Bruno Mars is 5ft 5 and he's clearly having a great time

@burymedeep-be7dm

6 жыл бұрын

Mali Gupta - Archer After seeing that photo with Taylor Swift I think he more like 5' 0"! He looked tiny.

I'm a trans guy, and I haven't yet medically transitioned. I understand the longing for gender neutral bathrooms. If I walk into a ladie's room, I get told to leave 8/10 times. If I walk into a men's room, I feel so anxious I want to cry because I'm terrified of being assaulted. I get the need for more neutral bathrooms. However- and this is a HUGE however- I am also disabled. I NEED to use the handicap accessible bathroom no matter what bathroom I'm in. If it's taken and there's not another nearby, I have to wait. Due to the nature of my disability, I can't always wait long. I've had to go home and change in the middle of the day because an able-bodied girl decided to spend fifteen minutes in the stall doing her makeup. Please, PLEASE, don't use the handicap stall unless you actually cannot use any other stall. If all other stalls are taken and you seriously can't wait, go ahead. If no one is there at all, don't. A person in real need of the area might come in while you're in there. I understand the need for neutrality. But taking resources you don't medically need from people who have a medical necessity for them is completely reprehensible.

@3v1l73ddy

6 жыл бұрын

Jeremy Padovani this is exactly why I don't use them. But I can't use men's toilets because I panic and shut down just thinking about it. I have large boobs so it- ugh that word just hit me *sigh* - so it protects me. I don't bind in public because it makes me feel worse, with my chest I can guarantee people see me as a girl so I feel safe going to the ladies. But I wish I didn't have to choose. I wish I could just use unisex toilets and eliminate the whoke problem. It's crippling. So many people tell me to use the handicap toilets but it feels like such a dick move and since they need to be easily accessible they're also super exposed which makes me just as nervous as going to the men's. One of the biggest fears I have for transition is what will happen to my toilet routine in public... makes me not want to transition. One of the things that makes me wonder if I really am trans or if I'm just coping with something through gender *sigh*. Wish it wasn't so complex...

@duncan95pl

6 жыл бұрын

Jeremy Padovani Me to I am TransGender

I'm starting T tomorrow guys!!!! Alex you inspired me to come out and start my transition, I cannot thank you enough!

@benbowo3169

6 жыл бұрын

I am too, I was actually supposed to start Friday but my doctor didn't call it in but I'm starting tomorrow:))

@blakejones9413

6 жыл бұрын

Yay!!! Woo! T buddy! xD Sorry to hear yours got delayed mate

@losci4340

6 жыл бұрын

Nice! Hopefully there are no difficulties!

@blakejones9413

6 жыл бұрын

Yeah hopefully! Thanks mate :)

@chrissyxx21

6 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!

Alex should call this series "Alex's Quest to Help Others Get Beards" :D

@luzelenaserrano1236

6 жыл бұрын

I Look Like a Toe omg this is so perfect I can't

@koutashinji

6 жыл бұрын

Alex's quest for your beard Alex's quest for beards Alex's quest to beards

@madelinee427

6 жыл бұрын

yes yes yes

Michael J Fox is 5'4, Prince was 5'2. Height dysphoria is so tough because you really can't change it. I'm a trans girl at 5'10 but found out that I'm the same height as Gal Gadot, so I'm now proud to be the same height as Wonder Woman 😁

suggestions for a series title 1. Queer Questions? 2. Trans Talking 3. Ask Alex 4. Advise with Alex

@myutube5882

6 жыл бұрын

I like Ask Alex!

@kangaroostorm2525

6 жыл бұрын

Wow alliterations are so weird sometimes XD

The nostalgia is really strong with this one. Been watching since 2012 and wow, how much you've grown and how far you've come!

If you pass but aren't out to family how do you deal with them thinking it offends you to be called sir (awkward family situations when half the people knew you before and half didn't)?

