Women reward strength and punish weakness. Burn that into your mind.

@jonathangardner5202

4 жыл бұрын

Powerful statement

@ShaunHensley

4 жыл бұрын

Who cares?

@theredninja2817

4 жыл бұрын

Yes I will 😊

@rmendola759

3 жыл бұрын

Very true 👍

@BigStou

3 жыл бұрын

Tell me that when your 90 years old and can't wipe your ass.

Mosy underated coach ever. This guy is a legend

@azertyazerty5235

4 жыл бұрын

true

@jaleelzare9290

4 жыл бұрын

It's better that less people know

@keeplaughing37

4 жыл бұрын

damn it hurts 💔

@kevonforde3525

4 жыл бұрын

Yea real talk

@DaRyteJuan

3 жыл бұрын

Keep Laughing The *Pain* is really not that much different from going to the gym and tearing yourself up a bit. You went to the gym of your own accord. Don’t be surprised if you felt some pain in a deliberate effort to get *Stronger.*

Women smell weakness like a shark smells blood.😂 keep at it. Great videos.

@bebomohamed10

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's true. A good comparison.

@anamihaelaflorescu9895

4 жыл бұрын

This words comes from an big ego place which in my opinion is sickness.

@mancestark6527

4 жыл бұрын

Ana, just to check do you mean the words and idea that he is speaking about is the sickness? Or more agreeing with his idea on the anxiety in a relationship?

@isaacgoma1042

2 жыл бұрын

Yes 😂🥰😂

@ThandikhayaGodongwana

Жыл бұрын

I laugh but I'm hurt

Just putting this out there. This man is definitely right. Coming from someone who went from confident and relaxed in the interaction (generally speaking) to anxious about what she is thinking at all times (me and my gf have been together for 1.5 years now ) - not of me necessarily, rather whether something upsets her, something is wrong or whatever. Regardless, giving her so much attention screams "neediness", and I can see how this has affected our relationship, the intimacy between us had to suffer a lot. Girls really don't want you to be in touch with their emotions all day long or "be genuinely interested in what they are doing". Sure you might ask a few things here and there, it gives them the chance to talk about themselves and brag to you in order to get your attention, helps you to bond with each other, but it is nothing you should be doing too frequently. In the end, if you really want to provide for her in terms of your relationship, you need to be working on your goals and whatever makes you a man. You can't fill anybody's tea cup as long your pot is empty. So make sure to make a damned good tea first.

The one that cares the least controls the relationship. She must always chase and choose you! Men are programmed to be the pursuers, this is why most relationships fail because we’ve been tricked to please women when we should be focusing on ourselves. Think about celebrities, they are focused on pursuing their passion. Women flock to them. Always focus on SELF improvement. It will drive you crazy when you only think of her. You must always remain unattached. They believe that’s masculine behavior. You realize the girls that loved you the most you didn’t care about em. The ones you chased didn’t want you at all. That’s because women want to know if you value yourself more than them. They can EASILY get other guys that are gonna cater to their needs, but you must be Godlike. It’s harsh but that’s what women respect

I like it when you say: Dont show anxiety instead of dont be it. Because sometimes we men are just insecure. Realizing it is a big first step.

Listen up, young men! This guy is spot on! Take his advice and avoid a world of heartache. I wish I'd known this stuff when I was a younger man...

I have made all the mistakes you talk about. You're 100% right in every single thing you say. Thanks Chris for helping me to be aware of my insecure behavior

@danthomas2146

5 жыл бұрын

We've ALL done these things, my friend. You're not alone.

@mhaas281

4 жыл бұрын

@@danthomas2146 same here. Been there and did it.

@nobody-hr1lo

4 жыл бұрын

Another here...Rehab in progress.

@bahaatamer1245

4 жыл бұрын

Oh trust me about this... We all found this stuff due to all of our mistakes!

@chrisyang3130

4 жыл бұрын

Same here dude, this channel has helped me realized I've been doing this whole dating thing wrong. My gf recently pulled away and I'm guilty of everything that Chris described. Wish I had discovered this channel way sooner!

Yes 100% right.. I backed of and she came back. I need to work on myself more and she is willing to help me with my anxiety issues.

@gurvanshsingh3018

3 жыл бұрын

How exactly is she helping you?

@3oxisprimus848

2 жыл бұрын

NEVER! Never let her help you with anything!!! She'll remind you tomorrow.

i just killed my marriage getting anxiety . 23 years gone because i didnt realise what i was doing.

Doing the things he says not only helps the situation, it makes you a better you!

i did all of this ,omg the pain ,when u see all the shit u have done ,and u know how u can fix it ,but u cant anymore ,couse she is already gone

@noahhibbsonyt

3 жыл бұрын

Damn just damn

This video came too late for my ex but on the right time for my actual beginning of new gf. I think the best is TO NOT CARE about relationship. When you DO CARE is like you give all power to the other side...

