And don’t forget ladies …. He’s literally just a guy. YOU and your ideas of him made him special. Imagine your confidence if you put that energy into yourself instead. You would not have the time to even think about the guy anymore. If you are not his dream girl, he is simply just wasting your time

@nehabiswas1181

Ай бұрын

Needed it

@YanaWanderlust.

Ай бұрын

Thanks for this comment needed this one as well.

@jinhub2175

Ай бұрын

This is why I'm depressed cause I see every girl mentioning a guy but here I am obsessed with a girl while being a girl myself and I just feel so odd & lonely it's like I'm alone in this. Idk why I fell for this girl but it's making me depressed cause most girls are straight I think?

@selenarumble7435

Ай бұрын

Thanks!

@keylo2473

Ай бұрын

Agree❤

That part about "obsessing over loser who does not even want you" ... had to rewatch several times as it hits.🙈

@lalhlimpuii127

14 күн бұрын

It really hits 😂

This popped up at the most perfect time... What in the manifestation 😳

@Ahtohallan.

Ай бұрын

TRUEE SAMEE

@SheSoForeign

Ай бұрын

She got our backs girlies :’)

@akeishaharris

Ай бұрын

For me too 🤦🏽‍♀️

@Vivian-oq5wz

Ай бұрын

SAME!!! I feel called out, but in the best way. 😭

@Lindayxx

Ай бұрын

RIGHT???

"Learn to be bored with people who ghost you" I love this!!!! Thank you dearest Margarita!

I have emotional attachment issues. When I crush on someone, it creates obsession and I start analyzing what I can do to gain their validation. I was never aware of it until my late twenties. But I’m glad that I can start to shift my mindset now. Being obsessed with someone is truly exhausting….

@lucasdesouza9674

11 күн бұрын

I feel you. It's an awful feeling state, exhausting is a best definition

Girl you've been posting a lot these days and the only person I'm obsessed with is YOU

@danielleschexnayder5646

Ай бұрын

Right!! Thank you for all you do Margarita!!🔥🙌🏼💜😍

@Loveandpeace20

Ай бұрын

Real 😂

@simplycloudz635

Ай бұрын

i swear Margarita me too! love u

@velicah9848

Ай бұрын

Me too

@faythking6123

Ай бұрын

Lol

“stop obsessing about a loser who doesn’t even want you” omg you’re right tho… going through a break up rn and this video could not have been more perfect. thank you x

Focus on you and the focus becomes you.❤

Yes, i gave him my feminine energy, tenderness, love.... , I need to be loved, not an option. Much love from South of France

"He's not Beyoncé"...love it! 🙂

Recently broke up with my bf of almost 4 years, met him at 21 and now I’m 25 and I had a really hard time letting go because I invested sooo much energy and time. I was worried I had given him my best years but I have an intuitive feeling that my best years are just starting ❤

@fleetingthoughts4766

Ай бұрын

Omg 25 is extremely young! 25 is for trying, failing, exploring ☺️ It’s really gonna be ok!

@matriciamoses

Ай бұрын

You still young yes, you will THANK GOD later 🤝👌💯

@zoescah

Ай бұрын

@@fleetingthoughts4766 yessss you’re right. Still young yet I feel so old LOL

@zoescah

Ай бұрын

@@matriciamoses yes, I will! 🫶🏻🙏🏻 he has a plan ❤️

@ohdear2275

Ай бұрын

You are SO young. Your best years are ahead of you.

Typical timing. I need this...obsessing for another avoidant guy

@sarmi0021

Ай бұрын

It's AI noticing our algorithm 🌚 they know it all

@SchoolofStuffThatMatters

Ай бұрын

@@sarmi0021I need an AI man then that can anticipate and meet my needs as well as my online content 😂

@YanaWanderlust.

Ай бұрын

Same here

@Saar114

Ай бұрын

He says he absolutely likes me as a person and he says he finds me super attractive but because i live too far away he doesn't want a actual relationship with me. Only sporadicly meeting up to have sex. I can't seem to find someone who is actually into me.

@user-ek7yc9fh7y

12 күн бұрын

Yes, so many just want sex and no relationship

The timing babyyyy the timingg

‘He farts or sneezes affects your emotions’ got me 😂💀 I LOVE YOUR CONTENT ❤

@oceejay5148

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂 fr tho

@marydellgeorge2425

23 күн бұрын

Too funny I love her

😅 this video really captures my life. I was obsessed with a guy and he would keep leaving me and coming back and I was stuck in horrible cycle of waiting. This time when he came back, I had done enough work on myself to finally have the strength to push him away and feel in control. I've started meeting other men and have strengthened my body, my business and no longer feel the need for the external co-regulation, I used to. Really hope all the women who are going through this become more aware and work towards healthier relationships with themselves first and then take on a partner. Much love to all ❤

GIRL I genuinely have never commented on a KZread video in all my 27 years of living but your videos having fucking SAVED me! The way you articulate these points seep right into my soul and make so much sense. The concept of “self love” and “independence” have always sounded nice in theory, but your videos provide step by step actions to make those ideas actually achievable. After watching your videos I feel so confident in myself and motivated to show up for me. Your content is so needed and appreciated, you’ve genuinely changed my life for the better during a difficult period of growth - thank you thank you !!!! PS can’t wait for your book!!