For US advice: it's generally the same. Psych, doctor, referral. BUT if you live near a University with a University hospital/clinic, go on their site and see if they offer HRT. Mine does informed consent and I got my T within 2 months

I so admire you, Alex. From the first video of yours that I watched, I knew you were an awesome young man! Love you! Have a great week! 💝

Hey Alex! first off you were my light bulb moment 5 years ago and now I’m 4 years on t and 3 years post top surgery, even though I haven’t met u in person u have helped me so much along the way with ur advice and ur amazing vids, ur amazing and I love you so much for that. Anyways my best friend of about 10 years has been out as trans for a while now and every time I see you’ve made a video he’s the first I tell, I can’t speak for him but I know uve deff helped him a lot in the past and this vid is perfect for him, he has a bad home life and he doesn’t nessisarily pass as well as he’d like and he has probs with confronting people in general let alone about proper pronouns and what you have covered in this video is perfect for him and hundreds of people in the world going through the same thing so thank you sooo so much for being such a great inspiration and a phenomenal helping hand , keep doing what ur doing we all love what you do for our community, can’t wait to read your book!!!!! Ur American friend and doppelgänger, Alex 💙

I'm so glad I'm 5'7... I still have a bit of height dysphoria, but I can't even imagine being less than like 5'5...

I want you to know you are very much appreciated for all of the content that you make. It warms my heart to know that you sharing you're experience helps so many people. Just thanks for being you!!

You’re so wise and handsome x

Thanks for posting this. I added you on Tumblr an I'm gona order your book next. You are making a huge difference to so many guys like me.

Love you, too, Alex, as a good person. Great how your voice has deepened and achieving your beard results. Keep up your great attitude and your infomative vids.

Thank you very very much, Alex! Your videos (and your existance, actually) really help me with my dysphoria. I've been watching you for 2,5 years, since i've started questioning my gender, and for all that time you inspiring me to fight dysphoria, trans- and homophobic society (I live in Russia, unfortunately), Healthcare System and even myself. Can't express how I love you, Alex ♥

nearly 300k bro! insane. ive been here since you made your video about how you came out

In the US not every doctor asks for a letter! I live in Washington state (one of the most progressive states of the US) and I told my general physician that I'm trans and she was very nice and told me she has another patient who's trans (who I believe is over the age of 18). All she did was ask her patient the general dysphoria questions for a 'diagnosis' and then they just jumped into hormones and all the therapy-type of stuff this patient does is go to a trans support group (which my GP didn't require). My GP only told me this because she said she had learned a lot from working with this patient. I don't know if it's like this in all of WA state but check with your GP! Again, I think the patient was an adult so for a minor she might ask for consent from parents or something but she did say that she knew another GP who knew a lot more than her about trans health stuff so remember there's always more doctors out there!

Thanks for the advice, Alex. Helped a bunch!

I ordered your book today! can't wait too read it

I loooove yoooou! 😍. I missed these videos sm!

Super awesome advice! Thanks for always being inspiring!

I'm evrytime so happy when you explane something

currently holding your book so excited to read it !!

a friend of mine told me: "You feel like a boy, but actually you are an "it"As in your body is an it." it made me feel so bad. Because i hate my body and someone telling me this especially in public (at school) felt so bad. I had to hold myself in because I wanted to cry. and believe me I don't cry easily. But it just made me think about everything and how much I hate my body. I still haven't told her how much it hurt. But I feel like I have to tell her. Because it isn't right what she said.

holy crap! this is the first time i have seen u in like two years!!

in terms of baths, wearing a swimming costume can actually really help

Great video. Just finished reading your book and wondered if there will be another one. It was tremendous and eye opening even for a gay guy. Wonderful.

Hi Alex. Thanks for making these videos. It helps me understand what my trans friends are going through. I know I never will understand fully but I want to understand as well as I can do

Thank you so much for advice on baths. I pretty much avoid them but if I have to have them, you're right - music and bubbles are great distractions.

Cant wait for my birthday (cause i'm getting your book HEHEHEHEH) Awesome video that i sent to my friend who began his transition (he's on T now) not so long ago :D

Thank you, that video was awesome!!!

I fricken love your sign in the back haha

OMG ALEX YOUR THE SAME HEIGHT AS ME HIGH 5 FAM 😂😂😂 Btw, I've been watching you for a long time now and I wanna say, I adore you as a person and also admire you. I hope your channel grows more and more over time. I love you

I'm 17 and I started T about 2 months ago. I went to Queen Anne Medical Associates in Seattle, Washington, US. The doctors name is Dr Gromko. I don't really know what the process of getting T is like anywhere else but Dr gromko is only accepting children/teenager new patients right now. The process was also really easy. I made an appointment and answered some questions, then at my next appointment about 2 weeks later I got my prescription for Testosterone. So if anyone lives in Washington or near Seattle I highly recommend Dr Gromko.