@deeznutz294

2 жыл бұрын

Facts

I just suffer in silence. I messed up 2 relationships with my anxiety and needy behavior. Girl I'm dating now I'm starting to get those old insecure feelings back but the good thing is I don't show her. I just play it cool like nothing bothers me all though deep down inside, it's killing me.

@danielmesia8550

3 жыл бұрын

Bruh ikr

@danielmesia8550

3 жыл бұрын

Friends and Focus on You is what i try to do but damn this little feeling of insecurity hate it!

@mayorofthenonsense

3 жыл бұрын

I used to be like that, and you can't hide it forever my dude. She already smells it and if she's a good looking gal, she will already have her backup options ready. To them, we are always replaceable, but once you learn to see them in the same way, you will no longer suffer from the same type of relationship anxiety. It is your worrying that will turn her off you, so the sooner you can let go of your attachment to her the better. If you adopt the attitude that nothing she does matters that much, because you can always find another girl, then she will not leave you.

@wasssup7573

3 жыл бұрын

Make sure first that it’s a girl who’s worth to be in your life, let alone feel anxious about, be careful with who you share energy with, you are the prize not her

@akashroy3447

3 жыл бұрын

@@mayorofthenonsense damn you're right AF, .. I'll take a screenshot of this comment

Legend is back.

You are the man! Ur videos r super helpful! Its sad to see so many guys out there struggling with their insecurities and anxiety about the relationship and think talking to the girl about it is the way to go.. Keep it up 💪

The Lord used you, brother. Just what I needed to hear. Keep your great and straight forward content coming! Don't stop! Your channel will grow fast if you do so. Thank you.

@iyancasulla8867

6 жыл бұрын

Cristiano Sacramento I agree, this guy is a legend. Hats off. 👏

@jijo5721

6 жыл бұрын

You are awesome

@diseasedsavior2747

4 жыл бұрын

What are you talking about, that man is an atheist.. He doesnt believe in your imaginary lord

@snehalrecpies7542

4 жыл бұрын

@@iyancasulla8867 *,

@abdulifeoluwa8197

4 жыл бұрын

@@diseasedsavior2747 The Lord can use any tool as long as its what you need.

Every bits of what he says is true no wasted time on the videos always direct to the point. Best relationship coach I’ve ever encountered! More power Chris!

Your advice is practical and straight to the point. Many thanks.

Dude is spitting truths here, his style is so easy to digest as well 👌

I immediately liked the video even before viewing it. I knew it has to be good.

@thilinaakashdissanayake1106

6 жыл бұрын

i did the same

wow dude your videos have infinite value. Props

Basically what I’m getting is that when you start getting needy or gut feel she’s losing interest go ghost

@Odo-so8pj

3 жыл бұрын

No but nice to recognise a narc so quickly.

I have a problem with anxious attachment style, but you halped me a lot. Thank you very much, really.

I love ur voice man its so calm.

Thank you for the advice. This is just what I wanted

I bought your book. It's a tremendous book I ever bought. Thank you very much for teaching us

This guy deserves an award

That was some really good advice thanks🙏❤️

The dude is just not fakeing . The finishes of the goals. Beautiful. Magisterial. Love you *Minslegend!.* .🙏🏼

Thank you brother I respect you Chris you are the best I love your knowledge brother

they call themselves partners, as soon as one gets weak. they leave. you're supposed to help and not leave them miserable.

@3oxisprimus848

2 жыл бұрын

100%

@jondough3339

2 жыл бұрын

They’re helping you to grow stronger and not be a weak little man

Thank you. I needed this...

Bro your channel is excellent and a lot of your vids are helping me out right now, I hope you keep uploading brother, I’m gonna do what you said and go the other way when I feel like txting her, it’s been 3 weeks and nothing lol

Your a legend ill, always listen to your videos

Desperately needed this!!!

@gayanmuhandiram2831

Жыл бұрын

Brooo. Finally met a Sri Lankan here. Hi5! 😍

I can relate to most of this!

I must say.. I love the way you articulate and make everything sound simple about attraction .. you are a genius.. great job!

@ErikMyersComedy

6 жыл бұрын

He is copying anther coaches material. its obvious

@tesfitmengs5550

6 жыл бұрын

Erik Myers don't be mistaken it tells the way he talk that make u believe from experience...he is great guy listen to him

@snifypodcast793

5 жыл бұрын

@@ErikMyersComedy who would that be?