18:08 "Because you are lovable... you are." Didn't know these words, could have such an impact on me.❤

The subject of your videos are always so timely!! it’s like you know exactly what we need to hear 😅

@annettemoorshead7019

Ай бұрын

I was going to say the exact same thing!

THE DIVINE TIMING

For the love of god I can not tell you how much I needed this video right now like nowww. Never thought I will manifest it so quick.

I cry watching this video cause I'm thinking how stupid I am obsessed my ex that ghost me two weeks ago, thank u margarita ❤

@dee8076

Ай бұрын

You’re not stupid. We’ve all been there. 😢. Be strong!!

@plantmama7442

Ай бұрын

You are NOT stupid my love. Every single one of us has been there. You are not alone in your pain. We’ll get thru it 🙏🏽❤️🌷

This is gold.

These games are so repelling to me and it took me a long time healing my fearful disorganised attachment style BUT the last guy fooled me into believing he’s secure, i felt so loved and safe until he ghosted me. It triggered me and now I’m back into this limbo of unhealthy pattern. I broke it off by distancing myself, setting boundaries and going no contact. He’s out. Unfortunately !

@elliea8868

Ай бұрын

That's what happened to mine too. Super consistent. Thought he was secure. Then blindsides me with breakup blocks never looks back... i think he is dismissive avoidant now - surely a secure attachment person wouldn't leave you with no closure?

Magrita I just want to say just when I prayed to god asking freedom from the pain of anxious attachment and traumas of childhood and even other traumatic memories I came across your videos. You’ve helped me step into a really new energy where I can literally see things falling into place without me pushing or pursuing and this is materially, romantically and spiritually. I just want to say thank you.

@Goddesscheryl

27 күн бұрын

How did you achieve that?

@drishtivalecha221

27 күн бұрын

@@Goddesscheryl I just decided to stop being an anxious vampire and started acting like a secure person. It still feels awkward at times I do retreat to my old self sometimes in harder situations like with my parents but actively telling myself to stop and be calm and ask myself what would a secure Drish do? And I do exactly that. And also I just decided to be different so I am different.

I do feel like I’m missing out on the love of my life that will give me what I deserve! And yes.. learn to be bored with ppl!! Most interesting advice that I heard today!!❤

I need this freaking video right now

I'm here because I've been in a 4 year relationship and they quite literally cared more about his friends than he did with me I've known him since I was 5 (childhood best friends)

Girl, I'm gonna watch this video every day until it's over 😂

Just listened to this before I go to sleep and you’re like that mum or sister everyone wishes they had. Your advice and knowledge is so genuine and heartfelt I really really appreciate you and having found your channel. That last 5 mins made my heart warm 🩷🩷🩷

New phase : Obsession with myself. Yes ✨

Wow. The explanation of anxious attachment from our parents made me cry. I never thought of it that way, but you're completely right.

Oh God...this is my story. I gave so much and never get back anything from him. This is so devastating 😢

I'm breaking down in tears as I type this. This hit home. I don't know why I always try to stay in control of things and outcomes. I worry and stress more than the person who isn't there anymore itself. It's come to the point where I have to heal this because it's getting way too loud and burdensome. I hate feeling like someone else dictates how I feel internally. It makes me feel safe that I am not alone. At first I could ignore it, but I'm realizing how disgusting it feels to keep this pattern going. I do not wanna live like this anymore.

Omg … I needed this morning!! This resonates and it hits hard. Today is his birthday and I hate when I over please him but I know that I could do the bare minimum and he would still be happy! I just love to make memories with him and I always want to make him feel special but yes you are correct bout I miss the part of me that I gave away! Thank you this is what I needed to start my weekend, my son is getting married and he is having his bday weekend to where we are not spending it together and this where trust comes in, and let me remind you I have caught him 3 times having an emotional affair with other woman and we have been in a sexless relationship for some time now! I have walked away during those times and he can’t seem to let me go and I can see why! So thank for opening my eyes just a little more wider!😢 Have a great beautiful!!

This video is all I need in my current situation to give me motivation to move on after my break up

I ruined it with a secure healthy man who really liked me and then I became an anxious mess and he broke it off (dated 2 months) saying he didn’t develop feelings It was going so so so well when I was relaxed, confident and being myself, and then I started ‘engulfing him’ I broke my own heart

@K1111A

27 күн бұрын

I hear you, me too. Have you watched her video on black cat golden retriever? You must ❤

@sasb3675

27 күн бұрын

@@K1111A yeah I have, and that’s how it was initially, I was 100% the black cat and he the retriever and then anxiety flipped the table

@K1111A

26 күн бұрын

@@sasb3675same for me, exactly

@thugga.thugga

25 күн бұрын

omg did i write this?? i became anxious when he needed more time to himself, which made him feel so guilty for not being able to give me what i needed. when in reality, i need more than i could realistically ever get. he was doing everything he could considering his circumstances and i ruined it. in my defense he said he liked clingy :(

If this video came out on your algorithm, it’s time to listen

Watching this on repeat! I’m here watching for the second time, each time I’m crying , missing him & sad that the guy that I love wholeheartedly and the one that loved me so so much and put so much efforts to to win me over and make me fall in love with me, left me saying he doesn’t love me anymore. He said he tried to love me again but couldn’t. I begged him so so much, now I regret begging someone who doesn’t actually love me now. It’s sad yet I’m going to face this pain, I’ll cry when I want to, I’ll miss him went I want to and one day I will get through it with no regrets.

