It's sad and disgusting how everyone is so concerned about trying to get OP's parents in contact with OP, but they just completely overlook the neglect they did.

@patriciajosephs3881

3 ай бұрын

And in their own words, now only seek him out cause their lovers have moved on and they feel lonely. Not because they realised they loved him and regretted the neglect. 🤦🏾‍♀️

@toriladybird511

2 ай бұрын

* in annoying voice * " buttttt itttts fammmmalie..." Zero damns given for OP and his emotional neglect and abandonment and the fact his own mother was having Congress with a boy her own sons age! His parents do not deserve anything and his extended family long walk SHORT plank. Frankly in his position he probably is scared to see his mum and dad's new swing poly buddies.

@RequiemPoete

2 ай бұрын

Thank you! Everyone in the lifestyle that I know would be condemning Op's parents for being shit parents

@cototototorra7106

Ай бұрын

worst part is how out of nowhere the family gives a damn, now that op's anoxious parents need somebody to burn time with

Story 1: Dude really went to the poly subreddit and ask about parental neglect from them. Its like walking into a room full of thieves and asking is it ok to steal. He really need to learn on how to grow a backbone and prioritizing his own feeling and needs.

@catsncrows

2 ай бұрын

Growing that backbone is a long and painful process. It's like slowly digging through layers rather than doing something like tying your shoe

@toriladybird511

2 ай бұрын

Maybe he wanted to know if their selfish bullshit was accepted by the polys or not.. Well polys showed its ABSOLUTELY about sex and not an emotional connection.

@RequiemPoete

2 ай бұрын

Unfortunately Reddit can have communities of the most toxic representatives of a group. I'm part of the poly community and not a single one of anyone in the local community down here wouldn't condemn these A-Holes.

@RequiemPoete

2 ай бұрын

​@toriladybird511 Member of the Poly community. No. You're not correct. It's not about sex. Unfortunately every group has its incels.

@beeniecat9411

2 ай бұрын

I wonder if anyone has ever thought of saying screw it to reddit and went to their local community center to ask for advice like people go to reddit? Just wear a mask or go in without a care for anonymity.

Story 1: OP should’ve gone NC with his parents when he moved out and when his grades had gotten better. His parents are using him because they have nobody else. They’ve never truly cared about him. And if his girlfriend and her family don’t understand that, he needs to cut ties with them, too. Story 2: OP’s mother is lucky that he didn’t cut her off after pulling that BS. This shows that sometimes, parents don’t always know what’s best. Glad that OP and his wife had moved their wedding a week early. Story 3: JEEZ! What a creep! This is why you have got to be extremely careful out there. There are a lot of psychos out there.

I heard this one before. That's what happens when people act like they know what's best for others.

@mztweety1374

3 ай бұрын

Ikr! When someone tells you they don't F with certain family trust them! They have reasons! No contact can be a life saver, believe me 😂😢

@LunaP1

2 ай бұрын

Especially the aunts need to mind their own business since they let this happen for too long and did nothing.

This is what having an over inflated ego looks like. People swear they know best for other people and need to learn to mind their business.

S1 - reddit bullied him to visit his dog sh*t parents. He shouldve told his gf and her family that being in contact with his parents is not up for discussion and if they push it, they can join his parents in the category of "people I'm NC with"

if your mother was serious they'd have offered therapy

story3 - never date an older man. stay in your age range up until your 30.

I am confuzzled. If a guy that was cheated on posted in a cheater sub Reddit and got backlash, is he in the wrong or is the sub jst in need of special helmets. Port the same thought process to the poly sub Reddit.

