Calling it now: Mom is a cheater too. Edit: Nothing specifically came out, but I’m still convinced. Between how spineless OP’s dad is, and how much his mom defended his ex, it feels pretty clear to me.

@danteerskine7678

3 ай бұрын

I was thinking about the same thing

@manutd316

3 ай бұрын

Cheating is In her blood she can't fight destiny. The Cheating is strong with this one

@Catherine.Dorian.

3 ай бұрын

Cheaters always defend cheaters

@Maninawig

3 ай бұрын

Could be, but also could be a trauma response. She admitted to mentally and emotionally replacing the loss of her stillborn daughter with her daughter-in-law. That being the case, any chance at losing that replacement will dig up the long buried hurt of losing her stillborn, which is a hurt her psyche might not be equipped to handle. If so, her response to defending the wife would be psychologically similar to a victim defending their ab.user.

@09archange

3 ай бұрын

Honestly i am so tired of these stories, they are always the same, a parent does something that is unforgivable, and the op (always being doormats) chooses to forgive them, i honestly don’t know why that would happen, like the best option will be to cut contact for some time and see if you are comfortable or not, if for some reason you want them back in your life BEFORE they cnotact you then sure try to mend brideges, but if not then why bother? Too much of a hassle, the best option will be to just shut the door in their face and never open it again, i did that and it was the best decision of my life.

Any time the Mom takes a cheater’s side, I think the victim should look right at their Dad and say “Hey Dad, wanna get a DNA test?”

@LegendStormcrow

2 ай бұрын

My mom was quick to accuse people of cheating. Turned out none of us kids share a father.

@jamesplayzreviews

2 ай бұрын

@@LegendStormcrow My situation was different, my mom (after the divorce) accused my father of being a cheater non-stop and suddenly all these things about him having affairs came out (there was no evidence but that's what she claimed). Turned out none of them happened and my mom was just broken by the loss of her marriage any of these so-called affairs she accused my dad of happened before her and my dad even met. I know this doesn't have anything to do with the video your comment just reminded me of it.

@LegendStormcrow

2 ай бұрын

@@jamesplayzreviews She might have just twisted it in her mind, just looking for a scapegoat.

@animegamer501stthelastyeet8

Ай бұрын

That's kind of hard when my dad is my stepfather

@DefeatedElite

22 күн бұрын

​@@animegamer501stthelastyeet8who asked? We're talking about cheaters not your step dad lmfao

Dad is a doormat. Mom probably cheated, that’s why she is on DIL’s “side”. And now, she’s lost her son. What a dummy.

@ladahieno2382

3 ай бұрын

I think for those situations the word "idiot" works better

The comments blaming op are from cheaters too

OP's mom was so focused on defending a cheater who was "a daughter she never had" that she lost her actual son.

@xhagast

3 ай бұрын

Worthless Love, that is what I call it.

@waves.of.change30

Ай бұрын

A mother's grief is insurmountable but she doesn't seem like she ever got an therapy for that ordeal, so it left mom crazy

OP's mom is basically shouting that she cheated on OP's dad.

@MW-cx3sb

Ай бұрын

I'd say OP's dad was in the closet watching at the time

Anyone who sits here and says OP needed to stay with that woman is a CHEATER THEMSELVES

All the people putting him down on Reddit sound like scummy cheaters, cheating should always be an end. The line of trust and love is completely broken for the other and that can never be fixed

@RandomPerson-cf3gt

Ай бұрын

Just like leopard can't change it's spots, a cheater will never stop their cheating ways

Maybe I'll come off as cynical, but is anyone else thinking that the wife accepted the divorce when she knew she wouldn't get the house?

@animegamer501stthelastyeet8

Ай бұрын

That's usually the case with cheaters

He should have told his parents, “You wanted a daughter, and you lost your son.”

She stole his future too. He'll eventually get his divorce, but he'll be dealing with this in future relationships, he'll have trouble with his parents when he finally finds a partner and possibly has kids.

When girls cheat everyone tells the guy he's an asshole for leaving her and he needs to "Man up". but when the guy cheats he's an asshole. double standards

@waves.of.change30

Ай бұрын

nope, youd be surprised how pressured women are to stay

@sharkyman4195

Ай бұрын

@@waves.of.change30 in what way does being pressured to stay relate to what I said?

Leave it to Reddit to victim blame the Husban after both the Wife and Parents screwed him over. And all those cheaters trying to defend the Wife is just crazy disgusting and stupidly entitled. Plus its no longer the parents house when they gave it to OP who put thousands into it to make it liveable and they chose the cheating DIL and not thier own SON. I'm with everyone else on this Mom totally cheated and Father is completely spinless,

Bro is a Spurs fan, got cheated by his wife, abandoned by his mom and ignored by his father. This is the lowest low a person can fall.

@kolbyjohnson2881

3 ай бұрын

Spurs nation 😭😭

@harrisonhurst6480

Ай бұрын

He can get help with a lot of that... but the Spurs thing... I don't know if there is any coming back from that.

I heard this one before. I still think op shouldn't have forgiven her. She didn't even hive him a chance.

@SecretVoices25

3 ай бұрын

I think this is a different story

@juanhaines7295

3 ай бұрын

Yeah your right. My bad. I jumped to conclusions.

@SecretVoices25

3 ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@ianmoritzplatapino3684

3 ай бұрын

He is a doormat.

@christophermercado5678

3 ай бұрын

​@@ianmoritzplatapino3684bro you have not have been betrayed so stop

It always saddens me the way certain family members are willing to throw the whole relationship away with someone who isn’t blood. To then be crying how much they miss the person after burning their bridges with them.