You are amazing and so brave , love you Alex :)

I saw I like a toe's comment that said Alex should name this series "Alex's Quest to Help Others Get Beards" I really liked that one

I'm 5-4, too! Alex is one of the greatest Role Models ever.

Hey Alex, I've been watching since 2012 now and I was just wondering if you had planned on getting bottom surgery? You inspired me to come out as trans after you came out and I'm really thankful for all the advice you've given!

I love you dad!!! Thank you so much

You’re a legend.

Thank for this vid I really appreciate it

WE'RE ALMOST 300K!!!!!

great video dude

So close to 300k😬🙈🎉

I'm 5ft 4 and tbh at times I feel pretty dysphoric about my height, which is an issue as I'm 16, just started year 12 and especially since most guys I know are so much taller than me. But it's not too bad compared to dysphoria on my voice, face and rest of my body. I'm hoping to start T in March ish time, if the NHS doesn't mess me up again. After that I don't think height will be as much of and issue. It's not much of an issue right now, but I'm hoping once I start T it won't be as bad :)

Where is your haul video? When you bought a bunch of clothes and showed us? It was one of my favorite 😢🎉

There is currently an NHS England consultation on reforms to the Gender Identity Clinics services and how they interact with GPs, so problems which currently exist may be resolved or reduced when those reforms go through. but of course they may be different or similar problems with whatever the new system is.

I have missed these videos, they helped me so much when I started to discover myself! I waited 18 months and 18 days exactly from being referred to my first appointment at the GIC in Exeter. Does anyone have a rough time on how long it will be till my second appointment? I asked and they just said it could be some time. Just knowing a rough time will ease my mind. Much appreciated ☺️

14 months would have been a dream. currently on 2 1/2 years. it sucks so bad but eventually we'll get there

I love you, Alex

What do you do after you’re referred to the GIC? This video was extremely helpful though, thank you so much for putting the time and effort into making it

Thank God you've made that series. So, i'm going to a concert with my friend who is a trans guy. The problem is my dad is driving us there and it's gonna be a looong drive. At this point i should say my dad is pretty conservative and i don't know how to react if he would say something like "you look like a girl" should i pretend he's cis?

Good advice

My first appointment at the nottingham gic tomorrow!!!!! Aaaaaaaaa

The fact that you said manspread unironically made me laugh for a ridiculous amount of time, you're entertaining, but jesus, that was funny.

How did I miss this. **watches immediately**

I-I'm new to your channel.. and this is the firs video of yours I've watched and I have to say I'm happy I stumbled onto you. I have a few questions if you wouldn't mind my asking. Who did you first confide in about your gender in your family? How did you come out, did you talk or did you write a note? Have you ever packed your pants to make it look like you have something there? How'd you do it if you did? ...I'm sorry, it's a lot but.. but it's been difficult to find ftm trans.... Thank you for your time.

to the question about the toilets pre t.... im pre t and i just recently started going to the males toilets. when im feeling really dysphoric that day i just put my hood on since it hides alot of my pre t fem face. also usually guys dont make eye contact in the toilets. they just do their stuff and leave. another tip is to act very confident and if someone questions you just stand your ground. i tend to have a punk attitude with things so i dont really give a shit about what people think of me anyway. confidence is key.

Wow Alex you're stunning! I'm 5ft 5 tooooooo

I read your book it was pretty good

Just one question about the book. Are people already buying it in shops? Because I pre-ordered it a few months back now and Amazon said it would arrive in November, is that still the case? Can't wait to read it!

Nice Video!! Does someone know what Alex uses to edit his videos?

I been on the waiting list for 10 months for appointment with GIC. the waiting list in the U.K Is stupidly long 14months I have to wait.

