my mothers caregiver for only 3 months. I t was not easy & I had many panic attacks. My husband & I don’t have a great marriage. He is showing signs of dementia & has prostate cancer. I don’t have the patience or the love it takes to be a caregiver. I think it will destroy me. I’m giving it all to God but I just want to run away.

I live in La Crosse...this was honestly kind of an out of body experience seeing my city pop up in this documentary

My parents are still living...my Dad will be 91 this year and my Mom 87. They are both frail and have medical issues of course. My Mom has dementia which compounds everything. They are both in assisted living now and doing as well as you would expect. As my Dad says "these are not the golden years"! I believe him.

This was a very well done, thoughtful video. I'm not squeamish or afraid of death... never have been. I'm glad more people are starting to talk about it & what their end of life wishes are. We're all born to die- there's no getting around it.

@therealhousewifeofballtown

2 жыл бұрын

My Momma used to say nothing is certain except death and taxes

I love Mary's attitude💖💖God Bless 🙌🏿 her Soul ❤ 🙏🏻

I'm a retired mental health professional who is looking into volunteering for an organization that provides hospice care services. This was very informative and helpful.

@bethmburu5213

Жыл бұрын

Where are you based?

Personal stories/interviews: 2:12-4:50 Artemisia Galvan 6:30-8:02 Mary E. Reasoner 8:30-10:49 Tony Sanchez 16:35-18:10 Tom Schoen 18:37-19:04 John Perry 21:25-23:49 Dolores Duarte 25:40-27:50 James B. Nelson 32:03-32:43 Li Hua Chang Li 37:10-39:40 Col. Frank and Jane Klein 39:44-42:40 Ruby Fritz 46:29-49:30 Barbara Horvath

@phillkj

6 жыл бұрын

firstname lastname thank you.

when he talks about flunking hospice, my nanny was the same, she was taken out of hospice and went back to her home and lived another 2.5 years healthy!

Thank you for posting this documentary. Im an EMT that works at an IFT specialty company, and a lot of the patients we get are either going home or to a facility on hospice, and this makes it easier to understand the process

@azpm

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching

I found this video to be very helpful.....if for no other reason than....I feel normal in my thinking. Thank you for sharing.

The Colonol and his Honey represent the words "for better for worse. In sickness, and in health." How beautiful this picture is, and how faithful this love is.

@lindylou3519

Жыл бұрын

Definitely! I know I don’t have that much patience but my marriage isn’t anything like theirs.

Beautifully done documentary. Death does need to be spoken about frankly and accepted as the inevitable end of all of our lives, not held at arm's length and postponed just for the sake of lengthening life at any cost.

My father was a son of Arizona, where he deceased in August 2014 at age 69. Born in McCaskill, Arkansas in 1945.

So glad I live in the UK and we have free health care. I think it's awful how health is capitalised on.

@Synicizm

6 жыл бұрын

It's awful. My daughter is 19, and I thank goodness for the doctors who saved her life, but after surgery, I asked for 1 Tylenol. I was given a Tylenol III (with codeine I did NOT want) and charged $60 for it. The whole system would have to be overhauled though. Doctors owe over $100k when they leave school, then have to pay for malpractice insurance, since we're so lawsuit-happy, and the excess we're charged partly goes to cover patients who can't afford to pay the hospitals where they're treated. It's a mess. Still, treating your kid's cancer shouldn't leave you homeless. A hospital bill you couldn't pay shouldn't affect your ability to get a job to pay that hospital bill. Yet, both those things happen. I'm glad you don't have to worry about getting sick or injured and being unable to pay. Here, if we have a long illness, we can get fired from our jobs and lose our insurance in the same day. It's awful. Then, we go talking a big game about how we have "life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness" here, which is true unless we die because that headache we chose to sleep off, because it's not worth paying hundreds or thousands to be checked out ends up having been a stroke.

@szqsk8

6 жыл бұрын

Carl Onwochei It's horrible and after the person passes on you get all these huge medical bills for thousands of dollars for the things insurance can't/won't cover. More stress for those left behind.