You are incredibly wise. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.

The TIMING!!! ❤️

Don’t understand how much I needed this thank you ❤ putting my energy into myself not half arsed men ✌🏻

Badly need this vid right now

the timing !!!!

We love you Margie❤

Wow this video is GOLD

This is GOLD, you are GOLD

Thank you as always needed this

could NOT have come at a better time

I haven't watched the video yet but wwow you're on fire these days Maragarita! And this couldn't be more perfect! Thank you!!

*me tuning into class even though I do not relate to this topic at all because I’ve been watching your content for years*

I think my anxious attachment style has been a negative because of my loving avoidant people. And those are the ones I obsessed about. My anxious attachment style will be an asset with someone who I actually connect with and who is my ally (vice versa). I do wonder if a "secure" attachment style person will actually seem avoidant to me and I would lose interest quickly.

What perfect timing, thank you lady!

Needed this

Needed this today. Thank you for always saying what needs to be said!

Loooooved this! soo much needed! timing is perfect!

i watched a past video of yours and i loved it subscribed almost instantly after the video was over. just saw this, and i have a problem with obsessing and losing my mind! i love how calm you talk about things and how point blank period you are about things! sometimes things being told more blunt helps, and i just love these videos!

Excellent as always!

I needed this so bad today!!

Thanks queen truly appreciate it👍

The timing of this video is impeccable. I have been bingeing your videos lately. I needed this. Thank you !

Gotta watch this on repeat!

Girl your videos have been helping so much this last month, your deep and real talk says it all

Thank you for this.

I’m so glad I discovered you you’re so smart

I love your content!!!

Just pre ordered your thenewrulesbook, you're amazing Margarita, and this video is spot on as always!

Ohhhh my goddddd I literally just thought about this and your video just popped 😭

Girllll, THANK YOU. Just what I needed to hear 🙌👏❤

The wisdom never ends!!!

Wow. This came exactly when I needed it. Almost like the stars aligned for me to go through this obsession just to come out the other end with the help of your video. Out of all margaritas videos this hit home the most! Thank you margarita!💓

THANK YOU SOOO MUCH!!!

You always post EXACTLY what I need and what I’m going through, and you give the best advice unfiltered! Thank you for being awesome

Or even being already in a very healthy relationship but being so anxiously attached and making him my world

Yes!!! I feel repelled by the lack of communication ❤❤ so well said

One of the most Valuable videos I’ve watched so far✨ Grateful of you everyday our Gorgeous Lady Margarita🌞

This video made me cry a lot, thank you

So sharp love it!! Thank you Marga 💙

I love you!! thank you for always making me feel more secure. whenever I'm in doubt I listen to your podcast (tbh any episode) and I feel so much better!

you have literally CHANGED my life

Thank you so much for this x

Thank you so much for this ❤

Thank you, margarita

Your videos are saving me one video at a time. ❤❤

Thank you Margarita it took me a good two years to detach and if it wasn’t for your videos I guess I’d still be stuck on him

I have just discovered your channel and am realising how much my anxious attachment has affected my life. I can't thank you enough for these videos. I am going through hell right now over this guy and your videos are helping me hugely right now. Thank you 🙏

I really sat there and took notes on everything you said. so grateful that I found you on KZread…

@georgecarlin2656

10 күн бұрын

Impressive, she talks like she spent her whole lifetime solely learning humans.

Great video!

That was THE PERFECT sponsor. I LOVE Skillshare.

i really needed to hear this, thank you. It's exhausting to keep putting effort into something and worry when the other person has either given up or lessened their interest and effort for you out of the blue. I'm going to take a good step back and focus on myself, I'm so tired of worrying and letting his actions affect me.

For some reason this hit deep in my soul. Thank you so so much. Can’t express how grateful I am

Yes my queen ❤you are on point with this message

Omg your channel is basically free therapy!!

Your so smart, imma buy your book ❤

That I just came across this can NOT be by accident. I have no words.. Everything makes sense now. Everything. My God, thank you 💔

“You need to learn to get bored by that …” It resonated so strongly❤️ Thank you!

This was so good, needed, and timely for putting this video out today! 😊❤

hi love!! just wanted to say i came across your channel recently and SO glad I did. I spam watched alllll of your attachment style videos, thank you for putting this information out there for us struggling women💛 (ps cant wait to buy your book)

Always the best. ❤

Love ❤️ your posts ❤

Thank you Margarita!😍 always explaining things so thoroughly and clear! I signed up for SkillShare too!🎉