I've sent my forms off to my local doctor today so I should get my referral letter back soon! Also: I get dysphoria when it comes to the side of my hair, chest and voice. Any ways of how to deal with this?

i went to my gp recently and I've been referred to my local mental health unit who will then refer me onto a GIC.... yeah its gonna be a long ass journey.... i prepared but also now sick and tired of being stuck with a level of dysphoria that will lower if/when i get T....

I got accepted into KOI (knowing our identity) and they said in Northern Ireland u can start T at 15 but u gotta be on hormone blockers for a year before 😃

Hey Alex, my question is, i've technically been out since I was 16 (I turn 21 in Dec.) but about a month after coming out my grandfather passed and since then it's been nearly a constant state of stress within my family. Multiple losses over the past 6 years, financial troubles, 2 moves, etc. I just moved into a new home with my parents about 3 weeks ago (end of Sept.) and I planned on pushing the issue about me transitioning once we've unpacked and destressed a little, but we had another set back. My mom is the most difficult, she believes me not talking about it and bringing it up enough means that it's just a phase when really i'm just trying to be sensitive of her feelings. Her best friend died last week and i'm in the position again of wanting to push for transitioning, new place where nobody knows me is the perfect opportunity, so what should I do? Should I bring it up anyways after a few weeks for grieving? Also, my dad and sister know about my wish to transition now that we've moved and are willing to support me and help out, just in case that helps with your advice. Sorry this is long, felt like a little backstory would help with getting some advice that works with my situation. You inspire me and I thanks for making these videos!

how did you deal with the waiting time from when you found about about an apointment to when the apointment way i have to wait over a month in the us till i can meat with a doctor for t anytipes

In the UK 14 months is around the MINIMUM wait from referral to your fist appointment :/

I'm 4 ft 4 1/4 at 28. I get asked if i'm in school still or I get asked what my gender is, also get asked bout why im small. I stand if its young children but adults omg.'rant over sorry'. sort of got used all the comments but there are times where it really hits me. love your vlogs and your twitch streams xx

Maaaaate the bubbles xD I do the same! P.s: loved this video!

Hey Alex, just wondering if you could give me some advice. So I've not long started college but I enrolled as my birthname and as female so all my tutors and classmates know me as that. I want to come out in college so I can feel comfortable and confident. Not sure what to do? Cheers mate

I"m 13 and came out only at the start of the year and I want to start my transition, I've come out and my family are accepting but my gp isn't taking me seriously. they kept saying I was on the waiting list and that was around 6 months ago and I haven't got anything. what do I do?

You can have leg lengthening surgery. But it’s really expensive, not all countries will do the surgery and it’s takes ages to recover. It’s also said to very painful.

It fucking says "carpe barba" on the lil frame on the left. "Seize the beard". Good one!

Such early, very advice

Good morning Alex bertie

You are very pretty 😍💗💗 Greetings from Poland🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱

I'm 5'4" too haha, and I think one inch is significant. It's the difference between being the same height at Sora from KH and being shorter than him o-o. Being short kinda sucks. But hey I have a question! Did you ever experience crippling fear about the social change transition presents? Were you ever confused about your gender or did everything kinda click in place mentally?

I'm out as trans to a few friends and family. I don't bind every day, simply because it's too uncomfortable and makes it kinda difficult for me to breathe. I'm also really impatient to be referred and start the ball rolling, but it's so discouraging that it takes so long for so much as an appointment that I'm honestly not sure what to do. Having to present as female most days makes it so difficult and hugely knocks my confidence but I can't do anything about it

I'm not even 5... :) People say I'm sooo small as a girl, so as a boy... I'll accept it, is part of me... Good advices.

Thanks alex the bubble bath thing is a really great idea, dunno why i never thought of it before? Love me a hot bath tho am i right?

Okay kiinda wanna ask you: I am a cis female and often really dig having a flat chest, definatwly had disphoria but also at the same time don't find most guys chests attractive and I am hella unsure if that's just because I am gay or I wouldn't find it attractive on me as welll ... it's like my desire and fears of top surgery are constantly changing and idk what to do, plus I don't wanna bind bc of recent chest pain wearing a good binder... aaaah help 🙇

I’m sorry does that sign in the background say seize the beard

What should I do about my chest being too big if I can’t afford a binder?

about height dysphoria, maybe it already helps to know that in other countries the average height of males is about the average height of females in Europe/the us. For example in Bolivia it's 160cm (5''3') (loads of countries: www.disabled-world.com/calculators-charts/height-chart.php) so don't feel bad about your height, there are loads of short cis guys on this planet :)

I grew a lot when I started testosterone because I was only 16 and I guess i was lucky too

Do a look book :)

How and where do I order your book if I'm in the U.S.?