@bridieosullivan5088

6 жыл бұрын

Carl Onwochei nc sh0

@MommaWolf1967

6 жыл бұрын

Free healthcare is going to be a thing of the past under the Tory government The NHS has been privatized under the Tory government and there isn't much of the NHS left so to speak Carl Onwochei

@shirleyschork1504

6 жыл бұрын

Carl Onwochei Oh me too!! Where you get less care, long waiting lines, horrible dental care, huge taxes, expensive living, more people on the dole! Yippy let all move to the UK! We still have the best cost of living, inexpensive food, in fact the lowest cost then in all the industrialized world. And it's a misconception that there is no free healthcare here! The people on the dole get 100%, children get free, disabled veterans, poor old, poor pregnant women....the list goes on! Before you judge, know your facts!

Sounds like Scott Simon's familiar voice at NPR. Thank you. We all need to deal with this and hospice will help a lot.

An excellent programme. Thank God that we in the UK don't have (at least for the moment) the financial concerns shown here.

If I had a chance for a life redo I would go to college to become a registered nurse and work in hospice. I feel like helping folks out as they prepare to go on their incredible journey world be the most amazing job.

Death brings tears and sadness... NDEs allow us to see... our soul is set free.... a message of hope and gladness. "Passing on" is the correct term. Just passing thru on the way home.

@tinamckay-iv3tf

10 ай бұрын

I hope you are right. I lost my mom two weeks ago, and I often wonder where she's at.

@nancyayers8322

Ай бұрын

I believe like you do. After learning about near death experiences- NDEs, I am no longer afraid to pass on. I will be so happy to be with my loved ones who have already gone and see the wonders of heaven 💕

I find these documentaries fascinating because western culture tends to throw a blanket over the issue until you have to experience it first hand.

I started looking into Advanced Directives after my mom passed in 2013 and never followed through with the paperwork. I donated my remains to the body farm in Tennessee. This documentary has reminded me why ADs are important to have, especially since my mom didn't have one and was put on life support. Its good to see the Drs and loved ones handle this gently and with love and care. I plan on getting my paperwork in order and having my wishes in writing asap

@meaganhiller3029

6 жыл бұрын

Kim Taylor i would love to do that Too!!!! Maybe we will rot under a tarp together lmao 😂

@Strawn149

6 жыл бұрын

Kim Taylor- That’s extremely admirable. I do have a question though. Do you have a husband or children? It would just be very hard for me to know my loved ones body is out there exposed and rotting. But it’s a really important cause and a selfless act.

@nancybeveridgetaylor3256

5 жыл бұрын

I am a retired nurse and I love me some science! My husband and I have both donated our bodies as well !! See you there!! 😁😁😁 maybe I'll be in the trunk of a car😂😂😂 (after I worked in hospice I transferred to working in maximum security forensic psychiatric and I find forensics fascinating!)

The lady who had cancer and didn't want the chemo and radiation made the right decision for herself, I was diagnosed with Cancer last week.. crazy; i'm 43.. I myself refuse to be pumped with toxic chemicals to 'fight' a disease that's already there.. why so I can get sicker, lay around, my kids see me suffer emotionally (I also have Depression). I don't want to do it.. if this is the transition to my dying.. then fine.. haven't had the easiest life.. but I know my girls will be fine and were taught to be tough and smart.. they'll be fine.. I'm not suffering to appease others feelings. (call me selfish) but I'm not afraid; anymore.

@patriciabilinkas3911

4 жыл бұрын

itsonlymyopinion ok Just think that unless you’re terminal, there’s most likely help. More people survive cancer today than ever. My mom had uterine cancer at 44 and is now almost 93. My sister had breast cancer 28 years ago and is going on 69. They went through the chemo and radiation. They didn’t want to either, but they wanted to live. Please be sure your depression isn’t guiding your decision to not seek treatment.

@allisongarrett4824

4 жыл бұрын

Are you doing okay?

“I'm not afraid of death; I just don't want to be there when it happens.” ― Woody Allen

How courageous is Mary (the lady round about the 7 minute mark) who wasn't afraid to die, never have been and said that she had lived a full life.

I have a non treatable cancer. Time will be short but I hope it’s not painful.