RE: 2nd Story OP's mother seriously screwed up. And she's a Psychologist? Clearly not a very good one. She acted unilaterally on someone else's behalf, without their knowledge or consent, and with no understanding of the History. If she wasn't already retired, and had this been done in a professional, rather than personal capacity, I'd be moving to get her license revoked. That was incredibly reckless and stupid. And she invited him to their Wedding... that's beyond fucked up. That's what a bride wants on her wedding day, an anxiety attack, wondering if it will be crashed by a monster. And who the fuck invites people to someone else's wedding to begin with? This wasn't a date with her plus-one, she extended an invitation without the consent of the couple. We don't know the cause of the estrangement. Maybe he cheated on her mother. Maybe he was physically abusive? Sexually Abusive? We don't know, and we shouldn't assume. What we can assume however, when a woman doesn't invite her father and only living parent to her wedding, she has a good reason. We also know this is a long-term estrangement, so the father would likely use the opportunity presented by the wedding to: A) Rehash the past and try to make amends, forcing her to confront that uncomfortable past at her own wedding and ruin the whole day. or B) He'd live down to his daughter's expectations and just deliberately ruin the wedding out of spite or resentment. OP was right, this was pure arrogance on his mother's part. She had some half-baked fantasy of a joyous reunion and she'd be the hero of the day who saved the whole family. This woman is unhinged. This was all about placing her own vanity above the bride and groom on their wedding day. She can rationalize it any way she wants, but that's what she was doing. And she was a Child Psychologist. I mean no disrespect to the profession as a whole, but they need merely to advocate for the child and effectively communicate to the parents, but that child-parent dynamic doesn't require the same meeting of the minds which conflicts between two adults would require. This is far outside of her expertise, and it seems to have severely biased her approach. She acted on the "child's" behalf as if she had any authority to do so. It doesn't work the same way with grown-ups, and that should have been very obvious to her. This is not a case for a child psychologist. Now psychiatric gerontology... perhaps. Maybe age is turning the mother's brain into mashed potatoes and it's time to pump her full of drugs and ship her off to Florida. I wouldn't rule it out, and I might even start looking for professional consultation to that affect. These are not mistakes a properly functioning mind makes. If I was OP, I would have my fingers crossed that it is dementia setting in, because it's more palatable than the notion that this is how her brain normally works and has worked for years as she treated children. If that's the case God help those kids, there's no telling what damage she's done.

@toriladybird511

2 ай бұрын

If she was good as a Child P NAH She must have been CRAP she would NEVER EVER have invited him.

8:49 and right here is where I took in a sharp breath and started glaring at the screen

@LunaP1

2 ай бұрын

Mom is a psychologist yet violated her own career with her poor choices.

So he went to a group of people who can't keep it in their pants for advise regarding his h o r parents and they were AGAINST him. Shocker.

Story 1: PUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE, like gross they slept with someone you went to school with. If I found out my parents did something like this, I'd move out at that moment say "Sayonara suckers!" and never look back

Last story is terrifying

@erickaennis2738

3 ай бұрын

She needs to stop calling herself his affair partner. She was not. A kiss, hug and exchanging numbers is not an affair.

A twin pair of village bicycles are bad parents? You don't say...

S1: Think there was a Reddit story from the parent’s pov. They acted like they were the best parents in the world and their son just up and went no contact. Even when their son explained why he didn't want to see them, they didn't care and kept harassing him. The parents were obviously manipulative and selfish, but we can't underestimate the power of flying monkeys. It'll be impossiblefor OP to cut off his parents completely unless he cuts off the flying monkeys too, even his girlfriend. Also I bet the only redditors who shamed OP for not seeing his parents are either neglectful parents or belief parents should be forgiven regardless of what they do.

Wait, a second on the second story did you say my fiancé’s boyfriend?

"You're the best thing to ever happen to me along with your mom." So then why are you incapable of being loyal to only her while also being ok with being her being unloyal to you? Ive said it before and I'll always say it. POLYAMORY DOESN'T WORK!!!!!!!!!

the fiancées boyfriend?

@steelheart538

3 ай бұрын

I'm confused too. Maybe she does have a bf?

@Maninawig

3 ай бұрын

Mistranslated male friend?

@HorizonOnDaHorizonYT

3 ай бұрын

@@steelheart538 are they polygons?

@steelheart538

3 ай бұрын

@@HorizonOnDaHorizonYT yes, they are polygons.

@MellowGrunt10

3 ай бұрын

It was mistranslated from brother in law in the original post

Story 2: Is a psychologist, behaves like an abuser. Case closed.

7:40

Jesus Christ. Basic pronouns are that much trouble?

So wait the fiancé in the second story has a boyfriend? I am confuse.

@icekingforyou

3 ай бұрын

Maybe ex?

@ehtishamkhan2004

19 күн бұрын

One reply said that the real word was brother-in-law, but it somehow got mistranslated

If you want to live the poly life go ahead but don't have kids.You have decided to create a toxic household for children and you do not have to right to force a child to suffer through that for your own selfishness.

My fiancés boyfriend???

@Mendel97

3 ай бұрын

I had to do a double take when I heard that

@MellowGrunt10

3 ай бұрын

The creator screwed up, the Reddit post says it’s the fiancée’s brother in law