*Honestly, just owning it and not trying to hide it is partially why I watch you. It's the honorable thing to do and it make the rest of the jobs much more believe when you are call out of the spots like that, so thank you minslegend*

Thank you so much my friend

💯 needed this!

i love you coach much appreciated!

Great advice.

You’re a legend 🔥

this helped A LOT

I went through that and you saved me thank you

Thank you for the advice. But sometimes I feel like I cant hold my insecurity down. Like when I meet up with her again I just start to feel weak and insecure. I try to deal with it behind closed doors. But when I see her again, she can tell there's something off with me. She doesn't really feel that Im insecure, but I do come off as numb with a lack of emotion and she can feel it. I give off this vibe because in my head Im still fighting off insecurity. Im looking for ways to deal with this.

@danielmesia8550

3 жыл бұрын

Bro ikr

@headshot21000

2 жыл бұрын

Found anything bro? Me feeling this shit all the time now

@joel7525

2 жыл бұрын

This is spot on

@DrJ-hx7wv

Жыл бұрын

I have Major Depression. Whenever I fell into insecurity, she realized that it was the illness, not my basic personality. It acts like a pass since it's not your fault.

@stevenkrupka3670

Жыл бұрын

Talk to a professional, it will help yu to get a perspective,IF its the right kind. of person.

Thanks!

Bruhhhh! Damn you're greaaat. Thanks mann

Thank you so much this

Love Guru Chris

Hands down this dude will be recognized as a goat.. this dude has literally saved my life..listening to his work and job I can relate to it.. *minslegend* keep it up and thank you for your talent... 💯.

this just happened with me 😂 now i am laughing at my own mistakes because i feel like that is good to my career

Appreciated 👍🏽

Thank you sir

Subscribed !!

Yesterday I was with a girl I am dating for 2 and a half months now. I was nervous a bit and she noticed it. I calmed down after some time, but still... Called her today and she did not answer. I have this urge to text/call her again, but I will not. Hopefully it is nothing serious. I mean, this never happened before so I am worried. Damn it, I hate when I feel this way and I hate when I feel anxious. I feel like weakling and it really angers me...

@chrisyang3130

4 жыл бұрын

Best way is to talk to other girls when she doesn't respond

This man is a lifesaver...🌻🤘

Thank you for making me feel better everytime she pulls away and test me. I still havent learned

Awesome chris

crist, us men just gotta keep all our emotions in, and not let is shine through (to her that is).

Unfortunately it's so very true what you are saying in this video.

You definitely the best

200% true, the stronger and more alpha you are, less affected by your emotions, the more women will respect you

I'm still working on my anxiety and security

Mind blown 🤯

Can you suggest more books like yours? I’ve read all of Atomic Attraction and loved it. Looking for similar

That was really good!

These videos are the bomb

How to convey the things that u want out of a relationship and also about things that bother you without making things awkward...

Hey I wanna be a secure man, but I don’t wanna do it to get girls or to keep girls. I want to do it for myself, but any time I’m doing something to better myself, there’s a voice in my head and a feeling in my gut that’s saying I’m just doing what I’m doing to improve for girls. That’s a bit of a shallow motive and I want to feel like I’m doing what I’m doing for myself.

You are a god among men

"Chew yoour fingernails until its dripping with blood" 😂😂got me

@gazza2933

4 жыл бұрын

They can have my sweat and tears but no way my 'blood! ' 😁

good job willem dafoe!

Thanks

Chirish bhava tuch ek chava 🔥🔥

Great for mental health

5:28 is the best sentence

Whenever I have that feeling can you just whisper in my ear "do the opposite"

@Tanmay.s689

4 жыл бұрын

IFKR 🥺😣

@jakemf1

4 жыл бұрын

Spot on- do the opposite almost every time

My confidence is always scraping the floor when I hear my gf talking about any guys she's ever found attractive. I know she loves me and it's totally fine but I cant help but think that I'm not as muscular or as good looking or as alpha as these other guys she talks about. I do push ups until I cant think anymore but my god the more unconfident I realize I am behind all my exterior, the less of a man i feel.

@hyzcagulada3559

3 жыл бұрын

how's your lovelife bro?

@southpoundham

3 жыл бұрын

@@hyzcagulada3559 it's still going, we have bumps and hurdles to overcome just like anybody else, but I'm not one to easily give up and neither is she.