@debmelusky4253

4 жыл бұрын

Prays with u

Getting people to discuss end of life medical preferences starts with physicians in the hospital setting, and further involving appropriate ancillary staff to discuss feelings and health care options available and in sync with what the patient and their family want and fon't want. It is a relief to finally see the beginnings of this process taking a definitive shape. I spent almost 50 years of my life in the nursing profession and often felt death and the dying process were swept under the rug. Thank you for bringing this topic front and center.

My mother had an advance directive when she passed in 2011. She wanted to go. It was difficult. My brother passed last year after being diagnosed with cancer and being in the intensive care unit for three months. He was on breathing and feeding tubes. It was horrible seeing him like that. He didn't have an advance directive. That was hard on us his siblings, making the best decision for him. I have an advance directive.

The Drs right about when medical people die; we don’t go to ICU, no CPR and we use Hospice services sooner. Exactly my thoughts! Retired Dialysis RN.

Im terminally ill and I'm terrified of dying although, it's inevitable. But I do not want to die in a hospital. Id rather be at home so the last thing I see is my loved ones and things I hold close to my heart. I have already made my end of life 5 wishes and number 1 is to be at home. I just love Col. Frank. He is such a sweet, loving man!. Beautiful couple! ❤

@allisongarrett4824

4 жыл бұрын

God bless you. I hope you defeat the odds and have a beautiful full long life.

@amandalove2657

4 жыл бұрын

@@allisongarrett4824 Thank you so much. That's really sweet of you to say. It means more to me then you know. ❤❤❤

@darkwizx1541

2 жыл бұрын

Bless your heart sweetheart i wish nothing but many more happy years for you and pray for your recovery and beat the odds. Even we never met i just want you to know that i love you and wish you the best amanda..

@amandalove2657

2 жыл бұрын

@@darkwizx1541 Thank you so much. That is truly so sweet of you. I appreciate that more than you know. God bless you! 💙💙💙

@darkwizx1541

2 жыл бұрын

@@amandalove2657 omg I'm so happy you replied...i was hoping you were still among us because it was a year ago that you posted and it's such a happy feeling to see you replied thank you...😍😍😍😇😇😇 I'm not gonna let you go through this hard time in your precious life...i want you to know that my heart and soul is with you always ok i will always have you in my thoughts and prayers we will get through this or die trying you have my blessings all the way from Seattle much love and be strong amanda....take good care of yourself ok...thanks again😉😉😉

In 2009, my beautiful 48 year old mother hemorrhaged from a ruptured stomach ulcer. She was brain dead on life support for 5 days. The easiest decision we ever made, was to remove life support. She survived many hours after. It is not like the movies. In 2016, my grandmother was placed on life support after suffering from pneumonia. Doctors couldn't sedate her, due to blood pressure issues. She motioned to us to remove the tubes. It was very traumatic witnessing her gagging. She passed away 2 days later. These events were the most sad, yet most beautiful of my life. My mother & grandmother had expressed their wishes. Grandma had a living will & DNR. It is not a difficult decision to remove life support, if you're a person of faith. No one wants their loved one to languish & suffer.

"Well, if God so chooses, I'm happy." Smart lady amd a beautiful way to view things. God has a plan and there is no point in being scared or stressed. God is in control. Trust in him and dont live in fear.

I have seen so many people die. Patients, family, usually I was the person caring for them. I am not afraid of death, I know that there is a place in heaven for me.

i would sign a DNR document with no hesitation if there's no possibility for a recovery.

@lorij6796

3 жыл бұрын

Karl Gilliat I agree with you. Ideally you should fill out a DNR form while you're still healthy. It's hard to think about now but all of our end of life decisions should be planned ahead.

@CM-sm2pk

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, the time to plan is when a person is healthy.

@irmarosario2598

3 жыл бұрын

I would too my oldest die at home of cancer with his family beside him and a nurse he signed a Dnr.

@ickiedeer-lamb7282

3 жыл бұрын

On entering ltc I signed dnr right away. Every year during doctor patient meeting I continue signing it. Dad had s dnr but my sisters ignored it and kept resuscitating him until mom got to the hospital. She brought dad's papers and told the doctor to let him go. This is how my dad died twice in 1 day.