I been on T for 5 months waiting to get top surgery hoping to have it by the spring .

@Alex_Bertie

6 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!

@owenpridgen4406

6 жыл бұрын

TheRealAlexBertie thank u how is the recovery w the surgery ?

@owenpridgen4406

6 жыл бұрын

Jeffy Jay thank u

@sebastianjohnson6647

6 жыл бұрын

If you're going private that could happen. But I was referred in July for top surgery and wont be having it until around August/September :/

@owenpridgen4406

6 жыл бұрын

Sebastian Johnson I am going to Ottawa have it done with OHIP . I have been to this surgeon before had OHIP paid for it got seen three months after my dr requested it then had surgery by the end of aug . I think total wait time was 6 months maybe a little more .

Love you

I usually talk too low pitched and therefore too low in volume when I feel dysphoric (usually talking to ppl I don't know

Series title - Q&A = Questions and Alex

Hi, does any one have any advice for coming out to their parents (because I terrified)

I just moved in with my dad a month or so ago. I came out as trans four years ago. My dad is supportive and all. But due to me being 16 he thinks that I shouldn’t transition before I am 18. It sucks. And he won’t sign off on my name change forms until I am a few months away from being 18. He also keeps saying that I really don’t know who I am due to me being girly and not being super manly. I tried to explain that I am a guy. He asked how I knew. I told him that it just feels right. He says that he understands but I really don’t think he does. I don’t know how to get it through his head that I am serious. He just says that I don’t know yet. I do know. I have been out for 4 years. I have had a long time to think about it. And the first step that I take to start my transition he refuses to sign for. Because “he didn’t get to pick his name. So why should I?” I just don’t know what to do

@dakstupidgenius5812

6 жыл бұрын

I believe he's purposely stalling it as long as he could because deep inside he hopes you are wrong. But it seems like he would actually accept it once he realizes there's no way you would change your mind. The name change thing is just an excuse at the moment to stall it longer. If that was an actual problem he cared about then you could just tell him to pick the name himself.

@Univerzion

6 жыл бұрын

If you don't have one now, get a job and start saving up for when you move out or for transitioning. If he believes you shouldn't transition until you're 18, then wait, you won't be able to do anything about until then anyhow. Once you turn 18 he can't do anything about it and he'll see that you're serious. Even getting a job will make him realize you're serious about this. I understand you've been out for 4 years already, so have I and I'll be 21 in December, I haven't started my transition yet either and I can't currently.

@Univerzion

6 жыл бұрын

And with the name thing, like I said you'll probably have to wait until you're 18 to change if he's not willing to sign for you to change it. I had the same problem with my mother, she doesn't like my name (Brysen) when I first told everyone, I asked her what she would've named me if I were a boy, but she told me she never thought of one. I smell bullshit with that one, all 4 of my sisters had a male name if they would've been born boys. So I feel it was her way of saying if she doesn't give me that name then I won't transition or something.

14 months. Hah! I wish. The wait list is now 2 years and growing. 😢😢

I happened to be 5'8.. so I don't really have a problem with my height (even though I'm the shortest guy of my family - my brothers are 6'2 and 6'7 - but I'm taller than my sister 5'4 or something like that).... well, sometimes I do feel very short, but that is rarely. When I was younger (about 15/16 years old), my doctor told me that I wouldn't grow taller at 5'6 I cried so hard (and my father didn't understand why) but apparently I did grow a little taller and I was so happy to grow taller, maybe that's why I'm happy with my height almost all the time.... but also I'm not really a short guy. hope that doesn't make anyone feel bad...

@mrgreenleafx

6 жыл бұрын

Kay91 Nah I get it, I'm 5'7" which is not really small but it's also not as tall as the average and as a trans guy you do get more insecure about every little thing that is not the "average cis"

what do you do if you do know what job to get and your parents what you out at 18 im freAKING OUT