@intellifly747

2 жыл бұрын

I know what you mean man

@3oxisprimus848

2 жыл бұрын

When she talks about other guys, talk about other girls... If there were only 2, make it 20

@carlosdixan112

Жыл бұрын

Dump her for being disrespectful

You are legend

thanks

*Very easier said than done when you don't have have anxiety*

U're the best

Tradition has messed up the psychology of attraction. It’s so sad these days

Thank you for the content. What I'm curious about is how anxiety, insecurities and neediness manifest themselves in even the strongest men. I was recently blindsided by my neediness. Even after all these years of self-improvement. Is it a primitive and Primal instinct in men or societies brainwashing? Thank you

@Exxon300

5 жыл бұрын

jay left I think it’s primal

@kereiltutt5769

5 жыл бұрын

Almost every man will experience anxiousness or neediness at some point in a relationship. If youre talking about being told that it isn't okay or natural to have these feelings sometimes (especially due to how some men are brought up) then its societal brainwashing

@kereiltutt5769

5 жыл бұрын

It is good to find a solution to alleviate these feelings in a healthy way so the problems don't arise in a relationship though.

@Motionkee225

4 жыл бұрын

Yes it’s natural

@Motionkee225

4 жыл бұрын

Men are natural sacrificial creatures... women naturally think about themselves... at least until their maternal instinct kicks in or their looks began to fade away

I'm following all of his advice for my 4th ex but my 3rd ex is the one coming back. lol

If ur trying to get with someone and ur insecure here’s my advice. Let them know ur insecure, people are people and if they’re decent enough human beings they’ll understand. Not everyone is acts on their primal instincts. If u talk openly and honestly and confidently about your insecurities, than ur significant other will probably understand and if they don’t, fuck them. You don’t need someone like that in ur life anyway. Let me empathize something, women are not the dumb primal animals you can just manipulate that most of these gurus and coaches will have you believe. Everyone is their own person and they’ll do whatever they’d like. Focus on urself most of all and never lose sight of what truly matters to you.

@sariahrobinson3968

4 жыл бұрын

well said! i appreciate this coaching for males...however I too, thought, well where is the anxious mans mate? a woman who will NOT shame or condemn a man for developing his emotions for her/with her. talk with her about YOU! and how/what you feel! bond with your partner! love! live!

My cousin sister's boyfriend is very possessive, how does she control him ? What to do ?

When are you writing another book?

What if I have already done the wrong things half the way..

This was all too real..

?Well I feel like I've already displayed extreme insecurity. Is all hope lost or can I change my ways and start to build my own perceived strength back up?

I was always alpha and never insecure and it worked for a long time - but then my wife in mid life crisis felt like I didmt love her and she fell for affair at work- shensaid she didn’t think I really Loved her.. So looking back I had to be more careful and re assure Her. It’s so sad.

@bhongosibanyoni9171

4 жыл бұрын

Herakles stay strong brother

@vinterskog

4 жыл бұрын

It's just an excuse to convince herself (and you) that she's a decent person while she's a piece of shit. Move on.

I'm having a hard time thinking if my girlfriend really wants to be with me after yrs of dealing with my insecurities,at one point she she that she felt better if we broke up and each head our on ways but we both stay and talk and keep trying to work it out,do you have any advice to help me stop thinking so negative.

@ShyanTheLegend

5 жыл бұрын

Stop being a bitch basically. I feel bad for your girl, she wants a man not a bitch.

? Then, my follow up question is: What happens 2 years+ into the relationship and you've lost your job or some other setback, can you then trust that same woman to be there for you during a few weeks/months of vulnerability? From your videos and the lessons you are conveying, it seems like women are more like short term propositions instead of long term investments.

@gayanmuhandiram2831

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!

This is not 100% sure. My partner dealing with anxiety and he just told me now after 3 months of relationship and I didn’t run away of him. I’m here with him to support to get through this mental issue cos I like him so much and I want him to be better and I’m sure he will get well.

@DevelopAttraction

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah...

@DigvijaySingh-ct7lu

Жыл бұрын

Not 100% Hmm.... So almost 100%

@swczn4994

Жыл бұрын

How it went ?

@anamihaelaflorescu9895

Жыл бұрын

@@swczn4994 we broke up in the end. It was to much to deal with. Now I’m with someone else and very happy 😊

@swczn4994

Жыл бұрын

@@anamihaelaflorescu9895 Thanks for answer. I have the same problem, I am not so much clingy and needy to blow up the phone every day, but still I have my problems with anxious attachment style. My GF left me 2 days ago after only 4 months. Have to work on myself. Good luck.

So what I get from this...getting attached to any partner will push them away? Duly noted.

I have anxiety with this girl..we date twice and she said she not ready for a relationship..I have palpitation everytime think about her..what should I do? I really need help

I know what most of men can't really tolerate is a cheating girlfriend or a girl who is betrothed to and later after cheating the same woman comes back to him my question is what if she pulls away in expense of taking advantage of you she goes cheating on you? What do you do? I have seen this happen to someone

@nobody-hr1lo

4 жыл бұрын

Always have backups on the side, even paid ones... That's the only way if you don't, you are done.