@IwasBlueb4

2 жыл бұрын

i already hve

How sweet to know that dedication, love, commitment and loyalty still exist.

I like Mary, that's how im going to go out. The way I want to and with my chin held high without fear.

Adrian Galvan, your grandmother was blessed to have a grandson like you. It is a few years now since her passing, so I know you miss her. Take care of the good memories❤️

I loved this! Thank you. It made me see my own upcoming demise a bit differently with such an array of people, opinions, and experiences. Death is a tough one.

You can't keep someone alive in pain

@stephenss1840

3 жыл бұрын

U wouldn't keep a dog in pain.

R.I.P. to you all ♥

Very good, informative, thought provoking. Well worth the time it takes to watch. Thank you!

Honestly if and when, I wouldn't want to be in bed immobile and there are just tubes running in and out of my body 😔 it's very important to have an Advance Directives Plan

@Synicizm

6 жыл бұрын

Not creepy at all... /s

@cpmffeilberg4970

4 жыл бұрын

Mom had the advance directives but when push came to shove she kept changing her mind. God bless you Mom 🇨🇦🤗🙃 RIP.

@iadorenewyork1

8 ай бұрын

You can stipulate that you do not want this. In my Living Will, I have written this.

Wonderful,wonderful,wonderful, this is as it should be. Blessings

Beautiful video. Thank you 🙏 ❤️

Stay away from doctors and medicines. I feel like Mary.

Prayers for all the families.stay strong have faith.

I can understand some people do not want to live anymore. But the Bible has made it clear about taking your own life. The Lord God said i taketh and i giveth. JOB 1:21. So it says only God shall end ones life.

This was really excellent, thank you.

This Precious Woman is "Right". . . IT'S ABOUT BEAUTY, COMPASSION & L💜VE.

I avoid doctors and hospitals.....I told my husband if any happens to me take me to Oregon where compassionate passing is legal! And do not call it assisted suicide! There is no moral delema in helping one to pass, but there is allowing one to suffer!

@michaeljoseph8674

6 жыл бұрын

stay away from docs and hospitals.they will kill you faster than a bottle of arsenic...monsters trust me i know

@Strawn149

6 жыл бұрын

Shirley Schork- In order to be eligible for assisted suicide, you have to see doctors, go through tests, and all that stuff you want to avoid.

@walkernick86

5 жыл бұрын

Why the hell do people hate doctors and hospitals? Bloody morons! If it wasn't for the medical institution as a whole, we would not have made the medical advances that we have done that allow more people to live more normal lives. The survival rate of cancer has increased, and more people are living to a ripe old age... all because of doctors and hospitals etc! You have to face the fact that there are certain ailments that 'God' can't fix, but medical science can!

@Catherine-xf3pc

5 жыл бұрын

Shirley Schork I was, until I was bullied relentlessly into going. Now they have rendered me a freak and the suffering is too much.

@Catherine-xf3pc

5 жыл бұрын

Michael Joseph My brother warned me of the very same thing just days before I made a fateful mistake. He and you are so right! They harmed me & instead of a quick illness, I am now suffering a freak affliction that is worse than death. You could not have spoken truer words!!

My mother died a horrible death she had pancreatic cancer she didn't eat or drink anything for 14 days because of the morphine they were giving her we begged the guardian that buy them to make her comfortable with at least an IV. She refused so we called hospice and they were willing to take her to the hospital to put an IV and make her comfortable but she had to go back to the nursing home / hospice. Again the guardian ad litem refused that treatment she suffered a lot I'll never forget that rest in peace my mother till we see each other again I love you your daughter 😪

I wish all hospitals, health care facilities, doctors and healthcare providers would discuss this with their patients and that more and more people would realize they do not need to be invaded, forced to endure or kept alive for the sake of the family who refuse to let go! We need to learn to die, and to die with dignity......and have our right to terminate!!

This wss a wonderful end of life and hospice care video. I had my mother on home hospice. My brother was on home hospice. In the end they admitted him into a hospice facility. Best decision to make for your loved one(s).