In these situations. I would insist to the opposite of the one defending the adulterer (in this case, the dad) he has full, moral right to sleep with another woman. If the mum complains, I'd say, no, you said its alright for my partner to do it to me, so it's okay for your partner to do it to you. Simple as

Mate, what you need to do his cut ties with your Parents and only take them back IF they are ready to accept the Fact that your ex is a two faced cheat. If not, then you're better off without them. As for those who said "You're being too selfish". They are either Cheaters themselves, or THEY are the selfish ones. If they're stupid enough to try and cheat once, then they are stupid enough to try it again. And what the hell does the Mother mean about "Counselling sessions". The Ex is the one who needs therapy.

Anoyone saying he threw in the towel too easily is a woman who cheated or an idiot... Mental and emotional manipulation is all that is, dont listen stay strong.

If your mom is taking your cheating wife's side she is a cheater as well. You can't trust a cheater. The thing is I believe that it was all just drunken messages, maybe it was only that one time. But so what! If you are willing to talk like that with a person who isnt your partner you deserve to be alone.

@brianbarber5401

Ай бұрын

Drunken messages are no-filter, honest messages.

@DefeatedElite

22 күн бұрын

"The drunken mind speaks sober thoughts"

Wants the trust is gone, nothing she says, matters.

Sounds like Mom was a cheating wife herself.

New York when the leaves change is probably one of the most amazing sights ever. I appreciate it every year

@animegamer501stthelastyeet8

Ай бұрын

Gross new York is trash

Kick her out, tell your mom she can live with her

Why would any mother defend their cheating daughter in law over their son? I have a good relationship with my daughters girlfriend (have known her since she was a kid) and consider her family, but if I found out she broke my daughters heart, she’s dead to me, that’s part of being a good parent.

Some people say forgive, i say f you... If my mom picked my cheating wife over me not even her being sick would make me go and visit... By others actions my respons was the only one i had... You force me into staying or leaving, then i leave. End of story. I dont know any of them anymore. Just some random face you pass in the street. Call me an a hole if you want but cross me and thats what you get. Simple 😂

There is missing alot in this story, from the original story.

@SecretVoices25

2 ай бұрын

I thinks we didn't miss any updates

Stand your ground

Why was OP trying to call Jacket Holder?

I can't really agree with his "If you're considering of forgiving a cheater, don't." Forgiveness isn't for them, it's for you.

@mizal321

Ай бұрын

Hey if they didn't cheat they wouldn't need forgiveness right

@ShursGarden

Ай бұрын

@@mizal321 You aren’t getting my point. The person that needs the forgiveness is the person that’s doing the forgiving. It’s not to absolve someone of their actions, it’s to let go of the anger.

@MacerXGP

Ай бұрын

​@@ShursGarden Forgiving someone and letting go of your anger don't have to be the same thing.

@ShursGarden

Ай бұрын

@@MacerXGP The first definition of forgive in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary is to cease to feel resentment. By definition, forgiveness is letting go of your anger.

@MacerXGP

Ай бұрын

@@ShursGarden I hate the English language sometimes.

17:30 idek how people think that about op. It seems rather clear somthing was up and the way nothing else was said about the manner from her gives strong "it happened" vibes. That is a perfect reason to leave cause staying can make it a disater for all involved, more so then the shiteshow it is rn anyway.

Not defending the cheating ex, but she did have a point about lie detectors. There's a reason they've been largely phased put by law enforcement. Even when they were being used, they weren't even court admissable. They're also why I hate shows like Maury povich. They use lie detectors and act like they're concrete evidence when they're not. Hot trash.

@brianbarber5401

Ай бұрын

But she didn’t suggest an alternative, or trying to find an alternative that might be more reliable. She didn’t offer complete unfettered access to all her accounts. She didn’t offer anything. She didn’t actually try to prove she’d never done it before. She’s either hiding things (good at secrets - people seem to keep forgetting that trust-destroying line) or bag or hammers dumb.

@OfficialREVENGEMusic

Ай бұрын

@@brianbarber5401 oh no she's still a lying cheating piece of shit. I'm just saying that polygraphs are pseudoscience and are to never be trusted. All that thing could gauge is that you're nervous. Not rather not you're telling the truth. The fact that she didn't offer any alternatives sort of shows that she really is either stupid or untrustworthy.

Cheater's like to project

NTA but god the op got so dramatic by the end.... You've gyatt to be rizzing me

@InABroadwayStateOfMind

11 күн бұрын

Yeah he got real rambly once he gave the final update on his ex and parents and I got bored

Is this in San Antonio TX?

People really can't commit to going NC.

I mean not defending the cheating wife for what she did, but lie detectors can be very innacurate she is correct

I think i prefer the slow strolling video games instead of Minecraft.

@SecretVoices25

3 ай бұрын

This is just a phase don't worry they will be back😁😁

People real deal out here thinking that the people that are defending the original poster's cheating wife are also cheaters are so narrow-minded. Have any of y'all stopped to think that maybe the people defending the original posters cheating wife are people who got cheated on and are hating on the guy because it brings up uncomfortable fact that they should have left their own cheating spouse or significant other. There is also the undeniable fact that there are a lot of people who believe in the Hallmark BS about working things out, thick and thin and all that bull. Basically the people I'm talking about in that last bit are blue pill individuals.

@Lilomen_AD

10 күн бұрын

Bro they are a bunch of hypocrite woke feminist fighting with them it's like punching air nothing will happen 😂

The stupid mine craft video is too dark my eyes hurt

Shouldn't have gone to the hospital