I lost my dad, 8 months ago, at the age of 63, from Covid. Covid stole everything from me. I couldn’t even be there, to tell him and show him, how much I love him. I wanted to hold his hand, whilst he passed, but couldn’t.

@katethewholenesshomeembody6024

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you all my love this season. 💛🙏🏼🕊

@Tracey7370

2 жыл бұрын

So sorry Lisa, how awful for you. I’m sure he knew how much you loved him x x

@marieharris1230

2 жыл бұрын

It’s a disgrace how COVID WAS HANDLED. I FEEL THAT MANY PEOPLE HAVE GROUNDS FOR LAW SUITS.

@godschild3640

11 ай бұрын

@@katethewholenesshomeembody6024. THAT 😡OPEN 😡BORDER 😡MURDERED 😡MILLIONS WITH 😡CORONAVIRUS 😡.. all diseases are active now the seven seals are now open and suit. All animals and humans are gonna die and you still have the open border.

Thank you for your contribution to humanity. I'm sure you touched many lives.

Jane Klein passed away in January 2018 at age 92. Col Frank Klein, who passed in 2020 at 98, had quite a stellar military career. He is the one that discovered where the actual magnetic north pole was located. He had an amazing life. People should google his name and read one of his obituaries.

@nancyayers8322

Ай бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing this!

23:18 wow, Delores touched by soul. What a courageous, lovely lady. I hope she was kept comfortable, and I suspect her family suffered deeply the loss of this precious lady.

Helpful, insightful and compassionate.

go with God God bless you TJ

@ralphfurley404

3 жыл бұрын

Fairytale

@Fern-kr2xk

3 жыл бұрын

@@ralphfurley404 what do you mean Fairy Tail

I would like to see this documentary available on PBS KLRU in Austin TX. Very well done!

Great doco a real eye opener was interesting.

I was so grateful that when my grandmother died earlier this year, we had discussed her wishes over the previous years so we knew to let her go as quickly as possible and not try to keep her around and prolong the inevitable. She knew that when it came to the end, she wanted to go quickly and peacefully and because we knew it she did... Discussing end of life care is imperative for a good death. Death is the one inevitable part of life so it's definitely worth preparing for, especially as we now live longer than ever before. To not have the conversation is to risk having your wishes ignored at the end and to have your death become a long and painful affair.

My mom and I took care of my dad at home on lifesupport for over 4 years with ALS. Talk about one of the most horrible diseases on earth. Mom let dad make the decisions. He always wanted to try to survive. After he passed away my mother had her will and medical directives outlined. She made it clear she did not want to be kept alive by any artificial means. Life poor daddy on that horrible vent. I was next to her when she had a stroke in her sleep in the hospital. I abided by her wishes. I would never keep her alive with zero hope of getting better. I miss them terribly..

Well done. Very informative production, very well put together. Quite illuminating that so many care givers choose palliative care over intensive care.

I’m a retired Rn. I started working in hospitals AS A VOLUNTEER, THEN NURSES AIDE FROM THE AGE OF 15. I WAS AN RN FOR 45 YEARS. I WOULDNT MIND DYING IN A HOSPITAL AS LONG AS I HAD FAMILY AROUND ME. HOSPITSLS ARE VERY FAMILIAR TO ME. AN IN HOSPITAL HOSPICE WOULD BE IDEAL.

To spend your life having endless medical treatment, and in pain, is absolutely a fate much worse than death. As I get older, and contemplate my future without family support, which is my situation, I know that death will be my best option. I will find a way out of this world, rather than cling on to a life of misery. We are all going to die one way or another, no one gets out of here alive. In so many ways life is pointless, and the world a terrifying place. I have a Living Will in place, and have ensured that all the boxes are ticked. What is the point of fearing what cannot be avoided? The best is behind me, and the worst is yet to come. I have a 98 year old Mum in a shocking state. Believe me, old age is not for sissies.

I agree with you 100'%! Very well written. It says everything I've want but was unable to put into words. Peace

THANKS FOR THIS

so refreshing!

I love the Colonel and his wife❤ such love

@franklinstephen3268

Жыл бұрын

Hello 👋 how are you doing?